The Real Reason People Hate Black Prom...

Added: 2026-05-30

[00:00:00]Every year prom season rolls around and every year people act like seeing teenagers going to a school organized event is the most egregious thing they've ever seen in their entire lives.

[00:00:10]They're doing too much. Do they really have to hold all that money in their hands? They do this because this is the closest thing they'll ever have to a wedding. I hope they also have a college sendoff this big. People always have something negative or nasty to say in the comment sections, right? But you see, black prom isn't the problem. The issue here is that these people are uncomfortable seeing black teens/ people celebrated loudly because whenever white prom festivities are being extra, it's crickets. But when it's the black prom, suddenly it's ghetto. It's excessive.

[00:00:44]And people are getting black fatigue from seeing teenagers go to a party.

[00:00:49]Let's talk about it.

[00:01:03]So, first and foremost, I want to talk about the criticism that these teenagers are getting, right? The fact that they're being too flashy, these are, you know, replacements for weddings, they're ghetto, you know, so on and so forth.

[00:01:17]It's always like the same talking points, the same complaints every single year, right? They also say oftentimes that the prom dresses are inappropriate, that the sendoffs are like extremely dramatic and over the top and oh, like why are you paying all this money just to send your kid to prom? Like if you're a broke, would just say that.

[00:01:36]>> No money on my car. The the insult to me that stands out the most is that these prom sendoffs are replacements for weddings, which to me is a very like lazy insult, but also very telling because instead of seeing someone celebrating their teenager, you know, typically in their senior year, maybe junior year, but oftent times senior year, which means that they're still in school and they're almost at the finish line and almost graduating, which is something to celebrate, they immediately try to jump to pathizing the black community and use this as evidence or like a aha moment as to wow your people aren't getting married. This is why you do this. Like >> get to being a bride in the black community. I'm sorry to say it actually.

[00:02:18]No, I'm not because >> that doesn't even make sense. They're taking a moment where teenagers are being pampered. They're getting dressed up. They're putting on nice clothes.

[00:02:26]They're celebrating again the fact that they're almost at the finish line, almost done with school. And instead of just celebrating that and leaving a cute little heart emoji or saying congrats, they want to make it a deeper conversation about, you know, broken homes in the black community and the marriage rate and all these things that don't have a correlation whatsoever.

[00:02:44]Maybe instead of thinking black people are doing too much by celebrating their teens, have you know, y'all ever looked inward and thought maybe we're not celebrating our kids enough? It's it's giving hater to me and it often times to me says more about the person leaving the comment than the teenager that's just going to prom and being celebrated by their family. Like I would argue that seeing a big prom send off for a, you know, black teenager with a bunch of family members and friends showing up for me shows that our community is actually more intact than they like to try to paint out. That we have more support systems than they like to paint.

[00:03:18]They love to say that we're dysfunctional and we hate each other and, you know, oh, they want to talk about the black-on-black crime and all these things, but seeing, you know, over a hundred people or even 50 people, however many people show up for a black teenager being sent off to prom, to me shows a very healthy and functional family, if I would say so myself. And when it comes to them being extra, over the top, well, yes, it's supposed to be extra and over the top. They're literally celebrating 4 years of hard work and the fact that they're about to enter into adulthood. It is a very over-the-top and big process, right?

[00:03:50]That's kind of the whole point. It's a themed event where hundreds of your classmates are going to be showing up in dresses and tuxedos and like it's dramatic. The whole thing is dramatic.

[00:03:59]That's the point. And it's not just black people that are dramatic with prom and the process of prom. So, why is it that whenever I'm scrolling and I'm seeing black teenagers on my for you page being sent off to prom, it's for some reason this big issue, right? It's being viewed through the lens of criticism and ridicule and suspicion rather than just, you know, a celebratory moment that it is, you know.

