Sally Field Lore, Hantavirus, HIV Funding, and How to Style "Irish Curls" | THE MONDAY EDIT

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:04]This is a really big deal. It's a big day. It's a different intro. I'm not doing what I always do because today I'm wearing a scarf. I told y'all hoes I was a scarf person now. Put my money where my mouth is. I'm out here looking like a non-binary HIV positive Eminem first thing on a Monday morning. Okay, >> welcome back to the Monday edit. This is Jonathan Venz coming in hot. This week, like every week, we're joined by our executive producer Chris. Say hi, Chris.

[00:00:29]Bulla >> Chris, you look stunning this morning. I love your wig so much. We didn't get to see her last week. I'm not in that same Seattle hoodie.

[00:00:38]>> I know. We're so different. Everything's so different now. Yeah, [laughter] >> new people.

[00:00:43]>> We made it through another week. We are barreling towards summer and North America. And uh I am headed to England on that note. Speaking of North Northern Hemisphere, >> yeah, >> not North America, but speaking of northern hemisphere, if you are in London, uh if you're in Manchester, if you're in Glasgow, if you are in there's another one, Chris, what's that other one? It's >> Nottingham.

[00:01:05]>> Noddingham. If you're in one of those four cities, get you some tickets. If you're in Bristol, thank you so much for selling that out. It really means so much to me. It makes me feel like you like me. You you like me. Um which just makes me feel so good. It is very Sally Field. You know what I thought about that? Not to go right off script, right at the very top.

[00:01:23]>> Go for it. I love a Sally Field. Take me there.

[00:01:25]>> I saw on Tik Tok and this is not part of a Tik Tok roundup. You guys are just getting like an extra special giblet.

[00:01:31]>> But [laughter] her that quote of you like me, really like me. That is the most misqued speech quote of all time according to this Tik Tok thing I saw because what she really said was >> I'm going to mess it up, but it's something like and you know I it can't be denied. You like me. You like me. She doesn't say, "You like me. You really like me." She just says, "You like me.

[00:01:54]Pause. You like me." And >> and we really are out here saying like, "You like me. You really like me." And it's just not the case. Chris is facteing right now.

[00:02:03]>> I'm facteing right now because this is I can't deny the fact that you like me right now. You like me right now. Oh, really? And right now gets switched.

[00:02:11]That's so crazy.

[00:02:13]>> That's like That is some good like Mandela effect right there. It's like, "Oh my god, no. Never did."

[00:02:18]>> Yeah. So now you guys know I learned it on TikTok and and you didn't even know so much so that you literally second guessed me live. I can't believe >> it wasn't that I was second guessing. I was just like let me get this let's get those straight. Let's like let's just let the girls know.

[00:02:28]>> I can tell the difference between like when you're doing a fact check like to confirm when something's right versus like I'm not sure. I've known you long enough and there was like a I feel like there's like a subtle little like I'm not sure in your eye. Like maybe you were like not second but I be like am I wrong? Did I totally misguide that through the internet? I feel like there was like a subtle Are you sure? Like I felt like there's >> crossed wires over Wi-Fi. Who knows? Who even knows? [laughter] >> Are you sure? That's what I learned. And it was um so I'm really glad that we all So like Yeah. So that's what I learned.

[00:02:58]So but it's it's really been a busy week and we're just going to >> we we confirmed that it is at least 8 feet over in this deep end. Probably even like 15 feet. So we're going to dive in.

[00:03:08]>> We're diving in. Yeah, we're definitely 15 feet in. Oh my god.

[00:03:11]>> Okay, we're going in. I finished up my West Coast leg of the tour. I'm headed back to England, but I'm I'm home for now. It's gorgeous. I'm back at Tiger Bar Espresso. I'm so happy to see June.

[00:03:21]So happy to see all the pets. And that's the game is here.

[00:03:24]>> The scarf game is here >> with a vengeance.

