This Why people are lonely these days

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]You know, recently seen this video of a bunch of streamers in a room just recording each other talking to each other, socializing and things like that.

[00:00:07]And then my first thought was like, what the what is going on, bro? It's just a bunch of people with cameras and lights in their face having private conversations with each other that's really not private because you got a big camera with a big old light that's like shining in all your face.

[00:00:26]And it's like two or three or four people having conversations with each other as if it's private and and but it's not because it's being streamed.

[00:00:33]And I don't know if it's some type of kickback or party or I don't know what they was doing it was but it's just not normal and this is why loneliness has become what it has become.

[00:00:41]And somebody might be like, well, how is that how is loneliness how what's that got to do with loneliness?

[00:00:46]It's because if you think about it, communication has been consistent since the beginning of time.

[00:00:52]There's been a lot of changes in this world. Technology has changed, different interests, different sports, different things to do. Yes, there there has been a lot of different things one of the things that have been consistent with humans since the beginning of time has been communication pretty much.

[00:01:08]You know, when when you you get in around a group of people and you just a community of people and you get along and you laugh and you joke and you talk to each other and and you you people confide in one another just things like that.

[00:01:20]But now because of social media and streaming, it's all fake.

[00:01:25]It's like, do these people talk to each other when the cameras aren't on and what they How does that contribute to loneliness?

[00:01:33]Well, you got what is is okay. Just imagine if you're talking to somebody but you're not really talking to them.

[00:01:39]You're really talking to them because you're thinking about how many views or how many likes or how many comments you're going to get. So, the conversations aren't genuine because you know people are watching you.

[00:01:51]And the more people watch you for having this type of conversation with you, you get more money, you get more clout, you get more fame, you get all these type of things. People right, right? So, then there's a ulterior motive. The ulterior motive is extrinsic rewards.

[00:02:07]Right?

[00:02:08]So, that means that if you are having these conversations with these people and those extrinsic rewards aren't there, what type of conversations would you have?

[00:02:17]Now, people are doing things to provoke each other because they thinking about money or they thinking about how many clicks, how many views, how many likes, how many shares, how many comments. So, they'll they'll they'll say things in a conversation that's that they otherwise would not even say.

[00:02:33]To provoke.

[00:02:36]And you see what I'm saying? And And what's happening slowly over time is new generation, I'll say Gen Z, what's what's happening slowly over time, people are training themselves to not have genuine relationships.

[00:02:49]And when you don't have genuine genuine relationships, people are lonely.

[00:02:56]You know how many people in that room probably feel alone they probably feel lonely?

[00:03:02]Imagine you talking to somebody. You ever talked to somebody, right?

[00:03:05]This actually happens in everyday, too.

[00:03:08]But not as often because it's not social media, right?

[00:03:11]You ever talked to somebody but when you're talking to them but they are really not interested in talking to you.

[00:03:17]They have they're really not interested in talking to you. They're having a conversation with you really conscious of other people around them listening to them. So, they're talking to you but you see every as as they talking to you they're looking around. You know, they're saying jokes but they they're looking at who who's laughing at the jokes that they're saying, who's around. They're saying things they're looking at for people's reaction of the state of them saying intelligent things or whatever. And they're looking at And then it's like they're using you just to just to just for other people to hear them and impress other people.

[00:03:46]They're talking to you but they really don't care about talking to you. They care about the about the around you that's listening to them to to that person talk to you.

[00:03:56]Does that make any sense?

[00:03:57]I know people will know what I'm talking about.

[00:04:01]If anybody ever perceives themselves to be in that situation, it's like what why am I even talk to this person? You quickly lose interest.

[00:04:09]Well, imagine a world with just just social media and streaming and all this type of stuff and everybody's doing stuff for likes and comments and views and things like that.

[00:04:21]Every time you get around somebody, you're talking to them, they pull out their phone or their meta glasses, they're trying to record for a for a moment to post on social media.

[00:04:30]There's nothing that's just genuine anymore.

[00:04:34]People, it's not even just the young generation of Gen Z. This is millennials, this is Gen X, this is the baby boomers, this is almost every generation is is is on is is scrolling on their phones.

[00:04:46]The difference is I say like the older generation like Gen X really you know the boomers, they're not quick to pull their phone out and record every moment.

[00:04:58]They're not. They they they they they'll they'll scroll on social media so they that they have that same issue like every other about every every every everybody else. But they are still because they grew up they're still in the moment. They they grew up like that so it's not it's more it's more normal for them to be in the moment with somebody than for them to pull their phone out and try to record every moment and stuff like that. You think about concerts. If you go to a concert, who's really in the moment?

[00:05:22]Everybody pulling their phones out as if you're not going as if you're not there.

[00:05:27]Well, what about the memories? A thousand people behind you and in front of you are recording the same thing.

[00:05:32]Just put that just just research the the search the the concert that you're at and all those moments will pop up on social media.

