Biracial Kids EMOTIONALLY Open Up About Their White Moms & The Tr@um@ Of Being Their Children #us

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]And another thing that was really hard growing up in a racist family was my mother. And I didn't realize that she feticized black men but hated me. And I was like, why would you get with a black man if you don't want a black child? And she used to call me negro. And like just always like I wasn't pretty as my sister. I wasn't my sister. And she made that very clear from just about the moment I was born. I was like, I'm not my sister. And my sister is also multi-racial, but she just came out very light. Like she was Puerto Rican, white, and black. And she just came out lighter. like she was extremely extremely light, had colored eyes, had that beautiful hair that was like nice and soft, you know, whatever. And then there was me. And when my mom left me at five, her reasoning was she just didn't like my cheekbones. She didn't like my skin color. My hair was too hard to manage. My white mom told me that she used to literally pray and hope and pray in hope that the whole entire time she was pregnant with me that I would not come out with an an afro.

[00:01:05]>> She You hear? You hear? She says stupid.

[00:01:11]>> There you go. Yep. That's Julie for y'all. I'm posting this. It's Julie.

[00:01:15]>> I don't care.

[00:01:16]>> That's This the real Julie.

[00:01:18]>> Tell everybody.

[00:01:18]>> This ain't the fake. Y'all probably right at UTMC. She is racist.

[00:01:22]>> You heard her.

[00:01:24]>> Hi guys. Welcome back to our channel. In case you're new here, my name is Maren >> and I'm Moren. Right guys, if you ever wondered if white women with mixed kids ever are racist to their children, in today's episode, we're going to be featuring mixed kids who will be coming onto the internet and talking about their sad experiences and they're confirming what the black community have been knowing all too well to be true.

[00:01:48]Right. And the biggest question you're asking today, and we'd like to know your opinions down in the comment section, is, is it the responsibility of a black man to meticulously choose whoever they're going to be having a kid with in order to protect their future offsprings? Guys, let's watch what we prepared for you today and then we come back and talk about it. You can also consider subscribing if you're new to our channel. Let's watch. My white mom told me that she used to literally pray and hope and pray and hope that the whole entire time she was pregnant with me that I would not come out with an an afro because if I was born with an afro, she wouldn't know what the to do with my hair. She don't know how to do black people hair.

[00:02:39]And I will say she 100% got what she she wanted cuz I definitely don't have an afro. Definitely don't have an afro.

[00:02:51]And whenever she would get extremely mad at me, she would tell me that I'm ugly just like my father. I know that she doesn't think I'm ugly. I just don't like how every time I remind her of a black man is when I become ugly. All I'm saying is that her mom don't say nothing like that to any of um her kids.

[00:03:17]My uncle don't say nothing like that to any of his kids. And her sister ain't never said nothing like that to any of her kids. saying, and and mind you, all my both my mom's siblings, like their relationships didn't work out with their like child's father. Well, and the child's um mother, they were both married and had kids with white people.

[00:03:46]My mom's the only one that had a black child.

[00:03:50]And they never be telling them they ugly like they white parent. Why am I the only one that gets called ugly?