[00:03:28]>> I actually realized that I need to get like a better display cuz like right now they're all just like folded up on a shelf and what I need is like a stunning tray so that I may >> arrange them in some sort of scarf flower. Um, >> I love that. A bouquet.

[00:03:45]>> Yeah, a bouquet, if you will.

[00:03:46]>> Bouquet of scarves. I love that.

[00:03:47]>> A bouquet of scarves. So, that's my world. What about your world?

[00:03:50]>> I love it. Well, I'm uh still on my spring cleaning. Still on my all that's steig. We're in donation pile central getting rid of records, getting rid of everything. So, >> records.

[00:04:00]>> Yeah, I've got Well, I got so many vinyls. We've got We picked up a lot of vinyls from like, you know, parents gone by, you know, like they're all just like living giving us all of their like extra stuff. So, it's always that it was like nice to have collection, but now it's giving like Swedish death cleaning, right? Like must get in, must get out.

[00:04:13]Yes.

[00:04:14]>> Deep cut. Swedish death cleaning.

[00:04:16]>> Deep cut. Yes. Yes. Yes. So, I'm on my Swedish deathling at the moment.

[00:04:20]>> I love those people.

[00:04:21]>> They're the best. We love them. They're so sweet.

[00:04:23]>> And I wish that I could Swedish death clean better.

[00:04:26]>> I'm bad at it. [laughter] I'm really >> I'm terrible. I want to keep everything.

[00:04:30]>> It's like half what I'm getting better at this week is like Swedish death cleaning. But I'm interested to know what you're getting better at this week.

[00:04:36]What are you getting better at this week? I'm getting better, but this is like going to be a continued thing because I don't think, you know, Rome wasn't built in a day and I'm clear on that. I'm really working on like scarf tying. You know, this lift right here, it's not what I want. Um, it needs to be it needs to be, you know, it's like a little different. I I really want to give you like >> the like neck to head like, you know, I want to give you that. There's just so many. I want to give you scarf tops. I want to give you I just want to be so versatile like in my scarf tying >> acumen confidence [clears throat] all of it. So that's what we're really working on.

[00:05:12]>> I love that. What comes to mind is a little Edy Beal. Like you know she was really adept at scarf tying. She really was.

[00:05:18]>> Give us a gay lesson. Give us a gay lesson.

[00:05:20]>> Oh Edie Beal, cousin of Jackie Kennedy Onasses. Of course she lived famously in the Hamptons in one of like a decrepit mansion called Great Gardens.

[00:05:28]>> Gardens.

[00:05:29]>> And Yes. Yes. Yes. Edie Beiel uh lived there and she very famously was into documentaries in the 70s and also became a musical on Broadway. Um but also uh but basically yeah she was really good at tying scars and she has a whole song about tying scars like as a cape as a like as a skirt as a headband. So it's kind of funny actually you say that really never occurred to me until [laughter] >> and famously also not good at Swedish death cleaning.

[00:05:50]>> Famously not good at Swedish death cleaning. Exactly that. Exactly that.

[00:05:53]Isn't that interesting how we're so neurode divergent, but then like it always comes back to center because like we're we're like good witches.

[00:06:01]>> It is. It's It's the good witchcraft.

[00:06:02]For sure. For sure. For sure. That.

[00:06:04]Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:06:05]>> Oh, wow. Okay. What are you getting better at?

[00:06:07]>> Um, well, I'm still Okay. So, Swedish death cleaning is like half of it. And I'm also just horse practice update. I'm on to bodies now. We're working on we're working on our our prants. So, we're just doing some pen sketches, you know, just some light some light pen sketches, but we're working on it.

[00:06:21]>> I'm so impressed. Thank you so much.

[00:06:23]Thank you so much.

[00:06:23]>> Your artistry is like next level.

[00:06:26]>> Listen, I >> actually do have one other update. Not to like extend our intro even longer, but >> but I mean, go for it.

[00:06:32]>> Okay, so this summer in June, I thought I was going to go to to Europe on vacation for one of my besties 40ths.

