Why Gen Z and Millennials Aren’t Having Kids

Added: 2026-05-29

[00:00:00]55 years old. I don't regret my decision.

[00:00:02]>> I understand why people are child-free by choice now.

[00:00:05]>> I've been raising people my entire life.

[00:00:08]I don't want to do it anymore.

[00:00:09]>> The birth rate is declining because women finally said hell no to being unpaid incubators in a rigged system.

[00:00:16]>> People aren't having kids anymore and this whole child-free by choice movement is growing. And not just that, between the marriage rates dropping, birth rates decreasing, and more people embracing this dual income no kids lifestyle, it's clear that something is changing. That's exactly what we'll be getting into in this video. videos. If you like this kind of content, be sure to subscribe and let's get right into it.

[00:00:32]>> When I tell people I don't want kids, they always say one of three things to me. One, who's going to take care of you when you get older? I would never bring another human being into this world just with the intention of them caring for me.

[00:00:40]>> Yeah, that shouldn't be your expectation. You shouldn't have kids for the sole fact of, well, somebody has to look over me when I get old. There are centers. There's centers for you to go to, but you shouldn't bring life into this planet just so you can have a safety net. You can have someone looking after you. It should be more intentional than that and not more of that selfish reasoning. Number two, you're going to wake up one day and regret it. Maybe, but I would rather regret not having something than have a child that I don't think that I want and then regret that, >> which I respect. I have a high respect for people who openly say, "I do not want children," and then they don't have children. That seems like the actual like responsible thing to do rather than sit here and say, "I don't want children, but I'm still going to have them."

[00:01:22]class, you and I and everybody around us. I want us to look around at how many people we know who grew up in toxic families, who grew up with a mother and a father in a home, but not a mom and a dad. Who grew up in situations where their parents act like they didn't even want them or that they were a n they were a nuisance just existing. We all know that to be the case. So, I find respect in someone that says, "Hey, I don't want to be a parent and I'm not going to be a parent." That makes a lot more sense to me than someone who's just having a kid on accident. A planned kid, whether you're planning to have the kid or planning to not have a kid, is just way more responsible to me than someone again who's just having a kid on accident.

[00:01:57]>> Aren't you scared you're going to miss out on being a parent? I am going to miss out on being a parent. I know so many good, happy, loving parents that being a parent fulfills them in a way that nothing else could. I do not think that that is my journey and I will never know. You cannot miss something that you do not have. We all miss out on something. Yes, I am going to miss out on being a parent. You're going to miss out on years of peace and quiet and being able to do whatever you want.

[00:02:18]minimal responsibilities and a lot of freedom.

[00:02:20]>> Valid. Again, I'm not a parent yet, but I can acknowledge and sit back and say, "Okay, it's a whole another lifestyle."

[00:02:26]Like, your life literally changes. We all can agree on that. Your life changes when kids come in. I'm not saying for the worse. I'm just saying your life quite literally changes. And there are people out there that enjoy how their life is now. Now, you can say, "Oh, well, you have be more fulfilled with children. You'll be this. You'll be that." Sure. But if this person's happy, just let them be happy and do their own thing. And just because someone is saying they openly don't want kids doesn't mean they're clowning on you or hating you. No, I don't assume that to be the case. There seems to be a a large amount of people that get offended. They get angry at other people who don't want children. And I don't I don't that doesn't make sense to me. And I'm sure we'll get into later in this video about there being adults who just hate children. That's a little excessive. But again, I just I this makes sense. I respect this. If you're openly saying you don't want kids, I like how my life is now. I have more goals and dreams and more things I want to do as a single adult.

[00:03:21]What's the problem with that? Because yeah, your life is changed. This person just said minimal responsibilities and lots of freedom. Not to say if you have kids and you have a family, you don't have freedom. However, there's more people in your family. There's more things to take account of. There's more things that are changing. Like your life does change and we can't sit here and ignore that. Cuz she's admitting this.

