"They Have Collected Our Husbands & Sons!" Enugu Women Storm Streets Over Alleged Ashawo Crisis

[00:00:00]Welcome back and thank you for staying with us. So, a group of women in Enugu state have sparked widespread reactions after taking to the streets to protest the activities of alleged sex workers in their community. The women claimed that the presence of the sex workers has negatively affected family life, accusing them of luring away their husbands and even influencing their sons. The protest has seen has since generated intense debate. While some sympathize with the women and believe they have the right to defend their homes and community values, others argue that the blame may be directed at the wrong people. They insist that married men and adult sons should be held accountable for their own choices. Um, let's take a moment to watch this video.

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[00:01:44]>> Welcome back. So, the question I think we're going to ask today is, are these women justified in their protest? Or are they unfairly placing responsibility on sex workers instead of the men involved?

[00:01:57]Can outsiders truly destroy a home? or does that responsibility rest with those who made commitments to their families?

[00:02:04]Of course, we'd like to hear your thoughts on this video. Um, please join the conversation by calling us on 0201-6352013 or 0924163440.

[00:02:18]And remember, you can join us live on DSTV channel 164. Ladies, a group of women have decided, you know what? We're going to fight for our families, our husbands, our sons, and our community.

[00:02:31]>> Leave my husband for me. [laughter] >> What?

[00:02:33]>> Leave our husbands for us.

[00:02:34]>> I don't know who >> Abby interpret what interpret saying that these women are very very angry, extremely angry that they fighting sex workers and they say say no to sex workers because they enticing their husbands, taking their husbands from them. You know, their husbands, they service their husbands and everything.

[00:02:54]So that they must go. They must go. Hey who do us? Who do us? Who do us? Ah why why you don't agree that they should protest us in 2026 you know you know before when they do us before before it was okay because we did not know better and we were conditioned but in 2026 we've come far we've come a long way to us.

[00:03:21]Hi. I said, do you know my pain? This whole thing is the fact that [laughter] the women and the women have made the men passive victims. He said this whole enabling thing that we do.

[00:03:33]>> Mhm.

[00:03:33]>> Then you're fighting the sex workers.

[00:03:36]>> I don't know.

[00:03:37]>> They open business.

[00:03:38]>> They're just protesting.

[00:03:39]>> So if I open business is on you to come and buy my business now.

[00:03:44]>> Mhm.

[00:03:44]>> Abby, >> if nobody comes over a period of time, please bad business. I will close shop now. I have but I have >> but if I open business and the business is driving is driving I will expand my business [laughter] >> and if I if customer so if I don't get customer so who is this customer did I force customer to come and buy from me did I force customer to come so and we are not blaming the customer that this men that made a vow to these women broke the vow they are cheating men they are morally morally bankrupt.

[00:04:23]>> Mhm.

[00:04:24]>> They can't be trusted. I know the issues the the character of these men >> but you you woke up dressed up and went to fight the sex workers. We know that there's something called temptation. If they were not there, this man would not.

[00:04:42]>> No. See, let's be honest. There's something called temptation. After all, if let us talk about this trade that you made as an example, there are some there are some kinds of trade even in our country where we import some things and we say take out the imported things so that our own can do well. So these people have brought a traders tempting the men. These are men that you know usually will be with their wives but >> they will not be with their wives.

[00:05:06][laughter] >> They will not be with their wives. They will be with their mistresses. See it's it's the same. is I can't stand it when I see a married woman go and meet her husband's mistress.

[00:05:19]>> Mhm.

[00:05:20]>> They leave my husband alone. Leave your husband alone and then the the mistress will now beat them very well on top.

[00:05:29]>> Yes. That meeting they deserve it >> because why are you going to face your husband your husband you have business don't have business they forgo meet the sex for their sex beat them very come out from there say ah the small business what >> why we are we encouraging the sex workers >> I am not encouraging anybody I'm saying face your husband in the house don't go I want >> I beg I'm on the women's side >> I trust Hey, >> leave my husband for me. Let me [laughter] just tell you, >> leave our husbands for us out of our community. The women they did not say anybody will broom there now. Now they sweep bad come for community and people parade your street not broom. You will go to that junction you sweep their bad evil legs out of the community because serious assumption because they not go as what they call it in Hebrew. We have what we call women.

[00:06:28][laughter] I don't get I get two and blouse. If me and my colleague wives from my husband side, we tie our rapper.

[00:06:37]I pity the sex worker that survive it.

[00:06:39]Wait for it and see [laughter] your body going to tell you when we are done. You want to wait the community. If we tell you we don't want your trade, your trade is affecting our family. Second, the most important unit of society. We say we not want for our community. Some communities collectively agree on their traditions. Did you listen to the >> Excuse me. Can I ask you this question?

[00:06:59]Before you collectively anything, the husbands, >> we are [laughter] coming back talking about the husband.

