The Autistic Impressions Trend

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[00:00:00]Have you ever watched Love on the Spectrum and thought to yourself, h let me analyze the ways in which this person kisses wrong? Or let's stalk them on the internet and tell them how they're living in a way that doesn't best please me. Or let me get my boyfriend to pretend to be them. Yeah, well, neither have I, but apparently some people have.

[00:00:20]And I'm wondering if those people are okay. through. Today, in light of the recent release of season 4, which I have a full video about here. I'll leave it linked in the description and stuff, we're going to do another are the neurotypicals, okay? Which is like a series I have on this channel, Love on the Spectrum edition. I did wonder, will there be enough content to make another one of these videos? And you know what?

[00:00:44]Ideally, there wouldn't be, but there was enough for about five. So, this is one of them. You don't have to have watched the show to make sense of this video. I will provide context as we go.

[00:00:55]And remember, this series is called Are the Neurotypicals, okay? But sometimes the people posting this silly Billy stuff aren't actually neurode divergent.

[00:01:04]I wouldn't know sometimes either way, but when they're doing little accidental abbleisms and stuff, they're being neurotypical in spirit, you know, so it still counts. So, let's start here. We have a Tik Tok that uses a clip of Madison and Tyler kissing. They've been on the show for a couple of seasons now.

[00:01:21]And spoiler alert for the new season, they just got engaged. They seem very happy together. It's a real success story, etc., etc. But someone uploaded a clip of them from the show. The chorus of Chapel Resual plays in the background. Great song. Great song. I probably can't play it here, but the specific lyrics over this are knee deep in the passenger seat and you're eating me out. The text on screen reads POV.

[00:01:47]how it feels to kiss a man when you're a lesbian in denial. And I'm sure this is in reference to the fact that you could say Madison looks a little uncomfortable here. Her eyes are open during the kiss.

[00:01:56]Her mouth is tightly closed and she moves to kiss Tyler on the cheek after they kiss on the lips. Her body is angled away from him. She doesn't look super relaxed in this specific moment.

[00:02:07]And now I don't think whoever posted this is trying to say that Madison actually is a lesbian in denial.

[00:02:13]Although someone needs to tell the little Tik Tok AI overview that this story delves into the experience of a lesbian who finds herself in denial navigating her feelings and relationships. It highlights the journey of self-discovery and the courage it takes to confront and understand one's true self. Sounds lovely, but I don't believe that is Madison's journey. But the person who made this did say in the comments, "Guys, I'm not making fun of atypical people. I'm autistic myself and these two are such a cute couple. Crying face emoji. The Tik Tok says POV how it feels to kiss a man. They're using this kissing footage that could be perceived as awkward, uncomfortable, as a sort of meme to express an experience that I'm sure is super relatable for many lesbians. However, if someone found an awkward clip of me kissing my partner and put this text over it, I don't think the fact that they'd stapled on calling us a cute couple would make it feel much better. It's a little patronizing if anything. At the end of the day, even if it's meant lightheartedly, which I believe it was, this joke is dependent on an autistic person being judged as awkward and on a perceived lack of chemistry between Madison and Tyler. And there are so many reasons why autistic people and disabled people generally might look at when showing affection.

[00:03:30]Firstly, most autistic people struggle with movement and coordination. My last video was all about developmental coordination disorder or dyspraxia. 80% of us also meet the criteria for that.

[00:03:42]So movements that look a little stiff or different, not super unusual for a neurode divergent person. Also, it's easy to forget, but Madison is being filmed, which could absolutely make anybody self-conscious. This is not a natural setting. They're not at home on the sofa. Also, after the push back the two of them received for their excessive kissing last season, can you blame her for being more reserved in this moment?

[00:04:06]sensory stuff, too. This season, the same season that this person has pulled this clip from, Madison discussed how she's been undergoing exposure therapy for her triggers. And touch was the second trigger that she mentioned.

[00:04:20]>> I've been doing some exposure therapy lately for a lot of my triggers, like Maddie, touch, compliments, etc. And it's helped me grow in a lot of ways.