[00:06:39]>> Turns out cuz I'm performing in Hawaii this summer.

[00:06:42]>> Yeah.

[00:06:43]>> We were like, wait, we're like literally in the Pacific Ocean. We should just go go over there. Like why fly to Europe all the way from Hawaii like when you're so close to Soul South Korea and Japan.

[00:06:53]>> So [laughter] I'm literally going to Soul, South Korea. I've never been there before. I'm so excited. I'm going to get so many [ __ ] rice cakes. I'm going to get so many [ __ ] like I'm just so excited to go to Seoul. And then I saw that Bretman was in Soul. So I slid into their DMs and I was like, "Oh my god, Queen. Like what should I do?" Like like what do you think? So but you guys, if you have been to Seoul, if you are like very passionate about places to stay in Seoul, please let me know in these comments because I am stuck. I'm like, is it the Four Seasons for me? Is it is it not there? Do I is it like that one like in song place that's like more tradition and like right by the palace?

[00:07:24]Like what like where should I stay? I really am so curious. And I'm also making my triumphant return back to Japan for the first time since we filmed Queerey and I never got to go to Kyoto there, but we're going to go on an overnight trip to Kyoto. I'm so excited to get to go. And Tan told me that my favorite bakery there closed. So, I'm sad that I don't get to go to Bulange.

[00:07:42]But obviously, we know that there's a hardcore resale market there. And if you've been watching my TikTok, you know that I resold some bags and I got myself like a like a gorgeous bag.

[00:07:51]>> I might I might have to partake in like a tiny bag. I might have to, but I don't know. I'm not going to buy something just to buy something. But if I find the thing, I might buy the thing. I'm not sure yet. Uh but I am so excited to get to go back. But South Korea queens, please let me know about like Soul in the comments. I do need to know. Are you going to go to an onen when you go to Japan?

[00:08:10]>> Onen. What's that mean again?

[00:08:12]>> That's like the sauna. That's where they go soak. Where they go do like the bath.

[00:08:16]>> It's It's like It's like um It's It's like very traditional. It's very much like a community kind of like activity of just like to go soak for an hour or >> Yeah. I do love a hot bath.

[00:08:26]>> Yeah, it's giving me that. It's giving me that. There's like some that you can't have tattoos at though. Like that's the thing. It's like some of them. Yeah. So, it's like I like even just like my little guy right there.

[00:08:34]Like I'm I'm I messed up. Nothing won't let you in.

[00:08:37]>> Oh my god, it's time for what has turned into honestly like one of the highlights of every week. Am I coming in a little hot and overconfident because I got last week right? Have I told like almost anyone that would listen, including like everyone that checked me in for a flight last week? Um, like random strangers.

[00:08:57]I've told a lot of people about modality and how to spell it and it's just been it's really been like a so whatever. I don't know what level of I I don't know if you're like I don't know what's gonna happen this week. I'm not a fortune teller. Hold on. But the but our category is financial words, right?

[00:09:14]>> Yes. Our category is financial words. We are uh this is from Mrs. Dow Jones.

[00:09:19]We've got Mrs. Dow Jones aka Haley Saxs coming on the podcast on Wednesday. So, we're going to be doing a little financial ste for our vocabulary words today. So, you've got yours, >> Chris. Your word this week is heteroscadacity.

[00:09:34]M or it's heteroscadasticity.

[00:09:39]Heteroscadasticity.

[00:09:42]Of course, hetero. H E T E R O. Hetero scadasticity.

[00:09:50]S C A D scadad a S scadast T I C I T Y.

[00:10:00]Scadasticity. Heteroscodasticity.

[00:10:02]You got so close. Um, Hedero was right.

[00:10:06]Anticidity was right. And yeah, Hedo was right. But it's it's H E T E R O S K E D A S T I C T Y.

[00:10:20]>> Not a K. That's E T E R O S K E D A S T I C I T Y.

[00:10:30]>> I almost still can't say it.

[00:10:32]Heteroscodasticity.

