This video explores colorism within Black communities through a panel discussion where the speaker challenges the notion that dark-skinned Black women are only beautiful because of their skin tone. The speaker argues that all Black women are dark-skinned by definition and should embrace their natural beauty, while criticizing panelists for using confirmation bias to dismiss compliments about dark-skinned women. The discussion highlights how colorism creates internal hierarchies and how self-acceptance is essential for Black women to walk in confidence, regardless of their skin tone.
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>> Let's begin.
>> Excuse me, y'all. Give me one moment.
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>> Okay, I'm back, y'all. Hey y'all. Hey.
[laughter] Oh y'all.
Now y'all, we are here some little conversation tonight, honey. And the kids got so upset.
I don't really understand why.
So, we're going to review some [ __ ] and then we're going to talk about some [ __ ] Let's watch.
>> Go ahead. Go ahead. Go ahead. I did want to say this about the two black ladies.
The lady at the restaurant. The lady at the restaurant. Listen, and this is for all black women. You're dark skin, you're beautiful. Walk in your confidence. If you know you're beautiful, walk in your confidence. If you're tired of going to places and not seeing black men with black women that look like you, then get you a black man and go to those places with a black woman with a black man so there can be a black man with a woman that looks like you. To the woman that was now I'm I'mma make this the big screen cuz I want y'all to see something real quick. In Bali like you and this is for all black women. You're dark skin, you're beautiful. Walk in your confidence. If you know you're beautiful, walk in your confidence. If you're tired of going to places and not seeing black men with black women that look like you, then get you a black man and go to those places with a black woman with a black man so there can be a black man with a woman that looks like you. To the woman that was in Bali. Now, who would have ever thought me saying the [ __ ] truth would make a man on the panel go crazy and then make Clancy, Snow Bandit, Wilbert follow suit?
I really want to know what is the issue that y'all have with someone telling someone, that they're beautiful, that they're confident, that they should walk in their confidence if they know that they're beautiful, and that instead of complaining about people not taking Hey, that's what's popping. not taking someone to a restaurant that looks like them. They should go to these places by theirelves.
Well, some of these men, I think, don't really like themselves cuz you saw this man over here, Blanch, shaking his head.
Oh no. Oh no. Oh no. Now you heard what I said. I'mma play it again just in case you missed it. You beautiful. And this is for all black women. You're dark skin, you're beautiful. Walk in your confidence. If you know you're beautiful, walk in your confidence. If you're tired of going to places and not Look at him as soon as I say, if you know you're beautiful, walk in your confidence, he's shaking his head. No.
For those of you that don't understand.
Yeah. To all black women.
I was told on this show that compared to a white woman, I'm darkkinned. So guess what?
Every black woman, you're dark-kinned.
You're beautiful.
Walk in your confidence.
See, here's the gag and the drag of it all. Black women, because they have melanin, are considered dark complexed.
No matter if you are as light as me, lighter than me, as dark as the men on the panel, or whatever else, you're considered dark complexed. As a matter of fact, Italians are considerate dark-kinned.
Catch.
But let's see how these men respond.
Hey, beautiful gorgeous. I'm seeing black men with black women that look like you. Then get you a black man and go to those places with a black woman with a black man so there can be a black man with a woman that looks like you. to the woman that was in Bali, you just assumed that he was black American because his skin was black. So, how much world traveling have you done? Cuz now you know it's the setup cuz as I'm talking, he's moving the boxes because Blanch is over there shaking his head and having a whole moment. Now look at what the first thing is that Blanch says when I come up there focused on 50 million other things. He could have been in his head. And the fact that you went on that diet tribe and like really lost your whole mind and then said, "I'm not checking for you." No, sweetheart. You in fact are checking for him because if you weren't checking for him, you wouldn't have went on a rant on social media.
>> Go ahead, Blanch.
>> Um, so you said that because she's dark skin, she beautiful.
What I said was to all black women.
You're dark skinned and you're beautiful.
And why is that an issue to a bunch of black men? And it's really only two black men that this is an issue for.
Because later on in the lines, all of us were laughing. All of us. All of us were laughing. What the [ __ ] are you talking about?
The issue in a lot of these conversations, these panel conversations, is people go into the conversation with confirmation bias.
They hear what it is that they want to hear. They internalize it however they want to internalize it, and they just can't have the logical conversation.
Now, gentlemen, don't take this personal. It's it's we're just going to talk about statements and facts. And I want you to really listen to how this panel processed well to the people that participated in the conversation, how they processed what was said. Remember to all black women, you're dark skin, you're beautiful. Stop complaining about going to places with me without where men that look like you are dating other people and take someone there that looks like you and is with a woman that looks like you so you don't really have to focused on what everybody else is doing.
[laughter] >> No, I said she's dark skin and she is beautiful and she should walk in her confidence.
>> Okay. But is she beautiful because she's beautiful because she darkkinned? She's beautiful because she's beautiful. If you were here and you watched the clip, she made the reference because of the color of her skin. There weren't women in the restaurant that look like her.
That was her exact whole entire point.
>> No, but was that woman be what we're asking >> now? He's asking me, not what we're asking.
Blanch is asking me specifically, is she beautiful cuz she's dark skin or is she beautiful because she's beautiful? To which I answered the question, then it's, well, is that woman beautiful? Well, damn. Y'all have to find her beautiful.
I'm not centered on having sex with her.
So, I'm going to look at her beauty standard differently than what you're going to look at her beauty standard because y'all just want to smash. Let's keep it a stack.
is is that woman once you use the phrase beautiful I'm thinking eight and up.
Beautiful is a strong word. You beautiful is a strong word.
Well, you know, every now and again I got to break out the good old, you know, the good old AI cuz you know I was [ __ ] confused. To me, beautiful is just regular dear schmegula.
It ain't that deep. So, let's go here.
Everyday language and compliment hierarchy. People intuitively stra stack descriptors like this, especially for people, art, and experiences.
Level lower, cute, pretty, attractive.
Those would be your fives and under.
Yeah, a little bit. Uh mid it's beautiful, classic, harmonious. Higher than that is gorgeous, stunning, breathtaking, dazzling, and peak is breathtaking, mesmerizing, transcendent, radiant, sublime, divine, ethereal, otherworldly.
Now, I'm trying to have a conversation with these people because I'm going there in good faith.
But let's continue.
>> You can't say that [ __ ] dick long and it's five inches. [laughter] >> Why are we talking about dig when I'm telling women that they're beautiful and they need to walk in their confidence?
A lot of these conversations always wind up having a focal point around the nether regions.
beauty has nothing to do with sexuality at all.
Hell, there are parks that are beautiful, but the Grand Canyon is [ __ ] breathtaking. It's goddamn mesmerizing to be a a statement of fact.
But again, when you sitting here and you're having conversations with people that don't want to have conversations and just want to be right, uh, the plot gets lost. Let's continue.
>> Y'all wouldn't say it.
>> I think what Blanch is saying, Blanch, if I'm wrong, women are way too liberal with their damn compliments of other women because they want the same [ __ ] compliment. Y'all are way liberal when y'all be telling all kinds OF [ __ ] THEY BEAUTIFUL. WATCH Y'ALL DO IT TO A UGLY [ __ ] That word is used so much.
>> Do you think maybe people have an issue with other people telling people that they're beautiful?
Because once people hear that they're beautiful. It It's Pavlovian.
It's conditioning.
Once you give words of affirmation to someone, especially someone that suffers from a insecurity issue, one of the key treatments for insecurity disorders is words of affirmation.
People are allowed to have their own perspectives on what beauty is, and people are allowed to give other people words of affirmation.
I blew the these people's mind because I told them I don't think Halib Berry is a 10. I don't There are plenty other people that are that look better than Halib Berry. I'm not saying Halle B is a ugly woman, but I don't think that she is at the peak that people say she is.
But let's continue.
>> What does beautiful mean? If that woman's beautiful, what the [ __ ] is Halle B?
Halib Berry's okay. But this is the thing. Beauty [laughter] is in the eye of the beholder. I don't think that Halib Berry is that pretty.
She just looks like a >> So why did you throw that compliment to this lady then?