[00:04:29]>> Additionally, many cast members are less experienced when it comes to romance and physical affection. That's part of why they choose to go on the show because they are autistic and therefore have had extra obstacles when it comes to building relationships. Madison is also Christian and believes in no sex before marriage. So perhaps that could factor into her restraint here. But all of that aside, who gets to decide how a kiss should look anyway? Why are we playing kissing police? You're putting your mouth on or in another person's mouth.

[00:04:59]It's odd. It's just odd. Who's to say the neurotypicals always look perfect when they kiss? There are plenty of worst movie kiss compilations out there for a reason. I actually think this looks pretty passionate and I'd be really upset if someone used movement differences or slight touch aversion instincts to imply that I didn't actually love or want to be with my partner or that it wasn't a real relationship. I think this short/me would be completely fine and funny if we had a couple of fictional characters here instead, not two very real autistic people in love. And unless Madison decides to share something new about her sexuality publicly, there's no need to speculate, even as a joke. I know we do need some more lesbian rep on the show now, but Perry and Tina have broken up, but let's not reach. So, if your kisses aren't very aesthetic, if you have a disability or health condition that changes the way you kiss. Who cares what anyone else thinks? It's you expressing your love, kiss away. Or if you don't want to, don't. Speaking of constant judgment for the way you kiss, of course, the neurotypicals are very rarely okay when it comes to one particular cast member. But before we get on to that, let's have a little break to focus on something more positive because this video is in partnership with Wild and they have a very, very cute new release. If you've been watching the channel for a while now, I'm sure you know that Wild are a vegan refillable body care brand.

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[00:08:47]I fear I will never again have a discount code as cute as Meg Miffy. So, use it while you can. Okay, time to drift away from cotton clouds. Back to the video. Animator and entrepreneur Danny, who's been a part of the show since season 1. Have you noticed how fans of this show find autistic direct communication so cute and funny and refreshing and inspiring until it's a woman? Until it's a woman saying she is not asexual and wants to find a partner who is also open to having sex. Some disgustingly misogynistic comments have been made about Danny. We unpacked some ridiculous Tik Toks in the last episode which I will leave linked.

[00:09:27]>> Someone get Danny from Love on the Spectrum a goddamn vibrator. Why is she in heat all the time?

[00:09:34]>> Danny wasn't a major participant in the latest season of Love on the Spectrum, but in the final episode at, spoiler alert, Madison's engagement party, were finally introduced to Danny's new boyfriend, Henry, who is not autistic.

[00:09:47]She met him outside of the show.

[00:09:49]>> Henry would always say to himself, "I'm the luckiest man." Right.

[00:09:52]>> I am the luckiest man. I have the most beautiful girl.

[00:09:56]>> I love that.

[00:09:57]>> He was someone her family already knew.

[00:09:58]He was friends with her uncle through work, I believe. And the people have once again taken it upon themselves to be outraged about Dany just existing, just living her life. We can't let her live. Let's have a look at what has been said on the Love on the Spectrum subreddit, which, as has been pointed out, is becoming more like a snark subreddit, I guess, as the show becomes more popular. And while it's not ideal for any reality stars to be subjected to this level of scrutiny, it feels especially loaded when we're talking about a disabled cast. More like dodgy power dynamic stuff going on when a largely neurotypical audience are judging and speculating and parasocialing away and parasocial. They certainly will. Since she announced that they were together on Instagram, there has been an abundance of posts about Danny and Henry. People seem to be policing this relationship for three reasons. One, because they have assumed that Henry is significantly older than her. She's 30, he's 32. Two, because he's neurotypical, and therefore this must be a sick fetish. I mean, I'm autistic. My husband's not autistic.

[00:11:06]That that does happen. Yes. And three, because he's a police officer. She basically just found some old guy who wants to use her for sex. this is not going to end well. He doesn't seem to be on the spectrum either. Just seems predatory to me. Again, he's 2 years older than her. Someone else said, "Yes, but is he not autistic? I don't really know how that works, but if a cop was dating someone with Down syndrome, wouldn't that raise a lot of red flags.

[00:11:34]Not trying to be offensive here. I know Danny is high functioning, but still, either way, if they make each other happy, then God bless, I guess." Someone replied, "No, he's not autistic. Yes, I hear you. I had questions too. Full stop. Another reply. Yes, that's Red Flag City. More like continent, I guess.