[00:10:35]Heteroscodasticity.

[00:10:37]Heteroscodadasticity.

[00:10:41]Heteroscodadasticity.

[00:10:45]That [ __ ] is so [ __ ] hard.

[00:10:47]>> That's a hard one. That was a tough one.

[00:10:48]I got to say, >> it was I I literally Googled difficult financial spelling be words and it was the number one word and that's why I had to give it to you. I'm sorry.

[00:10:58]>> You know, it is it is what it is. We love it.

[00:11:01]Girl, lay it on me.

[00:11:04]>> All right, I've got one for you. Are you ready?

[00:11:06]>> Yes. Plutoaucracy.

[00:11:12]Plutoaucracy. A society governed by the wealthy. Sounds familiar.

[00:11:18]>> Can you use it in a or can you can I have the language of origin, please?

[00:11:23]>> You may. Greek, of course. Pluto. Hello.

[00:11:27]Could have guessed.

[00:11:28]>> Plutoaucracy. Photocracy.

[00:11:32]>> P L U T P L U T A U R A C Y.

[00:11:48]No, a couple dings there. You were right on the right track. And then you went somewhere else. I don't know what planet you went to. Not Pluto.

[00:11:55]>> You went to Uranus. Um, so Plutoaucracy.

[00:11:58]P L U T O C R A C Y. Plutoaucracy.

[00:12:02]>> Um, >> you you made it really hard. You really like >> I was thinking like bureaucracy.

[00:12:09]I was thinking like a r.

[00:12:11]>> Yeah. A butoaucracy. Yeah. Like bureaucracy. Yes. Dinosaur.

[00:12:17]>> I listen. I feel you. Wow.

[00:12:19]>> So it was P L U T O C R A C Y.

[00:12:23]>> Pluto crazy. Yeah.

[00:12:25]>> Pluto crazy.

[00:12:26]>> Pluto crazy. Yeah. Blue crazy.

[00:12:29]>> So crazy.

[00:12:30]>> That is crazy.

[00:12:31]>> That is [laughter] >> Whoa. Whoa. I I never in a million years would have got that.

[00:12:38]>> Listen, you know, that's what the spelling be for. It's here to teach us.

[00:12:41]>> I I bet we just We were like winning you guys so many like random challenges.

[00:12:46]>> We really are. We're really doing the most. And I will say we did happen to skip right over Tik Tok roundup today.

[00:12:51]So, we definitely do it.

[00:12:53]>> We [clears throat] definitely could do that. [laughter] When we talk about our bodies getting better, I think a lot of us immediately go to working out more, eating like, you know, perfectly, whatever that means, or trying to look a certain way. But constantly picking yourself apart is not self-improvement.

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[00:13:55]Well, if you guys remember, I sometimes will cover like a longer story on TikTok like the best friend breakup, the um there was like the solid core like one that one time. Like sometimes I just I will cover a story time and I had like a story time. Oh, that there was a schizophrenia lady remember who would like draw her like schizophrenia like like Yeah.

[00:14:20]I wonder what's going on with her. Um, but there was this girl and the hook of her story time video and it was like a fourpart five-part series was like >> how my mom tried to kill me part four >> and >> insane.

[00:14:32]>> That's just like such a hook, you know?

[00:14:34]I >> very strong hook. I really watch I I went back I watched one two three and four. this lady's like so nice and now she has like a baby of her own, but no, her mom like fully tried to poison her to death and um and she totally remembers like all sorts of it. And then this like custody battle ensued and like she even had like her interrogation video like her her child like when she had she got interrogated by like the Department of Child and Family Services.

[00:15:01]She like posted that whole thing >> very traumatizing cuz I was like I feel like we're like a similar age or maybe she's like younger than me but I don't know those offices just were giving me like those offices honey. Uh, but that poor freaking girl, but she is, in the words of Beyonce, a survivor and yes, very her and very survivor and now she has this cute baby.