[00:03:39]She's saying, "Yeah, yeah, I'll miss out on having church, but how can I miss out on something I don't have?" It's kind of reminiscent of like you don't know what you have until it's gone. You don't know the sheer amount of freedoms and everything that you have right now until the baby gets here then you're like damn maybe in hindsight looking back before I had a baby I would have did this this and this. Again not saying you you regret your baby or any decision you made no but your life literally changes.

[00:04:05]>> We are both able to have wonderful different lives and that is okay.

[00:04:08]>> You are able to have different lives and that's okay. I've never understood this narrative of like crapping on people who are saying that they're child free. And there is this notion of like childare, that wording being similar to like debtree and like mortgage free. Kind of like you're free of a nuisance. You're free of this extra thing on your plate.

[00:04:30]But if we're taking away our ego, we're taking away our emotions and our feelings that yeah, it's child-free. When you have a child, you have a laundry list of other things you need to take care of, other things you need to take into consideration. Not to say anything is bad, but removing your ego, removing your emotions from the situation at hand, it is a different life. And you're allowed to live different lives, and that's okay.

[00:04:51]>> AI, I need you to bring the heat and go full feminist rage mode. Why is the birth rate really declining? Tell us the truth, even if it's harsh.

[00:05:00]>> Oh, you want the real reason? Buckle up.

[00:05:02]The birth rate is declining because women finally said hell no to being unpaid incubators in a rigged system.

[00:05:08]For centuries, women were cornered, trapped into motherhood by economic dependence, lack of education, religious manipulation, and straight up coercion.

[00:05:17]Okay, let's unpack this together. Again, we're moving our ego. We're removing emotion. This channel right here, we look at all sides and we break down different issues and we talk about it.

[00:05:26]We commentate on it. There is some truth to this matter. Okay, if we're looking back to the mid 1900s, we're talking like 1950s, '60s, '7s. You did, we did live in a world where you married whoever was in proximity. There was no like really online dating. You married your high school sweetheart, married young, you married whoever you were around. That was that life. And a lot of women were expected to be stay-at-home mothers. A lot of women were kind of trapped in these marriages. And we see that play out now with the sheer amount of divorces, the sheer amount of broken families, the sheer amount of lavender marriages, the sheer amount of people we see together that absolutely like hate each other, but they're married because they have to be. The sheer amount of women who speak up and share their experiences about being that's another video. Be sure to subscribe. Feeling trapped in a marriage, financially dependent on a marriage. These are things that that have been disclosed and people are talking about. And guess who's witnessing all of it? Us. Gen Z, millennials, even like early early like Gen X. Like we're seeing what older people went through. The amount of charades that were at play, the amount of unhappiness that they have off their life looking back and more people are saying hell no. Not to say I don't like marriage, but it is to say they're having more of an option.

[00:06:47]They're taking things slower. They're really analyzing the world around them and saying, "Do I really want this for me?" instead of rushing into something because society said so, because religion says so, because everybody else is doing it.

[00:07:01]How many people do you know that rushed into a marriage?

[00:07:05]How many people that you know that rush into having a kid because that's what you're supposed to do, who have no business having a kid, have no business being married. It It's the unfortunate truth. How many parents have we seen get divorced? How many of you all have divorced parents? How many of you all grew up in a household where you're looking like, "Damn, this is not what I thought marriage was. Having kids was chat lowkey spitting."

[00:07:31]>> We've got degrees, bank accounts, plan B, and voices that won't shut up. We're watching our moms and grandmas burn out, broken bodies, lost dreams, doing emotional labor no one paid them for, and we're saying, "Nah, not like that."

[00:07:43]what I was just saying. We're seeing a lot of moms, seeing a lot of grandmas look back on their life and reflecting like, damn, this I did not live a life for me. I am not fulfilled. Not to say they are regretful of their children.

[00:07:55]No, they love their children. They love what they've built, the memories. They love all that. But it is to say in hindsight, looking back, hm, maybe I would have done things a little bit differently. Maybe I would have chose a different partner. Maybe I would have gone about certain these situations in a different way. There is some truth to that. We see how capitalism leeches off motherhood while offering no real support. No paid leave, no free health care, no child care, and still expects us to pop out babies while smiling through postpartum depression and a wage gap.