[00:11:51]Meaning Red Flag continent, not Red Flag City. He's a cop and is trained to manipulate and handle people way more intelligent than Danny. Hm. Okay. So, this person is apparently able to accurately assess someone's intelligence and capacity through a fleeting reality show appearance and a scroll of their social media pages. It's a really special skill. you've got going on there. Congratulations. Sarcasm. Then someone else wondered if Henry himself is autistic. I wonder if he's on the spectrum, they said. And another person replied, thinking about a person who maybe has an increased likelihood of anxiety and also difficulty understanding social cues, walking around with a gun and a taser with like a grimace face. So basically, this person saying he can't be autistic because he's a police officer and autistic people can't be trusted to be good police officers. I guess because you know the neurotypicals are doing so well and are super trustworthy with those guns and tasers especially when it comes to interacting with and protecting the autistic community. Heavy heavy sarcasm. Under the Americans with Disabilities Acts, police departments can't reject people simply because they are autistic. So while I don't think we should be speculating anyway about Henry's neurotype, it has been clearly stated by Danny that he is neurotypical.

[00:13:08]The fact that someone is a police officer doesn't automatically mean they're not autistic. they can't be autistic. And you know, at least several people here on Reddit did reply with stories of autistic family members in these roles. Again, who gave you the authority to judge the capacity of all autistic people ever and deem them lacking, deem them insufficient? Some autistic people would make great police officers. Some would not. Same as everyone else. Same as with any job.

[00:13:34]Someone else said, "Cops have sky-high rates of committing domestic violence, and autistic women are much more likely to be victimized, of intimate partner violence. I wish her the best." Full stop. Sounds ominous. Yes, I do not like that he's a cop and neurotypical. One or the other would be fine. Just feels weird and like he's with her because he thinks she'll be easier to manipulate.

[00:13:57]Or maybe maybe he genuinely likes her.

[00:14:01]She's a business owner. Love on the Spectrum neglects to mention it in favor of plinky punky music and close-ups of her stuffed animals, but she has a master's degree and she's going for her PhD. She's also very pretty. What makes you think the only appeal here can be, "Ooh, she might be easy to manipulate."

[00:14:20]And everything I've heard about Danny suggests she's very headstrong and determined. So, he probably picked the wrong woman if all he wants here is control. Do you find that sometimes you can find yourself attracted to someone, but you think, "Hang on, Danny, that person isn't the right for me cuz they're not."

[00:14:36]>> He could be lazy or manipulative.

[00:14:38]>> And someone else weighed in. He is a predator, creepy, opportunistic, pervert, weirdo. He saw her being overtly sexual on Netflix. And I bet he messaged her on social media. I mean, she said she would like to have sex and she made an animation that had like a Sims woohoo style moment in it. and she read some books connected to sex and she kissed a cupcake. I suppose that's being overtly sexual on Netflix. They make it sound like Only Fans, but okay. But yeah, no, they didn't meet on social media. He already knew her in real life.

[00:15:09]They had real life connections, so no.

[00:15:11]Uh 40% of self-reported cops are domestic abusers. And the stat is actually much higher. I'm protective of everyone on this show, so I hope for safety always. So, this is an often quoted statistic from the early '9s.

[00:15:25]Apparently, it's not quite that simple and may have been slightly overestimated due to some of their sampling methods.

[00:15:31]However, I don't really care personally to spend a load of time defending police officers. It does seem to be correct that police officers are more likely to be domestic abusers. According to this more recent review, somewhere within the very broad range of 4.8 and 40% of officers self-reported perpetuating violence. And yes, autistic women are also more at risk for abuse. That is true. But we can't generalize those statistics to one particular couple who we don't know. Speaking up against officer involved domestic violence and the abuse of autistic people more generally, that's great. Acting like you need to protect this one particular woman you don't know from this mine you don't know. Simply because she's autistic, that slips into benevolent ableism. Nobody asked you to do that.

[00:16:21]And Danny has frequently stated how much she hates to be infantilized.

[00:16:26]>> I just don't like being infantilized.