>> So now because I don't think that Halib Berry is all of that. I can't think that anybody else is beautiful because y'all lust after Halib Berry because Halib Berry as a light-skinned woman is is the pinnacle of what you're chasing.
I think Iman is a whole [ __ ] 10. I think she looks way better than Halib Berry. Always has and always will.
Halib Berry is just regular deg be for real right now.
But as I'm speaking, I want you to note they're asking me a question. As I'm answering the question, because they don't like the answer that I'm giving, Grace Jones. Exactly. Because they don't like the answer that I'm giving. They're cutting me off.
Intriguing.
So, is this a conversation or is this just an attack?
She want this this lady. She dark skin.
>> She's she's a pretty girl. She has a big Now.
Tommy just said this man never said that. Blanch said the only reason I said she was beautiful was because she's dark skinned.
What are we talking about right now?
Oh, she's only beautiful because she's dark skin. Well, the lighting is poor.
Maybe your computer screen lighting is poor. I have really great monitors and and my screen is on bright. It's at brightness on my computers, so I can actually see people. I don't wear glasses, so you know. Let's continue. We gonna get to that part, too. Poorhead. But she's a pretty girl. Like, she's a pretty girl.
>> WHAT WAS SO PRETTY is what I asked. What was so pretty?
>> Delegate Tally Berry to Okay. What made this woman not get found by John Singleton? We She should be the [ __ ] that we should be looking at.
>> Bull person that should be on the movie.
Like, but what I'm saying is >> somebody hold on real quick, Roie. When you're not speaking, you gotta mute because somebody has a bad echo. Go ahead, Rajie. I'm sorry.
>> So, you know, her smile is really nice.
I think her eyes are pretty. You know, >> it was really good.
>> Wilbert.
>> Oh, my bad.
>> Yes.
>> Is good a little bit, huh? We know, baby. It's all right. But you >> got the loudest mic and got the Go ahead.
>> You know, I think I think her face was very pretty and I think her smile was great. I don't think that she's like a eight or anything like that, but I do think that she's a beautiful woman.
>> So, I think it's interesting. If you got a eight, what would you, if you gave her out of 10, what would you give her?
>> Five.
>> Come on.
>> So she like Jones. So she's like D Jones. She's average.
>> See, y'all so mean. I mean, >> what the average mean? If you GAVE HER A FIVE, YOU GAVE HER THE FIVE.
>> That means she's midcale.
And as I just showed you in the hierarchy of compliments, beautiful is mid, it's an appropriate compliment.
But because these are men and because, you know, maybe they just wanted to bang on that black woman, they're all riding in for this. And I want you to understand there is one, two, three, four men up there that are extremely darkkinned.
What are we saying? What are we saying?
Because y'all said she not beautiful.
They're beautiful.
>> We agreed with you when you said average. Okay, that is that taking away from the fact that they said she's not beautiful cuz they were really in their feelings because I said that Halib Berry is okay.
So, y'all are really upset because I don't think Hal I don't value Halle Berry the way you value Halle Berry and I still see beauty in this woman and y'all are really upset because I told all black women to walk in confidence and walk in their purpose.
Like this is about the most ignorant conversation I've ever seen in my life and it's not even a conversation. Okay.
So, she's five. Yeah. But I think that she looks beautiful in her five.
>> Okay. See how you betray your own words.
What do you think she is? A five. And what is a five out of 10?
>> It's average.
>> Average.
>> Beautiful is average.
Beautiful quite literally is mid.
So is that me betraying? Hey sis, is that me betraying my own words or is that you not having a broad understanding of the terminology? I'm confused.
And y'all see I'm still being nice. I'm still being pleasant.
And this is what these people do a lot of times.
>> Yeah.
>> Right. But I also think that average people >> you refuse to say this. You went right back >> and as I'm speaking because my point was and I think that average people are beautiful.
Let me give y'all a reality check and a news flash.
A lot of people have a overinflated sense of self.
A lot of y'all, men and women, really believe that y'all are like seven, eights, nines, tens. Kevin Samuel's already going to let you know you're not. A lot of y'all are average at best.
And that's okay.
That's beautiful. That's handsome.
It's okay to be average.
This is why we have stunning people that stand out, right? And wind up being movie stars, but we also have people that are not that stunning that wind up being movie stars and [ __ ] like that, too. Be so for real. This is the problem with the black community.
The black community is so lost in wanting to be right that they lose the plots to be able to have meaningful conversations to really explore the perspectives that are being fed into the community.
I told y'all I'm not here to kiss nobody ass. I don't really give a [ __ ] say right. She's okay. She's not all that though. She's simply not >> too beautiful AFTER YOU CALLED HER average >> because your your standard and your metrics for beautiful is not my standard or my metrics for beautiful.
>> What number would you give her?
>> Yes, five and up is beautiful. And I think a lot of men that would call themselves average are also goodlooking, decent looking. I think that people that are like a 10, they're gorgeous. They're stunning. See, there's a difference between stunning.
>> What's eight?
>> Pretty.
>> And five is beautiful.
>> Yeah. Pretty.
>> Eight is pretty.
>> Last I checked, a woman would rather be called beautiful than pretty.
>> The last you checked, a woman would rather be called beautiful than pretty.
My god, you didn't even know that beautiful is a midterm.
So I'm Hey, China baby. So like what are we talking about here?
Beautiful legitimately is a midterm. And yeah, pretty pretty is lower than beautiful, but that's not the pinnacle.
Sha White look better than Halib Berry.
Get into it.
So if you think Halib Berry is a [ __ ] eight, I know you think China White is a dime.
What are we talking about?
Be so for real.
That's fine if that's what she >> as a woman. You need to tell me who would you rather be called. Seriously, a beautiful woman or a pretty woman?
>> Beautiful stop. Beautiful stuff.
>> Yeah. Like come on everybody.
>> So you're asking me a question and I'm really sitting there thinking like which one would I rather be called? And you going to answer for me.
You and your friend, you going to answer for me. Are either one of you women?
You're not.
And that's the problem. Y'all are always having these conversations which are steeped around women that are materialistic, women that are self-absorbed, women that are narcissistic in nature.
My husband could call me pretty. He could call me beautiful. He could call me cute. He could call me gorgeous. And what I'm going to say is thank you.
Would rather. What are y'all talking about?
Anything to try to prove a point, but everything to stop someone from speaking and being able to make their point.
Because none of this has anything to do with the fact that I said black women, YOU'RE DARK SKIN AND YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL.
Stand in your [ __ ] confidence and STOP TRIPPING OFF OF WHAT THESE PEOPLE ARE DOING WHEN THEY'RE OUTSIDE DATING.
Find the person for you.
It's not that hard to do.
It's really not as this is already what a hour and some change into the show. An hour and nine minutes into the show after these same men are talking about how twos are getting married, how they prefer not to marry a eight or 10 cuz they don't want everybody wanting to [ __ ] their woman. Now all of a sudden the average chick not beautiful. So, you mean to tell me all of you that are marrying average ass women, your wives are not beautiful.
At least to you.
That's the real T.
That's the real T.
Y'all will sleep with any woman on any number, on any scale. You'll marry women that are not the supermodels that you desire because you're afraid of the competition, right? And then y'all not telling y'all why is they beautiful either? Jesus Christ. I'm I'm confused.
Knows beautiful is like this. It's is this exalted word.
>> Beautiful is an exalted word where They don't say that when Miss USA get crowned. She's the prettiest woman. No, they don't say that. They say the most beautiful woman.
They saying this [ __ ] is walking around waving. They say beauty. Be they didn't say pretty in the beast. You know who they call pretty? The [ __ ] that was with uh Richard Gear. She was pretty woman.
>> I can't stand.
>> They didn't call her beautiful woman.
So, and actually he doesn't even know what he's talking about when it comes down to the Miss America song either.
And again, I'mma just show you because [ __ ] it.
I don't I don't like when people like to play in my face and I don't like to really have to get this deep into some [ __ ] with people, but you trying to disrespect me. So now I'm gonna hit you with the truth. The classic Miss America song, There She Is Miss America, was written by Bernie Wayne in 1955 and it was famously sung at the pageant. It includes the lyrics, "There she is, Miss America.
