Depersonalization-derealization disorder (DPDR) is the brain's protective response to overwhelming situations, where the nervous system disconnects you from reality and yourself as a defense mechanism. Recovery requires understanding that DPDR is not a mental illness but a signal of misalignment between your actions and your higher self. The key to overcoming DPDR lies in neuroplasticity—the brain's ability to rewire itself based on repeated thoughts, actions, and focus. By controlling controllable aspects of life (habits, environment, self-talk, focus) and aligning with your higher self, you can break the DPDR feedback loop where fear, obsession, and misalignment perpetuate symptoms. Recovery is not about eliminating symptoms but about becoming the best version of yourself, as DPDR will fade as a byproduct of this transformation.
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You guys didn't find this podcast for no reason. This is going to be the single most valuable video on the internet, hands down. So, whatever you're doing before watching this, stop it. Take out pen and pencil and paper and let's get to work. I can't stress you guys enough like how valuable this video is actually going to be. This is actually step by step how to fully overcome DPDR. This is everything I wish I would have known.
Like, if I knew this, I would have recovered in 1 second.
>> I had again a panic attack. I remember, you know, calling my friends. I would text all my friends. I'm going to die. I literally thought I was going to die that day.
>> I had my first panic attack. And um that's the day everything came crumbling down. Reality just snapped in front of me. If you want to actually recover within weeks, follow what we say. If you want to take years or months or decades, do anything else. All right. What's up, guys? I'm address Wolf, founder of Reality Reconnect, the number one DPDR recovery program. And at the time of this recording, we've helped 129 people make a full recovery from DPDR. So, I'm super proud to say that. But today, I partnered with my guy Nick Durenzo, also known as Nick DPDR. And today, we're going to be breaking down exactly how to overcome DPDR. And this is going to be the single most valuable video on the internet, hands down. So, whatever you're doing before watching this, stop it. Take out pen and pencil and paper and let's get to work.
>> Yeah. What's up, guys? I'm the founder of the highest self program, Nick Toorenzo. And yeah, I also run an insanely good DPDR program. We help everyone overcome DPDR. And I can't stress you guys enough like how valuable this video is actually going to be. What we mention and what we go over, the the the topics we mentioned, the concepts.
These things won't just like get you halfway there. These things aren't going to help you just manage your symptoms.
This is actually step by step how to fully overcome DPDR. Not in a month, not in like 5 months, like literally in weeks. All right. So, if you actually implement this, it's guaranteed. It's inevitable. All right. And Andreas, I want you to share like a little bit about your story, like how did it start for you and really, you know, how did your story go?
>> Um, yeah, we're going to go over our stories briefly. If you guys want a more indepth, you know, view on stories and all that, then go into our last podcast we did where we really dived into it for like 45 minutes. But, um, >> for me, everything started, so just to give you a little background, obviously, I I didn't have any anxiety growing up.
I didn't know what mental health was. I didn't know what depression was. I didn't know any of that was. Um, and that's why it hit me so hard when I had my first panic attack. So, long story short, I've been smoking weed for a good bit, just like yourself, as you know.
Um, and it wasn't ever a problem. It was great. And then one day, um, you know, I smoked a little bit too much. I also dabbled into some mushrooms as well prior to this. And I had my first panic attack. And, um, that's a day everything came crumbling down. Reality just snapped in front of me. Just broke down in front of me. I'll never forget that night where, you know, I thought my brain was broken. I thought I was never going to be the same again. The panic, the I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I accepted death that day and then long story short, the next day I woke up disconnected. Didn't really know what the hell was going on.
Researching, researching, researching. I was obsessed with finding a solution and that's what triggered the entire feedback loop that we're going to talk about. And that's what DPDR is. Um, and yeah, that's that's just how it started.
How about yourself?
>> Yeah. And it's crazy how like similar our stories are.
>> Yeah.
>> Yeah. Yeah, I mean like four years ago, I think it was like around four and a half years ago, my I was just deep into my vices and I I wasn't really aligned with, you know, the best version of me and I was doing dabbling into everything and you I was smoking weed at the time.
I was even like abuding abusing my ADHD medication, a lot of things like that.
>> And one day my my ADHD medication wore off and it hit me like super hard. This random anxiety out of nowhere. First time I actually ever experienced it. I didn't really experience anxiety before that. So when that came on like it was the first time ever and I had again a panic attack. I remember you know calling my friends I would text all my friends I'm going to die. I literally thought I was going to die that day.
>> Same.
>> And what happened was like that whole night I thought I had like some schizophrenia. My mind was racing like >> thoughts were just coming through and through and I truly thought it was like literally the end of my life. Like seriously it was the most terrifying experience. Um I even went to you know the hospital that week you know all these things. I had like visual symptoms everywhere.
>> But yeah, >> you know, that set on for four years. So >> yeah, I had it I had a very long time and I I really thought I was the one exception. I thought I'd be there for the rest of my life. So >> I know I know, man. I can't imagine what it's like to experience it for that long. Of course, like my clients have experienced it for that long and I helped them overcome it. Yeah. But like to actually live through that, >> you know, I had it for six months myself. Um so yeah, a little more backstory. So that happened in January of 2024. my first panic attack. And then from there, I had it every single day until June 9th.
>> Yeah.
>> And June 9th was the day I told myself I was going to recover. There was no other way. And it was life or death. And then from there, I made a full recovery in 5 weeks.
>> Incredible.
>> You know, like a lot of people >> um they're kind of like, "Oh, you only had it for six months." But like there's no other way of saying like I couldn't h I couldn't have had it for any longer.
If I had it for a day longer, I would have taken my own life. you know, the suicidal aspect of things was super real.
>> Um, and I just couldn't take it and that's why I recovered so quickly because it was life or death, you know.
So, >> um, yeah, let's talk about the symptoms we experienced though.
>> I'm about to say the same thing.
>> Yeah, go ahead. I mean, >> yeah. So, why don't we go over like all the symptoms or just most of the symptoms that can happen with DPDR?
>> Right. I mean, I'm going to ask you first like what were your main symptoms that you experienced?
>> Yeah. My main symptoms were visual symptoms by far. Visual symptoms and existential thoughts.
>> Yeah.
>> Worst symptoms ever besides just like feeling detached from family, friends, reality, not recognizing, you know, family, things like that. Was terrifying. But and not recognizing myself obviously, but like the visual symptoms were so bad cuz I felt like I would wake up and they were always there.
>> Always there as a reminder.
>> Always there. And then you always question like, okay, is this from a drug? Is this I did I you know, [ __ ] myself over for life. So yeah, the visual symptoms was one of the, you know, I'd say my worst existential thoughts, questioning if this was going to last forever, if I was going to die, and then, you know, just question everything about death. My relationship with God was slipping, all that stuff.
So, >> how about you? Like, what were what were your main like worst symptoms?
>> My main symptoms by far, I would say number one was existential thoughts because I had very very terrible existential crisis, existential dread, like literally just even fear of existence as a whole. It was horrible. Like every day I'd wake up literally not knowing what the hell I was doing here. And I would try to do normal human things, but that concept didn't even like I was I couldn't even fathom the concept of humans. Um, and that was the worst by far. And then I would say just like the intrusive thoughts that kind of go hand inhand with that just you know violent scary really disturbing thoughts that I would have just my mind racing 24/7 and then just the overall disconnection that was obviously a staple of DPDR which is the worst. Like I always felt like I was living behind my eyes and I was like floating at times. I nothing felt real like I didn't feel real. The depersonalization was horrible where my my own hands, my limbs, my face, my my body parts, none of it felt like it was mine and that was absolutely terrible as well. Um, and then I would say the identity, the identity problems too where I genuinely like the personality, you know how like I don't know if you had this where like my personality was gone, you know, like everything that was me was gone and I didn't even know who I was, >> dude. Yeah, that's something I had too was like every laugh and smile were completely like it was like I was almost acting like playing a character every single day cuz no one the thing is I'm sure a lot of you guys that are experiencing this is like no one really knows or it's really hard for people to even tell like it's people would have no idea and again because you become a really good actor. You become really good at faking laughing.
>> No one can tell. No one can tell. super.
It's super like weird cuz it feels like everyone should know but like >> you get really good at acting especially like after four years of having it like >> you know you start >> and actually one sympto I want to bring up that I feel like we have never talked about I don't know if you experienced this was like I felt like I don't know how to explain this I felt like I was I felt like I almost it was almost like a spiritual awakening it felt like I was having this spiritual awakening where like oh I have this perspective that no one knows and like this is what life life is really like and everyone else is living like this other fake life.
>> And then I realized that was all BS.
That was not that was just BS. And I still have people comment on my stuff for recent uh lately where they're like, "Oh yeah, it's just a spiritual awakening." And I said, "It's a lie.
That's the opposite of spiritual awakening." I've had a real spiritual awakening. That is not a spiritual awakening. That's life on hell. That's like living hell on earth, >> you know? So I definitely want to clear that up, >> of course. Um, but yeah, let's go through all the symptoms cuz like the main priority here. Like I said on the last podcast, we really touched upon how we experience every single one of these, but let's just go through everything so we can show them that they're not alone by any means, right? So, I'll start off with some of the the psych uh psychological symptoms, right? Feeling detached from yourself is depersonalization. Feeling detached from reality, your surroundings, derealization, distorted sense of time, the existential thoughts, the feeling like a robot, feeling like you're going crazy or losing control, heightened self-awareness, constantly monitoring your own actions, feelings of unreality, loss of emotions, not recognizing yourself in the mirror, feeling detached from yourself and your body and feeling like you're living in third person.
>> Yeah. Do you want to bring up any >> Yeah. Some of the I want to mention some of the um the physical symptoms as well, >> of course. Um, some physical symptoms that can come is like visual distortions, like the blurriness, tunnel vision, just lights being extremely bright. There's like dimming. There's a bunch of visual symptoms.
>> The visual symptoms are I forgot to bring that up. I forgot to bring that up. Visual symptoms are one of my worst symptoms. Like I went to so many eye doctors, eye specialists trying to figure out what was wrong with my vision.
>> Of course, it's like >> it's like I felt like I couldn't see at times or was super blurry or super fuzzy. We all have that staticky vision.
all every single one of us probably.
>> Just the the TV the TV >> the TV static.
>> It's the classic.
>> Um >> hated that though.
>> Yeah, like auditory distortions. Like I thought I was deaf. I remember um I remember like I would try to pop my ears throughout the day because I thought my my ears were clogged with water. So I had like crazy I don't know if you had that as well.
>> I had where I felt like I was hearing underwater. I feel like muffled ear.
>> Yeah. Yeah, that's what I'm describing.
Exactly.
>> Yeah. Cool. What else? experiencing the world is like dreamlike or foggy.
>> Um, living your life. That was a big one for me. I felt like I was in a movie. I felt like I was like living in a movie.
It was horrible. Feeling like there's a a barrier between you and the world, struggling to connect with your loved ones, sense of unreality, like you said, the visual distortions, all that. The fatigue is so real. Just feeling super tired and drained.
>> Yeah.
>> Um, the dizziness is another one where >> it's usually like it happened to me when I used to go outside. When I used to go outside, I just would get like this dizziness and it was like it was like I was I was going to pass out damn near.
>> Yeah.
>> You know, that's such a common symptom, >> dude. That was actually the first actually when I first ever experienced DPDR. That's when I went to the hospital because I was at a football practice and I thought I was going to pass out.
>> Um, and I remember going home and chugging Gatorades and trying to get like my blood sugar up.
>> Right. Right.
>> And I, you know, um, and I thought the the staticky vision was crazy at that time, too. I thought that was related to me my blood sugar being low and I remember researching and googling like all about um exactly those things. So yeah, the dizziness 100% man.
