The Male "Loser" Epidemic

[00:00:00]Your daily reminder that he's literally just a loser you over romanticized in your head, and one day it's going to click. It's all going to click on why it didn't work out with him, and you're going to be your future husband, and it's all going to make sense. I promise you.

[00:00:12]>> [music] >> For a while now, I've been hearing something about a male loneliness epidemic, which I don't believe there is one. There's a lot of misinformation and propaganda flying both ways. It seems like women are more sexually liberated more than ever, and when it comes to men, they're just lost. They don't know who they are. And if they try to improve themselves, then there's something wrong with them to begin with. It's not the case for either. What it really is is the vocal minority that continues to pump out information, ideas, thoughts, ideologies, and it floods the airwaves when it comes to Tik Tok, Instagram, YouTube, whatever. Now, I will say this, we definitely live in a hookup culture, specifically due to dating apps, social media, things of that nature. It helps people to connect, but not for anything meaningful, just for simple physical pleasure. But the more and more that you get down to the bottom of it, if all these men are lonely, or now they're trying to brand it as all these men are losers, then what does that say about you? Because if you have this ideology or thought pattern towards men, then that means that you're dating these losers. So, who are you? If you're not dating a loser, you wouldn't have this ideology or this mentality. Because you already know, I chose a good man, and vice versa, I chose a good woman. But if you're preaching at the mountaintops that all these men are losers, they're just lonely, there is nothing going on, they don't want to provide, they don't want to protect, all men are just sassy nowadays, that's all misinformation.

[00:01:31]It's all propaganda. It's a psyop. It's nothing real. Both sides on the extreme keep making these arguments to put one side down, but neither side is correct.

[00:01:40]It's somewhere in between. So, let's see what these women have to say. Let's get into it.

[00:01:44]>> We don't have a male loneliness epidemic.

[00:01:47]We have a male loser epidemic. Because they don't want to do the work to catch up to us. So, they're going to be left behind. Sorry.

[00:01:55]>> I just finished watching Carry On.

[00:01:58]Oh my god. I saw this TikTok the other day saying that all these men are bombs and weak as [ __ ] because we have the descendants of those who dodged the draft. So, the real men went out and died in war and then we got the losers that weren't trying to go fight. And this movie's really just emphasizing that. He was a hero.

[00:02:14]I don't think anyone 25 and under has that capability like bum, loser, go to work.

[00:02:21]Get a job. Some manual labor. Scrub something, build something, do something. I don't even want to see a man at a Target.

[00:02:28]Do something. Do something better, harder.

[00:02:31]>> That's all projection at the end of the day. So, basically what I got from that is men are losers because they don't want to take care of you. And they don't want to take care of you because you're promiscuous, unruly, not traditional, but still expect traditional behavior when it comes to men. And that's exactly why I said earlier, in order to have this ideology, you yourself as a woman have to have dated these loser men. So, what does that say about you? This all comes down to the individual person at the end of the day. The fact that you're choosing these types of people because if a man got with a promiscuous woman or she was just unruly, she had bad behavior, she didn't want to provide or have any type of reciprocity and reciprocation towards their man, I'm not going to blame her. I'm going to blame the man for choosing her. There's bad people, there's lazy people, there's bums all over this world. If you just so happen to get with one, marry them, or get into a relationship with one, that's your fault. You did not correctly vet that person well enough as to where you would have found that out. You were so starstruck and love with their appearance or whatever it is about them that you just skipped over that part and that's your fault [music] as a man or as a woman. That's like me saying all women are promiscuous, all women are three or fours knowing damn well that's not true.

[00:03:36]I only see it that way because those are the only types of women that I've dealt with. So, that's a reflection of me, not those women because those women, those types of people are always going to exist, but me choosing to be with those types of people, that doesn't always have to be the case. I can just do better, make a better choice, vet them more properly as to where I wouldn't be in a relationship with this type of person. And that's the one thing about this whole male loneliness epidemic or loser epidemic is the fact that you're just exposing yourself. This is a self-report. You're snitching on yourself that these are the types of people that you've dealt with. You gave them that opportunity. You were sleeping with these types of people knowing damn well they didn't bring anything to the table. You don't get into a relationship with somebody or situationship and hope they're a good person. No, that should be done up front. You should know whether they're a good person or not, whether they have their head on right or not before you ever sleep with them. And that's exactly why I do not endorse promiscuity for a man or for a woman. At what point is it beneficial? It's not.

