The Absence of a Person is Total Freedom | The No-Show

Added: 2026-05-13

[00:00:15]All right. So, welcome everybody. Here we are. We're sitting together to to bask for this to just be what it is. There's nothing to get. There's no intention or outcome. There's nothing to prove or improve. There's nothing to make better in in the sense of there just being what is in in the naturalness, the simplicity, the ordinariness of what's simply appearing. And of course, we just did a Yoccini session. So, what am I talking about? You know, of course there are things to improve. Of course, there are things to be done. Well, we're we're stepping from, you know, in the language, which the language scape of this is terrible. Of course, you might have noticed, but we're we're dancing between the relative and the absolute and not really, you know, there's the there's the relative landscape which is not denied, avoided or ignored.

[00:01:18]That that is just simply an appearance.

[00:01:20]It is suggested and without certain perceptions we could say which I'll get into in a second that there is only the immediacy and the immediacy can appear as anything but what it doesn't seem to appear as is me. It doesn't really ever appear as me.

[00:01:42]It might seem to appear to be, but but but upon closer investigation without a doer to do that, it seems quite clear that actually every sensation in the body, every feeling, every emotion, every single thing that could ever seem or be deemed to be personal is just an appearance. It's very simple, natural, ordinary appearance. And it doesn't actually belong to anyone. And so everything is freedom. Everything is unconditionally free.

[00:02:20]There's the there's these words, there's the sounds, there's the the sensations in the soles of the feet. And we might come to believe and feel, for lack of a better word, that there's an awareness of all of those things. And that's when this reality seems to be a separate landscape. And this is quite interesting because when it seems like there's an observer or something that is present and aware to life, well then this reality is usually deemed personal. It seems that's how it seems to go that there's the interpretation of an internal observer and that that observer is watching the body. It's watching the screen. It's listening to these words. It's separate from all of that. And it's conscious of it. And that's a an illus. It seems to be an illusory phenomena.

[00:03:15]And what is also apparent is that well you know it can't be said that there's a there's a then and when a now and then situation but in a story line for the sake of storytelling as as though that so-called awareness which is distant from what it appears to be perceiving is not there then all there is is immediacy. All there is is what immediately appears to be happening. And because it's immediately what appears to be happening, meaning that it's not objectified, it's not seen to be something solid, real, separate, or distant.

[00:03:58]There's there's no time or space really because sensation is not localized. It's not located. It's just immediately sensation, but it doesn't actually have a place. It doesn't have a spot where it lives and breathes in and out of. It's just simply raw dynamic pure sensation.

[00:04:21]Yeah. And the thought and thinking is the same. Feelings are the same sensation. It's all exactly the same dislocated no thing really being that sensation and vibration and everything is that.

[00:04:36]So we you know again through conditioning it seems a common phenomena and a common interpretation that thoughts are located sensations are located perception is located everything is located. It has a place it has an origin a source and and what is rather dynamically exposed it would seem in in and around these these sessions is that there is actually no location at all.

[00:05:05]location is an illusion. There's there's no space. There's no actual solid things that that exist in space at all. So whether it's the sensation in the palms right now or whether it's the screen apparently situated in front of the eyes, it's all that spaceless immediate dynamic freedom. Yeah. Now even a thought or upon hearing that when it seems like there's continuity. So these this is saying some words about location and the illusion of it and there could understandably be thoughts saying what on earth are you talking about? What do you mean there's no space? What do you mean there's no location? And and who is it that understands that? Or what is it that seems to be so certain with conviction through these words right now? And that too is the non-located reality being those thoughts, being those ideas and trying to figure that out conceptually.

[00:06:11]But as you can possibly appreciate, this isn't about figuring something out conceptually.

[00:06:17]It's just quite clear that no one stands behind this appearance and this reality.