[00:16:28]>> And there's a lot of undermining Dy's capacity on this subreddit. Someone referred to her aunt and uncle as her keepers. Ew. From what we can tell, Dany has a loving family who know this man well and speak very highly of him.

[00:16:43]Apparently, Henry has gone out of his way to learn about Danny's support needs and how best to support her on trips.

[00:16:49]And no, needing help from your partner as a disabled person doesn't automatically make them predatory. But I guess this subreddit is the same community that called Danny herself a sexual predator for saying she'd literally like to have sex with someone at some point in her life. Doesn't that sound problematic? Sarcasm again. A lot of sarcasm today. Her aunt said that Dany found dating neurode divergent men challenging because they'd each end up too busy working on their respective interests and they wouldn't be able to find time to spend with each other. And so far being with this neurotypical man has been a great fit for Danny.

[00:17:27]>> But with Henry, he he goes out of his way to learn about her and learn >> what works, you know, what what makes her understand. And and when he doesn't understand something about her, he's so funny. He'll call me and say, "Oh, Aunt Sandy, Danny just said this or did this.

[00:17:46]What should I do?"

[00:17:49]>> We have to trust Danny and we have to trust her support system. Mainly because it's just none of our business, as it wouldn't be if she was neurotypical. You can't control the decisions of random autistic people who you don't know. And undermining someone's capacity is not protecting them. it doesn't serve to keep them safe or to make disabled people's lives better. We want disabled people to have autonomy. That's important. And briefly back to kissing specifically on another post about Danny and Henry from a few days ago. Someone repeated many of the same sentiments we've already discussed and went on to say, "Also, it's a huge icky red flag to openly French kiss your girlfriend in front of a younger autistic couple on national television." Like, yuck yuck yucky. How old are we? I don't know. I had to look away like homeboy looks like he was in his early 30s and doing that [ __ ] in front of two women who were probably in their teenage years mentally. This person said from their replies, it seems like this commenter originally called Perry and Tina who were another couple who met on the show last season and are in their early 20s.

[00:19:04]They called them little ass girls.

[00:19:06]Obviously, it's horrendously ableless to suggest two adult autistic people are mentally teenagers. Again, Kian, can we please reconsider the infantilizing music on the show? Do you see why this matters? And do you know why in the context of the show that Danny and Henry kissed in front of Perry and Tina?

[00:19:26]Because Perry and Tina, these grown ass adult autistic women, asked Danny to teach them, to give them some tips because, as I say, kissing might be challenging for some neurody divergent people and just people generally. And so Danny gave a demonstration and she kissed her boyfriend at an engagement party. Oh my god. Call the cops. Oh, wait. Try and imagine this level of pearl clutching over a neurotypical couple kissing at a party in front of neurotypical people. It would never happen. were acting like they started having sex on the table and invited Perry and Tina to join. Anyway, I also think it's worth noting that it seems like once again this might be the fault of the editing. I analyzed a few scenes in my last video about Love on the Spectrum and discussed how they drag out pauses to create awkward silences that I don't believe were actually there. here.

[00:20:18]I think they've used editing to make this kiss seem longer to make it seem more socially inappropriate and cringe as some people have described it on Reddit. You can literally see in at least two of the reaction shots that Henry is facing forward. You can see by his ear, the position of his ear, not kissing Danny in that moment. So, yeah, continuity errors abound as usual.

[00:20:39]They've stuck some random shots of Perry and Tina there to extend the length of this kiss. And they've once again set it to comedic mocking music because of course they have.

[00:20:52]Oh.

[00:20:56]>> Oh wow. They really go for it. No wonder people have negative interpretations of this moment. It certainly doesn't help.

[00:21:03]Editing matters massively. So, while it's not entirely Love on the Spectrum's fault that a large chunk of the audience is abbleist, a lot of people just already are, and this show has mainstream popularity. But I'm sure it really doesn't help much when they manipulate the edits for humor. And almost always the perceived social awkwardness/inappropriateness of the cast is the joke. Someone shared this alongside just jokes. I'm happy for Danny. That kissing portion made me laugh so hard. Yes, it is very funny when people in love kiss each other.

