6 White Women Who Fetishize Black Men (And Why It’s Not Love)

Added: 2026-05-10

[00:00:00]Today we're going to be breaking down six archetypes of white women that fetishize black men. I'm your host, Cool Colas, and you are now tuning in to a new video on my channel. So, let's get into it. As many of you all who have been watching my channel over time know, I've done a video where I previously talked about the fetishization of black men and black people in general. But now, I want to put the emphasis on the different types of white women who fetishize black men. And I want to make something very clear before I even get into these different types.

[00:00:32]Fetishization is not love and it's not even like. As a matter of fact, I'll even say this. It's honestly not always even about attraction alone. Genuine attraction is when somebody likes you for who you are. Fetishization is when somebody likes the idea of you and what you represent to them in their heads.

[00:00:54]That means that you're not being engaged with a person, you're being engaged with an idea. And once you understand that difference, a lot of situations start to make a lot more sense when it comes to fetishization. Because what people call preference a lot of times is not preference at all. It's either a projection or it's a narrative. And most certainly, it's a pattern. So today, I'm going to be breaking down six types of white women who fetishize black men. And once you hear these, you're probably going to start recognizing the pattern of what I'm saying. [snorts] The first type of white woman is the daddy rebel. Now, let me explain what that is.

[00:01:34]This is a white woman who can have just about any type of look, but usually she is 25 years old or under. This is the white woman who grew up around racism.

[00:01:45]She either had a racist father, an entirely racist family, or some type of conservative environment that she's rebelling against, but it's usually something on those lines. And instead of just disagreeing with these individuals internally and then moving on, she rebelss against it externally and she turns it into a much bigger thing. So what does she do as a response? She goes and she finds the blackest man that she can find. And on the surface, people will look at this and say that she's different or she's breaking a curse or something like that as if it's positive.

[00:02:18]But that's often not the case. What she's doing is she's reacting to the racism because in that moment, you're not a man to her. You're a symbol. You represent the thing that her family hates. You represent everything that she's trying to reject. So being with you becomes a statement, a protest, and ultimately the middle finger. A common theme that you'll see with white women that are in this category is that they like to rebrand when they're finished.

[00:02:46]And in the case of what I'm saying, she's usually living out her revenge fantasies. Basically, she's unlocked a new form of venting. And it's called negro therapy. And she uses you as a way to tell her daddy that he is wrong for hating [ __ ] But once she feels like she's made her point, once she feels like she's gotten the rebellion out of her system, she will pivot and she will rebrand. She goes back to what is comfortable for her. And now the same energy that she had before when it came to this type of thing is gone. And the passion goes with it as well, too. Because the relationship was never grounded on just liking you or loving you for who you are. It was grounded in what she was trying to go through or what she was trying to get out of her system in that moment. Good examples of this are Brooke Hogan who was bouncing on the soul pole something tough and even fell in love with a black man too. Then she ends up marrying a white dude later down the line because her daddy was so racist.

[00:03:47]And you knew it was bad because look at the tirade that Hulk Hogan went on when he talked about Brook Hogan dating a black man. And for those of you all who forgot about what Hulk Hogan said, this is what he stated, and I quote, "I mean, I'd rather if she was going to [ __ ] some hard er, I'd rather have her marry an 8-ft tall hard er."

[00:04:15]That dude was racist as hell. Anyway, in some cases, this type of white woman's act of rebellion can even get that black man harmed or unalived, depending on who in the family they get around and what they choose to do. Then you got women on TV shows such as Godfather of Harlem, such as the character Stella, who got with a black man named Teddy, and then later he was killed fooling around with her and her acquaintances. Then later she ended up getting with Ernie who was a gangster that was a part of her racist father's organization and he was a white dude. Jungle Fever is another one too.

[00:04:50]This is riddled with rebellion leading to curiosity which even leads to potential dangers. In the movie Jungle Fever, you had the characters Flipper and Angie. And these two characters ended up getting together because of their curiosities while having different racial backgrounds. And one of the things they emphasized in this movie was the racism that came from Angie's white Italian family. And not just the racism, but also the kind of conservative values along with the racism that came with these types of individuals. And you saw it all through the movie. Now, there was a scene in this movie where [snorts] Flipper and Angie were playf fighting outside and somehow it led to them attracting the attention of the police and the police almost hemmed up Flipper's character and it almost caused him to be in danger. And what this shows is that the white woman in this category specifically may be using this relationship to some degree as a venting session, but for that black man, it often poses a danger to his life. The second type of white woman we're going to be discussing today is what I call the redhaired shared struggle chick.

