IGBO QUEENS IN SOUTH AFRICA AND JOLLOFINAS FUTURE IN NIGERIA...

[00:00:00]Good morning everyone. Guys, please if you have not been sharing my video, I beg that you should share this one.

[00:00:06]Share it until it gets to our president, presidentu or let it get to [ __ ] My dear president, I respect you, sir.

[00:00:16]Good morning, sir.

[00:00:18]Sir, please this message I am sending right from South Africa.

[00:00:24]Sir, I want you to see the pain. The pain the government of Nigeria are causing us over here in South Africa. Sir, the Nigerians in South Africas are going through a lot.

[00:00:39]The Nigerians in South Africas are going through a lot. We are being killed like fouls every now and then and nobody is saying anything sir.

[00:00:51]Sir, nobody is saying anything. Our conserate general has said nothing. We have a conserate here in South Africa.

[00:01:01]But then nobody is saying anything.

[00:01:04]Every now and then sir, the Nigerians in South Africa are be like chicken.

[00:01:10]We are be like chicken. President sir, we are here in search of greener sture.

[00:01:18]Yes, we are here in search of greener specture. Just as some South Africans are in our own country, so are we in their country, it's no longer a case of where is your document. It's now a case of leave our country. Yes.

[00:01:36]If somebody ask you to leave their country, the best thing you going to do for yourself is to leave. But then leave to where? Because our government has made it very difficult for some of us to to cope in Nigeria. Our government is the reason why all these things are happening with another episode of peace podcast.

[00:02:02]Okay, seeing that now Nigerians are apparently leaving the country, everybody's leaving, we have this pandemic that we obviously need to discuss which is their wives and children. Now we've obviously you know already stated that you know guys we've spoken about this go watch this video >> as an African man Africa tradition you leave you your own state or your own community your country to your a woman's country a woman's state or a woman's community to marry a wife and when you are marrying that wife when you are done marrying that wife what will you do you take your wife home. So bro, bring our wife for us. Our wife, it's time for you to come home. Your people have tried for you people. So it's now time for your husband people to take care of you. So bro, this one not be excuse carry your wife now. So they marry then they marry not be your wife, papa will take care of you now. You and your family go take care of your wife. So bro, bring our wife. Our wife please come home. We need you at home >> about this. Go watch this video where we basically say, "Hey, pick your wives, pick your children, take them home with you."

[00:03:25]>> But I feel like we're not we're not taking this serious. We're taking this like a joke. And I also feel like it's a it's well seeing that I'm the uncle of the nation.

[00:03:37]I feel like it's my responsibility to kind of educate our sisters who are deciding to go back home cuz I came across this video and I I realized that you know going to Nigeria or being married to a Nigerian man is not just like marrying any other person you know it is it is extreme it's extreme you know you have to oh you have to prepare you have to prepare So your uncle is here. Your uncle is here. He wants to make sure that you get ready. But before we get into the nittygritty, you know, uh of living in Nigeria, I want the OG's of the Jolofas. But I did not guys listen. You guys are going to get tired of me now cuz you can't make this [ __ ] up is going to become our moto.

[00:04:41]Without further ado, my name is Mal Precious A. I'm a member of the APU Progressive Union. My name is Kilang Goi Ana uh from the EO Queens of South Africa. I'm the founder and the former chairperson of the EO Queens of South Africa.

[00:05:03]>> My name is Lindua.

[00:05:05]I'm married to a >> Eigs of South Africa.

[00:05:17]A group of South African women that are married to Nigerian men. You can't make this [ __ ] up, guys.

[00:05:31]South African women are married to Angolian men. South African women are married to Tanzanian. Trian women are married to Americans. South African women are married to the English, the British, the Irish, you name it. They married to multiple different Africaners.

[00:05:46]Is there any association for these women?

[00:05:52]Why is it that when it comes TO NIGERIA, IT ALWAYS HAS TO BE DEEPER THAN DEPTH?

[00:06:00]1 + 1 can't just be two. It must be the coign of XYZ divided by the multiplication of the equation of the fertilization of the IO.

[00:06:15]It can't just be simple, MY PEOPLE.

[00:06:24]YEAH. Nigerian men, evil men from Imo state, our mama village.

[00:06:31]>> My name is Chig. I'm a member of Get Together. It's a Nigerian women that are based in Saddak. All Zimbabwans that are married to Nigerians, we invite them to our group as we are fast growing and we are in a sisterhood um mission whereby we help >> even a Zim sister.

[00:06:56]YEAH. BUT you know the funny thing like the Zim sister in essay everyone is in SA like like they didn't collect the Zim sister from Zim Zim sister from >> our sisters that are working with married to Nigerians this August meeting uh this is our first experience.

[00:07:17]>> Let me just pause. Help our sisters that are married to Nigerians. Help them with what exactly?