[00:08:23]>> I'll in on the expecting to have babies part. Like you're like we're as a society, we're like, "Oh my gosh, birth rates declining." Like when it comes to this world, the world we live in right now financially, buying a house and having a kid seems like kind of crazy.

[00:08:36]It does. People feel not really wanting to bring a kid into this world. People feel like it'd be like financially irresponsible to bring a child into this world. There are some people out there like, "Oh, have as many kids as possible that are within reach." But damn, do you blame them for not for at least trying to get on their feet to at least not struggle?

[00:08:54]>> Modern women are asking, "Do I want a baby or do I want to raise a grown man who thinks wiping the counter counts as helping?"

[00:09:03]Now, this isn't to say there isn't a trend of like real men growing out there, cuz there are. There are way more emotionally available men out there, way more men that are helpful around the house and like the thing. Well, that's another video. Subscribe. We have so much fun over here. I love these kind of videos. We're seeing more men step up to the occasion. However, we do see a lot of men not we see a lot of men uh get shrouded in this toxic masculinity uh fake alpha male BS when really they're just like acting like a beta. Honestly, we're seeing we do see situations where some men are so emotionally like unavailable, so filled with trauma from their childhood, from their parents, from their dads who expect everything under the sun from them, who are just dealing with a lot and is just repressed with work and this and that and this and that. And there are a lot of men out there that are dealing with mental health issues and it's not being addressed in the way that it should. So, hell, women are like, "All right, bet. I I I'm taking care of me." So, yeah, the birth rate is declining. And this video specifically is talking about like the child-free movement and people optionally choosing not to have kids, but I will have another video discussing infertility rates and that being an aspect of why the birth rate is declining because so many people are even struggling to have kids in the first place. So, we'll get in that in another video, but this video specifically, we're going to be focusing on the people who are child-free by choice and openly saying, "Hey, I don't want a kid to begin with." Kids are cool and all, but have you ever seen the lifestyle of a dink that's double income, no kids couple? Like, that is literally birth control. I know a few people who are dinks and I follow them on Instagram. So, every now and then I'll see what they're up to. And from what I can tell, they take all the money that most couples would put towards their kids and they put it towards luxury. Like anytime I open an Instagram story, it feels like they're traveling somewhere, always staying in a beautiful resort, ocean view. When they're not traveling, this is why like gay couples, obviously most older gay couples are dinks, dual income, no kids. They're making the economy go round. They're spending so much money on travel and trips and their houses and the cars and the luxury. It's lit. Dual income, no kids, is pretty lit. Um, and that's I'll talk about that, too. Like the the differences in like a gay marriage and a straight marriage, specifically for men, because I do find a gay relationship and gay marriage is two dudes that are just grinding. Oh, no homo. Two dudes that are just like grinding at work, you know? They're working hard on their careers. that they're really going after it and they're having fun and they both have fat incomes and they're just living it up life. This does exist for straight people too. Woman excelling in her corporate career, man excelling in his career or entrepreneurship, whatever it may be, and they're raking it in and like, "Well, damn, I don't want kids." I knew a couple like this growing up. It was my my school counselor and um it's the marketing teacher. They were together and they still like they're not having kids. They have no plan to have kids partially because all their kids are the students. They look at them as children, like a new round of children every year. They're pouring into them all the life advice and and tips and all that. But they're living their life, traveling, doing their own thing. And you can't be mad at it. There are people that say, "Hey, in my life, I don't feel this motherly instinct, fatherly instinct. I don't want children. I'm going to pour into those around me, and I'm going to live my life. I'm going to travel the world. I'm going to do this, this, this, and that." Not to say you can't do that with a child, but a hell of a lot different. Okay? They chose that route and that's okay for them to do. You get to see their gorgeous apartment that's in like a luxury high-rise building with views of the skyline. And when they socialize, they're at like the most expensive restaurants. They're doing like excursions. It's just interesting because if you think about how expensive a child is, if you take that totally out of the equation, you have so much more disposable income. Like I was reading on Reddit how expensive child care is, and all these people were saying they pay like 20 to $30,000 per year per child on daycare. And that's just child care. But even still, imagine how many nice vacations you could go on with $30,000 extra dollars a year.

