ASMR: bring you back from a panic attack

Añadido: 2026-05-09

[00:00:00]Hey. Hey. It's okay. It's okay, baby.

[00:00:04]It's okay.

[00:00:08]Breathe. Just breathe for me.

[00:00:12]You can just try. Just try to take a deep breath for me.

[00:00:21]It's okay. It's okay. It's okay. It's okay. Just try to find your breath.

[00:00:29]There you go. There you go. It's okay.

[00:00:35]Look around the room for me right now.

[00:00:38]Tell me three things you say.

[00:00:42]Okay. Yeah. I count as one and two others.

[00:00:47]All right.

[00:00:49]Okay. Great.

[00:00:51]Now tell me three things you feel besides my hands. That doesn't count because you're just going to name me every time.

[00:01:00]All right. Yeah, that counts.

[00:01:02]What else? How are you feeling more than that?

[00:01:07]All right. And then uh three things you hear.

[00:01:11]You can include my voice and that is one. Sure. And two others.

[00:01:17]Yeah, I hear the birds, too.

[00:01:21]All right. Yeah, that that that works.

[00:01:24]Just keep breathing. Just keep breathing. Don't forget to breathe. It's okay.

[00:01:33]It's okay.

[00:01:37]It's okay.

[00:01:43]I could hear in the other room. I I was like, "Oh [ __ ] she's having a panic attack."

[00:01:48]I could just tell just a feeling.

[00:01:51]Yeah. Probably the same way those dogs do. Like when they know their their owners are in trouble. I just felt you from the other room and I was like, "Oh [ __ ] she's she's in trouble."

[00:02:01]I always want to come when you're in trouble, baby. I'm sorry.

[00:02:04]Oh, that you're feeling this way that it's okay. Hey, anxiety, paying attention control.

[00:02:14]Sometimes we can, sometimes we can't.

[00:02:16]It's not your fault, though. It isn't.

[00:02:19]It isn't. It isn't a character flaw. It isn't a problem. It's not a burden.

[00:02:25]You're allowed to be overwhelmed. You're allowed to be anxious.

[00:02:28]Yes, you are.

[00:02:31]That's on them, not on you. If anyone ever made you feel like you're not allowed to be anxious or afraid or worried or Yeah, you're not.

[00:02:42]You have never in a single day in your life been too much.

[00:02:46]You really have.

[00:02:49]Trust me.

[00:02:58]It's okay.

[00:03:00]Just breathe.

[00:03:02]Just breathe. You can close your eyes.

[00:03:04]Yeah. Here.

[00:03:08]Lean back.

[00:03:15]Is that better?

[00:03:18]Yeah.

[00:03:20]You can stay like this for as long as you need.

[00:03:23]Doesn't matter what I was doing.

[00:03:26]No, cuz it's not that important compared to this.

[00:03:34]You're always more important, baby.

[00:03:38]No, you didn't take me away from anything.

[00:03:42]This is the most important thing I can be doing right now.

[00:03:46]Very much is.

[00:03:51]We don't have to. No, we don't have to.

[00:03:54]We can if you want to, but we don't have to.

[00:03:58]It's whenever you're ready.

[00:04:05]It's not embarrassing.

[00:04:08]You're allowed to be anxious about life.

[00:04:09]And there's a lot in life to be anxious about.

[00:04:15]Yeah, that is overwhelming. It It is.

[00:04:20]It is completely overwhelming.

[00:04:25]It's okay.

[00:04:28]No, it's not wrong.

[00:04:31]You're allowed to be overwhelmed by that. You're allowed to be overwhelmed by anything, baby.

[00:04:36]Yes.

[00:04:39]When you're nervous, reversing or sure, I can name a million things. Those things you're allowed to be nervous.

[00:04:46]You're you're allowed to be nervous about anything you are.

[00:04:49]Yeah.

[00:04:52]It's not wrong.

[00:04:55]No, none of it's wrong, baby.

[00:05:00]Not a single part of you is wrong.

[00:05:06]I know. I'm sorry that other people have made you feel that way.

[00:05:12]But you're not.

[00:05:14]You're really not.

[00:05:21]No, I get it. It's it's it is it is a lot. It is that is a really big decision.

[00:05:32]No, it's it's going to take time, baby.

[00:05:37]to weigh out all the noise to to decide between what you want and what you need and all of it. Yeah, it's it's not an easy choice.

[00:05:49]I'm proud of you for thinking about it.

[00:05:51]No, it's not easy.

[00:05:54]You can get anxious thinking about it cuz life decisions can be anxious. They could they could feel really big.

[00:06:01]They're allowed to feel really big cuz it's your life.

[00:06:07]It is our life. But these are also choices in yours, too.

[00:06:12]I'm going to be right here with you.

[00:06:14]I'll be supporting you. I will be Yeah.

[00:06:17]Whatever you decide. Whatever you decide, however you decide.

[00:06:22]That's my job. I'm I'm here to support you.

[00:06:26]My job is to build you up.

[00:06:29]Yeah.

[00:06:33]It's all I want to do.

[00:06:38]I know.

[00:06:42]I know. It doesn't It doesn't make you weak.

[00:06:45]There's There's There's not a single thing about No, I get banning attacks, too.

[00:06:54]Yeah.

[00:06:56]Oh my god. I remember waking up.

[00:07:00]I'm just couldn't breathe. I was like, "Oh my god, am I dying?" And I was literally Yeah. I was like clutching my chest. I was like, "Oh no, this is it.