[00:04:28]If she happens to get pregnant or you get a STD or whatever combination in that matter, that's all your fault as an individual. You have nobody to blame but yourself. You chose to sleep around with these people and indulge in their lifestyles, their fantasies, as well as yours. So, that's why you get this result.

[00:04:43]>> We don't have a male loneliness epidemic, we have a loser Like I'm sick I'm sick of us giving names to things that already had a perfectly good name.

[00:04:49]You an incel, you're a loser. Loser. And before y'all call me a misandrist, there are also lady losers and I will call y'all a loser, too. Those girlies who look at everything wrong with their lives under capitalism and are like, "You know what the solution is to this?

[00:05:03]Me losing my rights, me not having any money of my own, me becoming completely dependent on my husband cuz I'm just a little girly who doesn't want to work."

[00:05:09]Yeah, tradwives are losers.

[00:05:11]>> Normalize calling men losers to their face, preferably. Add it back to your vocabulary. I don't know what else we're supposed to call a grown man at work sitting around with his coworkers celebrating the most impressive thing he's ever going to do in his entire life by doing a "Haha, women bad" sixth-grade level misogyny against a group of women who just achieved that exact same thing 24 hours before you did, who by the way didn't start doing the "Haha, women bad" misogyny until the most piece of [ __ ] pig-brained alpha male in the room did it first and then you felt comfortable joining in. Sheep. Loser misogynistic sheep. Loser. It's widely applicable.

[00:05:43]"Oh, men are having such a hard time dating because women have careers and jobs and money. They have their own houses. Now what they want from men is emotional intelligence and someone who likes being with them and treats them like a human being and shares in domestic labor. That sounds like the complaint of a [ __ ] loser. Oh, women are getting all the college degrees, men are falling behind, school wasn't built for men. Yes, it was. You sound like a loser. Oh, my wife stayed home and raised our children and did all the domestic labor for free for 10 years that would have cost me half a million dollars if I'd paid someone to do it.

[00:06:08]And now that I cheated on her and I want a divorce, she wants part of my 401K.

[00:06:12]Okay, loser. We, we, women can live life on easy mode if they're hot. They can just do OnlyFans and find a dude to take advantage of and he'll pay for her whole life. And is it because men are losers?

[00:06:20]>> I don't even necessarily get what's going on here because this all seems like projection. It seems like these women are jaded because they've dated these types of men before. I've never dated a bad woman in my life. I've never known a bad woman in my life. Maybe I have, but they weren't bad to me. So, you can only understand that for some of these women, they have this vitriol because they're directly speaking to their exes or at least the men that they've had a situation with. So be it.

[00:06:42]If men and women out here are losers, don't hate them. Don't interact with them. There's no reason to point them out because they're insignificant. They don't matter. They're literally a non-factor. Especially if you know better in your life, why would you ever care? That's like me hating on all women or specifically promiscuous women because, oh, I just have to get back at them. My ex cheated on me. She was promiscuous. No, I've never had those experiences before. And even if that was the case, I don't care. I get to level up now. I get to go find my dream girl.

[00:07:08]If she cheated on me, if she left me, oh well. Why would that jade me to anything? But then again, I guess this is the reverse. This is a whole new world where protecting and providing for women, they still cling onto that. They still want that, but that's not the reality. Men are no longer willing to do that and they no longer can do that. So it's not really about loser men, but just men as a whole not willing or not being able to provide for them. They can't be a stay-at-home mother like they think they want because they really don't. Why else in mass are they in the workforce? Why else did they push for that? I mean, I suppose having the opportunity is great. Good for them, but they chose this. That's why I always bring up. They want their cake and to eat it, too. They want the opportunity to work, but if they don't have to, then they won't. But, they want that opportunity. They want the door unlocked just in case. Just in case things don't go right with this man. Yeah, I still don't understand the argument though, because at the end of the day, if you really wanted to be with this man, and you're specifically looking at him as a sponsor, you don't really like him like that. And you as a woman would know that. You would know I'm only getting into this relationship because he's going to buy me things, because financially he can take care of me.

[00:08:07]That's inauthentic. It's not genuine.

[00:08:09]And it just goes to show you got into this relationship and or marriage not for anything real, not to build a family, build a foundation for your family, but simply not have to worry about finances anymore because somebody else is taking care of that. And then you wonder why you lose respect for that man, and then you wonder why you guys break up or get a divorce. They're so worried about money that they're not even thinking about the type of man that they want to be with from a character or personality perspective. And even if they do, they want to make sure that they can dominate him and control him.

