FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, I DON’T WANT TO SEE GENITALIA AT 9PM ft Chinasa

[00:00:00]You can't just come on the show and then I say I don't know what I'm doing and then you say that you know what you're doing. Then the people that are listening in the audience they're they're confused. So >> I can see that your bang is not even a because my earring is getting frustrated by by what you're trying but Charles you know naked king Charles.

[00:00:14]>> Okay. Okay. King.

[00:00:15]>> Yeah. He's a king now. Talking about 55 years >> as a Nigerian. That king is not watching [laughter] Charles.

[00:00:19]>> What about the naked attraction? What made you so angry?

[00:00:22]>> Why is this a program?

[00:00:23]>> You don't like looking at genitalia?

[00:00:24]>> No. I don't want to just randomly see genitalia at 9:00 p.m.

[00:00:26]>> If it was 10, would it be better?

[00:00:28]>> No.

[00:00:28]>> 11?

[00:00:29]>> No. Anything I said on this podcast will be released to the masses. It's very important because this is a truthtelling podcast. I don't even do edits. Okay.

[00:00:35]>> Okay. I don't do cuts.

[00:00:36]>> You silence black women on this platform.

[00:00:38]>> Yes.

[00:00:39]>> Wow.

[00:00:39]>> It's like relax.

[00:00:40]>> I'm just uncomfortable with lies.

[00:00:42]>> But you don't know my story. You just met me.

[00:00:44]>> You don't know the story.

[00:00:45]>> One hour ago.

[00:00:46]>> Was it an hour ago?

[00:00:48]>> So someone can be uncomfortable with lies. That's okay. What's that got to do with me?

[00:00:52]>> What's going to do with me? You don't you don't know me from anywhere. You trust me.

[00:00:55]>> I don't need a show to foster a relationship with you. have one and it will continue to blossom. That sounds like a threat.

[00:01:04]Hey guys and welcome to another episode of Faking Adulthood, home of the fake adults where we talk about love, life, and absolutely nothing because we don't know what we're doing. We absolutely do not have a clue today. My co-host is Chanessa. [screaming] Energy, energy, energy, energy, vibes, vibes, vibes, vibes, vibes. Welcome to the show, man.

[00:01:25]>> Hi, Rita. I just want to first of all correct some of that intro cuz you said we don't know what we're doing. Okay.

[00:01:31]>> And I want to tell you babe that as a Nigerian living in Nigeria if you don't know what you're doing is finished.

[00:01:36]>> You understand? Even if you know what you're doing it's still not sure if your life is finished or not.

[00:01:41]>> So if you want to start from you know not knowing what you're doing that's what they call your village people are winning.

[00:01:46]>> They've won.

[00:01:47]>> Okay.

[00:01:47]>> So you know I was thinking as I was coming here I was like interesting that is called faking adulthood. If it was based in Nigeria by Nigeria, it's called faking childhood >> because even the children in Nigeria, the adults >> are aware of the vicissitudes of life.

[00:01:59]>> Wow.

[00:02:00]>> But I went back to my primary school. I was like, you know, it would be cool to just go talk to like the children now see like how do you think about Nigeria?

[00:02:06]What are they enjoying? What has crossed over? What hasn't?

[00:02:09]>> So I was like I think I asked them I said um if you're a president for a day what will you change?

[00:02:13]>> Thinking they would just say women's like inflation.

[00:02:16]>> Wow.

[00:02:16]>> Insecurity.

[00:02:17]>> Wow.

[00:02:18]>> The roads are bad. So those are the people. So [ __ ] childhood. I just want to let you know that.

[00:02:23]>> Wow. Wow. Wow. So So look look look Chanessa has come on this show.

[00:02:27]>> Okay. It has been approximately one minute >> and she believes that this show is called Is That Seat Taken?

[00:02:35]>> Whose show is that?

[00:02:36]>> Is there seat taken?

[00:02:37]>> Is that who show is that seat taken?

[00:02:39]Rita >> is this is this >> is this seat is this seat taken?

[00:02:45]>> Rita >> is this seat taken? Okay. It's not that show. What's taken is what >> the correct name of my show.

[00:02:52]>> Is this >> because because Rita this or that >> this or that?

[00:02:56]>> Here's the thing.

[00:02:57]>> Here's the thing.

[00:02:57]>> Here's the thing. You have to relax.

[00:02:58]Look.

[00:02:58]>> Okay. I have to relax.

[00:03:00]>> That and this is the same thing. It just depends on who you're speaking to. Okay.

[00:03:04]Because if I say someone speaking to the creator of the show, if I go to someone finessing adulthood, >> you'll be cool with that.

[00:03:13]>> Finessing. finessing adults in >> you'll be cool with that faking >> let's move on because I think that you need to just accept that you should have said the correct name of the show I think that's fair I think that's valid >> I said it in the past tense and that was incorrect on my part >> okay so that is the past tense of this British curriculum is this what you guys are teaching >> yeah yeah yeah that and this um but the show is actually called is this seat taken >> that's what it's called written >> and I mentioned it to emphasize that this is fake adulthood okay And in the context of this show today, >> I don't know what I'm doing. So basically, it's by force to not know what you're doing.

[00:03:48]>> Exactly. Because you can't just come on the show and then I say I don't know what I'm doing and then you say that you know what you're doing. Then the people that are listening on the audience, they're they're confused. They're very confused. Look, >> can I say that your bangal is not even a >> because my earring is getting frustrated by by what you're trying to do against it. So we cannot stand.

[00:04:04]>> We cannot stand. That is a beautiful saying. I love that you said that.

[00:04:08]>> I like you.

[00:04:10]>> I like you. I like that you said that.

[00:04:11]Okay. Okay. So, welcome to the show. You started the show with um you know, you're not shy at all. No.

[00:04:17]>> Um I know my listeners are thinking, "Wow, she's come with very strong energy, >> but they like that." Okay. And I'm sure they're happy to to see you. Okay. Your makeup is beautiful. Your outfit is gorgeous.

[00:04:26]>> I'm happy to see you.

[00:04:27]>> So, welcome to the show.

[00:04:28]>> Thank you, darling.

[00:04:29]>> Okay. Look, I like to start my show with a complaint of the day. It's very important to me. Okay. It makes me happy. It keeps me composed. And I have a lot of things to complain about. Okay.

[00:04:38]>> Okay.

[00:04:39]>> I don't even know where to begin. Deep breath is where you began.

[00:04:42]>> Yeah, the deep breath is where I began because I'm trying to I'm trying my best not to complain about the roads, which is what I complain about often.

[00:04:49]>> I'm constantly complaining about the traffic. I'm complaining about the way people drive. There's just so much going on. Okay, I'm not going to do that today.

[00:04:56]>> Okay, >> I think what I want to complain about today is people's sense of knowing how and when to respect people.

[00:05:06]>> Okay. I find that as humans of recent, >> okay, >> people just say anything >> anyhow. And I just think to myself, you you don't have any respect. Okay.

[00:05:16]>> Today in particular, I'm I'm going to focus on my delivery driver that comes to my house. Um >> you know, he delivery driver.

[00:05:24]>> Well, I didn't know I had a personal one until this week. Okay.

[00:05:26]>> Okay. And this is where I'm going.

[00:05:28]>> I ordered something.

[00:05:30]>> Okay.

[00:05:30]>> And a guy now got to my door. Yeah.

[00:05:32]>> And had the audacity to be like, "Oh, yeah. I was here earlier this week." And there was something about that.

[00:05:38]>> I'm with you. Deliver the food, mate.

[00:05:40]Nobody all those cho What's all this? I was hit early this week.

[00:05:43]>> You basically say you're a big back, >> right?

[00:05:44]>> That's basically what he said.

[00:05:45]>> Right. And to me, that is disrespectful.

[00:05:47]>> That's what he said.

[00:05:47]>> Okay. Because what's your business?

[00:05:48]>> Yep.

[00:05:49]>> Deliver my food. Okay. I like to have a little hello cuz I appreciate what they're doing. I appreciate their work.

[00:05:54]Okay. It's not an easy job.

[00:05:55]>> Agreed.

[00:05:56]>> I appreciate it. Hello. Thank you.

[00:05:59]>> Here's the code. 52. End of.

[00:06:02]>> No.

[00:06:02]>> You're now talking and you're Oh, yeah.

[00:06:04]YEAH. YEAH. I DELIVERED early and I said, "No, you didn't."

[00:06:06]>> It's like when you go to the club and they're like, "Hey, Sarita, that's that's who you are for delivering."

[00:06:10]>> I said, "Cool down." I said, "You smiling." And I said, I had to deny it.

[00:06:14]I said, "No, you were not here earlier this week."

[00:06:17]>> Okay, so you denied it.

[00:06:18]>> I said I said, "No, no, no." And he goes, "You were I was I was here. I even asked you to give me a review. He's even emphasizing it further.

[00:06:25]>> Did you give him a review?"

[00:06:26]>> I forgot actually.

[00:06:27]>> And this is the karma coming back to >> I forgot. I forgot cuz you asked me to do it again. But how can I give you a review when you've insulted me?

[00:06:34]>> When you've he's called you a big man.

[00:06:35]>> You've insulted me. Yeah. And that for me is disrespectful. Another addition to that cuz it's kind of the same family is when >> you see someone and you're excited to see them. You're like, "Oh my god, it's so lovely to meet you."

[00:06:47]>> Like you with me today >> and then they'll be like, >> "Oh no, we've already met."

[00:06:51]>> Okay. I hate that. I hate that. I hate that. I'm with you on that. I hate it because Okay. So, what has that added to this?

[00:06:58]>> What has this added?

[00:06:58]>> What has added to this interaction?

[00:07:00]Yeah, cuz now you've made it awkward >> because now it's like, okay, clearly I forgot.

[00:07:03]>> You now made it clear to me that I forgot. What next?

[00:07:07]>> My thing is like, what does that achieve?

[00:07:09]>> It achieves absolutely nothing.

[00:07:10]>> It just makes it awkward. Is that your end? Is that what you wanted?

[00:07:13]>> It's awkward now because where do we go from here? Okay, fine. I don't remember you. Okay, now what?

[00:07:18]>> Now it's like I remember you for being annoying >> and now I'm going to remember you next time and I'm not going to greet you cuz I'm not going to be sure.

[00:07:23]>> I I'll still greet. But at the same time, >> from afar, >> please.

[00:07:28]>> And that's it. Cuz from afar, you can't say to me, "Oh, you don't." No, >> no. I hate that we've already met because like we're all busy. We understand that sometimes people can forget things. It doesn't mean it feels the nicest, but like >> it doesn't feel the nicest, but you cannot be >> as if someone else is there. So, why are you now trying to Why are you now trying to sign? Why are you now trying to actually say in the presence of my enemies?

