"Hope vs Wish vs Expect" in Everyday English - Don't Mix These Up! - English Podcast

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[00:00:00]Hey everyone, welcome back to Real Easy Talks, where three little words can cause three big headaches. I'm Anna.

[00:00:07]>> And I'm Tom. Fair warning, I got all three of these wrong this week, so perfect timing.

[00:00:14]>> Wait, really? What happened?

[00:00:15]>> Okay, so I was texting Lily about dinner plans on Tuesday >> and >> and I wrote, "I wish we can try that new Thai place tonight."

[00:00:25]>> Oh, no.

[00:00:26]>> She sent back a question mark. just one question mark. I could feel the judgment through the screen >> because that sentence doesn't work. You can't say I wish we can.

[00:00:38]>> I know that now, but in the moment, my brain just grabbed a word and ran.

[00:00:43]>> And that's what we're talking about today. Hope, wish, and expect. Three words that all mean I want something, but they feel very different.

[00:00:53]>> Like my Thai food disaster.

[00:00:55]>> Exactly. Let's start with the easiest one. Hope. Hope. I like that word. It feels warm, like sunshine on your face in the morning.

[00:01:04]>> That's a beautiful way to describe it.

[00:01:07]Hope is for real things. Things that can actually happen.

[00:01:11]>> So, possible things.

[00:01:12]>> Yes. When you hope for something, you believe it could happen. You just don't know yet.

[00:01:18]>> Like, I hope it doesn't rain tomorrow.

[00:01:21]>> Perfect. It might rain. It might not.

[00:01:23]You have no control, but it's a real possibility. What about I hope I get the job.

[00:01:29]>> Great example. You applied. You did the interview. You even wore a nice shirt.

[00:01:33]>> I ironed it, which almost never happens.

[00:01:36]>> And now you're waiting. It could go either way.

[00:01:40]>> It's like standing at a closed door. The door could open or stay closed. And you're just standing there, >> crossing your fingers, >> holding your breath.

[00:01:49]>> Yes, that's hope. Now, here's the grammar. After hope, you use normal tenses. Nothing strange.

[00:01:57]>> Normal tenses.

[00:01:58]>> I hope it rains. I hope she comes to the party. I hope we can go on Saturday.

[00:02:03]Just regular, present, or future.

[00:02:05]>> Okay, that's easy. No tricks.

[00:02:08]>> No tricks. Hope is the friendly one.

[00:02:10]Now, let's talk about wish.

[00:02:13]>> Okay, this is where my brain starts to hurt.

[00:02:16]>> And you're not alone. I had a student last month, Maria from Brazil. She wrote in her essay, I wish I can travel more this year. And that was wrong.

[00:02:25]>> The feeling was beautiful. The grammar was wrong because wish has a special rule.

[00:02:31]>> What's the rule?

[00:02:33]>> Wish is for things that are not real.

[00:02:36]Things you want but can't have right now.

[00:02:39]>> So it's kind of like the opposite of hope.

[00:02:42]>> In a way, hope is for things that might happen. Wish is for things that can't.

[00:02:47]At least not right now.

[00:02:49]>> Give me an example.

[00:02:50]>> I wish I spoke French.

[00:02:52]>> Okay. So, you don't speak French right now, >> right? It's not real. I can't speak French at this moment. So, I use wish.

[00:03:01]>> But could you say, I hope I speak French.

[00:03:04]>> You could say, I hope I can learn French someday because learning is still possible. The door is still open.

[00:03:11]>> Oh, so hope looks forward. Wish looks at what's missing.

[00:03:16]>> That's that's really well said. Hope looks forward. Wish looks at what's missing. What about the grammar >> after wish? You use past tense even when you're talking about now.

[00:03:28]>> Past tense for right now. That's confusing.

[00:03:31]>> I know it sounds weird. I wish I had more time. You're talking about right now, but you use had.

[00:03:39]>> So that's why I wish we can try that restaurant was wrong.

[00:03:44]>> Exactly. It should be I wish we could try that restaurant. could past form of can >> because wish always pulls the grammar into the past.

[00:03:54]>> Yes, even when the feeling is about now.

[00:03:58]And don't worry if this feels strange at first. It's one of those things that sounds hard but gets easy with practice.

[00:04:04]>> Okay, let me try. I wish I was taller.

[00:04:08]>> Perfect. You're not going to grow.

[00:04:10]That's not changing. So, you wish.