[00:08:36]>> There is no male loneliness epidemic. It is a loser epidemic. Men would rather be alone than to evolve and change, than to recognize, wait, maybe I had it wrong.

[00:08:43]Maybe there's something I need to change. If you can't get a woman because none of them want to be with you, maybe try and figure out why. Instead of making women the problem saying that their standards are too high, maybe try and figure out why they don't want to be with you. What is it about you that maybe needs to change in order for a woman to want you. And they'll say, oh, there's no more good women left. Women are not like what they used to be. Women used to spend their days in the kitchen.

[00:09:00]Women only cared about taking care of the house and the kids. Oh, yeah, and also women used to take our beatings.

[00:09:03]Women used to stay quiet. Women didn't complain. Women didn't think they could get better. Women didn't have confidence and self-worth and weren't able to speak up for themselves. And that suited you.

[00:09:11]That's the kind of person you wanted. If you love your mom's generation so much, cool, maybe marry one of her single friends. Women are not the problem. They have just woken up and realized they deserve better, that they don't actually need anything from these men, and they're only going to accept a man in their life if the man can make their life better. And if you cannot do that, you will not be chosen. If you can't level up and be the kind of man that women of this day and age want, you won't get to have a woman in this day and age. Your tricks are not working anymore. The internalized misogyny, the oppression, all of that is not working anymore. Women are waking up from it.

[00:09:34]Women are healing. Women are learning to love themselves in their own company.

[00:09:37]Women are learning to support and love each other and have communities and have friendships that are valuable and fulfilling. We now know that getting married and having children is a choice.

[00:09:43]That you don't have to do that. That that is not what makes you successful or fulfilled in life. In fact, having kids when you haven't healed yourself and you don't know your own worth is actually the problem. It's why so many, if not all of us, have childhood traumas, have issues. What's happening right now is very normal. It's called evolution. It's happened many times before. When conditions change in the world, you either evolve to survive or you get left behind. This is evolution. Instead of complaining about it, evolve.

[00:10:04]>> This is exactly what I'm talking about.

[00:10:05]This is exactly why I say I can't understand the argument because this is all projection, hearsay, and assumptions based on what you heard online. That one person that you heard this from is not the reality. You shouldn't generalize because once you start generalizing a group of people, then all of a sudden you're going to view them through a certain lens. You're going to assume they're all bad until they prove otherwise. No wonder you can't date. No wonder every man that you choose or every woman that you choose is all bad because you're already putting them into that light. You're already assuming they're this worst of the worst person from what I've heard before online.

[00:10:36]Treat everyone as an individual, especially if you're dating this person.

[00:10:39]That's how you should see them anyway.

[00:10:40]But stop putting this bad light on them.

[00:10:42]Stop being so damn jaded and hardened where you feel like they're trying to take advantage of you and you're only projecting that because of what you heard as well as what you've experienced in the past. You have to take responsibility for that at the end of the day. The same message goes for men.

[00:10:53]If you got with a woman who was cheating on you or finessing you, that's all your fault. You should have vetted her properly. The fact that she felt she was able to get away with that just speaks to who you are as a man. It sounds like you weren't checking her. It sounds like you weren't calling out the [ __ ] laying the boundaries down, getting a proper understanding of what this is.

[00:11:09]Why are we even here together? What's the purpose and plan for this relationship? And that's another thing with these modern women. Their negligence, their ignorance when it comes to what they feel like they deserve is what's blocking them from a good man. When you feel like the world should revolve around you, a man should revolve around you, you're putting yourself in a very down bad situation because all of a sudden now there's entitlement. Now you have to factor that into meeting all these different people when it comes to dating. You would turn down a good man just because he wasn't willing to just give you things, take you to expensive places, or whatever you wanted to do. That's not how life works.

[00:11:41]So, why would you assume your spouse or your boyfriend or girlfriend would do the same? That's just ridiculous.

[00:11:46]There's certain standards, expectations, boundaries that you have within a relationship. There's certain compromises that you have to make. Why would you assume you're always going to get your way? That's not the way that it works, and I blame social media. I blame dating apps at the end of the day because it makes them think they have an infinite amount of options to choose from when in all reality they don't.