>> Yeah, we can all relate to that. Just googling your exact symptoms trying to find the exact Reddit post or YouTube excuse me or YouTube video that has your exact symptoms >> as part of the condition. Obsessively researching is 100% one of the a part of the condition >> of course.
>> What else you got? heart palpitations, digestive issues, physical numbness, memory issues, confusion, overanalization of things, and you can finish it off with emotional.
>> There's also like emotional and behavioral symptoms. So like just general like anxiety, panic, like usually the state you're in is usually a lot more anxiety provoking. Depression can happen. There's also like social withdrawal. So isolating yourself.
>> Um it was also like feeling isolated just because you're distanced from people around you. Like that was my thing is like I would feel like permanently disconnected from everyone.
It was like I was just in peak isolation.
>> Um >> and I would bring up too like the fear of permanence like almost the fear of permanence and the fact that everyone thinks their case is special. That's also one of the symptoms.
>> There are symptoms of the of the thing.
>> There are very few people that I've ever ever talked to that didn't think that their case was special. Somehow they didn't have like this some unique symptom. Almost every single person thinks their case is special, unique.
And almost every single person feels like this is permanent, like they can't overcome this. But the good news is that we give them hope so they can see like you can overcome it. Absolutely. But back in our day, back in our day before us, >> we didn't have any hope.
>> There was no one to really say like, hey, like you can overcome this in a couple weeks. Yeah.
>> There was no one to say that. Right.
Which is why I think what we're doing is so powerful. Even for obviously our clients helping them recover but for others who can see like okay if Nick can do it if and can do it if all their clients can do it there has to be a way you know and I think I think that hope is everything because belief is everything >> and we had to become our own hero right like we we genuinely felt like in our case there was no one so we had to become the person that we always needed for ourself um and we always like of course we had to become our best self before we can help anyone else >> super hard to help people if you have nothing you know your cup is empty, right? So, we got to fill our cups off and actually help ourselves. And it gives us the ability to make this podcast and give you guys literally like the secrets that go behind our recovery and how we actually provide these recoveries.
>> Yeah. I'm so excited to break it down.
We're just going to go all in. So, let's get into it. So, >> and also I want to mention like with these symptoms, there's many more symptoms. Like we're not impossible.
It's going to take us three hours to name all the symptoms. So, I guarantee like your symptom if there's anything else like we've had like there's symptoms out there. We've had clients with other symptoms as well.
>> There's so many it's impossible to name them all. And there's some that you can't even put into words. So, >> no language for it. Yeah.
>> Yeah. But, um, we definitely went over the majority of them. And it's also important to note that you don't have to have all these symptoms to experience DPDR. You definitely don't need to. Um, >> like a lot of people tell me like, "Oh, I only have >> the u just the disconnection. I don't really have the existential thoughts." I was like, "Yeah, it's okay. That's still DPDR, you know?" Yeah. So yeah. So guys, we built a master class for you guys and we have about an hour and 40 minutes around there to go through everything.
So let's get started.
>> I'm pumped.
>> First of all, just a pep talk. We need to get you guys in the right mindset, >> guys. The mindset, like the mindset is the absolute first most important. You can't even introduce the the order we're taking these things is extremely important, right? Like if you have a weak mindset going into this, >> everything else is is not going to work.
The mindset is the absolute most important vital part of it before everything else. Everything else is just as important, but in the wrong order, you're not going to be able to make any progress, right?
>> And that's why in our content, we talk so much about mindset. I believe it's like 90%, right? The 10% is like just personalization to be honest, is like actually personalizing a plan, you know, helping them through each step of the recovery process. But if you can understand the mindset and you have a basic action plan, you implement it every single day, >> you're golden, you know. So, >> let's get into it, guys. So, the DPDR pep talk, I love it. I love I'm going to get everyone fired up. So, okay. Yeah.
>> Something I wish I would have heard when I was going through it. So, number one, you guys didn't find this podcast for no reason. This popped up on your YouTube.
However you found this, this is for a reason. Okay, this is time. It is time for you to finally step up to the plate and to stop researching and researching and researching and finding excuses to not recover and to get out of your victim mindset. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and actually take action in your life. Okay, one of my favorite quotes is nothing changes if nothing changes. If you guys are going to keep doing the same exact things every single day, the same bad habits, the same coping mechanisms, the same everything, you're going to get the same exact output. So today is the day where things change for you, where you actually step up, you take responsibility for your life, and you finally go all in.
>> Yeah. And you know what I said? Like the pain of going through DPDR for another day, week, month, year is so much worse than just going 110% all in and actually applying the things we're going to give you. Seriously, like that's why Andreas couldn't go any more than 6 months. Cuz seriously, like for me, the idea of living the rest of my life like this is so much worse than testing yourself. Why not go all in? Why not go out and implement this and never give up? You need to understand it has to be 150 110% everything you have and nothing less.
All right? If you if you cut yourself shortcuts, this is not going to work.
You need to have the idea and the mindset that like this is this is it.
This is all you got. Like this is your life.
>> And I want to add it should piss you off that you're wasting your life. It should genuinely burn in your soul that people out there went through the same thing, overcame it, and are living their lives to the fullest like us, like our clients, and you are making excuses every day to why like, oh yeah, one day I'm going to wait it out for one day, magically it's going to fall into my lap. That's not going to happen ever. So, let that dream go and actually take action in your life, okay?
It should burn. Like the thing that got me to the point where I made a full recovery so quickly was that I envisioned the worst case scenario, right? So I want you guys to do that.
Envision what's the worst case scenario.
Okay? You can choose to recover, you can choose not to recover. Let's say you're like, "Ah, whatever." You know, I'll just wait it out. What happens when you wait it out and wait it out and wait it out? What does that mean for your job, for your family, for your future, for your future kids, for your life, for your mental health? What does that mean for you? You know, so genuinely ask yourself what is the worst case scenario? And if you don't like that, that should give you goosebumps. That should that should damn near give you another panic attack because that's your life if you don't take action after watching this. And I want to say you don't need motivation. You don't need like that burst of you don't even need that initial burst of energy to start.
What you need is a reason and a why and a freaking meaning like going into this.
Like if you don't have something that's greater than just your selfish reasons to recover when when you're trying to get out of bed and you're having a tough day, you know, recovery is not 100% linear. You're going to have a rough day. During that tough moment, you're going to fold. You're going to you're going to fall back into your old ways.
But for me, it wasn't for just it was obviously for myself, but I had to fix myself to be able to support for my future wife, future family, future kids.
So, think about you. I don't if you're if you're a mother, father right now or even if you're going to be one in the future, if you're going to be married in the future, how do you expect to be the person that can provide for those people if you can't even feel real yourself if you can't even look in the mirror and recognize yourself? How you going to like look at your kids and recognize them? That was my fear. And that is what is needed. You need to have a strong enough why and reason before anything else even can be in, you know, in front of you. That's a great point because at a certain point I remember like >> overcoming this wasn't a big enough reason like for myself it wasn't a big enough reason but when I started to think like okay what would the younger version of myself like how would they feel looking at me right now in my current position I felt disgusted I was like okay how about my family that's taking care of me my whole life >> disgusted how about you know my future family I can't have a future family with this I want to die you know >> so at a certain point, you have to look for other motivators in your life to get you out of bed and to get you going, you know. And for me, I would say those are the one and two, you know. I did it for my younger self. I did it for the version of me that wanted everything.
And I did it for my future family, you know, that they're they're waiting on me for to step up with if I don't step up, they don't exist, you know, so they're waiting for me. And that really d like drove me.
>> And guys, before we go into it, I want to give you guys a little framework.
It's believe act prove identity stronger belief. You guys first have to believe it's possible. You don't have to fully believe like okay this is 100% possible.
A symptom of DPDR is that it's that you can't do it but you have to have something there whether it's even subconscious because you're never going to give it 110% if you don't believe in yourself. So starts with that belief.
>> That belief is going to cause you to take action. So when you first have even the the smallest bit of belief that'll make you take action, those actions are going to prove that you can make change because you're going to see a little bit of progress. That a little bit of progress is going to start stacking with momentum. You know, momentum is the most powerful thing ever. That momentum will even, you know, trigger a stronger belief. You're going to believe it even more because you're going to see so much progress change that you can create a whole new identity. So it really doesn't matter where you are right now. If it feels like your life's over, if it feels like you won't recover, it is impossible not to recover. You go all in.
>> Impossible. And it's important to note too that clarity comes through action.
Right now, you can't see the finish line. Right now, their mind is so overwhelmed by DPDR and anxiety, they can't even think outside of that. So, that's why you first have to take action and then the clarity comes as you move.
You know, something I tell my clients all the time is like, if you're at the bottom of a staircase, you can't see the top, right? But you can see your next step. Yeah.
>> So just take the next step. Take the next step. Take the next step.
Eventually you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. It's it's okay if right now you don't. Honestly, I don't expect them to see anything right now. I expect them to take action regardless just like I did it. You know, I didn't even think it was going to work to be honest. I had very I had a delusion. I had a very slight delusion that what if I pull this off? What if somehow someway I can make this happen and I can tell this story and now here I am. Right? But they have the proof in front of them. We are living proof. Our clients with their proof. So that's powerful.
>> When you see people on Reddit after like 20 years still struggling, there's a reason that they haven't recovered. It's because they didn't decide to to to change their life. We had the decision and we were like, "All right, this needs to happen." So let's get right into it, though. Let's go right into I want to talk one more thing.
>> Yeah, of course. Um I want to touch on that point that some people stay stuck in that for decades. They say stuck in the self-pity, the victim mindset, the feeling sorry for themselves, the excuses, the countless doctors that don't know anything, the countless therapists that don't know anything, the medications, and that's how they be that's how they stay stuck, >> you know. Um, you can choose to not be that person. And I know when I when I even knew that there were people like that that existed, I was pretty terrified. I was like, I don't want to I don't want to be that person, you know?
Thank God I wasn't.
>> Yeah. You know, but it all starts with taking action. They can very much be that person. Like those Reddit people were once just like us how we were just a couple months, a couple years into DPDR. They chose not to recover, right?
That's it.
>> Don't be that person. Um, and I want them to do a quick visualization. Guys, pause this video for like 60 seconds and I want you to visualize what would the best version of yourself do. Genuinely, this is your road map. This is who you actually are. So, what would the best version of yourself look like? What are their habits? What time do they wake up in the morning? What does a morning routine look like? Like, walk me through and literally schedule out exactly what the best version of you, what their schedule would look like. And that is the person you must become. That is it right there. That is the person that's waiting for you to All you have to do is step into that role. That's all you have to do, right? Step into the role of becoming the best version of them. And that's the golden ticket, you know. And then a negative visualization. I also want you guys to do this for 60 seconds.
Like I was telling you earlier, what does life look like for you if you don't overcome this? If you don't take action, if you stay stuck in this, what does that look like for you? So, here are a couple questions to ask yourself during the negative visualizations. How will I feel if I stay exactly where I am right now? How will it feel to know I wasted another year hiding from my potential?
How will my family feel watching me stay stuck? What kind of example will I set for my future kids? And what dreams will I abandon because I was too scared to take action? And lastly, when I'm old and look back, will I feel proud or will you feel regret that you never took action?
>> Let's get to it. Nick, start us off.
DPDR education.
>> Yeah, DPDR education. So, what I want to mention before anything is like what is anxiety? We have to define anxiety. They have to understand what is anxiety because again DPDR is all stemming off the one single thing which is anxiety.
DI anxiety is not a mental health issue as much as it is a state that you're in.