[00:06:24]And as mad and balmy as that might sound to many conditioned ears, hearts, and minds, it's actually a very compassionate exposure and revelation because the apparency of that leaves the raw impersonal and yet intimate nature of reality exposed. It's naked. It's open to whatever it appears to be without something standing behind it and trying to make it a certain way. The compassionate exposure that there is no separate self really reveals how this that how this naturally is how the reality naturally is. There's still of course practicality appearing as a story line. It it is a story line, but there's still in that story line the appearance of practicality and you know the things that we would all perhaps here like to to you know think we could you know maintain so to speak on a human level not a personal level but a human level the the the qualities of care and tenderness and and looking after people and all those things. So none of that is devout. None of it's taken out of the mix. It's just that it's quite clear that none of this actually revolves around separate people. Yeah. And when there aren't separate people, there's no distance.

[00:07:55]And that is what is suggested to be unconditional love because no distance and no separation is the absence of two. So two dies into one. Oneness is no thing. That's unconditional love. Yeah. The absence of separation which we only illusorally ever illusorily ever felt ourselves to be in a dream of duality. Yeah.

[00:08:26]And that was never a reality. It was never a fact. It was never a thing to be happening or dealt with or solved. It's just already the it's already the case that this is it. And in the this is itness is the is the nothing being required and the everything being allowed and open as it is.

[00:08:54]And so the reason perhaps if there's a reason for anything at all that I emphasize the word basking so much is because there's there's like um a an unperturbable timeless thrum of reality just breathing and being as it naturally is without an agenda to go somewhere else and that is what I would suggest almost every single practice process and pathway is trying to do or initiate or navigate but by stepping into a dualistic paradigm and framework of what's next it can't be practiced processed or pathwayed It's too immediate for such things.

[00:09:40]Yeah. All imaginings of what's next is the overlooking of immediiacy itself.

[00:09:47]Behind those scramblings and attempts to find it is the is the basking that unperturbed thrum of this.

[00:10:00]Yeah.

[00:10:06]It's so so natural.

[00:10:11]Totally natural.

[00:10:19]So we can sit together with that.

[00:10:22]Whatever comes up is welcome. Whether it's through questions or reflections audibly, vocally, verbally, or on on comments in the chat box.

[00:10:45]If I could provide some, you know, not compromising but but fairly dualistic language in its in its innocence without any disclaimers. I really think that what what draws people towards this message and towards these sessions is I is not in the getting anything but just that that nobody needs to do or be anything at all. That that no nobody needs to be anything. Nobody needs to concentrate really really hard on what I'm saying right now. No one or nobody needs to to practice or you know there's just nothing required. You don't need to show up happy or or or joyful or whatever. It's just so open like there's just absolutely nothing required of a body to be a certain way. And this is very I think for many of us there there's a great ease in that because we're perhaps so used to being in places and situations and perhaps for most of our lives that's been the case that we've turned up to places and there is something required.

[00:11:54]We have to be a certain way. We have to wear a certain mask. We have to play games and interact and exchange and validate and be validated and all this stuff. and this this is not in that realm and that that seems to be a great relief I think. Yeah, >> Alex is I think it's the greatest relief.

[00:12:28]Yeah.

[00:12:37]Yeah. And just to comment on what you just said, it also is nothing's being sold.

[00:12:45]>> Oh, yeah. Yeah. and and you know and it seems like these days everyone's selling something you know >> and uh and that energy of nothing being sold is so is kind of part of what I think you were just saying where there's nothing expected also.

[00:13:15]>> Yes. No transaction. Yeah.

[00:13:17]>> No transaction. [laughter] No one to transact.

[00:13:23]>> Yeah. Right. Right.

[00:13:30]>> Understandably, that can be quite disturbing. It's like, hold on a minute.

[00:13:34]What's going on here? What are you really What are you really selling underneath? [laughter] What's going on?

[00:13:47]You must be selling something. Surely [laughter] >> it's um it's really odd cuz um I feel like I what you're saying gets heard and then this kind of energy that kind of wants to work it out and they know I know there's nothing to work out >> and it's kind of just like tumbling around tumbling around. Um, and what's been happening in the story here is a lot of anger kind of like really like rage >> with everything.

[00:14:34]>> Yeah.

[00:14:41]Uh, in a way quite freeing I suppose because that rage doesn't or didn't get expressed before.