[00:04:12]>> My body disagrees with my grammar, but at least the grammar is right.

[00:04:17]Here's a memory trick. Think of hope as an open hand. You're reaching out for something real. And wish, wish is like blowing out birthday candles.

[00:04:28]>> Birthday candles.

[00:04:29]>> You close your eyes, you make a wish, but deep down, you know the candles can't make it come true.

[00:04:36]>> That's kind of beautiful and kind of sad.

[00:04:39]>> That's exactly what wish feels like.

[00:04:41]Hope has energy. Wish has longing. A soft pull in your chest.

[00:04:47]>> Longing. Like this ache. You want something so much, but you know it's not yours.

[00:04:53]>> Exactly. And here's our golden rule for today. Write this down. Hope equals possible. Wish equals unreal. Expect equals sure. Keep that in your head.

[00:05:06]>> Wait, we haven't done expect yet.

[00:05:08]>> We're getting there. But wish has one more layer first. There's more.

[00:05:13]>> You can also wish about the past. Things you regret, choices you can't undo.

[00:05:18]>> Oh, that sounds heavy.

[00:05:20]>> It can be. I wish I had studied harder in school.

[00:05:24]>> Gh, that one hits me right in the stomach like a rock sitting there.

[00:05:29]>> You feel it?

[00:05:30]>> Yeah. Because you know you can't go back. You can't fix it. It's done.

[00:05:35]>> When you wish about the past, the grammar changes again. You use had plus the past participle. I wish I had saved more money. I wish I had been braver.

[00:05:45]>> I wish I had called my grandma more often.

[00:05:48]>> Oh, that's a real one.

[00:05:50]>> Yeah, she used to make these amazing cookies.

[00:05:54]>> And >> and I would just eat them and run outside to play. I never sat with her.

[00:06:00]And now she's gone.

[00:06:02]>> You can hear the regret in that.

[00:06:04]>> The worst part is I know I can't change it. That's what makes it heavy. That's exactly what wish about the past does.

[00:06:11]It carries weight.

[00:06:12]>> So, let me be clear. I wish I spoke French. That's about now. I don't speak French today.

[00:06:18]>> Right?

[00:06:19]>> And I wish I had studied French in school. That's about the past, a choice I didn't make years ago.

[00:06:26]>> Two different times, two different grammar structures.

[00:06:30]>> Wish about now uses simple past. I wish I spoke. Wish about the past uses had plus past participle. I wish I had spoken.

[00:06:40]>> You got it. And our golden rule still holds. Hope equals possible. Wish equals unreal. Now, are you ready for expect?

[00:06:49]>> Yes. My brain is working hard right now.

[00:06:52]I can feel it right behind my eyes like a muscle being stretched. But let's go.

[00:06:57]>> Hey, if you're still listening right now, you're doing amazing. This is one of those topics where everything clicks slowly and that's completely normal.

[00:07:05]>> She's right. Even I needed three tries to get this. So, be patient with yourself.

[00:07:11]>> Okay. Expect. This one is different from both hope and wish. When you expect something, you believe it will happen.

[00:07:20]You're almost sure.

[00:07:21]>> So, it's not a dream. It's not a wish.

[00:07:24]It's like a plan.

[00:07:26]>> Yes. I expect the package to arrive tomorrow. You checked the tracking number. It says tomorrow. You believe it.

[00:07:33]>> That feels very confident.

[00:07:35]>> It is confident. Expect is the strongest of the three. Hope is maybe. Wish is not real. Expect is I'm pretty sure this is going to happen.

[00:07:45]>> Like I expect to finish this project by Friday.

[00:07:49]>> Great. You have a deadline. You've been working on it every day. You believe you'll make it.

[00:07:54]>> What about I expect my boss to call me today?

[00:07:58]>> Perfect. She told you yesterday she would call, so you have a reason to believe it.

[00:08:02]>> I'm starting to feel the difference in my whole body. Hope is soft and gentle.

[00:08:08]Wish is heavy and sad. Expect is strong, almost hard, like a handshake.

[00:08:14]>> That's a great way to feel it. Now, can expect be negative?

[00:08:18]>> Like, I expected the movie to be good, but it was terrible.

[00:08:22]>> Exactly. When you expect something and it doesn't happen, you feel disappointed. And the stronger the expectation, the bigger the disappointment.

[00:08:31]>> That happened to me last week with a client. I worked on her logo for five days. I was up until midnight. My eyes were burning.

