Men Love Men With Money | South Africa

Added: 2026-06-03

[00:00:00]Black hands just love money, bro.

[00:00:03]>> Mhm.

[00:00:03]>> And I'm not saying it's a bad thing.

[00:00:04]Everyone likes money. But I guys, why Okay, as black ladies, go date white men cuz they have the money that you want from us. We don't have.

[00:00:11]>> But actually, they want men with money.

[00:00:12]They want money. They want to be given money for existing and all that.

[00:00:15]>> men with money because money >> Doesn't matter what the reason is. It doesn't matter. They want men with money.

[00:00:20]>> It represents stability and financial freedom.

[00:00:23]Even >> Where was money? There was no money back in the day.

[00:00:28]>> [clears throat] >> Okay, going back to the South African women love money thing. Personally, I agree. They do. South African women love money, unfortunately. I I think like A woman does not like money. Women love money, but then be at so popular for it because it has become something that is even shameless to ask.

[00:00:46]>> Hi, darling. Welcome back. So, there's this one-sided narrative that I have noticed in South Africa whereby a lot of people always point out that women love men with money. Women will do anything for money.

[00:01:03]>> [music] >> And I noticed that it only points out on one side.

[00:01:08]When in reality, even men love men with money.

[00:01:13]And I'll be using My Soul as an example.

[00:01:17]If you don't know who My Soul is, My Soul is the founder of My Soul Holdings, which is the logistics and mining company. I noticed that on social media, we are constantly seeing people saying, "Oh, women like money." Or they point out to a specific tribe like, "Oh, Xhosa women like money." And it always points out to one side that it is so negative that women love money. Reality is, even some men, the same way some women, do love money. So, I was watching this video on My Soul's 220 million mansion housewarming. And there was something that I even noticed that was very comical. So, there was a point in the video where he unveils his new Rolls-Royce. And the men who are watching and filming were also screaming, shouting, and whistling, and calling out and cheering his name the same way we demonize women for doing the same thing when they see men with money >> [music] >> at the club. Here's the video.

[00:02:27]>> [laughter] >> So, I'm going to open the car. Do you want to open it?

[00:02:30]>> Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:02:31]>> Are you ready?

[00:02:32]>> Yeah.

[00:02:34]>> Open the car.

[00:02:34]>> Open the car.

[00:02:38]>> My soul, my soul.

[00:02:41]My soul, my soul, my soul.

[00:02:56]>> Let me bring it to me, James.

[00:02:59]This is the bravest one of one kind in the two series.

[00:03:08]You want to see the inside, James? Or you will see it as we go inside the house?

[00:03:13]Even at the back it's got exclusive seats where you can chill at the back and relax. You must spoil yourself when you are a hatch.

[00:03:20]Can I have Can I have my gifts from from Rolls-Royce?

[00:03:27]>> Even as we watch the videos on his housewarming, >> [gasps] >> there was something that I found quite odd is the fact that they literally were dressed like him.

[00:03:38]They basically obeyed the invitation and literally they are all dressed the same way like him. Basically, money can control everyone. Money can make you make people do things. It looks like minions. It looks like people aspiring or wanting proximity to him by dressing similar to him. And as I was reading comments, some people even calling these men my soul's ice boys. Basically, the ice boy just means the guy in the group who follows the guy with money.

[00:04:14]Basically, he follows the orders. He listens to orders when they tell him "Go buy ice for our go get us this go arrange this." Basically, the guy who doesn't have money. So, in South Africa, an ice boy is basically the guy who doesn't have the money. So, he can't control. He's basically just almost like a servant to the other guy who has money. As much as we say yes, women do love money and women will do certain things for money. They will want to have access to money by being romantically involved with men who have money. Men do it but in a different way. They do it through admiration. They do it through friendship. They do it through networking and wanting to be in association or proximity. They admire these men with money. They call them grootman. Men want proximity. Obviously, not all men but men want proximity to wealthy men as well as much as women.

[00:05:24]They just both do it differently. Women who want men with money do it through their sexuality, through being romantically involved or wanting to be romantically involved with a man with money. And men do it differently. They admire.

[00:05:42]They cheer. Women do it differently. Men do it differently. Men do it through proximity association, through looking at this person, almost worshipping this person. And it doesn't mean there's something wrong with liking and aspiring to have that lifestyle. Most people, if you actually ask them, would also want to be wealthy. But there's something interesting here. It's the fact that there's a very thin line between admiration and worship. We know that in this country, if you have money, you can get away with it almost anything. As long as you're able to pay your way through these things, you can get away with everything, which shows that in South Africa it almost becomes a state of worship.

[00:06:34]People will worship you if you have money. People will listen to you if you have money. Girls will do everything, especially the girls who are very materialistic. Girls everything to be in proximity to men with money. They will be in these spaces, they will dress in a certain way. There's even women who go to restaurants hoping to find rich men.

[00:06:58]The same thing that men are trying to do. I'm not saying that these men want to date wealthy men. It's a different thing. They want proximity to the wealth. Women also want proximity to the wealth through romance. Men want it through association.

[00:07:16]But the draw is the same. What draws these people to these men? It is money.

[00:07:23]Women are drawn to these men because of money, and men are drawn to these men because of money. What I want us to unpack is why is it that if a woman says she wants money, she gets called names.

[00:07:37]She gets called a gold digger. But we don't give that same energy to the men who also want to be around men with money.

[00:07:46]And let's be honest, most people love money. Let's be honest, women love money, men love money. That is just the reality. We need money to survive, but it always seems that on social media, it's always women who are demonized for liking money, but nobody is shaming men for liking money as well, for liking to be around men with money.

