She Was In SHOCK When She Saw Another Side Of Men After A Breakup!

[00:00:00]Why didn't nobody tell me what happens to a man after they go through a breakup? Because what I've seen is as soon as I get their heartbroken, that starts their villain era. Right? They're not looking at any girls the same.

[00:00:11]But my friend Justin got broken up with and nobody expected him to go down this road. So I'm like, "Dang." Like everyone's like, "So how are you feeling? How are you doing?" He's like, "Honestly, like I'm okay right now. Like I was really hurt the first 2 weeks, but like I'm feeling a lot better and I'm just going to like put this negative energy like I'm going to switch it to a positive and like just just grind."

[00:00:33]I'm like, "Dang." I'm like, "Honestly, what he's saying sounds great, but there's just no way."

[00:00:38]>> Boy, ain't no way, boy.

[00:00:41]Boy, ain't no way, boy.

[00:00:43]You sure about that?

[00:00:45]You sure about that? You sure about that?

[00:00:48]>> A few moments later.

[00:00:50]>> Weeks later, right? Everybody's texting Justin, making sure he's okay. We're trying to plan things to do as a group.

[00:00:56]But for some reason, he's not showing up to anything. So I call him. I'm like, "Hey Justin, what's going on?"

[00:01:03]He's like, "Oh, nothing. I'm getting ready. I'm about to go to the gym."

[00:01:07]The gym?

[00:01:08]So I was like, "When did you start working out?"

[00:01:10]He's like, "Oh, yeah. Like no, I can't make that. Um I have kickball tonight."

[00:01:15]I said, "Kickball?" He's like, "Yeah, I joined a kickball league." I was like, "Okay." I'm like, "So are you free at all this weekend? Like we were going to try like this new beach." He's like, "Uh I can't this weekend. I'm going to New York."

[00:01:28]New York?

[00:01:30]I'm lost.

[00:01:31]>> Good job, my brother. We rocking with you.

[00:01:33]>> Who's advocating for the average man?

[00:01:36]>> Wait a minute.

[00:01:45]>> [ __ ] you mean?

[00:01:51]>> Oh [music] my god.

[00:01:56]>> Y'all saw right?

[00:01:59]>> [music] [music] [music] >> What's going on, YouTube? It is your boy Rome back with another video. If you're new to the platform, welcome to the tribe. By the end of this video, I hope you subscribe.

[00:02:27]First off, I want to just say I love hearing stories like this.

[00:02:32]Um a woman has a friend that goes through a breakup, and supposedly she is shocked to see the turnaround that he made after that breakup.

[00:02:44]Without further ado, let's go on ahead and get into it.

[00:02:47]>> Why didn't nobody tell me what happens to a man after they go through a breakup?

[00:02:51]Because what I've seen is as soon as they get their heartbroken, that starts their villain era. Right? They're not looking at any girls the same.

[00:02:58]But my friend Justin got broken up with, and nobody expected him to go down this road. So, it was a nice day out.

[00:03:04]Everybody's typing in the group chat like, "What should we do today?" Blah, blah, blah. Like, "There's this new patio spot we should try."

[00:03:11]And best believe I'm down. Right?

[00:03:12]Anything outdoor with some food, count me in. So, we all meet up at this outdoor patio place, and we all are completely shocked when Justin shows up.

[00:03:24]So, Justin gets there, and we're looking at him like, "Hold on.

[00:03:27]Where's Andrea?" Right? That's his girlfriend. His girlfriend of 4 years, mind you.

[00:03:33]And we don't see her with.

[00:03:35]>> You don't find that suspicious?

[00:03:38]You don't find that suspicious?

[00:03:41]You don't find that suspicious?

[00:03:43]>> So, the first thing we say is, "Hey, what up, Justin? Where's Andrea?"

[00:03:47]He's like, "Ah, man, I got something to tell y'all."

[00:03:53]This should be good. Right, Justin is not a talker at all. You never really know what's going on.

