Chinese Girl Demands $9,000 a Month From Her Boyfriend—And Says Most Men Are Poor or Ugly

Added: 2026-05-16

[00:00:01]Can I say that my debt is about 11,000 yuan, about $1,500 every month? Are you asking if they can help me pay it back?

[00:00:09]Yes, that's right. Well, is there anyone here who could do that? Do you think any of these men are suitable for you? Nope.

[00:00:16]Uh-huh. None of them are suitable.

[00:00:19]And a girl asked her boyfriend for 10,000 yuan, approximately $1,400 to travel to Beijing. The boyfriend made one move and the girl angrily scolded him. The girl wanted to travel to Beijing, but had no money. So, she acted cute and asked her boyfriend if he could sponsor her 10,000 yuan.

[00:00:39]The boyfriend replied promptly, saying he could and immediately transferred 10,000 yuan. The girl was happy in her heart, preparing to receive the money when the boyfriend sent a message. The message said, "This transfer is a gift with the purpose of marriage. If either party breaks up for any reason in the future, the recipient should return the full amount." The girl saw it and became furious. She was just dating, not yet engaged, and she thought, "Isn't it normal for the boyfriend to spend money on the girlfriend?" She replied, "What's wrong with you? Is it necessary? This is so embarrassing. I'm not going anymore."

[00:01:17]The boyfriend, after reading this, smiled, thinking he was smart for leaving a condition. He immediately understood what kind of person the girl was. The boyfriend shared this incident online, sparking controversy. Some people said, "Isn't it normal for a girl to spend money from a man? Men should be generous.

[00:01:37]Why should the girl pay if the man doesn't invest in the relationship?"

[00:01:41]Others commented, "As a woman, I think the man's actions are reasonable. No one's money comes from thin air. They aren't even married yet, so there's no reason to ask the man for money."

[00:01:55]Engagement requires a dowry of 66,000 yuan, plus 80,000 for the bride price, and an $82,000 car, about $112,000.

[00:02:06]A $80,000 house, about $110,000, must be registered under your name.

[00:02:12]I just want to ask the women out there, what kind of qualifications do you have that make you worthy of such a family?

[00:02:19]Just the other day, I took a family of three to look at a house.

[00:02:23]Today, the client said he was bringing his girlfriend and his mother-in-law along to look at it again, preparing to finalize the house purchase.

[00:02:31]The girl, who was quite attractive with a good figure, seemed pleased with the house and her mother-in-law was also satisfied. But when they were ready to finalize the deal, the girl stopped and insisted that the house must be registered in her name only. Myself, the real estate consultant, and the boy were all confused because we had already discussed that the down payment for the house would come from the boy's parents and the house would be registered under his name. Then, out of nowhere, they changed their mind. I quickly intervened and told the girl, "If you want the house in your name, then it will need to be registered under your name for the loan. But you don't have a job and no income record, so it's impossible.

[00:03:14]Alternatively, I suggested they could get married and register both their names with the loan in the boy's name."

[00:03:20]She refused and insisted her name alone should be on the deed, claiming that many income records could be faked nowadays.

[00:03:28]I had no choice but to suggest that the boy call his parents to discuss the matter.

[00:03:33]At that point, the mother-in-law chimed in, "Why bother calling his parents? He can make the decision himself."

[00:03:41]I quickly replied, "A respectful decision requires a consultation with his family since the down payment was from them."

[00:03:48]The boy, embarrassed, stepped out to call his parents. I sent him a message suggesting he discuss it with them and not proceed with buying the house today if he was unsure.

[00:03:59]Even if they decided not to buy the house, I reminded him that making such decisions without being married yet could complicate things. What if something goes wrong later on? How would he explain this to his parents?

[00:04:12]I kept thinking about this situation. It seems nowadays people are more focused on how to divide assets before marriage, which shouldn't be the case. True love shouldn't be measured by money.

[00:04:28]Today, I was really amused by a guy from Jinan. I couldn't even teach him how to date properly. He had been dating this girl for 2 months and only ate meals with her. Then she came and said it wasn't right. When I asked why, I was dumbfounded. This guy's dating routine was always just eating and taking her home. For 60 days, he didn't even touch her hand. I asked him, "Can you do something else?" He said, "So frustrating. I was trying my best. I ordered the best dishes for her, treated her well, and was very attentive." But I was speechless. You've been on 2 months of dinner dates and you don't know how to take it further? Can't you think of something else to do? All you do is eat and go home. Why don't you try building some emotional connection? Go watch a movie, go shopping, or walk together after dinner. Try holding her hand when you cross the street to see how she reacts. If she doesn't pull away, then slowly things will develop. This guy just couldn't get it.

[00:05:29]The end of the gold digging women has come.

[00:05:32]As men collectively wake up and refuse to be ATM machines, the women who once acted like princesses are now being hit by online loan debts. New data shows that the default rate for women's debts has skyrocketed in 2024.

