Women Who Can't Stop COPING Over Divorce

追加: 2026-05-26

[00:00:00]If you really pay attention to these women, a lot of times it's just a lack of gratitude and wanting more. All right. What's up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Uh, what's up, guys?

[00:00:11]Welcome to my reaction series. So, today we're reacting to women um coping in real time. And I don't know, women, we just have this funny thing where um whenever we take an L, we just have to make it everybody's problem. And it's like we number one, we tell everybody.

[00:00:28]And not only do we tell everybody, but we also try to cope and make everybody say that it's not an L and that we were right. And the cope um is usually pretty funny. So, here we're going to watch the cope as I talk about why I'm choosing to live apart from my husband after being seven years together. And this one's for the giries who built their whole entire life around another person. Listen to this, okay? probably as vulnerable as I get online, but I've always been in relationship or some type of situationship where there's another person there for me. Since I was like 16, my ex cheated on me, immediately I got with my husband. Like to me, there was nothing scarier than being alone.

[00:01:06]So, my entire self-worth came from another partner validating me. Like, I felt like I had to be loved by someone at all time. There was only two things I knew at the time. Like, I wanted to be loved by someone, but I also wanted to live in China cuz it wasn't my choice to come to America. Even though I'm thankful, it wasn't my choice. Mom got remarried when I was 10 and I just got dropped over here. Like, I literally picked a college major that I do not care about, which was international business. And all I wanted was like, okay, if I do international business, it probably means I can move to China. And I also filed to be an exchange student in China for my second year of college.

[00:01:38]But then I met my husband. Moved in together pretty much right away. Okay, girls, this is a big freaking mistake.

[00:01:43]We literally merged into each other, like our hobbies, our lives. Right around this time, CO also hit. So now we're really stuck stuck with each other. At this point I started planning everything around us. My schedule, my work and the craziest thing is my purpose like my >> that's the thing women will spend their youth with a man right and then um the issue is we tend to resent the man. So we put a lot of time into him and then we resent not spending that time on ourselves and spending it on him. Um because men tend to want you to work around their schedule. They don't really like to change their schedule for you.

[00:02:18]And we're not really attracted to them if they do that. So, um, then the women later are like, "Oh, I wish I did all these things. It's probably things they couldn't have even done anyway because most women are lazy, but they'll convince themselves they could have did those things." And then it's like a rabbit hole. My >> purpose is to be with my husband. And honestly, for a while, it worked out just oh [ __ ] until like the moment it didn't anymore. Like my brain was like developing. Literally the beginning of this year, we were planning for a child because I felt like I don't know what my purpose is anymore. Do I become a suburban mom?

[00:02:49]>> Get ready with me.

[00:02:50]>> Okay. Well, she'll cope. All right. Now, we have a fat woman with tattoos and pink hair. All right.

[00:02:58]>> So, when I left my ex-husband, it wasn't because I hated him. You know, things just weren't >> okay. So, for no reason, she got bored >> there anymore. And I'm too much of a happy person to be miserable in a relationship. So I left for the both of us to be happy.

[00:03:18]>> He made her a lot happier, but she didn't realize it. Um because he made her richer, better, you know, healthier and just an allout better life altogether. But she will never appreciate him.

[00:03:29]>> I left for him to have the ability to find someone who could give him the love and attention that I just couldn't give him, right? And so I explained that to him and he understood I I suppose at the time and so I felt comfortable leaving on good terms. You know, we still co-parented really well together. Um I moved in with a friend and things were fine until they weren't because flipping the script on me randomly, especially after he started seeing other women, which is fine. That's what I wanted. But that's when he changed and then I became the enemy and I was shut out. There's a lot more to it. I'll explain in more videos.

[00:04:18]>> Yeah, there wasn't more to it and she's just coping.

[00:04:22]>> Let's talk getting fat.

[00:04:24]>> Number three and why it didn't work out.

[00:04:26]Basically, it comes down to we weren't [ __ ] He did not want to be intimate with me. Everything >> and you know, she looks thin. So, I'm going to say she was such a she was mean to him all the time and then he didn't want to have sex with her >> about me was an issue because I very quickly got depressed.

[00:04:44]He we got married a month later he was off in to Germany for 4 months between the honeymoon and when he left for Germany we [ __ ] twice. Sorry mom for the language, but yes, we only were intimate twice. And come to find out while he was there, he was on kick and there was all this other things like I started gaining weight because of >> Oh, okay. So, she did get fat. I She doesn't look I can't see how big she is.

[00:05:09]We'll look after she's done.

[00:05:11]>> How miserable I was. And I knew the intimacy was bad, >> but the financial stability that he was going to be able to provide outweighed, you know, I would I thought I could make myself continue with the relationship.