[00:07:48]>> That makes it even worse. Why you trying >> when someone else is even there next to me?

[00:07:51]>> In the presence of people that even race me like you're now but we've met before.

[00:07:55]So, what does that make me look like? It makes me look like I just see people. I don't remember faces. And it's like, come on now. Come on, stop being disrespectful.

[00:08:00]>> And sometimes when they say you've met, what they mean is that >> you were talking to somebody and they were there. Like you didn't even interact.

[00:08:06]>> We really me. And also it'll be a time where like they'll be and when I'll try and be like, oh, really? I've got I'll be like, I've got a terrible memory. Oh, and I'll be like, was I drinking or what?

[00:08:15]>> Yeah. What's the context of the meat?

[00:08:17]>> So now I have to pretend. Yeah. On top of you disrespecting me. I have to pretend.

[00:08:21]>> I don't do that with you.

[00:08:22]>> Oh, I was drinking or something.

[00:08:23]>> I just say, "Oh, sorry. My bad." And that's fine cuz I'm like as in like I guess you need that.

[00:08:28]>> You said are you going to fight me? Like yeah >> it was going to happen.

[00:08:31]>> So that's my complaint. I forgot. I forgot. So that's my those are my complaints today. It's just a matter guys. We need to know how we carry ourselves. Like just have some composure. Fine. You've delivered to my house five times that week. Pretend >> you're in this economy five times a week.

[00:08:46]>> No, no, no. Not five times.

[00:08:46]>> No, I just want to understand.

[00:08:47]>> No, no, no. Not five times. And what was insane? The first time he delivered was actually grocery fee.

[00:08:52]>> Okay, fair enough. Fair. Fair enough.

[00:08:54]Fair enough. That was >> cuz even me I had to check out what's all this and I realized I'd ordered like grocery bits and the second time.

[00:09:01]>> So he actually sent you to go and check.

[00:09:03]>> No, I checked because I know I'M SAYING INTERACTION.

[00:09:06]>> I said hold on. No, I need to go and investigate this. I need to do some investigative journalism. What's >> I thought what's all this that you're acting like you know?

[00:09:12]>> You're so familiar.

[00:09:13]>> You get it? So So yeah, that's why. But yeah, that's my complaint of the day, man. What's What's your complaint of the day? Let me set a timer.

[00:09:19]>> Oh, there's a timer cuz I have two as well.

[00:09:22]This is not that >> girl. The first one, >> okay. Okay.

[00:09:25]>> Is a British program called Naked Attraction >> that I unfortunately had the had the had the the disadvantage of encountering in my friend's house. So, the TV was just playing.

[00:09:38]>> I think a series had just finished playing. Cool. Cool. Calm. Okay. It was just watching TV. What's on TV in in the UK?

[00:09:46]H >> next thing this show, this program called Naked Attraction comes on.

[00:09:52]>> And for those of you that don't know, the premise is that it's a dating show and then how you decide who you're going to date is based on their genitalia.

[00:09:59]>> Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I've seen that show before.

[00:10:02]>> Blink twice if you need her. I was blinking at home.

[00:10:04]>> Yeah.

[00:10:05]>> What is going on in the House of Commons? What are they doing? You are impeaching your prime minister. What's of naked attraction? What's going on in the House of Lords?

[00:10:12]>> What's going on in Buckingham Palace?

[00:10:14]Because why would that show be approved?

[00:10:16]>> You know, to be fair, Charles was sniffing Camila's pants, so maybe he doesn't care about stuffs like that.

[00:10:20]What is going >> Okay, >> there goes my OB.

[00:10:24]>> Yeah, because you can't just You can't come to this country.

[00:10:26]>> I'm sorry.

[00:10:26]>> And start disrespecting the royal.

[00:10:28]>> Was I going to collect an OB? I'm not even You're not going to collect OB.

[00:10:32]Okay. And even if you were to be offered one, you know, just out of just our ancestors, we can't collect.

[00:10:36]>> That's what I'm saying. I wasn't going to collect it.

[00:10:38]>> Yeah. But we have >> Well, nobody was going to give me one cuz I'm not even British. But Charles, you know, naked might be his vibe. King Charles. That's what I'm saying.

[00:10:45]>> King is King Charles.

[00:10:46]>> Okay. That's is that okay. His name Okay. King.

[00:10:48]>> Yeah. He's a king now. It only took him about 55 years >> as a Nigerian. That king is not [laughter] But King Charles King Charles.

[00:10:56]>> And to be fair, like I'm talking about him in the context of sniffing pants.

[00:11:00]It's not very kingly. [laughter] >> It's not very kingly.

[00:11:03]>> It's not very kingly. But King Charles.

[00:11:05]King Charles.

[00:11:05]>> Okay. So your complaint is >> before next. Please delete this part cuz this is UKBA.

[00:11:11]When I come to the UK, [laughter] when come they're like, "Oh, you think a [ __ ] comedian?" Okay, [laughter] De Chappelle. They'll be like, "Did you open YOUR MOUTH?"

[00:11:21]>> YEAH, YOU DID. IN FACT, >> HONESTLY, Naked Attraction infuriated ME CUZ I'M LIKE, >> THEY'LL BE SENDING ALL THE STUPID offcom reports. Nobody Nobody wants to report this.

[00:11:29]>> So, so my question is, what about the Naked Attraction? What What made you so angry about >> Why is this a program?

[00:11:34]>> Well, what you don't like looking at genitalia? What's the problem? No. I don't want to just randomly see genitalia at 9:00 p.m.

[00:11:39]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If it was 10:00, would it be better?

[00:11:42]>> No.

[00:11:42]>> Okay. 11.

[00:11:43]>> No.

[00:11:44]>> Okay.

[00:11:44]>> If I open my eyes from now to the end of my existence, don't show me any genitalia. Unprovoked.

[00:11:49]>> Yeah. Unprovoked. Yeah.

[00:11:50]>> The thing is I think cuz I didn't know what cuz obviously I think people know what the show is about. So, I didn't know what the show was. I just thought, "Oh, interesting name." And then I was assaulted >> by several >> random >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, I don't want to randomly just see genitalia, man.

[00:12:07]>> Yeah, it's on your board as well.

[00:12:08]>> It's crazy because I was on a flight.

[00:12:10]This just reminded me of this literally in the moment >> and I was in the toilet and for whatever reason I forgot to >> lock it.

[00:12:17]>> I never get when people do that.

[00:12:20]>> This has only happened to me once in my life and I swear to God I was so I couldn't even believe it.

[00:12:24]>> Yeah.

[00:12:25]>> But essentially the flight attendant opens his you see the shock horror on his face. I'm like first of all that's racist [laughter] because YEAH. I DON'T WANT YOU. YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO say body tea, but you know what? Body matcha, but you know what? HE WAS LIKE, "NO, HE LOOKED like he had seen Satan."

[00:12:42]>> And I said, "That was racist."

[00:12:45]>> Cuz that's disrespectful.

[00:12:46]>> Disrespectful. You see, you see, he said how people not have to know how to carry themselves.

[00:12:50]>> Carry that reaction away from my face.

[00:12:51]>> Let's bring back >> outside of me.

[00:12:53]>> Do something else >> because now you've made me feel >> a certain type of >> like if I was a naked attraction, I wouldn't go far and I will.

[00:12:59]>> Yeah. Will you?

[00:13:00]>> So, girl, I would never be there. You [laughter] can listen if you see me the AI has taken over like I can >> my thing is just the thought process.

[00:13:09]No, I'm like somebody sat down and was like, you know what's fantastic for a show?

[00:13:13]>> Nice.

[00:13:15]>> The people that applied.

[00:13:16]>> I feel like that one. Yeah. I you know, you're a certain type of person. Like I said, Charles, but yeah, a certain KIND OF >> BUT EVEN THAT Charles for you keep mentioning. Where are you getting this?

[00:13:24]>> Oh, it was in the British papers, babe.

[00:13:27]This why you know, again, I am an investigative journalist, Rita. So, you need to understand that this it was scandalous when it came out. It was a scandal.

[00:13:35]>> I like having you here because you said that you're an investigator.

[00:13:37]>> No, I haven't.

[00:13:39]Oh god.

[00:13:39]>> Um and as I as I am as well.

[00:13:42]>> Okay. As you are.

[00:13:42]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:13:43]>> Because you told me you're not.

[00:13:44]>> Yeah. Yeah. I didn't say that.

[00:13:46]>> Oh, okay.

[00:13:47]>> I didn't say that.

[00:13:47]>> So now lying is what we're going >> to say that. Okay. First of all, okay, I didn't say I'm not anything from Charles and Camila comes out in this episode.

[00:13:54]You hear from >> Listen, at the end of the day, you already sign an NDA.

[00:13:58]>> Which Oh, okay. At the end of the day, which day?

[00:14:01]>> Permission slip has been signed.

[00:14:03]>> Okay. Anything I said on this podcast, >> supporting my signature.

[00:14:05]>> Anything that's said on this podcast will be released to the masses. It's very important because this is a truthtelling podcast. I don't even do edits.

[00:14:12]>> Okay.

[00:14:12]>> Okay. I don't do cuts. I don't believe in cuts. Okay. Cuz why would I cut the truth? That's how they get us. Okay. You know, they start cutting things out.

[00:14:18]That's why they did the Bible. They start cutting things. I don't remove anything >> because you know what?

[00:14:22]>> What?

[00:14:22]>> In a hundred years from now, >> Mhm.

[00:14:24]>> when our future people, we'll still be alive. In 500 years from now, >> I want them to look at this podcast and say, "Wow, >> literally, >> this is history."

[00:14:34]>> Exactly.

[00:14:34]>> Everything that was said >> on Faking Adulthood podcast was factual things and a clear representation of what was happening in London between the years of 2020, >> whatever year I started to whenever I end.

[00:14:52]>> It's very important to me.

[00:14:53]>> It is. But for someone that is so important to you, for you not to know a story as nationally widespread as the >> I think I was too young. You were too young.

[00:15:01]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We're not age mates. So >> So obviously you saw that because you were 36.

[00:15:07]>> No, no, no.

[00:15:08]>> Cuz you know Moyo was on here and he revealed your age to >> No. No. He made that up. But >> he made it up. Okay. So 38.

[00:15:15]>> I'm not even in the 30s. I'll be honest with you.

[00:15:17]>> Fair enough. 12.

[00:15:17]>> I'll be honest with you. I'll be honest with you.

[00:15:19]>> We talk about that.

[00:15:19]>> I'm 22.

[00:15:20]>> Okay. Fair.

[00:15:21]>> So obviously >> I see it.

[00:15:22]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, if I'm 22, um, obviously there's no way I would have seen that article that you speak of. I know you went to university here. So, you're clearly older than me.

[00:15:31]>> Okay.

[00:15:32]>> How?