[00:15:29]But with a hook like that, I, you know, five whole videos. I think I watched like 30 minutes of this woman's story.

[00:15:37]>> Um, so that's my Tik Tok roundup.

[00:15:40]>> Wow. Yeah. I mean, just a little bit of true crime pivot there. I have you been keeping up with the Gilgo Beach like updates as they've been coming out.

[00:15:49]>> Oh, they found that man who murdered all of those.

[00:15:52]>> He found him, but he so he pleaded guilty to it and this this documentary on Peacock's been following his wife and his family and they've been like she'd been like, "I had no idea." And it's like it's really twisted and like the latest installment ends with her like and now I'm living in the kill room. And it was like what? Like it is truly like it is if you're a true crime fan and some of you are it is a it is a watch.

[00:16:16]It is truly really like total access like you never thought.

[00:16:20]>> So she was realizing that he killed these women in the room that she's living in. Well, she he killed him in the house. Like they found out that he had he like finally admitted that he had done it like in the house and then like taken them elsewhere and she like came to know this and they were going to try and sell the house but then they didn't. and like her kind of like coping with it and I think part of like her own psychological guilt about like not doing like not really being in a position to do anything or know anything or whatever like she now has moved into the room like it's giving like it's giving like mental process like it's giving >> literally like my third eye hurts so badly like the tension in my forehead from that was like palpable >> it was a lot but so like palette cleanser really obsessed with this this kid in Frozen Jr named Kristoff is really good. Really good. It is Chené turns of fan kicks. He's really like serving it out. I'll put a clip right here. It is It is to die. It's really really just too funny.

[00:17:16]>> Is that the little boy who does his dances in front of his house?

[00:17:19]>> No. Well, maybe. But it's this just >> I saw that on my algorithm, too.

[00:17:24]>> So good. Just >> those are so I mean, but those fan control. I wish.

[00:17:29]>> You better give me the control. The bra was just stunning.

[00:17:33]>> The porta bra.

[00:17:34]>> You better be open to that audience, honey. open.

[00:17:37]>> Don't have to tell that kid to cheat out cuz like they do with it. Yes. Exactly.

[00:17:40]>> Exactly. Exactly.

[00:17:42]>> Yes. Good for them.

[00:17:43]>> Good for them.

[00:17:44]>> Yes. All right, everyone. It's time that we head over to the Jonathan Van News Desk. Jonathan, what's a story you've got your eye on right now?

[00:17:52]>> Thanks, Chris. And welcome to the Jonathan Van News Desk. So, this week everyone, all eyes are on the Havirus.

[00:18:01]Well, not to call it the haunt virus ship, but the ship that is docked outside of South Africa where some people have literally died of hauntivirus, which if you remember is literally what Gene Hackman's wife died of a few months ago. But this apparently could be the strain, one of the few like it's a I mean honorus is rare. Anyway, >> but I think but then this there's one strain that can go from human to human transmission and they do think that that could be what this strain is. However, while everybody's talking about haunt virus, honey, I want to talk about the other H virus, which is HIV. Many of you know that I've been living with HIV. I'm a very passionate advocate for HIV awareness, HIV prevention, and also HIV budgets. The White House proposed for the fiscal year of 2027 that the budget includes a significant shakeup in domestic HIV funding with an overall cut of about $1.6 $6 billion, roughly a 35% decrease from current levels. Key programs, including prevention efforts and parts of the Ryan White HIV AIDS program, would be reduced or restructured with many services consolidated under a new agency while while the ending the HIV epidemic initiative remains funded. Advocates warned the changes could disrupt care and prevention nationwide, but final decisions now rest with Congress. So, I just want to explain to you guys part of why this is such a big deal. So recently, this happens to me every couple years, but recently I got home from out being out of town and I realized when I got home, I didn't I had taken my last pill when I was out on the road. I thought I had more at home, but I didn't. And my refill wasn't coming for 3 days. So that meant that I would have been without my medicine for 3 days. So I went to the pharmacy and I just had to like buy it. And I have insurance and I have really good insurance. And what ended up happening was I had to pay $900 for my prescription. It's normally $100 like with my insurance, but the but I had to call the doctor on like a Sunday and he put it through this like thing that it's not normally through. So, it was like 900 and I like I had to do it that time, but like it's going to go back to 100.

