Insecurities That Are Holding You Back (TIER LIST)

Added: 2026-05-27

[00:00:00]Insecurity is normal. Everybody struggles with it in some type of form.

[00:00:05]But the problem begins when you let those insecurities decide your whole life control your decisions. That's where it becomes actually problematic.

[00:00:14]I've seen a lot of people actually go through this. So let's start with insecurity number one. The fear of looking like a beginner. Do you avoid starting that thing, trying a new sport, building a skill, because you hate the idea of appearing bad at it while people are watching? Now, this is ego. And not even the healthy kind. I'm not talking about the good kind of ego. Because think about it, you want the confidence and respect of someone experienced, but you don't want to go through the beginner phase. The reality is everyone sucks at first. I mean, just look at my own first videos. But the issue here starts by trying to protect your pride.

[00:00:53]You never even give yourself the chance to grow into, you know, that newer, better version of yourself. So, what you want to do here is to accept the facts that you'll suck at anything new. You also want to point at some type of skill you used to struggle with and now became second nature to you. That's actual evidence that you can achieve anything you want if you put your mind to it. And remember, the people with the most achievements now are usually the ones who were willing to look inexperienced for a while until they figured it out.

[00:01:26]You got this, bro. This one is an S tier. Number two, insecurity about your physical frame. Do you go to the club or some coffee shop and instantly compare your body, height, hair, or you know, other features to other people? The problem with this one is when you let one physical detail decide your worth, it affects the way you stand and speak and move. I mean, look at yourself. You blame it on social anxiety and uh such and such. Look, man, the point I'm trying to make here is that most people respond less to just one specific feature and more to your overall presence. meaning things like uh your confidence, hygiene, posture, energy, how comfortable you seem in your own skin. So look, bro, you can control how you take care of yourself, how you dress, how you move, how you speak, and also how you show up. So what you want to do next time is build your presence around things you can actually influence, things you can actually control, and stop giving the rest so much power. Because trust me, man, all of this advice will mean nothing once you realize how hard it is to actually grab anybody's attention, especially nowadays. I mean, everybody's on their phone. Everybody is already afraid what you'll think of them. And remember, just because nobody really cares that much anyway, doesn't mean you shouldn't aspire to be the best version of yourself in every way possible. So, this is a tier.

[00:03:01]Number three, impostor syndrome. When you hit a milestone, get a compliment from someone, land an opportunity, or make some type of progress. Do you secretly feel like you just got lucky and that people will eventually realize you don't even know what you're doing?

[00:03:19]Now, imposttor syndrome, it makes you play defense instead of offense. What I mean is that you become scared to take the bigger steps because you don't want to be, you know, exposed. So instead of owning your progress, you just shrink.

[00:03:33]You hesitate. You avoid leadership, creativity, risk, because you know, you're waiting to feel fully qualified first. So what you want to do here is to remember that almost everyone, every single human being on Earth is trying to figure things out as they go. I mean, think about it. If anybody on planet Earth, if somebody had the answer, we'd already been colonizing our whole solar system. We'd go to Mars, Jupiter, and all of that, and we'll know our way to survive those endovers or those environments. So, man, what it really means is being willing to sit in the chair, face the problem, and learn through action. You earned your seat.

[00:04:18]So, bro, stop acting like a guest. This is an A tier. Number four, financial tracking anxiety. Do you see young people online showing cars, luxury lifestyles, huge income numbers, then instantly feel like you're failing because, you know, your life doesn't look like that. Now, what you're really doing here is that you're comparing your real life to someone else's marketing display. A lot of what you see online is edited, exaggerated, rendered, financed, maybe even shown without context. So that insecurity can make you desperate.

[00:04:54]You know, you might rush into bad financial decisions, fake lifestyle you can't afford, and I mean, I have a lot of friends that actually do this or must I say old friends. And then all they do is feel hopeless because they've already uh ruined that time to build things, that time to actually just be the director of their own lifestyle instead of just fake it. Now, there's a distinction between fake it until you make it and uh go broke until you never ever even get a chance to make it big.