[00:03:55]>> And another thing that was really hard growing up in a racist family was my mother. And I didn't realize that she feticized black men but hated me. And I was like, why would you get with a black man if you don't want a black child? And she used to call me negro and like just always like I wasn't pretty as my sister. I wasn't my sister. And she made that very clear from just about the moment I was born. It's like I'm not my sister. And my sister is also multi-racial, but she just came out very light. Like she was Puerto Rican, white, and black. And she just came out lighter. Like she was extremely extremely light. had colored eyes, had that beautiful hair that was like nice and soft, you know, whatever. And then there was me. And when my mom left me at five, her reasoning was she just didn't like my cheekbones. She didn't like my skin color. My hair was too hard to manage. I was too hard to manage. Um, and then I went back in our custody, I was 10. And I was always aggressive and I had behavioral issues and there's just something wrong with me. And I'll never forget I was dating this I was in eighth grade and I was dating this little black boy and he had a cousin who had this massive afro. Like it was like crazy huge. Like it was really cool. But there was a day that she picked me up and she was pissed drunk and she came inside and she was chasing this boy around downstairs. Like I mean like they were running and like cuz she was trying to grab his hair and touch it and he was like get away from me like you crazy [ __ ] woman. And I was so embarrassed and I was just watching and I was like I don't know what's going on. And my boyfriend was looking at me kind of like, "This is what you live with." And I was like, "Is this not normal?" Like, and there were so many things about my life that just weren't normal. Uh, and I grew up feeling very ugly and very much like I hated my skin. I hated my eye color. Like it was just my eyes are black. Like my skin is black. Like I'm just ugly. And it took until my mom passed away for me to start feeling beautiful. And that's when I was like 23. And she would always tell me like I was this special kind of black girl. And she would always tell me like, "I'm glad you're not like the other black girls."

[00:05:49]Like my daughter holds herself up with class. Like, and just being weird. And she'd post it on Facebook and tag me in it. And I wouldn't ever say anything. I was just kind of like, "What is like cuz me and my mom like we ended up just like not like talking like I didn't talk to my mom after I was like 19 cuz she just bounced on me one day when we were living together and I was like paying all the bills basically. And I just realized how disposable I was to her and how disposable she sees like black men cuz she would hit on them and love them and like always want to touch on their like hair and just be super weird. But when it came to her daughter like cuz she'd be like, "Oh, I have a black daughter. Oh, I have a black daughter."

[00:06:29]Like she was one of those moms. But when it came down to loving me, she didn't.

[00:06:34]And it was just it was such a weird experience. And it's so weird growing up in a family that doesn't want you. and doesn't understand what they did. Like my mom didn't understand like when like I don't I still don't get to this day. I'm like you mess around with a black man, you're going to have a biracial child. That's what happens. And I thought she was I was going to be like that, you know, that certain type of light-skinned like girl. And I just wasn't. And like I understand now that I am fairly light. Like I get like I understand now. Like I did post a video and people are like, "You're mixed.

[00:07:07]You're mixed. Stop saying you're black."

[00:07:08]And I was like, "Okay." Like chill out.

[00:07:10]I don't even know. I don't know what I am and I'm freaking out all the time.

[00:07:13]Leave me be. Like, let me have a sense of something, sense of some kind of culture. And that's just how I was growing up. I mean, it's super weird and I struggle with it now. As a 27-year-old woman, I'm still very confused all the time.

[00:07:27]>> Racist white people raise a daughter.

[00:07:30]That daughter decides to then become rebellious. But what does she do as an act of rebellion? She goes and sits on top of a black. The issue is she then makes a baby, but before the baby gets here, she has not done the work to get rid of the inherent racism that she has inside of herself. She can't see it because she's being rebellious by hopping on top of a The issue is a child is then born to a racist mother who doesn't even know she's racist. And the reason she can prove she isn't racist is that black little baby next to her.

[00:08:04]Okay? It's like a little biracial handbag for her. So now that child has to raise the mother or the mother has to raise the child but she doesn't know that she really don't like blackness like she can't stand it but the child feels that every day. So now the child ends up getting Stockholm syndrome because it likes its racist mother loves its racist mother and is so confused by what it means to be black or white or both. doesn't feel accepted by the community because people in the black community don't want to be around the child because they know the mom is weird and racist. So, what ends up happening is you get biracial crashs. That's the recipe. That's the formula. And then you see people like Drea, you see people like Britney Rener, you see people like Sweet, then they're born, and you got to let them crash out once a month. That's that's how I go. One of my weirdest dating stories from Chicago was going on a date with a light-skinned black man who was incredibly racist towards black people. And when I say racist, I mean like I could have been on a date with a K member, knowing damn well this man had darker skin. This man was raised by a white mom who would not let him get protective styles because it quote looked too ethnic. And she also had Americana decor, which is basically just like black people as decorations around her house. Nightmare fuel. are on this date and he looks around and he goes, "Yeah, we we don't want to be here too late. There's some really seedy people around here." And I looked at him with my jaw just completely dropped. It was almost entirely black people at this event. Which just was a complete coincidence. But it was my first time being on a date with somebody who was racist and was a person of color. So I was like, I don't agree. I feel safe.