There she is. Your ideal the dream of a million girls may come true [singing] in Atlantic City. [ __ ] is you talking about?
Oh, I can't stand people. Why do you think that she's not beautiful Blanch?
Do you think she's not beautiful because she's dark skin? I I haven't seen her, but the way you presented it makes me think she's not beautiful because you said you are beautiful [laughter] and dark.
>> The way I presented it makes you think that she's not pretty. I haven't seen her, but the way you presented it makes me think that she's not pretty. Sir, I'm not I'm not in control of your dick.
I'm not in control of your eyes either.
So, now here's the full lyrics.
Can I play the song, too? Let me see.
Damn it. Is it freezing up on me? Hold on a minute.
No, it don't went to a whole another screen. There she Well, let me blow it up a little bit. It's not letting me play it, so that's okay. Hold on.
There she is. Miss America. And then after Mayor May, who are more than pretty?
Who are more than pretty?
Fairest of the fair, she is Miss of America with so many beauties, she'll take the st the town by storm. So even in the referenced What's up, skunk? EVEN IN THE REFERENCE, THE SONG THAT HE REFERENCED, pretty then beautiful, then fairest.
I told y'all about these Disney goddamn FAIRY TALES. SEE, [ __ ] DON'T EVER WANT TO LET ME TALK, but I'mma talk my [ __ ] He even asked me on the show, "Well, you would have FELT SOME TYPE OF WAY IF I DIDN'T PLAY YOUR VIDEO." NO, I WOULD NOT. I'm a content creator.
I WOULD HAVE DID EXACTLY WHAT I'M DOING RIGHT NOW. Taking the GODDAMN VIDEO TO MY CHANNEL and breaking it down to the forensics. I don't give a [ __ ] IF YOU DON'T PLAY nothing when I'm talking.
Well, then why should we have you here?
Because you don't care. I don't care because I'm not going back and forth with people. Like, while I'm talking, you're throwing out lies.
YOU'RE MISREPRESENTING FACTS as you speak about Mandela effect.
What in your mind? Did you believe? Oh, my audio was chopping. Let me turn my volume down cuz I did have to turn my microphone up a little bit.
Is it better now? Is it better now?
Perfect. So, I'm not going to go back and forth with y'all when when it's supposed to be a conversation and every time I say two words, you're cutting me off to throw out something that's simply not true.
Maybe the black community just has a limited understanding of vocabulary as a whole.
Maybe.
But let's continue.
skin walking your blah blah. What I noticed is on social media, it' be a ugly woman on social media, but if she jet black, y'all would get in them comments and tell her how beautiful. I'm like, she is not. She could be albino and she wouldn't be cute. She could be she don't look good. But y'all will say she look good because she's darkkinned.
It's kind of like a charity.
>> Damn.
So now we only telling dark-kinned women they look good because it's charity. And then when I say as a darkkinned man, I'm surprised that you're saying that. Well, why would you say to him as a darkkinned man? You're surprised that he's SAYING THAT AS A DARKKINNED MAN, can he not find darkkinned women unattractive?
As a light-skinned woman, I can say that black women are attractive no matter how dark they are.
No matter how light they are, from albino to indigo, [ __ ] if you are black, I'm for you, there's always going to be something beautiful on you.
And the fact is, if you find black women to be ugly, why you even in the comments?
This is the part that be getting me when I be having certain conversations and I be biting my tongue a little bit because I don't really want to rip the band-aid off and expose people for the obsessive disorders that they have. Why are you looking in the comment section of a woman that you think is unattractive and then getting riled up to the point that you feel the comments that that woman is getting is charity?
That's problematic.
So, you're just saying that she's not beautiful because I referenced her dark skin, which was the premise of her video without having even seen the video.
>> It's just the way you said it. Like the way >> Yeah. The way you said it.
>> The way I said it was because that was the premise of her video. The premise of her video was that she was darkkinned.
She was in Atlanta in Chocolate City.
She was in a restaurant and she didn't see any black woman, darkkinned black woman at that.
>> Now they're saying that the lighting's bad, girls and boys. The lighting's bad and you can't see that woman.
Let me blow this up cuz I'm confused.
You can't see that this woman is a beautiful woman.
Her teeth are very nice. Her skin is very clear. Her lips are nice. Her eyes are nice.
Exactly what I said.
But to them, you can't see her. It's too dark. You can't see her. So you can't see her because she's black. Because she's darkkinned.
Maybe because I don't have colorless eyes. I can see African woman at that. You know how they say black women are at the bottom of the barrel? I feel like we are literally the ground, the concrete. We are the dirt because ain't no way that she said that black women, not darkkinned women, black women, black women are at the bottom of the barrel of the concrete. Let me run that back so you can hear on this ground. The concrete woman, dark-kinned black woman at that, African woman at that. You know how they say black women are at the bottom of the barrel? I feel like She said she is a dark-skinned woman, an African woman at that. And then she proceeds to talk about black women.
Black women, not just darkkinned women, black women as a whole. But I don't think people really listen though. I don't think people really listen. I think what people do is they talk to hear themselves cuz they got lips in their face.
>> We are literally the ground, the concrete. We are the dirt. Because ain't no way that I'm sitting on this patio and all the black men that I see in this patio.
>> Well, man, you had a problem with that other woman that was built up masculine.
But that woman's face look like a lot of [ __ ] I know. You take the wig off.
>> What?
>> That woman face look like a lot of [ __ ] you know. And also, I don't like the misrepresentation of the fact that, oh, you had a pro. I had no problem with the woman that was up there that he showed that was uh what he called masculine. The only problem I did have a problem. Let me take that back. The problem that I had was that I could see her nipples through her shirt. The problem that I had was that on her pants it looked like she had a penis. That was a problem that I had.
up. I had no problem at all. But let's continue.
>> Beautiful because she got a a a hair hat on. What you call it, Tommy? Like, so we don't really know cuz that's not her hair.
>> But that's her hair hat is pushed all the way back. So we know what she look like cuz all you see is her face. You understand what I'm saying? It's like you can't you can't that what we don't want. And I know this being dark skin and seeing darker skin.
It's hard to tell our facial features without the correct lighting.
It is. So, y'all will just tell this person they look good simply because they're dark cuz you couldn't tell me anything about her facial features. You couldn't because >> now Tommy himself said, "Y'all would say she look good simply because she cuz you can't tell me nothing about her facial features."
Negro. What?
We seen her facial features very well.
So, you showed a video where you couldn't see somebody's facial features or maybe y'all can't see. I don't really know.
These are older gentlemen. Maybe they need to go ahead and get a prescription and an appointment at Lens Craftas. I don't know.
Then when I told them I don't read the chat, they also had an issue with that.
I don't read the chat when I'm on a panel. I'm having a conversation with the panelist. Well, I told you to read the chat and you're not the boss of me, sir.
As I was up there, let me show y'all what I was doing while I was up there, too, just so we clear.
As I'm up there having this conversation with them, this is what I'm doing.
Homework, course work. [ __ ] I'm doing course work.
I don't really get people. People be sitting on panels all day long doing 50 million things. I'm telling you right now, if I'm on your panel, I'm not reading the chat.
I'm not because I literally have 50 million tabs going. I'm That's why when y'all see my avatar starts to buffering or something like that, it's because I'm in the middle of rendering something. I'm usually editing. That's why I have my avatar on because I'm listening, but I'm doing a whole bunch of other stuff. I don't got no time in my day to be sitting around and doing nothing.
Even when I'm talking to somebody, I am multitasking.
You got people that will sit on panels and be panel mannequins. They're sitting there for hours at a time. They're not doing anything but listening to the conversation. God is good. I'm very blessed. I'm able to compartmentalize and still focus on one thing while doing something else.
But let's continue.
>> The lighting was poor. So, how do you know how beautiful? Again, beauty is your facial features, the structure and everything. But if you can't call out these things that are pretty on this person, how would you know they're pretty? I seen that eye.
>> If I told you what I found pretty, how you going to tell me that she's not pretty to me? I literally told you. I found her smile to be pretty. I found her eyes to be pretty. I found her complexion to be pretty. So now because you want to be right, I didn't see what I seen that I told you I saw.
