Gender Equality Is Starting to Backfire on Women

Added: 2026-05-26

[00:00:00]King, let me tell you something. You are too handsome, too smart, too much of him to be begging a woman to act right for you. You understand what I'm saying? Go get you a her, baby, cuz that's what you deserve. You heard it here first. Yeah.

[00:00:20]>> Stop rewarding inconsistent men. If a man can't manage his own life, he shouldn't have access to yours. You're not here to push him. What to build him into something that he should already be a conscious masculine man. He shows it consistently in how he lives, decides, and leads. Choose a man and stop choosing a project.

[00:00:42]>> If a girl is looking at you, do not make the mistake of looking away submissively. Instead, you're going to do this. You're going to hold eye contact for 2 seconds, give her a smile, and then look away. If she looks at you again, this is your sign to approach her. And you can say this, "Hi, I saw you from over there and had to come say hello. Then introduce yourself."

[00:01:03]>> Okay, unpopular opinion, but I get why men don't approach women in public anymore. Like, I get it. I've seen videos of men approaching women, and women can just be so rude. Like, I get if you have a boyfriend. I get if you're not interested, but like, look out for us cuz that moment that you reject him in the worst way, it's just like he's never going to do it again. And I hate that for us.

[00:01:33]>> Some point in time keep on complaining about men not being chivalous and men not being traditional.

[00:01:40]It's not going to work. It's not going to work. You need to line up or a man is not going to tolerate. Your man will leave everything, their family, their business, everything for admiration.

[00:02:01]A man in this dynamic, this lovereneur dynamic, meaning he is as equally as powerful as you. It just looks a little differently.

[00:02:12]He lacks admiration at home. He will leave it for a woman that will admire him.

[00:02:19]>> What's going on, fellas? Don't forget to like and subscribe to the channel. Leave a comment down below. Let's get back to the video.

[00:02:34]make through. Let your emotions push all your true.

[00:02:42]That's what girls do.

[00:02:48]>> Why should I change to you? It's confusing to me. It's nothing new.

[00:03:02]That's what girls do. That's what the girls do.

[00:03:08]They keep you guessing the whole day through your emotions. Push all your buttons.

[00:03:15]It's true.

[00:03:17]That's what girls do.

[00:03:24]Keep guessing all day through. Play your emotions. Push all your buttons is true.

[00:03:33]That's what girls do. That's what girls do.

[00:03:39]They keep me guessing.

[00:03:43]>> Okay, men, help me understand this situation. Why is it that you guys have stopped approaching us women in real life? Unless it's a nightclub or a bar and you're completely like I feel like men no longer like approach women at all. like grocery stores. I'm talking places like parks. I'm talking Targets.

[00:04:04]Like back in the day, it was so common for you guys to come up to women, secure their phone numbers, have a little bit of a chitchat, and that's it. But nowadays, you guys don't do that anymore. Why is that? Sucks.

[00:04:15]>> I think another one of the issues is that when you listen to these modern women and the things that they say, it's always that a man has to be finished while you still a work in progress.

[00:04:27]Do you think that's fair that a man has to deal with you and your BS while he has to be the perfect specimen?

[00:04:31]>> It's funny when I tell people I'm single, they're usually like, "You will find somebody." I'm like, "I don't I don't need to find somebody. I'm happy, you know, like I'm peaceful. I'm content." You like, "What do I need someone for?" You know, like I don't know, someone to cook dinner with at night, you know? Know, someone to go to the movies with, you know, like what? Go to a camping trip together, you know?

[00:04:49]like fall asleep next to you and wake up next to you in the morning and then have a snuggle and just like make memories reading books and sitting in silence and whoever said men love when women shoot their shot is lie cuz I slid into some man's DMs and I let him know he was handsome and I told him like you know you handsome and I might just let you take me to lunch and he going to leave me on red.

[00:05:51]Hey, it's Rebecca from MatchMe Canada.

[00:05:54]So, something that we hear from from singles regularly is that they'll comment and say that they're not being approached by people on the sidewalk or out in an event and they feel like they're not desired and they're just not desirable because nobody's approaching them. So we have to bring them back to reality and let them know that dating is not like the movies. And a lot of people, most people are not approaching somebody to let them know that that they're interested. So what you need to do is if you are coming across people in your daily routine or in your life that are catching your eye, then you need to be the one to approach them and to let them know that you've noticed them. That really is the best way to get the result that you're looking for. Good luck.

[00:06:40]men have started going their own direction and quit fixing the mistakes and the foolishness and some of the stuff is not even a mistake. It's just you doing whatever you want to do and expecting a man to save you. And when I as a man have stopped doing that, my life has gotten a lot better.

[00:06:56]>> You think this is normal? You work all day AND THEN HIDE OUT HERE INSTEAD of being inside.