[00:12:04]That's why they're so petty and trivial when it comes to dismissing certain men because they think somebody else is going to replace them. Eventually, those options dry up. Eventually, those men don't want to be with you anymore because you got too old or that personality, that character of yours is just too bad.

[00:12:17]>> You're not a loser because you make $50,000 a year before taxes. You're a loser because despite all of the effort women have put in the last 5 years on this app trying to explain to you what they want in a partner, you still go on the internet finding other losers that you would rather listen to about what women want. We have created maps, diagrams, graphs to help the horse get to the [ __ ] water.

[00:12:40]But because you would rather value what other men say what women want over what we say we want, you're lonely and a loser.

[00:12:48]This isn't just about romantic partnership. This is about meaningful relationships in your life that you can't obtain because you will not work on yourself as a person. We've asked you to have empathy. We've asked you to go to therapy. We've asked you to work on your trauma. But because you are so afraid of your feelings, you would rather focus on the superficial things that some women might want like money and height and I don't know, dick size.

[00:13:11]And focusing on the deep, meaningful things in life such as working on your trauma, going to therapy, becoming a more empathetic person means that you would have to face yourself in the mirror. You would have to face the fact that the system of patriarchy is wrong and it puts you in a place of oppression. And the men around you are keeping you in a box that you can't escape. And because you refuse to stand up to a patriarchal system that upholds oppressing your emotions, oppressing your feelings, you would rather be a [ __ ] coward and treat women the way you do and think of us as a monolith.

[00:13:44]That's why you're a loser.

[00:13:45]>> Here we go again. This is exactly what I was talking about. Why do you feel like you deserve this quality, this caliber of man? Just because you want him, just because you work a job, just because you're independent? That's not how it works. What it comes down to is reciprocity within a relationship. The fact that you can invest into him just the same as he's willing to invest into you. You obviously don't know this man.

[00:14:05]He doesn't know you. So, just off the strength of, "Oh, I'm a good person. I work. I'm independent." That doesn't mean that you deserve to be provided for, even if you can cook and clean. Who cares? So many other women can. It's not about that. It's about something more.

[00:14:18]Your purpose. What are we willing to get into together in order to build the foundation for our family, to be intentional, to be purposeful? What more is there to you? To some degree as a woman, you're going to have to admit as well, that man is going to have to lead you. Whether you like it or not, that's just a reality. Most men are going to want to lead the relationship.

[00:14:34]Historically, traditionally, culturally, men lead relationships. It doesn't have to be that way for your relationship.

[00:14:40]However, for the majority of men that you're going to be talking to, that you're going to be dating, they're going to want to lead the relationship.

[00:14:45]Rightfully so. Just because you work a job, just because you have these huge expectations and standards for your partner, doesn't mean you're in the leader position. It doesn't even mean that you can lead. It's a weird ironic situation as well because they're talking down to all these men saying how they're not going to be able to get with the woman that they want. But, ma'am, that same logic applies to you. You're not going to be able to get the man that you want because of this reality that we're living in. The fact that it seems like all men in this current generation are losers. That makes your dating pool even smaller as well. Because if you don't want to tolerate them, then you're not going to find a man either. Do you really think you qualify for one of these top-tier men? I mean, you're probably going to have to share them.

[00:15:20]Yo, this video is actually crazy.

[00:15:22]Towards the end of the video, she starts putting him on a guilt trip. She's basically saying, "You need to get your [ __ ] together, be more empathetic, and what that translates to is let me as a woman run the relationship." That's basically what she's saying. She's saying all these red pill and alpha gurus or whoever, they're leading you guys astray. It's not about becoming more masculine, it's not about becoming a tool for patriarchy, it's about putting your fellow woman in charge, putting your girlfriend, putting your wife in charge. That's basically what she's saying. She was kind of all over the place saying different things. There were some dog whistles thrown in there.

[00:15:52]Poor girl. Because if anything, what that reflects is she can't get a man herself. She wants a man to be more submissive, to be more empathetic to women's situation. So, that's why she's saying these things. She wants to lead.

[00:16:03]She feels like she knows better than men. Good luck.

[00:16:06]>> Here are 10 signs that your man is a loser, and if your man is any of these things, it's time to get you a new one.

[00:16:10]Number one sign, if he believes in 50/50, he makes you pay absolutely anything. There's no reason that you should pay for anything cuz there's a man in your life. Men always complains about things are being too expensive when instead of actually working hard for it.