Those things can't be beautiful to me.
Just like I told these people, no, I don't be going to bed to, you know, have moments with my husband if there's no shower taken and no teeth brushed.
I don't believe that. That's unbelievable.
I take two or three showers a day depending on the day, especially in the summertime. In the summer time, it's a guaranteed three cuz I don't like to be sweaty. I don't believe you. It's unbelievable. What are you talking about?
When y'all say things like that, it speaks to your standard.
There was a man on that panel that said he was with a woman and the woman's wig stump.
and you were with her and you were laying down with her.
Well, I got her hair done because her hair was making the wig stink. No, news flash. The wig was sticking because the wig wasn't clean.
>> So, when we're sitting there and we're actually listening to what is being said and what it actually says about people and what it actually says about what they settle for.
Did the woman that the man was laying down with the stinking wig, was she beautiful?
Huh?
>> Act like a pistol, though. I can tell you that much.
>> That's what I'm saying. You saw her eyes.
Go ahead.
>> Her eyes look huge, but it probably was the angle. But what I'm saying is you couldn't tell me about her cheek structure. You probably don't even remember her nose structure. You don't I probably don't remember. I can't tell you. So now you're telling me what I can recall about someone that I said I think is beautiful.
When I told you what I found beautiful about her and what you're saying, your beauty standards and how you define beauty is different than how I define beauty, which is okay. And I can accept your perspective. I don't have to agree.
It's the macity for me.
>> Remember anything redeeming qualities about this person's face, but you called them and I think that's what Blanch was saying. The way it was said, I don't have to see her, but I don't believe that she was a knockout like you say so because of the way you described it. And even you >> I never called her a knockout. I said she was beautiful.
Those are two different words. They mean two different things.
Why is that a leap?
Why is that a mental leap for people?
It's weird.
>> Well, she's a five, >> right? So, she's beautiful. I didn't say she was a knockout. I didn't say she was stunning. I didn't say she was a supermodel.
So that's that's not what beautiful.
>> But but what does beautiful mean to you then? Because you're downgrading what it means. And I don't know too many words above beautiful.
>> I'm not.
>> Is she beautiful than you?
>> I'm not downgrading what anything means.
I don't have to compare myself to other people. Bl. Is she more beautiful than you? Damn. So a [ __ ] got to be more beautiful than me for me to call them beautiful.
That's some sick [ __ ] right there.
I'm not going to pull any punches.
When Beyonce calls Rihanna beautiful, do you ask Beyonce if Rihanna is more beautifuler than her?
What the [ __ ] did Why the [ __ ] he said that [ __ ] Let me hear that.
>> I'm not downgrading.
I'm not.
>> Is she beautifuler than you?
>> Is she beautifuler than you?
These men [laughter] are trying to argue definition, but they nobody say nothing about beautifuler.
What?
Boy, y'all sit y'all ignorant asses down. I'm not downgrading what anything means. I don't have to compare myself to other people, Blanch. But I like how you did that. I just think it's really ridiculous that Blanch's whole entry and premise into the conversation was, "Well, she can't be. Is she just beautiful because she's darkkinned?"
Like, the only reason I could view her or I would think about her as a beautiful person is because she's darkkinned. I think that's a disingenuous premise.
>> No, it's the way you said it though. It ain't I thought it's the way you presented that. It's just the way you said it. That's all. It's the way you said it because you made it. You said because your skin is dark skin, you're still you're beautiful. Like you you made the dark skin the reason why she's beautiful.
>> No, I did not.
I literally said black women, you're dark skin, you're beautiful.
Not because you're because you're dark skinned. That automatically means you're beautiful.
And again, you got to break things down syllable by syllable for some people because clearly there's a breakdown in comprehension.
Two things can exist at the same time.
Black women are darkkinned. Black women are beautiful.
Well, because you said because she's dark skin, she's beautiful. I never said that.
And every time that I'm speaking to clarify, they wanted to make me say I said she's beautiful because she's dark skin, which I never said. And we read it back. Yeah. You see, you said she was beautiful cuz she's dark scared.
What?
Don't play in my face.
Play in your own face. Play in your chick face. Play in your dog face. Play in somebody else face. But mine.
>> You didn't say she was just beautiful.
>> I said I said you're a beautiful woman and you're dark skin. Walk in your confidence and be beautiful. And if you have a issue with men not going to the restaurant with women that look like you, bring a man with you to the restaurant so that you can see men with women that look like you because her whole thing was that she was upset because she saw black men with. And while I'm talking, look at the comment this fan puts on the screen. That woman looked like Terrell Owens.
That woman did not look like Terrell Owens.
Not by a long shot.
So, I'm literally having a conversation.
You're asking a a question is being asked and the immaturity is so high that there is no focus on the answer.
women that were white and Spanish and anything else. So the point is women in general need to stop focusing on who is there with other women in whatever race and be confident and beautiful and comfortable in the skin that they're in and bring their own people with them when they go places. Just like the woman in Bali, she was excited to see a black man in Bali because she was traveling by herself. If she would have went to Bali with her own husband, with a man that looks like her, a man of a different race or whatever, she wouldn't be focused on another man not saying hi to her because she would be with the person that came with her.
>> Well, I'm let somebody else talk. Can I ask you a question?
>> Sure.
>> What? Okay. What if a white guy came to you and said, "Listen, Ra, you're beautiful and you're black."
>> That would be that would be different from the conversation that we're having, but it wouldn't really affect me either way. So, I don't >> No, I'm saying you wouldn't think that was a compliment, though. Like, if he said you're beautiful and you're black, you said you're beautiful and you're dark skinned.
This is when people know that they can't win. They start saying all manner of crazy stuff.
No white man is going to walk up to a woman and say, "You're beautiful and you're black." But what they will walk up to you and say is, "Oh, you're beautiful, and I never dated a black girl before."
Is there a difference?
So when I say it wouldn't really make a difference to me, well, you wouldn't consider that a compliment cuz I actually hang out with a lot of white people. Truth be told, I've actually dated white men. White men will consistently tell black women. I never dated a black girl before.
Is it a diss because they're saying something that's factual?
Are black people super hyper sensitive that when people state truth, people can't really take it? I'm confused.
>> You understand how that sounds.
>> So you're So Okay, I'll say it again. A person says, >> "I heard what you said, but what I'm not gonna do is >> I'mma add some context for you Blanch.
I'mma add some context to for you and then you one moment." What she's saying is the woman in the video said she doesn't see very many men with dark-kinned women like her. She always sees them with light-kinned or um >> That's not what she said.
What she said. What she said is black women are looked at as the concrete.
Like come on, be for real.
This is selective listening.
Like come on, be so for real.
>> Biracial or non-black women, but dark-kinned women. She said that I'm in Atlanta, but she doesn't see dark-kinned women getting any love. Now, see what what is your thoughts for what RA G said?
>> Yeah, I I think that the young lady not getting any love because she's just not that attractive.
>> No, no. What is your thoughts of what RAW G said now? the comment that Rajie said. Now, do you still >> now you think she not get love because she not that attractive? Maybe she's not attractive to you because you don't find dark skin attractive, which is fine.
But who are you to say that that woman is not attractive?
Who are you to tell me that I can't say that I find her beautiful because you don't find her attractive? I'm not inside of your brain.
I'm not looking at her through your eyes. You could have a bias based on trauma.
You could potentially not find yourself attractive because you have dark skin.
It just makes no sense.
>> View it as >> Yeah. Yeah. The same way.
>> Compliment. Oh, yeah.
>> Yeah. Yeah. The same way. And I And I do because even Raw G said she was a five.
So clearly like and again I see this all on social media all the time where you're giving extra points because the person is dark skinned. I'm not saying darkkinned isn't beautiful in some cases but it just seems like it's extra points given because she's darkkinned. For example, if a chick is light-skinned on social media, nobody can say your light-skinned is beautiful. They gonna say they hate [laughter] themselves.
They race I'm I'm serious. YOU CAN ONLY >> NO, I KNOW.
>> YOU CAN only >> they gonna say they hate themselves.
So me saying you are beautiful and walking your confidence is crazy.
It's crazy.
What the hell?