[00:07:02]>> I WONDER WHY being yelled at like that when he just wants a minute to himself or peace. If you're so bothered with him being out in the garage, why not make the home inside peaceful? Be nice to him, be kind to him, love him, respect him, the basics, and then maybe he'll want to be inside. He might still need a, you know, a few minutes of decompression time to himself before he comes in, but it would probably be a lot less often. Hey guys, welcome back to my tip of the day. Today's tip is about being blunt. When you see a girl you like, you have 3 to 4 seconds to walk over to her and to make your impression.

[00:07:40]My advice to you is don't even bother asking her a question. Give her a statement and allow her to want to respond all on her own. You can literally walk over to her and say something like, "Hey, I really like your style. You have this like very like edgy type of look. You must work in fashion."

[00:07:58]By saying something like that, she's then going to respond to you, "Oh, thank you. Um, no, I actually am a teacher, but that's really nice of you to say. At that point, you can say, "Wow, like a teacher. I wasn't expecting that." And go on from there and have a good follow-up question. Be as blunt as possible. Every girl is different. Do not use this approach on every single girl. You need to use an approach that is right for her. What does she look like to you? Be as blunt as possible.

[00:08:28]I think the thing that gets a lot of men is that women actually, a lot of these modern women actually expect them to continue taking the gamble when they continue to lose. You know what I mean? I continue to get nothing back. It'd be one thing if I was hitting on something. Oh man, I hit on something I had. Why not try it again? But I've never hit on anything.

[00:08:48]Why would I continue to take that?

[00:08:50]>> Have you guys seen the video of the woman that is crying on her wedding day?

[00:08:54]And it is not because she is so happy about marrying the man that she's about to marry. She's actually crying because she's not marrying the man that she fell in love with when she was 17. What?

[00:09:05]Like, how is that not an indication that you should not be walking down the aisle? And for that husband to be that poor man, he probably has no idea because if he did, guarantee you he would not be standing on that altar. But what is even more disturbing is that there's so many women in the comments that are like, "Oh, yeah, I get it. I get it, girl. Yep. Sad day." What? You all are reinforcing another huge reason for a man not to get married. Especially to a woman that has a past, which is most women, like by the age of 25, they have somebody that they have fallen in love with. It just indicates to me that there's so much emotional immaturity out there. Like if you still have feelings really for your high school sweetheart, you should go back and try to resolve that. See if that'll work out for you.

[00:09:51]And leave the innocent man who has nothing to do with it. That has no idea.

[00:09:57]Leave that man alone.

[00:09:58]>> I'm going to teach you how to flirt with women. And it's not your fault if you're bad at it cuz nobody told you. There are two key parts of this. The first one is communicating to her that you were attracted to her without actually saying it. So many men go wrong here by being too explicit, too crude, too vulgar. You do not want to just come out and say, "Hey, let's do the deed." That is not what we That is not how it works. Even if you're being polite, you don't also want to come out and just be like, "Hey, you're so beautiful." And like maybe that'll work sometimes and that's cool, but it's like not creative. It's not putting in the effort of the social dance. The reason that flirting is attractive is because it indicates that a man has enough social intelligence to be able to make a subversive communication without saying it outright. Flirting is also not the same as giving somebody a compliment. And I'll explain the difference with an example. If I go up to somebody and I say, "Hey, I love that color on you. It looks really good." That's just a platonic compliment, right? But if I go up to somebody and I say, "Hey, I love that color on you." Really brings out your eyes. That's flirtatious, right?

[00:10:52]Because the eyes part, eyes are a romantic thing. Please share this video to help men everywhere. Thank you so much.

[00:11:00]A lot of these modern women, they want they say this type of silly stuff like may the best man win and stuff like that. But, you know, a lot of these men out here, especially after a certain point of time, you know, kind of accepting the fact cuz a lot of times men do realize, hey, this ain't going anywhere. She's not really serious. Um, she don't really want anything with me.

[00:11:27]>> So, we we have two things you just brought up about women >> that men don't know about women.

[00:11:32]>> Okay. Um, one is what happens when we don't have plenty of time like literal personality change.

[00:11:43]>> Sure.

[00:11:44]>> Okay. And it has everything to do with time. That's one. And the other is meanwhile.

[00:11:51]Meanwhile, we do things meanwhile because there's so many things asking to be done and I can't go further with this. So, I'll do that. or while this is cooking, while the water is boiling, I'll do this. And one of my workshop leaders said, her husband heated up a bowl of soup and she she asked, "What are you doing?" He said, "I'm waiting for my soup to cool."

[00:12:17]And she goes, "Oh, meanwhile, could you do this?" And you see like, "No." Now, a woman reaction our our reaction to that is like, "They're so stupid. They can only do one thing at a time." And my reaction to that is, "But who's eating cold soup?"

[00:12:33]>> He's like, cuz he makes a big majority of our dinners. He'll cook it. He's such a wonderful cook. And then he says, "Dinner's ready." And I say, "Okay, I'll be right there, >> Ellen. Dinner's ready. Hold on."

[00:12:49]>> Do you know when a woman becomes the most attractive to a man?

[00:12:56]When she has a man.