[00:14:49]in the story. In the story.

[00:14:51]>> Yeah.

[00:14:58]>> Even being confrontational with people I'm not usually confrontational with.

[00:15:19]Yeah.

[00:15:22]>> Yeah.

[00:15:27]>> And a desire to talk to you.

[00:15:34]>> Yeah.

[00:15:35]>> Just for the sake of it. [laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:15:41]You're so loving.

[00:15:54]was it kind of fl some kind of flavor of of I don't want to say knowing but like the naturalness of it all rather than the kind of chasing something that feels a bit unnatural now but kind of Yeah. I don't know.

[00:16:15]Again, you know, they're kind of stuck in between something and nothing.

[00:16:25]>> Yeah.

[00:16:26]>> But not at the same time.

[00:16:29][clears throat] >> Mhm.

[00:16:34]>> Yeah.

[00:16:46]Whatever. Sorry.

[00:16:47]>> No problem. It's lovely. I mean, I just wanted to respond with there's something very lovely about the love that needs nothing from nobody.

[00:16:59]When there's no agenda, no two sides to meet each other and meet each other's expectations. and whatnot.

[00:17:10]Yeah, this is a very natural love I would suggest.

[00:17:19]Doesn't mean there can't be conflict of course and confrontation and whatnot.

[00:17:24]That's just the way life appears to be. But it's there's no separate positions to uphold those positions and get something from the other etc. Yeah.

[00:17:46]The wonder is is that no one's going wrong or right already. And so whatever appears is naturally this, simply this, ordinarily this. And so if it looks like seeking is happening, then that's what it looks like. But that will never be wrong or right. That will never be more or less anything.

[00:18:04]And there's no real strong solid connotation or correlation.

[00:18:12]Yeah. Correlation.

[00:18:14]The well what I mean by that is you know we might we might think that oh because I because I'm seeking that makes me a me or something you know like the story line that just comes up and oh because that because the body's behaving this way today that means that there's seeking energy involved or because the body's more relaxed today maybe it's not so and all of this is just story stuff. Yeah. The great thing is is that it's all already just what's impersonally dancing in the void. Yeah.

[00:18:49]That's the void. It's the void dancing.

[00:18:53]Yeah. But it's never wrong or right.

[00:18:56]Yeah.

[00:18:57]There's no symptoms to personhood because there isn't one. Yeah. There's no symptoms to absence either. Not really. Only in the stories. Yeah.

[00:19:15]And even the stories aren't really reliable, are they?

[00:19:35]Alexis, did you say the symptoms of the AB? There's symptoms of the absence and that's just the story.

[00:19:43]>> Yeah. Like there as though we could say that there are symptoms to personhood and symptoms to the absence of personhood.

[00:19:58]>> She said there are no I I don't know why I'm trying to translate it.

[00:20:09]Yeah. What what I'm saying is that there aren't really symptoms to being and being, >> right? There are there are symptoms, but none of it's real.

[00:20:23]>> No, it's there's no there's no black and white line. Is my internet okay? I don't know. People I can see smiling faces. I'm not sure if I like am I >> [laughter] >> Yeah, do let me know in the chat box if I'm cutting out or something. Yeah, but um yeah, there there isn't a black and white line. That's the thing. Like it's not like oh because this is happening therefore that you know what I mean? Like it it's so seductive and easy for for bodies to be conditioned to think that oh because because I'm behaving this way that means there's a me and and oh that behavior has stopped happening it stopped showing up that means that perhaps there's less of a me and but there is no me already just so all of that falls apart. Yes, there might be conditioning. There might be habituated thought and feeling patterns, but it's all it's always just the play. Yeah, we can get very stuck and lost in narratives and stories about me and know me and all that stuff, but I I think it's it's uh what's the word? Redundant.

[00:21:52]takes the weight out of it all as well.

[00:21:54]You know, like we could because we so easily think that we have to show up a certain way even if that means not showing up at all. [laughter] Yeah.