And news flash.
More than half of Americans fall into the average category.
Like what the [ __ ] >> Compliment darkkinned women on social media. That's it. If you lightkinn like melanin can't get no compliments. But if melanin was >> Well, you surely can't compliment her on her light skin. You can say she's pretty. But if you say her skin is what you find pretty, >> oh no, it's over.
>> Have a problem.
>> What?
I said I found her skin to be pretty.
So that's a problem.
>> [laughter] >> I got to really laugh at people.
Are you serious right now? So, it's a problem. It's a problem. It's a problem.
Sounds stupid. Right. But if somebody is dark skinned and you tell them that they're beautiful and then you reference the focal point for why they're upset, all of a sudden they're not beautiful because they're dark skinned.
>> Raj G, her eyes were looking both did like Rajie, come on.
>> The point Oh my god. Like her eyes were not looking both ways. You guys saw the same thing I saw. K7. These is when people get to making up [ __ ] in order to make themselves feel better.
The fact that you are purposefully missing the point is really like it's irritating me and I'm really trying to be patient with you, but you came up here with a hot take based on whatever you felt about a commentary. Meanwhile, the whole point of what she was saying was that she was upset because she didn't see people with women that look like her because she's dark skinned.
>> And as a darkkinned man, I think it's, you know, that's it's interesting your take. But at the end of the day, she doesn't have to be she doesn't have to be beautiful to you, right? Because y'all women [laughter] ra G, you see what we just did to him?
everything that we say. That's why I always tell y'all I don't trust feminist women because when they get >> I'm not a feminist.
What I just said is a literal nonsequiter.
There is no need for a push back.
You're lying on this woman saying her eyes were going all different ways, which it wasn't. You're telling me I can't find her skin beautiful.
Y'all are saying all type of outlandish [ __ ] And as a dark-kinned person, yes, I find it interesting that you think dark skin can't be attractive.
That's wild to me.
I mean, of women who claim that they even understand men, cuz when they're put into a corner, they'll start talking back like women. You said to this man as a darkkinned man, well, he's got a [laughter] penis, so he should like people with penises.
And so now we're equating the color of skin to sexual appendages again.
What?
What?
Stupid. No, THE POINT IS BECAUSE HE'S DARK, HE SHOULD be relegated to finding something attractive.
>> No, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is >> you called him darkkinned man and I remember you and I had a conversation.
This was it was shocking to me. I said you're you said you were talking and you were talking like you weren't dark skinned and then I was questioned. I was like >> I'm really not dark skinned. And shout out to my husband for pulling up on [ __ ] And that's what I that's where I had to go at the beginning of the show.
My husband wanted me to put my arm next to his arm. I'm not dark skinned.
I adjust my lighting so that I don't get uh blotchiness and color and I use warm lighting so that you guys can see me clearly. Especially from when I used to be on my green screen real heavy.
I'm really not that dark at all.
When you can see your veins through your skin. You can see your veins through your skin. Sorry, not sorry. You are not dark skin.
My face is a little bit browner than the rest of my body. My arms too, cuz they be in the sun, [ __ ] Sorry. I'm very much yellow. In the summertime, I get more red with it, but I'm very much yellow. There was one summer I went outside and I got it. I was like outside at the pool every day.
They just like, "Oh my god, she got so dark." I have flexibility and the way my melanin reflects color off my body because my father is very brown and my great-grandmother is white.
It is what it is, kid.
Y'all see my daughter. My daughter's a chocolate drop.
In all actuality, I would prefer to be chocolate. So that's why it's funny. Was like, you were offended, [ __ ] Where?
My whole life I've wanted to be darker.
In fact, that's how I actually started to get color.
My mother would be like, "All right, we're going outside." And I would be outside all summer, every summer in order to get color.
If I show y'all my kids, when my kids came out, my kids came out looking like they they they didn't belong to me.
Like the leaps that these people jump to in their mind is is crazy. It's crazy work. Like >> you're not dark skin. You said no. I said now, but you referred to him as dark skin. But you're not that conversation we had. But the I don't know the people that would not view you as a chocolate sister, but you felt like almost an insult when I'm chocolate.
I'm chocolate.
I don't think so.
I don't think so.
But you know, if you say so, it's got to be true.
Is it a problem?
Right. [laughter] Right. Beautiful.
Uh, please, let's continue.
>> When it was when I was You said you were dark. You said I'm not. If it's not an insult, why would you say I'm not to some?
>> Because it's a statement of fact.
I'm not dark skinned.
That's just it is what it is. Now, had you asked qualifying questions?
Qualifying questions. You might have learned on that show that I wish I was dark skin, but I'm not.
I got damn bruises on me. I got goddamn m like little battle scars and [ __ ] from when I used to fall and [ __ ] like that.
That's darker than my skin tone. My scars are darker than me.
What are you saying?
>> Because if you could you see me. I'm not I'm very red toned and I have a lot of yellow too. But either way it goes. If someone says If someone says to someone, "You're beautiful and just because you're black, you can go to a restaurant with people that look like you." The fact that y'all are making it, "Oh, you're only saying that she's beautiful because she's done is no, he was making a statement of point." Because then he followed it up.
>> He asked initially and then he made it a statement of point of fact that then he said, "You only said she's beautiful because she's dark skinned."
And as I'm speaking still, every three words, you interrupted. Oh yeah, let me also share this with you. You you guys for people thinking that average is not beautiful.
It's the It's the lies for me.
Now, this is an abstract. I'm not going to take you all the way through the whole uh study. Attractive faces are only average from Judith Langloce, Lori Ragman, and there's a whole bunch of art authors and affiliations. And this is from the doi.org.
Huh. Scientists and philosophers have searched for centuries for paracinimist answer to the question of what constitutes beauty. We approached this problem from both an evolutionary and an information processing rationale and predicted that faces representing the average value of the population would be consistently judged as attractive. To evaluate this hypothesis, we digitized samples of male and female faces, mathematically average them, and had adults judge the attractiveness of both the individual faces and the computergenerated composite images. both male three samples and female three samples. Composite faces were judges more attractive than almost all the individual faces compromising the composits. A strong linear trend also revealed that the composite face became more attractive as more faces were entered. This data showing that attractive faces are only average, are consistent with evolutionary pressures that fa that favor characteristics close to the mean of the population and with cognitive processes that favor prototypical category members.
See, from an evolutionary standpoint, human beings prefer average.
Not only because, you know, it's it's a comfortable place.
But people are most impressed by averageness because averageness it it embibes a feeling of trustworthiness.
That's what psychological research finds.
So these men run around talking about the women that they don't trust. And the women that they don't trust are women that are super sexy that they want to sleep with, but they don't trust them because they feel like they're going to sleep with every other man. And then they don't really understand how average is beautiful.
And this is from a psychologist.
>> No, because then he followed it up.
>> He's there. Blanch, were you asking? Is that because you didn't see the video at all?
>> No, that's why I as I asked twice. I asked the question. Yeah, >> he asked a question or he made a statement. Oh, she's beautiful cuz she's dark skin. And meanwhile, while I'm saying what I'm saying, cutting me off again.
>> No. And then he followed it up and he said that people on social media give dark-kinned women extra points.
>> No, no, no. First, I said it sounds like you're saying you did dark skin.
>> Yes, cuz you said she was a five and five and beautiful Saint and that's I guess y'all know better than scientists and philosophers and sociologist. What is all the authors and affiliations on this list? Let me see if I could pull that up while we listen to this fool [ __ ] >> So I said if black is beautiful [cough] [clears throat] cutting the hell up. So what do y'all find tools then? So y'all find tools to be what? They're just ass wipes and y'all still sleeping with ass wipes anyway cuz EARLIER IN THE SHOW >> YES. IF YOU HOLD ON. AIN'T NOBODY going to sit up there and say they wife is a two and people going to think she look good. A two is literally I JUST SAID EARLIER. WHAT DID I SAY? I SAID some women who are a one will wear a weave so they can jump up to a three. Did I not say this earlier?
>> Did I not say this earlier?