[00:05:29]If you want to really really really like do this thing, then what you want to do is run your own race because man, money, skills, and value, they take time to build. You know, anything valuable takes time. And especially in your early years, if you're in your early 20s, that is the most important era probably. It's going to decide your whole life. It doesn't mean if you're 30 or 40, your life is already done. All it means is that you'll save a lot of unnecessary drama and trauma if you work on yourself in your early years. You want to focus on lowering your expenses as of the moment and improving your skills. Okay?

[00:06:15]Increasing your income and comparing yourself to where you were before is the key because you don't want to compare yourself to other people. It's just going to be a mood ruiner. It's going to give you nothing of value actually and yeah, compare yourself to where you were before, where you were a month ago, 6 months ago, a year ago, and go from there. Just pat yourself on the shoulder and keep moving. This is an S tier.

[00:06:44]Number five, the awkward silence phobia.

[00:06:47]During a conversation, if the talking stops for like just a few seconds, do you panic and rush to say anything just to fill the silence? Bro, the amount of people I sit with that do this is incredible. Because look, this can make you seem nervous. Even if you're not, when you're afraid of silence, you just stop listening properly because your mind is like too busy preparing the next thing to say. So instead of being present, you're just trying to protect yourself from this tiny uncomfortable pause that would mean nothing if you just let the silence be. So what you want to do is to reframe the silence because look, a calm person and I want you to notice next time when you're like with a calm person, you'll notice that they don't need constant like uh fill up words to feel safe or secure in a conversation. What you want to do is to let that silence exist. Just like breathe, stay relaxed. Look at the sky.

[00:07:43]Look at the scenery. Keep your body language open. And bro, when you stay calm, the silence that you're so afraid of, it stops feeling awkward and it just starts feeling natural. It's those people that you can have these moments of silence with that really you're like, man, I just love this person. I mean, I spent a great time with this person. And it's probably one of the reasons it's just like nobody nobody really seems to care if you're silenced now. Just like look at the scenery, the environments, the um design of the wherever you are, you know. So this is going to be in B tier. Number six, hating the sound of your own voice. Now, do you hate hearing your voice, you know, in recordings or voice notes or mic checks or, you know, videos so much that it makes you speak less or just like avoid recording yourself completely?

[00:08:40]And what I mean by record yourself, I don't mean like record a YouTube video or anything. I mean like just regular calls, just like sending a voice note on WhatsApp or Telegram or whatever. Look, man. Your voice is one of the main ways you express not even just your thoughts, but your confidence, your personality, and it's just that it's how you connect with people, you know. So, if you're insecure about it, you may start speaking too quietly. People will be like, "Well, what? I can't hear you. Can you repeat that again?" Um, and it just, yeah, you know, you know, you already know. So, man, you'll start rushing your words. You'll start holding back in conversations. You'll start not saying things that you really want to say. And the truth is, most people, and I mean like most people, they feel weird hearing their recorded voice at first because it sounds different because you're hearing it from the outside, not through your own head like you usually do. What you want to do here is to get used to hearing yourself. meaning record voice notes, practice scripts out loud, listen back without judging every little detail. And yeah, once you do that, you will become more familiar with your voice. And the more familiar your voice becomes, the less awkward it feels. And eventually it stops being that weird recording of me or that cringy recording of me and it just starts feeling normal.

[00:10:10]You might even work on your voice to a level of a podcast. uh host or a radio broadcaster, you know, you can definitely absolutely train on that. So, this is going to be in C tier. Number seven, fear of social rejection. Do you avoid texting your friends, planning a hangout, introducing yourself to someone new just because you like worry they'll think you're annoying or intrusive? Now this insecurity, it isolates you by default. And let me try to explain. You keep waiting for other people to make the first move every single time.

[00:10:51]Whether be it on social media, in real life. But look, they might read that as distance or just like lack of interest actually cuz you'll disappear as if you're uninterested. So that will just close the door immediately. So, you end up just like missing out on friendships, uh, circles, opportunities, and it's not because people rejected you. It's because you rejected yourself.

[00:11:19]So, what you want to do here is to assume people are more open than you think. And man, most people are dealing with their own awkwardness, too. And many actually appreciate when someone else takes initiative. So what you want to do is just send the message, suggest the plan, be the person who creates the moment instead of just waiting to be chosen, instead of just waiting there for the moment to be created somehow by the universe or the other person. And you got it. This one is an A tier.