[00:22:12]When there really is nothing to wait for and nothing to expect, then nothing is an obstacle. And that's the freedom. So then all emotions and thoughts and feelings are just allowed to express in their in their messiness, in their naturalness, in their explosiveness, dynamicness, and whatever else. And none of it is ever a problem. And that's real freedom, I would suggest. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:22:38]That means that that the emotions and thoughts and feelings or whatever else is appearing can just fully be what it is. And that includes I don't like this.

[00:22:47]Yeah, of course.

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[00:23:15]>> Maybe you could touch again upon the simple and ordinariness of this, >> please.

[00:23:23]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:23:25]So it's simple because [snorts] it's got it it doesn't really seem to have anything to do with knowing anything. So so babies and children just embodying I would suggest this message effortlessly because they're they're not they're not sort of they don't seem to yet have the conditioning up until a certain age at least. They don't seem to have very much of that conditioning of thinking themselves as separate people with really really important things to do and meaningful stories to live by and uphold and all the value system that comes in.

[00:24:03]And I'm not disregarding that stuff, but babies and children for the most part don't really seem to be carrying any of that around. There's just complete spontaneity and immediacy and it's and it's very simple that it's like it's not in the realm of of knowing or understanding anything. It's just the embodiment of whatever is happening. And there's a simplicity in that because it's not something that we've had to learn to do or try to be. It's it's already it's already the case.

[00:24:40]And that's ordinary as well because it because it's not special. It's not something unique. It's not something that can be achieved or attained. So it's it's like the ordinariness of what's appearing to happen right now is it the the sitting and having a conversation here. It's nothing special.

[00:24:59]It's nothing fancy. It could be and it would be you know that would be fine as well but it's just ordinarily chatting listening.

[00:25:13]Yeah, it's so simple and ordinary and natural because it's as well as the other word I I often use them as a trio of the the natural reality is natural, simple and ordinary. so natural because it's again it's not something that could be worked on. It's it's already it's already the case.

[00:25:37]Yeah. Everybody no baby didn't need to practice being a baby is is one way of putting it. You know, a dog doesn't need to practice being a dog. It just is.

[00:25:49]Trees don't practice, you know, growing leaves. They just do.

[00:25:54]And that's that's what it's like really.

[00:25:57]So I'll just sort of round that all up by saying that it I often say in intros and outros that it's too it's it's too simple for understanding. It's too ordinary for imagination and it's too natural for application.

[00:26:18]Yeah.

[00:26:20]Yeah. Cuz all application is trying to get somewhere else. It's trying to improve something. It's trying to make something different. Yeah. But naturally already is it the case.

[00:26:37]>> Thanks.

[00:26:40]>> You're welcome, >> Alexis. I I heard you say on a YouTube video um recently that the illusion is that there is no illusion.

[00:26:54]And [laughter] for some reason when I when I when I heard it, it made sense. And now it came to mind again. And I'm thinking I have no idea why it made sense at the time.

[00:27:06][laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:27:10]I thought, "Oh yeah, I get that." And I'm like, "Oh, I don't get that.

[00:27:13][laughter] Yeah.

[00:27:19]>> Yeah. I think it's a bit like probably it's a bit like there's no me to begin with. Nothing to fall away. There's no me. It kind of feels like on the par with that. But um maybe >> Yeah. It would be equally as amusing to say the illusion is not.

[00:27:40]>> Yeah.

[00:27:41]>> And that's just it. Yeah.

[00:27:43]>> Yeah.

[00:27:47]Yeah, it's like the dream that we had last night. It's not really believed in as a as a fact, as something that actually really manifested. It's it's what is it?

[00:28:00]It's like a whisp of smoke. There's nothing there's nothing really there to to grab or pin down. is that you know most it seems like unless one is a dreamologist and a and a practitioner of analyzing dreams and stuff it seems like I I I'm guessing for most bodies that dreams just fade away throughout the day like that there's barely a recollecting of them unless unless one is trained and and really into recording it it doesn't seem like many dreams seem to stick around they they're gone on almost as soon as they as soon as we wake up. And some of them aren't even recalled. I mean, I barely ever recall my dreams, you know. I hardly ever recall any dreams ever, but if I do, it seems to fade away as the day goes on in the story line, of course. And it's like, what even was that? that there's nothing that's sensed as ever really having happened which I guess is why you know that whole thing that we call me or individual personhood separation it it's it's often called a dream because it is very much like that.