[00:16:22]Or finding ways to make more money, he's always like, "Oh, I can't do that, that's expensive. We can't do that, we can't pay for that, that's expensive."

[00:16:27]Like, work.

[00:16:28]>> Work.

[00:16:28]>> If he follows a ton of girls on social media, if you go through his following list and it looks like he owns a salon, all you see are women, models, Instagram girls, everyone in your city. Like a PR Like a PR agency, like drop that man. Or if he takes care too much of himself, like, bro, just wash your face with water and feel like a queen.

[00:16:47]That's it.

[00:16:48]Manicure, pedicure, wearing all sets of yoga.

[00:16:52]>> when he watches >> watches his >> resume.

[00:16:55]>> Like >> If that man can be all decked out in Alo head to toe, but refuses to get you some because he thinks you're not worth it.

[00:17:01]And he wants to look good and spend all his money on looking good, but not spend money on you, loser. Or if he owns a Dyson.

[00:17:07]Or if he doesn't get you at least once a month like a gift or just even like a spa day, whatever, or a staycation, just something to make you happy.

[00:17:14]>> Get flowers.

[00:17:14]>> Even just flowers, at least. If he doesn't get you flowers, loser. He doesn't take accountability when you speak up or communicate about not being happy about something or low effort, instead of saying, "Oh, I'm sorry. I'll I'll work on that." and actually work on it, he's like gaslighting you. And he's talking bad about other women, using the B-word to describe other women, talking bad and gossiping about other women, loser.

[00:17:33]>> He should be uplifting women and he should view women as a prize from God.

[00:17:38]>> Or if you have like a problem or you face an issue and he doesn't offer to solve it or help you to fix it, loser. If you go to him with a problem and you tell him, "X, Y, and Z." and he says, "Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I hope you fix it." or that your problem is not his problem, loser.

[00:17:50]>> If he doesn't pay for your nails, low dry or skin treatment, whatever, >> do small things that he knows will make you happy and think about ways to make you happy, loser. He should always be thinking about how to make you happy, how to make make the relationship a good one and improving the relationship, making you happy. And if he's not, >> or if your man is always out instead of being home working to make money, loser.

[00:18:11]>> Or if he's at home all the time but all he does is scroll on social media or watch the news or do something that's not productive, that's just as bad as going out all the time.

[00:18:19]>> Yeah, true.

[00:18:20]>> Use your time, like learn how to invest or something.

[00:18:22]>> Time is money.

[00:18:23]>> Buy a property.

[00:18:24]>> This video is truly incredible. I don't know if it's supposed to be framed as a joke. However, they were exposing themselves a lot. This isn't even how normal women think, either. This is that damn Tik Tok Instagram brain. Naturally, women are not like this. They don't have these ideologies because if you notice, certain things they were saying were contradicting each other, saying how a guy has to stay productive, he can't slack off, and yet if he's working too much, that's a problem, and just other unrealistic expectations. And if you notice, it was all about what that man can provide for me and not what I can provide for him. It's all about the I, me, mine. They're self-obsessed. It's all about them. That's why I said, this is a Tik Tok Instagram mindset. A real natural woman is not thinking like that.

[00:19:04]She's thinking, "How can I provide? How can I give back to this man?" because I actually like this man at the end of the day. Why would I ever or him to do everything? I want to cherish him. I want to provide for him because he's my man. I look up to him. That's not how these women are thinking. These women are thinking from an extraction perspective. They've dated so many men, been so promiscuous that it's all about what can he give me? I don't care who he is as a man. I don't care what his personality is like, his character is like. What can he just give me? It's really sad, man, and women tell on themselves. When they act like this, you already know you're not a good person.

[00:19:34]Whatever it is that you've been through, yeah, it's kind of sad. We can feel bad for you. However, your attitude and how you act and your expectations, your entitlement, that's going to leave you single for a very long time. And what purposeful man that's on his [ __ ] that's taking care of his business, would ever just start giving everything to some woman he just met? Even if you guys known each other for years at this point. Why would he ever do that? Before I would ever do something like that, you have to provide me tangible benefit. Not just be there, not just be around, your feminine essence, whatever that means.

[00:20:03]No, you have to be providing for me. You have to be giving me things, reciprocating within that relationship.

[00:20:08]And I don't mean intimacy or anything like that. Everything out of the bedroom. And the faster women understand that, the better off they'll be for a relationship. If you guys are still here, thank you so much for watching.

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