[00:12:58]when she is married, she becomes the most attractive that she'll ever be to a man, to another man, especially if she's not trying to find a man while she has a man. And often times, this is where a woman gets confused when it comes to how many options that they have.

[00:13:18]Because as soon as she becomes single, those men disappear.

[00:13:25]She can't find them anymore.

[00:13:28]and she realizes that it wasn't real.

[00:13:34]It was just that she was unavailable to a bunch of unavailable men.

[00:13:40]This is when she get disappointed because the whole time she thought she had options.

[00:13:49]No, it's not really true. And modern women have this thing to where they're expecting you um to do it like they want you to do it, exactly how they want you to do it. It's almost like a performance review. You know what I mean? A performance review. So, and I understand, you know, you you have to talk to people and communicate with them. I get it. I understand it. I'm all for it. But modern women, the way they be treating you, it's almost like they think that they're your supervisor, like they own you, like you're the employee, they're the boss.

[00:14:35]That's the way they treat you. Like you don't know anything. You don't know what you're doing. Anything that might be coming out of your mouth hasn't been well thought out, hasn't been planned out. You're an idiot. You're a psychopath. You're aloof. You're obuse.

[00:14:53]All of >> No one talks about how intimacy affects everything in your marriage. And no, I don't just mean what happens in the sheets. I'm talking about the kind of intimacy that lets your body relax. The kind that makes you feel chosen, safe, seen, and supported. Because when intimacy feels strong, life feels different. Stress does not hit as hard.

[00:15:20]Confidence comes back. Motivation returns. You show up better, not just at home, but everywhere. A man who feels deeply loved stands taller. A woman that feels emotionally secure finally can breathe. Communication flows easier.

[00:15:39]Defensiveness softens. Arguments don't have the same grip. When intimacy is nurtured, resentment has a lot less room to grow. Marriage feels lighter, stronger, more connected. You stop surviving side by side and start building a life together. This is not about performance. It is about presence.

[00:16:03]It's choosing closeness in a world that constantly pulls marriages apart.

[00:16:08]Because when love feels safe, life feels possible. Intimacy creates momentum in marriage and that momentum changes everything.

[00:16:20]>> And here's what what a lot of these modern women are doing. A lot of these modern women will get on Tik Tok or Instagram posting stuff about, oh, I want a family. Be 36, 37 years old. Oh, I want to get married. I'm finally ready to settle down. and a man will come along, slide in her DMs and say, "Hey, let's go grab coffee." on a dating app, swipe on you. "Hey, let's go grab coffee." She'll leave that man on red and then post another sad story 3 days later. I can't find no man to talk to me. Why come men don't want to be around me? Who's willing to show up for me?

[00:17:00]the man in your DMs, the man that was trying to talk to you, the man that was swiping on you, men, I should say, not even men. Men that were trying to talk to you, that's who's showing up for you. For some, for some reason, I guess you don't like the the options that you have. Oh, I I'm just going to stay single.

[00:17:19]Yeah. Because what you perceive and who you perceive to be as Kasanova ain't coming after you. So, you're not really looking for a family. You You're looking for some sort of status. Sassy man apocalypse. This, that, whatever. No, shy man apocalypse. You know, it's lowkey been giving me the ick recently.

[00:17:34]Not that you ask or care, but I'm going to tell you anyways. The art of approaching a girl in public. I've got two bones to pick. Number one is men who see you in public and then reach out to you on socials the next day instead of just coming up to you. Like honestly, it's good intention. But no, it's just such an that you have to like hide behind your phone and you can't just like come up to me. Like I'm 5'4. I'm not that intimidating. Additionally, this one irks me even more, but men who add you by search on Snapchat without asking for your Snapchat. Whether they saw you in public or they saw you on Instagram or whatever it may be, like I give you my snap, number one, kind of just crazy that you found it. I mean, it's not that hard to find. It's literally my name. I don't know. To me, it's like if you see me on Instagram, like DM me. If you see me in person, start a conversation with me. The last thing I want you to do is just out of the blue add me on Snap. Me personally, I don't add any randos back on Snap unless I like know them. So yeah, that's my little rant for the day. Not that this will change it, but just putting it out there.

[00:18:33]>> Someone asked me a question the other day, so I thought I'd share the answer.

[00:18:37]They asked, "How do I know that I am overinvesting or getting too close to someone from the start, someone that I'm just talking to?"

[00:18:47]So here is my answer.

[00:18:50]If someone is taking away from your life, you know it's too fast.

[00:18:56]If usually your bedtime is at 9:00 and now you're staying up until 11:00 talking to this person, you're moving too fast. You're giving too much. If usually you're focused at work, but now you're sending text messages every couple of minutes, you're giving too much.

[00:19:13]If usually you wake up in the morning, you have your morning routine, you have your breakfast, you go to work focused on the day, but now you wake up and you check your phone first because you want to see what they said and now you're sending good morning messages, not focused on yourself and on your day, you're doing too much. Make sure that you are not overinvesting. You should not be taking away from your life in any way.