[00:05:47]Beauty treatments, designer bags, and influencer tourism account for 80% of bad debts. Even worse, the holiday consumption hysteria driven by capitalism is collapsing. This year, Women's Day saw malls emptier than ever.

[00:06:02]In previous years, love-themed ads would flood the streets, but now they've become a joke. Even Valentine's Day has become a joke. Rose sales plummeted with 58% of flowers remaining unsold.

[00:06:15]Restaurants saw cancellations and emotional hotels had an occupancy rate over 70%. The truth behind all of this is too ironic. As men started turning the tables, those gold digging women still dreamt of a lavish life. They still believed that as long as they were pretty enough, ATMs would line up to throw money at them. As a result, they went crazy buying memberships for beauty treatments, maxed out credit cards to buy fake Hermes bags, and even signed up for training courses to learn how to sell the PV script. Now, a whole industry has formed around it. These so-called emotion coaches tell girls that if a man doesn't transfer money, he doesn't love you and that you need everything someone else has. But reality slapped them in the face. While brothers were busy investing in themselves, these women were still paying for the capitalist-made princess dream.

[00:07:07]Doesn't it seem ridiculous?

[00:07:12]Some things you only understand after going through them. For the men in Macheng, the biggest pitfall in matchmaking is the women who want to marry to pay off debts. This has been the most discussed topic among my senior colleagues. This year, many women in desperate situations are turning to marriage as a way to quickly pay off debts. They open their mouths and demand high bride prices. Why is this happening? First, the economic environment is worsening. Money is harder to make, but habits of high consumption are hard to change. Second, 2024 has been the year of male awakening. They no longer play the nice guy or easily pay for women's high spending.

[00:07:53]Third, more and more women are using matchmaking and marriage to quickly clear debts. So, I warn the honest older men in Macheng, don't let your long-held feelings be taken advantage of by someone with bad intentions.

[00:08:07]She answered, "Older women don't I'm 32 years old, single, and a full-time ride-share driver. I have external debts, so I don't dare to start a relationship. I feel I'm too old now, too. But what's the connection between debt and dating? I mean, I have a lot of debt. I'm afraid the other person will care about that when dating. But why would that matter? You could say you don't have debt. Who's going to verify?

[00:08:31]Everyone's in debt these days. Honestly, most people who say they don't owe anything are lying. The issue isn't debt, it's whether you're a credit risk.

[00:08:41]And that can be checked. Debt is the new normal. Even I'm making money and still up to my neck in debt. Why? Because I want to protect myself. Rich people do that, too. They make their companies look heavily indebted even if they're cash rich. They're protecting their assets in case someone investigates. I went on a date once and told the girl up front about my debt. After that, she just disappeared. Yeah, that's because the way you said it made her feel like you were hinting she should help you pay it back. You think you're being honest, but it sounds like a trap. That's like if you're walking past a Louis Vuitton store and say to the guy beside you, "Wow, that bag is so pretty."

[00:09:21]He hears that and thinks, "She expects me to buy that?"

[00:09:25]We're done.

[00:09:27]You call that sincerity, but your understanding of the world may be a bit off.

[00:09:31]So, here's some advice. Guys, don't randomly take girls window shopping.

[00:09:36]You're just setting yourself up. But no, your debt doesn't make you unlovable.

[00:09:41]Lift your head, be confident, girl. Go fight for what you want.

[00:09:48]This morning, a woman arrived with long black hair, big waves, and high heels, walking in as if she were the most beautiful person on Earth, speaking in a tone even worse than athlete's foot. She pompously opened her mouth and said, "Do you have any immature men here?"

[00:10:06]I asked, "What kind of immature guy are you looking for?"

[00:10:09]She replied, "I want someone with capability and a big vision.

[00:10:14]He can be older than me by over 10 years, but must appear young and comfortable."

[00:10:19]I thought to myself, "This woman clearly thinks she's been spoiled by luxury and her appetite is big." Then she started boasting like a peacock. "My ex-boyfriend was so rich and handsome, treated me so well. He drove an amazing car, bought me a house. Now I'm definitely looking for someone as good as he was."

[00:10:38]Well, she had demands and I thought, "Okay, we allow all requests." I continued, "We are a membership-based service. You need to sign a contract and pay before we proceed with matching services."

[00:10:51]Her face immediately changed. "What? You girls charge fees here? I went to other companies and they matched me up without paying. They said with my figure and face, it was easy to find a match."

[00:11:04]I asked, "Then why didn't they find someone for you?"

[00:11:07]She replied, "Because the ones they found were too shallow. I at least need someone earning 300,000 per year with a house. The car must be worth over 500,000, approximately $70,000."

[00:11:21]I couldn't help but laugh. "What? You're expecting a big spender, but don't even want to pay the registration fee? You have a bigger sense of entitlement than a dog. You think the rich man is going to look at you just because you have this high bar? Why should I provide you with such high-quality men for free? Is this a dream you're having?"

[00:11:41]I told her, "You're not suitable for this marriage service. People come to us looking for a serious partner. With your demands, you might as well stay out of here."