[00:15:32]>> Because I went to university. Did you go to university?

[00:15:34]>> I did. Thank you for asking.

[00:15:35]>> Okay, that's good. What did you study time?

[00:15:37]>> University at Cambridge.

[00:15:38]>> You went to University of Cambridge?

[00:15:39]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:15:40]>> Okay. And you studied what?

[00:15:41]>> Um, I studied English and investigative journalism >> at the University of Cambridge.

[00:15:46]>> Yes.

[00:15:46]>> And it was a powerful time for me.

[00:15:48]>> That's good.

[00:15:49]>> Um, and that's why I didn't want to talk about King Charles and the rest. Even though you studied in investigative journalism, >> the reason I didn't want to talk about them is because obviously I made some friends when I was at the university.

[00:15:58]>> Okay. Fair enough. Based on your connection.

[00:16:00]>> Yeah. Exactly. And I don't want to now talk about them. You know, they they know Charles, you know, I don't even call him King Charles. I call him Chacha. So, >> please King Charles, we we respect you.

[00:16:10]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Cha doesn't like certain things being discussed about him. Yeah. That's what I call him. Yeah.

[00:16:15]Yeah. And Cammy >> sounds like >> um you know, anyways, moving on. Too much. So, is that your your complaint?

[00:16:21]You wrapped it up. What's your complaint? You didn't you didn't even say what the complaint your complaint is.

[00:16:25]>> My complaint is just with naked attraction. [laughter] Like, it needs to show the show everything.

[00:16:30]>> Just remove it from TV everywhere exist.

[00:16:32]>> It needs to just not exist.

[00:16:34]>> The second thing, >> okay, look, >> okay, I'm not going to say second thing because you didn't seem satisfied with that complaint. I want to satisfy you.

[00:16:40]You know what I'm saying? So, I was just trying to help, >> you know, because it's important to me that black women are satisfied.

[00:16:46]>> You know what? That's moved me. That You know what? You know what? You see, I like it because we've gotten about 15 minutes in.

[00:16:53]>> Okay.

[00:16:53]>> Um, you started the show with an attack.

[00:16:55]>> Really?

[00:16:55]>> And then you calm down and look at us now. We're connecting because that's all I want. All I want is to be satisfied.

[00:17:00]>> You know what? Just to further that connection, something I do for people I love is I give them nicknames. So, I have a nickname for you.

[00:17:05]>> Um, I don't receive nicknames.

[00:17:06]>> You don't receive nicknames?

[00:17:07]>> Um, no. No. The only one that can give me a nickname is Christ.

[00:17:09]>> It's Christ.

[00:17:10]>> Yeah.

[00:17:11]>> Okay. No problem. But >> what is a nickname that you have?

[00:17:13]>> No. It's okay. You don't receive it?

[00:17:14]>> No, no, no, no. I don't usually receive it. It's like, well, I can receive it on this one occasion. What's the nickname?

[00:17:19]>> It's fine.

[00:17:20]>> No, no, it's okay.

[00:17:21]>> No, it's fine.

[00:17:21]>> Really?

[00:17:22]>> Twitter.

[00:17:23]>> You know what you said? People have to know how to carry themselves. When you carry yourself in a spirit of defiance, obstacles, >> you know, >> separation.

[00:17:35]>> I like when you did that. I like when people are expressive with their hands.

[00:17:38]>> I'm very express and of uh Western people see that as aggressive. So, in drama school, I used to do a lot and they're like, "Oh, it's aggressive." And I'm like, "Guys, I'm Nigerian. You just talk with that hand.

[00:17:48]>> Defiance. I like that. Did you do musical theater >> in Nigeria? No.

[00:17:54]>> No, but in London. No.

[00:17:55]>> Would you do it? You can't sing.

[00:17:57]>> I can, but I didn't do musical theater cuz they're going to have Nigerian parents. Babe, >> so why were you telling them that they're coming to spend pounds to do musical theater?

[00:18:04]>> So, what did you study in university then?

[00:18:06]>> Law, babes.

[00:18:07]>> Wow.

[00:18:08]>> That is so powerful.

[00:18:09]>> It is.

[00:18:10]>> What kind of law did you study?

[00:18:11]>> You have to study all of it and then when you qualify, you >> Yeah, I knew that. So which one did you decide to pick one? Yeah. Yeah.

[00:18:17]>> Okay.

[00:18:17]>> So which one did you decide?

[00:18:18]>> I don't know if you knew that. What are the types that you can study research?

[00:18:20]Just tell me some.

[00:18:21]>> I asked you because I wanted to look a lot of people study but they don't pay attention.

[00:18:25]>> So what my job is here is for me to question everything.

[00:18:28]>> I understand so you get to who is paying attention.

[00:18:31]>> You have to interrogate everything.

[00:18:32]Okay. I understand.

[00:18:34]>> I thought you would know this as a journalist.

[00:18:35]>> Like you know as a journalist something you do really well is leading by example. So I think you just mentioned some of the kinds of law that you can study. I want to hear from you.

[00:18:42]>> Um criminal. Yeah, that's >> that's a that's a good one.

[00:18:47]>> Um I just did you do criminal because I have a theory about that.

[00:18:51]>> Okay, tell me.

[00:18:53]>> I just think >> you just think, >> you know, sometimes I start a sentence and I hope I find an ending.

[00:19:02]>> Okay.

[00:19:02]>> But in this scenario, >> and I think the problem with that sentence where you said I just think, but it's clear when you speak that thinking is not really >> okay.

[00:19:10]>> It's not really at the forefront of that. It seems like my enemies have sent Chanessa to this show today.

[00:19:14]>> So the nickname is Rita Noa.

[00:19:17]>> You know there's a famous >> musician from the UK.

[00:19:20]>> It's funny that you mention >> Yeah. Okay.

[00:19:23]>> So in case so people don't confuse the both of you.

[00:19:25]>> Let me tell you something. Yeah.

[00:19:26]>> It's like returning a >> every single person listening to this show right now.

[00:19:30]>> Yeah.

[00:19:31]>> You hear that alarm?

[00:19:34]>> Okay.

[00:19:35]>> Because you disrespected me, the alarm had to come to save the day. Let me tell you something about Rita.

[00:19:39]>> I wasn't done with the nickname and explaining it though. But >> the thing is um that segment is over as you heard the alarm the alarm came which >> so you silence black women on this platform.

[00:19:49]>> Yes. Wow.

[00:19:50]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um under my under my rulership you know I can only give people permission to speak.

[00:19:56]>> And this is why your delivery driver said hey >> said I've saw you. Hey [laughter] seen you again. Under my rulership. Okay.

[00:20:04]People who say that I'm a retita that has no aura.

[00:20:07]>> Yeah.

[00:20:08]>> I don't allow them to further explain.

[00:20:09]>> Not even a whiff of it.

[00:20:10]>> No.

[00:20:11]>> Not even the tip of it. No.

[00:20:12]>> Just no association.

[00:20:14]>> No. I actually saw her perform this weekend. So, it's so funny that you >> Harris. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:20:18]>> Exactly. Investigative journalism.

[00:20:20]>> Did you enjoy that?

[00:20:21]>> Do you know what I have to say? I think Rita Ora gets a a hard People are a bit on her too much. The girl has some bangers.

[00:20:28]>> Yeah, she does.

[00:20:28]>> Well, she's not black. Did you know that?

[00:20:30]>> Yes.

[00:20:31]>> So many people didn't know that.

[00:20:32]>> Really?

[00:20:32]>> Yeah. We were discussing it on the trip.

[00:20:34]A lot of people thought that she was mixed for a really long time.

[00:20:38]>> She's from Albania or Romania or somewhere like that. I think it's Albania.

[00:20:40]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:20:41]>> And that was very shocking. But she she was good. I enjoyed her. So, shout out bangers.

[00:20:46]>> Shout out to Rita Ora.

[00:20:47]>> Shout out to Rita with no aura.

[00:20:48]>> We can never be compared. Okay. Everyone on the show knows that. Everyone that's listening and watching they >> I think every Rita has their place.

[00:20:54]>> There's only a few Rita. Okay. And >> there's a lot of retas.

[00:20:57]>> There's not that many.

[00:20:58]>> Rita Dominic.

[00:20:59]>> Okay.

[00:20:59]>> Yeah. Nigerian dude.

[00:21:00]>> Yeah. I know her very well. She's my auntie. Tom Hanks's wife is a [ __ ] >> Oh god. May I rest in peace? Yeah, >> she's alive.

[00:21:08]>> What is Richard? You just killed Tom Hanks's wife unprovoked.

[00:21:12]>> She alive.

[00:21:13]>> Let's move on. Let's move on. This is the >> You thought she was dead?

[00:21:17]>> She's alive. Are you sure?

[00:21:18]>> Don't disrespect Chad's mom like that.

[00:21:20]She raised Chad. Come on. What a gift to the world.

[00:21:23]>> Oh yeah. Our Jamaican prince.

[00:21:25]>> Are we sure she's so >> um Anyways, >> this is the lack of horror. Another thing I don't have lack of aura please.

[00:21:34]Anyways, and my next the next thing I like to do on the show that's very important to me >> is um I teach people English.

[00:21:43]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's very >> teach people English.

[00:21:45]>> Yes. As you know >> I used to be an English teacher. So that's interesting. Let's hear it.

[00:21:48]>> Um that's interesting that you say that because I also was an English teacher.

[00:21:51]>> That's good. Where where were you teaching English?

[00:21:53]>> Um I teach Cambridge.

[00:21:55]>> No no no no no. Why would I teach where I studied?

[00:21:57]>> Okay.

[00:21:58]>> Um I would never do something like that.

[00:21:59]I wanted to branch out. Um, so I actually taught in a school in Beckingham.

[00:22:03]>> Okay.

[00:22:04]>> Yeah. Yeah. It's a fantastic school.

[00:22:05]It's still there now. And you know, a lot of my students, they come on the show and they um >> they come on the show.

[00:22:12]>> Yeah. They really respect me. Yeah.

[00:22:14]Okay.

[00:22:14]>> We've got an episode coming out soon where one of my students will be on it.

[00:22:17]So, I'm looking forward for that coming out.

[00:22:19]>> What's the name of the student?

[00:22:21]>> The >> name of the student.

[00:22:22]>> Of the student >> that will be on the show.

[00:22:24]>> That's an exclusive. So tune in everyone for the episode where I will have my student in the room with us for the first time for an exclusive so we can dig deep into the lessons that I give to them.

[00:22:38]>> Yeah, >> it'll be a brief dig.

[00:22:39]>> It was it'll be powerful.

[00:22:41]>> It'll be powerful. Okay. Because I think a lot of the time >> people accuse me of, you know, saying things that aren't necessarily true.

[00:22:48]>> Really?