[00:08:39]>> And >> I sent the final design, felt proud, like really proud.

[00:08:44]>> And then >> she wrote back, "H, it's not really what I had in mind."

[00:08:48]>> Oh no.

[00:08:50]>> My stomach just dropped like an elevator with no cable because I expected her to love it. That's expectation meeting reality. It hurts because you were so sure.

[00:09:01]>> If I had just hoped she would like it, the fall would have been softer.

[00:09:05]>> Exactly. Higher expectation means bigger fall. Now, here's another thing about expect. It can sound demanding.

[00:09:14]>> Demanding? How?

[00:09:15]>> If your boss says, "I expect you to be on time every day." How does that feel?

[00:09:20]>> Like a warning. Like, don't be late or there will be consequences. Right? It sounds like a rule.

[00:09:27]>> I expect better from you. That's something a parent would say >> or a teacher. See, expect can carry pressure. It can feel cold.

[00:09:35]>> So, it depends on who says it. And how they say it >> always. Your mom says, "I expect you to call me on Sundays." That's love with a little pressure. Your friend says, "I didn't expect the surprise party."

[00:09:49]That's pure happiness.

[00:09:51]>> Same word, totally different feeling.

[00:09:53]Context changes everything. It always does.

[00:09:56]>> Okay, let me try putting all three together. Same situation, one story.

[00:10:01]>> Go for it.

[00:10:02]>> I'm applying for a job. Before the interview, I say, I hope I get the job.

[00:10:07]I want it. It's possible. I'm nervous.

[00:10:10]Butterflies in my stomach.

[00:10:11]>> Good.

[00:10:12]>> Then I'm looking at my resume the night before and I think, I wish I had more experience. I don't have it. That's not going to change before tomorrow. I feel that ache. Perfect.

[00:10:23]>> After the interview, they say, "We'll call you by Friday." So, I say, "I expect to hear back by Friday." They told me, "I have a reason to believe it."

[00:10:32]>> Three words, three feelings, three levels of certainty. That was excellent.

[00:10:38]>> Hope is the butterfly in your stomach.

[00:10:40]Wish is the sigh when you look back.

[00:10:42]Expect is the confident nod.

[00:10:45]>> I love that so much. Let me give you one more real life example. Lily is cooking dinner tonight. Okay.

[00:10:52]>> You could say, "I hope Lily makes her spring rolls. You want them? She might or might not."

[00:10:57]>> "Oh man, her spring rolls are amazing. I really do hope that."

[00:11:01]>> You could say, "I wish I could cook like Lily. You can't cook." Well, it's not real right now.

[00:11:07]>> Painfully accurate.

[00:11:09]>> And you could say, "I expect dinner to be ready by 7 because she texted you and said 7:00."

[00:11:15]>> Three sentences, same topic, three completely different feelings. Now, let's go through some common mistakes. I hear these constantly >> from your students, >> from everyone. Mistake number one, I wish I can fly.

[00:11:29]>> Wrong. I wish I could fly. Past tense after wish. Always >> good. Mistake number two. Someone says, "I expect it will rain, but they have zero information. No weather forecast, no dark clouds, nothing." That should be I think it will rain or I hope it doesn't rain. You need a reason to use expect.

[00:11:53]>> Exactly.

[00:11:54]Expect needs evidence, a forecast, a promise, a pattern, something real.

[00:12:01]>> What about I hope I had more money.

[00:12:04]>> Wrong. You either have money or you don't right now. That's not a future possibility.

[00:12:10]>> So, it should be I wish I had more money, >> right? Hope is for things that can still happen. Wish is for things that can't change.

[00:12:19]>> Here's one more. Jake said to me last week, "I expect to meet someone amazing this year. He's on three different dating apps."

[00:12:28]>> Is that really an expectation?

[00:12:30]>> Honestly, I think that's hope pretending to be expectation. He wants it badly, but he can't really be sure.

[00:12:38]>> So, it should be I hope I meet someone amazing this year. Poor Jake. He's hopeful, not expecting, but I won't tell him that.

[00:12:47]>> Smart. And one more mistake I hear all the time. I expect you enjoy this party.

[00:12:54]>> That sounds weird. What's wrong?

[00:12:56]>> Expect doesn't work for wishes or politeness. That should be I hope you enjoy this party, >> right? Because you're not sure. You just want them to have a good time.

[00:13:06]>> Expect would be strange there. Like you're demanding they have fun. You will enjoy this party. That's not an invitation. That's a threat.