[00:07:10]I'm about to get taken out right now."

[00:07:12]Yeah. But it was just anxiety. It was just fear. It was just uh panic around a big decision that I didn't know how to make.

[00:07:23]And so it kind of paralyzed me. It did.

[00:07:26]And I mean, I did I made a choice cuz eventually you have to make a choice.

[00:07:29]You have to make a decision. You have to you have to act. You know, there'll be a point where there's there's just no runway to do anything else.

[00:07:39]When I got there, it wasn't scary. It was scary before. It was scary leading up to that moment. I think when you approach a crossroad, right, it's scary cuz you're like, "Yeah, it's going to be a driving metaphor."

[00:07:53]But it's true. you you there's uncertainty at a crossroad and you're just you don't know where to go. And I think when you can see it from far away and you're approaching it, it feels scarier. But then when you're there in the moment and you have to go left, right, or straight and you have to make a choice, it's it's it gets easier. It feels easier in in that moment in a way that like you know thinking like abstractly about it, it feels scarier.

[00:08:20]Yeah, I really think so. I think when you get closer to the moment, when you're sitting there facing it, I think it'll be something that'll feel it'll feel right. Like when you make the choice, you'll be like you'll sit with it and it'll it'll either feel right or it'll feel wrong. And if it feels wrong, then you know you made the wrong choice and you could just Yeah.

[00:08:39]But I think in the moment you'll know like you just have to trust yourself.

[00:08:44]That's what it is. You I I trust you. I trust you implicitly. I know I know that you But it's in you, baby. It is in you.

[00:08:52]You have all this strength and wisdom and you do whether you see it or not is a whole different thing. But what but whether it's there I know it's there. I see it constantly all the time. You say things to me all the time and I'm like wow that's like really profound.

[00:09:10]It is. You give me stuff all the time that I'm like wow. And like I carry it with me forward and like it changes it does it changes my my day, my week, my month, my life. It does.

[00:09:23]It really does.

[00:09:25]The difference is you have to trust yourself the way I trust you because you're not going to make the wrong choice. You're not going to make the wrong decision. I think that dichconomy between right and wrong in terms of choices is crazy because there's no such thing.

[00:09:40]No, not when it comes to this. And like, yeah, sure, there's like there's things that are objectively like that's the wrong choice, that's the right choice, but that's there's very few things in life that that are that black and white, you know, and when Yeah, like should I rob this bank? Yes or no? You probably shouldn't. That's that's a that's a hard no.

[00:09:58]But yeah, it's Yeah, exactly.

[00:10:01]I mean, yeah, that would be a way easier choice. I wish it was that easy. It isn't, but I guarantee you when you come up to it, you'll you'll feel the right choice.

[00:10:09]He will.

[00:10:11]Even if right now you don't feel like you will.

[00:10:15]I know you don't feel like it right now.

[00:10:16]And I know I know even like thinking about it. I can see I can see you cringing when you think about it. Don't think about it. Don't think about it cuz right now your your analytical brain is is attacking it and and trying to attack it that way is just giving you anxiety and that anxiety is is manifesting in panic attacks. It is.

[00:10:34]No, you you can you can you can logic it out all you want, but I think when it comes down to it, it'll be like every choice. It's 50% logic and it's 50% emotion. Like there there's something intrinsically inside of you that will be like this way or that way. It's like a compass. Your compass isn't broken. It isn't. No. the path the the the path your life takes, the way your your story is written, that is that is intrinsically your own in in a beautiful way, in a way that even the wrong turns are the right ones.

[00:11:06]It's just sometimes it's you're not down the path long enough to see it. because there's so many choices. I would have been like, "Oh my god, I I really made the wrong choice or I made a mistake or I I did the wrong thing and I'm like haunted by these choices and then all of a sudden like where I am now is only predicated on those choices that I made." So that there there's that dichotomy. You know, if I'm here with you right now, then how is any choice I made the wrong choice leading up to it?

[00:11:36]This is where I want to be.

[00:11:40]So then it it reframes all those things that happened before.

[00:11:44]And just a matter how you look at it, it's all.

[00:11:48]So don't worry, okay?

[00:11:51]It'll be okay.

[00:11:54]Everything will work out as it should.

[00:11:58]Yeah. You just got to be patient.

[00:12:02]I believe I believe in you 110%.

[00:12:07]I will always believe in you.

[00:12:10]That's the thing. You need someone to believe in you even when you don't to get you through the hard part. Cuz once you get through the hard part, it gets easier.

[00:12:20]It does.

[00:12:22]I know it does.

[00:12:26]I promise it does.

[00:12:29]You believe me?

[00:12:33]No. Do you believe me?

[00:12:38]Good.

[00:12:40]Because it is true.

[00:12:46]It is true.

[00:12:50]I know sweetheart.

[00:12:53]I know thing is hard things are always going to feel hard from within them. But after the fact, those hard things will start feeling a lot easier. You'll look back and be like, "Well, was it even that hard?

[00:13:06]Yeah, it'll recalibrate. Your brain will will reassess and you will look ahead and you will see.

[00:13:13]Yeah, you will.

[00:13:18]I know you will.

[00:13:22]I believe in you.

[00:13:25]I'll always believe in you.

[00:13:29]Promise. Promise. Promise.

[00:13:36]You're going to be okay, baby.

[00:13:40]I know you will.