Nigerian Marriage Vs. UK: Cultural Differences Explained #shorts

Added: 2026-05-06

[00:00:00]I think it's failure to know ourselves that is creating so much problems in in our existence. And I think to add to that, you know, um the Nigerian way, the Nigerian personality, it's very different from that abroad. So, a couple that gets on in Nigeria, um you know, I have a cousin who's real jaiye jaiye man. Because you you like to sit down like this and say, "Mama Bola, you get me?" In Canada, your wife will wake up at 5:00, you wake up at 5:00. You come up at 7:00, she come up at 7:00. And you come Mama Bola, you say, "Do you want to kill me?" Mhm.

[00:00:30]>> Right? While in Nigeria, that's uh that that bond and and and and roles are very defined. The man is much more He takes responsibility. Out there, everybody is just a human being. There's no man, there's no woman. And to a typical Nigerian, that is very hard for them to comprehend.

[00:00:49]>> Because they for for you to survive in the UK, the wife has to be working as hard as you. So, now, the wife that is waking up at the same time with you, coming back at One day, she she will tell you that, "I don't kill me now. I'm you man, too. I'm tired."

[00:01:02]And then the Nigerian man don't want to hear that. That's disrespect. And I think it's failure to know ourselves that is creating so much problems in in our existence.

[00:01:09]>> And if you're looking at what you're sacrificing, because clearly the emotional sacrifice, even though it's just one, it outweighs the other things, the finance, the comfort. It outweighs it, because you're losing the fabric of that family. That And there's just some things that money can't buy. You can't >> Yeah, yeah, yeah. Your presence And like he said about training, it's not just about what you see, it is what they see you do.

[00:01:36]And if you're never there, so what are you really doing? In terms of marriage, it's there has to be intimacy, isn't it?

[00:01:43]There has to be intimacy. And communication over the phone or over the It's different from when we are seeing each other. So, clearly, this family they they need to sit down to have that hard conversation.