[00:22:49]>> It's so shocking and it's very hurtful.

[00:22:51]>> Wow.

[00:22:52]>> Yeah. Yeah. I don't know why people say the things that they say. But again, like we spoke about earlier. You know, some people they just don't know how to behave. And it's hurtful. And people don't realize I'm a human being just like everyone else >> really.

[00:23:01]>> Okay. I have feelings. I have hopes and I have dreams. And you know what does it look like? You know, >> when people my students are watching the show and they're seeing people online insult me, say that they don't exist, you know. Anyways, >> um I like teaching English. I'm glad that you're an English teacher. We have so much in common.

[00:23:18]>> That's Yeah.

[00:23:18]>> Journalist, English teacher. I do think the careers go hand in hand.

[00:23:22]>> Yeah. You spoke to me earlier. You opened up to me. You said you went to drama school as well.

[00:23:25]>> I did.

[00:23:26]>> I also went to drama school. So, >> okay.

[00:23:28]>> We have a lot of things in common.

[00:23:31]>> Just Okay.

[00:23:32]>> Yeah.

[00:23:32]>> Okay.

[00:23:33]>> Yeah. It seems like you're you're troubled in your spirit. What's what's this is a safe space.

[00:23:36]>> I think I'm really uncomfortable with lies, you know, and I think that >> we do have things in common. So, we don't have to make things up. You understand? We actually have other things in common. But um carry on.

[00:23:50]>> But we just met today.

[00:23:51]>> Yeah. It doesn't mean that we don't have things to come up.

[00:23:53]>> You don't know my story.

[00:23:54]>> Okay.

[00:23:55]>> So, it's very interesting that you you're you're folding your hands and you're you're you're tensing my hands.

[00:24:00]>> You're tensing your holding your hands.

[00:24:01]You're tensing the shoulders like this and it's like relax.

[00:24:04]>> I'm just uncomfortable with lies.

[00:24:05]>> But you don't know my story. You just met me.

[00:24:09]>> You don't know the story.

[00:24:10]>> One hour ago.

[00:24:11]>> Was it an hour ago? So for you to look me in my face and tell me that you're you're uncomfortable with lies. I can understand you can someone can be uncomfortable with lies. That's okay.

[00:24:20]You're uncomfortable. Like that's okay.

[00:24:21]But what's that got to do with me?

[00:24:22]>> Okay.

[00:24:23]>> Has nothing to do with me. You don't you don't know me from anywhere. You just met me today.

[00:24:27]>> Yeah.

[00:24:28]>> Okay. So whatever I tell you, >> you should be even privileged. I'm even opening up to you because I thought this was a safe place.

[00:24:34]>> It's a safe place.

[00:24:35]>> Okay.

[00:24:36]>> Just not for lies.

[00:24:37]>> Is it okay? Can I continue teaching or do you want Is this an interrogation?

[00:24:42]Like who sent this girl to me? What's going on?

[00:24:45]>> She said that she's Who paid [laughter] her? Who paid her?

[00:24:50]>> Anyways, I like [clears throat] >> Are you good? I think maybe just like a deep breath.

[00:24:53]>> Um I don't like breathing. Um so my word of the day today is hu >> is what?

[00:24:59]>> Hu.

[00:25:00]>> Hu.

[00:25:00]>> Yeah, it's a beautiful word. It's a word that I learned recently.

[00:25:02]>> Can you spell it?

[00:25:04]>> Um can you spell it?

[00:25:07]>> No, I'm asking. I'm here to learn. So, you know, I want to ask the teacher because I think that's respectful and appropriate.

[00:25:13]>> First of all, do you know what the word means?

[00:25:14]>> No, no. I'm just I'm never heard the word. Blank canvas. Who?

[00:25:18]>> Are you an English teacher?

[00:25:19]>> I was.

[00:25:20]>> So, you should know this word.

[00:25:21]>> I really don't, Rita. I'm just I'm happy to learn every day. We learn every day.

[00:25:26]>> Oh, God. That's touched me because that's the whole point.

[00:25:29]>> It is.

[00:25:30]>> We learn every day.

[00:25:31]>> And 500 years from now, they'll look back and they said, "What happened on the 23rd of June 2026?" Yeah.

[00:25:37]>> Chinasa learned from recent.

[00:25:39]>> Yeah. And that's all I want.

[00:25:40]>> Yeah. So, can you just spell the word so that we can >> It's just No, but it's powerful. The thing is, >> look, Chasa, you need to learn that when moments occur.

[00:25:49]>> Okay.

[00:25:50]>> Allow the moment to breathe.

[00:25:52]>> I I need to know, >> okay? Because there's always a moment of connection that happens and it's like an invisible line between us. And what just happened there is that >> I said something and then you allowed yourself >> to relax and receive it and then oh my god you opened up to me.

[00:26:08]>> Yeah.

[00:26:08]>> And you said to me that you're a blank canvas >> and you have no idea >> Yeah.

[00:26:13]>> about the English dictionary >> and you are willing to learn and [clears throat] that is all I want to hear >> that someone is willing to learn.

[00:26:23]>> Okay.

[00:26:23]>> What you've just done here >> Yeah.

[00:26:25]>> is really powerful.

[00:26:26]>> I agree. And I want to use opportunity to to talk to the audience. Okay? If you're you're watching or you're listening right now, use this opportunity also to learn. And don't forget to >> use spell so they can learn. What is this monologue about learning?

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[00:27:11]>> This is powerful. You need to see this.

[00:27:13]I think it will change your [music] life. Have you seen that?

[00:27:15]>> Okay. Thank you.

[00:27:16]>> Mhm.

[00:27:16]>> Um, so back to my word of the day.

[00:27:18]>> Back to your word of the day.

[00:27:19]>> I'm going to play it for you.

[00:27:21]>> So, have you heard that?

[00:27:23]>> Was that your favorite?

[00:27:24]>> Very powerful word. Is that your favorite word?

[00:27:26]>> No, but who reminded me of that.

[00:27:29]>> That's a powerful word.

[00:27:30]>> Very.

[00:27:31]>> I like I like I like what you're bringing to the table here today.

[00:27:34]>> Thank you.

[00:27:35]>> Okay. It's it's very beautiful. Okay.

[00:27:37]You're bringing new words. You're bringing new wisdom and and most importantly, you're bringing openness.

[00:27:41]>> Yeah.

[00:27:41]>> And that's all we can desire in this life.

[00:27:43]>> Blank canvas, >> you know, to be a blank canvas to just learn and to embrace. Um I'm just trying to spell the word. Um you know, it's no one is too big for the program, you know.

[00:27:54]What program is that?

[00:27:56]>> Learning.

[00:27:56]>> Is that seat taken?

[00:28:00]>> The show is called Is This Seat Taken?

[00:28:02]>> Good to know that you know, again, it's the learning we're talking about. You know, >> it's important for you to say things correctly.

[00:28:06]>> It's important for you to when you have a guest on the show, it's important.

[00:28:10]>> I don't have a guest. I have a co-host.

[00:28:12]>> When you have a co-host, >> we don't believe in guests.

[00:28:14]>> Okay, that's, you know, >> and we don't believe in free promo >> in calling the >> Okay, you mentioned the show now five times. We know she's got a show called Is This Seat Taken? I don't do premo runs. Okay. So, you know, it seems like you you keep wanting us to know the name of the show.

[00:28:28]>> It seems that you said you're an investigation.

[00:28:30]>> Okay. Thank you.

[00:28:32]>> Serita, >> thank you.

[00:28:33]>> Ho. Is that it?

[00:28:35]>> Hut.

[00:28:37]>> Her.

[00:28:38]>> Is it?

[00:28:39]>> Yeah. Ot >> with an A.

[00:28:40]>> It's actually spelled H A U T E U R.

[00:28:46]>> Interesting. Cuz I know the one with a U. Okay.

[00:28:48]>> Yeah. I would have thought it was >> er What does this word mean?

[00:28:53]>> It's weird because it's actually her. I guess it's her English >> you learn every day.

[00:29:00]>> Okay. What does this word mean? You ask.

[00:29:02]It means an unfriendly horty manner or a display of overbearing pride. It describes an attitude where someone acts wow as though they are superior to others.

[00:29:17]>> Wow. This is what a foreshadow >> this is.

[00:29:22]>> Is that is that the title of your autobiography?

[00:29:26]>> It's just based on your time with the students >> because you've sat here.

[00:29:32]>> Mhm. And actually you have had an attitude where someone acts as though >> Rich I said I'm a blank canvas. How have I had that attitude >> by being a blank canvas?

[00:29:42]>> Just like that the bell came. [laughter] I disagree with the analysis completely. [laughter] >> Ris, are you good?

[00:29:55]>> Wow, that is powerful.

[00:29:56]>> Very, very. Are you good?

[00:30:00]>> You know, there's certain things that happen in this life and you just you can't predict it. You cannot predict it and you cannot make it up and you just think to yourself, wow. It reminds me of something that I read today which is basically >> that whenever you have a gut scientists are saying that whenever you have a gut feeling it's because there's a lapse in the timeline and essentially >> you have already lived it and that's why you have a gut feeling about it which is something I do actually get >> but I feel like I I don't have the the language to really >> What word did you just use?

[00:30:37]>> Verbage. Janessa, you're very good at English.

[00:30:41]>> I was an English teacher retail. That's no joke.

[00:30:44]>> Where did you teach English? I would like to know more about this.

[00:30:46]>> DC, Washington. DC.

[00:30:48]>> WOW.

[00:30:50]DC Washington.

[00:30:52]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:30:52]>> The land of the presidents >> apparently.

[00:30:56]>> Janessa, you're very fascinating.

[00:30:58]>> I I don't know.

[00:30:59]>> You studied in the UK?

[00:31:01]>> I have.

[00:31:01]>> You did A levels in the UK?

[00:31:03]>> I did.

[00:31:04]>> I know you.

[00:31:06]H >> yeah, >> which was delusional, but I mean >> you did the crash course.

[00:31:12]>> Girl, I was just like, I've finished secondary school. I'm not coming to do another two years thing, then to do university. It just seemed long to me.

[00:31:18]But that was the naive child of me speaking. When I started doing A levels, I was like, this was a lot to do in a year.

[00:31:23]>> No. Okay. I know you think that I lie a lot. Okay. And I'm just going to do >> No, no, no, no. I'm going to bring something here.

[00:31:29]>> Okay. Bring it.

[00:31:30]>> Cuz you are the first person I've met.

[00:31:32]>> Okay.

[00:31:32]>> Yeah. That we have the same experience.

[00:31:35]And I know >> you did your A levels in a year.

[00:31:37]>> Wahi, I did my A levels in one year.

[00:31:40]>> Oh wow.

[00:31:41]>> Because I wanted to go to New York to do acting school.