[00:03:59]But he lets everything out this day.

[00:04:01]So, he starts going with yeah, like me me and Andrea are done.

[00:04:07]I'm sorry, what? Everyone's reaction at the table was literally the loudest gasp I probably ever heard. Right, in my head I'm thinking I thought y'all were locked in. I literally expected a proposal coming up soon. Like that's how good I thought they were.

[00:04:20]Clearly I was completely wrong. So, I say to Justin, I'm like what happened? Like when did this happen?

[00:04:29]Justin tells us it happened a month ago.

[00:04:32]Right, he tells us it happened a month ago. He's like, "Yeah, honestly like it came out of the blue. Like we were literally just chilling at home and she asked to talk and she said her feelings just haven't been there and like she wants to be with someone she sees a future with and she just doesn't know if she sees a future with me anymore. Like I don't know."

[00:04:51]>> Are you pondering what I'm pondering?

[00:04:53]>> I think so, Brain.

[00:04:55]>> This is [ __ ] >> I'm like that is insane. Right, it's one thing to break up over like a reason.

[00:05:03]It's another thing to just leave somebody like low-key out of like relationship boredom.

[00:05:08]So, I'm like dang. Like everyone's like, "So, how are you feeling? How are you doing?"

[00:05:12]He's like, "Honestly, like I'm okay right now. Like I was really hurt the first 2 weeks, but like I'm feeling a lot better and I'm just going to like put this negative energy like I'm going to switch it to a positive and like just just grind."

[00:05:25]>> Good job, my brother. We rocking with you.

[00:05:28]>> I'm like dang. I'm like honestly, what he's saying sounds great.

[00:05:31]But there's just no way.

[00:05:33]>> Boy, ain't no way, boy.

[00:05:35]Boy, ain't no way, boy.

[00:05:37]>> [snorts] >> Right, you're dating somebody for 4 years. You're in love. You wanted to like have a future with them and they just leave you like that?

[00:05:44]He might be hurt for a while. Right, and we were all expecting that.

[00:05:48]But let me tell you, that was not the case. Weeks later, right? Everybody's texting Justin, making sure he's okay. We're trying to plan things to do as a group.

[00:05:57]But for some reason, he's not showing up to anything.

[00:06:00]Right? He no longer wants to go out to eat. He doesn't want to go on these walks. He doesn't want to go try the beach. Nothing.

[00:06:06]I'm thinking, okay, he might really be down bad.

[00:06:09]So I call him. I'm like, "Hey Justin, what's going on?"

[00:06:12]He's like, "Oh, nothing. I'm getting ready. I'm about to go to the gym."

[00:06:16]The gym?

[00:06:18]Sounds funny. Did you start working out?

[00:06:19]Right?

[00:06:20]I'm like, "Oh."

[00:06:22]"Okay, cool. Cool. Um did you see like we were trying to go to the baseball game tonight?"

[00:06:26]He's like, "Oh yeah, like no, I can't make that. Um I have kickball tonight."

[00:06:31]I said, "Kickball?" He's like, "Yeah, I joined a kickball league." I was like, "Okay." I'm like, "So are you free at all this weekend? Like we were going to try like this new beach." He's like, "Uh I can't this weekend. I'm going to New York."

[00:06:44]New York?

[00:06:46]I'm lost. Right? He ends up telling me he has a job offer, but it would be in New York, but like it's a huge opportunity.

[00:06:53]I'm like, "Dude, that's fire." Right?

[00:06:55]This is not something I would ever even expect from Justin. He's very Tim Sale, and he's not the type you would think would ever even leave his hometown.

[00:07:04]Right? So I'm like, "Oh, that's lit."

[00:07:06]Blah blah blah. He's like, "Yeah, but I'm back Sunday. Like let's do something Monday."

[00:07:10]I'm like, "Okay, cool."

[00:07:12]He comes back Monday, right? We all go out to dinner.