[00:19:40]If you are setting time aside for this person on a day on a a couple of days, fine. But make sure that your entire day does not start revolving around Mr. or Mrs. New.

[00:19:54]Food for thought.

[00:19:59]If your boyfriend is not spending money on you, he's just saving money to marry you. Be patient. Men are good people for all all the women out there.

[00:20:12]What? Dating is over. Love is over. It's all transactional because there's nothing you can say as a broki to make a woman say to you. Nothing. Because Instagram has made the entire dating market absolutely transactional. Rich everything broke. Nothing. That's the dating market. Done.

[00:20:31]>> Man, I'll be real. Whenever my girl gets mad at me, I just ignore her. Like, I'll leave her on Reed, go out with the boys, and let her blow up my phone. Then, when I finally answer, she's always apologizing even though she was right.

[00:20:42]Works every time.

[00:20:42]>> No, baby. That just proves she loves you more than you'll ever deserve. You're not teaching her a lesson. She's teaching herself patience and wasting it on the wrong man. You don't know how to argue like a man, so you ghost her like a boy. And one day, when she finally stops calling, that silence going to be permanent. So, brag now, but remember this. When she leaves, you won't be ignored. You'll be forgotten. It's not until a woman realizes that a man will communicate with the woman that he likes.

[00:21:07]>> It's not that men have issues communicating.

[00:21:08]>> A man will do any and everything y'all say men don't do with the woman he likes.

[00:21:13]>> Yeah. You know how many ways you hear that?

[00:21:15]>> No. A man will do everything that y'all say men don't do and men ain't capable of. And ain't no more men like this. He will do all that without having to be prompted. And he would do it with joy and glee for the woman he actually liked. So sometimes it ain't, oh, he won't do it. He won't do it for you.

[00:21:31]>> Ladies, if you want a guy approaching you out in the wild, I see a lot of Tik Toks of girls complaining, "Nobody approaches us anymore. Nobody approaches me." All you have to do is make eye contact and smile. That's all you have to do.

[00:21:48]Okay? Stop looking away. Okay? Look at him, smile at him. And odds are the Listen, he might come up and talk you.

[00:21:57]He might come up and shoot a shot with you. He might come up and ask you to a nice seafood dinner. Okay? He might end up marrying you. All you have to do is look in his direction and smile.

[00:22:09]>> Yo, the whole men don't take girls on dates no more narrative is cap. Here's why. Right now, if you pretty and you not getting taken out on dates, you dudes ain't doing nice stuff for you, it's probably because you got a terrible attitude and too entitled to dudes just giving you money for no reason. Right?

[00:22:24]Cuz this whole like breaking thing is a big movement, which is a whack movement.

[00:22:27]First of all, there's plenty dudes taking girls on dates, but you probably looking in the wrong way. A lot of y'all want men who got their together, but men who have their together, it comes with things like emotional maturity. You can't have random attitudes. You got to be educated in your own sense. Know how to carry yourself as a woman. Some of y'all women be expecting men to do things and have all these things that can't even make up your bed in the morning. You feel me? But a lot of men is coming on to that. So, they rather even not waste time talking to girls because a lot of y'all want the same thing. I don't need a man to open doors for me, but I won't date one who doesn't. I don't need a man to buy me flowers, but I will not date one who doesn't. I don't need a man to provide for me, but I wouldn't date one who doesn't, and more importantly, doesn't want to. Because if somebody's doing these things because they think they should, or in order to keep you, but they don't truly want to do these things, further down the line, they will resent you. They will feel some type of way of having to do things or they'll throw it in your face and they'll probably stop doing these things once they think they have you. Once they think they've secured you and you're in their life, the effort will slip because it wasn't really real. It wasn't really what they wanted to do. And there are men out there that will want to do these things. Not all of them do, and that's fine. But you don't have to date the ones that don't want to.

[00:23:40]>> Never, ever, ever chase the woman, my brothers.

[00:23:48]Never try to build a case for a woman to stay with you, to go out with you. Never ask a woman multiple times to spend time with you. Never try to convince an existing woman to stay. If she wanders, let her go.

[00:24:06]This is very consistent with my thoughts of believe everything a woman does and nothing of what she says.

[00:24:14]Now, this applies to everybody, but I'm speaking to the men out here, being that the majority of my audience is men.

[00:24:21]Believe what she does, not what she says. That's super important for you to maintain your own sanity.

[00:24:28]>> Call men stupid in every possible way that you can. As time went on, I learned the way to make music. You write what speaks to you and you write the music that you want to listen to yourself.

[00:24:37]Call men stupid in this teu. Hillary Clinton looking is so male. Yeah.

[00:24:43]Congrat. You're just another blonde freaking bimbo who made an entire music career on hating men. I've always hated Swifties. And I don't even like what do they call these fans? I don't even know.