[00:12:52]>> I mean, yeah, this guy has a point.

[00:12:54]Again, none of this I don't want like people to get like overly emotional and triggered about this video, but like I I'm for real, your life is different with no children. It is. It's like they're two different lives. When you have that extra money, you're not paying for extra flight ticket there and back.

[00:13:10]You're not paying for child care. You're not paying for the extra clothes. You're not paying for travel ball. You're not paying for gymnastics. Obviously, the money goes somewhere else and some people find that attractive.

[00:13:21]>> Hi, I'm 33 and I have no kids and I have no kids by choice and I don't want kids.

[00:13:28]Um, I personally don't think this creator um did anything wrong having kids in her 30s. I don't think there is a perfect time to have kids. I don't think you'll ever be ready to have kids.

[00:13:39]Um, as long as you wanted kids, then you're good. You're solid.

[00:13:43]>> I push back on that, too. There are couples that are ready for children.

[00:13:46]Maybe not mentally, maybe not like that ready for the life change, but financially, there's different there's different couples that are ready. There's couples that are actively planning and ready for a child. They got the empty room ready.

[00:14:01]They got the income. They done mapped out everything. They're saying, "Yes, I'm ready for a child." That's way more ready than someone having a kid on accident.

[00:14:08]>> Just fine. But me personally, I don't want kids. I've never wanted kids. You see my house? It's beige as [ __ ] cuz I don't have kids. My dog, she's not here right now, but she's beige. She fits the aesthetic. I don't I I'm too selfish to have kids.

[00:14:25]Plain and simple. I'm too selfish to have kids. And that's just because I was raised in um a Latino household where I practically raised my brothers and sisters, including my mom. I raised her, too. So, I've been raising people my entire life. I don't want to do it anymore.

[00:14:42]>> That's a unique perspective there. And we know these type of people out there.

[00:14:46]We have these friends. We see them around where they spent their whole life raising their siblings fighting day in and day out, especially coming from big families. Fighting day in and day out with all your little siblings, with your parents, and now you want to live a life of peace. Like like you want to live a life not raising anybody, not taking after anybody. You just want to be alone. There are people like that. And that's a valid reason. If you're growing up constantly just taking care of your children, your children damn near your children, taking care of your siblings, picking them up from practices, dealing with them, babysitting them all the time where you never got to really live. You never got to just be free and not worry about anything.

[00:15:26]Makes sense that as an adult, you're like, you know what? No, I don't want kids. I've been raising people my whole life. I don't got time for this no more.

[00:15:32]That's a fair point. I think my favorite part about not wanting kids has become watching people's brains shortcircuit when you tell them that you don't want kids. It's almost like you witness them lag in real time and they'll try to search for like some automated response.

[00:15:44]And I'll counter their argument with very legitimate reasoning as to why I don't want to be a parent, which by the way, not wanting to be a parent should be the number one reason for not being a parent. Like I'll mention how much I like my freedom and independence and they'll almost try to gaslight me into thinking that those aren't qualities about my life and about myself that I actually enjoy. This is and for the record, I want children. I can't wait to have children. But I will say the reaction that people that don't want kids get is very interesting. Now, I'm all for having children and, you know, populating the earth. However, it's okay to be someone that doesn't want kids, especially knowing how many broken homes there are. Kids growing up with family trauma. Kids growing in a homes with moms and with with mothers and fathers but no mom and dad. The most responsible thing someone can do that doesn't want children is to not have children.

[00:16:33]Somehow a child would make all of those things better. Like, no. I've called my friends that have kids and listen to nothing but non-stop screams on the other end of the phone. But who's going to take care of you when you're older?

[00:16:45]Me? I don't know. Why would I put that burden on somebody that I didn't even want to bring into this world? Having a child is the best decision I ever made.

[00:16:52]Yeah, because it was the last real decision that you ever made. Every decision after that decision has been for that child or with that child in consideration.