It's not something I don't believe you can have anxiety forever. I can believe you can experience >> of course >> you can experience terrible anxiety but it's what it is is it's a misalignment and it's a signal from your mind and body that you aren't aligned with the real you with your higher self with this version of yourself that was meant to exist.
>> Okay. So >> I can break that down a step further.
>> Yeah, go for it, man. Let's hear it.
>> So what is anxiety? So anxiety comes from your nervous system, right? And your nervous system's role is to protect you at the end of the day. That's all it wants to do, right? Your nervous system knows your highest values. Your nervous system knows what you want in life. Your nervous system knows you. It knows you to the core, right? And when you consistently act out of alignment with that version of you, that's when the signal gets hit. So, for example, someone like myself, I'll just go off my personal example, right? My nervous system knew me. It knew I wanted big things out of life. It knew I was ambitious. You know, I wanted to do something with my life. I was a prior athlete, so all it knew was, you know, athlete training, things like that. And when I went to college and I started becoming misaligned, but you don't feel it in the moment. I was like, "Yeah, college fun time, drinking, you know, smoking, having fun." But then all of a sudden, I started waking up late. Then I started skipping the gym. Then I started skipping cardio. I stopped playing tennis. And I started have I started eating bad. And all of a sudden, these little things add up to where your nervous system is like, "Hey, this is not okay." And it starts to just signal like, "Hey, this is anxiety. This is a sign of you're misaligned with the version of you you're supposed to be.
You know, >> of course. Yeah. It's it's literally a signal in your How How blessed are we?
How blessed are we to be able to experience this? Guys, I'm telling you, I would be a loser, degenerate, no life if I didn't go through this. And it was the one thing that saved my life. And the reason it did is because I didn't live in a victim mindset when this happened to me. And I actually looked at it and I said, you know what? I'm going to weaponize this struggle and I'm going to use it. So the first thing you have to understand it's a misalignment and now you have to understand what is DPDR what is depersonalization derealization which is the DPDR is spelled out obviously derealization is when you know things around you don't look real and kind of objects um people whatever depersonalization is more like you don't feel like you're in your body you feel separated from yourself you don't recognize yourself things like that >> and why does that happen so long story short DPDR is just the brain's way to protect you from an overwhelming situation. So whether it was like a lot of stress, whether it was a lot of anxiety, whether it was a panic attack, whether it was a bad drug experience, whatever the case might be, different triggers for different people, but the core disorder is still DPDR. It doesn't matter. I've had clients who got it from a divorce. I've had clients who got it from drug experiences. I've had clients who got it because they woke up one day.
Doesn't really matter what the trigger is. Still DPDR, right? So DPDR is just a dissociative disorder. anxiety disorder where that happens where you feel disconnected where your nervous system hits a certain point where I describe it like almost like a water bottle like you know like I was saying you get misaligned through your habits through the eating through whatever the case might be you have that one trigger where the water just overflows and when the water overflows your brain has a couple options it can freeze it can flight it can um disassociate and that was a dissoc dissociation response that a lot of people refer to is DPDR where you temporarily disassociate.
But then what happens is that we start to get obsessed about this feeling and we're like, "Oh my god, what is this that we're going through?" And then we start to research it and research it and obsess over it and that creates more anxiety. I'll talk about the DBR feedback loop, but yeah, >> it's the obsession, right? Like at the end of the day, obsession is what keeps you in the state.
>> There's like >> thinking about it constantly. We were researching this even further like we were trying to get a tea of like exactly like how many people you know have this thing and like if you get 100 people in a room science says like one to two people are are even more experiencing derealization and it's kind of something that I had a really hard time to believe but it's super common and it's the obsession that that that leads you to keep it forever right >> yeah I also found it super hard to believe when I was going through it you know that up to 66% of the population will experience an episode of it.
>> Yeah.
>> Um and then about 1% of those people will develop the disorder itself. And I just think that's that's so interesting cuz no one in my circle knew about it and no one I don't expect anyone to know about it. I didn't know about it, you know.
>> Yeah, of course.
>> But um yeah, what else we got?
>> Um yeah, >> DPR is like a breakup. I mean, >> yeah, we can definitely talk about that.
DPR is like a breakup. Go ahead. Yeah.
So, derealization is like exactly as a like a breakup. And let's talk about state dependent memory and how that works. So, >> state dependent memory.
>> I want you guys to think about your ex.
All right? Think about your ex relationship when you first >> broke up if you got broken up with, right?
>> You're you're going to initially freak out. You're not freak out, but mentally you're going to be struggling and you're probably like, "This is the end of the world. I'm never going to get past this." And you probably loved her him so much. But truthfully, it's not permanent, right? And it didn't last forever. It went away.
>> So DPDR is the same exact thing. It feels like forever while you're in it, but it's not forever. When you do overcome it, you look back and you're like, man, why was I what was I so stressed about? I know that I was stressed, but what was I stressed about?
Just like when you look back at your ex, you're like, I know I loved her. I know I loved him, but I don't know. I I don't know what it felt like. And state dependent memory is because of your state. So if I'm really happy, I'm going to remember happy memories. If I'm sad, sad memories, it's all based off of your emotional state. So when you guys can't remember even memories too, that's all based off of your emot. The state that you're in. You're in a state of anxiety.
You're going to remember anxious anxiety memories. It feels like this is your whole life.
>> Mhm.
>> That's so so true. And um I actually thought I came up obviously I love the DPDR is a it's just a breakup, but I came up with a new one recently where it was like I think we've all had those days where we like >> our parents did something to us where like they didn't let us go to that friend's house and we're like I hate you, you know, and then you're just like I don't know if you've had experiences like that where I'm just like crumbled up in a ball in the in my room in my closet crying. I'm like I'll never I promise I swear to God I'll never forgive them for this. They're not invited to my wedding. They're not invited to anything. I'm going to run away.
>> And that's and it feels so real in that moment. If someone held a gun to your head and said, "Is that true?" I'd be like, "Yes, that's exactly what I felt like." And I felt like I was never going to forgive them for it.
>> And guess what? I don't even like I barely remember a moment I had like that. I remember I had so many. But in that moment, it feels so real. It feels like you're never going to overcome.
You're never going to forgive them. And you do, right? And the same thing goes for the breakup. Like in that moment it feels like you know it's like h like this is the end of the world you know like I love them so much how am I going to just move on and then you move on right but the key distinction is what if instead of moving on you decided to obsess and and go on their Instagram every day and and go on their photos app and go back in the messages and look back at how you guys used to talk to each other and you just cycled through that every second of the day. If you did that, you would never you would never get over the breakup.
>> And there's some people who are never over their ex for that reason.
>> And there's some people that never never get over their ex for that reason.
They're always thinking about them, right?
>> Yeah.
>> But that same go same goes for DPDR. If you constantly think about it, if you constantly check in on how you feel, if you're constantly researching for solutions, >> your nervous system never gets a chance to be like, "Okay, we're safe now." It's always on edge. So, it's always going to remind you that you have DPDR. So, it's just a loop, right? If you can find a way to completely forget about DPDR, you would actually cure the disorder, which is interesting part, but that's not how the brain works. You can't just forget about it. But you can do what we're about to teach.
>> Absolutely.
>> Um, I mean, your brain is like a turtle.
This is a great analogy I can bring up real quick. So, DPDR is essentially like your brain going to shell mode. It's like a turtle. So in that protective mode, it gets stuck in there. Like how that's how a turtle functions, right? When there's a predator, it goes into its shell and it doesn't come out until the coast is clear, right? But the problem is like our brain goes into that DPDR state. And since we're constantly thinking about, thinking about, researching, we're poking its shell.
We're poking the turtle's shell and the turtle never gets a chance to come out of its shell, right? And when you finally learn to do what, you know, we're about to say and to live as the best version of you and to basically forget about DPDR in a sense, your brain naturally comes out of its shell, you know. So that's just a good analogy to put in.
>> Really good.
>> But yeah, >> I love it.
>> Take the next one, Nick.
>> Yeah. So should we go more into the education?
>> Um, yeah. Let me see.
I like this one. A disregulated nervous system. what that even means. So, a lot I mean you guys have probably heard that word so much if you're if you're for you pages or anything how mine was. There's people on there tapping their face.
There's people on there doing butterfly hugs, telling you to dump your head in cold water and do sematic stuff and all this BS. First of all, that's all BS. We probably won't get into that. Doesn't work.
>> We're probably not going to get into that this podcast cuz we kind of did it in the last one. But >> anyways, what is a disregulated system?
>> That's what like people don't understand. That's the one thing it's like everyone says regulate your nervous system, but no one knows what the hell that means. And no one knows what it's like to what a disregulated nervous system even means. So, long story short, a disregulated nervous system is a nervous system that does not trust you.
That's it. It's a nervous system who simply lost its trust with you. And I'll read you guys a short little thing that I wrote. It's actually part of my course, so I'll give you guys a little insider scoop. But like I told you guys, when your nervous system knows you deep to its core, you can't lie to your nervous system. You can't. So if your deep goals and al uh align um actions in life aren't aligning with the version that you want to become, then that's when your nervous system starts to lose trust in you. So think about it like a relationship. If you always tell your partner, I'll pick you up at 8. I'll pick you up at 8, but you always come at 8:30. Why would they trust you? Right?
If they say, "Oh, we're going to go on a date this Saturday." And you never go on a date that Saturday. I mean, maybe a couple times they'll let it slide, but at a certain point they're going to be like, "What the hell?" And that's what happens internally. And that's why we experience anxiety, right? That's why the anxiety signal gets sent out. And depending on how you respond to that anxiety signal determines whether you develop a disorder or not. So, if you don't know what we know, then you're going to be like, "Oh my god, there's something wrong with me. have to like I have all this anxiety. I need to fix this. I need to Google it. I need to do all these things. And now you just created dysregulation of your nervous system. Your nervous system never got a chance to breathe. Never got a chance to really feel what it's like to live aligned simply because you broke that trust. Yeah.
>> You know, so that's long story short on what a disregulated nervous system is. And it's so important, so extremely vital that you understand what is going on, why it's happening, because if you don't, again, that fear response that is going to be a lot more extreme, a lot worse, and that's going to send you in the feedback loop.
>> Um, so understanding it obviously is the first step and that's why we're going through this first. Now, again, the trigger is going to happen. So, sometimes, you know, your nervous system can get overwhelmed from a panic attack, a drug induced panic attack. Again, when if you got it from weed, whatever it is, right? When the drug leaves your system, it's out of your system. But again, it can happen in so many different um ways.
Then you get fear from the way that you feel, this causes you to overanalyze, monitor, hyperfocus, and become so obsessed, right? That obsession comes into place. This creates even more anxiety, which hence increases more DPD, DPDR, and these symptoms that you are experiencing essentially.
>> Right. And that's a feedback loop you're talking about, correct?
>> Yes. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then um because you react with fear every time, your brain learns that DPDR is dangerous and it thinks that it's dangerous and then you get scared and scared and scared and it's like this persisting thing over and over again.
>> Exactly. And now you're scared of the DPDR >> and then you're scared of the anxiety.
>> Yeah.
>> And it just cycles into its own thing.
And the truth is that a lot of people are scared of the DPDR cuz first of all, it's a scary feeling like >> uh objectively there's no way around it.
But if you truly understand what it is and and how to overcome it, it doesn't become as scary anymore.
>> But I want to bring up I'm going to read it word for word so you guys truly understand what a disregulated nervous system is. Okay.
>> Um >> where was I?
I how I want you guys to view it is like you are the owner. You're the owner of your nervous system. So when when it in a nervous system POV when its owner is not live is not protecting him and it's not doing what he's he or she's supposed to be doing it start to turn his backs turn their back on the owner right because you're like okay you're not safe for me so I have to look out for myself and now it's always on hyper alert mode and that's when it's chronic anxiety DPDR overthinking intrusive thoughts whatever the case might be so it's not your nervous system malfunctioning it's trying to protect you from you from your own neglect, from your own avoidance, from your own inaction. It's saying, "I don't feel safe with how we are living."