[00:24:52]I don't want to know. All I know is women are constantly crying and complaining about how men are so sexist and misogynistic, but yet women are allowed to be blatantly anti-men, saying that all men are trash, all men should, and just keep hating on men, and it's totally fine. Oh my gosh, it's gross. I hate it. Like, I literally hate it. This is why we need more female haters in the world. Right. Right. Can someone pay me to roast her on shout out? Link in bio.

[00:25:16]>> He wants to make her feel like the only woman in the world.

[00:25:20]>> Get her addicted to that and disappear.

[00:25:27]>> With great deed comes great responsibility. Folks left and right. Doesn't every woman deserve to feel like the only woman in the snatch away from her? When did you become a crusader for all women around the world?

[00:25:45]Cuz I want to know when your journey started, bro.

[00:25:49]Cuz you know solidifies that she's satisfied.

[00:25:52]>> WHAT?

[00:25:56]>> You can't do that, bro. You can't. With great deed comes great responsibility, bro.

[00:26:04]Left and right, bro. We have to be responsible.

[00:26:06]>> Men don't marry the love of their life.

[00:26:08]That's something that women do. Men marry the woman who is there when they are ready. This one's going to sting, but let's be honest, men don't marry for magic. They marry for timing. Women fall when it feels right. Men commit when it makes the most sense. I'm not saying that we don't love deep. We just don't lock in until our foundation is built.

[00:26:24]Because real men know that love with our foundation is a liability. You could be the perfect woman, soft, supportive, and aligned in every way. But if he's 24 years old, broke, and still figuring himself out, he's not choosing forever.

[00:26:36]He's choosing survival. That's why he circles back when he's 34, more stable, more sure, and suddenly she's the one.

[00:26:42]It was never her to begin with. It was him. His readiness, his clarity, and his nervous system finally saying, "I can carry this." So, if you're waiting for a man to wake up, you might be mistaking chemistry for capacity. Because men don't marry the love of their life. They marry when their life can hold love and everything that comes with it.

[00:26:59]>> Why are men unable to be masculine these days? It's very simple. They believe women when women say they want a man that loves her far more than she loves him, who will let her do whatever she wants, let her wear whatever she wants, let her talk to her ex, lets her do whatever she wants, and pays every bill at the same time. But the truth is, the moment she meets a man who doesn't set boundaries, she loses all respect for him. She becomes frustrated that he lets her make all the decisions. She becomes frustrated that he shows no jealousy whatsoever. She becomes frustrated that he doesn't know how to stand up for himself, particularly when she has a family with him. Instead, what they truly want is a man with high self-esteem. And a man with high self-esteem will never love a woman far more than she loves him. Will never pay a woman simply because she's a woman.

[00:27:45]But instead, we'll pay and support her because she's loyal, she's loving, she's nurturing, and she's looking after the home. If she's not doing those things, he's not paying. When's the last time you cried?

[00:27:53]>> I lost my best friend this year, so it's still been hard thing for me. You made me think about it. It's been hard. I ain't no drug my baby.

[00:28:00]>> And then just like mildly uncomfortable.

[00:28:05]>> Never hit a man where he's never. It could be true. It could be real. But you don't hit him where he's weak because it'll turn around on you.

[00:28:15]>> When a man opens up, don't you use what he said when he was open to prove a point when you want to win an argument.

[00:28:23]You will never hear the full story from us ever again. And we'll start say stuff like this. How are you? Good.

[00:28:33]>> I ain't good, but I just ain't telling you.

[00:28:36]>> Women, let me tell you something. Men are not emotionless.

[00:28:41]We have deep emotions.

[00:28:43]>> We just don't know how to express them.

[00:28:46]>> And let me tell you, if you make us feel unsafe, you'll never hear from us again.

[00:28:52]Men don't like you. They like you. Men don't want to be in relationships. They want to. Men don't like being married.

[00:29:02]They like to. Don't believe me. Believe what men say. I'm a 31-year-old man. If I want >> Listen, I stopped it because she said, "Don't believe me. Believe what men say." Ain't that how we got in this situation in the first place? You believe what men say, but not just any man. Let's take a closer look. Not only is this just some random man on the internet with no profile picture, the name says loser simp. But that's who we about to take serious, right? That's the problem right there. Y'all take loser simp serious. In the same way y'all date those type of men and use them to generalize everybody else. That's what you're doing right now. And when I say y'all, I'm talking about women like you, not all women. You see, the same way you got on here and said that dumb and I don't believe it. That's the same way men shouldn't be able to tell you anything and you believe it. Pay attention to the actions cuz they speak louder. Subscribe to my YouTube plan of reality.

[00:29:54]>> Can you imagine throwing away a man who literally just went to work, hit the gym, worked on himself, focused on you and only you, and was genuinely trying to build a future with you, and you let that man go because you thought you could do better or you got bored or you convinced yourself something was off about him. You are going to regret that for the rest of your life. I'm sorry. I know this is an unpopular opinion in today's time and culture, but spending money on a woman who is not your wife is crazy. Now, I know a lot of men right when they first start making money, it's tempting to want to splurge and have a good time and throw money at different women, but that's how you end up broke.