[00:09:43]Like I don't know why you would say something like that. And then he just started to get mad at me for like not seeing the true danger of the situation.

[00:09:49]The entire situation was really bizarre and I ended up obviously not texting him again. The point being, white moms of mixed kids are really these people up.

[00:09:56]Like, this is really sad for them to grow up with that sort of hatred of their own skin.

[00:10:06]If my white mother ever used my existence, the existence of my black biracial brother and sister as a prop, as an accessory, as an example of times where she has objectified and fetishized a black man in order to create these black biracial children, in order to get back at her parents for their racism, we would go no contact >> as a biracial child who was born into a family where they weren't really ready to have mixed or black kids. I have a few questions for you. So, listen in.

[00:10:44]One, do your parents think of your mixed kids as an exception to the rule about black people? You know, where they actually hate other black people, look down on other black people, don't see them as full people, and your kids are the exception to the rule, but they're actually still racist. Two, have you set an expectation throughout your entire extended family that they need to have a pro black politic to both support your partner and your children? Three, have you set the expectation that your entire family needs to have a pro black politic because that is really integral to the fact that now you have black people in your bloodline? Like, have you done that yet? Four, do you put all the expectation and onus of protecting your kids on your black partner? And five, did you think that simply birthing mixed kids made you an ally to them? figure out your answer to these questions before you make your little Tik Toks.

[00:11:30]>> This man got on here and basically was saying that he has his ex-wife. He's black. His ex-wife, I'm assuming, was white and they have mixed race children.

[00:11:38]Two of them have, I guess, pretty manageable hair. And then one of the children has very curly hair, you know, whatever. He's basically saying like she hates the fact that she had three kids with this black man and really he's looking for um someone to do her his daughter's hair. daughter or son's hair.

[00:11:57]And the comments, oh god, they did disappoint because a lot of people were saying like, you got to take accountability. This is what you chose.

[00:12:05]And I think when it comes to being in interracial relationships and stuff like that, there's a lot of conversations I do think actually need to be had before you make that step or you say you want to procreate with this person. But if she's already saying like there had to be something about her um or a sign that showed that she wasn't really ready to to date interraially and take it seriously. And now your child has to suffer because of that. And there's a lot of biracial people that I feel like just on the internet in real life who speak about their experiences and saying, especially if you have a a mother, a white mother, and saying that, hey, it's hard for us to connect because her experience in her life is different than what I have experienced. And so for him, it's just like I really hope that he sat there and thought about like, damn, like I also procreated with someone that that doesn't appreciate me, that didn't appreciate my color, didn't appreciate my culture, my struggle, and now my child has to suffer because of that. I hope he thought about it like that. And I I I don't think he did. And so when the comments said that, they were like, well, this is this is a part of that. And it even made me think about the statistics about interracial relationship and how a lot of times black men, black men and white women have the highest divorce rates, but when it's flipped, interraially um white men with black women, they don't have a super high divorce rate. But it got me to thinking like if you are going to do it, like was it not a priority to to to to make sure that this person loved you for who you are? Not necessarily like to feticize you. I just I just wanted to know that. I didn't put anything crazy in the comments because like I said, I'm I really do feel like he was just really trying to find somebody to do his daughter's hair, but when he explained the backstory situation, I'm like, "So, you laid down and procreated with someone who hates you and really may hate her and because of that is treating the one-third of the child is subconsciously may be treating her differently. God forbid she or he may be the darkest one. It It's a It's a sad thing. This dude thought it was a good idea to tell us that he has a ex-wife who doesn't like the fact that she has black kids. You the one who decided to lay down with a woman who not black and you had mixed kids. There is literal information and studies right out there that shows what happened when a mixed child is raised uh to a black woman versus when she's raised to a white tea woman or born to a white tea woman. Like stop. Stop. And honestly, bro, we don't care. When this happens to y'all, y'all BLK men and y'all lay down with the preferences and things of that nature.