[00:05:58]Now, this type is very specific, but follow me. This is usually a white woman with red hair and pale skin, and she tends to be between the ages of 18 and 40. And usually, quite often, that is, she is a curvaceous woman. As a matter of fact, a lot of these red-haired white women are usually curbaceious in general. I don't know if y'all noticed that, but stay with me.

[00:06:25]Either way, to be clear, this is not random. These types of women will go after black men quite often, and you'll even see them at times on social media broadcasting these relationships, or at least their desire for black men. And the reason why is because there's a pattern here tied to how certain groups have been positioned historically.

[00:06:46]Because for a long time, especially with the American white supremacists and the dominant society, red-haired white people, especially those associated with Irish identity and lineage that they like to call gingers, were treated as outsiders within whiteness. They were not originally able to reap the benefits of the dominant society. So, they were looked down upon and they were racially stereotyped as if they were not white.

[00:07:10]And as a result of that, there's been this longunning narrative that's sometimes subtle and sometimes explicit that tries to draw a connection between Irish people and black people. So you've probably seen it where people say that the Irish were slaves or they went through the same thing or they basically had the same struggle as black folks.

[00:07:28]But these things are false equivalences and really it's an apples to oranges comparison. For one, black folks were slaves. The Irish were indentured servants. There's a difference between forced unpaid labor with torture and low unsatisfactory paid labor. And for two, which is the most obvious, black folks don't reap the benefits of the dominant society in 2026. But they do.

[00:07:53]Some red-haired white women internalize the idea of shared struggle and then they take it a step further and turn it into a fetish. That's why they try to live in this fake simulation where they identify as black. Therefore, dating black men is part of the big picture of pretending that they themselves are a black woman. They start to feel like they have a form of proximity to blackness and a deeper understanding of black identity or in some cases they feel like they literally are a part of it. Which is why again I said it's a simulation. And that's where the shift happens because now attraction to black men is not just attraction anymore. It becomes this identitybased thing that's not real. It becomes this whole thing of I connect with this but really you don't. Even in their heads they assume this belief where they say things such as this is closer to who I am or this reflects something in me or at least I can pretend like there are times where it reflects something in me. So that's where it starts to turn into this fetishization mixed with them just not living in reality because now at this point black men are not being engaged as individuals. they are being engaged as a part of this shared identity fantasy that they created in their heads and sometimes you'll even see it reinforced socially. So for example, you had this young heavy set herbal tea samba who was going around on Tik Tok creating this viral trend where she was saying that red heads were black or something similar to that. And this is something that some of them took and they ran with. It's this thing now of if they have red hair, they are basically black.

[00:09:30]And once that idea gets normalized, it stops being a joke. And they try to make it seem like it's something that is a fact in society. And it gives a lot of them permission to blur the lines that shouldn't be blurred whatsoever. So now attraction becomes this justification.

[00:09:46]And this justification becomes this identity. And ultimately that identity becomes fetishization.

[00:09:52]>> Yeah.

[00:09:54]You know what? Hell yeah.

[00:09:57]>> Yeah.

[00:09:58]>> What's going on people? How you doing?

[00:10:00]Tell me why something was clarified for me today. Because I was always confused on why a lot of people go on my videos and they'll comment some dumbass response like, "Oh, why you acting black or why you think you're black?" And all this mumbo jumbo. And I ignore those those kind of comments because it's ignorance, right? But then my sister calls me today. She goes, "Girl, are you on that side of TikTok?" I said, "What are you talking about?" She goes, "The side of Tik Tok that apparently all gingers are now considered black." So that explains it. That is why most of these people are always like, "Oh, are you black? Why you acting black on your video? Stop acting black." Because you want to know something cuz a [ __ ] is black. Don't hate because I'm black and you not. So, the people want to know, how does it feel to know that you are in fact not in an interracial marriage, but that you are also you are married to a fellow black person. How does that feel?

[00:11:00]>> Feels the same.

[00:11:03]>> Nothing else. Start calling me Red Velvet.

[00:11:07][laughter] >> I proud you would spawn it. Ain't that good enough?

[00:11:14]I suppose uh aside from being told I can season food well, that is >> Yeah, that's true.

[00:11:19]>> That is the second greatest compliment you could give me.

[00:11:22]>> Now you can see some food well.

[00:11:24]>> Mhm. When's the next cookout?

[00:11:44]I talked about how much black men and gender women are like magnets. It was a science project. So many of you were like, "Yes, that's a thing." Even a lot of the comments from black men were saying that they won't even date white girls unless she's a gender. But basically, it turned my comment section into a dating app, which I love. Every ginger woman deserves themselves a good black man. And every black man deserves himself a good ginger woman. So, on to our next project. Let's start a ginger and black dating app. We could call it Blinger. I just thought of that. Blender or Blinker, but Blinger makes more sense. Do we have any app creator people? I don't even know what they're called, but where you're able to like like create an app. Now, you boys obsessed with this dynamic and it's a fetish for you. We're going to need some investors. Everyone everyone has a role.