[00:07:15]I see a whole 'nother side of Justin.

[00:07:17]So we're out to dinner. I'm asking, "How was New York? Like what's up with this job?"

[00:07:23]He's telling us. He's like, "Yeah, this job is crazy. Like I'd help with this business. I'd improve their marketing, and like I would just tell them what's working, what's not, cuz like I'm young, they're old, they don't they don't get the trends. But like yeah, they said I would start at like 350, and I'd get like a 20, 30 thousand dollar signing bonus."

[00:07:42]We all We all were stunned. We said, "Hold on. You $350,000 with a $20,000 signing bonus?" He's like, "Yeah, I know. It's crazy, right?"

[00:07:53]I'm thinking, "How did you even get this set up?" He doesn't even tell us that part. Instead, this man switches the entire conversation and asks us all a question we were not ready for.

[00:08:03]He's like, "What are you guys doing tomorrow?

[00:08:05]Like, you guys got plans tomorrow?"

[00:08:07]Most of us were like, "No, like, we're free. What's up?"

[00:08:10]He goes, "Yeah, I have a Little League football team I coach tomorrow. Like, we play at 7:00, and they would love it if you came."

[00:08:17]Since when did you start coaching Little League football? I'm like, "Yeah, I'm I'm down to go, right?" Everybody agrees.

[00:08:23]And we finish eating, but I got to catch up with Justin, right? I got to make sure you're really okay, cuz you're doing stuff I ain't never seen you do.

[00:08:31]Right? This is the type of man who's in the house playing video games, really not coming out unless we're watching a sports game, right?

[00:08:38]It's sports and video games. That's about it.

[00:08:41]So, I run up to him while he's going to his car. I'm like, "Justin, like, are you actually good? Like, are you doing good?"

[00:08:48]He's like, "Honestly, I'm doing a lot better than I thought I would be."

[00:08:52]I'm like, "Yeah, you seem to be doing like great. Like, you're doing stuff you normally did not do." He's like, "Yeah, like, the football thing I started coaching, like, I love doing that. The kickball league I'm in, I'm meeting some great people. This New York thing, like, it's it's so fire. Like, I can't wait."

[00:09:10]I'm like, "Since Like, is this all from the breakup or like, what's going on?" He's like, "Honestly, like, the breakup kept me so comfy.

[00:09:18]Like, I need to get out of my comfort zone. Like, I was doing the same thing all the time. Like, I'm not even surprised she wanted to leave me."

[00:09:25]Shut up. He's like, "Yeah, and I found this thing called Gleam, and I swear that's been helping me so much."

[00:09:31]I'm like, "What is that?" He's like, "Hold on." This man pulls out his phone, shows me this app called Gleam, g l e a m. He's like, "Look, it has like stuff that helps with um social anxiety, dating life, like networking. Like I've been using this every single day."

[00:09:48]I'm like, "Hold on."

[00:09:50]I grab his phone, I look at it. It literally has like practice things like if you were using like Duolingo to learn Spanish, but instead you're learning social skills.

[00:09:58]I'm like, "Wait, this is fire. Like honestly, I might need to use this."

[00:10:01]So, we finish talking. I'm like, "I'll see you tomorrow at the game, right?" I go to the game. It was great.

[00:10:07]Fast forward two, three weeks later.

[00:10:11]This man invites us all out to eat. He's like, "Bro, I got something to tell y'all."

[00:10:16]At this point, I I don't know what it could be. So, we all meet up at a nice dinner spot that he picked. So, I'm thinking this must be a big deal.

[00:10:23]I see this man walk in the door, right?

[00:10:26]I never see him dressed up. Man's got a fresh haircut, right? Fresh lined up.

[00:10:31]Okay, curls looking nice and moisturized.

[00:10:34]He got nice dress pants on, nice little dress shirt. I even notice when he walks over, he got a little watch on.

[00:10:40]I'm like, "Hold on, Justin. What What you got going on?"