And when this continues long enough, your nervous system begins to overprotect you. And then that's for when for example, DPDR comes into play.
But um yeah, what else we got?
Oh, how to align your higher self to address anxiety. Right? So now that you guys understand that anxiety is just a signal it's time to realign your life.
Okay? So the number one step you need to do right on a piece of paper is take a good hard look at your life. Evaluate every single aspect of your life. Your relationships, emphasis on that because it's very hard to let go of people that you know are bad for you. Your relationships need to evaluate. Your habits extremely important. Every single habit of yours every single one. And identify where the bad habits are. Your environment is a big one too. that goes along with people or it could be just environment as a whole and then your goals. Okay, from there you need to ask yourself where am I neglecting my needs and where could I be doing better and I know I'm not doing better. Okay, that's a simple version but that's exactly what you have to do and then you just go and do it.
>> Exactly it. You have to >> take action like you have to have zero tolerance for misalignment in your life.
When your tolerance for misalignment is at zero and you tr truly are living in full alignment with the one life you were given and you finally live up to your potential and actually act like the best version of you, your nervous system and your brain have no choice but to regulate themselves and to rewire themselves, dude. Absolutely. The thing is like you you can't you you it's impossible to not recover when every single aspect of your life is fully aligned. So, a lot of you guys might think that everything's perfect, but one, you probably don't have a clear enough idea of what your higher self looks like.
>> One of the things I actually did to know the best version of myself is really look at like what do I desire out of life? If you want something, if you close your eyes and you're like, okay, if I could have anything in the world right now, what would I get? That's probably your higher self talking to you. So, you have to to to first know what you want and then every single aspect. So, another thing I do is I write down every single thing that's stopping me from being my higher self.
And this will show you all the habits.
It'll show you like your screen time, the content you consume, all these things matter. Everything matters. Your wake up time, time you're going to bed, um your diet, your friends, and the all these environment, >> everything matters.
>> Your environment programs you at the end of the day. So, if I'm friends with someone and they aren't aligned with the person that I'm supposed to become, a lot of times you have to accept that like that's something you might have to to drop. And you know, I have people that I still love to death, but I just can't be around because their morals aren't aligned with the person that I know I need to become. And I know my potential won't be fulfilled if I'm in a negative environment.
>> Yeah. And I want to include that >> the what we're talking about, what we're preaching like how to overcome this.
>> Yeah.
>> Is this only applies if you want to overcome it as soon as possible. If you want to overcome it within weeks, then you listen to us. If you want to overcome it in months or years, then you go listen to someone else. You know, I had there was someone that told me, I don't like you don't need to become the best version of yourself to overcome DPDR. And obviously I laughed because you know after the amount of people I've helped it's like who the hell are you?
But anyways I was like you know what they're actually right because I have heard of people and people sometimes text me where it's like oh yeah I just distracted myself out of it. And what I have to say to that is like you're either going to take that route of never taking action and hoping that by chance somehow you overcome this >> or you're going to actually take action and guarantee your recovery within weeks. Right? If you're someone like me, I didn't have a choice. It wasn't like, "Oh, yeah, let me wait another week."
No, I was going to kill myself. So, I needed to do that. That was the only way. And I was blessed enough to It's like, why do people not want to be the best version of themselves? Why are they so lazy that they're like, "Oh, yeah. I don't have to be the best version of me." Then what do you want to be? You want to be average? Like, you want to be mediocre?
>> I don't get that.
>> I don't understand. But I do understand because I was in that mindset and I just wanted a quick fix. I just wanted to get rid of this thing ASAP. And the truth is it takes work. Just like all great things in life, it comes through work.
It comes through action. It comes through actually >> of course >> dedicating yourself to it. So that's >> something I want to mention too.
>> Yeah.
>> Is alignment with your higher self is the key. Okay. So when it comes to being your higher self, I don't think >> it's necessarily fully possible to actually be okay, I hit that my higher self. But this is not about actually, okay, I'm your higher self. There's no more ways to climb in my self-development. It's about >> being embodying and being in an alignment. So no matter what, you are on track to continue to progress. And I say like progression is the cure to depression in a sense. It's like continuing to bre to progress is the key in making sure that your habits, your day-to-day is fully aligned with the person that you were meant to become.
>> Yeah. And let me ask you this cuz someone commented this recently and you I think you'll have a good answer to this.
>> How does becoming the best version of me, how does that why does that relate to DPDR? How is that going to cure my DPDR?
>> Yeah, it's because your nervous system and your subconscious mind has no reason to trust you and no reason to believe that you're safe.
>> And you know, something that that I had a hard time understanding is like it needs proof. You have to go out and actually prove that you're safe. And what I say is like without proof, there's not going to be trust. Your your your nervous system has no way to trust you. That's why like DPDR and anxiety can't thrive when there's trust, when there's safety spilled. So the the real the real question you have to ask yourself is like, am I aligned? And then if you if you're not aligned, figure out what is in alignment or what's out of alignment? Lock that in and take action relentlessly every single day. And it has to be consistent as well. 100%.
>> Every single day.
>> Yeah.
>> Every single day. And that was a great answer. That's exactly what I wanted to hear.
>> Um I have nothing to say about it. the best thing.
>> It's the best thing too. Why would you not want to step into a better version of you? And I think the fact go ahead.
>> But the thing is like >> the reason I asked that is because I actually had the same question when I was going through in a sense I know I would have at least I was like okay >> sure I'll become the best version of me but is that actually going to work? Is that actually going to get me the result I want which is to get rid of this thing? The answer is 100 million billion%. Because when you understand how the brain operates and what we're going to get into, you hack into your brain's neuroplasticity. You align every single controllable factor with your desired outcome and you get that outcome every single time. It's impossible for it not to work.
>> Can't work. Your brain your brain is forced to adapt to your identity to neuroplasticity is your bu your brain's ability to adapt and change, right? It's always changing. And these are there are laws that are actively in effect every single day. And it's either you choose to become aware of how you're thinking, the actions you're taking, and how you're living your life. Or you can live unintentional, no awareness, and just drift through life >> and just get a result that you don't want.
>> Bang.
>> And that's why you need to know exactly what you want out of life. So these bad things are actually molding you and sculpting you into that person instead of just mindlessly making you even farther from your higher self.
>> Yeah. And that that's such good information. I'm honestly jealous of everyone watching. I wish I had uh this information. Literally learning how to hack your brain for success and for recovery.
>> Um I want to quickly touch up on the DPDR feedback loop. I know you brought it up, but I just want to go a little bit >> more in detail. So >> a lot of you guys asked the question of like why am I still stuck in this state?
Like why am I still feeling these feelings? Why can't I overcome this?
Well, this is exactly how the DPDR feedback loop works. How DPDR cycle works. Number one is a trigger. So something overwhelms your nervous system whether it was fear, trauma, overthinking, stress, panic attack, whatever it was, right? That initial trigger. Then from there, the fear attached to that trigger. So you feel the detachment, you immediately start to panic. What's happening to me? Am I going crazy? Damn, we forgot to bring that up in the symptoms. Feeling like you're going crazy. That was another one of my biggest things.
>> But yeah, am I going crazy? Am I losing my mind? Then you start to hyperfocus on it. You're like, you start monitoring yourself. You're like, "Okay, am I feeling it? Am I not feeling it?" And now you get super hyper aware of everything. And this hyper awareness and this fear creates more anxiety because your nervous system thinks, "Oh, there's something must be wrong." And then this anxiety creates more disassociation, which is more DPDR. And then every time you react with fear to the symptoms, your brain learns that DPDR is dangerous. And then it keeps repeating in this cycle because it's a self- sustaining loop of fear, anxiety, detachment, and your your brain is trying to protect you the whole time.
>> Yeah.
>> So that's it, >> guys. It's your brain's doing its job.
And everything that's happening is completely safe.
>> And I know it's like it must suck to hear cuz if someone told me that when I was going through it, I'd be so pissed.
I'd be like, "No, like I hate these guys." Like this is the worst. Cuz I used to feel like this was the worst thing that ever happened to me. Like this was hell on earth. And every almost everyone knows it's a protective mechanism, but they don't really get it.
They don't really understand it. No one really breaks it down how we do. But I used to hate hearing that honestly cuz I was like, "No, like this is not my brain protecting me. Like this is hell." And I promise you guys, no matter how much you hate this thing, promise you it is your brain trying to protect you. It's your brain trying to keep you in your comfort bubble. Yeah.
>> And that does not feel good. And that's why you feel all these terrible symptoms. And to be straight forward with you, like it's annoying. Like I don't even know why we have I do know why we have this DPDR protective mechanism, but it's almost like damn, like I almost wish it didn't exist, but it does and now we have to do something about it.
>> It's all perception, too. Like if I express hate towards it, >> I'm going to get that right back. And a lot of the things we're going to go over go into that same concept. It's like the way that you >> you look at these feelings, the way that you approach these symptoms is key. And if I even express negativity to the world, the world is a it's a mirror from your thoughts and how you view it, right? I might view the world completely different than Andre based off of my life experience. And that's why we said proof. What proof does is it changes your identity. Um, and I can't wait to get into that that exact aspect of it.
One thing I want to bring up is that you don't have a special kind of DPDR.
>> No such thing.
>> There's no such thing as a special kind of DPDR. And I'm going to emphasize this because this is something this is single-handedly the thing that ruined me.
>> Everyone has this.
>> Yeah. But I never I got I had it so bad to the point where I would never watch a video like this. I would never do it just because I knew that my case was different. So I was like, yeah, these guys are going to say blah blah blah, but like yeah, I was like, I don't care because they don't have what I have. I thought I was so special, so different.
And it ruined me genuinely. So I want you guys to understand I've spoken to thousands of people worked with 129 and every sing almost every single one of them genuinely believes that they had a special kind of DPDR.
>> Yep. Of course >> everyone goes through the same thing. I remember thinking I was the only person in the world ever that ever experiences of all of humanity. It's not true at all. It's just that anxiety and DPDR makes you it's a liar. It makes you think these things and makes you feel these things even though it's not true.
And it's funny because I work with a bunch of clients and they ask me almost the same questions. They have the same triggers. They have the same like I think I told you I recently did like a data analyzation of all of my clients bad habits, their dreams, their goals, their symptoms, their everything. I compiled it and it turns out almost all of them are going through the same thing. Yeah. They had the same bad habits. They had the same triggers. They had the same goals. They're ambitious people. They're great people. Um, and it's just so similar. So, I just need them to understand they are not alone whatsoever.
>> Yeah, dude. Of course. 100%.
>> Cool. Um, what's the last thing we have?
Last thing. Oh, we have a couple things before we get into how to overcome module. I quickly want to touch about the brain regions involved in DPDR.
Okay. I want to give you guys a little bit more of an insider um like understanding of why you're actually experiencing these things and what parts of the brain affect how you feel. So number one is the prefrontal cortex. So the prefrontal cortex is a part of your brain essentially just responsible for rational thinking, self-awareness, decision-m and emotional regulation.
Okay. So how does this relate to how you feel? In DPDR, the prefrontal cortex becomes overactive and it tries too hard to logically analyze everything and figure it out. That was another problem with me is that I thought I could like think my way out of it. I thought I could just figure it out logically and it never works. Okay, so this is why you might feel detached from your emotions, overthink everything, feel like you're watching yourself out of your body because your brain is in analysis mode instead of experiencing life. Right?