[00:12:27]I just feel like this could make so many of our lives so much easier because I get multiple DMs a day across all platforms asking me where all the gingers at, where do you find gingers?

[00:12:36]Where are most of the gingers located at?

[00:12:38]>> Third type of white woman we're going to talk about today is what I call the college experimentter. Now, this one is one that everybody should probably know about at this point. This is the white woman who is usually from the middle of nowhere. white woman who I'm describing is usually collegeaged, but it applies to many white women, even in their 30s, 40s, and 50s, who are past this prime.

[00:13:02]They come from a very controlled environment with very limited exposure.

[00:13:07]Then they get to college and now it's new people, new cultures, new experiences, and the culture that they seem to gravitate to the most are the black men who become a part of that experience. They start to grow this curiosity and they choose exploration.

[00:13:22]So they jump on the first soul pole that they can find. Very specifically, she becomes very fond of the athlete soul pole. But here's the part that people don't like to say. It's something that is always temporary because once that environment changes, like she graduates from college or leaves that college environment or once life kicks in and [ __ ] just starts changing, so does her behavior and her whole damn persona. You have to understand that the conservatism and the racism were already in her. She just had it lie dormant as she was living out her wild mandingo fantasies in an environment where she was seldom watched and often her actions were forgotten about. And then like most of the other broads on this list, they end up rebranding.

[00:14:10]When she gets out of college, she not only gets with a white man, but she becomes an alt-right conservative Karen quite often. Little do they know that their little so-called traditional snow bunny was a bust down for a bunch of brothers.

[00:14:26]And she wasn't usually just any old bust down. She was a bust down who used black men as her typical sexual experience. It was never love. It was just lust. And it was lust that went unseen and mostly unrecorded. And by the way y'all, I have a feeling that your Sarah Palins and your Tommy Loren were the types that I'm describing in this video who did this type of thing and actually embody this particular category.

[00:14:51]Another thing that I noticed is these types from time to time will be seen taking pictures with black men that reminds them of the good old days, but for the most part when they get older somehow they find racism and they all of a sudden find Jesus. And it's the same way that they found the Johnson's of many black football players when they were in college. The fourth type of white woman we're going to discuss today is the category that I call the hood appropriator, also known as the shiman.

[00:15:20]Now, this one is where things get obvious, but more normalized and more turned into an aesthetic. This is usually a white woman who is between the ages of 18 and 30. Now, it doesn't always go that short, but it can go further than that. And it can also go under that as well, too. And usually, this type of white woman is either from the suburbs or she's from the trailer parks. And she attempts to embody this image of being a black woman. Sometimes in look, but mostly in behavior.

[00:15:52]And this is the type of white woman who will perform some level of black culture. She changes how she talks, how she dresses, and ultimately how she presents herself. And what she's doing is not really her engaging with black culture. She's performing her version of it. She is usually embodying an exaggerated black stereotype, almost as if she's mimicking ratchet black women.

[00:16:17]And it's not just the look, she also takes on the attitude and presentation.

[00:16:21]And some will even go as far to say is she will even at times darken her skin color and even alter her image to look more like black women. And what I mean by that is BBLs and even titty implants.

[00:16:34]And what she's doing is not truly engaging with the culture. She's performing a version of it. And usually she is embodying an exaggerated black stereotype almost as if she's trying to pretend to be a ratchet black woman. And it's not just the look. She also again embodies the persona and the attitude.

[00:16:54]It's her whole presentation. It's almost as if she's trying to be an exaggerated stereotype of a black woman. And some of these women will even go as far as to darken their skin or enhance and alter their body parts such as getting BBLs.

[00:17:09]And a lot of them too like to emboss themselves in hip-hop culture and also black music aesthetics. [ __ ] you basically can call them year round Halloween [ __ ] They just don't celebrate when October comes around. In other words, she wears black culture like it's a costume. She's not becoming part of the culture. She's turning into a costume. But here's the problem with that. These broads are culture appropriators and culture vultures.

[00:17:33]They're like your Iggy Aelas at TV isn't the only one who's profiting off of the culture. These women will wear it. But like the red-haired shared struggle chick, she is living in a simulation where she is temporarily pretending to be a black woman who is into black men.