[00:21:36]It's hilarious. And it's a meme that reads, "Us if we were rats spreading the plague in the 1600s." Yes. Comparing an autistic person and her partner to rats spreading the plague. What jokes?

[00:21:50]Hilarious. Rule number one of this subreddit, by the way, no abbleism. It's always the most abbleist subreddits that have that as their their number one rule. As someone thankfully pointed out in the comments right at the bottom with one measly up vote under a bunch of stuff about whether Danny's fit to be a parent, I think they'd be really upset if they saw this. Danny talks openly about bullying throughout her life. Not cool. End quote. Yeah, ending your ableism with it's just jokes though doesn't make it fine. Actually, I think someone needs to tell the creators of this show that to be honest. Anyway, there are a lot of people being lovely and supportive towards Danny, too. So, it's certainly not all bad, but the bad is unfortunately present. However, I think this sums up perfectly why the cast should be paid. The amount of nons you're inviting in is a huge risk. I don't see director Kon having his personal life picked apart to the same degree. He gets to stay relatively private and anonymous. And, you know, he's certainly not making the show for free. I'm sure. I do wonder sometimes how the show is going to age. I don't know. Comment your predictions down below. All right, so back to Tik Tok now. So, another Love on the Spectrum couple recently broke up. Abby and David. Abby has also been on the show since season 1. And there's a Tik Tok from David explaining why the relationship ended. Shall we take a look together? See if you notice the problem here.

[00:23:15]>> I'm David Isaacman. And yes, Abby and I have broken up. I couldn't live up to Aby's expectations for marriage. And this is entirely my fault.

[00:23:25]>> So yeah, if you hadn't noticed already, this video of David is AI. That's why the wording is so off. I mean, listen to this bit.

[00:23:34]>> We once clumsily warmed each other's hearts.

[00:23:37]>> What does that mean exactly? I still remember her saying with a smile on the show that she hoped to receive an engagement ring from me for our next anniversary.

[00:23:47]>> Didn't happen.

[00:23:48]>> I knew I couldn't grant her wish. I know she waited a long time. Afraid of repeating her mother's divorce. She never pressured me. Yet, I still failed to give her a clear answer. I've always felt anxious about the commitment of marriage. I'm so sorry for wasting 5 years of her life. I understand her choice and respect her decision. Not being the one who could give her a wedding and a secure future is my greatest regret.

[00:24:14]>> AI really has a way with words, doesn't it? Okay, David, if that is your real name. So, thankfully, a lot of commenters did notice that this is AI.

[00:24:24]It's created by an account that just makes AI slob of celebrities saying things they never said. Woo! But sadly, some commenters haven't realized. You lost an incredible woman forever. The parasocial is leaping from Judy's body there. Oh my days, that's just made me cry. You are both amazing. Crying smiley face. Marilyn says, "David, it's okay.

[00:24:48]One day you will know love." I suppose they put a heart emoji. And Margaret, no one needs to be forced into marriage.

[00:24:55]Dot dot. Proud of you, David. Chris, bro, when you find a good one, you got to lock it down. Marriage ain't scary.

[00:25:03]It's beautiful. Thanks, Chris. It is pretty uncomfortable that someone decided to make this, especially when we're talking about autistic people who sometimes struggle to express themselves through spoken language. To my knowledge, the only person who has spoken publicly about the breakup are Aby's mom and cousin. David hasn't come out and made a statement. So, like, you're literally stealing his voice Little Mermaid style. Abby would not be happy. This This is Ursula. This is Ursula's Tik Tok account. So, I don't know. Stay safe out there and don't believe everything you see. If it's uploaded by gossip galaxy, it might not be genuinely David from Love on the Spectrum. Okay, if you watch this show, do you by any chance watch it with your male partner if you happen to have one?

[00:25:51]If so, you two might be the problem.

[00:25:53]Okay, first some context. You'll see what I mean in a minute. Bear with me.

[00:25:58]There's been a bit of a trend going on for a while now of Tik Tockers doing impressions of cast members, mostly men, doing impressions of the male cast members. This one particular guy is quite well known for it. He often gets a few million views. He's posted impressions of most of the men on the show.