[00:29:17]It's it's never really seen to be something that actually happened at all.

[00:29:21]Yeah.

[00:29:24]Yeah.

[00:29:29]Yeah, that's kind of weirdly happening here because, you know, things happen and then it doesn't really feel like they've happened. [laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:29:37]>> Like a transparency to everything.

[00:29:41]>> Or or a >> or not a realness.

[00:29:47]>> Yeah.

[00:29:48]>> Unrealness kind of.

[00:29:50]>> Yeah. I don't know. Yeah. It's very strange. Can't really describe it.

[00:29:55]Yeah. Well, you know, you talk about like the wisp of smoke and I used to talk about that when in the previous thing that I used to do. I it was seen very clearly here about the whisp of smoke and almost like blowing out a candle and the the kind of the smoke going up and >> but for some reason that kind of that was really known. It was really embodied and very known. And now I just kind of feel like it's not there anymore.

[00:30:23]It's really weird. I can't I can't locate those those things that I really felt were solidly known. They've just kind of >> they've been kind of swept away.

[00:30:35]So when Alexis says the words I'm like a I used to know that >> I know I know that you don't know them either but yeah >> yeah it's that that which seems to be observing which just is its own illusory phenomena its own dreamscape.

[00:31:04]And as though that light bulb of awareness just illusory dims, everything is exactly as it was. It's just no longer sensed as solid anymore.

[00:31:17]Yeah.

[00:31:36]Is stillness a story?

[00:31:40]In a way it is. Yeah.

[00:31:42]In a way it is. It implies something to be continuously still. I mean I can't hear the word stillness without imagining time.

[00:31:53]You know that that stillness and movement seem to both require time and and there isn't really any time and time time and timeline are are yes they are story lines. Yeah.

[00:32:11]So this is why I often say that this reality the natural reality is neither still or moving actually. It's it's not polarized for a start, but it's not it's not spatial or timely. So, it can't really be called stillness or moving without an observer to be seeing change before it. Anything that can appear to change is is seemingly being observed by something saying that, by something viewing its change.

[00:32:45]So yeah, movement and stillness not only being story lines, but perhaps more accurately, they are interpretations.

[00:32:57]Like movement and stillness are interpretations of reality because it looks still or it looks moving from a point of view.

[00:33:09]If there isn't a point of view to see movement or stillness or silence and sound as another polarity, it's neither. It's there's it's neither moving nor still. It's neither sounding nor silent. It's neither up or down.

[00:33:30]It's neither real nor unreal. It's literally unatategorized.

[00:33:36]Yes.

[00:33:43]But of course, language seems to have come out of the it seems to for the most part language seems to at least the English language and many other languages seems seems to have come out of the conditioning of interpreting this reality as separate and dualistic and relative.

[00:34:05]And so language can't talk about non-duality.

[00:34:08]Can't talk about no separation. It can't talk I mean non no duality non-separation. Those aren't labels.

[00:34:16]They're negations. They're the absence of saying what it is. It's saying that is not two. It's not saying that it is one. It's not saying that it is. It's not saying what anything actually. that that's why the language is so sort of amusing and funny when we talk like this because it doesn't really make any sense. It can't be described through language because language for the most part seems to be conditioned by and it seems to be conditioned out of the way in which this reality is mis being mispersceived or separate, dualistic, relative, distant, timely, spatial, autonomous and personal.

[00:35:02]Yeah.

[00:35:12]So the bird, that's why sometimes I say the bird song is singing this song more than these words are. Yeah.

[00:35:22]Yeah.

[00:35:33]Can't remember who said it. You or Jim or But uh everything is equally free from the burden of meaning.

[00:35:46]>> Would you mind just speaking to that?

[00:35:51]The burden of meaning. Yes. Wow.