[00:11:52]Number eight, gear/ setup insecurity. Do you tell yourself you can't make quality videos or record music or start working or create seriously because you don't have the perfect camera or monitor or studio microphone setup blah blah blah you know you know where I'm going with this because look this is often just fear hiding behind tools it gives you that comfortable excuse to just delay action it could be fear it could be laziness it could be you know just procrastination So look, look, listen to me, bro. What you want to do here is to maximize what you already have. You want to learn current tools deeply. Meaning, if even if it's like not as good, just push them as far as they can go. And man, you'd be surprised. You only want to upgrade when you're truly reached the limits of your setup. Until then, your main metric is output. There is nothing compared to actual output because output bro is going to teach you more than just like thinking about it and never actually doing it. This is Ctier. Number nine, intellectual insecurity. When people discuss history, philosophy, business, technology, you know, deep topics, do you shut down immediately and pretend to understand because you're just afraid of looking uninformed? Now, this blocks learning like nothing else because look, you spend your energy trying to look smart instead of actually becoming smarter. And the more you pretend to know, the more stressful the conversation becomes. You can't even fully engage because you're busy protecting an image. Right? So, what you want to do here is to use the most confident sentence in the whole universe. I actually don't know. That's it. That's it. That's all you got to do?

[00:13:47]I don't know. This right here is pretty counterintuitive because it actually shows security instead of weakness.

[00:13:55]Look, curious people are usually more respected than people who pretend to know everything anyway. So, yeah, this one is Btier. Number 10, hiding your niche hobbies. Now, do you hide the things you genuinely enjoy? Maybe certain games, coding, obscure music, deep software tools, weird interests, you know, maybe niche creative hobbies because you think they're not cool enough or they're not mainstream enough.

[00:14:25]Now, bro, when you hide what you actually care about, your whole personality, it just becomes flatter.

[00:14:31]You become like everybody else, and you present a safer version of yourself, thinking, "Ah, that'll get me there. Ah, yeah, whatever. But you got to keep in mind that, you know, that safer version of yourself is also a less interesting one. People connect with passion. You know, if you remove all of the unique traits and parts of yourself just to seem, you know, normal, you make it harder for the right people to actually recognize you. Because think about it, if the person you're trying to hide your niche hobbies from doesn't really accept your niche hobbies, then they're not for you. So, the only way to find out is to actually be you. Is to actually be you, man. Okay? So, let me give you a solution here. What you want to do is to pretty much own your interests. Don't be apologetic, you know, because the hobby itself, it doesn't need to be mainstream. What makes it interesting is the confidence and the energy you bring when you talk about it. This one is going to be in Dtier. Number 11, the too chill armor. Now, do you act like everything is whatever and pretend to be detached, you know, because you think showing excitement or effort or ambition, you know, makes you look desperate or in a way that doesn't preserve your self-image. This bro is kind of an emotional armor because look, if you don't try, you can't fail. If you don't care, you can't get hurt. Like, that's the that's that's how you go. But that mindset, it slowsly butchers your passion. You know, it keeps you from going all in on your goals and it just makes your relationships feel shallow because nobody ever gets to see what you know actually matters to you. What you want to do is to simply drop the act because real confidence is being able to say, "I want this and I'm willing to work for it." Even if it means your ego is on the line and people will troll you, tease you, whatever, you want it and you're willing to work for it.

[00:16:41]That's all what matters. Okay? Showing care to something, man, is not weakness.

[00:16:47]I mean, if you care about your father or mother or siblings or girlfriend, is that weakness? I don't know. I don't know. You could be in a whole different universe, but caring and still showing up is actual strength. This is a tier.

[00:17:04]Number 12, overexplaining your boundaries. When you say no to a plan, make a personal decision. Set a boundary. Do you always feel this need to explain yourself with this long backstory of how you got here and why you have certain boundaries or plans or decisions? You know, now this usually comes from insecurity because deep down you may feel like your time, your choices, your boundaries are not valid unless you know someone else understands and approves them. So instead of simply standing by your decision, what you do is start performing a defense case for your own life. And bro, does it get tiring. If you do this, you already know what I'm talking about. So what you want to do is to keep it simple. You can be respectful without overexplaining.

