Why Women’s Standards Are Too High

Ajouté : 2026-05-31

[00:00:00]They survey ton of men and women, they say, "Ladies, if you could get 80% of what you wanted in a partner, how many of you would be satisfied?" And about 25% of women said that they'd be satisfied satisfied. Then they asked the men, "If you could get 80% of what you wanted in a partner, would you be satisfied?" And 75% of the men said that they would be satisfied. In general, that's what, you know, it is. Men understand like a lot of times they're going to compromise on certain things.

[00:00:21]What I would recommend instead is that you become attractive to women in general and see multiple It doesn't You don't have to sleep with all of them.

[00:00:29]But see multiple women and have women understand other women understand that you're attractive to the opposite sex.

[00:00:35]And what you're going to find is you are going to get the best behavior out of the By the way, the same thing for women. You're going to get the best behavior out of the people that you're dating when you're you have a like again, let's say Christina has like five guys that she's talking to at the same time, but one of them he has just a little bit less time than the other ones and he's really, really nice and respectful whenever he's talking to you and you go through his highlights and you see his ex it's like six highlights down and his ex is a [ __ ] 15.

[00:01:00]She's going to pay a little bit more attention to that dude. Look, she's nodding. There you go. Um and and so so that's that's what I would recommend for guys to do. I don't think it's toxic if especially if you're not in a relationship for women to know that other women find you attractive. One of the things that I've done and I've actually looked up data on this, I have a bunch of very attractive female friends that I'm not sleeping with and I'm openly not sleeping with them and I still get women tell me I didn't notice you until I saw all these other women that you were around. In fact, my last two exes one of them she was like, "Um I didn't notice you. You weren't my type until I saw uh my roommate was actually trying to make out with you." And the second one she was she was totally not into me and four girls that I knew introduced her to me and then we ended up hooking up and uh like like down the line afterwards because of that. So, I will tell you that women vouching for you is probably the most powerful thing, but in order to do that you have to be friends with women and it also helps men with a thing called cross-sex mind reading um and it I think it's just really important, which is why I'm able to read Reese Hunt mind so incredibly well.

[00:02:02]>> That's not true.

[00:02:02]>> It isn't true. You miss You miss You miss Willie?

[00:02:05]>> I do miss Willie.

[00:02:06]>> [laughter] >> Okay, here we go. Can you Can you play the the divorce lawyer one?

[00:02:09]>> Yep, here we go.

[00:02:09]>> The most dangerous person in your marriage has 847,000 followers and has never met you, but your spouse watches them every night.

[00:02:17]I'm not exaggerating when I say that social media has changed the nature of what I watch unfold in divorce cases.

[00:02:23]The comparisons are constant. The access to other people, real and imagined, is constant. The drip feed of other lives that look better, easier, and more exciting than yours is constant. And here's what that does to a marriage. It manufactures dissatisfaction of things that were fine. I went through a high-conflict divorce myself. I know what the end of a real relationship costs, and I watch people now risk that cost for a version of life they saw on a screen built by strangers who are also miserable, but post better than you do.

[00:02:50]The algorithm is not rooting for your marriage. It is optimized for your attention. And your attention is most easily captured by the belief that somewhere someone is living a life better than yours. They are not, I promise you.

[00:03:04]>> And you guys have any thoughts about that?

[00:03:06]>> Mhm.

[00:03:06]>> Have you ever felt a a feeling of FOMO when you're seeing somebody on a beach in Ibiza or at >> Yes, we've all have.

[00:03:12]>> Yeah, we've all felt that or or >> reel of people's lives.

[00:03:15]>> Highlight reel of people's lives. Yeah, you feel you feel that, right?

[00:03:19]>> But a lot of people don't know it's fake.

[00:03:20]>> we all don't know it's fake and often you're looking at a girl and being like, why does my boyfriend doing this not knowing that you're looking at an escort? You don't recognize. You're comparing yourself You're comparing yourself I'm I'm not trying to denigrate anyone, but you're comparing yourself to a prostitute. And you think, "Oh my god, why am I not on a PJ? Why am I because you actually Again, most ladies that I know are not paying $65,000 for one-way trips on a private jet. It's generally a man who's doing that. And that's fine, there's nothing wrong with that. The problem is now all of a sudden my female friends are unsatisfied with their relationship because they saw some other guy, some other girl walking on the beach in Ibiza thinking, "Man, her boyfriend takes care of her better than mine mine does." Not recognizing you're looking at an escort. What?

[00:04:02]>> that's exactly what, you know, it's Here's the thing is that we're looking at one girl who is taking all these trips all over the world, but we don't know that it's with it's with different men. Different men are paying for these things, and that's the the aspect of that is that, you know, it's it's not real. And it's glorifying something that we're all searching for that it that's not the the reality of the life, you know.

[00:04:24]>> Um I'm I'm What?

[00:04:26]>> They're just not in the healthiest of relationships.

[00:04:28]>> Yeah.