[00:35:54]That's a that's a potent one.

[00:35:58]I guess the burden of meaning would be this this weight that we as what we perceived to be separate people buried around with us or carry around with us to give us a sense of direction to marry us up to a future where something will be better. That would be the hopebased meaning at least the meaning to my life, the meaning to this reality, the meaning of my actions and how that all seemed to be something important, something of significance and well, it's it's got several layers within it, hasn't it? So what what's also within that is the the sense of being responsible for all of my actions and thoughts and feelings because if I have a meaning to go somewhere else then I have values to uphold and I yeah there's a pressure in that because I have to uphold values I have to behave right and all of those interpersonal things that can seem to come up it's all can be be very very heavy. Yeah.

[00:37:08]Yeah, meaning is a meaning is another form of separation in the same way in the same way free will is a separation of a self and a body for one to have free will over the other. Meaning is a separation in the story between this and that. This means that it's like it's a duality. For there to be meaning, there has to be duality.

[00:37:39]You know, for example, well, think of a religious example or a spiritual one. We've been put here to to evolve and transcend our ego, for example. That's a very popular one nowadays.

[00:37:55]That's the meaning. So, we we there's a here and there's a there where we want to get to and the meaning bridges the two. It's like it's a it's a separation.

[00:38:05]It's a dualistic paradigm. And although that can seem obviously very appealing and attractive, I would suggest that it's a bit of an assault on the nervous system to keep believing in that because it's almost like it's reaffirming and habitually reaffirming that it that this isn't good enough, that this this isn't whole as it is and that, you know, through some kind of effort and progress and work, there could be a transcendence of such things to get to somewhere better.

[00:38:40]The pulling the rug out from all of those stories is not the dismissal of the pain and the hardships of life.

[00:38:46]Rather, it's just seeing that there isn't a separate self to deal with them or to deal badly with them or to not deal with them. They're just what they are.

[00:38:59]And then it's embraced as it really is, I would suggest. And every emotion and thought and feeling and sensation is equal.

[00:39:11]Though the absence of meaning is the absence of what's next really and what might be the absence of trying to be a certain way as well. it seems wanting to get somewhere else.

[00:39:36]So in another sense meaning can also be on the flip side it's apparent dark side of the moon is a sense of luck a sense of incomp completion. What we thought meaning was was something hopeful, something nice, something positive. But on the other side of that is actually a sense that this isn't enough, that it's lacking somehow. And that's why I applied meaning to it. It gave me a sense of completion, but it was a false one.

[00:40:12]Yeah.

[00:40:16]Yeah.

[00:40:19]When this is whole, when this is all, when this is already everything, meaning seems to be become completely redundant.

[00:40:28]Yeah.

[00:40:30]The times in which we were most joyful in our lives, you know, just on a a basic human level, like there was no need for meaning in those in those moments. There wasn't a need for it really.

[00:40:43]It's the times in which we're desperate that we seem to crave that more than the times in which we're content.

[00:40:51]Yeah.

[00:41:10]Who would have thought that the absence of meaning is relief?

[00:41:16]Yeah.

[00:41:19]Of wholeness.

[00:41:22]>> Yeah. That that that I wrote that down because it's just been like [sighs] equally free from the burden of meaning.

[00:41:39]>> Yeah.

[00:41:40]>> Yeah.

[00:41:42]>> Yeah.

[00:41:47]So when what I notice is like when emotions that would have been labeled difficult and sometimes still do get labeled that way. It's like the label that they're difficult is part of the burden of meaning and that they belong to anybody.

[00:42:16]All that seems like the me telling stories.

[00:42:29]Yeah.

[00:42:37]Yeah.

[00:42:47]Yeah, everything is allowed and nothing is required.

[00:42:52]This is it.

[00:42:55]Much love everybody.

[00:43:00]I think so.

[00:43:02]Have a lovely day, a lovely evening.

[00:43:06]Got the next no shows in tomorrow 6:30 p.m. British summer time.

[00:43:13]Lots of love. See you all soon.

[00:43:16]>> Thank you.