[00:30:29]Mature men understand that you only provide and spend lavishly on your wife, fiance, or someone you've been in a serious long-term relationship with. In 2026, men have to stop pouring their resources into women they barely even know. Like think about all the money you threw into flings and people who are no longer in your life. You could have put that money into the stock market.

[00:30:50]Something that would have actually given you a return into the stock market.

[00:30:54]Something that would have actually given you a return. The thing about being a strong independent woman is that it's really difficult to find love because men love to be needed and men fall in love with women who make them feel that they are needed. And if you're strong and you're independent and you don't need a man, they kind of feel useless. I see the the neverending battle between, you know, you're a strong, powerful woman in the workplace. You're constantly in your in your masculine energy. There's all this talk about masculine and feminine energy these days. It's great. But then in in your personal life, you want to be feminine and you want to be in your feminine energy, but you're incapable of allowing a man to provide that for you because this is how you are. This is your defense mechanism. That's what's got you where you are. that's what's given you success in the workplace. It's hard to just switch that off and then in a personal context be something else. It's a fine line to navigate. But I do see a lot of professional women who find it really difficult to find partners.

[00:32:04]Who is worse at taking rejection? Men or women? When a woman gets rejected, the first thing she turns to is what? Oh, he must be because he couldn't possibly just not like her, right? He got to or something got to be wrong with him. Oh, he must be married. You always hear women talk about how men don't take rejection well and how we we pretty much have to protect ourselves because we don't know when a man is going to snap because you rejected him. I think women take rejection a lot harder than men.

[00:32:38]And it's not because women are weaker.

[00:32:40]is because women aren't used to it. For ages, men have been the ones to pursue women. It hasn't been the other way around until recently. That's kind of a new concept. So, for men, it's just part of the game. Approach, get curved, keep it moving. For women, approach, get curved. He must. So, men are conditioned to handle rejection. Well, some men, cuz some of these dudes out here are trash at handling rejection. But women, we just getting a memo. What y'all think about that? Here's how you can spot men who actually like women. Part two. Not just men that think women are hot or like the idea of having a woman around, but men who actually like and respect women. You should date the guys on this list. Okay. First of all, men who really like women are not going to care if they're coming across as less than traditionally masculine.

[00:33:30]They're going to have their own sense of style. They might even have long hair.

[00:33:33]and they're not concerned about being called feminine because they don't think that being feminine is an insult. But to me, that actually comes across as very masculine when someone is strong and confident in their own identity. So hot.

[00:33:46]Secondly, men who like women like women artists and performers, like women who are musicians and comedians. If I ever hear a man tell me that they like comedy, but they don't like any female comedians, that tells me everything that I need to know. In the first video, I talked about men who like women have women as friends, will they get bonus points if they are friends with lesbians? Because if a woman who doesn't even like men likes you, that's a major green flag for a man. And then finally, I said it before and I'll say it again, they're not going to be conservative.

[00:34:16]Because you cannot say that you like women if you continually vote for a party that tries to strip away their rights. Hope this helped. Okay, bye.

[00:34:24]>> Ladies, the results are in. Fresno has the most civerous men in California. And see, I always knew this cuz Fresno man, we're real respectful. We'll open up the doors for y'all. And no, we won't check you out from behind. No, we won't holler at you like, "Girl, look at all that.

[00:34:41]Let me get at you real quick." Nah, that's not us. And when we take you out on the first date, we'll never invite you back to the house because we don't have a house to invite you to. You better invite us over to your house unless you want to chill in the car.

[00:34:54]I'll bring out the air fresheners. We'll have a grand time. And when it's winter time, it's cold outside, we'll let you use our coats to let other dudes know that you're ours. Like, don't look at my girl, bro. You see her? She got my sweater on. I mean, I mean, cuz you're shivering. Cuz you're shivering and we're shiverous. Also, we're real progressive. We believe in strong, independent women that pay for their own meals. You got this, baby. You got us, baby. I believe in you. So, California women out there, if you're tired of dealing with the knuckleheads in your town, change your dating location to Fresno, California to find you a true gentleman. Baby, can I smell shiverous custy bums believe that women should dwell in their divine feminine regardless of the situation. But if a man is feminine, a woman cannot dwell in her femininity.

[00:35:53]She's going to become masculine because she's going to have to provide. She's going to have to protect because she no longer can trust this man to lead. When a man dwells in his divine masculinity, this woman becomes soft. She starts to glow. She starts to smile with her eyes.

[00:36:08]She just starts to become heaven on earth. A man has to understand that a woman is a divine reflector. And she will reflect who you are. Not who you want to be, but who you are. So if a woman is acting out of her character, if a woman is yelling and screaming, if a woman is demanding, you have to look in the mirror and check yourself. A woman's also a divine nurturer, she will nurture whatever you put on her. If it's financial, if it's mental, if it's spiritual, if you give her the devil, she going to give you. But if you give her peace, she's going to give you heaven. A man has to understand who a woman is. And first, he has to understand who he is. You cannot demand a woman to be feminine when you're not masculine. It doesn't make sense. And a woman cannot dwell in her divine femininity. If a man's dwell in his divine femininity, a man must dwell in his divine masculine. So I can feed your energy, you can feed mine. You nurture, I protect. You know, I lead, I guide.