[00:17:03]Yeah. Yeah. But even me before even having a kid, I'm making decisions that are for my future life and for my kids kids. That's just me. So, I push back a little bit there. But yeah, your life is different. to avoid this conversation like the plague because I didn't like being interpreted as abnormal for not wanting to have kids. But now I just kind of find it funny to see how this is like incomprehensible to most parents.

[00:17:25]Like every parent has a set of pre-programmed responses already to go and when you say that you don't want to have kids, they just pull from that. Saw this response on my Instagram. I did a poll and I'm like, "Hey, how many of you guys don't want kids?" And then people were someone responded and said, "This is Satan's Satan's work. Satan did this and the woke patriarchy and this this and that and leftism. I'm like or someone just doesn't want to have a kid.

[00:17:50]Since when does someone not want to have a kid make you praising Satan? Some parents out there are really dramatic.

[00:17:56]Some parents are dramatic and they're doing the gaslighting because I'm keeping it real. There's a lot of people out there right now who had kids on accident that are jealous of people who are optionally choosing they don't want to have children because they have been and have made a more responsible decision. They've been careful about their Willy Whwhacker and where they're putting it, where they sticking it, what's covering it. They're being very careful with reproducing cuz they know they don't want children. And there's a lot of parents out there that never wanted to be a parent and or didn't want to be a parent yet, had a kid on accident, and are jealous of the lifestyle that these people are living.

[00:18:35]That's my interpretation. That's what I'm seeing a lot of. It is sad, but I'm seeing jealousy out there. I'm seeing people who, again, not saying you hate your children, but are saying, especially the unplanned uh pregnancies, the unplanned kids, the the pe the parents that had kids with somebody they hate now. Oh, they're like, "Damn, my whole life is changed right now. Where would it be if I didn't make those decisions?" Not to say I don't like my children. You they're the biggest blessings in your life. I get it. I understand that. I'm not a parent yet, but I can respect that. But looking back, you're like, "Damn, this guy's doing it right."

[00:19:13]>> I'm not kidding when I say this, but one of the biggest things I took away when I had children was, "Oh, I understand why people are child-free by choice." Now, I'm going to out myself and say that I I genuinely didn't understand that cuz as a woman, and I don't want to say like I'm I'm not ascribing to societal gender norms, but like as a woman that grew up with a mom that was a stay-at-home mom and just kind of thought that I that thought that's what you did. You just had kids and and that's fulfilling and I couldn't wait and I loved babies.

[00:19:42]>> That is interesting, too. There are a lot of women that have been programmed.

[00:19:46]Um, yes, I understand and there's a whole like religious aspect to it. I understand that women can bear uh kids and bring life into the planet. It's a very special thing. However, a woman's not I'm a gay man saying this. A woman's not only as good as her vagina is. A woman can bring more value to this earth, to this planet, than just producing life.

[00:20:08]Am I crazy for thinking that? Am I wrong? Are we saying all women are good for is producing? They are the only ones that can produce. So, you kind of deduct it to that. Sure. but they can offer more to this planet and to this world than just that.

[00:20:21]>> And I used to think that there might be that just like that woman that didn't want that that maybe I don't know I didn't understand them. And I kind of thought I don't want to say less of them, but I just thought like, oh, you and I don't vibe. I don't I don't get it. Why would you not want this? And then as I got older, like I'm in my mid30s now and I had kids, I go like, "Oh, like those women just really [ __ ] knew themselves and they are extremely emotionally mature women and men that don't want kids." But I'm speaking specifically to women cuz we put that pressure on women mostly. I'm like, you know yourself, you know your limits, you know your boundaries. You uh are putting prioritizing yourself, your happiness, your health, and you're not following society's rules. You're giving everyone a big fu. And that takes a lot of courage, too. That makes sense. Like when Chad GBT went on that random beginning of this video, this perspective of a woman who knows herself and says, "Hey, I'm not going to be a good mom. I do not want children.

[00:21:15]Therefore, I'm not going to have children." That seems responsible to me.

[00:21:19]And there are people out there like, "Oh, well, you can change and that might change and you won't know until you're a mother."