[00:31:45]>> So basically I had to finish the course in one year cuz I wanted to have a backup plan in case I wanted to go to uni.

[00:31:51]>> So that's actually it's actually true.

[00:31:54]>> You see what I'm saying? When you allow us converse, we find real points of connection.

[00:31:58]>> Okay.

[00:31:58]>> Opposed to trying to manufacture things that are not real. And I just want to tell you that was a powerful moment.

[00:32:05]>> It was a powerful moment.

[00:32:06]>> I don't think it was ruined. I think that was a powerful moment.

[00:32:08]>> Okay.

[00:32:09]>> And I think it was a teachable moment as well that when you allow things organically flow, points of connection will emerge.

[00:32:18]>> I'm a fan.

[00:32:21]>> Just know that this might be your last time on this show.

[00:32:26]>> I don't need a show to foster a relationship with you. We have one and it will continue to blossom.

[00:32:31]That sounds like a threat.

[00:32:32]>> It's not.

[00:32:33]>> It sounds like a threat.

[00:32:34]>> Blossom flowers blossoming. It's come >> process. I've never met anyone that also did one year.

[00:32:40]>> Oh, really?

[00:32:41]>> And you want to discard that person as a friend.

[00:32:43]>> No, no. It's true. It's true. It's true.

[00:32:44]>> Oh, come on.

[00:32:45]>> I think what's happening here is that >> it's the beginnings of a friendship.

[00:32:48]>> I think so.

[00:32:49]>> I think so. Um >> because you you've come on here and you you've said that you don't give a heck and you're going to challenge everything that I say.

[00:32:56]>> I I give a heck recently.

[00:32:57]>> And I think only friends can do that.

[00:33:00]Yeah.

[00:33:00]>> Okay. And I have to, >> you know, I'll go deeper. Only kindred spirits can do that.

[00:33:04]>> Yeah. Because we've have a lot of we have a lot in common that I'm discovering. And I don't know is if you did some deep investigative work and you you just know some things and you're trying to match me. I don't know what's going on here, but we'll get to the bottom of it as I always do.

[00:33:17]>> Did you actually go to drama school in New York then?

[00:33:18]>> I did.

[00:33:19]>> I went to drama school in New York.

[00:33:20]>> No. after I went uh it's called uh uh this is the middle of the pandemic so I I'm going to remember it.

[00:33:29]>> Oh, so not even that long ago actually.

[00:33:31]>> Not that long ago. So after the drama school in the UK I went to >> So what drama school in the UK did you go to?

[00:33:36]>> Identity.

[00:33:36]>> I went to Identity.

[00:33:38]>> Okay. So retail enough. Cut it out.

[00:33:39]>> No, >> I know you did. NO, I BELIEVE THAT. I BELIEVE THAT. [laughter] >> That's why I said >> I met all of like all of my best friends. Not all of them, but a lot of my friendships started at identity. that place was like my But I don't know what it's like now >> because when I went >> Mhm.

[00:33:55]>> there wasn't a lot of stars yet.

[00:33:58]>> Mhm.

[00:33:58]>> So, it was very much like we're in this together and we just want to I think we only had maybe two people who had really like started to blow.

[00:34:09]>> So, those were the only examples and then everyone else was just like very like we were like a family and very like we love each other. We're in this together. We're in drama school twice a week and then we're doing extra days and we're trying to rehearse for showcase and it was just this hunger.

[00:34:25]>> But then I don't know what it's like over the years like how it's become. But did you enjoy it?

[00:34:30]>> I did. But I think like so many things are a crash course in culture.

[00:34:37]>> So I think a lot of times I just felt like she in the big city because there's there's things you can't relate to that people are talking about just from not growing up in a place or not being in a place. you.

[00:34:46]>> But I did make a couple of really good friends. But like there was definitely this feeling of otherness >> which I think even in terms of some of the stuff they would tell us to do like there's just stuff I I wouldn't understand because I >> even when I went to uni I went to Bristol and again I studied law so it was very much like study as opposed to like again >> anything about British culture or whatever. A levels like I said I did in a year. So everything was very academic based up until drama school. And then socially, I was just saying there stuff I didn't know. And then because of that, you can feel >> I don't know, it was weird, but it was kind of good.

[00:35:22]>> Yeah.

[00:35:22]>> Because you kind of have to learn how to >> adapt and relate with people of different cultures. And I started doing standup when I was in >> drama school literally as a challenge to myself.

[00:35:33]>> WOW. AND IT WAS >> OH. AND DID you like it?

[00:35:35]>> Yeah. I literally won three awards.

[00:35:38]>> Guys, >> this is not even a brag.

[00:35:40]>> In the midst of greatness. No. No. No.

[00:35:42]No. Okay. I'm actually not trying to brag. I want to say I want to say something, right? You know, I was saying I felt out of place.

[00:35:48]>> So for me, comedy is like >> if I can find >> if I can cuz humor is a very unifying thing kind of like what if I can find a way to take more Nigerian humor and in a way that translates to a British audience, then I know I'm getting I'm getting closer to bridging that gap for myself. So it was a couple of things for me. And then also obviously growing up in Nigeria, you don't really think of standup as a career as such. So I remember Trevor Noah happened and I'm like hm you can be a comedian and this can be like in intelligent you can throw in like social political stuff. Anyway, so I just said it's a birthday present to myself to do that.

[00:36:21]>> Listen man, this that's big cuz standup is actually not easy >> and the UK audience is very brutal.

[00:36:27]>> Standup is so I've done stand up once in my life as part of an audition process that I was in >> and I remember I came off the stage >> and my whole body was shaking. No girls.

[00:36:40]>> And I remember like cuz it was a few of us that had to do this stand up as part of >> the audition.

[00:36:45]>> The audition.

[00:36:47]>> And I came off stage and they were like, "How you feeling?" And then the my friend, he hugged me and my whole body, he was like, "Oh my god, your whole body is shaking." And I was like, "I've never had that kind of adrenaline in my entire life." Like, and it just carried on.

[00:37:01]Even when I got home, I was still feeling. And it wasn't a bad adrenaline, but it was like your whole body.

[00:37:07]>> It's literally burying your soul. It was so scary.

[00:37:12]>> It is.

[00:37:12]>> So, the fact that you've done it >> Yeah. But at the same time, I started getting opportunities to do it. Cuz when I started, everybody was like, "You're really funny, but also there's no black woman in the UK leading comedy right now." So, like there's actually that space. So, make sure you continue to do it. Don't give up. But I'm like, "I'm not from here." So, I started getting opportunities that I couldn't do >> because of work.

[00:37:33]>> Yeah.

[00:37:34]>> So, that ended up >> what do you call it? Breaking up the journey. like so many things. There are so many things involved. But it was it was such an affirming thing for me to do cuz I remember the first time I did it, >> it was literally a room of like 70% only white men. I'm like, I don't know what the hell I'm going to say.

[00:37:49]>> Wow.

[00:37:50]>> Because first of all, >> you you guys are not my >> men already to say a woman is yeah, their chest is tight. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:37:57]>> Like, so I was like, oh, this was really, really scary. But I was really happy I did it because people came up to me after every show like, "Oh, you really have something. really make sure you don't give up on this kind of thing.

[00:38:09]>> Um, and yeah, my whole journey >> even to getting back to the place of continuing to do it >> because I moved to New York and then literally the pandemic happened 2 seconds after >> cuz I was like okay well I can start doing it here and then you go to Nigeria and Nigeria to do something you have to build the entire ecosystem around it to do it as opposed to just doing it. So even to now people that know me from stand up and like when I use Zoom and everything and I'm like guys I'm literally trying to do so many things but that's kind of why I started my show because I'm like I know if I come to Nigeria and say oh I'm doing standup >> there's no ecos but if you start a show and people watch and they're like oh she's funny and then you say you're doing standup >> they'll be like okay so I'm now like trying to >> rewind that journey again but like yeah >> it was it was good people watch what you have said today okay >> it's very beautiful okay the people listening to the and the people who are watching, they know that I don't usually give people an opportunity to truly speak about their lives.

[00:39:03]>> Fair, >> but for what you've said, I really enjoyed it. Okay, I don't say that a lot. Okay, so thank you for sharing that and thank you for allowing this space to be a place where you share your story.

[00:39:13]Okay, cuz look, she's not just anyone.

[00:39:16]Okay, you guys were you clicked on this and you say, "Who's Chanassa?" Let me tell you something. Chanasa, she studied law, okay? Standup comedian. She has her own show. She lived in multiple places.

[00:39:26]Some of you that are watching this, you have not even when would they tell you to just go from southeast to north London, you're shaking.

[00:39:33]But look at you different countries.

[00:39:35]This is very important. Okay. I know that if we were in church right now, it's opportunity for the offering basket. Okay.

[00:39:40]>> Crying >> because at the end of the day, >> it's important for people to see us and to know that you have to pivot. You have to try new things. and you got yourself into a place where you felt like you couldn't connect and you found a way to do it and I think that's admirable.

[00:39:56]>> Thank you.

[00:39:56]>> Okay. And it's very inspiring.

[00:39:58]>> So, big up you.

[00:39:59]>> Okay. But back to more important things.

[00:40:01]>> Yep.

[00:40:01]>> Okay. I have an OB playlist and it's called Obo Music that makes me feel alive.

[00:40:06]>> Okay.

[00:40:06]>> Mhm.

[00:40:07]>> Let's get back to the program.

[00:40:09]>> Okay.

[00:40:10]>> You give me a song. If I like it, I keep it.

[00:40:12]>> Okay. Vera, this is the thing. Do I have to give you one song?

[00:40:16]>> Look, I'm so sorry. I know. I understand what's your favorite movie. What's your favorite I'm sorry. I can't just give you one thing.

[00:40:22]>> You have to be decisive.

[00:40:24]>> You know, the as someone that studied law, I would expect you to know that it's very clear. One song. Okay. We can't be divisive.

[00:40:32]>> The thing about law, right, is very unclear because what people do with law is use loopholes to be like, hm, 1 plus 1 is two, but actually could it be three? That's the whole thing about law.

[00:40:41]>> I can see you being a good lawyer. Yeah.

[00:40:42]Yeah. Because you don't >> I could have been a really GOOD LAWYER.

[00:40:44]>> YEAH. YOU DON'T let anything stand.

[00:40:45]Everything has to be gymnastic investigative journey. You have to >> investigative law whatever it is right now in this room in this second give me one song. We're running out of time. You know this studio is they'll kick us out.

[00:41:00]Okay. I'm so if I could buy you time I would. [laughter] >> I know that you I know you meant that as well.

[00:41:07]>> I would I love to talk. I hate like I hate anything.

[00:41:11]>> We've just beening it's been fantastic. I didn't even realize [laughter] we'll get PLEASE GIVE ME THE SONG FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.