[00:10:43]Right, he sits down at the table.

[00:10:45]We're like, "So, what's up?" He's like, "You guys."

[00:10:48]He's like, "Look."

[00:10:50]Shows us he got the job offer in New York.

[00:10:54]I'm so happy I could cry, right?

[00:10:56]Everyone's excited. Everybody's happy for him. He's like, "Yeah, like before I posted it on my Insta story, like I wanted to show y'all first, blah blah blah." So, we're like, "Yeah, thanks for telling us. Like congrats, it's awesome." He tells us he's about to move to New York, right? Which okay, makes us sad, but we're like, "We got a place to visit.

[00:11:12]We're going We're definitely going to come visit you."

[00:11:14]And well, everything is good. Everything is great, right? This man, he posted on Insta while we're there. So, I see it on Insta, right? I like it. I'm I'm with him.

[00:11:22]But while we're there, I see him get a call, right? His phone is face up.

[00:11:31]Clear, bold letters it says Andrea.

[00:11:34]He looks at his phone. He's like, um I look at his phone and I'm like, "Yo, why is she calling you?"

[00:11:41]He's like, "I don't know. I don't know, but I'm not answering it."

[00:11:45]All of a sudden, my phone starts ringing.

[00:11:48]I look, Andrea's calling me.

[00:11:51]I'm like, "Dude, it might be important.

[00:11:52]Like, should I answer the phone?"

[00:11:54]He's like, "How does she even know we're together?" I'm like, "I don't know."

[00:11:59]It We We talk too long. She She doesn't let the whole thing ring. It goes dead, right?

[00:12:05]Then all of a sudden, his phone dings, right? She is on it. Text from Andrea.

[00:12:11]He goes and looks at it.

[00:12:13]He's like, "Bro." Flips the phone for all of us to see.

[00:12:17]Andrea text him talking about, "Congrats on your job offer. Wish I was there to celebrate."

[00:12:26]Baby, you just trying to Is this Do you mean this? I don't know, right?

[00:12:32]So, we're sitting there. We're asking him, "Are you going to respond? Are you going to say anything?" He's like, "I don't know. Like, I don't think I should." I'm like, "Yeah, whatever you want to do, but honestly, she might be cooked, right? She might be done for.

[00:12:42]She's just trying to come back when you're successful. Nada."

[00:12:44]So, we're sitting there having a great time. We're probably there for an hour.

[00:12:47]As we're getting up to leave, right? We walk out the door.

[00:12:51]All of a sudden, we all see Andrea get out of her car.

[00:12:59]Why is she here?

[00:13:00]>> You know why.

[00:13:03]>> [music] [music] >> Now, obviously, they keep a limit on Tik Tok, so she had to break this into two parts.

[00:13:16]So, I'm going to play the second part here shortly.

[00:13:19]Um but, let me just say this.

[00:13:23]It's pretty obvious and easy how she found out that you was there because she was still following you when she saw your story.

[00:13:30]That's how she knew where all y'all was at.

[00:13:32]And whether y'all were together or not, that would that probably could have just been a educated guess because she know y'all cool.

[00:13:40]And maybe that's the only other person's number she probably had access to as far as that friend group. But that's what happened.

[00:13:47]That's That's what happened, bro. I keep telling you guys, bro, success is the best revenge along with that social proof.

[00:13:58]It It It works It bro.

[00:14:00]It It literally sells itself, man.

[00:14:03]It does the work for you.

[00:14:06]You put in the work, it'll it the the social proof along with that will do the work for you, bro. I promise. Every time, bro.

[00:14:14]Never fails.

[00:14:15]Let's keep it moving.

[00:14:16]>> If your ex randomly pulls up on you, good luck. Because Justin's ex Andrea pulled up on him out of the blue, and baby, nobody was for that. So, me, Justin, and some of our friends just got done having a great dinner. Right? We had a good time. We were chatting it up.

[00:14:34]But at the end of the dinner, Justin's phone is blowing up.