[00:05:27]And very quickly as time went on, it it was always like, "Oh, I don't like your hair naturally curly." Or I would try to initiate, "Oh, I already took care of it myself." So, lack of intimacy and he was just very financially controlling.

[00:05:43]And so, I was going to try to force myself to work through it because I said, "We just had a big wedding. My parents spent this money. I made a huge mistake and now I'm just going to be completely complete failure." And it was at >> What do you guys If you were in a sexless marriage on your part, why was it sexless? Tell me in the comments.

[00:06:05]talking to my dad and him being like, "It's okay. You can get divorced. You if you're seriously unhappy, get divorced." This is what I mean when men um they they assist women in making terrible decisions. Like the men will help her move and then take care of those. So like the women I don't know a lot of people say women regret divorce and I don't think so because there's too many men that still take care of them. And so I did and it relieved so much because I wasn't sleeping well for months trying to like figure out that what I'm going to do.

[00:06:41]And it was my dad saying, "Listen, you don't have any kids. Thank God for that.

[00:06:46]You can start over and I know you're embarrassed, but trust me, the right guy is not going to care if you've been married three times." Also, >> oh my gosh, this is your third.

[00:06:55]>> Like to mention that my ex would always throw out, "Oh, I know that you'll never divorce me because you'd be too embarrassed to tell people that you've been divorced three times." So, haha, jokes on him.

[00:07:08]So, we've kind of wrapped that up.

[00:07:11]Basically, that's what it is. Lack of intimacy, overly financially controlling, and just we weren't vibing.

[00:07:19]So, >> we weren't vibing. How fat is she? She fat. She's not I guess I guess if you guys want to see okay chubby not fat.

[00:07:28]She's just a little fluffy. She's not too bad. Okay. This woman why I left my husband. She looks unathletic though.

[00:07:36]>> Lily, I am divorcing my husband after being a stay-at-home mom for six years.

[00:07:42]And you guys keep asking me for the tea.

[00:07:44]So, I'm going to tell you the freaking tea, okay? Cuz most people like stay at home mom. It's a good life, right? Why would I be leaving my husband after being a stay home mom for six years? I have everything that I ever hoped and dreamed for, right? Not really.

[00:08:02]>> And then she's going to talk about how it wasn't enough. If you really pay attention to these women, a lot of times it's just a lack of gratitude and wanting more. And I would say that's sort of the it's like women's toxic trait is just never being satisfied >> because it's easy for someone to become financially controlling and abusive when you are relying on that person to literally live every single day. I would rather be broke and by myself than trapped in a house with that.

[00:08:41]>> And then if you break it down and say, "Well, were was he hitting you?" It's it's always emotional abuse, which can be damn near anything.

[00:08:49]>> And truthfully, I guess I'm just another statistic because my daughter died four years ago. Um, and if you look at the statistics, like those marriages don't last. So maybe it's that. I don't know.

[00:09:04]Um he threatened to kill me about a year ago and that's when I was like mentally like I [ __ ] checked out of everything. Like so that's the tea. I mean it's not it's not piping hot or anything but being a stay at home mom isn't all that it's cracked up to be okay. Now she's going to cope. Um I would agree that being a stay-at-home mom has its own problems. Um and women never anticipate those. But all right, let's see what this next woman, you know, has to say.

[00:09:31]>> What finally made me leave my husband wasn't a big fight. It wasn't realizing all was sacrificing. It was realizing that I was literally sacrificing my peace. Honestly, I was stay at home mom.

[00:09:45]I >> here that what's going to happen is women run um and they say they're sacrificing their peace, but the chaos is in us. Unfortunately, we have a hell on earth in us. Men will never understand stand the hell on earth that is in our brain. You know, just imagine like you guys are so lucky cuz you're like these women torture me and that's terrible. But just imagine like being tortured by yourself. Yeah.

[00:10:07]>> I was constantly on the edge and I honestly stayed longer than I should have. Bills were paid. There was food on the table. We had a home. We had a not a home, we had a ranch. Like we were living life. Had a life together. We were together for a long time since we were in high school. And for a long time, I was convinced that that was enough. Like literally thinking about it now, I thought that was enough. But what people don't talk about is how lonely it was being with someone who constantly was looking for attention and lusting over other women. The cheating, the lies, the hiding things, the oh, I have a business trip, but you were with somebody else.

[00:10:46]>> Yeah, the cheating. Women get tired of it eventually. Women are very spiteful.

[00:10:51]Have you guys I don't know. In my experience, eventually the women get tired of getting cheated on at some point. Anyways, um guys, let me know what you think in the comments. Like the video and subscribe to the channel. Um I love you guys. Thanks for watching and I'll see you next