[00:05:45]You act like I can see if you was the only one there.

[00:05:49]Or everybody there was there and nobody else was recording. Okay, I can see you recording.

[00:05:53]Everybody's recording. What's the point of you recording? Just be in the moment.

[00:05:57]People don't know how to do that. That's what it's lead it's leading to loneliness.

[00:06:00]It is.

[00:06:06]You you you trying to have a conversation with somebody and This now this is this is something I've been saying for years and people be like, "You got a point." But then they still don't care.

[00:06:16]Why Why should somebody who is 200 miles away, 30 miles away, a thousand miles away, one mile away, 500 feet away, who texts you on the phone or call you have priority over somebody that you have having a conversation with that's right in front of you?

[00:06:35]Why?

[00:06:36]That don't make any sense. How many times How many times have you had a conversation with somebody, right? A one-on-one conversation. It's good conversation.

[00:06:44]It's a rich conversation. It's great.

[00:06:47]And they get a phone call.

[00:06:49]And they take the phone call Hold on real quick.

[00:06:51]Let me Let me Let me get the phone. And they take the phone call.

[00:06:55]And they're talking on the phone.

[00:06:56]30 seconds, 5 minutes, 20 minutes.

[00:06:59]They literally Technology has become so normal to people that they literally prioritize somebody that's somewhere else over a technological device than somebody that's right in front of them.

[00:07:12]How has that become normal? Even a text message. They'll be talking to you and then they'll in the middle of you talking to them, they'll check they'll scroll and check their text mess text message.

[00:07:21]This is This is leading to loneliness.

[00:07:24]Okay, so what's the solution? I don't have all the solutions, but I do know one of the solutions is when you're with people, when you're with people, be in the moment.

[00:07:33]Try not to prioritize technology.

[00:07:37]Try not to prioritize who's calling you the the other human who's calling you or texting you.

[00:07:44]Why don't you just try to prioritize your relationship and the person that's right in front of you?

[00:07:50]I guarantee you I can almost guarantee you in most situations I can almost guarantee you the conversation will be more rich.

[00:08:01]The relationship will be more rich. Oh, guess what? You'll feel less lonely.

[00:08:11]Imagine this knowing it like I don't really want to get into this topic too much, but humans all throughout society have always had people around them.

[00:08:24]In In villages and tribes and things like that, you was always around family and friends.

[00:08:30]You rarely was really ever alone.

[00:08:33]And then what? Guess what? There was no technology that was interrupting. So, if you had conversations with people, interactions, it was a real interaction. Whether if you was frustrated with each other, whether you was happy with each other, laugh with each other, joking with each other, crying with each other.

[00:08:47]Um just chilling and talking to each other, just having a good conversation.

[00:08:52]It was right there. It was in the moment. It was rich. It was great.

[00:08:57]It was great. Um Um but now, social media's I guess what?

[00:09:01]20 30 years old now? About 20 years old.

[00:09:05]And um it's it's it A lot of people lonely. And you don't have to be lonely because guess what?

[00:09:11]You could always be like, "You know what?

[00:09:13]I'm just going to take a break from social media. Instead of it always 7 hours 8 hours a day I'm only I'm going to I'm only going to dedicate a hour to, you know, to technology.

[00:09:25]And other than that, it's going to it's going to be just rich conversations with people I have friendships and relationships with.

[00:09:33]I'm not saying I We living in in a time where of course technology is very relevant and you need it to function really in this modern-day society, but to the extent that people have excess is not is not necessary.

[00:09:48]It's necessary for a lot of things, but it's not necessary in the excess that people have have been addicted to it.

[00:09:54]It's not.

[00:09:56]You can You can put your phone down.

[00:09:59]You can put your phone down for a few more hours a day.

[00:10:04]Or just 1 hour a day.

[00:10:06]More than you usually do.

[00:10:08]>> [snorts] >> It is not going to It's actually going to improve the quality of life if you have a more of a balance.

[00:10:16]I'm not saying like you shouldn't have technology. I'm not saying that, but it's like but too much of anything is is is is if anything, it's not going to be good.

[00:10:28]So, with technology and loneliness and stuff like that, I think that's one of the starting solutions to being less lonely, you know, having a relationship with God, having a relationship with Jesus is number one.

[00:10:44]Calling friends and family and say, "Hey, can we take a walk at the park?

[00:10:50]Can we sit down at the bench and just talk to each other?

[00:10:53]We put our phones down. We put the technology down for a minute. Just for a minute and just have a conversation.

[00:10:59]It It It will just make your life so much less lonely.

[00:11:04]Especially when you know that person is right there. They focus on you. There's no distractions. And then on the other side of the person is right there.

[00:11:10]Focus. There's no distractions. And you have to talk to each other. And you just It's It's great.

[00:11:15]Um That's my thoughts. Have a good day.