[00:14:37]Andrea. My phone is blowing up. Andrea.

[00:14:40]I'm thinking, how does she even know we're together? Right? How does she know we're all hanging out?

[00:14:44]Then we walk outside, and who Whose car is out there and gets out? Andrea.

[00:14:52]Right? So, I'm seeing this whole thing in 4K.

[00:14:55]Right?

[00:14:56]We walk outside, Andrea gets out of her car. She's like, "Justin, Justin, like can I please just talk to you really quick?"

[00:15:05]I'm looking at You seeing this? I'm looking at Justin like, "What you finna do?"

[00:15:09]He goes, "Uh what's up?" Right? We're like 10 20 ft from her.

[00:15:14]She's like, "Well, can I talk to you in private, please?"

[00:15:18]He's like, "Well, I'll come right up to you, but that's as private as it's getting.

[00:15:23]Oh.

[00:15:24]Hold on a second.

[00:15:26]So, she she's fine with it, right? She's taking whatever she can get.

[00:15:30]So, I'm standing there and we're our other friends are standing here. Baby, we can hear everything that's being said, right? Andrea is trying to keep it quiet. Ain't nothing was quiet about that.

[00:15:40]So, Justin goes over there >> [music] >> and she's like, "Justin, like I just want to tell you like I heard I heard through some people like you're going to New York. You have a great job. Like I'm just so proud of you and like I wanted to say that in person."

[00:15:54]He's like, "You pulled up just to say that?"

[00:15:57]She's like, "Well, I've also been thinking and like I don't know. I feel like I was just like too hard on you.

[00:16:03]Like I I was always yelling at you and on you, but like I can see like you're >> [music] >> you're more you're more than what I thought you were. Like I don't want to give up on us."

[00:16:15]I'm over here ready to throw up because I know she lying. I know she's lying.

[00:16:20]The only reason shorty is back is New York. I'm just praying Justin knows what what type of vibe she's on.

[00:16:29]I'm listening to Justin. He's like, "I don't know. I don't I don't know."

[00:16:35]And she's like, "I know, but like please please I just give it one more chance."

[00:16:39]Shorty is begging.

[00:16:41]He's like, "Well, would you even want to do long distance?"

[00:16:44]I'm thinking, Justin, why are we [music] considering? Right, your life though.

[00:16:48]Your life. If you want to forgive her and y'all want to try again, that's up to you.

[00:16:52]But I just don't know what what he's trying to get into.

[00:16:56]So, Andrea is talking about, "Well, we can make it work. We can figure it out.

[00:17:00]Like can we at least just start as friends?"

[00:17:03]>> [music] >> Right, she's saying everything good. Everything that somebody who just got heartbroken is probably going to want to hear.

[00:17:10]He's like, "Well, I mean it it won't hurt to be his friends. Like we'll see."

[00:17:16]She gives him a hug, kiss on the cheek, right? She says, "Okay, talk soon.

[00:17:20]Perfect." Waves at us goodbye, gets in her car.

[00:17:26]We go up to Justin. We're like, "Are you good?"

[00:17:29]He's like, "I'm not going to lie. Like, I was not expecting that."

[00:17:33]I'm like, "Well, what are you thinking?"

[00:17:35]He shocks all of us. He's like, "Honestly, I don't even know. Like, I'm still I'm still going for this opportunity. I'm still going to New York in a month.

[00:17:43]Like, I'm locked in."

[00:17:46]He's like, "I I feel like she might just be a distraction and I kind of want something new." Me and all of his other friends are like, "Yeah, honestly, go to New York and try something new. Like, God got you going to New York for a reason. Right?"

[00:17:58]He's like, "Yeah, yeah, you're right."

[00:18:00]So, month goes by. Justin's about to leave, right? And right before he leaves for New York, we all catch up once again. We love doing a dinner.

[00:18:10]And what this man tells us, we were not ready for.

[00:18:15]So, we're out to dinner. We're talking.