[00:04:28]>> Like I've seen plenty of people where they post on Instagram and it's like, "Damn, like if I didn't know y'all in person, I would think you guys were in love and your relationship is like amazing." Yes. But in person, like that [ __ ] is toxic as [ __ ] and like you may be doing it, and that's where it comes into the attention. Both the guy and girl are getting something from a post like in Ibiza where you're on the [ __ ] jet ski backwards like [ __ ] like we've all seen [laughter] that [ __ ] video. I want to do that with my man eventually, but like you never know what they're actually like going through.

[00:04:54]>> Like literally, [laughter] like I want to do that, but like you never know what's going on like behind the scenes cuz I've even been in that place where it's like people think it's all good, and then like actually it's like the worst time of my entire life.

[00:05:06]>> Yeah, I have some really great videos from a horrible vacation.

[00:05:10]>> Yeah.

[00:05:10]>> Yeah, I've definitely gone [laughter] through that as well.

[00:05:11]>> fire. They're fire.

[00:05:13]>> So, I actually have um some personal insight because I was married for 8 years, and um I >> And he regrets losing you every day, honey.

[00:05:21]>> Of course, he does.

[00:05:22]>> Yes.

[00:05:22]>> Oh, he still loves me, and we love each other. However, um however, I did I mean, obviously, I left for a few reasons, but I was like, "You know what? I can give myself a better life than running in place and pulling dead weight and being the bread win breadwinner and doing a lot of things where it's like great marriage, but it was a social media thing, but it wasn't like I was like, "Oh, I'm going to find a great guy and try and find a high value man to give me this life. It's like I would be better and happier on my own.

[00:05:52]>> Ooh, that's a great point.

[00:05:53]>> Yeah.

[00:05:54]>> Okay, ladies. So so here's the here's the analogy I like to use for men. If I go to prison, I would rather be single than be a homosexual. I would rather just not be with anybody. So women, the what they are today is a lot of them are saying, I would rather be single than get a guy who's only 99% of what I want.

[00:06:11]If you understand that that's the case and that the standards are high, what you should expect to see is record low marriage rates and record low fertility rates.

[00:06:22]And that's exactly what we see.

[00:06:23]>> the brink of me having kids.

[00:06:24]>> That's exactly what we see.

[00:06:25]>> it's 99, but maybe it was like 85 and you're just sort of year after year I've put this much effort into it and so you feel like, you know, uh especially with marriage and you get married in front of people, so you feel like there's a lot of like social pressure. Um yeah.

[00:06:41]>> One of some of the best caveats for being with a man ancestrally let's go like I like to use the point about 27,000 years ago cuz that's the end of Neanderthal and the only hominids left are Homo sapiens. At that point, the the benefit of being with a man is protection, provisioning, and parental parental investment, okay? That's the thing. Now it's like protection, I live in a high rise, all the security guards here have a Glock, I don't really need protect if you're a woman. Provisioning, I you know, I got a I got a degree, I make $300,000 a year. I got two I got two master's degrees. I I make my own money, I'm on OF, I make I you know, I'm I'm not that good. I make 20k a month on OF, I'm not that good. I make 50k a month on OF. I'm not So and now you don't need the provisioning and parental investment, I don't even know if I want to have kids. I don't want to do that to my body. I think I might hire a surrogate. Like that's where we are now.

[00:07:26]So let now Now Now Now the investment that men can give you is not as good.

[00:07:33]Unless you're in the relationship and you're dickmatized and you're like, oh my god, this is the greatest thing ever.

[00:07:38]Did that [ __ ] look at my man? I'm going to kill him. I I believe I'm going to kill her. I can't believe this [ __ ] >> That's how you get the sassy men, right?

[00:07:43]>> Yes.

[00:07:43]>> I Because well Because why if if you don't need like I've heard this a million times. You said this on Dr. Phil.

[00:07:50]Men men become superfluous, right? It's it's the they don't need them for long-term security. I got to make my own damn money. I got an education. I'm you know, I'm a strong independent woman.

[00:08:01]Independent of what? Independent of men essentially. So if that's if that's the if that's the sort of the beta buck side of the equation, the so what's left? The sassy man, the guy who invests in his personal looks, who's smashing his jawline with a with a hammer or something like or is trying or treats you like or or a combination of the both is the it's a sweet spot right there. He walks right out of the penitentiary.

[00:08:24]He's ready for you as he comes out.

[00:08:27]Is hybristophilia really all that shocking and surprising considering all this? Now what I was going to say is like because what's left? It's just the alpha [ __ ] It's just the guy who is turns you on. He looks good. He's Why do we have filters for height? Why on on on Bumble and Hinge and everything? Cuz there's that physicality is important because you don't need him for anything else. You need him for height. You need him for being jacked. You need him for a 10-in dick. You know, you need him for >> But those guys can be so so shallow as well just as like you know, a pretty you know, Barbie looking playmate can be just shallow. Yeah, exactly. If a guy knows he's tall, he knows he's LIKE A MAN.

[00:09:16]>> ALL RIGHT, I'M GOING TO QUOTE I'M GOING TO QUOTE THE rational male that there's nothing more threatening to women at what and simultaneously arousing is a man who understands his own value to women and leans into it.

[00:09:25]>> Yes.