The Performative Wives of Instagram

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[00:00:00]And I was honestly just really really in my head when it came to having sex. Now my husband and I have been best friends since we started dating.

[00:00:06]>> Why are you telling us this?

[00:00:08]>> What's going on guys? Welcome to Instagram is not a real place where we react to Instagram reels that Doug MPA and I send each other if you guys want to be a part of it. Um make sure you join our Discord uh where you can submit reals for us to react to yourself. So >> you know the truth doesn't mean that you should say it and people should have to earn the truth from you. That doesn't mean lie, but people have to earn the full truth. What do I mean by that? When you're first talking to somebody, if they haven't earned your trust, here's how you should talk. You the man, you the woman. Sounds awesome, crazy, amazing, that sounds fun. If they start to go into victim thinking, you say, "Sounds like that's a very frustrating feeling."

[00:00:47]>> Yeah. Because it takes time to explain something to somebody. So, if they're not going to li men kind of naturally do this, like they're like, "If you're not going to listen anyway, it's not my problem.

[00:00:58]Do not tell them that they have victim consciousness. Now, this is tough because if you're somebody who's intelligent, you can look at somebody, see their limiting beliefs, self-justifications, rationalizations, place their limiting themselves, all the [ __ ] in their mind that's going to ruin their lives. And you're going to understand their psychology. You're going to be able to see right through them. You're going to want to tell them.

[00:01:15]It's very, very tempting to tell them.

[00:01:17]But the problem is that if you do, that can cause them to explode. Look, if you study spirituality, one awareness that you may have is that there is a parasitic consciousness that sort of suffocates the base level consciousness that people want to maintain in order to stay asleep. So, if that advice that you would give would wake them up, they're going to freak out and they're going to attack you. Um, we see this in the Bible. They say, "Do not cast your pearls before a swine." And likewise, we see that Jesus gets crucified just for telling the truth. So, >> wow, that's actually such a good point that literally Jesus got crucified for being honest. Good luck to you guys.

[00:01:54]>> Tell you, do not cast your pearls before a swine or you get trampled under her foot. Basically, what you do is you keep things light and then as people earn your trust or even pay to maybe get advice from you, then you give them the accurate truth. But up until then, social calibration. You don't need to spend your entire life getting crucified. Have fun with people. Know what you want to get out of an interaction. Have fun with people.

[00:02:11]That's the best way to go about it.

[00:02:13]>> Yeah. Wow, that was really good advice.

[00:02:15]Um, yeah, because guys, don't go out into the real world and talk about Red Pill all the time because I do it and you know it's it's tiring.

[00:02:24]>> I'm in Dallas, especially in Highland Park or the Park Cities. These are three in home services.

[00:02:28]>> Oh, okay. This is why I sent this real.

[00:02:31]You're going to see this is the new economy. So, I I I'm kind of in this area. Highland Park's like a rich white suburban area and um as I've said, high status women can't do their jobs. like they they want to do other things other than raise their kids. So now the new industries are going to be outsourcing >> that can make your life so much easier.

[00:02:51]First is sensational swim school. They actually come to your house and teach your kids how to swim in your own.

[00:02:56]>> Imagine being a mom dumb enough to bring a hot woman in a bikini into your house >> pool which is huge because your kids are learning in the exact environment that they'll be swimming in all summer and it just takes one more thing off your plate. No driving, no scheduling around a facility. Second is Sunshine Learning.

[00:03:12]This is an in-home tutoring, but they also do admission prep for private schools. A lot of families, >> so again, you know, you could um study with your kid, but that's hard. That's a lot of mental energy, right? Um and women would rather do anything else. So instead, they're going to um have some other woman do it, probably a Latina.

[00:03:29]>> Use them not just to say, >> shout out to the Latinas for watching their kids >> on track academically.

[00:03:34]>> White women ain't doing that, >> but also to help their kids get into schools like Hockaday, St. Marks, or ESD. So, it's both support and strategy.

[00:03:41]Third is Pamper Me Cute. They do in-home spa- themed parties for girls. Think robes, mini facials, nails, and the whole setup. And they come to you to handle everything, which makes hosting birthdays and special events so much easier.