[00:26:17]>> Hey guys, I'm having a lot of fun bowling and and I think we should do this more often. This is really fun. And and Dylan, your your last turn. I I like the way that you curve the ball. I I really I want to learn how to do that.

[00:26:28]Can you teach me?

[00:26:30]>> Yes. Thank you, Tanner. But I don't know how to do that again. I think it was an accident.

[00:26:36]>> And a few of the women now, too.

[00:26:38]>> Oh, sorry. Sh. I didn't even ask you if you wanted water or drink or food or anything. So, you didn't think that was very rude of me, do you?

[00:26:47]>> No, James. It's okay. I have water here.

[00:26:51]I'm doing all right. Don't worry.

[00:26:53]>> And I'd love to know what you think of this. They're generally received very positively. He's talented. You can absolutely tell which cast members he's pretending to be.

[00:27:02]>> A reversal.

[00:27:05]James, you have stolen my moment.

[00:27:08]>> If you closed your eyes, you could genuinely believe it was them speaking.

[00:27:12]But, you know, some people are a little skeptical, and I think that makes sense.

[00:27:16]You can imagine a bully latching on to and mocking unusual speech patterns.

[00:27:21]Someone commented, "Are you making fun of them?" If so, not cool. But imitation is the greatest form of admire. Not sure that's how the saying goes, but I see what you mean. His Tik Toks have been reposted by cast members like Tana and Connor. So, it feels like they do have that stamp of approval. And I'm glad that the cast or at least some of the cast like it, aren't upset by it. I don't think we need to get outraged on their behalf if they find it flattering.

[00:27:46]And, you know, at least it's not people pretending their dogs have the cast members voices. As we discussed on the last one, at least we don't have that element of dehumanization. With this, I do see how it could be viewed as flattering. I think it matters that his impressions are good because it suggests that he actually puts time into this. He cares enough to study the cast. It wasn't just a quick, let me turn on the camera and imitate or exaggerate what could be perceived as strange about this person's speech style in the way a playground bully might. And you could argue that the main entertainment value people take from these Tik Toks is appreciating this creator's performance.

[00:28:27]And if you look at the comments, that checks out. I imagine most people who share this video with friends or family do so because, oh look, this guy's actually decent rather than just, "Don't the cast of Love on the Spectrum talk funny?" Although, I'm sure there is an element of humor being derived from their speech differences, too. For example, the way Connor sometimes pauses in the middle of a word.

[00:28:50]>> The fire is unpredictable.

[00:28:53]The heat demands respect.

[00:28:57]>> And even if that humor is intended to be affectionate, it could still feel like punching down. It doesn't necessarily lead to people seeing the cast as equals. Another thing to note, this guy doesn't only make impressions of the Love on the Spectrum cast. He does other celebrities. However, he does also have a few impressions of Walt Jr. from Breaking Bad, who if you don't know is a character with cerebral pausy, played by an actor, RJ Mitt, who also has cerebral pausy. So, we have Walt Jr. as your sleep paralysis demon, but then he also has Jesse Pinkman and Drake as your sleep paralysis demon. So, thankfully that's not exclusive to disabled people.

[00:29:33]Anyone can be a sleep paralysis demon.

[00:29:36]And you could argue that choosing to exclude certain characters and people simply because they're disabled could feel patronizing. you know, you're too fragile, so I won't touch that. You need to be protected. As I say, I'd love to know where you stand on this. Is it appreciation? Is it mocking? Is it lowhanging fruit to imitate people with obvious speech differences, regardless of how well you do it, it especially feels uncomfortable to me when I see negativity in the comments. for example, people saying they find it hard to watch certain cast members, and I assume they mention that here in this context because they dislike their unusual speech style and delivery and and find that off-putting for some reason. Also, despite people calling them characters in the comments, the cast of Love on the Spectrum are of course real people. And I do worry about viewers flattening them into, you know, silly cute catchphrases and forgetting that autistic adults are people, not cartoon characters or mascots. But anyway, this guy is not the only one doing impressions. And uh your boyfriend, your boyfriend might be at it, too. Maybe it's time to check on him. Where is he right now? Basically, we're veering into are the straits okay territory here, which you know, valid question. It seems to be a trend for couples to imitate the casts of Love on the Spectrum together as a bonding exercise. I suppose coming together via othering someone else, often a winner.