[00:37:02]I'm here to elevate this woman on each and every level because that's what divine masculine men do. We don't lead by force. We lead by kindness and calmness. All praises do. All praises do.

[00:37:13]>> What Janet Jackson said? men have never approached her.

[00:37:17]>> I've never been asked out by a guy.

[00:37:19]Every guy that I've ever wanted to go out with, I've had to ask them out. But >> Janet admitted that when it comes to dating, she's usually the one making the first move because according to her, men just don't approach. And honestly, that kind of gagged us because we're talking about the Janet Jackson, legend, icon, the blueprint. But the way she said it wasn't desperate or anything like that.

[00:37:42]It was giving confident grown woman energy. Like if she sees something she likes, she's not about to sit around waiting for a man to build up the courage. She's stepping in, making it known, and keeping it cute. And she said this at multiple points in her life. So men were just never making the first move throughout her life.

[00:38:05]Women of today can totally relate because a lot of men these days are either scared of rejection, unsure how to approach, or just relying on social media and vibes instead of real life conversation. So, a select group of women take the Janet approach. Sometimes if you want it, you got to go get it.

[00:38:20]>> Lead man.

[00:38:21]>> Great. And I'll be leading.

[00:38:23]>> Yeah, we can do a movie. We can do something, man.

[00:38:25]>> I'd like that.

[00:38:26]>> I think it will work.

[00:38:27]>> I'd really know what it is.

[00:38:28]>> Oh, I got a big butt.

[00:38:30]How is she going to ask her sister to tuck up?

[00:38:32]>> You know what I'm saying? Get over it.

[00:38:35]>> Now, anyway. Anyway, I want to ask you about that's the way love goes. I thought that was a very smart. It was jazzy. It was Listen, baby girl. The one thing you'll never have to beg a man that likes you to be is consistent. Now, I ain't saying that man gonna be perfect, but he's gonna show up. He's gonna give effort. He's going to be there daily. And if that man ain't that, then that man don't like you like that.

[00:38:59]get it. You like, "Well, he's a good catch." But if that good catch, don't realize that he needs to put a good foot forward on a regular basis to show you that you can trust him. Cuz that's what consistency do, right? You can rely on a man who shows up regularly. But if this man is hot and cold, that man don't like you like that. If this man shows up and he's sometimesy though, he don't like you like that, that's not the man for you. You need a man that you can depend on. Because you got all these men talking about submission. You got all these men talking about I want to be a leader. But how can you trust a leader that leads when he feels like it? When he he leads when it's convenient. This man is not dependable. I hope for your spirit that you never yoke yours with a man that can't be trusted. You don't know when and where and how and why this man will show up. that's not a man for you. Listen, I get it. Everybody on the internet going to make it seem like you got super high standards.

[00:40:03]But the bare minimum that you expect and nobody should give you flack for is a man to show up and be there on a consistent basis. If he ain't that, then ain't the man for you.

[00:40:15]>> What no one really talks about is what happens when a woman keeps carrying everything while she's still in a relationship. I did it for 11 years with the kid's dad. All of the bills, all of the decisions, the emotional labor, holding the house together, myself and everyone else together. And I didn't just leave him because I stopped loving him. I left him because me brain stopped seeing him as a support. He became someone I had to manage, not lean on.

[00:40:46]And once that switch flips 11 years later, it's quiet.

[00:40:51]There's no argument. There's no dramatic ending. The attraction just like fades.

[00:40:58]And then I told myself maybe it was just that relationship. So I tried again another four year with someone else. And slowly the same pattern, me fixing everything, me providing, me carrying and adjusting and being strong till one day I just realized I don't want to be the strong one in the room anymore.

[00:41:18]Because when a woman has to solve everything alone for too long, it's like a nervous system stops feeling safe with that person. And once the safety goes, the desire follows. It's not bitterness.

[00:41:32]It's not biology. It's like selfp protection. So if you're watching this, think I feel single. Even when you're not, trust that feeling. It's not like you're asking for too much. You're just asking the wrong person. as your best friend. Can I be a for a second? Don't marry a loser. Do not marry a loser.

[00:41:55]When you marry a loser, you don't just marry a loser. You reset the market rate. Allow me to explain. When you marry a loser, that busted mediocre man believes himself to be husband material.