Then number two, the amygdala. A lot of people have heard of the amygdala. It's essentially your brain's fear center. So it constantly scans for danger and it activates your fight orflight um response when it detects a threat. So how does this relate to how you feel? In DPDR, the amygdala is always active.
It's hyperactive because you're in a state of dysregulation, right? So, it's firing signals even though there's no real danger. It's firing signals keeping you a constant state of alertness and anxiety. So, you might notice racing thoughts, tightness in your chest, you know, like your brain can't shut down, just intrusive thoughts, all that and panicked uh panic attacks, all that.
That's all your amydala. Okay? And then your insula. Your insula helps you feel connected to your body. Okay? So, obviously, how does this relate to how you feel? You feel disconnected from your body. You feel like you're watching yourself out of your body and you feel like you lost connection with yourself.
Okay, last couple things. The temporal loes. So the temporal loes are responsible for the sensory output and the memory. So the sensory output is obviously your senses. So that's the your hearing, your vision, everything like that. And this contributes to the dreamlike feeling of DPDR, the visual symptoms, the auditory symptoms, all that. And then we have the hippocampus.
the hippocampus helps form memories and connects it to your past. Okay, so when the hippo campus becomes underactive um and that is why you feel like you literally can't remember memories and that was one thing that I remember brought me a lot of peace was that I realized like okay I don't feel connected to any of my past memories because my hippocampus is underactive right now. Yeah.
>> And that's why I was like that makes more sense you know. So yeah, long story short, a couple, you know, brain regions involved in DPDR and how it relates to, you know, what they're going through.
>> Yeah.
>> Start us off with the misconceptions.
>> Yeah. So, common misconceptions, guys.
>> I love this. This is going to really help you guys. So, >> this is going to debunk all the myths that go behind DPDR. A lot of times when you are in DPDR, you can ask yourself these questions. And truthfully, like if I would have had this, I would have feel so heard a couple years ago. So the first misconception obviously is the fear of going crazy, losing your mind, developing schizophrenia, psychosis.
That fear destroyed me. And the thing is guys, DPDR is not a sign of psychosis.
It can never ever I'm saying this five more times if I need to say it 150,000 times. DPDR can never ever lead into psychosis. And if I had to say is how many times I've told like people that you know reached out like again that this won't you can recover. This is not like it's everyone everyone like 90% of people experience this. So >> it's such a common >> super super common and it can really really happen. Um there's also >> the thought of never feeling normal again.
>> I want to touch upon that real quick.
The misconception of um think you're going crazy or developing schizophrenia.
So yeah, >> it's important to note that schizophrenia and DPD are almost opposites.
>> You would know if you had.
>> Yeah, that's the thing with like psychosis and schizophrenia, >> people that experience psychosis schizophrenia, they're not aware that they're slipping out of reality, right?
With us with DPD, our experiencers, we are hyper aware that we're experiencing it and we're scared of the feelings of, you know, going crazy. Like people that are actually going crazy, they don't know that they're going crazy. That's the whole point. If they knew they were going crazy, they wouldn't be crazy, right? But since they're actually experiencing schizophrenia and psychosis, they're not actually aware.
And they're definitely not scared of the fact that they're experiencing this stuff. They're just >> living their lives, you know, and it might be distressing to some of them, but they're still living their lives.
You know, with DPDR, again, you're hyper aware, you're scared, you're checking, you're it's an anxiety based disorder.
Schizophrenia and psychosis are almost the opposite of DPDR.
>> Yeah.
>> So that's >> again like if if you have schizophrenia, you don't like you're not scared of your own. Like it's it's different. It's different. And that fear and that anxiety is proof. Like the fact that something's wrong.
>> Yeah.
>> Yeah. I've talked to a lot of people with psychosis and schizophrenia and they'll tell me the same thing. You know, sometimes they have very slight awareness of it, but for the most part, >> nothing. And they're definitely not anxious or scared of the feelings like obviously DPDRs are.
>> No, of course.
>> Next.
>> Got you. So, yeah. So the thought of never feeling real and normal again very very extremely common. Everyone again everyone or 99% of people think that they're the one exception that is a symptom of it. Like everyone thinks they're the exception. I've had so many people tell me no I'm different. I used to tell everyone, "No, I'm different. I can't. It's impossible. You can't.
There's no such thing as that."
>> Yeah. I had someone text me today. They literally said, "I genuinely feel like I'm the exception."
>> It's every single day.
>> It's every single day. Everyone thinks they're except they literally said like, "Yeah, I've seen your client results.
I've seen everything, but I still feel like I'm exception."
>> Um, there's no other way for me to say that they're not the exception at all. I thought I was the exception. I was like the example, the prime example of someone who thought they were the exception and I still freaking recovered in five weeks.
>> [ __ ] Yeah.
>> This means I have like brand like if you might have the thoughts of like this means I have brain damage or some serious mental illness. That's actually something I really really used to struggle with is like is thinking that my brain was broken.
>> Yeah, that was a big thing of mine.
>> Also like drugged up like >> man I like permanent like when I smoked weed I permanently damaged my brain.
Crazy. You get these crazy thoughts and telling you it's it's legitimately impossible and it's it's your brain's like psychological nature. It's trying to find like again confirmation bias which we'll go over. It's trying to find like reasons to why you feel this way.
So, it's going to give you all these intrusive thoughts. That's all these are. All these misconceptions are like intrusive thoughts. They're all symptoms of it.
>> That's it. That's it. I I was like I remember I was begging my mom for a brain scan. Begging cuz I thought something was wrong with my brain. I thought something was seriously wrong with me.
>> I'll never forget that day. And I wish I knew that I didn't have any brain damage. I didn't have a brain tumor. I didn't have Alzheimer's. I didn't have some undiagnosed mental illness that I thought I did.
>> Yeah.
>> Just anxiety and DPDR.
>> That's all it is, guys.
>> That's all it is. All right, let me take over a couple um here.
>> Yeah, kind of what you said, right? This means I damaged my brain permanently from drugs. That was another thing of mine, you know, cuz I dabbled in some psychedelics and, you know, um weed. I thought like, oh, I changed my brain chemistry. This is something that I have to medicate myself or do all these things. Not true at all. Okay. Um, and then this is a big one, right? Because mine came from, right? This is a quote.
Quote, "Because mine came from anxiety, panic, or trauma or nothing at all. Mine is different somehow, right? Like people think that their trigger is different."
Like we said earlier, every single person's story is unique, but the ex condition is the exact same. Your trigger might be different. It >> doesn't matter how you got it, by the way. It doesn't matter.
>> Like that's something people spend so much time trying to figure out like, "But did this cause this? This cause this?" You got to move on. You got to move on. And you have to understand that doesn't matter the trigger, your brain still goes into DPDR state and your nervous system is still disregulated. So it's the exact same no matter what. I've had clients of mine, you know, childhood trauma. I've had clients of mine car accident. I've had clients of mine drug experience. Whatever the case might be, the solution is the exact same, you know.
>> Y >> um yeah, quote, because I've had this for blank amount of years, it's too late for me. It's never too late. Of course, I've seen it help people recover after months, years, or decades of DPDR. It's so possible because the brain is always rewiring itself. So, neuroplasticity is always alive. Always.
>> It's actually impossible not to.
>> I I genuinely believe it's impossible not to. You know, I just had someone join my program recently >> and um >> they just told me how right before they joined the program, they felt like it was impossible. like they genuinely felt like I don't I don't see how I'm going to recover and obviously we talked about it and he understood it but it's so common where people think it's like impossible for me to recover. Yeah.
>> And I told him I literally told him I'm like look I'm not going to say his name but I'll be like look man >> in my eyes it's impossible for you not to recover. And I told him like this isn't just me saying this for XYZ. Like I promise you that is like I don't see I don't see a reality. I don't see a possibility where you don't recover.
>> I don't see a possibility where someone doesn't recover with the right steps.
It's impossible.
>> Yeah. Key word with the right steps, right?
>> With the right steps. If you're just going to wait it out one day, it's guaranteed that you're going to stay stuck in it. Right. If you're obsessively checking yourself and feeling sorry for yourself, it's guaranteed. It's impossible for you to recover that way. Impossible. Yeah.
Right. But with the right steps, it's impossible for you not to recover.
>> 100%, man.
>> So, that's that. Um, right. recovery means I'll suddenly wake up one day and feel normal. That used to be this was my biggest thing. This was like literally the number one the number one or two thing that held me back was that for some reason I had this hope that one day it was going to disappear. And I think it's because online they say that a lot.
They say just live your life again and you'll recover, right? Just keep doing just live your life normally. It's going to fade away. [ __ ] That's not how it works because my normal life was already misaligned. So, if I kept doing what I've always done, I'm going to get the same thing I've always gotten. And that's why I get stuck in DPDR, right?
It's a whole number one misconception.
The number one misconception is that somehow it's going to fade away with time.
>> That almost took my life. You absolutely can all wait. Guys, waiting it out is a death sentence.
>> The only way you can guarantee that last forever is to genuinely do nothing about it. To wait it out. And >> yeah, there's a chance you in, you know, 10 years goes by, you can have that uncertainty if if it will ever happen.
But also, if you don't know how you recover, if you don't actually go all in now and do this and overcome it and follow the steps we're going to tell you, you're not going to know actually what got you to fully recover.
>> Therefore, it's going to come back. Even if you some happened, we're the one in a million to, you know, to wait it out, get it out.
>> That's so true. A great point, Nick.
I've had many clients of mine. I just had one that just made a full recovery, actually. She came to me 13 years into DPDR and she had it for two years, then she didn't have it for a year, then she had it for three years, then she didn't have it for five years, and then she got it again. And this was the third time with it. She finally came to me. Right.
We finally addressed the root cause. We finally aligned her life fully. It took many months. We made it happen. She made a full recovery. And that's powerful, right? Right there. Right. But >> if you guys are just going to distract yourself out of it somehow, I don't know how that works. I'm not going to tell you to do that. I have no idea how that works.
>> It's going to come right back.
>> Yeah.
>> One, like there's so many people that reached out to me saying, "Oh, yeah. I experienced when I was 16, 19, 20, and now I'm 30, 35, 40. I have it again."
Right. You have a client that's what, like 45.
>> Yeah.
>> That's what I'm saying. Like, it happens. It's so common. So, if you don't address the root cause, it will be back. And it and the worst part is it comes back harder >> because this time you can't just distract yourself out of it. You can't.
It's very very bad. So don't be that person. Don't be that guy.
>> What I do with each and every single client like that does recover is I I create them a post recovery plan and I I do literally a case study. So I'll get a full I'll fully analyze like everything we did. I track everything right, every part of their recovery. And then they have a full plan so like for life they know how they can sustain it. I feel like that's the biggest thing that's had me such good success cuz that was my biggest thing. I was scared that I'd fall back into it and that's something I sure doesn't happen. Make sure no one ever no one >> there always I'm always a message away but I like to make sure they know exactly that how they can sustain it with exactly understanding the things that went behind them getting out of it.
>> Agreed. Absolutely. You need that. If not they're going to fall back into it and that's why we're so strict and so passionate with our clients cuz we want the best for them at the end of the day.
So post recovery uh post freedom plan is extremely extremely important.
>> Everything.
>> Yeah. Go ahead. Take where was I?
>> Yeah. So, you might have, you know, might you might constantly monitor how like, you know, how how you feel like and if it's being fixed. Um, you're also going to think like, what if I'm different? Like, am I the exception? We went over that.
>> Um, also thoughts of like you're never going to be the same again. Like, am I going to be in this state for the rest of my life? You know, that's extremely common.
>> Also, like, you know, your personality forever, like losing your personality.
Am I never going to feel like myself again? Is my personality stripped?
>> That's something that I really had as well.
>> Totally.