[00:17:56]Meaning something like, "Hey bro, you want to go to the coffee shop?" And you go, "Well, I can't make it a date." Or, "I mean, that doesn't work for me right now. I got other things to do. I'm already preoccupied.

[00:18:09]That bro, that is enough. You don't really need to apologize for managing or knowing how to manage your own life and time, you know, and if they don't respect it, that's exactly why boundaries exist. It's for the people who don't respect your boundaries. So, this is Btier. Number 13, age/timeline panic. Do you look at your own age and start panicking that you're too late to build a a big life, change directions or master skills or just, you know, become the person you want to be? This kind of panic, it can literally freeze you, man.

[00:18:48]You either overthink everything and do nothing or you just jump into desperate decisions just to feel like you're catching up. The sad part is that this fear, it makes you waste the time you actually have right now. So, what you want to do is to look at the bigger picture. You want to look at your 20s and early 30s because that's not the finish line yet. It's not the end of the race. It's the end when you actually don't exist anymore. So, bro, this is where you build your skills. And I'm not even exaggerating. Like this is where you build your skills now, the present, everything, your discipline, network, confidence, foundation, bro. So stop treating life like this sprint that ends at like 25. If you make it at 25, you're good. If you don't, then you're trash.

[00:19:41]No, man. No. Life can start at 30, 40, 50, 60. When you're alive, you can do things. When you're not alive, you can't do things. That's how it works. This is S tier. Number 14, engagement camouflage. Do you post a photo, track, video, update, and then just delete it because it didn't get enough likes or attention quickly enough? Now, the problem here is that you're letting a public number, some type of number, decide the value of your work and uh maybe at times even yourself. Look, what this does to your brain is that it trains it to only respect things that get instant applause. And over time, you stop creating honestly and start performing for approval. And let me just give you a solution for this. Okay?

[00:20:37]Leave it up. Okay, just leave it. Let the post breathe. Let let it breathe.

[00:20:42]Let it actually catch momentum because look man, not everything needs to explode in the first hour to be valuable. A lot of things they take years and years to actually finally be valuable. And in your case, it's not even going to take years. It's probably just few hours. Okay. So something you think failed today could be the exact same thing that someone discovers and connects with later and finds some type of value. You know this is D tier man.

[00:21:13]Number 15 fear of your old circle seeing you try now. Do you hide your self-improvements, new routines, creative goals, ambition from old friends or family because you're afraid they'll joke about it or judge you? Now, the problem with this one is that it keeps you tied to an older version of yourself. You pretty much stay smaller just to avoid making people uncomfortable or make people feel like you changed. And sometimes the people mocking your growth are not even against you personally. They're reacting to what your effort exposes in them. So, your change, it reminds them that they could change too. They could do it too. And it bothers them. So what you want to do here is to let them talk. Let them do the talk. You don't need everyone to understand your evolution while it's happening. Keep improving. Keep building. Keep showing up. And eventually your results, you know, when you reach the destination, it'll explain everything. It'll explain what you can't say with your own words. So this is S tier. Number 16, the scarcity mindset in relationships. Do you stay in a toxic and draining and a completely, you know, bad situation with someone because deep down you believe you won't find anything better if you leave? The problem with this one is that it quietly destroys your selfrespect. I'm not even kidding. When you keep accepting poor treatments, you start teaching yourself that this is what you deserve. And the longer you stay out of fear, the more time and energy you pour into something that was never built on solid ground, something that was never built for you.

[00:22:59]So what you want to do is to walk away from anything that keeps shrinking you.

[00:23:04]You want to put your focus back into your life, your habits, your confidence, your goals, your physique, your peace.

[00:23:10]Okay? When you actually value yourself, you will naturally stop tolerating people who treat you like an option. And you will also gain something pretty useful here. Something pretty, you know, important.

[00:23:24]When you work on yourself, you will finally start to attract people that will treat you accordingly. But be wary because even when you work on yourself and you're at this level, there's still going to be a lot of snakes trying to bite. So, I'm just saying this one is going to be nest tier. Number 17, physical camouflage.