[00:07:05]>> We are coming back to the husbands. But first, first of all, we come back for the other one.

[00:07:14]You see that man, we come back to him.

[00:07:16]But you see the women carry your seductive trait, cleavage, opening body and all of the things that are parading on the street giving them ideas.

[00:07:25]>> Mhm.

[00:07:26]>> Because until you came rapper was seductive. If I tie rapper in the house, he will be enticed. If I tie rapper, I do not even he will be seduced. But until you came >> Mhm.

[00:07:35]>> with blush or >> you started giving him options he didn't have in the beginning.

[00:07:38]>> And then you options because you have already used something. You will not be able to give me monkey shadow. All the other shadow the man will not go and lay your own shadow down.

[00:07:48]>> Do you realize that sex workers go that this man will still find you see a morally bankrupt human being >> in this kind of community morally bankrupt human being?

[00:07:58]>> No. Now two no in this why you're mixing it up. Sex worker and polygamy is different.

[00:08:03]>> Okay.

[00:08:04]>> In this kind of community what you have is co-wife.

[00:08:06]>> Mhm.

[00:08:07]>> At least society unit family unit will not be badly affected. The way I'm even saying it's like drugs >> you bring a you bring drugs into a community you say >> to sex worker in our community my hand is not there if you try it I come to your community try to beat me if I go back and and I bring repriser me and my co- women we come back only god know repriser [laughter] when the sex worker equip themsel well face you >> the way they face your husbands >> I said lie the [laughter] sex worker how many of them compared to all the women in the community can >> you don't know how many they These ones are not violent women now. So once I saw her, I now think she wants to be violent. She go and beat one of them.

[00:08:46]Oh, she should have pro.

[00:08:46]>> We were focusing on the on the cancer.

[00:08:49]Who is the cancer?

[00:08:50]>> We focusing on the on on the individual that should take responsibility.

[00:08:54]>> We focus on them. But leave our husbands alone.

[00:08:57]>> Wear cloth [laughter] walking around.

[00:09:01]>> I like I wish men could call us. What makes a man leave his home?

[00:09:05]>> It's escape.

[00:09:06]>> Okay.

[00:09:07]>> It's escape.

[00:09:08]>> Not justifying adultery.

[00:09:10]>> No. No. But saying that men they once in a while want to do these things escape but if you now put it as >> why don't you find a a decent woman why must you be go to a sex worker >> that's the problem >> because the community are filled with decent women so they will not find >> double standards so in some communities men don't want to be seen as polygamist or the women have even told them it's only me can only marry one wife because have taught us nobody's having co wives again sisters in the marriage and all of that they don't have it again >> no but there's also responsibility of marrying a co-orker business in the world. In the world >> of what? Of women without women without what?

[00:09:46]>> Women without morals now. Yes. Now, of course. And let me tell you something else.

[00:09:50]>> Go use broom and sweep all their bad morals away.

[00:09:53]>> And why why why is sex why is this sex workers business the oldest business in the world? And why is it that with time with changes with things evolution it has not gone out? Why >> you say sex worker retirement? Because no because they have customers that have refused to stop being customers because there's a need they are servicing because we if you don't take out the cancer this as a mixing it not every sex worker is actually there to meet needs some are there to destroy society >> some their goal is to be cheaper give cheaper and lose options I'm coming true >> you never see man where they dignity where that is so committed I think there was one point the sex worker >> there was a point that nim when you're talking about um instead of having co-wives they are meeting the sex workers >> co-wife is more expensive than a sex worker >> that's the thing cheaper women that's say cheaper options these women they they too know that they don't have anything they want to make in life they say okay this this unit this marriage unit that's my profession I want to be targeting it >> even when the men sometimes don't come there once a man is at a bar that's They say alcohol and this thing go together.

[00:11:08]They will they'll be using that time when he's intoxicated to be seducing him and making him forget.

[00:11:14]>> Why did you go and intoxicate in their >> No, for drinking it does not mean >> he should intoxicate in his house. He has beer beer in his house. People should put the onus on the man that don't have >> you cannot put it disciplined.

[00:11:27]>> Morally upright women will not be in that business and they will be concerned about how their actions their threat is affecting society. want to be concerned about it. We're going to make them >> but let's also look at it. I know in this case it may seem a little bit funny because they seem like these are women of a particular you know community but sex work has become more international than that.

[00:11:50]>> Okay.

[00:11:51]>> We are dealing with a different kind of sex work these days. We seem to even have them in you know um they they dress it they call it different sorts of names now >> and in those things they call ah [clears throat] on on all these Twitter and things ah >> what are you talking about the >> these women >> fan club >> no not fan club um ladies that >> ladies that go out >> okay escort >> the escort the club escort There's another name.

[00:12:26]>> Hook up.

[00:12:27]>> Thank you.

