Do We Have A Toxic Masculinity Issue Or Toxic Femininity issue?

Added: 2026-05-27

[00:00:00]22% of men under 30 hold a positive view of [music] women. 50% of women under 30 hold a positive view of men. That's [music] a 22point gap. Among women under 25, the figure drops to 35%, a 37 point gap. We constantly hear about the manosphere, [music] toxic masculinity, and the radicalization of young men. But the data says something else. Young women are the ones sorting the opposite sex into the enemy column. and they are doing it at scale. [music] Among working-class young women, 61% still hold a positive view of men. Among their [music] professional class peers, the figure is 36%. A 25 point gap along a single axis. [music] How much time the respondent has spent inside universities, HR departments, media organizations, and NGO pipelines.

[00:00:49][music] The gender divide runs along institutional exposure. Helen Andrews outlined what is happening in her essay, The Great Feminization. Between [music] 2015 and 2020, Western culture tipped majority female. The New York Times newsroom tipped in 2018, [music] law schools in 2016, medical schools, and the college educated workforce in 2019. But none of this was organic.

[00:01:12][music] 30 years of affirmative action mandates, discrimination settlements, and grant conditional diversity requirements did the engineering one lawsuit and grant at a time. Once those institutions tipped, their purpose changed. A justice system [music] built to adjudicate crime became one to protect oppressed minorities. A newsroom [music] built to report became one built to enforce narrative uniformity. [music] A university built to argue became a safe space. The mechanism is older than wokeness. Male [music] groups are missionoriented. Female groups are cohesionoriented.

[00:01:46]Effectively, men [music] want to put the ball in the net and women want to make sure everyone has a chance to play with the ball. What has [music] emerged is what I call the daycare governance model. Three roles in three only.

[00:01:59]Infants to be protected or the [music] oppressed, caregivers to administer the protection or the allies or comrades, [music] and predators to be removed, the dissenters. The evidence replicates the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expressions 2026 College Speech [music] Rankings found women less tolerant than men across every ideology, less tolerant [music] of their allies, in fact, than men are of their enemies. A young woman who entered kindergarten [music] in 2005 has now spent 20 continuous years inside daycare governance.

[00:02:36]Shut the [ __ ] up and GET THE [ __ ] UP.

[00:02:38]>> SHE did not invent the frame that sorts [music] men into the predator column.

[00:02:42]She inherited it from every institution she passed through. [music] The 35% figure is what happens when the sorting completes. Moral triage at population scale. Victim, ally, [music] predator, no gray zones.

[00:02:57]There you go. You know, but that was just kind of what what you asking about before. It's like women who have spent more time with HR departments and universities tend to have a lower opinion of men. It might not I'm not saying men don't do things that are wrong, but my point is it may be propaganda that they receive because of the echo chamber that they get based on social media. Do you understand what I'm saying?

[00:03:19]>> I do. But I'm going to go back to what she said because when you say favor, it's like what are we talking about exactly?

[00:03:24]>> It's so vague of a conversation. Sure.

[00:03:26]>> You know what I mean? So, it's really hard to say have an opinion about it when it's so >> I think I think if you survey enough people and ask them, do you have a favorable opinion of the opposite sex?

[00:03:34]You can get a number that's that's viable. And the fact that the two numbers are so far away from each other, I think that kind of says a lot. That's that's the only thing I'm saying. It's just like something to consider. My point is what we've been told because of the show Adolescence and all these other people, all these other shows, is that men are having a negative viewpoint of women because of propaganda they're seeing. And then when they're surveyed, they don't have a negative viewpoint of women. And then women are sitting there making content about 62 million men are rapists. And then it turns out they do have a negative viewpoint of men. You see what I'm saying?

[00:04:06]>> I think it's because we feel like men have a >> If she's over there, could she come back over here and sit over here cuz Jamie had to step out. Yeah. Yeah. Go ahead.

[00:04:14]>> We feel like men have a negative viewpoint about us because of the way they treat us, the way they talk about us, the way >> you think it's all men, though.

[00:04:21]>> No, it's not all men.

[00:04:22]>> Or do you think it might be men that you're attracted to? I don't I don't think that necessarily. I think I hear like on repeat talking about like oh how like oh men aren't getting enough sex or men need sex and oh but but if you have sex with men that makes you not a good future wife cuz you're having sex with men but now like I don't know. It's just >> it's like it is a conundrum. I do agree with that. Yeah, for sure. like you don't you don't want us to have sex with men but then you guys are so worried about having sex and but you know it's it's I think overall it's like confusing for us. I think they told us to close our legs and then worry about the birth rates. Why is it down? Well, you told us you know.

[00:05:01]>> Yeah. You told us you told us not to have sex with men.

[00:05:04]>> I think I think what they're telling you is to not have sex with Chris Brown. I think that's kind of like what they're trying if you really want to sum it down to one thing. It's like you keep having sex with trash men and then and then then blaming other men for it. That I think that's the issue. What I'm saying is >> I hear that I hear that a lot.

[00:05:19]>> What I'm saying is all of you ladies in this room, if you were willing to compromise on a few things, there are men who would die to marry you right now, but you aren't willing to compromise on those things because you said 3% of men are attractive. And so because of that, that's why we have the lowest marriage rate in history.