[00:08:08]At this party, men were dressed exactly like this man. They listened to the order, the invitation order that dress like him, look like him.

[00:08:17]They were cheering on the same way women literally are drawn to men at clubs when there's a big spender. I'm just asking myself, why is it wrong when women do it, but when men do it, nobody is shaming them. Nobody is shaming these men who literally were copy and paste versions of him, of this wealthy man, and it's okay to aspire to luxury. It's okay to want that lifestyle for yourself, but why is it that when a woman wants that lifestyle, it is wrong? I think it is because for some men, not all, when a woman wants money, it makes them feel inadequate because they know because of the economy, they cannot provide that money and lifestyle for that woman. They know that, okay, this thing is an insecurity, the fact that I don't have money, and I empathize with that. I understand not having money hurts, and then you have someone who's pointing out your inadequacy can make you feel very insecure, but let's not demonize women who love money.

[00:09:28]That is their preference. It might be wrong, it might be morally questionable, but how we demonizing one group and not analyzing the other group, The same way that these men are also twirling for money. They are twirling, they are cheering, they are screaming like fans for another man with money. I'm not saying they are attracted to him, I'm saying that men are also attracted to money the same way women are attracted to money. We all want to aspire and elevate in some way in life. [music] I do know that there's also an aspect of jealousy. I'm not saying that men want to be these women. I'm saying that there is jealousy there in the fact that a woman can be beautiful and elevate in life just by association with a rich man, just by being in proximity. Let's say a woman is very beautiful, she gets this rich guy and this rich guy marries her.

[00:10:34]Her life evolves, her life changes. And I do think the reason why for some men it's such a sensitive topic is because they see how easy it can be for some women to elevate, not through education, not through hard work, but by being in association with rich men. So they feel like the system is unfair. When in reality, these are small numbers of women who are able to do that if you actually think about it. How many rich men are in South Africa? Not every single beautiful woman is able to get a rich man. There's a lot of beautiful women in South Africa, but not all of them are married to rich men, but some men believe that because a woman is beautiful and she has a big behind, >> [music] >> it is easy for her to get rich men because they have seen these high-profile social media influencers do that. So, it is a bitter moment when you hear women say, "I want a man who can provide. I want a man with money." Because it just feels like, "Oh, you just want the easy way out when men have to work harder to get to that level." When men have to become these wealthy men in order to attain these beautiful women. That is why there's a demonizing of women in that sense. Because it's like the man has to work harder to get to that level to get the woman.

[00:12:07]Whereas the woman has to just be beautiful, but reality is not every single beautiful woman is married to rich men. We see the few examples and then make generalizations that oh, women don't have to do anything in relationships. They just have to be beautiful and then they will elevate and find a rich man. That is not how it works. We're looking at the few small percentages of women and getting triggered by the fact that they can just sleep with wealthy men, get pregnant by wealthy men, and then their life improves. That is not the reality for everyone, but I understand for some men, they think that all beautiful women can elevate their lives just by association with rich men. That is why there is this trigger, almost jealousy and animosity when a woman says she wants a man with money. But, what I've noticed is that it's only women who are portrayed as villains if they like money, but the men are not also analyzed and scrutinized by the things they do just to be in proximity to men with money. And inspiration is good. Wanting a certain lifestyle for yourself is good, but let's not act like these men are also not doing the same thing the women are doing just in different ways through admiration, through friendship, through association, whereas women are doing it through romance, through seduction. This just indicates that both men and women are similar in some ways. We all like status. We all like power to an extent.

[00:13:44]We all admire individuals who have succeeded or have certain luxuries. Some people might say that I'm not like that, but it's a very common trait that men and women do also share similarities.

[00:13:57]That's why I say men also love men with money, not romantically, but in other ways through admiration, through loyalty, through friendship. It is the same thing. If a woman says she likes men with money, that is her preference. You don't have to date her. You can literally find women who don't care about those things.

[00:14:20]That is why I get so upset when people generalize and make it a big statement that all women love money. If a woman genuinely loves you, she will love you for you, and obviously there will be romance, there will be things that require um provision from both of you, but the woman who genuinely have an interest in you will not make your life harder. The problem is people want the woman who are materialistic. Some men are drawn to these women who are materialistic, who like money, and then generalize and say that all women love money. The same way people tell women, "Choose better >> [music] >> men."

[00:15:02]It should be the same thing. Choose better women. If you don't like the women who love money, choose a woman who doesn't. Go to church. Go to, I don't know, networking events. Go to spaces where the women who are not materialistic, the women who share values and interests like you are. We are villainizing women who are materialistic, and I'm not saying it is right or wrong, but we're villainizing women who are materialistic, but not villainizing the men who are also materialistic.

[00:15:36]In the township, you will see the guy with the money, with the cars, how other guys worship him, how other guys want to be around him, the same way women want to be around those men. So, why is it that nobody unpacks it when men are also twirling for money, the same women twirl for money? It shows you that money is power. Money controls both men and women, and that is just the society we live in. If the economy is bad, obviously I also want to be where the money is. I'm not saying I want to date people with money, but I also want to be in the spaces where I can get an opportunity for a better job, a better life, because money, unfortunately, is necessary. But, let's not villainize one group and not analyze the other group. Men also like money as much as the women love money.

[00:16:29]However, I would like to hear your opinion on this, and if you got to the end of this video, leave a money emoji in the comment section, and thank you for watching, darling. Bye-bye.