[00:17:51]Now, this is where the fetishization comes in. She will gravitate towards black men, especially the ones who look like they have more of an edge or have more free form locks or just look or just look like they're degenerates. See, most of the white women on this list will kick it with just about any black man because they see us all as exotic just for being black. But this one in particular and the college experimenters look for a specific type of glamorized negro that makes it a fetishized aesthetic. For the hood appropriator, it's either a hood negro that they want or it's a rapper. And for the college experimentter, it's a mandingo athlete.

[00:18:32]However, whereas the college experimentter loves to erase or hide behind their fetish phase, the hood appropriator loves to broadcast it to the world. They see black men as a sexual experience that also helps their personal brand. Because notice, the way that these women gain notoriety is by creating an image like a wild creature doing wild things. because usually they are talentless hacks who have to either lean onto that hypersexuality or being a C-level music artist at best in order for them to be successful in their lives and in their careers. Now, although it's fun and games for a minute, some of these chicks do try to rebrand themselves sometimes as well too. Think about your Miley Cyrus types.

[00:19:20]They have an edge, but then they go back to being a regular white woman. Even think about your Wo Vickies. I mean, this broad was going around acting like a mentally ill black stereotype that was exaggerated, speaking in gibberish and twerking her little flat ass, but now she's going around calling herself Victoria and a woman of God. The fifth type of white woman we're going to discuss today is what I call the rejection reversal. Now, this one is subtle, but it does happen. This is the white woman who has been made to feel undesirable.

[00:19:52]What you have to understand is that the dominant society has this agenda that they pull with their queens. And I've talked about this before in previous videos, and I call it the let the [ __ ] have her agenda. It sounds funny, but just follow me so you understand what I'm talking about.

[00:20:08]They have this thing where if a white woman is either deemed aged out, unattractive, a feminist, a social justice advocate, a known interracial dater, rebellious, promiscuous, divorced, or overweight, then in their opinions, they have deemed them unworthy. And their thing is, we as black men can just have their asses because they're trash. And sometimes these white women know this type of thing and they feel the weight of it. No pun intended.

[00:20:40]And now this type of white woman is looking for a place where she feels accepted at least temporarily.

[00:20:46]>> Part two of why I take black men. Now a lot of this is going to be very personal to me as a redhead. Having red hair, freckles, fair skin. These are all things that I've been teased for growing up, right? For whatever reason, black men and women have loved it about me.

[00:20:59]They appreciate it. It seems to be something they're attracted to. I have always felt more comfortable and gone along with black men and women. It's just a thing. Black men seem to appreciate my body type a lot more. Some racists want to be like, "Oh, it's just because they allow you to be fat." No, I can be skinny skinny and your girl is still going to have hips, thighs, a butt. I can't help it. I've never had them ask me to dye my hair. I've never had them ask me to tan. Like, I have an option of tanning anyway. It just seems like I'm accepted for me in whatever form that is. I feel safe with black men. And [snorts] somewhere along the way, she either hears or believes that black men will accept her or she sees it because a black man is attracted to maybe the way her body looks. So now the attraction is not rooted in real connection. It's all about validation for these types of women. They want to go where they feel wanted and chosen.

[00:21:48]But when they choose you, they're not choosing you for you. They're choosing you because of how the idea of you makes them feel better about themselves.

[00:21:57]This is why there's this big stigma around a lot of white women when they're seen as overweight and it being a thing where they're considered undesirable and them trying to fix it. And these types of white women usually don't have a look, but they often do have a weight range. And there's this stigma that has gone around about white women who are seen as overweight. And that stigma is that there's like this trend of black men, specifically dark-kinned black men, getting with white women who are overweight and have pale skin. And often it's painted as if there's a weird fetish that the black man has, but the other end is seldom looked at. The ones of us who do like this simply like a woman who has curves that resemble a black woman if we're being honest. But for the white women, it's often acceptance fetishism.

[00:22:51]Matter of fact, I had this experience with a white woman before in my own life. See, I've never dated a white woman before in my life, but in college, I've had white women who were interested in me. And when I was in college, I met this white woman who was very attracted to me. And she let me know, and she let a lot of other folks know as well, too.

[00:23:11]One day, we got into a conversation about her love for black men. And she told me that in school the white boys used to tease her and say that she was fat. And she said that none of these white boys were really checking for her like that, but the black dudes were.

[00:23:25]Now, here's the thing. This woman was not fat at all in my opinion. If she was fat, I would have told y'all she had a little more curvage on her for her to be a white woman, but she was not fat. She said as a result she always gravitated towards black men because they always loved the way that she looked and told her about it. So as a result she started liking black men going forward. Long story short, she told the absolute truth because come to find out she smashed the homies and all of my friends in that group that she knew of were black. And [snorts] it wasn't just one other black dude in the circle, it was multiple.