[00:04:21]And to me, the ridicule isn't just about, you know, the over-the-topness of the prom or the dress or the sendoff itself, but it's the fact that black people have the absolute gall, absolute nerve to be happy and celebrate themselves. And I kind of want to go deeper into the topic of like the double standards of prom, right? Because it's not just black teenagers that are dramatic with prom. Like I mentioned earlier, prom as a whole has always been very extra and has gotten more and more extra over the years, right? And non-black people have their ways of being extra when it comes to prom. A lot of teenagers in high school do something called prom posals. And sometimes they are like fully choreographed outright numbers. Sometimes it involves, you know, taking up the whole football field or doing these elaborate like planned out prom posals that are more elaborate than like wedding proposals, okay? Just to ask somebody, "Hey, will you be my date to prom?" And a lot of these prom posal videos I see are not from black teens, but they're extra, right? A lot of non-black teens also spend a lot of money on their prom dresses, right?

[00:05:25]Their makeup, their hair, etc. Get dressed for prom with me. So, this is my dress, Anna October. Okay, so the dress is from Anna October. It retails for $825 and it is the exact same dress just different color. Okay, out of the ones I tried, I think this Vanessa Mooney one with the Van Clee is my favorite is from Vanessa Mooney. However, it's from 2021, so I cannot find a price. Cleave Alhamra pendant for $3,700.

[00:05:43]>> These Vivian Westwood earrings that I ordered from last year and Westwood earrings for $315. My mom said she likes the earrings and the necklace.

[00:05:49]>> Flex watch $10,000. Cardier love ring $1,940. Other Cardier love ring for $2,80. A love bracelet $4,750. Cardier love bracelet $7,350. The Cardier Love bracelet $7,900 Just on Clue $13,300.

[00:06:02]Just on clue ring, $4,450. Cleon on Humber $4,450.

[00:06:06]>> Okay, my favorite part is the shoes.

[00:06:08]Zoro shoes for $1,450.

[00:06:10]>> This is the bag I'm going to be using.

[00:06:11]And >> saddle bag, $4,400.

[00:06:13]>> Okay, we're doing Bakar because this stuff stays on through an apocalypse.

[00:06:16]>> Refer $325 to $67,200.

[00:06:20]>> I have more of it in my >> It's not just a black teen thing. A lot of teenagers will rent, you know, I mean, they don't really do limos anymore, but they'll rent like expensive cars and they'll have like these after parties. They'll rent Airbnbs or they'll rent like hotel rooms. And prom is just an extra over-the-top expensive event for a lot of teenagers, right? Not just black teenagers. It's literally just this fun moment, you know, a right of passage for teenagers that are about to enter adulthood. It's extra. It's expensive. It's over the top. It's what it that's just what it is and what it's supposed to be, right? But yet, a lot of the criticism I see is on the post of the black teenagers, which is very, you know, telling to me. And I feel like this conversation goes beyond just prom, right? This conversation of like black fatigue where it'll literally be black people existing. Like for example, on cruises, a lot of people, you know, under post of like people black people dancing on cruises or having fun, there'll be people in the comment sections like, "Oh my gosh, I have black fatigue." which is basically this term that people say when they basically feel like black people are doing too much or they're tired of us, you know, which is an insane thing to say first and foremost. But there's just like common thread where when you see people having fun and enjoying themselves, black people specifically, people will start commenting black fatigue and it's just black joy. Like >> if you're racist and you know it, clap your hands. What the [ __ ] bro?

[00:07:41]>> I digress. Right. Prom is just one of like, cuz we're in prom season, one of the more like apparent examples. But another thing that stands out to me is the conversation around birthday makeup.

[00:07:52]I know this is random, but hear me out.

[00:07:53]A lot of the times, right, when I see people talk about birthday makeup, I don't know if it's just my for you page or what, but most of the people or the birthday makeup looks I see people like using as examples is just like very dramatic eye makeup on black women. Now, do non-black women do birthday makeup and have they? Yes. But a lot of this conversation I see around birthday makeup and it being trashy and doing too much. It'll be pictures of black women with dramatic eye makeup looks and all of a sudden people will talk about them as if they're like doing too much or like it's like the ugliest makeup they've ever seen, right? which I understand like you know like dramatic makeup, bright colorful makeup isn't everyone's cup of tea, but it is very telling to me that a lot of the birthday makeup I would see in the past or the birthday makeup examples I see are of black women's faces. And I know, okay, these two things seem like they aren't correlated, but I feel like if I put my thinking cap on, I see a correlation between the two, right? Birthday makeup.