[00:42:07]And then his busted mediocre friends believe that they too are marriage material. And suddenly the effort required to enter this contract, it drops by about 40%. Bestie, this isn't about love. This is basic economics. I get it. I get it. Right. He bought you a Snicker bar back in 2017 and you love him so much. Bestie, let's take love out of it because love isn't enough. LOVE WON'T BE ENOUGH when you can't afford to send your child to summer camp because your busted mediocre husband is sat on the couch doing niche. Love isn't enough when you can't buy shoes or pay your bills. Love is not enough. If women keep accepting low standards to enter into the contract of marriage, the supply will never improve. You're literally you're damning the rest of us. That's right, bestie. The quality stays low because it sells. And you know where that leaves the rest of us? That leaves the rest of us with a bunch of Simons and Tundes who think that emotional availability is just some optional thing. who think providing is too much to ask for and who think that, you know, you you're just a bit too big for your riches. Besties, I'm begging you, do not marry a loser because if mediocrity keeps getting chosen, then mediocrity will remain the standard. I love you.

[00:43:22]>> Men are struggling more than ever now.

[00:43:24]There is a male loneliness epidemic. And as a divorce lawyer, I see it all the time. Men who realize way too late that they have no real support system.

[00:43:33]They've built their entire lives around a marriage, a job, maybe a hobby or two, but never deep, meaningful friendships.

[00:43:40]And when the relationship ends, they're left with nothing. Men are lonier than ever, and it's not just a social media buzzword. Studies have shown that men are losing friendships at an alarming rate. And by middle age, many have no one they can turn to outside of their partner. Meanwhile, women have built entire support networks, group chats, best friends, family they can talk to.

[00:44:00]So when a breakup happens, women grieve, but they heal. And men, they often spiral. The thing is is that men don't just feel lonier, they are lonier.

[00:44:11]They're less likely to reach out for emotional support, less likely to open up to friends, and way more likely to suffer in silence. And that's why you see so many men jumping into relationships they know aren't good for them. Because it's not just about love, it's about survival. And loneliness is brutal, and they'll do anything to escape it. If you're a man and your girlfriend is the only person you emotionally rely upon, that's a problem.

[00:44:34]If your entire support system disappears the moment your relationship ends, that's a problem. Women are not your therapists, and relationships are not replacements for friendships. And if you don't start investing in real, meaningful connections outside of your love life, you'll find yourself stuck in a cycle of isolation, bad decisions, and relationships that feel more lifeless than love. Men, do better for yourselves. Build support systems. Build friendships, open up, have real conversations. Because waiting until you're alone to realize you're lonely, that's a pain no relationship can fix. I have accomplished more in my 3 years than I did in 30 because I chose to have a partner who is not a loser, who wants to support me, who believed in my dreams more than I ever did. I was in a six-year relationship with someone. I ended up marrying the person and I could not move up in my life. He moved up. his income went from 60,000 to 160,000.

[00:45:29]We ended up, you know, having properties cuz I kept on saying that. I kept on wanting to do those things. His life improved significantly. My health, wealth, and everything else plummeted in those 6 years like absolutely everything because self-abandonment never pays off. But then as soon as I switched and I left that person and I decided to have on a good partner, my health improved, my mental health improved, my business aspirations improved, where I literally quit a 9 toive stressful job, and I get to enjoy my life doing the one thing I love the most, which is helping women become more and more confident and trust themselves. That is how powerful choosing the right person will be for you. I have been the healthiest that I've ever been. I don't have stomach aches. I don't have acne. I don't have mental fog all the time. I was constantly anxious. I would constantly think of the worst case scenarios. I was constantly ruminating. I was constantly changing myself and try to negotiate with someone else's bad temper and bad mood. Today, I wake up and I'm excited for the day. I feel happy. I think of all the possibilities that are possible for me. Every single one of them I achieve.

[00:46:41]I don't believe that no is even a thing.

[00:46:43]I just think you just have to adjust.

[00:46:44]It's a redirection. before everything was just scary. That is how powerful it is who you spend your company around.

[00:46:53]Yeah, that's that's the video.

[00:46:54]>> A lot of these modern women will continue to say that men use them as an emotional punching bag and they have to do so much emotional labor, then turn around and call that man at 2:00 in the morning when she has problems.

[00:47:11]the problems, by the way, that he said at 6:00 p.m. you're about to have this problem. And by the way, the same problem that you had that he was telling you about at 6:00 p.m., he told you about at 10:00 p.m. and then again at 11:00 p.m. and then again at 12:30.

[00:47:33]And now the problem is coming to fruition at 2 a.m. He told you that, but you act like you didn't hear him, right?

[00:47:45]So, he got to hear about that.

[00:47:47]He does all of that for you. And then you still don't want him. You're still out there messing with Chad and Tyrone.

[00:47:54]I want a man that plans. She got I'm playing this, this, this, and this.

[00:47:59]We've seen modern women on social media walk into the room and complain about what a man did. Oh, where where are these types of flowers at? Huh? Oh, where is this at? Oh, I'm I'm looking for this.

[00:48:16]Am I your Am I Am I your employee? Am I staff? Am I your like executive assistant?

[00:48:24]Are you okay? Are you insane? Cuz right now you're treating me like you hired me instead of treating me like a partner.