[00:41:18]>> OKAY.

[00:41:18]>> Oh god, this is so tough. But I'm going to go >> somebody that I used to know got Kimbra.

[00:41:28]>> You didn't have to shut me out.

[00:41:32]Have your friend collect your records and change your number. I don't even need that.

[00:41:39]>> It's a song. Just the intro of that song is And South Africans do this very well. I love when they cook the music in front OF YOU. COOK IT.

[00:41:48]>> I'VE NEVER HEARD THAT.

[00:41:49]>> BUILD it up. COOK IT IN front of me.

[00:41:52]Like, let me see the musical layering.

[00:41:54]Let me see how you arrive in there.

[00:41:55]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know what? Lucky for you, I have that song already. You can actually give me another one.

[00:42:00]>> Some nights by fun.

[00:42:02]>> Some But I still wake up. I still see your ghost. Oh Lord, I'm still not sure what I stand for. Oh, what do I stand for? What do I stand for most nights? I don't know.

[00:42:18]>> Okay.

[00:42:19]>> Anymore? Rita hates that. Okay, I'm going to swap that out cuz you hate it.

[00:42:23]>> I know. I hate it so much. But >> really, >> it's because I don't know it.

[00:42:26]>> Um, >> girl, really good one. Okay, I'll give you one that you should know.

[00:42:29]>> Okay.

[00:42:29]>> Should I give you one that you should know?

[00:42:31]>> Really? I don't want you to feel constipated. Should I give you one that you cuz >> constipation is a big topic. There's a lot of people walking around with constipation right now.

[00:42:38]>> Yeah. You need to drink more water. But guys, you have to drink water. Maybe put lemon in that water.

[00:42:42]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's very important.

[00:42:44]>> Maybe also chia seeds, you know. Guess >> that's why a lot of people are tense.

[00:42:47]Okay.

[00:42:47]>> Also, take a walk. It's not every day inside. Not every day on TikTok. Not every day looking like go outside.

[00:42:54]>> Go outside. Go outside.

[00:42:54]>> Go outside.

[00:42:55]>> Okay. Look. Well, who sang the second song?

[00:42:58]>> I believe the name is called Fun Fun.

[00:43:00]It's a band.

[00:43:01]>> Okay guys, let me know in the comments.

[00:43:04]>> Some nights Fun.

[00:43:05]>> Some Night's Fun. If you like that song, >> wake me up inside. You know that one meant bring me back to life.

[00:43:13]>> I've got >> I need white people to go back to their basement and start making that kind of music.

[00:43:17]>> But the thing about that song, it was on my playlist.

[00:43:20]>> Yeah, >> you demoted it.

[00:43:21]>> Then I had to remove it.

[00:43:23]>> Oh, >> there was something a bit demonic about it.

[00:43:25]>> I I I hear the Nigerian I'm like I'm like when I [laughter] said that to you, I was like the Nigerian you were going to come out.

[00:43:32]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:43:33]Yeah. I was listen cuz I remember there's one time I was driving and I was singing it with passion. You're like, "Wake what up inside? What's waking up inside?"

[00:43:39]>> Okay. So, what you waking up inside?

[00:43:41]>> Yeah.

[00:43:41]>> Ambition, drive, bravery. That's how you wake up inside and go and do stand up in the UK. Girl, it has to mean what you make it mean. Wake up.

[00:43:49]>> Yeah. Um, for me, I think it was the verses as well. There was some I can't remember now, but I remember >> that's fair enough. I haven't paid attention to the vers.

[00:43:56]>> There was something in the energy of it that I thought, h, >> you know what? Maybe not actually.

[00:44:03]>> Man Who can be moved by the script?

[00:44:05]Going back to the first time.

[00:44:06]>> Okay. Okay. I saw you.

[00:44:10]It's a powerful song. Yeah. It's beautiful.

[00:44:12]>> So, I'm trying to give them money. They don't understand. I'm not broke. I'm a brokenhearted man. Go back to writing these kind of lyrics. Oh, this curse curr in the [ __ ] We don't want it.

[00:44:21]>> We don't want it.

[00:44:21]>> I don't want to hear [ __ ] again in a song in my life. I don't want to hear it.

[00:44:25]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's the problem >> cuz I don't know who the [ __ ] is because it's not me.

[00:44:30]>> Is it your sister? Is it your mom? Make [clears throat] it clear because it's not >> it's not it's not.

[00:44:34]>> It's not I. It's not I and that's the problem. There's not real. And that's why Olivia Dean is so amazing. Okay. And guys, oh my god, I didn't even tell you guys. I saw her, guys.

[00:44:43]>> I saw Olivia Dean. It's one of the greatest nights of my life. Okay.

[00:44:47]>> I started crying towards the end, >> girl.

[00:44:51]>> Simply because I was sad it was ending.

[00:44:52]Okay.

[00:44:53]>> Beautiful songwriting. You can't >> emotional.

[00:44:57]>> I would give up forever to touch you.

[00:45:00]Hello, please.

[00:45:02]>> Just power. Let's go back to writing lyrics.

[00:45:05]>> Let's go back to reading. Let's go back to literature because this this literacy crisis is bad.

[00:45:09]>> Yeah. Yeah. It's bad. It's bad. It's bad. It's bad.

[00:45:11]>> We've heard enough scarc score.

[00:45:14]>> Put the gear in park.

[00:45:16]>> We don't need any scarce score again.

[00:45:18]Thank you. Take a walk. Just even stop driving.

[00:45:21]>> Thank you.

[00:45:21]>> Stop driving completely.

[00:45:22]>> That should have been my complaint.

[00:45:24]Let's just honestly just let's hear it no more. I don't want to hear [ __ ] I don't want to hear screw. I don't want to hear none of that. I want to hear love. I want to hear out. I'm outside of your door because I can't live without you.

[00:45:33]>> I want to hear Can you stand the rain?

[00:45:36]>> Sunny days. Everybody has that. But tell me >> I was thinking of new addition >> boys to men like please let's get back to thatbody.

[00:45:54][singing] But tell me babyful.

[00:45:59]is very powerful.

[00:46:01]>> You have a lover.

[00:46:02]>> Do I have a lover? Define lover, Rita.

[00:46:04]You know, as an English teacher, I want to hear from you what you mean by that.

[00:46:07]Exactly.

[00:46:08]>> You know what a lover is.

[00:46:09]>> What? Just >> a lover. A lover is a lover. Okay. A lover is a lover. You a lover.

[00:46:14]>> Okay. I love you, Rita. So, >> I'm not your lover.

[00:46:16]>> Really?

[00:46:16]>> A lover is a lover of love.

[00:46:18]>> If you want to be my lover, you got to be my friend. So, I think that we're on the way. Right. Tell me what you want.

[00:46:23]>> That's not what this song that's not what this song means.

[00:46:24]>> That's what I've made it because life is about taking it and making it your own.

[00:46:28]You can't can't change something that those people that sang the song it called remix they know they didn't ask you for a remix this why you're lacking or so and this is >> you have a lover I get it >> I get it I get it you don't want to talk about it it's fine look I don't push people >> I don't have a lover I don't have a lover >> Mr. lover. Sha, >> that's not that's not the lyrics. I was just trying to play around.

[00:46:54]>> I don't have a lover.

[00:46:56]>> Do you want a lover?

[00:46:58]>> Possibly.

[00:47:00]>> You don't give a heck really.

[00:47:02]>> I do. I just think that like if it's not right, then it's a waste of time. It kind of just has to be right. So I I'm not doing it for doing it sake. Like >> it's not a nice to have for me. It's like is this essential? Is this moving me forward? Is this adding value? Is this are we able to build each other and lift ourselves up? if not of the road.

[00:47:20]>> Wow.

[00:47:20]>> Like that's just what it is for me.

[00:47:22]>> You're so strong.

[00:47:24]>> What?

[00:47:25]>> At the end of the day, look, you could just say you said, "ARE WE MOVING FORWARD?"

[00:47:30]>> I DON'T VISION. NO, NO, NO. I hear it. I hear it. I hear it. I hear it.

[00:47:32]>> It's like you said after you tell me we've met before. Where do we go from here? I'm not here for aimless. I'm not here to play a football match without a goal post. Are we scoring goals or are we If not, >> let's all just be vibing individually.

[00:47:44]just be vibing >> and just give us each other love as human beings because that's what we are at the end of the day. But if not, >> you know what? I hear it and I respect >> your time wasting please.

[00:47:56]>> Ah, don't get me started.

[00:47:58]>> Go >> because one thing about men, they will waste your time.

[00:48:02]>> Yeah. And this is why you have to be firm on what you want because that's the only way you're going to cut it short cuz if you leave it to them. Like I was reading today about John Ham, the actor, right? And the fact that he was with his partner for 18 years, >> essentially saying he doesn't want to get married. She wanted to get married.

[00:48:22]Yeah.

[00:48:22]>> Did not know this. They met before his career blew up, but she had already blown up, right?

[00:48:28]>> And he didn't. He kept saying, "I'm not the Marian type. I'm not the Marian type." Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. They were together for 18 years.

[00:48:35]Broke up.

[00:48:36]>> Married the next person in one year.

[00:48:38]>> No. Luckily, it wasn't in one year. It's still the same. It's still the same.

[00:48:42]Like don't piss me off. But that's also why I it's very important for women to know like whatever you take that will be your lot.

[00:48:48]>> And that's why I'm saying don't treat dating you like an offering basket, babe.

[00:48:52]>> You need to be like this is what I want.

[00:48:53]And that's okay. Not everybody's going to meet you there. It doesn't make them a bad person. But if you're not meeting me where I want >> you have to leave >> everything. Hallelujah. Is my like >> everything. Hallelujah. I like I like that you add music to things.

[00:49:04]>> Girl, I love I'm starting a show based on that.

[00:49:07]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, because I'm like the way my brain works, it just associates word with music like and I'm like I don't know what that condition is called.

[00:49:13]>> It's called talent. It's called talent.

[00:49:15]Everyone has that. Okay.

[00:49:16]>> Thanks, babe.

[00:49:17]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's called talent.

[00:49:18]>> Learning so much from you.

[00:49:19]>> Everything. Hallelujah. Oh, time has gone so quickly. I can't believe it.

[00:49:22]>> I'm actually sad.

[00:49:23]>> It's unbelievable. I don't know how it happened. [laughter] It just happened and the time is just going and it's beautiful. Okay. Everything. Hallelujah.

[00:49:31]I don't know what that song means truly, but truly everything. Hallelujah.

[00:49:34]>> It's one of those songs that is genuinely a custom. It's like build a bed.

[00:49:37]>> Yeah. Yeah. Build whatever you want it to mean.

[00:49:40]>> That's exactly what it's going to mean.