>> Like the justification theorem of it is insane. But I want you to also to see the avereness that they think they know better than. So this abstract and the full article is from the Nebraska Symposium on Motivation, Handbook of Child Psychology, Volume 2, Infancy and Developmental Psychobiology, Sociobiology and Behavior, Cross versus Within, racial judgments of attractiveness. Perception and psychopysics.
Advances in experimental social psychology.
Journal of experimental child psychology. Biology lectures in marine biology.
Thought without language, new trends in conceptual representation challenges to PJ's theory.
Quasi experiments on the sociobiology of female facial beauty from the journal of social and personality psychology.
Darwinism not from Darwinism on the origin of species by mean of natural selection or the preservation of favored races in the struggle for life. My god today. The descent of man and selection in relation to sex from Darwin. Genetics of the evolutionary process.
Anthropometry of the head, face, and face in medicine.
Anthropometric facial proportions in medicine. You get the gist.
So, my bad that I don't [ __ ] flame [ __ ] And my mentality is not steeped in, you know, barershop talk.
>> Yes. Right.
I said a LOT OF [ __ ] ARE MARRYING TWOS. And then I said if tens were just in abundance and nice twos would never get [ __ ] Didn't I say that?
>> You did say that. So let me understand this. I'm trying to understand.
>> Two was. I had already established what a two was. Any [ __ ] that >> Why are you asking me if she's beautiful because she's darkkinned when I said black women? You're darkkinn and you're beautiful.
It's the same premise, >> but [ __ ] not listening, you know. But if [ __ ] Uhhuh. married a Jew, was [ __ ] with a Jew. Like, come on. Let Let's stop.
Stop. Let's stop. Let's stop with foolishness.
>> If your husband called you a two, you wouldn't be happy.
>> But this is what I'm trying to establish because I'm trying to work off y'all's parameters. So, eight and above is beautiful to y'all. You got to be a eight and above to be beautiful to y'all.
>> To everybody in >> class. Everybody smart. Have you ever heard the word smart or intelligent?
You've heard those words, right?
>> Yes.
>> If a [ __ ] made a 50 on the test, would you call him smart or intelligent?
>> No.
>> Why are you playing like I understand like I was just up there arguing for the last hour and a half. I understand what y'all saying and I get that the premise that y'all introducing with the video is still there, but are we not going to not dissolude the fact that this [ __ ] has a low self-esteem?
You came to the internet seeking validation because you want to be seen as pretty. You want to be seen as equal to when it comes down to it. Like I said up there, let's be honest, have y'all not been saying for years that this whole light-kinned, darkkinned [ __ ] it's all delusional as [ __ ] And the reason that she doesn't have any confidence in herself is why?
>> Because people keep saying she can't be beautiful because she's dark skin, which is what I was getting to, but they was too busy trying to cut me off. So, I just pulled up a couple of studies. Oh, and you know what he said about Miss America.
>> Here she is. Miss America. Beautiful.
That's not what the song is.
>> So, y'all just saying [ __ ] just to say [ __ ] And in all actuality, it's ridiculous because >> because y'all only want to stick to one premise. Like y'all can't accept the fact that other people have other perspectives when it comes down to it.
If this girl really viewed herself in any type of high self-esteem, she wouldn't have made never made the [ __ ] video.
>> Exactly. Well, you've only known her for one video, one minute in the video. It doesn't matter.
>> It doesn't take all year to see that somebody has an issue. If you're sitting there and you've gone out for dinner, right? You are clearly out at dinner with somebody.
>> But if you're out to dinner by yourself and the only thing you can think to do is make a video where you're not even showing proof of life, >> you're not showing black men with Spanish women. You're not showing black men with Asian women, white women, anything. You're literally putting a video in a corner >> and saying, "Oh my god, I'm in Atlanta and nobody wants black women."
>> Meanwhile, I be in Atlanta all the time.
And I see black men with black women all the time. In Atlanta.
>> All the [ __ ] time. You even see gay [ __ ] with gay [ __ ] is where you show them [ __ ] Both them [ __ ] be dark as [ __ ] >> right?
>> Taking oil stains like a [ __ ] But the fact that these people wanted to turn it into, well, you you you're offended if somebody says you're dark skinned. No, I'm not. I tell you all the time, I wish I was right. I'm just not dark skin. But I tell you all the time, I wish that I was dark.
>> The light is good. The light is good.
You dark skin. Where you dark skin at?
>> I don't know.
>> Where you dark skin?
>> I don't know. I don't know >> where's your dark skin at. What the hell?
>> Right. Oh, it's because you're offended, [ __ ] >> Nothing to do with being offended. It's the fact that you're not accepting the premise because y'all always want to say two things and be treated to right. Uh two two things and be right at the same time, right?
>> Gotcha.
>> But here's the here's the thing that I set up earlier. I was like, the funny thing is all black women are dark skin by their metric.
>> Cuz if I'm dark skinned >> and Italians, Sicilians, they're dark skin, right? Olive complexion.
>> Yeah.
>> Then I'm swear then it still doesn't negate the premise that I said. Mhm.
>> Black women, your skin is dark and you're beautiful.
>> And that was the whole point when I first came out. I said she wasn't making a point about her. She was making a point about black women. Blanch then came and said, "So you're saying just cuz she's dark skin, she's pretty." No one said that, >> right? [laughter] And the fact that THEY DON'T GET IT IS CRAZY.
>> But when it come down to it, fine. Even when I say even when she admitted to the part that she could be wrong in an instance, does that not refute the point that he said? So just because she's dark skin, that means she's pretty. She said nothing about her looks. She said about a cavade. She said ALL BLACK WOMEN. WHAT ARE Y'ALL TALKING ABOUT? How are y'all missing that? But I get it. He wanted you, Tommy. He wanted you to stay on topic. My thing is, was she not said on topic?
It was still ON TOPIC. JUST BECAUSE IT wasn't about her does not mean it was not on topic. It was a different perspective.
>> No, I'm going to tell you what it was.
>> What?
>> They wanted me to say that the darkkinned woman was ugly. They wanted me to parrot their talking point.
>> You know what they always say, >> right? Just like you heard him when he said, "Well, I told you to read the chat. I don't give a damn what you told me to do. I'm over here doing other stuff while I'm on your panel." Like who are you to tell me what to do?
>> What do they always like to bring up?
Black women, darkkinned women on ghetto gagers, right?
>> Yeah.
>> Nobody wanted to answer that though.
>> But always talk ABOUT DARKKINNED WOMEN.
Y >> RIGHT. THIS IS ALL that is ever highlighted is darkkinned women. So with me as a woman, I'm not dark skin. You ask a darkkinned woman if I'm dark skin, she gonna be like, "No."
>> She gonna be like, "She yellow." Right.
She a red bone. Right. Exactly.
>> She damn near white.
>> Exactly.
So, >> oh, and I guess um because [clears throat] you know people want to take it there. I guess that mean I don't like dark skin women because I married you, right?
>> Apparently, >> even though we got a chocolate child, >> right? And even though look, look, look.
EVEN THOUGH MY CHOCOLATE GOT MORE hair than the woman that they right there.
>> Look, they were so focused on my wig.
Well, you wear wig and I have a whole bunch of hair underneath this wig.
>> Here's a question for you. Has my wig ever stumped?
>> Has your wig ever who >> stunk?
>> What does that mean?
>> Been stinking?
>> No.
>> But you got >> [ __ ] If you take three showers a day, why would your wig st >> I just had to ask a question? Cuz they told me I don't take three showers a day.
>> [ __ ] YOU TOOK A SHOWER BEFORE YOU WENT UP ON A PANEL.
[laughter] >> WAIT, >> will you please explain to the >> You woke UP. YOU WOKE UP this morning, >> took a shower, got some dick, took another shower, went to work on lunch break, took another shower before you went up on the pl to So you took four showers a day.
But your wig stink.
>> But here's the thing though, right? Even when it comes down to the kissing, when you tell these people how like >> divorce, >> how much I love you.
>> Divorce.
>> No. When you tell them No, be be for real. Will you tell them how much I love you? Because I really had to.
>> How vulgar can I get?
>> No, don't. No. V. No vogue.
>> Well, I can't be honest then.
>> Okay, but we're just talking about kissing like how you >> kiss me.