[00:11:54]Are divorced men all bad men? Let me say something from the heart. Most divorced men have suffered deeply. Out of 100 divorced men, about 99 were passively divorced. The pain they carry inside, no one truly understands. Some were betrayed by their partners, others were belittled or looked down upon. In the end, not only were they divorced, they also had to endure gossip and ridicule from relatives. Yet some women generalize everything saying, "All divorced men are trash." claiming they lack responsibility, but that's far from the truth.

[00:12:31]Look online, it's mostly women posting pictures of divorce papers and badmouthing their exes. Men, on the other hand, rarely make a big scene out of it. From this, you can already tell that in most divorces, it's the man who respects marriage and emotions more.

[00:12:48]Even when walking toward divorce, they try to preserve their last shred of dignity. No matter how much pain they're in, they swallow it silently. They can get through those lonely nights with alcohol, but can't escape the emptiness of walking alone through deserted streets. Some men even think about becoming monks to escape the chaos of the world. But just as they're about to let go, they think of their children, the hopeful look in their eyes, and stop in their tracks.

[00:13:17]For divorced men, their parents and children become their biggest motivation to hang in there. They reflect deeply on what went wrong in their previous relationship and work even harder in their career, constantly improving themselves. But most divorced men, after going through all that, feel like fate is playing tricks on them. They shut their hearts tightly, afraid to love again and get hurt again. Unless they meet a woman who truly shares their values and outlook on life, they'll rarely open up again.

[00:13:49]Having gone through the fall of a marriage, they value genuine love even more and understand better how to care for it. Whether they choose to remarry or stay single, they will still strive to live a better life. On the other hand, some women who made mistakes in marriage, who betrayed and defamed their husbands, never recognize the kindness they once received. They don't reflect or grow, they only become greedier and more critical.

[00:14:16]For women like that, it becomes harder and harder to find someone who truly treats them well.

[00:14:22]Even if they remarry, chances are things will go downhill.

[00:14:26]Love is fair. If you hurt others before, eventually you'll have to pay the price.

[00:14:31]So, if you're in a broken and painful relationship right now, please believe this. If you can survive this hard chapter, life will surely reward you with something sweet.

[00:14:46]No wonder there are so many older single women in Nanning. This morning, I'm at the People's Park matchmaking corner in Nanning. Looking around, 90% of the people here are women or their parents, all of them over 32 years old. I looked at their profiles and there are doctors, teachers, and people from state-owned enterprises with good qualifications.

[00:15:08]So, why can't they find a partner?

[00:15:10]Because they all want a man who is over 175 cm tall, has a bachelor's degree, owns a full-paid house and car, has a stable job, earns over 200,000 per year, has emotional stability, and is intelligent, maybe even an actor. But the number of men who can meet these requirements is very few. The key issue is that some men actually meet these criteria, but they just want a young, beautiful girl around 25 years old. What can you do?

[00:15:45]These gold-digger girls are getting desperate. They practically want to snatch men off the street now.

[00:15:50]Why?

[00:15:52]Two main reasons.

[00:15:53]First, the economy is going downhill and there aren't enough rich guys left. Just the other night I went out for drinks around 9:00 p.m. and there were still a bunch of girls hanging around. Normally, by that hour, they would have been all picked. Later, the girl I called over told me, "It's really hard to get by these days, even for professional escorts. So, for regular girls, it's even harder.

[00:16:17]There just aren't enough big brothers with money. Now, even the second brothers and third brothers are in high demand. You just open a dating app with a little cash and there's a flood of girls asking for red envelopes and travel reimbursements. Second, there are just way too many women trying to fish for gold. Ever since that one so-called alpha woman blew up online last year, tons of girls started taking female growth courses. Now, the number of girls out to fish for men has exploded like bamboo shoots after rain. The first batch didn't even finish fishing and the next wave is already here. Too many wolves, not enough meat, massive internal competition. And who suffers the most in the end? Ordinary guys.

[00:17:03]In recent years, material pressure in dating and marriage in China has been mounting, especially among the younger generation. According to a report by People's Daily, over 55% of Chinese youth aged 25 to 35 said they feel extremely stressed when facing financial expectations in dating and marriage.

[00:17:25]Meanwhile, a 2023 survey by Jillian Jobin found that 83% of young urban workers have to work overtime every week. Yet more than 60% still struggle to make ends meet, especially in first-tier cities like Beijing and Shanghai. The pressure of work, the burden of buying a home, caring for elderly parents, raising children, all these factors are pushing young people away from marriage. On social media, trends like lying flat and no marriage, no children are spreading rapidly.

[00:17:58]In this context, dating is no longer just a matter of the heart. It has quietly become a competition of assets, status, and social expectations.

[00:18:09]Videos like the one you just watched are only the tip of the iceberg. Behind demands for bride price, house, car, lies a whole generation struggling between hope and harsh reality. What do you think about today's young generation in China? How can love survive in a society overwhelmed by money and pressure?

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