[00:12:28]>> That's why I said that the sex workers not problem.

[00:12:32]>> The the men know what they are doing.

[00:12:35]>> So obviously there's a need and I want to ask decent women in the community as you said this is the oldest profession in the world and is evolving as the world is evolving. If there's a need, when is it when is it the right time for us to be >> to be honest with ourselves about this need that men have and then maybe we see this thing differently.

[00:13:00]>> Which need?

[00:13:01]>> They need to have options.

[00:13:04]>> Ah, am I a man? This a man?

[00:13:06]>> No, no, no. Let's just talk about Can we bring any man from the studio to city?

[00:13:10]>> There is a need that men have no answer that question.

[00:13:14]>> Whether they are poor or rich, whether they living in the village or they living in the city, there is a need for escape for escape.

[00:13:23]>> Is there a time where women now need to be honest with themselves that there is a need that this group of women there's a need that they provide for? And so accept them, >> know, let them understand their place and then we move on peacefully.

[00:13:39]>> Well, men have sexual needs. So as women >> and men are more adventurous sometimes than women in their sexual needs. So you have yellow at home. You want to know how black is. You have black atom. Ah, I've been hearing this woman is freshest. You get the freshest.

[00:13:57]>> The freshest of the fresh >> of the freshest. You know why she needed the point hand my >> [laughter] >> Now you fresh on this table.

[00:14:05]Our only child on the table. Men have that adventurous thing. They want to know. They want to explore more. But a man who has now um who is um more in control of himself. Somebody feel who is more responsible and accountable would know that this is a small children thing. So most men that remain in their small boys brain, they do it >> continuously. I'd see women accepting because in Africa a man can have more than 30 and they will be all if you for sleep with the women don't didn't used to bother but as an exposure now where we think >> but which is easier to get do we want co-wives or do we prefer you go outside do your thing and come >> no your co-wife is your your hed mom for your kids in case of anything your sister your a good woman that can be there you you build relationship but we no longer view this relationship.

[00:15:01]So what I can hear you say is that 90% of men are in their boyhood mind mindset.

[00:15:07]>> You say 90% of them are cheating.

[00:15:10]>> Okay. Yes.

[00:15:11]>> That means any way they do >> because because all these broels all these hookups all these things that we see going on let's not lie to ourselves.

[00:15:20]>> All these people are outside. M >> so you're trying to tell that all these men that are outside now >> they their boyhood >> yes they immature mature men so what we are dealing with is like less than 10% mature men in the world wow >> I agree I think so that's really scary I think so >> does a woman prefer to have her husband have 10 15 co-wives or she's willing to accept a man that goes out takes care of his need and escape and faces >> no that is subjective >> and comes back faces his family depends on he doesn't even remember the person.

[00:15:55]>> Can you come?

[00:15:56]>> It depends on the women. It depends on >> Is it better a side chick or a sex worker? A side chick has has um needs she wants to be in his life. She wants Valentine's Day too, Christmas holiday.

[00:16:09]Probably she may decide she wants to have a child. But a sex worker doesn't ask for all that. Maybe the sex worker just needs >> ask the man that is supporting them.

[00:16:22]The financial contribution >> for a sex worker is per time per use.

[00:16:26]But a sex chick side chick need.

[00:16:32]>> Okay.

[00:16:33]>> Welcome.

[00:16:34]>> Mhm.

[00:16:34]>> I want to know you from afar. I want to know the size and everything because less this lesser risk.

[00:16:40]>> I want to be able to say this one I know what she's doing. If he comes home and he's ping ah did you eat at madame a's house and madame cook too much pepper.

[00:16:48]I've been at the shik spot, you know, I want to be able to point at what is the activity. It protects me to know her particularly from sexual.

[00:16:57]>> You know, there there are some men that will have like um men of your religion that will have four wives and I still have mistresses outside.

[00:17:08]>> You know, I said that they were doing one topic when the guy had toasted the girl and the girl found out he was married. When she came out, she saw him at another place with the whole family.

[00:17:18]Yes, >> that's not a Muslim man. But the the ones that are still boys >> whose minds are not formed, they refuse to mature, they'll be fighting. It does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases because you don't know what that woman, >> whether she has a a sugar boy, whether she has other men, and then you you feel like you know her just she's the only one your husband is going to. You don't know what she and she might be cheating on him and back and he's coming back to you. If they apply to her, she will not like it.

[00:17:47]>> Good.

[00:17:48]>> They should apply Sharia to her. She will not like it. It is a mutual it is her and he that's what polygamy is. It's not him.

[00:17:58]>> So someone said yes someone said Da said now so my friend husband go time massage place and they asked him if he wanted happy ending.

[00:18:08]>> Wow.

[00:18:08]>> The man said no without even knowing what it meant. when he told his wife, she said now sex they offer you.

