What Happens When She Knows She’s Pretty?

Added: 2026-05-30

[00:00:00]Why is it more normalized for a woman to think that she is ugly than to love herself? I just saw this Instagram real of this girl saying she's pretty and she loves herself and I was like, "Damn, girl. That's like what I talk about on my Instagram. This is spot on." Then I open the comments and everyone's [ __ ] dragging her ass for talking about how pretty she is. Comments saying, "Where's the pretty?" Why is it so jarring that a woman goes on her Instagram and says, "I'm beautiful and I love myself." Does that not blow your [ __ ] mind that it is so not normal to call yourself pretty? Wait, why does it make people so uncomfortable when a woman says she's pretty? Like, I'm not even talking about arrogance. I'm not talking about someone putting others down. I mean, just normal confidence.

[00:00:37]>> Being pretty makes going out in public so [ __ ] intimidating.

[00:00:40]>> And guys make it so obvious, too. Like, I hear you. Like, I literally hear what you're whispering to your friends and I see you all [ __ ] staring at me. And then also then, like, this guy literally tried to like walk into me to like get my I'm like, "Oh my [ __ ] god." I'm pretty and I know I'm pretty and that makes people so [ __ ] mad. I made a video saying that going out in public is stressful sometimes because everyone's looking at you and like guys will do things to get your attention and especially now that I have a following.

[00:01:04]People are like talking about me or then they'll come up to me. Like it's just a different experience than it used to be before I got a nose job and hair extensions and lost weight and started posting on social media. Like I swear you'll see a girl post a selfie and the comments go from you're gorgeous to okay, we get it. She knows she's pretty.

[00:01:21]Why is she acting like that? humble yourself. And I'm always like, wait, what changed? Because literally two seconds ago, everyone was complimenting her. So why does it suddenly become a problem the moment she agrees? So in this video, I want to take a look at why the reaction happens, why female confidence makes people so uncomfortable sometimes, and why the internet seems way more okay with women being admired than women admiring themselves. So recently I came across creators like Talia Breer just talking about confidence, self-image, the way people react to attractive women online. And honestly, I was shocked by the comment section. Wherever I go, everyone stares at me because I'm so pretty. I'm going to give you guys my best confidence advice. My dad always says, "You see what you look for, and if you choose to see things that you don't like about yourself, you will find them no matter what. But if you're constantly looking for ways to be like, I am beautiful, you will see that and believe that you're pretty." Your thoughts create your reality. So if you have a positive selft talk in your mind, you will believe that you're beautiful and you will have confidence and it will show. And no matter what you look like, you should believe you're pretty because what the hell to wake up every day and look at yourself and live with yourself. Why would you not want to think you're gorgeous?

[00:02:26]>> Okay, so far that sounds like a bad [ __ ] advice. I don't know how to call it, but like that sounds like an advice from someone who's been there and done that.

[00:02:33]>> I'm pretty. I know I'm pretty. Even worse, I'll say out loud that I think I'm pretty. Nothing makes an insecure person more angry than seeing someone who has confidence. Misery loves company. Remember that if one of my friends was like, "Talia, I think I'm the prettiest girl in the world." I would be like, "Yes, the [ __ ] you are."

[00:02:47]And on top of that, you're smart, you're kind, you're cool, you're funny.

[00:02:50]Believing that you're the prettiest person in the world doesn't mean that you treat other people less than. Saying you're the best to someone who's threatened by it means you think I'm worse than you. Saying, "I believe I'm the best to someone who also thinks they're the best." Both know it has nothing to do with anybody else but yourself. I know where I stand. I don't think about >> like clearly there's no big issue with this video, but some of the comments were like, "Confidence is squad.

[00:03:10]Insecurities are allowed." guys, she's just manifesting. I need to be this delusional. God forbid a girl knows she's pretty. Like, you would still see people agreeing with her, but there were so many comments with people getting really intense about it. Like, weirdly emotional over something that honestly didn't even sound too controversial.