[00:03:54]>> Yeah. So, again, like you could uh do it yourself, maybe spend time with the kid and learn it together. Uh but instead, they'd rather a Latina come in and pay them to do it. Again, mothers, we got to stop with this idea that mothers like want to watch their kids. Okay. So, here's a man making the worst mistake of his life. Um, putting on video how great his wife is. Um, I'm so tired of men being fooled by this. Look, so first of all, when you put a woman on camera, now the incentive is to perform for the camera, not for him. And two, now you're marketing her to other men. And see all look at look, I want you guys to look in the comments of all the men praising her. Oh, she's so amazing. Oh, you're so lucky. This is every me uh you guys can't be given this praise to women for no reason. Um it's cute. It's a cute video, right? Ideal. But this is a mistake. This is going to blow up in his face.

[00:04:45]>> Hi, Brookley.

[00:04:46]>> Hi.

[00:04:46]>> Where'd you get the steak from?

[00:04:48]>> I got a Costco card today. I I got all ready for my picture and I and I pose.

[00:04:53]No, you have to come with me so you can get yours.

[00:04:55]>> I do.

[00:04:56]>> I'm so excited.

[00:04:57]>> I'm so excited.

[00:04:58]>> I went and I got Sneaks there. So I went and I I got the card and then I was like I need to explore. So then I walked around the store. I got I now I know where everything is so next time we go we can get it done. And then surprise your favorite.

[00:05:10]>> These are my favorite snicker doodles.

[00:05:12]>> Snicker doodle cookies. This is just for sweet treats. And then I need you a baggie for work with a little note. But you can't read it until tomorrow because the note says it's for tomorrow.

[00:05:21]>> Hi.

[00:05:22]>> Yeah, this is going to be a mistake. Um, again, not to say you can't praise your wife ever, but um I I just got to be honest. You guys got to stop marketing for other men. Um, praise her to your friends and your family, not the internet.

[00:05:37]>> So, how was your day?

[00:05:38]>> It was good. So, how was your day?

[00:05:41]>> My day was so good. I just like >> Yeah. at me. Like again, this is what I mean when men are weak in a way cuz they'll never tell you to shut up. I don't care. They'll just, you know, listen because they love us. They like us so much. They crave our validation.

[00:06:00]Um, okay. Well, you're the prize and she doesn't get that. Let's see.

[00:06:06]>> That's why would you cancel the date?

[00:06:07]>> Sorry. Sorry. I got other plans. I got hit up by another female that I was like, "All right, I'm going to take this date instead." Um, >> excuse me. Is that is that not something that's happened to you before? Is this like a prize?

[00:06:21]>> Why would you tell me? Why would you tell me that? If you're going to cancel, at least lie about it.

[00:06:25]>> I mean, I'm the prize. Like, if anything, like, >> do girls do this to you guys? That's crazy.

[00:06:32]>> You should be okay with this. Um, but I would say that you're chopped and that you should go to License to Glow.

[00:06:41]Um, and I'd send you a Venmo for it, but I'm kind of broke and I lied about being rich. So, >> I was about to >> You can see, to be honest, that'd be kind of funny. I would laugh.

[00:06:53]>> Babe, what's it like packing up my house and moving with me?

[00:06:56]>> Oh, you want to know what it's like?

[00:06:58]>> Oh my gosh, it's amazing. Look how much work he has done. He has done so much of this stuff all on his own. I mean, I did the kitchen. Look how great I did. Look.

[00:07:07]Empty. Empty. But yet, I keep putting things back in. Like, here's my popcorn spice. I can't pack that yet. And look, he even has paper plates. How did he know that we needed to have paper plates? I know. This is what I mean. Our sins are like with the tongue. Our sins are like with he thinks.

[00:07:24]>> And we're so egotistical. She's going to say, "She did it so amazing." And, you know, point out all of his flaws.

[00:07:29]>> Everything. Oh my gosh. I am so lucky.

[00:07:32]He literally he's thought of everything.

[00:07:35]I My mind is blown. My mind is blown.

[00:07:38]like he is just the best. Let me just show you a few more things we have. Look at all these boxes. Look, he even put supplements in here. I just left them on the counter, but he thought of that.

[00:07:50]>> So, that's what it's like.