[00:23:49]Do you wear clothes that make you feel invisible? Actually, invisible. This is why I called it camouflage. Because you're uncomfortable being noticed or just like taking up this mental space in people's eyes. Now, the problem with this one is that trying to disappear, it becomes a habit and you start entering rooms with the energy of someone who doesn't even want to be seen. Over time, it affects more than your clothes. It changes your posture, your presence, the way you carry yourself around people.

[00:24:22]So, what you want to do here is to choose clothes that fit well, feel comfortable, make you feel intentional, and remember, you don't need expensive brands or flashy outfits. You don't need no designer clothes. You just need to look like you actually chose how you showed up. When you feel put together, trust me, bro, your energy, it shifts with it. So, this is going to be in C tier. Number 18, defensive body language. When you walk past someone or speak to someone confident, do your eyes instantly drop to the floor or you just pick up your phone and yeah, it goes like that. This can secretly or quietly signal nervousness.

[00:25:09]nervousness before you even speak, you know, just like looking at you, the way you behave.

[00:25:15]I see you. You're nervous. It may even make you seem closed off, unsure, uncomfortable. Even if that's not who you really are, but that's what it signals. Because avoiding eye contact too often, it can also train your own brain to treat normal social moments like threats. And there is a whole niche on like body language and how to use eye contact and all of that. You don't want to obsess over it. What you want to do is to practice the two second hold. This is one of the tricks. It's one of many.

[00:25:51]What you want to do is to make calm eye contact for a moment and give a small nod if it feels natural. Then keep moving. That's it. You're not trying to stare anyone down here. You know, you're not trying to have a staredown. You're just teaching your body language and getting used to that. Being seen is not dangerous. This is Btier. Number 19, turning into a yes man to fit in. Do you agree with opinions you don't actually believe just to avoid a small disagreement or keep the ground comfortable? That means you're trading your authenticity.

[00:26:31]Authenticity, bro. It's what makes you you. You trade it for fake acceptance.

[00:26:39]Not even like actual people accepting you. It's just they're accepting a fake version of yourself. And if people only like you because you agree with everything they say, then man, they're not really connecting with you. They're hearing their own opinions repeated back. And over time, it just makes you feel some type of way. That's all I got to say. So, bro, you don't want to be argumentative. Just be honest. If you agree with something, agree with it. If you disagree with it, then just proceed.

[00:27:12]There's this new drop. Your friend is like, "Well, I love this song. It's really good." And they're really, you know, they really like it. And you're just like, "Well, I got to say I like it, too." So, I don't make them feel bad about themselves. But man, you're trading you're trading yourself, your authenticity, and uh that's a no no. Okay? If you don't like the song, just simply say, "I don't like the song. Maybe the drums are not for me. The instruments being played are not for me." Okay? People don't usually want you to agree with them.

[00:27:48]Okay? Most people don't want you to agree with them. So, this one is going to be in Btier. Number 20, compensation overload. And let me explain with a question. Do you constantly bring up your wins, your gear, your connections, your achievements early in a conversation just to make sure people know you're impressive? Now, bro, real confidence doesn't really need to announce itself every 5 minutes. And when you overflex, it can it can work against you. It can make you seem like you're trying to prove your worth instead of simply being worthwhile. And the more you do it, the more you force people to notice your value, the less natural it feels. It's just like with everything in the world, in this whole universe, everything seems pretty counterintuitive. And I I will probably make a video about that. the most counterintuitive realities or things cheerless, you know.

[00:28:52]So, anyways, let me give you a solution as always. What you want to do here, man, is to let people discover your wins over time. You don't need to hide what you've done, but you also don't need to force feed it to people because it's just much more powerful when people realize your value naturally. And over time they're like, "Wow, this individual, they've been hiding all of this and now I'm finding this thing out." It just adds into your mystery. It adds into your, you know, how we Gen Z say it. It adds into your aura. Okay, bro. So, this is going to be an A tier.

[00:29:30]Number 21, the lone wolf delusion. Do you struggle with a hard project, a technical issue, or a personal problem for weeks and weeks because asking for help, it makes you feel weak or incompetent?