[00:18:16]>> So that's what I'm saying. This thing is evolving. It's in every part of our community now.

[00:18:21]>> Mhm.

[00:18:22]>> We need to be careful.

[00:18:24]>> Are we saying YouTube?

[00:18:25]>> But anyway, yes, please. YouTube messages.

[00:18:27]>> I'm trying to look for >> Okay, [clears throat] I have a Let me take this message. Um, someone sent says, "I get really sad when I see these things. As a as mothers, we must learn to have a voice and be bold enough to look at our situation from the outside.

[00:18:42]So, she's talking about the first topic.

[00:18:44]I bet you she was advising someone else.

[00:18:46]She would know the right things to say.

[00:18:48]Our parents did us a disservice. We have been wired to accept so many abnormal things and call it normal. As a mother, she should do differently by her kids and bring them up to understand that what is normal for many should be unacceptable. This is Mrs. Djani that sent this. M >> so that's the first um story she's saying that we accept some things as normal because we have been conditioned to do so but we must change it for the next generation they must know that these things that are seen as normal >> are not normal any other >> just reason says that um the truth is that some of the women that are married now into polygamy that or just at the loose end they usually had been the man's hookup at some point >> of course you have to you have to take it from the pool when You even see hookup >> be hookups these days.

[00:19:39]>> Come it's let's leave it >> no >> I think I tried to talk that women who who are married >> you know saying that the cancer we need to concentrate on >> concentrate on the men.

[00:19:54]>> Yes the cancer the men we need to talk about the men what do we want what advice do we have for these men?

[00:20:02]You see, that's why I said those women protesting should have protested to their husbands in the house. If I if I have a problem with my husband because he's going out or my man because she's going out to meet another woman, I am not going to go and meet the woman. It is that husband of mine >> that I will face where happen. No, no, no, no, no. So, >> I do not ever agree with going to meet the woman outside. Face your own my husband. You're talking to But you can do you can do various things at the same time. You can do both.

[00:20:37]>> Yeah, I like this comment that says Danima send your account number. Let me credit you today.

[00:20:41]>> Okay, >> for this so please send me a DM. I have >> is a man that wants to credit.

[00:20:45]>> No, it's ASA. He's a woman. Maybe she likes my point. Thank you. Assa is a Muslim like you. Now >> send me a DM. Let me send him account number.

[00:20:54]What advice do we have for men or for boys who use these services? Because I heard that long time ago many in the olden days these women were actually used to introduce boys to learning about how to intimate with women >> when they were wild.

[00:21:10]>> Yes.

[00:21:10]>> So their wild o how how do we want to see our men? What advice do we have for them? Our sons.

[00:21:18]Okay. If maybe the men the husbands are too far gone. How about our sons? How do we raise them so that they don't think that a sex worker is something that they should even go to?

[00:21:28]See um ask Nemo. [laughter] Nemo knows YK must answer this question. Answer YK have one because YK supports this trade.

[00:21:36]That's what she's saying.

[00:21:37]>> I didn't say that.

[00:21:37]>> Oh yeah. Answer them.

[00:21:38]>> I said face the women. Which answer?

[00:21:40]>> Answer now.

[00:21:41]>> No. They say the question is how do you raise your boys? Not to >> I don't have son. You you have son. You talk. How do you how do you raise your son?

[00:21:50]>> Okay. You raised an adult man that I don't want to mention but let me leave anyway. I just Okay. Um me I believe that it is not something virtuous. It is not something to be considered at all.

[00:22:02]That's how I was raised. That's how the men in my circle were raised.

[00:22:05]>> We do not consider such thing. It's not for us. It should not be seen. And it goes to the core of your union. It violates it. It's also a huge disrespect to your partner that you end up with to bring such to bring them to consider whether you are you to worry about where you are what you do part time whether they see you they don't see you be faithful to that marriage if you are tired of the marriage come they be saying that one divorce honorably move on and chest your choice no need to name names and call the woman at home she did not do she did not meet it she does not give me shadow style she she's not a good woman she does not cook for me >> she's How will you raise your son?

[00:22:43]>> I'm raising my son to be virtuous, >> to consider it something something dis immoral to disgusting.

[00:22:50]>> That's all. Thank you so much. She make it.

[00:22:53]>> Ladies, thank you again for for our conversation today.

[00:22:57]>> Treat the conversation.

[00:22:59]>> Maybe we'll do a part two where will come and tell us exactly the way to go.

[00:23:03]The cancer.

[00:23:04]>> She wants to talk to the men. She never rest until she abused the men.

[00:23:07]>> Okay.

[00:23:07]>> I don't want >> I will give another chance. Maybe next tomorrow you can come and talk about the men. Um >> thank you guys. Talk about the men and our viewers. Thank you for joining us today. Um we will see you tomorrow for another interesting episode. Bye for now.

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