[00:18:17]And he's he's telling us how he's showing us his place he's moving into. He's so excited, right? Telling us about his job, all of this, right? And obviously, the Andrea situation is brought up.

[00:18:29]So, somebody asked like, "So, are you going to talk to her when you're there?

[00:18:32]Are you guys going to be friends? What are you thinking?" [music] He's like, "Bro, you you guys look at this."

[00:18:38]I'm like, "Look at what?" This man pulls out his phone.

[00:18:41]Pulls up his call log, pulls up his messages.

[00:18:44]Andrea is not leaving this man alone.

[00:18:48]Constantly. "What are you doing today?

[00:18:50]What are you doing tomorrow? Do you think we could hang this time? Like, please just give me one more chance. I think we should at least be friends.

[00:18:56]Like, can we not be friends?" OD.

[00:19:01]>> I'm not shocked one bit, bro. I swear I'm not. I know exactly what this man did, bro.

[00:19:08]He just played it cool.

[00:19:11]Said, "I'll be cool with you." He did the I'll I'll be cool with you no contact. I guarantee you it will not shock me if that's exactly what he did, bro. I'm telling you guys a Bro, hey, all I can say is your friend Justin know ball.

[00:19:29]He knows ball. That's all I can tell you. He know what he doing.

[00:19:32]>> This [ __ ] don't miss.

[00:19:34]>> No, he's [ __ ] good.

[00:19:35]>> That [ __ ] don't miss, man.

[00:19:37]>> He's good.

[00:19:38]>> He know what he doing, bro. So far, bro, he Yeah, he locked in for real. He locked in locked in.

[00:19:45]>> [laughter] >> We're like, wait, you haven't responded. He's like, yeah, I'm not feeling it.

[00:19:53]We're like, so, I ain't going to lie, like, you [music] you might want to block her, right? Cuz she's doing too much at this point.

[00:20:02]He's like, yeah, I know. I know, like, I wanted to show y'all that, but like, and I just want to double-check with you guys, but I I'm going to block her today, cuz I I fly out tomorrow, and I'm not bringing that with me.

[00:20:12]We're like, yes, proud of you, amazing.

[00:20:15]So, we're having a great time, right?

[00:20:16]Starts getting sentimental and sad at the end. We're hugging We're hugging Justin, excited for him to leave.

[00:20:22]We leave the dinner spot, okay? Justin flies to New York that next day.

[00:20:27]First month in New York, he's sending us pictures. He loves it, right? He's sending us pictures in his suit at his little corporate amazing job, whatever he has.

[00:20:36]We're proud of him, right? We're already thinking of coming out there the second month he's there.

[00:20:42]But tell me why. It's a Thursday night, and we are all in a group chat, and we get a random FaceTime call like 8:00.

[00:20:49]I'm thinking we're about to get a bunch of updates from Justin, right? He might show us his apartment, all of this.

[00:20:54]Baby, we got a lot more than an update.

[00:20:57]So, he's showing us his apartment, okay?

[00:20:59]He wanted to wait until he got it fully set up. He's showing us all the stuff.

[00:21:02]It's small, but it's nice, right? It's New York.

[00:21:05]Telling us he loves his job, his coworkers, right? He's hanging out with his co-workers, which is helping him meet other people, which is just leading him to go to all these different events, all this stuff he's never done, right?

[00:21:14]He was already starting to get out of the box a little bit before. Now he's really getting out of the box.

[00:21:19]Right?

[00:21:21]Now the whole dating life thing, okay?

[00:21:24]That's still what we think behind him.

[00:21:28]But then he's like, yeah, like um I have made a lot of cool friends out here, but I got to tell you about this one person I met. We're like, who? Like a celebrity? Like, you know, New York got a bunch of that. He's like, no, no, no, no, no.

[00:21:41]Sarah.

[00:21:44]Who is Sarah?

[00:21:46]He's like, hold on, guys. Like, I got to show you this.