[00:14:46]When this happens to you, bro, I laugh because it's quite comical. I don't care about y'all so stories. Y'all need to say this stuff to yourself. You should have got a black woman.

[00:14:57]Point blank period. You should have been in that chocolate side. You should have been in that black love side. But no, you decided to go over there. So don't come telling us about what happens when you start suffering on that side. We don't give a dang. Truth be told, y'all, you can love whoever you want. But when you go outside of black and these type of things happen to you, right?

[00:15:25]That what you get. That what you get.

[00:15:27]>> Cuz I was raised by a woman who was hard to impress.

[00:15:33]And I car deep in my chest.

[00:15:37]>> And another thing that was really hard growing up in a racist family was my mother. And I didn't realize that she feticized black men but hated me. And I was like, why would you get with a black man if you don't want a black child?

[00:15:48]This is going to be just as uncomfortable for me to say as it would be for you to hear, but white women who have a sexual desire for black men but do not like their mixed children use their children to help feed that appetite. Also to get away with racist things cuz they can just say, "I have black children. I can't be racist." But they'll flaunt those children in public and it lets black men know she she black men. She got mixed kids. It's evident that she sleeps with us. So, she would prefer to have a daughter who looks white with a tan over a daughter who looks like a light-skinned black girl.

[00:16:26]That's her problem with you. Because the white women who only see black men as a object always have a problem with black women. They see you as competition even if you're their daughter. Your sister in her mind will look more like her. So she will have less of a problem with a black man paying her any attention over you.

[00:16:46]She had no desire to raise black children to learn about them or to ever do your ethnic hair. That's why it frustrates her. That's why you just being there and being alive frustrates her because you didn't come out the way she imagined just like your sister did.

[00:17:02]She need trophies. She need props to take out into the world to attract black men to her temptation. It's never love.

[00:17:11]It was never anything besides sexual pleasure. She just happened to have kids out of it because she had a a goal which your sister helped her hit and you got in the way of. And on the flip side, any of those white women who ever been on dates with white men and those white men like, "You ever sleep with a black guy?"

[00:17:28]But he never disclosed that he's not attracted to black women because he is attracted to black women. He just doesn't want a black man touching his white woman. It's a desire and they need to feed it. It's a fantasy and it's all I can think about. I hope that helps.

[00:17:46]>> So guys, welcome back. Let us know what you think about this episode on the comment section. Yeah, it's really sad to watch that uh these kind of kids are brought up with a lot of emotional damage and you ask yourself when someone does this and these are it's not even being done to them by strangers. These are their maternal mothers by you know biological mothers who are doing this to them you know and you like I would never really understand why although I do understand but I don't understand why someone could be this cruel to the point where you go have a offspring this is somebody who's coming from you has half your DNA and you're there treating them like um they could be just another stranger outside you know right and can you fault the woman for being racist or can you fault the man for knowing that There is a possibility this woman is racist and still goes on ahead to sleep with her and leaves her with a baby, a biracial baby who has nothing to do with their with this woman's racism or this man's irresponsibility and grows up with emotional trauma knowing full well that he will leave her with that baby who is to blame in this scenario. Right? And there's a woman who explained the situation perfectly because the only person who can do this is someone who was raised badly and they picked up as they were growing because her family is also like that. They picked up all these biases against other people of color or black people. And then for just act for them to to be rebellious, they decide to act against what their family stands for and they decide to do what they feel like will will hurt the most. you know by becoming rebel re rebellious they go and date the person their parents would disapprove of the most and then they end up getting pregnant and then we end up having these situations. It's quite sad and um these kids really do confirm that these people are you know they are truly racist because a lot of the excuses used nowadays is but I have a black child but I have black friends but I have a black partner you know so for some reason when they say that they expect the society to excuse them and the society to just handle them with grace and believe that they're not racist but these are situations that are really happening in households and you have to look at the kind of the generation these people are being raised to become because let's talk about the white lady who was talking about having dated a mixed guy right and the way the man was talking about his people about black people you can clearly see that it's the way he has been raised to dislike any type of people who are not white especially the black community right and also let's talk about the first the very first clip we watched at the beginning of this episode of the woman who was calling her very own child uh the N word, right? And I'm like, this woman looks like she has so much hatred in her heart to a point where I'm really wondering how is it that she ended up with a black son.

