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Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]So a mom on Instagram is sparking debate. So she posted the monthly maintenance that she does for her 11-year-old daughter and it includes things like here, getting her eyebrows waxed, getting her nails done, shopping for beauty refills, circling back to Drake, nails done, hair done, everything did. Lauren, does an 11-year-old need this self-care routine?

[00:00:24]For this particular clip, I'm going to say absolutely no and it's because of a few specific things. One, the word maintenance is really driving me nuts there. Like right, it's not a treat.

[00:00:33]This is being positioned as an obligation, as a responsibility and if you really watch that video, that 11-year-old doesn't really seem like they want to be A filming content and B doing these things. So there's a part where the mom asks her at Sephora, is is there anything that you want? And she she fully says no. So there are 11-year-olds who would go nuts for that.

[00:00:53]They would love it, right? And then there are 11-year-olds who don't really have an interest and so the maintenance and and pushing her into it is is really bothering me because I think that we have the whole rest of our lives to worry about what we look like. You know, it affects us in the workplace, it affects us in dating and and starting girls early on this unless they really want to and it's a treat and it's appropriate doesn't feel right to me.

[00:01:15]>> feels like yeah, you're priming them early [clears throat] to be capitalists and not only that, it's like it was also being positioned as this self-care. And I think of self-care as actually very necessary for an 11-year-old, but what does that look like? To me it's like early to bed time, getting off your screens, um love it when Jai runs himself a bath. I'm like, oh my god, YOU'RE LEARNING EARLY. THESE ARE ALL THINGS that are free options and I I mean yeah, I think that >> It's funny that you say that you think there is self-care cuz my first thought was what does an 11-year-old need self-care for?

[00:01:43]I'm the one paying the mortgage, babes, okay? So at 11, you should be a child and I know that 11 it depending on your your like your child, like my daughter's already 12 and she's not into into this stuff. I have to drag her. If I'm like, hey, do you want to go get your nails done with mommy? She's like, ugh. Like she's you know, so some kids really are not into it. So I do ask the question, whose motivation is this? Is this mom's motivation for just content? Was she trying to go viral or was it for her daughter? And then I do ask the question about conformity. So my daughter is of the age now that developmentally the group think is starting to creep in. So like my daughter's friends, they're by the way, her friends are the best, but they love those press-on nails. But you can get those for super cheap at the dollar store and they put it on and it's sweet, right? The long nail thing with young kids, it always to me worries me.

[00:02:32]It makes me them look a lot older And you know, and you're driving to from piano lessons and playing basketball and it it it it's subtle, but it does reprioritize girls' minds to say that this is more important than learning a skill or making >> doing way worse I was doing way worse at 12. You know what I think I think what also is interesting it was interesting when we were setting up this topic to see the reaction cuz there were obviously some older women who were like, this is absolutely not appropriate and then there were younger women who were like, this is fine. And I think this is it's hitting people differently because I think it's about the adultification of children. Because depending on how you were raised in your household and what the rules were, like some people couldn't even get their ears pierced until they were 18. While there was another girl who got her ears pierced when she was, you know, 8 weeks old. And I think depending on how you were raised and how your parents or your family talked to you about certain things like makeup and nails and high heels, that's why you're reacting to this story. It's like no, some people are like there's no way an 11-year-old needs this. And others are like, yeah, I grew up in a household where I was allowed to put on a full face of makeup in junior high and I'm still fine. So I think that is what's kind of making everybody feel a certain way. What you want to do is fine with your kid. Just know that what you're implanting in her and at 11 years old, you're setting yourself up and I don't know what it looks like at 17, but just I don't know.

[00:03:40]There's so many questions, but it was interesting to see everybody's reaction.

[00:03:43]>> also because we're not really addressing even the hair removal thing, but like I had a unibrow and a mustache like low-key or high-key actually when I was around that age and no one helped me at all. Like I was left to my own devices.

[00:03:54]It's not a conversation. My mom was not helpful at all. And looking back, at the time it was very painful, but looking back it actually also built character.

[00:04:01]Like I went through some feeling of insecurity. I had to figure it out on my own. I made some mistakes, but it wasn't like I learned the message that my identity the way I looked mattered so much to my mom. Like there was something subtle in that that she was just like, whatever. You're going to deal with it.

[00:04:18]You get older and at 11 you don't have to worry about this right now. And it bugged me, but I feel like it actually built character as well. Just saying.

[00:04:26]>> [applause] >> Well, this was so much fun. Lauren Chen, THANKS FOR COMING BACK. THANKS FOR HAVING ME.

[00:04:33]Nice to see everyone.