[00:03:28]Like, the thing is, she wasn't even insulting anybody. She wasn't saying she was better than other women. She wasn't hating on men necessarily. Like, she wasn't even bragging. She was literally just speaking positively about herself.

[00:03:40]And somehow that alone irritated people.

[00:03:42]>> I love being pretty because in situations like these when I'm waiting outside the eye doctor to get a shot in my eye, I'm like, let me just watch videos of myself looking really good to pass the time.

[00:03:51]>> I really like this comment. For example, you're beautiful and knowing that is okay. Why do we want women to be so humble all the time? They want women to be pretty but pretend they don't know it. They want women to be pretty but be insecure. Women are gassing girls up on this app constantly, but because you feel pretty and say it out loud. Now there are thousands of girls girls doing their worst to bring it down. Why? How in the world would another girl saying, "I know that I'm pretty. I know I fit the beauty standard." Makes someone else upset. And this is when it hit me because apparently there is a problem on the internet where women bring other girls or women down. Like what's going on? Why is it the problem that a woman says she's pretty? And I kept thinking about that for a bit because Tyla isn't the only example. It's not about her specifically. It felt more like people were reacting to the idea itself. The idea of a woman just saying how she feels about herself. And that's where it gets really interesting to me because why does that bother people so much?

[00:04:46]Like she's not attacking anyone. She's not even saying anything outrageous or controversial. She's just talking about self-confidence and self-image in a normal way. But somehow even that becomes something people feel the need to push back on.

[00:05:08]And I'm going to serve you.

[00:05:16]>> And then I want to take Chapel Ron as an example for this video because I think she shows something slightly different from everything I'm going to talk about in this video. Because with her, the internet genuinely couldn't just say, "I don't like how confident she is." that felt like a bad reason to them. So instead, people went looking for something more acceptable. Like she blew up in 2024. It was very huge. It was one of the biggest rises anyone had seen in years. And she was from day one completely unbothered. And the backlash that followed wasn't really about any one thing. It kept changing every time.

[00:05:47]And that's the thing that actually bugs me. Like the actual reason is just she's too confident and I don't like it. The criticism has to keep finding new places to land because apparently she's confident and I don't like it doesn't sound like a good reason to some. Like I understand people who don't like her art. Like that's normal. That's fine.

[00:06:05]Everyone has different taste. But the people who decided they didn't like her as a person, as a woman, as a presence needed reasons that felt more justifiable than she doesn't make herself small enough for me. So they found them. And that's the pattern I kept noticing with confident women online. Every single one of them has gone through something similar. The actual reason for the discomfort rarely gets said out loud. Instead, the conversation moves to their personality, their choices, their tone, their politics, their attitude. Literally any reason that sounds more acceptable than the real thing, which is so crazy to me.

[00:06:39]Like, she knows who she is and she doesn't seem to need approval for it.

[00:06:43]It's hard for me to fit in jeans with my butt, so these like allow, you know, usually when I sit down it like hangs over. These just hit me at the perfect spot to where they don't it doesn't hang out.

[00:06:55]>> But I think everyone needs to take like 20 selfies to get the perfect one. I mean, it's not just like you can't just take one and that's it and you post it.

[00:07:03]You definitely need a good like 15 or 20 to get warmed up. Definitely when I'm getting ready, I play up the eyes. My favorite part. You can have like no makeup on and you just put on like a little liner, a little mascara, and blush. I'm a blush girl. And we've seen this pattern for years with people like Kim Kardashian. And honestly, I think it's just one of the clearest examples of it because she's been in the public eye for so long that literally everything about her image has been picked apart at this point. But there's one moment that always stands out. It's when she posted that famous new selfie years ago and framed it as confidence and body empowerment. And now that's where I want to pause for a second because I know some of you might say that it's been years ago and that people wouldn't actually react to such photos the same way they did back then. Like it's a good point to started considering after watching this video from an influencer on Tik Tok. If Kim posted that bathroom selfie in 2026, literally no one would even care. Like if she did that paper magazine cover, no one would care. Like cuz at the time those things were like the talk of the town. Like every single headline cuz like you know we didn't have any like real problems back then. So those were our problems.