[00:19:56]But $900 is insane for people that may have their coverage interrupted like having to pay that out of pocket. And my medication without insurance, I think it's like 3,000 or like 5,000. And back in 2019, I did have to pay full price for it this one time because I lost my medication. that I literally ended up finding it in a [ __ ] tennis shoe because I was stoned and I was like, "Oh, I don't want the I don't want the pill thing to like fall over." Because I was like moving into this apartment that I was shooting in when we were in Philly. And so I put the pills in a shoe and then like was moving [ __ ] around and then I like found it later. But whatever. The point is our HIV, what we know about HIV, and part of why we know this about HIV is because of the level of funding and research that's been put into it, is that when someone achieves and maintains an undetectable viral load, which you do by taking your pill every single day, you're not contagious with your HIV anymore. It cannot be sexually transmitted. And the reason that HIV, new HIV infection levels have plummeted is because we know that. And it's also because of things like prep, which is preexposure, which people can take who are HIV negative. and you take this pill once a day and it prevents you from being able to contract HIV. So between people who are positive having access to their medication and then people who are negative having access to prep, we have to make that easier not harder. We have to make it more affordable, not more expensive. And AIDS remains a deadly disease. If you do not know that you have HIV, if you don't take your pills, it will kill you. And if it does, and while it's killing you, it can take your sight. It can wreak havoc on your organs. It's not like a pretty, not that any death is pretty, but it's it's a gruesome way to go and it's a really horrible disease. And the reason that we can prevent people from, you know, dying in the way that we saw them dying in the 80s and '90s is because of these medical advancements and the funding of them.

[00:21:42]And I think that one place that we can point to already is Indiana. In not too distant memory, Indiana in 2015 when Mike Pence was the governor, he shut down a a needle exchange program that had been going on in the state. After he shut this program down, there was a massive outbreak of HIV. It was one of the the biggest new outbreaks of HIV in heterosexual people in the 21st century.

[00:22:02]In fact, I think it was the biggest one and it caused a huge issue and people got HIV unnecessarily. So, and so Indiana apparently has not learned its lesson. They have short memory spans, I guess. So, India, well, Indiana Republicans, I should say, Indiana is set to shut down a statewide HIV outreach program and testing program this summer after federal pandemic relief funding dried up, cutting off services that reached high-risisk populations through community settings like jails and addiction treatment centers. Public health advocates warn this move could reduce early detection and increase transmission, echoing past failures during the state's HIV outbreak under the former governor Mike Pence I was just talking about. Critics say this decision shows it still hasn't learned its lesson on harm reduction. So full on slay slay slay. But here's another thing I want to say really quick. Back in in the very early days of getting curious, I got to interview a a old client of mine who's a nurse practitioner and she worked at the time at the at LA's HIV like centers like the gay and lesbian center. And she told me that before prep, they would on average have 30 to 50 new HIV infections at their office alone a month. And she said after prep it went to 3 to five. So it cut down new HIV infections by 90%. And if and I think one thing that people really fail to recognize here because we live in such a binary world, this impacts the straight community. This impacts the heterosexual community. The amount of women who will end up contracting HIV if these cuts go through. It's major. It's not men. It's not minor. It's major because bisexual people exist. All sorts of men. We know men, they are doing all the things and and unfortunately a lot of straight women can and do contract HIV from their male partners who are having sex with other men, not disclosing it, not on prep. The last thing I want to say on this is this. I talked about this on Tik Tok one day, but maybe you don't have Tik Tok.