[00:49:41]But I absolutely hear you. And guys, at the end of the day, you just have to cuz a guy wasted my time recently and luckily we don't have a lot of time. But also my other thought and probably a thought I'll have to build on later is what is the correlation between when you tell your friends or tell people about a guy and then >> absolutely going to [ __ ] >> quietly. It's been fine. no stress. It's been going well. You're like, "Okay."

[00:50:08]>> But do you think it's because quietly you are deluding yourself in some way?

[00:50:13]>> Because I think at the beginning stage of something, >> even if you see something, you're like cuz you don't want to be too like you don't want to be like a police officer about it. So there are things that you're happy to like let slide, but in the back back of your mind, you know, it's a bit and your friends are not coming with the same rose tinted glasses. They're like, "This is what this is." And then it just >> the thing about romance is that especially for women, we kind of have what we want something to be >> and at the beginning and especially if it's someone you really like, it's very difficult to differentiate between the story you're writing.

[00:50:44]>> Yeah.

[00:50:44]>> And and the reality that's playing.

[00:50:46]>> Yeah.

[00:50:47]>> And what other people sometimes are able to do is shine a light on that. But I think >> I like to experience things before talking cuz I'm like at the end of the day >> I know I'm going to arrive where I need to arrive >> 100%. So, like even if I'm like I want to be Dulu for the next five weeks, >> I >> that's a choice.

[00:51:05]>> No, I agree. You know, >> and that's why I'm like I'm not involving anybody because I don't actually need that input right now.

[00:51:10]>> But 100%. You know what I did differently though with this last person?

[00:51:13]>> I decided to actually express my excitement from the beginning. What I usually do, not to him necessarily, but what I usually do, I would date someone and then it's when it's done, I'll be like, but I actually really liked him and it was this and I'm saying everything in past tense. This time I actually lived it all like very presently. Like after the first date I was like I really like him. Feel like I like him. This feels good. This feels great. And then when it started to not feel great I was like not feeling too great. And I kind of just lived in it presently. Spoke about it presently. And then when the cracks started to show and nothing even crazy, mind you. Like out of the guys I've dated, it wasn't even anything crazy. It's just lack of time compatibility which is I think is a big thing when you kind of do if you can't feel like a priority. If you cannot be compatible with your time >> and you can't be now >> find a way, do you know what I mean? To make it click. And if you can't, then again, >> make time for the things that we want.

[00:52:06]Hate to quote Drake, but Drake, please.

[00:52:07]That's a man that said that. You got to make time for the things that you want.

[00:52:12]>> I think like at least for me as well, it's so rare for me to like somebody.

[00:52:16]>> Like, and again, not a brag, that's just how my life has. It's extremely rare. So when you're excited, you kind of want to say, >> but like the truth about it is the more you talk about something, the more you're even >> like you getting more excited. Do you get what I mean? Like and then next thing you're like deep in feelings and it has been three weeks. So for me, I'm just like >> I think it's better to just >> you want to shout from the way Tom Hans jumped on Oprah's couch and then >> and I look >> and that was real excitement. But sometimes you got to just be excited with yourself. I know it's true >> because the truth about it is that like >> things need time to see if they're actually going to last.

[00:52:50]>> Yeah. Which I just It's true though.

[00:52:52]>> And in the beginning it's just like >> again everything Hallelujah. But it's like this is very early.

[00:52:58]>> So let's take our time and see.

[00:52:59]>> Let's just Yeah. At least that would be my advice for my knowing myself.

[00:53:02]>> Yeah.

[00:53:03]>> Cuz I'm like once I start talking about it, it just helps the infatuation even.

[00:53:07]It just it grows fertilizer 100%.

[00:53:11]>> It's an insane fertilizer. Yeah.

[00:53:13]>> And then my friends are like, "Oh, she doesn't like somebody." And then it's like, "We don't even know if this person is sensible. Let's calm down."

[00:53:18]>> Yeah. We don't. And what my one of my best friends always says is that we actually don't know this person.

[00:53:22]>> No. Generally, it's a stranger.

[00:53:24]>> This is actually a stranger. Like this could be a serial killer, >> right? I've known you for three months.

[00:53:30]I don't know anything. Do you know what I mean? Like you are >> And it's also like even if people are being honest, there's always going to be a performance element in the beginning of things.

[00:53:38]>> So like you need to be mindful of that.

[00:53:40]But it's difficult because romance is a very whimsical thing.

[00:53:43]>> It's very whimsical.

[00:53:44]>> So you want to exist in the whimsical.

[00:53:45]>> Okay. I thought my wig had been moving this whole time. Thank god.

[00:53:50]>> If it I was going to say something, but I was like you won't believe me. I was going to say even if it moved, >> Janessa, if I look back at this edit.

[00:53:59]>> No, no, no. That's what I That's what I was going to say.

[00:54:01]>> And my wig is back here.

[00:54:03]>> I wouldn't have even clocked that, but I don't think it I don't think so, though.

[00:54:06]Could you imagine it was >> I don't actually WEAR WIGS IF YOU DON'T WHEN PEOPLE SAY WIG BACK, WIG FORWARD. I don't know. I'm not very good on that.

[00:54:13]>> Okay, it wasn't. Could you imagine?

[00:54:15][laughter] I would >> girl I was going to say I'm the worst person to ask >> CUZ [screaming] I would scream.

[00:54:23]Anyways, I don't know what the correlation is, but at the end of the day, it is what it is.

[00:54:27]>> I didn't think the day got to end, girl.

[00:54:30]>> You know, I would have Yeah. I feel sad though because honestly like for me which I assume is same for you it's so precious to be excited about somebody and it's so rare but at the same time you just have to your excitement doesn't mean it's going to work like those are two separate things.

[00:54:44]>> Yeah. And also I just think it's okay to feel excited. I agree and I think you should cuz I don't Yeah. I don't I'm like even when I think about when situations end or whatever I don't see it as >> I've just started I've stopped seeing it as like oh wo is me. I'm just like, I'm so happy that I actually experienced that.

[00:55:03]>> And I'm even if you dealt with it in a [ __ ] manner, that's on you. It's not on me. And I'm happy I felt what I felt when I felt it. And we move on. And what's great is that with each and every experience, >> I'm getting closer to what I actually want because things are getting way clearer. So, it's annoying. That's the thing about lessons that I just hate because you have to feel things and it's just annoying and it's like, but at the end of it, it's good.

[00:55:31]and then at the end we'll get there. We don't know when >> exactly >> but I'll see you when you get there.

[00:55:38]>> See you when you get there.

[00:55:39]>> I feel like you really have to you really have to actually be like I need to learn what I need to learn from this.

[00:55:45]>> People just jumping from one thing to the next and this is the problem. Yeah.

[00:55:49]>> You need to sit down and be like okay >> what did I like there? What what didn't I like there? How was I moving that I shouldn't move next time?

[00:55:56]>> What are the things I could have done better? And then charge it to the game.

[00:55:59]Literally, >> what can we do? And unfortunately, and talking about charging to the game, well, we're coming to the And [laughter] you're like, don't say, >> which I'm so sad.

[00:56:07]>> Don't say it. You said don't say it.

[00:56:09]>> I'm like, [laughter] it literally felt like 5 minutes to me. I know that seems so dramatic to >> no genu felt like 5 minutes to me. Like I was like, are we being kicked out?

[00:56:18]Like, slavery is done. Okay, let black women speak. Um, but okay, I understand.

[00:56:24]We're in the UK studio is not cheap.

[00:56:27][laughter] But I'm like first of all, you know, cuz I have run my own stuff. So I'm like, first of all, we can sit and talk for six hour. Who's going to kick us out?

[00:56:35]>> And this is why it's so like the next thing would be to have my own space.

[00:56:40]>> Yeah. But I don't even have my I'm also working on that. I just have a space that >> allowed me to do that.

[00:56:45]>> Yeah. My first year when I first started the show, the space that I had, it was my manager studio. So I was a unless if there was no booking after me. Oh, we were free to yap away and it was no stress, no. But now, >> yeah.

[00:56:58]>> Oh, baby.

[00:56:59]>> But this place is beautiful >> in this studio.

[00:57:01]>> Yeah, >> they're strict.

[00:57:03]>> And I just want to give you your flowers, Rita. I think you're doing amazing.

[00:57:06]>> Thank you.

[00:57:06]>> Um, know that many of us see you >> and we enjoy you >> and you're not an English teacher.

[00:57:16]>> Oh, she was going so she was doing so well.

[00:57:20]So, well, so so well. Apparently, this is the um millennial the Jenzers are doing.

[00:57:26]>> Girl, okay. Like, first of all, are you a vulture? Please.

[00:57:28]>> Like, where?

[00:57:29]>> I don't know. And I've never gotten it right. And and I'm not even trying to >> Where do they find this?

[00:57:34]>> I don't know.

[00:57:34]>> They just be making things, >> but it's like, you know, the Americans are like, instead of spelling color with a U, we'll just add we'll remove the U.

[00:57:39]And that's how that's why it's giving me instead of calling it football, we'll just call it soccer.

[00:57:43]>> LIKE, >> WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS? Why did this need to be reinvented?

[00:57:46]>> You know what's crazy? We used to invent real things. Do you know that we used to invent lights? We used to invent umbrellas and now we are inventing how we're doing love >> 67.

[00:57:56]>> What does that mean?

[00:57:56]>> I don't know what even you're the birthday.

[00:57:59]>> No, I get that one because you know what it's like it's an energy thing of like you're you're the birthday. I get it.

[00:58:04]>> But I'm like why would you >> But please, what is 67?

[00:58:07]>> I have no idea.

[00:58:07]>> As an English teacher, two English teachers can't break it down for you.

[00:58:10]What does that say?

[00:58:12]>> Literacy crisis.

[00:58:13]>> LITERACY CRISIS.

[00:58:14]>> BRING BACK OXFORD ENGLISH. We used to read Oxford English for fun.

[00:58:17]>> Bring it back. Bring it back. Anyways, man, are you as adult English? I found out what felia means from reading it for fun.

[00:58:24]>> You know what? I prefer that word.

[00:58:26]>> Yeah, >> I think it's a beautiful word. It's It has a romance to it.

[00:58:29]>> I was like cuz all of my customers, oh, go to page whatever of the dictionary >> fellio different things. I don't want to say more, but that's what we're doing in Nigeria.

[00:58:38]>> Yeah, it's interesting that that's the word that you wanted to you wanted to bring to the table. I was trying to explain to you how kids are cheeky and how my classmates said >> we know where your mind is at. Anyways, are you >> Where is your mind at?

[00:58:51]>> Bringing black women down.

[00:58:53]>> Lipson.

[00:58:54]>> That's fair. Lipin is very important for mental health. Let me just tell you. And that's part of the problem of >> last time I spoke on here it was two weeks, guys. It's now been three weeks.