[00:31:01]Unfortunately, there are so many examples of this on Tik Tok. It's rampant.

[00:31:06]>> When are you going to come see me, per se? I'm sorry about that. Per day.

[00:31:11]>> Interesting.

[00:31:12]>> Interesting. What are you recording per day?

[00:31:16]>> This one reads, "Help. We can't stop talking like Dylan from Love on the Spectrum. Dylan often says per se at the end of sentences and also uses the word interesting quite a lot.

[00:31:27]>> Sometimes I um fart in that spot, but not now per se. A interesting."

[00:31:33]>> So, you'll see that coming up again and again. And yeah, they both proceed to do a, shall we say, less polished performance of Dylan.

[00:31:44]>> I'm making some rice and beans with your per.

[00:31:49]>> Interesting.

[00:31:51]>> Interesting. Thank you, Ker. And it's really, forgive me, interesting how much meaner it feels when the impressions are bad and you know when the couples are giggling away with each other like it's an in joke at someone else's expense.

[00:32:07]First comment, my husband and I do this, why? Why? And I just think if you have to do this, please keep it to yourself.

[00:32:16]Why does why does Tik Tok need it? And of course, all of these Tik Toks have captions stating how much they love the cast or how that particular cast member is their favorite. And I'm sure these people mean well, but I don't love the vibes. Would you be imitating a neurotypical reality TV star in this way? It's not impossible, but I think it's less likely because like it or not, part of the joke here is the way their disability impacts their speech and word choice. See if you spot another issue here with the next few Tik Toks I'm going to show you. This one is captioned, "I love Dylan." And the text on screen reads, "POV, your Egyptian husband's new vocal stem is Dylan from Love on the Spectrum." And it's him using words and phrases that Dylan often uses at a wedding.

[00:33:01]>> This is the wedding, the best wedding, per se.

[00:33:06]>> This one, my boyfriend's new vocal stem.

[00:33:09]Once again, a loweffort impression of Dylan. And he basically just says the word interesting again and again.

[00:33:16]>> Oh, interesting.

[00:33:18]I don't think you understand. That's so interesting. That's really interesting.

[00:33:23]>> And there's this one. POV. You just finished Love on the Spectrum and Dylan is your new favorite and gave you a whole new list of vocal sims.

[00:33:33]>> Interesting.

[00:33:35]Yes, my lady. Please say no. Please say no. Interesting.

[00:33:40]Now, I don't know any of these people.

[00:33:42]Nothing on their accounts overtly suggests that they are neurode divergent, but I don't know. They could be. However, they have used the phrase vocal stem. It also comes up quite a lot in comments. The influx of people using language typically associated with neurode divergence, you know, like overstimulated, hyperfixation, nonverbal, vocal stem, you know, often not in exactly the right context or as hyperbole. It's perhaps a topic for another day. I see it everywhere online.

[00:34:12]I hear it in real life now. It is likely a side effect of people becoming more aware of neurody divergence. And sometimes people may genuinely feel like that language describes their experience best. And I don't want to encourage a culture of policing what language people can use when no one owes you access to their medical record. That person you're talking to may very well be autistic and you might just not know. They might not even know yet. But in this context, vocal stem or as it's often stylized, vocal stem makes these videos a little more uncomfortable. I guess because I don't think they literally mean their stmming, their self soothing or helping themselves concentrate by pretending to be Dylan from Love on the Spectrum. And the fact that I assume these are potentially neurotypical people pretending to be autistic people makes the use of language typically associated with autism feel extra uncomfortable in this context. I would recommend that people look into the actual meanings of these words and phrases before adopting them into their vocabulary. It's like when people say the intrusive thoughts one and it's just them trying a new hairstyle or something.

[00:35:21]>> Not get this hair color out of my head.

[00:35:23]It's time for a change.

[00:35:24]>> Warm tones. We're going warm tones.

[00:35:26]We're getting rid of the blonde.