[00:23:55]So, I just want to tell you guys, I got a speeding ticket in Phoenix in like 2006, and I had to do like that speeding school for it. And when we were there, I remember them explaining with like getting a DUI because I was like 20, so this was like such a good lesson and I and it really stuck with me. They were like, "Oh, if you ever want to go out drinking at the bar and you're like, "Oh, I don't want to get a cab." Cuz we didn't even have Uber in 2006. I don't want to get a cab. It's too expensive.

[00:24:16]That's like 40 bucks. Just remember this. And this was 2006. An average DUI was like $10,000 back then. By the time you do court fees, lawyer fees, time lost off work. So really a $40 cab ride was a fire sale. What we know about HIV and AIDS is it's [ __ ] expensive. Once someone gets it, it is really expensive.

[00:24:37]And so for these cheap Republicans that are like, "Oh, well, we can slash a little off the budget by not covering these services." For those numbers, you are causing much more expenses over time by new people getting HIV. So, it's like these it's cutting off your nose to spite your face. It's I don't want to pay $40 to get a cab, so I'm going to pay $10,000 for a DUI. They gave the largest tax breaks in history to people like Amazon and Netflix and these huge companies. They gave them the tax breaks so that we can deal with HIV. So, while the media is over here making a big [ __ ] deal and and haunt is a big deal and I get that a few people have died, we're going to have more people [ __ ] dying of full-blown AIDS right here in America because of these Republicans inepness with being able to deal with the HIV AIDS epidemic. To continue to keep our eyes on that, let's donate, guys. Planned Parenthood doing incredible work around HIV testing.

[00:25:28]That's where I found out that I had HIV without my access to Planned Parenthood.

[00:25:32]I wouldn't have known that I had it when I when I found out that I had it. Ryan White funding is under threat. So, we can they can use volunteers, donations.

[00:25:39]The Ali Fornet Center here in New York City is an incredible resource. They're doing important work. Glad they're always doing important work. They've been on the forefront of HIV AIDS advancement social safety net. We love the work that they do. And finally, I would say the Trevor Project. For so many young people that are having sex for the first time and are scared about STI and don't know what to do about STI, they need to have a panic number. They need to have someone that they can call and that knows what's up and can lead them in a way that is like safe and healthy and effective for them. So, those are all places that you can donate to that are doing really good work um for the queer community. So, with that being said, let's get to our listener queue.

[00:26:18]>> Let's do it. All right. We've got a video submission from Ray Issa.

[00:26:21]>> Hi. A video question here because I think I have to show you. Um, so I have I feel like two different hair textures.

[00:26:31]You can see here in the front it's kind of smooth, a little wavy, but not crazy. But then in the back I feel like it's nearly curls. How do I deal with this? First of all, I think that's a podcast first. It's our first ever video question. I'm so excited. So, this is a really good question and a lot of times people will refer to this as Irish curls or Irish waves where it's like curly in the back and more straight on top. So, I want to call out something here which is our head shape. So, if you look at my if you look at my head from the side and if you're listening to this and you can't watch, just think about think about like where a tiara would go on your head. That hair on the very top of your head has to travel all the way down past your ears, all the way down to like the nape of your neck to become the length where that bottom hair is starting from. So that means that the hair like on your tiara or like this hair on the very top of your head, if everything was truly one length, that hair on the top of your head is probably like seven, eight, nine inches longer than the hair underneath it. So, the reason why sometimes it seems straighter on the top and in front, and sometimes the texture is genuinely straighter, but also it's that that hair is traveling farther. It's been on your head longer, it's been exposed to the sun more, it's usually been highlighted more. So, that hair can sometimes be damaged. And that's like why the curl pattern isn't as consistent on the top as it is underneath. Because underneath, it's not getting exposed to the sun. It's not getting as much highlights. when you pull the hair up or back, it's like not getting as much tension on it. And also, our hair is thicker or like denser.