>> Um, also intrusive thoughts telling you like I can hurt someone, hurt myself.
>> These are >> you you can never your intrusive thoughts aren't aren't real. All right.
Like they they don't >> it never leads to violent or uncontrollable behavior. You know, I had so many intrusive thoughts. For example, even when I was driving, I remember having such crazy thoughts when I was driving with my girlfriend and I was like, you know what? What if I just like flipped the steering wheel over and we, you know, flip and die, you know? And I had these like imaginary photos in my head where like it was happening. It never happened. It's never going to happen because you don't act on those things. You're scared of those things.
Therefore, you'll never act on them, you know? And we can definitely touch on intrusive thoughts later.
>> 100%.
>> Um, >> okay. And then you brought up, yeah, like I lost my personality forever. I'll never be enjoy life again. I'm too weak to handle this. absolute why. Every single person can handle this. You've already been handling. Matter of fact, you're surviving something most people can't even imagine. And you're strong, but now you have to actually take action and actually go allin. Um, DPDR ruined my life. That's one of my biggest things. And I one thing I want to say about that is DPDR did not ruin your life. If anything, it helped you become the version of you you needed to become. A lot of people don't understand that. But if I could snap my fingers right now and help someone recover just like that, it would do them no good because the only reason they were in that state to begin with is they were living a subpar a mediocre life.
Absolutely >> right. I would much rather snap my fingers and help them actually become the best version of them because that that's something they could actually carry with them and they can live literally their dream life. Yeah.
>> You know, one thing I said as soon as I recovered is you can literally create your dream life in a couple weeks. Like dream life. Not materialistic, but like internally, you can create your dream life.
>> Yeah.
>> Um, so yeah, DPR didn't ruin anyone's life.
If anything, >> it helped you become the person you needed to. Period. That's it.
>> Of course.
>> What else we got? Anything else?
>> Um, we obviously already talked about I just have to wait until I magically feel better. Absolutely not. Never ever ever wait it out.
>> Oh, also like when you don't feel like progress right away, you have to understand, we'll go into it. Lingering symptoms like the end of the day when you say if I don't feel like I'm making progress fast, it's not working. That's because in the past you didn't react right. And you're the the day that like when you first start this, you're going to have like how you reacted in the past come up and that's where you really get tested. So at the end of the day, your brain only, you know, it receives and processes information. All the information you gave it in the past is what is what you, you know, is what it's basing its perspective on life about. So when you respond with fear, hesitation, anxiety in the past, that's all it has like as your past experience.
>> That's all it has.
>> And that's why people are >> That's why you need proof that you're not that person anymore.
>> Think about like an introvert or an extrovert. They they don't in my head there's no such thing as an introvert or an extrovert.
>> No. The only reason those exist is because of past experience. If I go and talk maybe the last 500 conversations I've had, that's going to make my identity. And the way I change that is not by dwelling in the past. It's not about, you know, having anxiety over the future, but it's about taking action and proving who I am. This new identity. I could talk to 500 people like I'm an extrovert. Fake it till you make it. But it becomes that becomes that version of myself eventually.
>> We'll touch on that.
>> Yeah, of course.
>> All right. Now for the >> I'm super excited for this.
>> Now for the main event. how to actually overcome DPDR. Long story short, so how do we break the DPDR cycle? The simple answer is by rewiring your brain. And it's not as complicated as it sounds.
Okay. Something called neuroplasticity, which we'll get into, is just the brain's way of rewiring itself based on what you repeatedly do, think, and focus on. Okay. So, how do you overcome DPDR is you change what you repeatedly do, think, and focus on. When you control the controllable aspects in your life, your brain has no choice but to slowly start to rewire itself out of this state. Right.
>> Absolutely.
>> So what I wanted to get into is how does neuroplasticity even work? Because this is the mechanism behind EPDR recovery as a whole. Okay. So I want them to think about it as a field of grass. So a field of grass if you let's say you take the same trail every day, right? you start to create a new trail, a new trail. You start to create a patch in the grass, right? And that is essentially how neuroplasticity works. If you take the same path over and over again, you're actually making that path and the neural connections are actually strengthening and over a period of time, you're going to have different, you know, you're going to have a different wiring and that's how you rewire your brain, right?
But if you consistently do the same thing you've always done, you're going to get the same exact result, right? But if you change the trail and you change the trail, you change the trail, your brain is starting to rewire itself out of the state, right?
>> Yeah.
>> Um, yeah. How would you describe it or how do you want to start things off?
>> I want to first start off by saying that like you can become your new identity absolutely instantaneously. You don't have to the only way that you can become recovered is to first say like it is we're going to go I'm going to talk about a little bit of mindset right now.
First, you need to say, "I'm 100% recovered." And live by that rule. Okay?
So, the the 100% recovered rule is absolutely vital and everyone has to understand this.
>> You need to tell yourself, I hear right now, I'm 100% recovered. All my actions need to reflect that. The way I think needs to reflect that. The way I, you know, I go on my phone, the way I talk to people, it needs to reflect that. Not just that, but your higher self, right?
And every single lingering symptom that comes up is just from the past. Again, it's based off of how you responded to the symptoms in the past. It's based off of your actions in the past, but you can change your future actions to ultimately change. So when these lingering symptoms come up, when you start implementing the things we're going to tell you, when these things come up, you have to realize these are lingering symptoms.
And if when when you actually feel them right there and then, that is your opportunity within itself to prove that you are safe, right? Proof.
>> So we're going to go over every single response to it. Do you want to start off with the responses like exactly how to respond?
>> Not yet. I want to talk I want to talk about the brain a little bit more but I want to touch upon your point which is the identity shift from I'm no longer a victim of the situation. I am recovered.
I am 100 my my mantra for all my clients is I'm 100% recovered. Anything I feel is a lingering symptom and not worth my attention.
>> Absolutely.
>> Because when you understand that DPDR isn't the main event, it makes itself it makes you feel like this is the most important thing in my life. Like I have to get rid of this. I have to monitor how I feel. I have to do something about it. But in reality, your life, your goals, your ambitions, that is the main event. DPDR is a distraction. So when you understand like, hey, I have things I have goals in my life. I have things I want to do. I have a life to build.
Let's go for that. When you un excuse me, when you understand that, everything changes. So you tell yourself, I'm recovered from this day on. I am recovered. That is it. anything I experience just a lingering symptom from the past and it's not worth my attention. Yeah. And that's why that point's so key. So let's talk a little about the brain and how it functions. So I talked about neuroplasticity, right?
The way the brain rewires itself based on what you think, do um and focus on, right? But how does the brain actually function? So it has two primary functions. It has number one, it receives information. So your whole entire life since you were born, you've been receiving information, right? And then it has the ability to process that information. And between those two things, this creates your perspective.
This creates your reality, right? Your perspective on things, right?
>> Um, and the reason this is so important because if you understand all your brain really does collect information and then process it to then give you an output, then you understand that your brain is input outputbased. So if you give it BS, you're going to get BS. If you live like a loser, you're going to be a loser. If you live like a winner, you're going to be a winner. That's how it works, right?
So, I want them to think about it's almost like a supercomput. It's like Google, right? You have to give it the right inputs and then you will get your desired output. So, when you go on Google and you search up how to bake a cake, right? You have to put the H, you have to put the O, you have to put the double, you have to put the space bar, and you have to put the rest, right? But those words have to be perfect. If not, I mean, Google has this the smart thing where it'll like, you know, it'll kind of make sense of what you said. The brain doesn't work that way. The the the input you give it has to be damn near perfect and then it'll give you the desired outcome, right? But let's say you instead of doing how to bake a cake, you put like the H and then you put a Z and then you put a T and then you forget the space bar and then you do whatever, right? You're not going to get the same output because you didn't give your brain the right input. So, the way you can correlate this is with your habits, right? Like I said, if you're constantly fearing the DPDR, you don't know how to respond to it, you're obsessing over it, you're thinking about it, you're talking to other people about it, you're feeling sorry for yourself, you're messing up the entire sequence. So, if you do that, you're going to get the desired outcome, which is staying stuck, right? If you don't take action on Google, you're not going to you're going to stay stuck. But if you put the exact words that need to be said, you're going to get your desired output, right? So again, like I said, control every controllable aspect of your life to the point where it's unreasonable for you to not be the best version of you and therefore make a full recovery. Right? So I want to say that recovery only happens as a byproduct of you becoming the highest version of yourself. Yep.
>> That's the key right there. And that's what people don't understand. You don't overcome DPDR by overcoming DPDR. You overcome DPDR as a byproduct of you becoming the highest version of you.
Yeah. And that's something I tell like >> I have clients join and obviously we're overcoming DPDR, but I tell them like I'm your higher self coach. I am here to make you the absolute greatest version of yourself. And as you was saying with like the Google analogy is when you have the big DPDR. It's like this huge problem. It consumes every single thought almost all your thoughts in your head. What happens is it hyperfocuses on that one thing. And just like a computer, when you have like low Wi-Fi or you have so many tabs open, it'll focus on the one tab that you're on.
>> Your job is to not is to to put the right information, but also new positive input. And you need to flood your brain with so much positive input, so much positive [ __ ] that like it literally has no choice but to push out all the negative bad information because your brain can only, you know, perceive so much information at once.
Every single thing of information has to be, you know, up to, what I tell people is up to a standard of excellence.
>> Up to a standard of excellence.
>> I say like when if if every single thing you do is up to a standard of excellence, there's something called auto suggestion, which is, you know, how your subconscious mind perceives like your identity and who you are based off all your actions. So in my life, what I specifically did was I kind of became like obsessed with what I love to do.
For me, that was the gym, working out.
That was my personal development and I loved it and that made me feel fulfilled. That was aligned with my higher self. So what happened was when every time I go for a run that last mile I gave it my all. Every time I was in the gym I'd give, you know, every rep fullest. My my my confidence skyrocketed, right? And when you have undeniable confidence, your DPDR cannot thrive. It cannot live in that environment. So for you, it's really understanding like your higher self. How does this person talk, walk, act, live?
And find out what it is. You know, I have I have many I have a client that DJed as soon as he started going out and living in that identity of what he was avoiding for so long along with having good positive input habits, that's when he cracked the co the code. And the key is along with good habits, right? You can obviously chase it, you need also habits that are in line, right? All the inputs matters, everything.
>> Yeah. I want to simplify what you said.
That's the 9010 rule we talk about.
Absolutely.
>> Which is just like right now your guys's brain is it's like a circle, right?
>> It has a max capacity. Your brain can't take up a billion things. It can only take up, let's say, hundred, right? 90% of your brain right now is cluttered with fear, anxiety, DPDR, thinking about it, thinking about it, thinking about it. And when that happens, you don't allow, you're not in the right mindset to live. You can't live. Excuse me. But when you understand that, like you said, you have to flood your brain with positive input. You have to change your habits, you have to actually embody the best version of you, and you have to align everything with the highest version of you. Slowly but surely, the 90% starts to get replaced by all this new information coming in, starts coming in, and all of a sudden, you're like 8020, and then you're like at 7030, and then you start feeling the progress, and you're 50/50. And before you know it, you're so involved and so focused on becoming the best version of you and you just love what that's like that you forget. It's not that you forget about the DPDR. It has no space left in the circle. It >> just doesn't matter. You don't care.
>> Yeah. Like it has no space left in the circle for it to thrive. So your brain is grasping at nothing. It has no ammo to give you anymore. That's it. And that's when you really truly overcome it, you know. And the same goes hand in hand with like um a breakup, right? A lot of people say, "Give it time, right?