[00:08:07]Kim bathroom selfie was our problems.

[00:08:08]Now that's just like a regular Tuesday.

[00:08:10]Like whatever, whatever. I mean, even for the time, it's kind of like you guys are being a little overdramatic. So interesting to see how the cultural landscape has changed in the past 10 years because like that feels like 40 million years ago. If I could tell the people of 2017 like 17, I don't even know when that happened. If I told those people, I'd be like, "Guys, we have bigger issues. We have way bigger problems. Don't worry about it. It's just going to get worse." Like the internet has expanded dramatically with new dramas and stories every single week or even day. And I suppose there are a lot of people who think that if we look at the comments, it's also the speed of trend cycles. So, we need to slow down and allow people to linger on moments. I feel like the internet is too big now and moves too fast. We used to have wool celebrity channels dedicated to celebrity gossip. But now, if I try to come back to my main point, Kim's example makes so much sense because something interesting happened after her post. It didn't just stay about the photo. It became a conversation about her as a person. News channels and people weren't just reacting with she looks good or she looks bad. It was more like is this appropriate? Is she setting bad example? Is she doing this for attention? And I remember thinking, how does a single image turn into a full analysis of a person? Why do we start picking on her? Or the moment she owns it, like actually owns her image, doesn't apologize for it, the conversation completely changes. And it's not she looks like this or she looks like that, it becomes she shouldn't feel this about herself. And that's the part that honestly feels really shocking to me. What do you mean by she shouldn't feel this about herself? Confidence shouldn't always be framed as arrogance. All right? It's like this invisible line women are supposed to cross. Like you can be admired, but the moment you start owning the admiration, it becomes uncomfortable. And then if we're taking it further, it's not even about beauty anymore. It's about whether she has the right to feel that way in the first place. And I don't know about you, but this is where everything gets weird to me. Like confidence gets treated like something inappropriate. Almost like if the confidence itself is the problem.

[00:10:01]>> Seen this clip yet? It's 21-year-old Billy Eyish turning up to the Barbie premiere. And the hate she is getting in the comment section is proof of just how much work still needs to be done. How embarrassing to be invited to a Barbie premiere and you turn up in this.

[00:10:12]Literally, no one wanted this. She looks ridiculous. And Billy Eyish ruins the whole red carpet while everyone else looks amazing. Really, she's ruining the whole red carpet. And this is exactly why Billy is wearing baggy clothes because if she wears baggy clothes, then people can't comment on her body. If they ridiculing her outfit this much, imagine the things they would say about her body. I think the problem is that as a female, you're always going to be ridiculed. Something's going to be seen as not good enough. In this scenario, it's her clothing, but otherwise, it would probably be her body, and men are typically free from the scrutiny.

[00:10:38]They're able to wear what they want. And then there is Billy Eyish. Obviously, I had to talk about her in this video because I think she's another really clear example of how consistent the reaction is. For a long time, she was known for wearing oversized clothing, very covered, very intentional. And even then, there were constant comments about her body, about why she dresses that way, about what she's hiding or trying to avoid. And then later, when she started wearing more fitted or revealing outfits, think about her recent Met Gala outfits or the Vogue shoot everyone seemed to talk about, the opinions changed. Suddenly, it became about her changing or doing it for attention or people acting like she had to explain herself again. So, it's like no matter what she does, there's always a critique attached to it. And it really bugs me like at that point Billy could basically wear a full astronaut suit and everybody would still be there in the comments acting confused. And that's exactly why her 2020 short film Not My Responsibility hit so hard because she literally called out the pressure and asked whether people wanted her smaller, weaker, softer, or taller.

[00:11:40]>> Would you like me to be smaller, weaker, softer, taller?