[00:13:16]>> Exactly. Okay, quick round. I give you a situation. You pick the right word.

[00:13:21]>> Ready? Let's go.

[00:13:22]>> Your friend is taking an important exam tomorrow morning.

[00:13:26]>> I hope you pass. It's a real possibility. I'm cheering for her.

[00:13:31]>> You forgot to call your mom on her birthday last month.

[00:13:35]>> I wish I had remembered. Past regret. I can't undo it. I feel terrible.

[00:13:40]>> Your boss promised a raise starting next month.

[00:13:44]>> I expect to get a raise next month. She promised. I have evidence. I believe it.

[00:13:50]>> You want to live in Japan for a year, but you have a job. And Biscuit, I mean, Anna has biscuit.

[00:13:58]>> I wish I could live in Japan for a year.

[00:14:01]It's a dream not possible right now.

[00:14:04]>> Someone says to you, I wish I have more friends.

[00:14:07]>> Wrong. I wish I had more friends. Past tense after wish. Every time >> you're watching the weather. Dark clouds, cold wind. You feel it in your bones.

[00:14:19]>> I expect it to rain. I have evidence.

[00:14:22]Those clouds are not lying.

[00:14:25]>> Good context matters. Last one. It's Sunday night. You're thinking about Monday.

[00:14:31]>> Ah, I hope Monday goes fast. A small, sad, very real possibility. Listeners, try these yourself. Press pause. Say each answer out loud. Feel the difference between hope, wish, and expect.

[00:14:46]>> Hope equals possible. Wish equals unreal. Expect equals sure. That's the golden rule.

[00:14:54]>> Put it on your mirror. Put it on your phone. Put it on your fridge >> next to the takeout menus.

[00:15:00]>> Whatever works. Before we close, let's lock in the key language from today.

[00:15:06]Seven words that make these three sentences make sense.

[00:15:09]>> My favorite part. These are the words I'll carry with me.

[00:15:13]>> First, hopeful. Feeling that something good might happen. When you are hopeful, you believe the future could be bright.

[00:15:20]>> That is the warmth you feel after a good interview. When the door hasn't opened yet, but you feel hopeful it could.

[00:15:26]>> Next, wishful thinking. Believing something will happen just because you want it to, not because it's realistic.

[00:15:34]Wishful thinking has no evidence behind it.

[00:15:37]>> That is Jake on his dating apps every night full of wishful thinking. Zero evidence.

[00:15:43]>> Then expectation, what you believe will happen based on a reason or a pattern.

[00:15:48]An expectation is stronger than a hope.

[00:15:52]>> That is what crashed when my client didn't love my design. An expectation built on five sleepless nights.

[00:15:59]>> Realistic based on what can actually happen in real life. A realistic goal is one you can actually reach.

[00:16:06]>> I wish I could fly is not realistic. I hope I can save more money this month is realistic. Small, possible, real.

[00:16:15]>> Regret is the sad feeling about a choice you made in the past that you can't undo. Regret is the emotion that lives inside wish about the past sentences.

[00:16:26]>> Regret lives inside every I wish I had sentence I've ever said. quiet but always there.

[00:16:33]>> Outcome is the final result of a situation. The outcome is what actually happens in the end.

[00:16:40]>> I hoped for a good outcome. I expected the worst and now I wish I had prepared better. All three words, one story.

[00:16:49]>> And finally, disappointed. The feeling when reality doesn't match what you expected. When you're disappointed, your expectation was too high.

[00:16:58]>> I expected sunshine for my picnic. I got rain. I was so disappointed and cold and wet and eating sandwiches in my car.

[00:17:08]>> Seven words. Each one a tool for talking about what you hope, what you wish, and what you expect.

[00:17:14]>> Write them down. Use them today and let them live in how you speak. All right, a question for you. Which one do you mix up the most? Hope, wish, or expect? Tell us in the comments. No wrong answers.

[00:17:28]Well, there are some wrong answers, but we won't judge you for them.

[00:17:32]>> Fair enough. Like, subscribe, and share this with a friend who still says, "I wish I can."

[00:17:39]>> And remember, every time you practice, even just one sentence, your English gets a little bit stronger. You might not feel it today, but trust me, it's happening.

[00:17:49]>> Hope equals possible. Wish equals unreal. Expect equals sure. That's all you need. See you tomorrow.

[00:17:58]>> Bye.