Sure, give it time and yeah, you're you're going to get over them." But what they don't understand is that your brain doesn't understand time. Your brain only understands input, right? So, if you got over your ex, which you probably have, you didn't just give it time. You did things, right? You probably started going out or you went to the gym or you focused on work or you did something else. Long story short, your focus was shifted. your focus wasn't on the ex anymore. And little by little, your brain starts replacing all these X patterns with new things, whether whatever it was. And then that's when you got over it. They say time heals all. It's not exactly true because again, the brain doesn't conceptualize time. It's just input based. You pro you gave it so much new input to the point where it's like >> doesn't affect the X doesn't affect you anymore.
>> And you become what you focus on. What you focus on grows. If I focus on negative things all day, that's going to consume my mind. It goes into my subconscious and that solidifies this perspective on the world. And I remember, you know, when I was going through it, I had this like weird perception of the world. I thought the world was repeatedly getting worse. I thought, you know, humanity was done for. I had this really negative perception, but it it was because my actions. It was because of what I focus on. And your brain can literally filter your world. And you can make the filter positive. so much positive input there is no reality to where things are negative. I have so many people that come to me in negative really negative headspaces and you have to look at every single aspect like your selft talk really look at the way you talk to yourself how do you treat yourself because if you can't even respect yourself the world's going to respond to the way you talk to yourself and be like wait we hate this person we don't like this person something's wrong we have DPDR so you need to to understand that every single thought is going to be almost boomerang back to you and gain awareness in that and be able ble to catch yourself when you do spiral% and go right back into positive input.
Positive input. You should flood your day right now.
>> Everyone make a list of like what are some high frequency? What what's the highest, you know, highest self things that you can do right now, >> of course. And they know deep down they already thought about it. Whatever just pops into your head, do that thing. Do those things. Take a little bit longer and think about those things. They already know. 99% of people already know what they have to be doing, right? But they do need some clarity on what the highest version of them looks like, which is why we come into play. You know, >> another thing is every action you take is either good or bad. There's there's not really any in between. And sometimes you make the trade-off. Like if I'm going to eat really shitty food, that's a choice. Okay?
>> I I chose to do that >> and I I chose to do that, but I'm going to eat really good food to make up for it. And you have to look at it like like withdrawals and deposits. You just need more deposits than withdrawals. more higher self, the more you can have like you're gonna get rich based off of your actions every single day and just stack deposits of high frequency activities.
That's the key. As many >> That's it.
>> Yeah, that's it.
>> Yeah. And I want to just put a button on it on how to hack your brain plasticity.
Okay. So they can understand it. This is straight from my course. You guys are getting exclusive stuff right here.
Okay.
>> Just read it word by word. Most people scroll through their life the same way they scroll through Tik Tok mindlessly.
Just like me and you before, right? They wake up, they open their phone, they start consuming whatever shows up. They go through the motions of the day, reacting to things instead of creating things. They let their environment, their emotions, and random distractions control them. It's like living on autopilot. They're constantly scrolling, liking, and engaging with negativity, fear, stress, and limitation without even realizing. And this is where controlling the controllables is your superpower. You can't control every thought that pops in or every emotion.
But you can control your actions, your habits, your environment, your focus.
You can control your sleep schedule, your diet, your social circle, your content, your selft talk. These are the controllables. And when you master them, your brain follows. That's how you outgrow DPDR. That's how you outgrow anxiety. You stop scrolling through life mindlessly. You start being intentional.
you stop reacting to life and you start designing it. And once you control your inputs, your brain has no choice but to produce better output. And I think that kind of leads me to the next point which is impossible not to recover. Once you understand, guys, like we just said, once you understand how neuroplasticity works and that your brain is input output based and that all you have to do is control the controllables and you're going to get your output, it's impossible impossible for your brain and nervous system to not realign themselves. I don't think they understand that. It's not like a choice.
It's not like, huh, am I going to like your brain doesn't like take a second.
It's like, oh, do I really want to do that? It's like, no, if you do X, your brain will follow. That is it. There's no other way around it. You know, and >> it's a math equation.
>> It's literally an equation. That is the formula. Period. There's no other way around it. That's something that would have brought me a lot of peace cuz I thought, yeah, maybe my brain works differently. No, it no, it doesn't.
Doesn't work any differently than anyone else's brain. It's still a brain, you know, it still has its functions.
There's you can't like uh beat around the bush and beat around the functions of the brain. That's how it works.
Period. Point.
>> Something that's really important too is like understanding everything we talk about is so personalized to the point of like you hear you hear all this stuff higher self high frequency activities.
Every single person is different.
>> Every person different.
>> Well, in higher self like what I do is I really look at every single part of your life. exactly everything because there's so many little details that that for you are different than for me, right? For me, my higher self, my best version of me did something that's different than you. Um, and to also go on top of what you said about like how we're like mindlessly scrolling in our heads all day. I have I have a video in my course called like the 40 page of your mind.
>> And I truly believe like we all mindlessly scroll throughout our day.
Every single thought is almost like a new reel. And just like if you if you reacted engaged with like a sad video, >> you're gonna see more sad videos on your for you page. Whether you want to or whether you don't, it's going to pop up.
It's just how the algorithm works. Your brain neuroplasticity, it's an algorithm, right? And you can change your algorithm by choosing the thoughts to engage in. And the key is it's a choice. And a lot of people, >> you it's like if you're scrolling and you went through a breakup and you continue to engage with the sad videos, you're going to see so many sad videos.
You have to choose to engage with high frequency things in everything in the people you talk to in the um just everything you do. It has to be up to the standard of the life that you want to live. And again, this is how you do it in weeks, right? You can you can go half in, half out and not do this, right?
>> That's what I'm saying.
>> This is how you recover as fast as possible.
>> That's what I'm saying. That's a great point. I was going to save that for like how to overcome intrusive thoughts, but it goes the same for everything, right?
Your brain is a social media algorithm like you said and if you're constantly engaging with negative thoughts, if you're engaging with your intrusive thoughts, if you're engaging with the symptoms, if you're engaging with all this negativity, your brain learns like, "Oh, he must like this and he's going to give you more of it." The same way your social media algorithm doesn't inherently know what you like or what you want or where you don't want. It only cares what you engage with. Your brain is the exact same. It doesn't care if you don't like something. It's going to continue giving it to you if you're engaging with it, right? Yeah. So, let's say this happens to me sometimes even on my stuff. Like, there was one thing I searched up on TikTok the other day. I think it was like a plane crash or something happened where I searched it up and then within a matter of minutes, my whole feed is like news. My whole feed is news like plane crash this and that. Even though I didn't want that other stuff to come up, I just was searching for that one thing. Your algorithm is like, "Hey, he must love this, so I'm going to give him more of Sometimes it's fun to like watch like sometimes sometimes the negative things your brain like almost wants to just like it feels like safer watching those things or like when you go through a breakup you watch all these like videos about your ex or what you all these crazy things it's the same example it's like your brain sometimes wants to but it does you that's not what you need it's what you want right a lot of times your brain wants to to give into these existential intrusive thoughts crazy thoughts in your head but when you do that you're actively telling yourself I want more of this. I want to see more of this. Give me all of it. Like that's the one of the worst things you can do.
>> And that's why the intrusive thoughts overcoming it is pretty tricky if you don't understand that. If the intrusive thoughts come in and you always fear it and you're always trying to figure it out or you don't know how to react to it, your brain just learns, oh, this must be something he wants. This must be something he wants. That's why the existential crisis happen to me. That's why intrusive thoughts and OCD like symptoms happen to so many others. You know, >> one thing I want to touch on is >> the two things that keep DPDR alive.
These are the only things about you watching this video why you still have DPDR. Okay, DPDR only survives on two things. Attention and misalignment.
Those are its only two lifelines. If you take away your attention and you live in alignment with your higher self, DPDR has no power. Zero gas. It has nothing to grasp onto. It becomes useless. So you cannot survive, it cannot survive without your focus and without misalignment. So when you stop giving it attention, you stop feeding it, you start living your life and you start living your life as your higher self, you take away its purpose entirely.
>> Absolutely, man.
>> Great point.
>> You you something that's so important is understanding like you become your habits, right? Nothing less. Like you will always fall to your systems, right?
So when I when I say when you have a goal like when you make your goals clear your higher self clear you always fall to your systems not your ambitions. You never rise to your ambitions you fall to your systems. So it doesn't care about what you desire. Your nervous system doesn't give a [ __ ] about what you want.
It doesn't care if you want to recover.
It only cares about what you repeatedly do every single day. So when you show up yeah every single day. and you show up and you like won it with every single thing and you show yourself proof. It has no choice but to adhere to the fact that you're confident, you're recovered, you're your higher self, you're a winner. That's it.
>> It has no choice.
>> Absolutely, man.
>> There's no other way to say it. It has no choice but to just follow your lead.
At the end of the day, you are the owner. You are the vessel. You have to dictate what your brain, you have to train it. And that's the whole point of neuroplasticity. You're essentially retraining your mind. You're rewiring it.
>> That's how it works. you know, >> talking about confirmation bias, too.
>> What >> confirmation bias and how it works, >> right? I thought I thought we touched up on that a little bit. No, >> completely. Yeah.
>> Um, you want me to go? You can go. Go ahead.
>> Yeah. I was just saying like the importance of your identity, right? Like if if I say I'm something, my brain's going to look up for every single reason why I'm that thing. If I if I wake up today and I say, well, I am a runner, okay? I'm going to probably eat like a runner. I'm probably going to go to workout like a runner. It's going to look for reasons to why I'm that thing.
If I say I'm this, this, and that, it's going to look up for reasons. So, you can change that. Give your brain every single >> reason to believe that you are recovered instead of every it's going to try to find every single reason to why you can't recover. Give it the complete opposite. That >> agreed.
>> Make it tell you every single reason why you are there.
>> 100%. That's I mean that's how confirmation that's why it's so powerful was like when I was going through it, I was convinced that I had schizophrenia.
So, like every visual symptom to me was proof that I had schizophrenia. Exactly.
Like I would see something, it would be a bright light or it would be like a streak of some sort and I would be like, "Oh, that must be >> that's it." You know, I I'm going crazy.
And that was my confirmation bias.
Something I said recently inside of my course was like, >> "Do you know when like um >> like you know how people make up their own lyrics to songs?" Yeah. And let's say the song said like >> um I don't know, flower, but you thought it said like coward, right? So like in your head you're like, "Oh yeah, blah blah blah coward." And then you thought that because you thought it said that you're confirming that like you ever go with like friends and then like you guys have kind of have like an argument on like the lyrics but then you guys kind of like play back the song and see like wait it kind of sounds like coward but it also kind of sounds like flower. It just depends on >> what you focus on. Yeah.
>> Right. It kind of you know like the Yanny and Laurel thing.
>> Yep. Yeah.
>> Yeah. Some people can hear both. I can't but some people can hear both. They're like yeah if I focus on Yanny I hear Yanni. If I focus on Laurel I hear Laurel. But yeah, the Yen and Laurel thing was something that was really powerful to me cuz what you focus on, if you if you if you focus on that, you're going to get that, right? We focus on something else. Going to get that.
>> Yeah. I think we should go into the responses and like >> let's get into responses.
>> This is the most important thing. Um I mean not the most important thing, but obviously you we have the mindset. We have exactly how to overcome it like exactly what you need to do. Responding to it practically just as important. So the first thing I want to go over is what I use the dare response. Go ahead.
I think you used something called you created the sale response.
>> The sale response very similar. Go ahead.
>> So the dare response you first have to >> just to clarify though this is what to do when you feel the symptoms in the moment. Everyone wants to know like what do I do when the symptoms come up and I feel like I'm going crazy and I feel like XYZ.
>> Go ahead.
>> This is exactly what you need to do when you know the the the symptoms hit. So the first is you need to diffuse it. So what I want you to do for each of these steps is write down what you're going to say. Own examples for yourself.