[laughter] No, seriously. Seriously. Will you Will you please explain to these people like it took >> Will you please explain to these people in >> a nonvulgar way?
>> In a nonvulgar way how long it took for us to have a tongue kiss [clears throat] >> the first night later that night.
>> He's lying to y'all.
>> You tongue kissed me the first day. You lying.
>> You really want me to tell all the details of Big Cypress right here on this live?
You want me to tell That's why your leg shaking right now. Huh?
>> We want to tell these people how you was sucking on toes.
>> You want me to tell these people how much I was eating ass?
>> Get out.
>> Okay, cool.
>> Get out.
>> Want to smoke?
>> First of all, he's nasty. And that's why I didn't tongue kiss it. Okay. I'm not a kisser. I've literally tongue kissed like three people my whole life. I don't I don't like saliva. I don't. But you know when you sitting there, you having conversations with people, right? No.
Chaser, tell them again, get out. Get out. When you're sitting there and you having conversations with people because they're so used to people being the th goat. They're so used to people being sexually promiscuous. They're so used to people who weren't raised right. They're so used to people that have dirty ass baseboards. I'm going to tell you the quick tip to cleaning your baseboards.
When you mop your floor, like just run the mop of all the baseboards.
If you're vacuuming, have a [ __ ] Swiffer Swiffer base. Like, what are we doing?
And y'all can go on my don't playwith.com channel and watch the rest of this [ __ ] because I think I've made my point.
People exist on social media because they want to be angry and people want people to parrot the talking points that they have on these panels. If you ever watch these panel shows, when the panel shows really get explosive is when people are arguing with one another.
And as you see, I kept my cool being interrupted.
Listen, because the baseboards matter.
Baseboards matter. Listen here. If I go into your house and your baseboards are nasty, I'm not [ __ ] with you at all.
And then this [ __ ] even try this [ __ ] Tommy even tried to say to me, "Well, if I if I say let's go to a restaurant and it's a five, you're not going to go because you're going to think it's not clean." Of course I'm not.
I'm a serve safe management certified chef.
I don't eat at everybody restaurant. got life [ __ ] up.
People gotta stop talking to everybody like everybody is the [ __ ] that y'all be [ __ ] I'm not hurt.
I don't give a [ __ ] what you think about my looks. I don't give a [ __ ] what you think about my wig. I don't give a [ __ ] if you agree with my premise or not. I don't give a [ __ ] if you don't like the fact that I curse.
I don't care.
I don't give a [ __ ] about what the comments be saying in a live stream when I'm on a panel and I'm focused on a conversation.
This is how a lot of y'all get thrown the [ __ ] off your square cuz you too busy worried about somebody else's validation to prove your point.
See my accountability partner said go to bed. Yes, ma'am. But y'all be having life really messed up.
Instead of taking a moment to think outside of the matrix, to really start fleshing out ideas, to really start understanding why your visceral response is to be enraged or to make it about colorism or to make it about whatever y'all just continue to ruminate in the same filth that you've been ruminating in.
And what's crazy is these same black people got kids.
Oh, my kid is going to be different.
No, your kid is not going to be different.
Because the same way you are disqualifying black people is the same way people are going to disqualify your children.
They ain't gonna give a [ __ ] that that's your kid. They gonna be like, "Oh, that's a nigga." What you looking for?
Oh, I know. Pretty. I was messing with you. Did I? Are you sure? I didn't get cooked at all. That's the problem.
>> What's that?
>> Um Josh on.
>> Oh, Josh [clears throat] and dick sucking ass. [ __ ] going somewhere.
>> A get [ __ ] somewhere. Hold on a second here.
>> Oh, not Mr. Dick sucker.
>> He is a dick sucker. And according to you, I got cooked so badly that you're over here, >> right? You got cooked so bad that he had to come over here and say in the chat, >> right?
>> Damn.
>> The fact that you [ __ ] are illiterate and you don't know the difference between average, beautiful, stunning, breathtaking, gorgeous, and the pinnacle for you [ __ ] is Halle Berry. Get the [ __ ] out of here.
>> Y [ __ ] don't get no [ __ ] for real in real life, >> right?
>> Y'all [ __ ] get no [ __ ] at all.
>> Hey, speaking of get some [ __ ] [clears throat] >> What time you going? July.
>> What's up?
>> Get on my thing.
>> Get on my thing.
at the end of live. They going to see some [ __ ] go down.
>> I mean, with me, I thought I was just a three.
>> Shut the [ __ ] >> Oh no, I got so badly that I'm going to be with my husband and be [ __ ] chilling while y'all [ __ ] is running around the internet looking for a [ __ ] cuz I don't even drop my link in that chat.
Catch.
And it is very intriguing to me how this is the same group like, "Oh my gosh, she cooked. I cooked when I was talking to y'all about finances." Uhhuh.
And let me tell you the only reason these [ __ ] feel like I cooked last week. They feel like I cooked last week because I was chastising a black woman.
So when you're chastising black people, that's cool. If a black woman is chastising a black woman, then you're the [ __ ] conquering hero. But god forbid you tell black women to have confidence, to realize their beauty, and to do better, then all of a sudden you're the [ __ ] bad guy, suck my [ __ ] Oh, they rage big women because they can't afford a dominatrix job. Hi, love.
>> Hey, what up though? Uh what she say?
They say men try to rage rap bait women because they can't afford a dominatrix.
>> That's because they trying to they trying to relive the moments what they that they had with their mama. I'm [clears throat] sorry. My bad. Did I say that?
>> Right. You did. And listen, y'all [ __ ] sound weak as [ __ ] Let me just say this. If you telling me your woman has her period and you smelling blood and you can't tell that woman that she's smelling bloody to go take a shower >> and she don't smell that she's smelling bloody, >> why is that your woman?
>> Right? If you don't smell yourself, why the [ __ ] I mean, but [ __ ] accept anything though >> they do. That's the problem. because there's no standards.
See, I would do it, but my husband gonna have a whole fit.
>> Cuz people try to play in my face, honey. Listen.
>> Nope.
>> Your woman should be able to put her hands down her panties and put her hands in her mouth.
Catch >> facts.
>> If your woman can't do that, should she be your woman?
>> Hell no. You should be able to put your fingers in your woman, swirl them around a little bit, get the G-spot, get it popping, and then put your fingers in her mouth.
But y'all like the way nasty things smell. Yeah, that is a whole that's a whole another conversation, >> man. Man, never mind because that's a whole another conversation. Absolutely it is. They don't care.
>> They don't understand this. If they don't if they don't care about [ __ ] [ __ ] in clinics, you think they gonna give Come on, man. [ __ ] [ __ ] literally get lot lizards to ride with them in the truck for a couple hundred thousand miles and they be paying this chick and she smell like straight sewage and manure knowing that she just came off another truck. Come on, man.
Look, Britney said, "If I can eat it, you can eat it." That's all.
>> Exactly.
>> And the fact that like I don't I don't know like when the man said that he would marry a two.
>> No, he wouldn't.
>> No, no, no, no, no. Nope. Nope. Nope.
We're going to stick to people's actual words. Did he say he would marry her, too?
>> Who said that?
Tommy did >> Tommy said he will marry a two. No, he won't.
>> Tommy said Tommy said men Well, not him specifically, but men. Tommy said men marry a two, but they won't tell their wife they two.
And men marry a five, but they won't tell their wife they five. So, >> I don't believe in that number system.
Like, that whole number system [ __ ] is is delusional as [ __ ] I don't believe in that [ __ ] I just don't. and say whatever say whatever the hell people want to say. But at the end of the day, [ __ ] don't believe in that number [ __ ] because if they did, they wouldn't be sticking their dick in in 80% of the [ __ ] that they stick their dick in.
>> That's why I don't >> What I understood from the conversation was these [ __ ] get with the women that they qualify for.
>> What up?
and they don't qualify for women that are beautiful to them.
But more than half the population is average at best according to Kevin Samuels.
[clears throat] So more than half your [ __ ] is average at best. And y'all [ __ ] really think y'all pulling eights.
[ __ ] Kevin Samuel was said Beyonce was a eight.
But you know this this is the part I always had questions about what Kevin said. That whole average at best thing.