[00:59:02]>> Actually, by the time this episode goes out, it's been four weeks.

[00:59:05]>> My own has been a scary like it's a the time is scary. It's very scary.

[00:59:10]Chanessa, you're too Look, you're too hot for this.

[00:59:13]>> I agree.

[00:59:13]>> Okay, look, >> but I agree. But Rita, like >> you don't have to audition the people that you lip.

[00:59:17]>> I know >> lip syn is there's there's no barriers.

[00:59:20]>> I don't know how to do that. Honestly, >> we'll have to discuss this because we have to discuss it. I know that you said, "Are we growing together? Are we learning together? Are we I don't even know that."

[00:59:28]>> I agree. I agree.

[00:59:29]>> Lips me and that's it. Are you a good >> one thing I've been saying since I've been in London. I'm like when I when I take walks, I actually see people that I'm like, "Oh, you're hot." You know, Nigeria, we don't really walk. We just drive. So you're not really I'm like if if you give me a monthly I can do something with it.

[00:59:42]>> I think you could. I'm a hot babe. You should not be going around lips.

[00:59:47]>> Not lip sync and for the work and for the work that you do.

[00:59:50]>> Exactly.

[00:59:50]>> You actually need for the contribution to the community.

[00:59:52]>> Yeah. You need to you need to replenish not every time give you need to also charge.

[00:59:58]>> I'm even more impressed because you're doing all the things that you're doing >> and you're doing it without lips.

[01:00:02]>> It's actually a big >> It's not something that I can do.

[01:00:05]It's been one month. I've been on the edge >> because it's difficult to work. I'm having to just figure it out. It's been 3 weeks.

[01:00:12]>> So, I got to change that.

[01:00:14]>> Hopefully, by the time this episode is out, guys, um hopefully I'll be able to confidently say that I've lived. But anyways, the time is blinking at me.

[01:00:21]Final segment. Are you as adult as you think you are?

[01:00:24]>> No.

[01:00:26]>> In the sense that like I don't even think I'm adult anyway. I think being a creative and being an adult is I'm being a Nigerian creative. Please >> I think I'm adult in in terms of mindset but in terms of like life when you're looking at life things >> people don't understand that creative life is very unstable >> very very >> so like stability is an adult vibe >> and I mean that across the board in many things so there are many ways that I'm like oh >> I'm a child of bride >> well look this is adulting according to me I'm going ask you some questions and >> if I think you're an adult then then we'll go from there >> okay um do you have any plants >> do I have plants Again, Rita, I live in Nigeria.

[01:01:04]>> That's why I laughed as I said it.

[01:01:06]>> That's why I was about to be like, girl, because we do, but not in the hat. Not in the same way. You know what I mean?

[01:01:11]Not in the same way that's like, oh, my plant is my baby. You guys are >> But we have like vegetation in my house a lot. My dad is like big into plants.

[01:01:17]So, >> even like, do you So, you grow your own vegetables?

[01:01:21]>> Yeah, my mom has a farm.

[01:01:23]>> That's very >> I know. It It actually is pretty cool.

[01:01:26]>> I think you're wealthy.

[01:01:28]>> No, no, no. Yeah.

[01:01:30]>> No, that's if that's what the impression. No, [laughter] >> I was like, well, like inflation, food inflation. We're going to start growing spinach. We're going to start growing ginger. Food inflation is it's it's girl, it's very bad. So, it's more so from that.

[01:01:46]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, that's that's fantastic. Okay. So, it's crazy because the questions I would usually ask to ask is it's very like British coded. So, I was going to say what are the what's well? Okay. So when you eat out eating out to cooking what's the percentage >> girl please like 90% at home then 10% going out.

[01:02:05]>> Yeah 10% if it's even up to that.

[01:02:08]>> I like to eat cuz my parents eat very healthy. So like it's just very easy for me to just be on their schedule and just eat all their boring old people stuff.

[01:02:15]>> So I'm like please eating out. Yeah. I would say 9010.

[01:02:19]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But if I lived in the UK, it wouldn't be 9010 cuz restaurants like I'm saying food, there's very good food in this place.

[01:02:26]>> Yeah. But there's good food in Nigeria.

[01:02:28]>> No, there is.

[01:02:29]>> But >> because of uh how multicultural and diverse is I mean there's like good Turkish food, Chinese food, Indian food.

[01:02:36]There's like a If I lived here, I would be trying a different I would be doing a lot more eating out >> and new stuff pop up a lot. Nigeria, there is good food, but >> most Nigerians I would say eat eat at home more than they eat at.

[01:02:49]>> Yeah. Because it's like also you've got someone that's going to help you.

[01:02:52]>> That's about you. You got a chef like and it's not as expensive as a chef would be here.

[01:02:57]>> Like I said, I just have my parent chef and I'm like, "Hey, we're in life.

[01:03:00]Please the disadvantages, please."

[01:03:01]>> No. And that's the thing about Nigeria though, >> like and nobody's calling you big back from delivery, but the >> it's [laughter] l this life no balance.

[01:03:11]>> It does not. Please, chef. Chef alone is not worth it. Okay. But shout out to the >> because honestly as I've been here I've been going to S. I'm like okay what am I buying?

[01:03:22]>> What am I gonna make again? What am I gonna make again?

[01:03:24]>> That's a lot. That's enough to make you you do you prefer Nigeria to London though?

[01:03:28]>> I actually love London but I think it's cuz like I said to you in the story, there are so many things in my life I did in London that were important for myself.

[01:03:36]>> Um yeah, I really liked how my life was when I was in drama school. I love going to theater. I love going to the park. I love doing all these things. Like in Nigeria, okay, you want to go to theater. Like there's very limited and I live in Abuja.

[01:03:48]>> Everything that you want also be in Lagos. So like just in terms of like the kind of life I lived here, I really like it. But I love Nigeria as well. I mean hence why I'm living there.

[01:03:56]>> When you're going out, do you just go in your wardrobe or do you buy new things?

[01:04:00]>> Girl, my wardro. But also, you know, I have a show.

[01:04:03]>> So when I when I do my show cuz I dress up properly on my show.

[01:04:06]>> Yeah.

[01:04:06]>> So I'm like I have to buy stuff for the show. So I can't be doing for the show during real life, but there one has to give. So, but I buy >> I shop very specifically in terms of like stuff that I can mix and match >> like so I >> there has to be a balance of functionality and style.

[01:04:23]>> You know what? You are an adult. Okay.

[01:04:25]>> Really?

[01:04:26]>> Yeah. Yeah. I was going to ask if you have >> that I don't feel like an adult or if I have what?

[01:04:30]>> Life insurance. But I know >> the the life insurance call what? J Sus God.

[01:04:36]>> J.

[01:04:37]>> My mother's prayer.

[01:04:38]>> Yes. all the years she has been on her knees like father lord as my sister is in London talking to this retail woman protect her >> because we don't know what spirit she's coming with >> and um >> a spirit of abundance and gold everyone that comes on the show they leave with a testimony so >> okay that's good I'm looking forward to my >> I'm looking forward to hearing in two weeks about your adventures because honestly >> some of which you're going to take me on I hope you know like it's also part of my thing cuz I'm like I want to do stuff but I genuinely have to be forced cuz I'm always tired.

[01:05:10]>> So I need someone to be like know we are going out doing this. So like I'm like I'm going to >> Yeah.

[01:05:17]>> I'm going to collect for that purpose.

[01:05:19]Yes.

[01:05:19]>> Yeah. See this is what I'm talking about. She's >> see where Calvin Harris should I have been there. Yeah cuz sometimes you need to >> guys. I saw Calvin Harris last weekend and it was fabulous.

[01:05:30]waters.

[01:05:31]>> What's the Rihanna track that's such a B?

[01:05:33]>> We found love in a hopeless place. We found in a homeless >> Wow. Powerful. Okay. Look, you are an adult. I think there's there's an adult energy that you carry >> and it's what you said at the top of the show and we've come full circle to which I believe that you are an adult and for that reason I've got you a gift.

[01:05:52]>> A >> wellgard high fiber gummies. I love that.

[01:05:59]>> Have you ever been at home and you're wondering, "Oh, I can't go to the toilet. What's going on with me? It's not coming out." Or when it does come out, it's like pebbles. Fiber. Very important. You take three a day. It will marinate in your stomach and you will be released. Vegan high fiber gummies by Wellard. Okay. For chessa, but I need it back. I already opened it.

[01:06:23]>> You know, I know I'm an adult. I had high fiber and I got excited. [laughter] of like fiber. Need that? No, honestly.

[01:06:30]Then I read the rest and I was like, I don't really I drink a lot of water so I don't have problems with the toilet.

[01:06:34]>> Yeah, that's that's why it's good that you give that back to me.

[01:06:36]>> I love a good F. Okay. So, like you gave me a gift and you were taking it back.

[01:06:39]>> Yeah, it's a fake gift really. Um, I need it back. As I was coming, I thought, actually, I need that. So, um, anyways, thank you so much for coming on the show today. It's been absolutely wonderful. I've been I've been highly entertained. I've been educated. I've been moved. I've been inspired. What a dynamic show. And that's what this show is about. Okay.

[01:06:56]Life is very dynamic. Okay. All right.

[01:06:58]She thinks that she This is step up.

[01:07:00]Okay. Thank you. Thank you. Relax. Okay.

[01:07:02]All right. All right. Thank you. Thank you, Chancer, for being here. It's been absolutely fabulous. We've been inspired. We've been moved. We've heard your story from beginning to end. We didn't ask for a lot of it, but I'm so happy that you created a space um that you trusted this space to share your story. Um anyways, I really appreciate you guys. Thank you so much for watching and listening. And you guys know how this goes, okay? If you didn't like my co-host, please do not use that as an excuse to not come back. She will not be here next week. Next week, we have another co-host who will BE WITH US.

[01:07:38]WOO!

[01:07:38]>> WHOSE [cheering] name is Chanasa?

[01:07:40]>> And then say what your name of your show is again in case we didn't get that.

[01:07:44]>> I just want to say I'm an angry black woman and for a black woman to perpetrate that stereotype is heartbreaking to me. The name of my show is is this he taken? go on there and watch me not being angry, being delightful, being well researched, being funny. I love you and I hope you have a lovely rest of your day. If you're in the UK, it's hot, so just stay inside.

[01:08:00]We're telling you to take a walk, but take a walk in the evening.

[01:08:02]>> Yeah, it's too hot.

[01:08:03]>> Yeah. Yeah, it's hot. It's hot.

[01:08:04]>> And Rita left me outside sweating after telling me to come early. She didn't tell you guys that, though.

[01:08:07]>> I didn't. She was early.

[01:08:09]>> She left me outside.

[01:08:10]>> Thank you. Cut.

[01:08:12]>> 15 minutes early. She said, [music]