[00:11:47]And I just keep thinking genuinely, what do you want her to do? Because to me, it feels like there's no version of her that escapes judgment. And that's the frustrating part. Like the baggy clothes were supposed to stop people from talking about her body and her figure, and people still did. And don't get me wrong, it's not even about the outfit itself anymore. It's about the fact that whatever choice she makes gets turned into something to analyze and to criticize her about. And that's exactly why it fits into this beggar pattern we're trying to understand in this video where women don't just get seen, they get evaluated no matter what they choose to do with their appearance or their body. And there's no way we avoid judgment, which is super super frustrating. Yep. Oh my god. I've never seen this much money in my life, you guys. I risk my whole career for this and it's it's so worth it. It's been one day since I officially launched. Like I'm about to open my first day earning on. I'm so nervous.

[00:12:48]>> A lot of people ask me, Claire, why did you start an OFA? I got bored and I was thinking to myself with my rebellious brain, h what would people not expect from me at all? And the answer is very obvious to me, a bookshop. So that's exactly what I did. Even in the beginning, my family.

[00:13:08]>> Oh my god, please tell me that's a joke because that does sound like a joke. At the same time, given the fact that she used to post about body positivity and used to be this very nice, I guess admired Connor creator. I mean, this really bugs a lot of people. And yes, let's talk about Clara Dao. I guess most of you, if not all of you, have heard her name at some point in time, especially recently given her controversies and a lot of people just having a lot of questions about her. The reason why I want to mention her in this video is because she kind of used to be one of those examples people brought up when talking about confidence and body image online like she used to post this aspirational body positivity content showing off her flat chest and then some point in time things have changed. She got a bob job. She started an only fans account and the reaction from the people who had followed her for the confidence content was not great. Let's be real was not great. Like people were obviously mad. They felt betrayed. A lot of the comments were like, "Minds are natural, by the way, guys. I feel like it's a joke." I hope so, too. I used to look up to you. What kind of logic is this? What a downfall. And here's what I find really interesting about it because some people were totally fine with it. Like, it's her body. It's her choice. She can do whatever she wants. But a lot of people felt genuinely betrayed. Like, the message they thought she was sending suddenly did not feel the same anymore.

[00:14:29]A lot of people assume that it's because she stopped getting much attention in her body positivity content, which is why she decided to get a boob job and switch things up and like, you know, spread around some controversy. And this is not the video where I'm going to talk about what's fair and what's not. I want to talk about the reaction because it reveals something really interesting.

[00:14:47]Like when someone builds an audience around a certain message, people start to feel ownership over what the message means. And the moment it changes even slightly, that trust can collapse really fast. And that's what happened with Clarida. It's not even about what she said specifically. It's about what people thought she represented and the gap between those two things. And I think that says a lot about how we consume creators in general. We build these entire ideas about who someone is based on what they show us. And when that changes, even if it's their right to change their body, their appearance, how they carry themselves, people who invested in the old version of them don't always take it well. And that's what happened with Clara D. Like a lot of people now know her for her controversy and obviously there was this huge reaction because what she did wasn't just wearing more makeup or changing her outfits, right? Like it was a 180° turn. There was completely different content. So after looking at all these examples, I don't actually think it's about beauty. Like not really. Because let's be honest here, if it was just about how someone looks, their reaction wouldn't change so much depending on what they say or how they carry themselves, right? it would just stay about appearance, but it doesn't.

[00:15:59]It changes the second a woman starts speaking about herself with confidence.

[00:16:03]The second she stops waiting for approval and just owns how she feels about herself. And that's the part that really stands out to me because it's not the admiration that people struggle with. Like, it's not a big ass issue to approach a woman in the public and say she's pretty. Like, that's not the point. It's when the admiration turns inward. That's when a woman comes out in the public and says she is pretty.

[00:16:24]That's when people get really mad because we're okay with women being admired. We're just not as comfortable when they admire themselves. So yeah, when you really look at all this together, it's not actually about beauty the way people think it is. It's something a lot more specific than that.

[00:16:40]So let me know what you think about this whole idea down in the comments. And if you actually enjoy the video, I would be very appreciative if you could press that like button and subscribe to my channel just to make sure you stay around my page and don't miss my next videos. And if you've done that, thank you so much for your support and see you in the next video. Bye.