[00:35:27]>> But of course, language will continue to evolve and sometimes may be watered down over time. And I guess at least we're not using slurs today. And there's another manifestation of this my male partner is pretending to be on Love on the Spectrum trend. My fiance likes to voice note me as Connor from Love on the Spectrum. Laughing face. I'm just get getting a pizza. Then I'm going to go home and and maybe prochance watch some some TV.

[00:35:59]>> Voice memos my fiance sends me after watching Love on the Spectrum season 3.

[00:36:03]They mean season 4.

[00:36:04]>> What do you want for dinner? Be beef or chicken? Please say chicken. Please say chicken.

[00:36:09]>> Showed my boyfriend Love on the Spectrum. And this is the only way he talks to me now. Gosh, I hope you don't mean that literally. So, I'm not really saving money, per se.

[00:36:19]>> My boyfriend voice messaged me as Dylan from Love on the Spectrum.

[00:36:22]>> I'm driving home, per se. Interesting.

[00:36:26]I'll see you soon, my lady.

[00:36:28]>> Someone commented, "This is the kind of love I want." All caps. If Lewis sent something like this to me, even before I knew I was autistic, control your boyfriends. You know, they must be stopped. Break up with your boyfriend. He's pretending to be Dylan again. I think the cast need to trademark their voices and start collecting royalties because again they aren't paid to be on the show. Discussed that in my video about season 4 too. On a positive note, there are a lot of commenters concerned that this content is a form of making fun of the cast. And again, I do want to add that we know at least some cast members are personally okay with this sort of thing. However, I wouldn't automatically assume that means every disabled person would be. And I'd proceed with caution. I think in conclusion, if you're great at doing impressions, maybe stick to fictional characters or make sure you're so good at your craft that there's no way it could be perceived as anything other than flattering. Although that of course is subjective. I think some of these men and women and people thought they were doing a great job here and you know, it just ended up kind of sounding like a caricature.

[00:37:38]>> I'm excited for our date. Do we have to take the kids? Please say no. Please say no. Please say no.

[00:37:44]>> Also, please don't POV as my dentist regardless of the context. Trigger warning. Look away if you don't like dentists.

[00:37:50]>> Well, hello. I'm your dentist today. My name is Dillian. How are you?

[00:37:54]>> I'm doing good. Thank you.

[00:37:55]>> I have some questions for you, per se.

[00:37:57]For example, do you floss all of your teeth? Please say yes. Please say yes.

[00:38:02]Please say yes. Please.

[00:38:04]>> No. Yeah, I do. Yeah, >> you do. That's great. Interesting.

[00:38:08]Keep in mind that this kind of humor relies on people finding autistic traits and cadences unusual and or amusing. As I say, it doesn't necessarily lead to people seeing the cast members as equals when we're doing constant caricature and mification. But I don't know, maybe I just have no sense of humor. I do personally hate anything that could be perceived as mocking or secondhand cringe. And that could be because like many autistic people, including some cast members, I was bullied. Anyway, if you'd like to see more of my boring self in my recent video about season 4, I analyzed some misleading editing on the show, as I say, how they edit the dates to basically make these people seem like they were struggling more than they actually were or make it seem like their dates were reacting negatively to them, thinking they're weird or their interests are weird when they likely weren't. Again, not great when many of these people were probably bullied for things like that growing up. If you think this content has value, if you'd like it to keep on coming, I do have a Patreon. I currently post two whole exclusive videos a month there. And there's a silly amount of backlog over there for you to enjoy. There's 40 something videos at this point. And there's also a podcast and likeund and something outtakes. Several Love on the Spectrum related videos on there. Most recently, I reacted to this New York Times podcast thing about the show, which I personally hated. And it also sparked a bit of drama within the online community. I touched briefly on that.

[00:39:31]Tana's mom got very upset with something that Kayn, another season 1 cast member, said. Basically, >> hey, please don't scroll because this is an important video. I want to share something.

[00:39:41]>> I also recently reacted to my teenage vlogs over there and picked out neurode divergent traits. I wasn't diagnosed at the time, but the traits were still there. So, that might be helpful for you if you're on your own journey of self-discovery. Not the elephant impression. Just been to the doctors about your depression. Come home, do an elephant impression poetry. Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you in my next video very soon. Goodbye.

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