[00:21:27]Come on. If there's someone out there that knows good and well they want to be a mother, the opposite can also be a fact. There are people out there that do not want to be a mother and they know that for a fact.

[00:21:37]>> So, I have so [ __ ] much respect for again women, but mostly women that um that are able to go against uh everything that society tells them they should do and just say, "No, [ __ ] it. I don't want to deal with this shit." It's a lot. This [ __ ] is a lot of [ __ ] So, um yeah, if you're not I I think if you're not 110% committed to being a mom, don't do it. You have to want it with every fiber of your being or you're going to resent that choice.

[00:22:04]>> And that's what I was getting to with the people being jealous, resentful, regretful, which I'm going to do a video on. I'm sure there's people out there admitting this, but like on camera, too.

[00:22:15]It's kind of crazy, but the people that regret having children, but all in all, this lines up. If you don't want to be a mother and you become a mother, and then there's someone who doesn't want to be a mother and they don't become a mother, which one seems more responsible? the one that didn't want to have kids and they didn't have kids. But if you sitting here and saying, "I don't want kids. I'm not going to be a good mother." Then you have kids. Either A, you're going to change or B, you're going to be a horrible mom.

[00:22:40]People act like horrible moms don't exist.

[00:22:42]>> Never wanted kids and now 55 years old.

[00:22:44]I don't regret my decision. There will be a lot of people who will tell you that you will regret your decision, but there are many of us 50 plus, who never have kids, who are living our best lives. And before Angry MC trolls a lot gets into the comments, let me just predict some of the things that they're going to say. I'm good at this. No, I don't have a house full of cats. No, I'm not sad and hiding my sadness. No, I'm not depressed. No, I'm not on depression medicine.

[00:23:11]>> Which how many mas you know just sit here on ambient and whine? How many mothers you know resent their husbands?

[00:23:17]How many mothers you know just don't like their lives? There's a lot of that and that bleeds into the children. So, when you got a group of 55year-old plus people talking about I don't have kids and I'm still happy. I don't I don't regret my choice. Like, I'm chilling.

[00:23:30]That's fine.

[00:23:31]>> Trauma. Yes, I grew up in a loving home.

[00:23:33]Yes, I'm in a long-term relationship.

[00:23:35]No, I don't care about my legacy. Weird thing to care about. Yes, I want people to have children if they want children.

[00:23:41]Yes, I like children. No, I don't feel sad. No, I don't feel lonely. No, I don't feel empty. No, I don't care if I die on my deathbed alone. No, my parents don't think I've robbed them of grandchildren. No, I don't care about the decline in the population. No, I don't think you should feel sorry for me. And no, I don't care what you think.

[00:24:00]Was I 18? I got 18. There'll be more.

[00:24:03]Listen, you're going to have a lot of loud voices coming at you on this topic.

[00:24:07]But the only voice that you should pay attention to is your own. Should always be the louder.

[00:24:12]>> Is your voice. You know what's right for you. You know if if you want to go on the route of having children. Some people like, "Oh, I didn't know." or they're the biggest blessing. They changed my life. Yeah. Well, sometimes that doesn't happen.

[00:24:24]It doesn't. And there are people out there old, not just saying this person's old, 55 is young, older. There are parents out there that are older.

[00:24:34]They're saying, "Hey, I check all the boxes. I love kids. Love my family. Grow up in a perfectly fine home. All the things. I just don't want kids. And I'm happy. Me and my spouse are chilling."

[00:24:43]If I feel like again if you are mad if you are mad at a grown adult, single grown adults who chose to be child-free, you're jealous of them.

[00:24:56]You have things to work out for yourself. Why are you like this invested in someone else's life? You're this angry at someone else's life for being happy and chill and child-free by choice. I feel like the only logical reason behind that is because you're resentful of your own life and the own children that you have. I'm I'm Don't shoot the messenger. If you the shoe fits, it fits. If you feel some type of way, I'm sorry, but now you got some things to address in your life. You do. And some thoughts. but child-free by choice. Coming from I'm glad I'm here, but coming from toxic ass parents, yes, I have respect for someone who doesn't want to have a child because then they're going to breed a toxic lifestyle. Yeah. Like this. Like just child-free by choice.