[00:21:50]Shares his screen with us. Shows us this girl named Sarah.

[00:21:54]We look at the screen.

[00:21:56]I'm like, yo, she's gorgeous. Right?

[00:22:00]Brunette, dark features, right? Very pretty girl. Okay? And it's not like she's like out here, all her little highlights are different countries, different states, doing all this. No, no, no, no, no. Her Instagram is a cute like family photo, right? Her in like a little flowery meadow. Gorgeous.

[00:22:18]I said, so who who is Sarah to you?

[00:22:21]He's like, well, I don't know. We've just been hanging out and going on dates kind of, and I don't know. I I really like her. Like, not going to lie, the whole time I've been out here, especially now with her, I haven't even thought about Andrea.

[00:22:32]I said, oh.

[00:22:34]She's telling us, right? She's into sports, she goes and watch sports games with him.

[00:22:39]Right? Doing activities he likes to do.

[00:22:42]Andrea never did that. Right? He's getting involved in stuff she likes to do.

[00:22:46]Doing all of this.

[00:22:48]I almost want to tear up on the phone.

[00:22:50]I'm like, Justin, if anybody deserves it, it's you.

[00:22:54]And he's like, bro, yeah, and like, I haven't been in the dating game in a minute, so this was tough. I'm like, yeah, like, how did y'all even connect?

[00:23:01]This man tells us he's still using that app called Gleam, right, G L A A M, but this time instead of social networking, he clicked the dating life. Right, he's using the dating life part, shows how to approach women, what to say, how to do it confidently, and you know we eat that up, right? I'm eating that up. Okay?

[00:23:19]So, he's like, "Yeah, like I've been using that and like I I saw her when we were all out, right? We were all at a little sports bar watching the game, and I just went right up to her and I started yapping."

[00:23:31]Thinking, dude, you might be him. You got the job, you got a gorgeous cool girl, you in New York?

[00:23:39]You just gave me another reason to use that app cuz I forgot about it, but I will be back on it. Now, we end up talking for like an hour on FaceTime and then we all hang up. But after we hang up the phone, telling you probably 3 minutes later, Justin calls me individually.

[00:23:53]I'm thinking, I mean, we are a little closer, maybe he wanted to tell me something that he didn't want to tell the whole group.

[00:23:58]So, I answer this call.

[00:24:00]And I'm like, "Hey, Justin, what's up?"

[00:24:02]And he's like, "Yo, I didn't want to tell like everybody this because I don't I I still don't know what everybody would think, but like, what do you think if I bought this when I when I get that bonus, like if I put this as a down payment?"

[00:24:14]I'm thinking, about what?

[00:24:16]He's like, "Hold on." Screen shares again.

[00:24:19]This man pulls up an all black, he pulls up my dream car. All black matte AMG GLE 63. He said, "What do you think if I bought this?"

[00:24:32]I said, "Honestly, if I were you, I would buy it." I said, "Yeah, definitely buy that car, but just so you know, Andrea probably about to be on that as soon as she sees you post." He tells me something I didn't know if I was going to hear. He's like, "Nah, I didn't just block her on text that day, like, she's blocked on Insta, Snapchat, TikTok, everything. Like, I'm completely done with her."

[00:24:54]I thought, I'm so proud of you.

[00:24:56]>> Good job, my brother. We're rocking with you.

[00:24:58]>> She said, "I am so proud of you."

[00:25:01]Yeah, man. Salute to him, bro.

[00:25:04]Yo, I again, I love hearing stories like this, bro. I really do.

[00:25:10]Uh yeah, you can see already that woman know that woman know she missed out.

[00:25:14]>> You broke up with the man.

[00:25:16]And he did not fight to get you back. He hit you with the okay.

[00:25:20]He was not outside your house, baby. He didn't give you no type of tussle or nothing.

[00:25:24]Now your chest is hurting.