[00:07:52]>> Okay. Um, this is to show you guys how kids can see that their mom's crazy from a young age, but then the world tells them that they're not crazy.

[00:07:59]>> My son pretending to be me.

[00:08:01]>> I have to cut the breakfast. I HAVE TO MAKE THE LUNCHES I'VE DONE. AND WHERE ARE MY WATER BOTTLES? I keep WIPING THINGS. I CAN WIPE GOD.

[00:08:09]I WANT MY CHICKEN. MY EGGS. MY EGGS. I WANT MY EGGS.

[00:08:12]>> MOMMY, >> WHERE IS YOUR FATHER RIGHT NOW? WHERE'S IS HE POOPING AGAIN? NO. MY POOPING AGAIN. KAYLIN, GET THE FREAK OUT. NO. WE HAVE 5 DAYS TO GO. WHERE ARE MY WATER BOTTLES?

[00:08:25]ONE. TWO. And you you like this, right?

[00:08:29]All right. All right. Let's go. LET'S GO. EVERYBODY AT THE DOOR. EVERYBODY.

[00:08:32]EVERYBODY. ONE. GO. THREE. Let's go. Can you take my keys? Where are my keys?

[00:08:38]>> That's so true. I always lose my keys.

[00:08:41]>> MY KEYS.

[00:08:41]>> MOM, >> WHERE ARE MY KEYS? OH, they're just in my bag. Don't worry about me.

[00:08:46]>> MOM, WHERE'S MY PHONE?

[00:08:48]>> TIM, PICK THAT UP.

[00:08:50]>> I SAID NOTHING.

[00:08:51]>> MY PHONE RIGHT here and it was in my bag and one of you guys took it out. I really need my phone.

[00:08:56]>> MOMMY, >> WHERE'S MY FREAKING PHONE?

[00:08:59]>> OKAY. Drama itization.

[00:09:03]any resemblance to actual events is coincidental or maybe it's not.

[00:09:09]Yeah, she's a [ __ ] She's a [ __ ] You know, it's okay. Sometimes in life, we're [ __ ] All right, next.

[00:09:14]>> But it is part of my story and so I am openly talking about it. Back in 2018 when my husband and I first got married, I was extremely insecure. I had zero confidence. Uh my relationship with myself was so poor. I was constantly picking myself apart and I was honestly just really, really in my head when it came to having sex. Now, my husband and I have been best friends since we started dating.

[00:09:34]>> Why are you telling us this?

[00:09:36]>> Like, we are soulmates.

[00:09:37]>> Men need to correct their wins.

[00:09:38]>> And I don't say that to brag, but like we truly don't fight about very many things at all. Like, we have such a good relationship. And I remember back at that point in time, we were newly wed, like so in love. And the fact that I didn't want to have sex or be intimate did start to cause some issues in our relationship. AND IT WASN'T >> WHOA. WHOA. WHY ARE you telling girl shut up? because my husband like made me feel bad or anything like that. It was truly because I made myself feel bad. I didn't feel sexy. I didn't feel confident. I didn't want to be seen naked. And I had zero sex drive. And honestly, when you're carrying that much insecurity, intimacy no longer feels enjoyable. It more so feels vulnerable. This is why I'm so passionate about sharing. Yeah.

[00:10:20]It's rationalization of postnut clarity.

[00:10:22]Women reproduce with a man man they didn't really want to reproduce with, figure out he's weak, and now um crashing. how health and fitness has changed my life because yeah, I'm a lot more confident now. I feel cuter in clothes, but like it runs so much deeper than that. My relationship with my husband has improved so so much. I actually enjoy being intimate. Like that is something that I'm excited about.

[00:10:44]It's actually a healthy part of our relationship now, whereas before it was not. Like seriously, being on a health and fitness journey has changed the way I show up. It has changed my confidence.

[00:10:53]It has changed the way I talk to myself.

[00:10:55]It has changed the way that I view myself. It has changed every aspect of my life. So, yeah, the goal for me was mainly just to like lose weight, but what I didn't realize was how many as >> Okay. All right, guys. Um, let me know what you think in the comments and like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel. Um, women, we got to shut up more. This is not going well for us. All right, like the video. I'll see you next time.