Diffusing it. You acknowledge that it's there. You say silly brain doing its thing again. Um or my brain's just, you know, over is my brain's just overreacting. It's doing whatever it is.
You have like a diffusing statement.
>> Next is you want to allow the symptoms to be there. This is going against what probably 90% of you guys are doing is don't fight it. You know, allow it to be there. Say, "Okay, stay here as long as you want. I'm not scared of you anymore." Next is you want to literally run towards it. Say, "Give me all you got. I want as much of this as possible.
Like stay here like forever. I like I want to attack on this. you run literally run into it.
>> Um and then next is engage in some high frequency [ __ ] You know, do something do something up that's like standard of excellence. Go back and see you know your higher self dayto day.
>> For sure.
>> I love it. I love it. So for me, I use the sale response and it's very similar.
Um and this is what this is the response when the symptoms are very intense. So when the symptoms are intense, it's not like just a little thing. It's like the symptoms are intense follow the sale response. And the sale response is number one, let's say the symptom comes in. Let's say it's um you know you feel like you're detaching from your body, right? When that happens, the seal response is number one S. So it's smile.
So the first step is kind of like diffusing is to smile at it is to just say ah it's just my brain doing that thing again. Silly brain. Same thing, you know, same thing as as the D you said. Um so yeah, the symptom comes in a just my brain doing that thing again.
>> Then A is allow, >> right? So allow it to be there. So for I use a couple different things. So that's why you brought up a good point is like what should they say in each one? So I'll give you guys a couple options. For smile, let's go back to S. Symptom comes in.
>> The first step is always to smile at the symptom. So I love saying silly brain doing that thing again. It's just my brain, you know, protecting me. Okay? Or I like this one a lot. Nice try brain, but I know this game and I'm not falling for it. Right? Then you go into a which is allow. Accept the feeling rather than resisting it. I love this one. This is where you say, "Fine, be here all day. I don't care. I'm 100% recovered. This is just a lingering symptom and it's not worth my attention." Then L is love it.
This is where you really flip the script and tell yourself, I love this feeling.
Show me what you got. And when you do this, it feels I trust me, it's hard. It takes practice. It feels like it's going against everything you believe in. But when you slowly but surely start to rewire your response and you tell yourself, "I love this feeling. Give me more." Your brain is kind of like, "Wait a second. What do I do now?" Like, if he's not scared, then >> we're safe. You know, and that's the whole point. It's like you literally flip the script and your brain is almost going to be like, "What the hell is going on?" Yeah.
>> And then you engage in something else.
So engage can be anything. Like what I teach is engage can be anything. It can be literally taking a sip of a cup.
It can be like a visual anchor like focusing on like the font on certain things even going on your phone for a second and maybe playing a quick game. I remember I used to have this football game that I used to play when I used to do engage just for quickly like 30 seconds a minute just to get your mind off of the BS and get focused on something else.
>> Maybe even go back to your conversation like the most whatever you were already doing before.
>> Yeah, that's a sale response right there. And that's what I teach my clients to do in the moment when it gets very intense. Right. When it's not as intense, I teach them to do the say response, which is just exactly everything we talked about, but without the L. So, it's just more of a quick response where it's smile, accept it, and then engage in something else really quickly.
>> And again, it's it's personalized for each of you. You guys can even personalize it to yourself. Like what what would work best for you. What I like to tell people is like every time the symptoms come up, right there is your literally your opportunity to prove to yourself you're safe. So, like the symptoms are actually a good thing.
>> It's an opportunity.
>> Get excited. Like I when I was recovering I like they would come up and I'd be like all right this is my chance.
You you that's why I tell myself tell yourself like this is your time to shine. This is your time to actually prove yourself that you are safe.
Symptoms are not a bad thing. Like genuinely learn to love it. And it sounds like sounds completely the opposite that you would expect but it's true.
>> If you can turn if you can learn to love it you're golden. If you can learn to love the challenge, the grind, the progress, the >> the journey you're golden.
>> Yeah.
>> That's when you really got it. Okay.
Now, I want to talk about and wait, one thing I want to say is how this works over time. This is not a quick fix in the moment at all. We don't believe in quick fixes because quick fixes never get you the result, right? So, how this works is in the short term, if you continue to do this, the symptoms are still going to come, but now you know how to respond, right? Then in the midterm, your brain realizes, hey, there's no there's no threat. So, the symptoms died down a little bit. And then the long term, the old pathways because your response was so bad before you rewire your response to it. The old stuff disappears. The new stuff is in.
>> Absolutely, man.
>> Cool. We got like maybe five minutes left. So, let's talk about intrusive thoughts. Okay. How do you overcome intrusive thoughts? One thing I want to touch on is the bully analogy. I love the bully analogy. So, when it comes to intrusive thoughts, you have to treat it like a bully, right? The bully wants you to react. It wants you to bite. It wants you to It wants to get that that anger, that reaction out of you. The intrusive thoughts work the same way. Let's say the intrusive thought comes in like, "Oh, I'm going crazy." If you start to like rationalize your way out of it, no, I'm not going crazy. Or, "Oh my god, it's so scary." You're giving your brain exactly what it wants. It wants a reaction out of you, right? But if you learn to approach it just like a bully, and you don't give him that reaction, you just smile and use the say response.
So the say response is what you use for intrusive thoughts. Okay? So you smile at it. You tell yourself, "Yeah, it's just my silly brain giving me that thought again." You know, cool. Be here all day. Thoughts, I'm chilling. I'm doing my thing. And then you engage in something else. That's when the brain starts to slowly learn that, hey, these thoughts aren't actually they actually aren't important, so we're not going to we're not going to do them anymore.
Right? Like we said, it's like a social media algorithm. If you're constantly engaging in that content, engaging in the thoughts, it's going to give you more of it. But if you start to engage in other things, the algorithm has no choice but to give you other things because that's how the algorithm works.
Same way the brain works.
>> Yeah.
>> So, yeah. What would you say about that?
Like how to overcome intrusive thoughts.
>> Yeah. I'd say intrusive thoughts are always you have to understand like they're literally a symptom of DPDR. And when I like I did the same thing. I was like, imagine you just got thrown into a locker and you're you're getting bullied by someone. Like, how would you respond?
I guarantee if you got mad, if you got if you started yelling at the bully, he's going to continue to do it because he feeds off your energy, your intention. If you continue to give your energy to these thoughts, again, the four page analogy is actually very, very, very good for this. Um, it'll stay longer if you keep giving it your attention.
>> 100%. I agree, man.
>> And one of the last things I want to touch on is setbacks do not exist.
Setbacks are absolutely a myth. Like it's not even my language. Like when someone tells me I had a setback, obviously not my clients. My clients don't have to use that word, but when someone else tells me, I'm just like, what are you talking about? Like the recovery journey is like it's not linear. It's always up and down. So if you understand that your journey is going to be up and down, you understand that's not a setback. It's just part of my journey. It's part of my trajectory of the graph. Right? So, I'm just going to touch on that point really quickly because we don't have much time. But guys, never say you have a setback because setbacks, it's not your progress is not defined by how you feel. It's only defined by the actions you take and the plan you're on. If you take the actions every day, your brain is rewiring whether you want it to or not.
If you take the actions, you are recovering. You are progressing no matter what. Even if you feel like [ __ ] tomorrow, even if you feel great tomorrow, if you take the actions, if you do them, you're going to recover.
>> Everyone gets tested. That's the thing.
Everyone has that last test. And the way I looked at it was like, if you feel the worst symptoms ever out of nowhere after you were making progress, that was God asking me like, do you want to level up?
Do you want to go to the next level? And you could either fall short, you know, fall back to where you were. You could look at this and be like, you know what?
I'm going to double down on what I was doing. I'm going to follow through. I'm going to step past this and actually progress. Right? That's where you break through right there.
>> Boom. That's that's a breakthrough. And this is like this is such a good call.
I'm glad we're ending on this is guys, stop trying to recover. Okay, you guys have to understand you are the problem.
Your nervous system is not the problem.
Your nervous system is doing what it's supposed to be doing. You are the problem. And I'll read it word for word from my from my um course. Again, this concept is so important that I'm going to say it again. I had to say it twice.
Stop trying to get rid of your DPDR.
You're missing the whole point. These feelings only exist because you are out of alignment with your higher self.
These feelings are here to push you to grow into the version of you that you've been avoiding. And like I said, if I could snap my fingers and instantly take DPDR from you, that would do you no good. Because yeah, you'll be happy for a few days or a few weeks, but then you'll fall right back into the same patterns, the same bad habits that kept you here in the f first place, right?
You would end up living a mediocre life far below your own potential, and one day you'll look back and regret that you never became the person you were capable of being, right?
>> Awesome.
>> That's it.
They have to stop trying to get rid of these symptoms and start saying, "Okay, I'm the problem. I have to take accountability for my life, my actions.
I'm the hero of my own life. I have to become the best version of me as a byproduct of me doing that. The DPDR pathways will fade away."
>> That's it.
>> Boom.
>> That's it.
>> Yeah, guys. So, >> is there anything you like to end with?
>> I want to say like the biggest thing I want to end off with is stop focusing on the how and focus on who, right? It's not about how you exactly recover. It's about the person that you have to become in order to recover. So screw how you do any of the stuff we're doing. It's all of these things we're giving you is to become a certain type of person. And that person is not a new person necessarily. It's the real you.
>> It's the real you. You guys have to understand beneath all the distractions in your life, beneath all the excuses, beneath all the self-limiting beliefs, there's a version of you that's waiting for you to tap in. It's a limitless unlimited power.
>> It's the best version of you. And if you can just you don't have to become that person tomorrow. Just act. Fake it till you make it. Embody that person. That was one thing that always stuck with me because when you're in that state, when I was in that state, I was like, becoming the best version of me is impossible. But I was like, "Okay, [ __ ] it. What if for 30 days I just pretend?
I just act as if I was unstoppable, as if I was the best version of me. I fixed my life entirely."
>> That's it.
>> Just as a game.
>> Yeah.
>> And I did it. And I became that person.
Right? So don't put so much pressure on you're like, "Oh my god, I have to become like no." Think of it almost as a game. Embody and act like the best version of you until it is until you become undeniable. Until your brain has so much proof that you are that person that your nervous system is like, I love this guy.
>> And that's when everything clicks. The DPDR fades away because it has no reason to be there because there's nothing to protect you from anymore.
>> That's it. Yeah. Like to end it off, guys, like if you if you didn't take notes on this, genuinely go back, take notes because >> this is single-handedly the most the most powerful video, the most powerful video on the internet. And >> if you don't take notes on this, you're just destined to lose. Honestly, if you don't take notes on this, you don't take action in your life after watching this.
Unfortunately, I don't feel sorry for you because you're probably going to end up on Reddit in a couple years. And I'm only saying that to piss you off a little bit because I know I know how to piss people off. But I'm on a real note like >> I'm so glad we sat down for 2 hours and had it.
>> Of course, >> this is like the real deal. The real deal. No BS. And I'm going to repeat it.
If you want to actually recover within weeks, follow what we say. If you want to take years or months or decades, do anything else, okay? But more importantly, like we're here out of a place of love because we've been in your shoes and we know it's like to live in the in the depths of hell of DPDR and we've overcame it. And this is everything I wish I would have known.
Like if I knew this, I would have recovered in one second. Instead of five weeks, it taken me one second to recover.
>> Um, but I really hope you guys do well with this information.
>> I love every single one of you guys. And Nick, thank you so much for, you know, spreading the word and you're the man.
>> Let's go, man. We're saving lives. Let's go.
>> Let's get it. Awesome. react.
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