[00:25:26]Hi, my name [screaming] is Cecilia. I'm a confidence and dating coach, and I teach women how to control their emotions so that their emotions don't control them. Stink. Aw, stink. Bring it in, babe. [laughter] Bring it in. Okay.

[00:25:40]Men process emotions so much differently and slower than women, okay? So, always remember, women cry first, men cry longer. Women cry first, men cry longer.

[00:25:54]So, if you're asking, "Is he thinking about me? Was this even real? Did he ever really want to be with me?" Yes.

[00:26:00]He actually probably is thinking about you. Yes, it probably was real, and y'all, you know, he the man does care about you.

[00:26:09]Give him time to process his emotions, right? Now, what you don't want to do is start ping-ponging and going back on your word and your decision. This what I told y'all, stop doing this [ __ ] Stop trying to break up with a man thinking that that that's going to bait him so you can see how he really feel about you. Stop doing this [ __ ] Stop. Stop.

[00:26:27]Stop. Stop. Stop. It never works. You're going to end up, baby, with your chest caved in. Because now [screaming] he hit you with the okay, cool. I'm good, love.

[00:26:35]Enjoy. Yeah, stop. Stop doing [music] it. Stop doing it.

[00:26:39]>> You're a victim.

[00:26:41]And we go see that's all right. You good.

[00:26:43]>> She said, "With your you know, you know, with your chest caved in." Oh, weak as hell.

[00:26:47]Oh, [ __ ] I like that's exactly what happened to shorty. He had to block her.

[00:26:54]She said, "Oh, that man was That girl was blowing him up OD." I'm like, "Yeah."

[00:27:01]Yep, I know what that's like.

[00:27:02]>> When a man goes through heartbreak, he always levels up. First, when a man goes through heartbreak, his brain experiences something similar to withdrawal from a drug. Romantic attachment activates the brain's dopamine reward system, the same system involved in addiction. The relationship ends, dopamine drops, cortisol rises, and the brain experiences emotional pain, something similar to physical pain. And this activates what's called an identity threat. His brain starts asking, "Why wasn't I good enough? How can I make sure this doesn't happen again?" So, the brain does what it's designed to do under pressure. It searches for control. Fastest way a man can regain control, his body, his money, his status, his discipline. That's why men start lifting, start building businesses. The pain forces identity reconstruction. The breakup forces a man to confront something that most people avoid. Who am I without validation? So, he rebuilds himself, not emotionally, but biologically. The gym, his success, his discipline start creating new dopamine pathways. Over time, his brain starts associating self-improvement with reward instead of a relationship. And that's when transformation happens. Men finally level up after breakup because the pain forced them to become someone that they were avoiding this entire time.

[00:28:16]>> I don't think you could verbalize that any better. He hit the nail on the head.

[00:28:21]And that's exactly what happened to me.

[00:28:23]I shared this story before.

[00:28:25]The last serious relationship that I was in, literally spent my last dime trying to be that provider that all women claim that you're supposed to be only to end up getting played in the end.

[00:28:39]And not too long after that, I regrouped, got myself together.

[00:28:44]You know what I mean? Started going to the gym.

[00:28:48]Started leveling up um at my job.

[00:28:51]Essentially, you know, at the time, yeah, I was working at a warehouse and was able to work my way all the way up to supervisor of an entire warehouse building by myself. But, only they end up leaving because it was some [ __ ] with management going on, but still, and then eventually found my way to the last job that I previously was at prior to me um leaving that place to do YouTube full-time.

[00:29:22]So, I just say all that to say like, you know, that's pretty much a short form of my RP journey leading leading up to now, basically. So, um 100% bro, cuz I always say this, man, if I was the person and if I had that mindset and the person that I am now 20 years ago, I could have been where I was at now 10 years ago. See what I'm saying?

[00:29:48]That's why I be trying to um talk to the young and reach the young bro. For real, for real, man. So, that way y'all don't make the same mistakes and waste time like I did.

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[00:30:17]Deuces.

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