Everybody think they above average until you get told that you average or that you get shown that you average. What was that joke that Cat Williams used to say?
[ __ ] you thought you had a Phantom until a Phantom pull up.
>> You're about to crush a 200. 300.
>> Yeah. You got [ __ ] got to crash a 300. Sitting that [ __ ] like, "Yeah, this [ __ ] bad." Until that Phantom pull up. Then you like, "Man, [ __ ] your Phantom."
>> You see what I'm saying, baby? Your camera just went blurry for some reason.
I It went out of focus.
>> Anyway, um >> I know you want me to get >> excitement. No, no, no. Go ahead. Do your show. That was my little excitement for tonight. My thing is is just I I'm not I'm not backing up. I hear what they saying. I understand what they saying.
But my thing is you can't say that a premise that's introduced about someone's observation by her pretty much letting everybody know that she does see herself a certain type of way because she wants to be seen by other men and she's purposely doing this on the internet. Listen, I didn't get a chance to say this over there because I was trying to get off. But my thing is, when you come to the internet seeking for people to like you, that mean that people don't like you in real life.
Period. It has nothing to do with being a content creator. It has nothing to do with being on the internet and being on camera. It ain't got [ __ ] to do with that. When you need for people to like you on the internet, people who you may never meet and you can't get people around you to even have an understanding of you or to like you, it's a that's another that's a different type of psychosis. That's a that's a that's a whole another conversation.
Exactly. And this is another thing, too.
A lot of y'all content creators let everything go in your chat because y'all need everybody to give you attention.
That shit's weird. A lot of y'all respond to everything in your [ __ ] chat.
Why? That means you respond to everything in real life, too.
And people know how to needle you from the chat.
This is how a lot of people shows get derailed.
But anyway, at the end of the day, that was not a conversation and y'all were really emotional on that panel.
men that are supposed to be logic to the point that you're calling me a feminist.
>> Yeah. When he said that [ __ ] I was like, "Wait, what?
>> How is she a feminist?" So, she just checked the [ __ ] out of DJ Genesis last >> I mean, last week I wasn't a feminist.
Last week I wasn't a woman with logic.
But this week I'm a feminist and I'm an illogical woman because I said to all black women that your skin is dark and you beautiful.
So that would mean maybe y'all really just don't like black women.
>> As long as you agree with what they say.
>> Yeah. And right. I I thought I was a pink me. I thought I was a man. So which one is it?
Nah.
>> Cuz the same woman that was talking. Go ahead.
>> Rie Robbie M. Chaos Brew Tequa. She's an individual. I don't really GIVE A [ __ ] ABOUT NONE OF Y'ALL [ __ ] opinion. I'mma say whatever the [ __ ] I want to say factually.
>> And you know the funny part was the same women that was in the chat talking [ __ ] today was the same women that was waving flags and shooting off fireworks and cheering on. Hell damn near they panties came off last week when you was up there cooking DJ Genesis. Now all of a sudden it's a problem. Okay. That shows how fickle you really are and I'm supposed to believe that you [ __ ] not delusional. Okay, you're right. The same men too.
The same like, "Oh, she cooking. She cooking." A [ __ ] put on a whole [ __ ] chef hat and pulled out a spatula. Okay. Out here looking like the real life Spongebob. Now all of a sudden he got a problem with it. Okay.
When you don't go with the script, I guess they got to, you know what I'm saying? They got to remove you from the show. And I had a problem. Yeah. Because you dropped. The reality is a lot of people are followers because when you go back and you watch the playback when I was saying what I was saying that same person was heading in an agreement quite a few of them on the panel work.
>> Yep.
[ __ ] them >> pretty much.
>> I love you.
>> I'm about to leave but you stay up here while I'm ending.
>> You want me to stay up here? Oh, I'mma talk your [ __ ] >> You want to talk your [ __ ] then?
Or are you gonna lie?
>> Let me just I'm just playing.
>> And then they ass out. I cussed their ass out before I left.
>> I know. I heard. And here's the thing, too.
>> For all you [ __ ] ass [ __ ] over there that are unmarried that can't maintain a relationship.
Y'all mad cuz the woman that you said is a three.
Husband came in like, "Nah, you're crossing the line."
>> Who said you was a three?
>> Some I don't know. That's one of the comments he threw up on the screen. I don't [ __ ] know. I was paying that [ __ ] no attention. You know how I do.
But at the end of the day, whatever y'all think about me, mine is right here. Oh, he's afraid of [ __ ] Afraid of what? the s and this that and the other. Woo woo woo woo woo.
[ __ ] out of here, [ __ ] She was being mistreated and unheard. You damn right I'm stepping the [ __ ] in >> Midwest three.
>> You said you a three, Britney. You a three. Damn, that's [ __ ] up. Hey, I'mma pray for you. I'mma pray for you.
>> Then they got mad as [ __ ] when I showed my hair. My hair is curly, [ __ ] >> You showed your hair. I show the picture, not >> Oh, I was about to say, okay.
>> Yeah, I show pictures back to talk [ __ ] I'm just playing.
>> All right. How we know that's your real hair, [ __ ] Do you not know texture?
>> Look, people be slicking they all the way back. I've been telling y'all [ __ ] for years, y'all talk [ __ ] about wigs and we wouldn't have told you this was a wig, you would have known it was a [ __ ] wig. At the end of the day, a lot of y'all [ __ ] just be talking to be [ __ ] talking. You be [ __ ] [ __ ] in your bed and they got hair full of [ __ ] wigs and weaves and you have no [ __ ] clip, dummies.
Y'all [ __ ] too caroly to tell a [ __ ] that she stink. Well, she just not going to listen to me.
Then she just shouldn't be your [ __ ] Cuz if I tell a [ __ ] that his balls is stinking and he don't clean his balls, I'm not going back and forth with him.
Oh, he's not going to listen. He just going to cut me off. I'mma do exactly what I did today. You got it. And I'mma [ __ ] leave.
>> I'm so sick of people on Beyonce's [ __ ] internet making all these excuses why they stay in these piss poor ass miserable ass [ __ ] relationships. How they keep circling the [ __ ] toilet bowl to get flushed down the drain. Why they can't find happiness and why the [ __ ] they always complaining?
Where's the logic in that? Insanity is doing the same [ __ ] over and over again and expecting a different result.
>> Different results.
So if y'all keep having the same [ __ ] conversation every day and expecting a different results, >> y'all are [ __ ] insane. Stay the [ __ ] away from >> facts.
>> And leads to piss poor performance. All right, y'all. We out of here. Appreciate y'all for stopping by. Make sure y'all like, share, subscribe, all that good [ __ ] Make sure y'all hit the cash app and deuces, [ __ ] >> It's the butterfly dummy on the beat.
Two messy ass getting put in their place. Let's go.
>> Why you [ __ ] lying? I'm [music] the butterfly. Watch your tone. Throw up over here. Swallowing soul just to get known. Knees on the ground paying bills.
Head game alone while I'm flying. How you down bad staying in the zone and you [music] lazy gutty bone crusty good for nothing for relevancy. Still ain't got nothing coming. Sink full of moss in your bra. Whole room stinking. I'm out here shining. You riding on the couch.
No bank. Why you [ __ ] lying? Acting like y somebody want to throw goat slurp queen a dusty nobody I'm the butterfly [music] pretty this thing a deadly got two clowns in the circus I'm the main event really why you [ __ ] lying bum [ __ ] stay down go stay slurping still can't wear the crown butterfly in the [music] sky y'all stuck on the ground one chasing dick one chasing clout both clowns throw goat you think you hot cuz you deep in they throat I'm the one they call when they want the realest quote you temporary hype I'm permanent smoke lazy bum you ain't even wash your ass that's a joke piles [music] of dirty Laundry look like a biohazard site. I'm out here elegant. You looking like last night. [music] Sorry for relevance. She posting old pics for likes. Butterfly already won. Y'all still fighting for the hype. I see both of y'all [music] messy, desperate and fake. One on her knees, one in the bed like a mistake.
The butterfly dressing you fix your face. So keep playing small while I take up all the [music] space.
Why you [ __ ] lying?
Goat goat lazy bum the butterfly period.
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