[00:28:09]There's more hair per square inch on the underneath of our head than there is like on the very top of it. So, it's all of these factors that can make like the clumping and the curls and the waves be stronger in the back than what it is on top. So to deal with that, if you want to wear your hair natural, or you want to try to encourage that front top stuff to be curlier, what you really have to do is on day one, once your hair is already dry, like how yours is dry, there's really like there's not so much you can do about it. But what you want to do is when your hair is very wet, out of the shower, you're going to detangle it with conditioner in the shower and a wet brush. So that's the first thing, really using a wet brush to get the conditioner all throughout every single hair strand when your hair is in the shower. so that it can be like fully immersed in the conditioner. We're not using our fingers to distribute it because then you're going to be leaving like dry chunks and just chunks that aren't getting like really that conditioner all over it. So, we want to like envelop every strand with an even nice amount of conditioner. Then, we're going to rinse that out in the shower.

[00:29:06]And then when you get out of the shower on soaking wet hair, like soaking wet dripping hair for your amount of hair, which is like it's giving like maybe fine individually and like a medium amount or maybe like medium individually and like a medium amount. Um I would say you need like it's better to start with less. So start with like a nice fat blueberry amount of air dry cream on your hands. Really work it in your hands really well and then just gently scrunch it all over your hair. You can tilt your head to the side, tilt your head to the other side, flip everything over, and just gently scrunch the air dry cream into your hair to the point that you can hear a squelch, like a like you want to hear like a squaltch in the hair. And if it's not squelching, it's getting too dry. So, and then you can either let it like air dry or you can diffuse it. I do like a diffuser just cuz it's like it doesn't take so long. And just by doing that scrunching motion on very wet hair with something like aird dry cream, which it's called aird dry cream, but it's really more of like a natural texture enhancing cream. Whether your hair is like straight, wavy, curly, kinky, it's just going to enhance whatever your natural texture is. So that'll be a good place to start from.

[00:30:10]And if you notice there that the front is truly like that much straighter than what the underneath is, which I'm guessing it won't be, you're going to be like, "Oh, it's a little bit more even than what I realized when you prep your hair like that and when you style it like that." If you still need more curl on the front and the top to kind of balance it out, you could go over it with like a foam um like a curly foam because that will like enhance more texture. Um but I think you got more wave up there than what you realize. And a lot of times when people with that Irish curl hair type do prep their hair like the way that I said, they realize that all of their hair is a lot wier than what they realized. Um so that's that. Your hair is gorgeous. And also too, I will just say if I wash my hair and let it air dry and I don't scrunch anything into it, like no air dry cream, the top of my hair will literally be kind of like how yours was and my hair is curly. So sometimes it's just that top. It's like by from sun exposure and just the things that we do to our hair all the time. It just needs that cream.

[00:31:06]It needs a scrunch to like get that natural curl back in there. So thank you so much for your question. I love you so much. And we love video questions. And now it's time for us to get to our hot of the week. Yes. Hobbish of the week.

[00:31:17]Who's your hobbish of the week?

[00:31:18]>> My hot [ __ ] of the week is all the moms. All the mothers. It could be your biological mom. It could be like your mother. It could be like your mother figure. It could be like a mother cat.

[00:31:27]It could be mother nature. It's just like any mother. It could be ru. It's anybody who's mother. Gaga. So that's my hot [ __ ] of the week. What about you?

[00:31:37]Love it. My hot [ __ ] of the week is my Nespresso machine, which is a love that I got from my mother. The coffee of it all. So, it's it's really a sequel to yours, but I'm here for that coffee.

[00:31:47]That Java Java Java gets going.

[00:31:49]>> I love it so much. And my Yeah, my Brevel is like always my hot [ __ ] of the week.

[00:31:53]>> Oh, yeah. [laughter] >> It's so good.

[00:31:56]>> Okay, Chris, I love you so much. I love us so much. And we'll see you on Wednesday, honey. We are giving you financial realness. We are giving you like shifting financial mindsets. Um, we love Mrs. Dow Jones. Her book is amazing. She's amazing. and come by on Wednesday and let's get financially better and smarter. Let's do it.

[00:32:14]>> Bye, guys.