[00:05:33]>> I've compromised on those things and it's sometimes turned bite me in the eye. Oh yeah. I feel like I'm kind of on the men's side for some of this though because I I am on, you know, I think women in general are more vocal on social media. I'm on some of my single close friends list and they'll put the conversations they're having with guys and they're like men. And I'll be like, well, you did that, too. Like I like to call them out and I'm like, that's part of the problem. And then I I also have a lot of attractive single male friends from the gym that tell me that they actually complain cuz I'll look at them like what? They're like, women are feral these days. They're like, I actually want to get to know them and talk to them. And I'm like, "What? Are you just >> We just want to use you for your body.

[00:06:09]You're >> just telling me that cuz I'm a woman."

[00:06:11]>> Yeah. So So So here's [laughter] the thing. Here's one of the major differences. So I I have a client. I just talked to him a couple days ago.

[00:06:16]And he he's saying stuff like, "Oh, well, I'm seeing this girl, but we're not really serious." But I went out somewhere and she was talking to another guy. She wasn't flirting, but she was talking to another guy that annoyed me.

[00:06:24]And I was like, "Bro, what the [ __ ] is wrong with you? That's not your girlfriend. She's going to talk to other Well, what should I do in those situ? Go talk to other people or make her your girlfriend. [ __ ] or get off the pot. You want to know what happened to him?" You said, "No, no, no. What? Here's you know what happened to him when I said that and what happens to every guy when I say that. You're probably right. They don't cry. They don't try to cancel me. They take the criticism and they they keep it pushing. When I if you were to tell and I can tell you this because you're in fitness. If you were to tell the average woman, "Hey, you're overweight. You probably need need to lose some weight.

[00:06:53]You probably need to get off the vapes.

[00:06:55]You probably need to get off of social media because you're on there way too much and you need to take accountability for your actions." If I tell that to men, how many men are offended? Anyone want to guess how many men are offended?

[00:07:05]None of them none of them are offended because cry >> because we're all been told that. But if we if I say that to women, what happens?

[00:07:11]>> Oh yeah. Stop.

[00:07:12]>> That's the pro. The point is the point is if I choose on my channel, which I do, to be equally critical of men and women, I'm only canceled for one reason.

[00:07:21]I am I have been deplatformed. I have been ratioed. I have been demonetized.

[00:07:25]But it is never because I criticize men.

[00:07:27]But I criticize men exactly as much as I criticize women. And that's my whole point. It's like a why if I tell you if I do if I did a female self-improvement course, which would be take accountability for your actions, who you date, that's your fault. You keep dating a narcissist, that's because of trauma that you've suffered, and you need to work through that. You need to you need to get into better shape, get in the best shape of your life. You need to get off of the the the SSRIs, the aderall, and the vapes. And you need to stop being on social media so much. I am immediately labeled a misogynist for saying this. Immediately labeled it. But if I say the same four things to men, you know what I am? I'm a US Marine Corps military training instructor.

[00:08:04][laughter] That's what I am. That's the difference.

[00:08:06]And so my my point is if I give the same advice to men and women, one side gets way more offended than the other. That's it. That's the difference. Do you have Did you want to share that one I just gave you?

[00:08:14]>> Yeah. Okay. Um No, I was I was just going to say this is that like the the narrative that I see on like Caller Daddy is is probably the easiest one to to sort of poke, you know, poke holes in right now. But we're constantly like when you were talking about how you like uh women have these m mixed messages, right, with like oh I don't know if I should shut my legs or keep them open. I you know you guys you guys want to girls but you don't want to marry girls who right and and I think it comes down to like who are you listening to? Like who is where's the where's that voice coming from? Because there are there the the voices in the manosphere are so diverse right now. Like you might hear that from you might hear TrdCon say, you know, be chased, be pure, uh uh you know, whatever. Be wholesome, whatever the, you know, terminology they're using right now. Um, and then you might hear some someone other some other guys say, well, here's how you, you know, here's how you get laid, you know, and but it's just coming from different different sources. So, I don't I can understand why it's confusing. It seems like a double standard, but it's like there's going to be guys that are going to tell you one thing, and there's going to be other guys that are in the same sort of niche that are going to tell you another thing as well.

[00:09:23]>> Yeah. Overall, if you want long-term happiness, I would probably say for men and for women. Again, when I say this to men, they're never offended. When I say this to women, I they get super angry.

[00:09:31]Stop sleeping around so much. That's what I would say. If I say if I just said to women, stop sleeping around so much. I immediately am whatever podcast, fresh and fit, whatever. If I tell men, hey, listen, there's data that shows that if you have more sexual partners before you're married, you're less likely to be happy in a relationship. If I had a male stripper sitting right there where you were who's had sex with 900 women and I said, "Hey, bro. Just let you know, you're probably going to have a harder time being happy in a relationship because you 900 women."

[00:09:54]He's going to be like, "Yeah, that sounds about right. He's not going to be offended. He's not going to yell at me.

[00:09:59]He's not going to tell me. He's not going to call me a douchebag. He's not going to call me >> telling guys that, though. We don't have >> I do. I tell the guys that all the time.

[00:10:05]And so do so do all the TRCON men. They do the They do the same thing. They do the same. Listen, I I'm Listen, I'm calling my own foul. I've been with women. I'm definitely part part of the problem. My point is I'm aware of that problem. I'm also dating someone significantly younger than me and I understand that the data shows that that is hard to keep a a marriage dating someone who's 20 years younger than me.

[00:10:24]I understand that. But I'm not going to ignore that or be offended by the data that doesn't agree with my personal life narrative. I'm still going to accept it.

[00:10:32]And so that's that's where I think the difference is. Don't be so offended. If guys are telling you this, maybe don't be so offended. I don't think you are.

[00:10:38]But I'm saying in general, just don't be so offended.