[00:08:49]Let's think about it. It's your birthday. You're happy. You know, you you went around the sun another year.

[00:08:54]You made another lap around the sun, right? you want to get your makeup done, you want something bright or you want something very like bold with a lot of glitter or, you know, just over the top like that says special. It's the same thing with like a birthday dress. Like I said, I want something big. I want something that says I'm here. Beyonce.

[00:09:12]You want to when you're walking down the street, you want people to look at you and be like, "Okay, yeah, it must be her birthday, right?" Same thing with the birthday makeup. But in the same way, I feel like a lot of black teens, you know, especially like black girls are ridiculed for doing too much on their prom and like it's over the top, it's too flashy, y'all are doing too much. I feel like that same conversation is applied to the birthday makeup conversation cuz it's like, how dare you celebrate yourself? How dare you be bold and put yourself out there and make yourself stand out, you know, in a way that you shouldn't? Like, how dare you?

[00:09:42]How del How dare you celebrate yourself?

[00:09:44]How dare you be excited, you know, and want to try something bold and different, you know? And now it's like everyone just only wants like, you know, soft girl makeup and, you know, if they see people with birthday makeup, it's like the most egregious thing they've ever seen in their entire life, you know? Like I feel like there's a correlation between these two conversations. You know, what do y'all think? Let me know in the comment section down below. The deeper issue here to me is that often times black people, especially black girls and women, are expected to celebrate themselves in ways that are deemed acceptable. You can celebrate yourself.

[00:10:14]You can be happy, you can be excited, but don't do too much and don't think that you can celebrate yourself too much without being reprimanded. Prom itself is not the issue, right? Prom is dramatic. It always has been, right?

[00:10:26]It's always been about getting dressed up, taking pictures, you know, a celebration, right? I for the people that leave those comments, highly doubt prom is the true issue here.

[00:10:36]Subconsciously, often times, black women are taught that confidence is supposed to have a limit, right? Especially if you are a person that society has deemed to not be worthy of confidence. Like a lot of times when you see people that are extremely confident and celebrate themselves and love on themselves and think very highly of themselves, people take that as like almost like disrespect or they take it as like how dare you and feel like they need to like humble them or belittle them. I remember this one creator. I'm going to see if I can find her videos, but she like often times will post videos about how like she's extremely beautiful and how much she loves herself. And the comment sections will be full of people like, "Are you kidding me? Like, you're insane. Like, what's wrong with you?" Because people don't find her to be beautiful even though she is.

[00:11:17]>> I am truly one of the prettiest people I've ever seen in my life. Let's unpack.

[00:11:22]It's been unpacked.

[00:11:23]>> But it's like, how dare you? Like, how dare you celebrate yourself and think that you're beautiful right now? Now, if she were to come to the internet and say, "I hate myself and I'm not happy with the way that I look and I'm miserable and I'm insecure." Oh, nobody.

[00:11:34]They wouldn't be like, "How dare you think that about yourself?" They'd be like, "Yeah, understandable." And they probably be like, "You know, love yourself." Like, people love someone they feel like they can like be above and they can like pick them up like a little tulip on the ground. But the moment someone is like grand with the way that they view themselves, it's like an issue. You know, there's a silent expectation that black women are meant to take up just enough space to not make others feel uncomfortable. But the truth is that in this conversation, the joy of black girls or black people, black teens in this conversation, for example, is going to make these people feel uncomfortable regardless because they want nothing more than for us to be miserable and to not have a reason to celebrate ourselves or feel joy in our lives. And that's just the truth. What do you guys think about this topic? I would love to hear your comments in the comment section down below. Thank you guys so much for watching. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and that notification bell so you can be notified when new videos drop on my channel.

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