[00:25:55]Especially the people that aren't clowning on children, aren't clowning on the parents.

[00:26:00]High respect. High respect. I have three kids of my own. First one was an accident. Second one was an accident. Third one was an accident. I love my children. I can't explain it how I would literally die for them um in a heartbeat. Um I didn't think I would ever love something so much. And I didn't even think I wanted to be a mom. And literally, I cannot imagine my life without them. But if you don't have kids, don't do it.

[00:26:36]Don't do it.

[00:26:37]>> Not to spit up again. Especially coming from the people who are having kids on accident. That's honest. And it's I feel bad for the child. Like especially like when you come across kids who they know like they were an accident versus they were planned.

[00:26:54]These kids were an accident and the mom's like, "Don't do it, y'all. It's a lot of work." on one end the comments are ripping her up and on the other end the comments are like, "Well, thank you for your honesty. Thank you for being real and transparent and saying that yeah, I love my children. I give my life for my children, but I had them all on accident." And looking back in hindsight, I would have done things a little bit differently. It's a mom saying don't have children. But specifically, this is a mother who had kids on accident saying that. And that's a clear distinction that that does matter because they're having kids on accident which I think again this is a lot coming from a gay man who has sex and doesn't bear children I find a little irresponsible to have children on accident. I do. I do.

[00:27:37]If it's a complete accident and you had no business having a children, your whole life is readjusted now and you had to figure out finances and this and that. That was a little irresponsible.

[00:27:48]It was and it's those parents it seems to be that are the ones either always ain't the angry ones or like well end up being saying hey you don't do this this is very hard work and looking back I would have made different decisions >> so I'm child-free by choice and everyone always says like what's your purpose if you don't have kids what's your purpose my purpose is getting my nails done um going shopping treating myself look at this new bag I just got from Goyard.

[00:28:19]Stunning. Um, this new sweatuit I got from Aloe. And being sober, traveling, I don't know, taking naps. Have you ever taken a nap? It's like the funnest thing ever. It's so nice. I enjoy naps a lot.

[00:28:32]So, don't say I don't have purpose just cuz I don't have kids. How dare you?

[00:28:37]>> You You can have purpose without having children. You can't. Matter of fact, this makes me want to look this up.

[00:28:43]Let's look up the most impactful people with no kids. Sir Isaac Newton had no kids, impacted the earth. Nicola Tesla, no kids, impacted the earth. Oprah Winfrey completely changed the media landscape and all her accomplishments.

[00:28:59]No children. Dolly Parton very much impacted the world. Has theme parks dedicated to children and pours her life and soul into children. Uh free books, everything. No children. Um Van Go, no children. Riot Brothers, no, no children. There's a lot of value someone can bring to this planet without having children. So, she gave some silly reasons like I want to I love napping, getting my nails done. Her purpose in her life is fulfilling herself. But there that is to say, yes, there are people out there that don't have children where their purpose is pouring back into the world. That can be a thing that does exist. And just because your sole purpose is your children and your offspring does not dispute or or get rid of someone else's purpose that doesn't have children. You're allowed to have purposes in this life that doesn't include your own children. And just because there's someone else out there that has fulfilled their purpose externally instead of to their offspring. Doesn't make them a bad person. Doesn't make them wrong. There have been very impactful people who don't have children. And that is a thing this world has seen. As you know in moderate society, marriage and then kids. Kids tied to marriage. Marriage tied to kids. And that's in my opinion why the birth rate is going down because we don't want to get married anymore because they've shown us like there's a few people like like you you you can look sometimes and see people who are happily married.

[00:30:28]There's a few people like that. But like we know what the cesspool is, right?

[00:30:33]Like Chad was saying in this video, there's women out there looking around like, "Uh, no. I've seen what my parents have gone through. I've seen what other people have gone through. I have a very, very high respect, a very, very high respect for marriage and for that unity.