[00:29:44]This is pride pretending to be independent because deep down you may worry that if you admit you don't know something, people will just respect you less. But refusing help, it doesn't make you much stronger. It often just wastes time. You can spend weeks, weeks, bro, even months stuck on something that someone could easily help you with under like five minutes. Okay? So, what you want to do here is to just ask smarter questions because the strongest people are not the ones who do everything alone. They're the ones who know how to use advice, feedback, mentors, and networks to actually build something new for themselves. Some type of system. You want to build a system, okay? Man, asking for help. Asking for help is not weakness. It just shows that you care more about progress than protecting your ego. And trust me, bro, people respect you for this. It's going to be an A tier. Number 22, fear of your own creative taste.

[00:30:50]Okay, bro. Do you keep your songs or edits or designs or branding ideas to yourself because you're scared people will think your style is cringe or basic or unoriginal? No. The problem with this one is that you're comparing your rough drafts to polished work from people who have been doing it for years. And that's just not fair, man. Creative taste, it only improves through repetition. If you never let your ideas actually thrive and leave your brain, your style of doing all of this, it never gets tested. You never get the feedback. You never get challenged and you can never refine it.

[00:31:32]So what you want to do here is to accept that your early work may feel imperfect or uninspiring to other people, but that's part of the process. You learn by studying, by copying, by experimenting and adjusting. So what you want to do is to put the work out there. Take the feedback, keep creating and your taste in things, especially your like creative taste. It'll sharpen through execution over time. Okay, so this is going to be a tier. Number 23, the all or nothing perfectionism trap. If you miss one gym session or eat one bad meal or skip one day of writing, do you feel like the whole week is ruined and give up completely and never actually just like go back again? Now that is perfectionism. And what it's doing here is that it's giving you this escape route. You know, it tells you that you if if you can't do something perfectly, then there is no point in doing it at all. But that mindset, it turns one small mistake into a full on quit mindset, you know, into a full-on, oh no, I made a small mistake, let me just quit. It's a sign.

[00:32:47]And let me give you a solution. You want to drop the all or nothing mindset today, like right now, because life is about averages. It's not about like perfect streaks or being always perfect with your gym routine or studying or whatever it is. If you mess up, man, just make the next decision a win. Okay?

[00:33:09]You missed the gym, train tomorrow. Ate badly today, make the next meal clean.

[00:33:14]Because a 60% consistent week is still infinitely better than just quitting completely. You want to remember that.

[00:33:22]So, this one is going to be in Btier.

[00:33:25]Number 24. Social ghosting. Now, do you stay quiet in a group conversation or avoid networking completely because you feel like your life or job or current situation is not interesting enough to talk about? Now, you may think you need some flashy type of lifestyle or car or house or mansion before people will care about what you have to say. But most real connection, it doesn't come from your own status. Sure, status matters, but it's not everything. Just like money, money matters, but it's not everything. It comes down to your own honesty, bro. It comes down to your honesty, your energy, your perspectives, your personality, and a bunch of other things. So, what you want to do here is to own your current arc or chapter or era. You know, you don't really need to fake a flex just to get into these uh uh rooms or just to talk to these network of people. You want to talk about what you're building, what's the next destination, what you're learning, what you're curious about, what you want to do in life, you know, or even a niche topic that genuinely interests you.

[00:34:37]Okay, so this is going to be in C tier.

[00:34:42]Number 25, the fear of success.

[00:34:46]Now when things finally start going well, your business grows, your body improves, your routine clicks, and your work gets attention and you start growing. Do you suddenly start sabotaging yourself? Like staying up late, picking up fights, uh skipping the habits, slacking out for no clear reason. Bro, sometimes growth feels uncomfortable. It actually feels uncomfortable because you're not familiar with it yet. You're familiar with struggling. And if you spent a long time seeing yourself as the underdog, then success can actually feel weird. It can feel threatening even. So, what you want to do here is to let your identity expand. When you're when progress happens, don't panic or look for the catch. Sit with it, accept it, refine it, work on it. Okay? Don't fight your own growth. You want to cooperate with it. So, yeah, this is going to be in S tier. There you have it. Now, I just want to leave you with this reminder that every single human you see winning right now had to run this exact same diagnostic on his own brain. The goal isn't to never feel insecure again. It's to just make sure that inner voice is not the one holding the steering wheel.

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