[00:20:44]Question. Anyway, guys, let us know what you think about this episode on the comment section because it's really, really sad and I feel like if this does not speak to someone out there, people need to be really, really careful. If you cannot handle a black child or a half black child, then don't go into that relationship because it's not their fault if they're born with an afro hair.

[00:21:04]It's not their fault if they're born with brown skin, right? There are others who are born with white people actually have also realized that white women who have kids with black men and their children end up looking Caucasian or white passing. they actually love their children and it's like um that's not evidence of them having have had a relationship with a black man because remember every face people people change people grow and everything you do is a face next year you might not be the same right so if you have a child and they turn out to be evidently mixed or they turn out to have completely come out as Africanamean you know that's a daily reminder of you and what you did and the decisions um you decided to take you And if you're racist, just don't go there.

[00:21:50]Don't do that because the possibility of them coming out not white are very, very high. Right? And um from the black community, I think by now we've all established that these types of white women, they're never going to change their racism and they target black men because they want to satisfy their fetishes. So that being said, you know, these kinds of white women, not all of them, but these kinds of white women will never change. Why would you go to have a baby with them unless you are a black man who considers giving a white woman a baby and leaving them as an accomplishment or a you consider that biracial child as a trophy. There will never be there won't ever be a time where they will have will have an easy time between black and white people just simply because of the history that is there between the two. And unless unless it's a personal decision, both have >> not only personal decisions, but unless the white community genuinely gives reparations to the black community and actively puts policies in place to try and rectify what systemic injustices and systemic racism has done to the black community, right? And the reason why I was saying uh there won't be ever you know that understanding won't be achieved is because it um I feel like in a relationship it it extends past the two of you. It's you also have to consider your extended family like how your parents are going to handle you plus the offsprings you're going to get from that relationship. how your parents are going to handle your partner and whatever ideas religious or social wise they prescribe to you know whatever ideas uh they stand for. It's not going to just be the two of you. How are they going to be relating to your child?

[00:23:38]Because at the end of the day, if you do get a kid from this relationship, they are going to be the grandparents to that child. How are they going to treat that child? Are they going to you know add into their well-being or are they going to add into their you know um deprived social mindset you know or are they going to make them become people who hate themselves because of simply how they were born you know so you need to consider all these things and I feel like it's high time people before before having a baby I normally say before you have a child you have to plan for it and before you go out there looking for a child from people who look different from you just sit down and think about the long-term solution because a kid is not just in one year that child is grown and out of your house. That's a lifelong commitment. You have to raise this.

[00:24:25]>> It's a lifelong commitment and responsibility. You're going to be responsible for them, how they look, outright appearance. Like for example, how you keep them, you know, the hair if it's going to be manageable according to what you can manage. You have to think about all these things before you find yourself in a situation. But guys, let us know what you think about this episode on the comment section. Also, consider subscribing if it's your first time here, and we'll catch you on our next episode. Thank you so much for always tuning in.