[00:24:04]Long story short, she ended up marrying a black man, having black kids with that black man, and even at one point considering doing interracial content online.

[00:24:16]See, most of these chicks rebrand when they're done. However, many times this particular type doesn't because they have accepted being with a black man is what their life is going to amount to because they see being with a black man often times as a consolation prize for who will accept them. This is a harsh way to put it, but many times it's often like this saying where if you eat [ __ ] long enough, it starts to taste good and eventually you start to crave it constantly. The fetish in a way magically starts blending with real attraction, but it's not them liking you for you. It's connected to their self-esteem and their self-worth. The sixth and final white woman we're going to talk about today is probably the most interesting. This is called the white girl brander. This is the white woman who uses black men to build an image.

[00:25:08]And this one has two versions. The first version is what I call the social justice performer. This is usually a white woman who is unattractive to above average looking at best.

[00:25:20]This is the one who is usually in liberal spaces, activist spaces, academic spaces, or social justice circles. She already has a brand built around being progressive, aware, and socially conscious. So, black men become a part of that brand to a certain degree. Willing to basically get with a black man because it's a part of that image. And it's not because she sees that black man really as a full person, but because of the proximity that he has to her and the image that she's creating for herself and how people see her. It makes her feel deeper and more radical and more like she's all about being woke. But the problem is black men are not accessories for somebody else's political identity. And often this one can be very dangerous because these are the type of white women who will take their liberal ideologies too far, even distorting them when it comes to that black man. Now, let me explain what I mean by that. Fetishism is rooted in white saviorism mixed with making a statement, but it can easily turn into deflected victimhood. In some situations, this type of white woman can easily become the beginning of establishing black men as victimizers, not just of black women, but also of white women as well, too. In her mind, she's not only making it seem like black men are on the same playing field with the same benefits or more as white women. But eventually, she puts them on the same playing field as white men to say that we have the same benefits as them. And the minute that they cry grape or abuse, their behavior can get a black man locked up or create this career sabotage issue. Furthermore, that being on the record creates a history of false propaganda where black men are suspected of having patterns of being white female abusers despite the history showing the exact opposite. Need I remind you that white women often own black slaves and [ __ ] them, too? The second version of this is called the fetish content creator. Don't mistake this for Only Fans. I don't mean that she's going around shaking her little flat ass online. I mean that she's creating content that's centered on fetishizing black men. This is the social media version, not the social activist. This is the white woman who gets online and turns her attraction to black men into a performance. She will make videos saying things such as, "I love you black man. I love you black man." Like you'll see those types of things, but it's not really about black men being people who can be loved, liked, or even being attracted to. This is not about black men being a person who she can love or even like in some cases. It's about building a lane where black male desire becomes her content strategy to build her personal brand. And it's manipulative because at the same time, some of these samos who say that black women were never checking for them hear this type of [ __ ] and their monkey asses get to turn it into melted damn chocolate. They say that white women are black men's kryptonite, but they got that [ __ ] twisted. Fetishizer white women are the sambos kryptonite.

[00:28:31]And this is where it gets nasty because now black men become a proxy product.

[00:28:36]They do not even have to be in the room.

[00:28:39]She can build views and comments and controversy and attention off the idea of a black man. That is not love. This is a social branding strategy for attention and eventually money. It's not even really attraction. It's just a monetized fetishization.

[00:28:55]And when you look at it, it's just another version of people using black bodies, black attention, and black desire as a resource. The packaging is different, but the pattern is the same and it's old. The main thing that you need to take away from this is that there are many types of white women who fetishize black men. None of them are doing it for genuine or respectable intent. White women fetishizing black men is typically either used for branding, sexual experimentation, venting, or social currency. And one thing that we need to be clear about is that fetishization is a form of covert racism or racist microaggressions. This is one of the dangers of dating interraially. It's not even just about worrying about a killer Karen or a savage snow bunny. It's about being used as a prop in your own damn relationship. I mean, seriously, where's the dignity in that?

[00:29:47]But no matter how it looks, understand that none of it is about you being truly loved for who you are. You are simply being lusted over for what you represent. With that being said, let me know which of the six archetypes have you seen the most or have you experienced. Tell us a story below and let's go ahead and get this discussion started. All right, y'all. I hope you enjoyed this video. I hope you enjoyed what I had to say and I definitely will have more to come in the future. So, make sure you stay tuned. In the meantime, I would love it if you like this video, subscribed, shared, and also hit the bell icon so you get notifications for whenever I come out with new content on this channel. Other than that, I'll talk to you later.

[00:30:24]Pisacho.