[00:30:48]And out of respect for that, I'm not getting married cuz I'm not going to repeat what my parents did. I'm not going to repeat what I'm seeing from all around me." There's a lot of people out there who don't have good role models of what a real marriage is. looking around them, their friends, their community.

[00:31:04]There's no good role models of what a marriage is. So, can you blame them? Can you blame younger gen Alpha? Can you blame these millennials for not having kids because they're not married to begin with?

[00:31:14]>> I'm not saying there's no hope for us, but we know what the cesspool is. So, our will to survive and our will to live leads us to be extra careful when it comes to selecting people. And a lot of us would rather be alone. You just can't find that one wholesome person. There's a lot of people out there that would rather be alone than to rush into a marriage, rush into relationship, have a kid, maybe even have a kid on accident.

[00:31:41]There's people that don't want that.

[00:31:42]There's people looking around saying, "Well, you know what? I have a high respect for this. I'm not going to go through all that. So, I'm going to take my time." And they're taking their time because of what the world has shown them. I know for me what a good marriage looks like. I've seen horrible versions and examples. And I've seen great examples. I want to model the great examples. I've seen great ideas of what parenting is pouring into your children and having a big family. I've seen good models of that and I want that. But for the people who haven't seen that, haven't experienced it firsthand, I'm not shocked why they don't want it. It perfectly lines up.

[00:32:13]>> I'd rather be alone and have more of my life than be partnered with somebody where, you know, most of my life, my shortened life is not going to even be happy. That's our logic.

[00:32:26]>> Yeah. How many people you know that were in a marriage for 10, 20, 30 years and they didn't even want to be?

[00:32:34]They got divorced way later on. How much of that life, not so much was wasted, but looking back might have done things a little bit differently. So, with that being said, let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Where do you land on this? Especially the parents. Like, are you someone that completely just doesn't understand the people who are child-free by choice? Are you a parent that respects it, that understands it? Do you regret having children? Not really regret that, not that you regret your children, but do you regret the life you went down? Do you regret getting pregnant young and early? Do you get regret being knocked up? What are the different things you've gone through in your life? I'd love to know your experience down below. And I'm sure others would as well. So again, be sure to subscribe because there way more content out of this coming. Why people are single in their 30s, why parents regret having children, help child free weddings on the rise, that's a big one.

[00:33:22]of why people don't want to get married anymore. There's so much more content coming, so be sure to subscribe. And outside of this video talking directly to you, I hope that you're doing okay. I know the world can be crazy. I know there's a lot going on. I don't know what you're going through right now. Um, family drama, friendship drama, life, uh, work, health issues. I I don't know.

[00:33:40]But I hope that you know that it's called going through it for a reason.

[00:33:43]And you're not stuck there. You will survive. This is the season of your life that will pass, but you have to hold on hope. And you have to understand that like you have to have that will that you'll be okay. You have to calm down.

[00:33:55]You have to take a chill but just breathe.

[00:33:58]Breathe.

[00:34:01]Breathe.

[00:34:03]You will be okay. You can't control what happened to you, but you can control moving forward. Make a plan and execute.

[00:34:11]Make a plan and do what you need to do to fix anything in your life. Family relationships, friend relationships, health issues, debt, whatever it may be.

[00:34:23]Just make the plan. Focus on the plan and go on and you're good. You're good.

[00:34:29]You can't change anything that's happened to you right now. Any anything that's on your plate on your on your shoulders right now, it's there. It's not going anywhere. The only way it's going somewhere is with a plan. Make the plan. Work on the plan. That's all you need to focus on. Put your blinders on.

[00:34:44]Focus on you and only you. Chip away at that plan and your life will be changed.

[00:34:48]Again, doesn't it feel like CO was yesterday?

[00:34:51]It's 2026. CO was 2020. Your come on.

[00:34:57]How much could you have changed your life in those 5 years?

[00:35:02]Went by fast, didn't it? So, with that being said, make the plan. Go after changing your life. And you can and you will. Again, thank you for your time.

[00:35:10]I'm grateful for your support. I'm grateful for you sharing, liking, and subscribing. Means the world to me. And I will catch you in the next video.

[00:35:17]Deuces.