[00:07:24]Why the Irish Women Association of IGO Queens Queens of South Africa? Irish Queens of South Africa Association. What are they?

[00:07:45]Is it really that deep?

[00:07:48]Yeah.

[00:07:50]to see how things are being done before we go to Nigeria and experience it there. So, >> this is their first meeting. They just wanted to experience how things are done before they go to Nigeria and experience it there.

[00:08:10]>> Yeah. Okay.

[00:08:13]>> We are standing here so as the evil queens of South Africa. We believe in oneness. to believe in unity. Evil queens, we are saying heaven. Amen.

[00:08:25]>> God is getting us up to here. You know, when we started to remember and look at where we are, you know, look at where we are and the best is yet to come.

[00:08:39]Um I think you know these are the queens the queen are feeling we are proud EBO they are proud e wives and my aunties are serious you know I I I these are the o jolofas the o jolofas so these are the the the original ID passport giver bus, you know, these are they but look the they didn't really say much about experiences that you could have in in Nigeria. So, I did the due diligence of doing the research on your guys' behalf and um you know, I found a couple of videos that I would like to share with you. you know, for those of you that are going to be going with your husband, wives or whoever you are going with, boyfriend, you know, depends on how you play, which football team you play for. So, here we go.

[00:09:44]>> Here's my first impression of Nigeria as a South African. My name is Buis, just in case you do not know me. Um, so guys, first of all, I want to talk about people. I'm going to talk about the weather. I'm going to talk about the environment. I'm going to talk about the money. Those four things. Um, first of all, let's talk about the environment.

[00:10:03]It's very warm here. Like there's humidity. Um, yeah. Um, I remember when I used to watch Nigerian videos, I used to see like like the the clouds, you only see the clouds and like, you know, South Africa there. So, like the sky is really blue blue. Even here it it is blue. Um, like in the morning the sky was kind of blue, but now it's a bit I don't know cloudy or cloudy or something. Bro said in the morning the sky was kind of blue.

[00:10:32]Listen, there's no blue sky. There's no blue sky. There's no blue sky. It's gray. It's gray. It's gray. It's gray, bro. It's okay. You can speak the truth.

[00:10:43]But you are there. So, see the problem is you are there. You're making a video.

[00:10:47]You are posting while you are there.

[00:10:48]Hey, so yeah, can't really be talking.

[00:10:51]But let's listen.

[00:10:53]>> Um, but it's just very humid compared to South Africa. So all the houses have like air cones. Um and I understand uh why they need air conditioners. It's a huge thing here in Nigeria to have an air conditioner. Um well what I'm noticing around the city there's not many trees. Um like you know in South Africa if you're in height park you're in Rosebank Santon there's plenty of trees and yeah that's what I noticed.

[00:11:20]Um, also there's >> guys, you know what I tell you? Welcome to my new subscribers. Guys, we just hit 12,000 subscribers.

[00:11:39]For the OG's of this channel, you know, I've done this video before and you guys thought I was joking. When I tell you even in Angola guys a town like so you see the whole of Soto they can have one tree me you see my nose is flat but it's also big that we have big noses we need to BREA I don't need to breathe Guys, there's not ENOUGH we need to breathe. There's not enough trees, not enough oxygen. And on top of that, our country smell like [ __ ] SO NOW, THAT'S WHY YOU SEE WHEN YOU COME TO SOUTH AFRICA, WE HAVE TO CATCH a contaminate. Your country is too fresh.

[00:12:30]There's too many trees, flowers. Like, hey, you you you go to somebody's house, they've got this nice thing that makes their house smell like lemon. Like now you know I was with this vendor girl you know she's like hey I brought you something and now the house is smelling like watermelon you go to the bathroom the bathroom smells like the house just smells nice you KNOW so we all wondering why we all big heads with big noses we fighting for it's not it's not ME IT'S NOT CONSTRUCTION EVERYWHERE LIKE constantly there's construction like when you look to the other side you there's always construction all right on >> so as for construction guys so you see like in South Africa with the tenders how they do tenders it's the same thing with our countries tender and that building will be built for 15 years the road will be fixed for 100 years for that tender just to the child's child that's why countries they are forever building something and it's always left abandoned until some private person shows up and ends up buying it.

[00:13:44]talk about the money now or the money the money here guys because the money you just get like a huge b they say 50k naira and it's like a lot of money you know and when you of course take it to rand you find the 50k naira it's probably like 400 rand I'm making an example um for example yeah ex yesterday I exchanged probably 700 rand at the airport I got a lot of money like on my hands I was like oh my word what's this now and um you was actually like 50 something 7,000 naira. I was like, >> so basically long story short, you need a wheelbarrow to go buy a local bread.

[00:14:29]I af you cannot make this [ __ ] up. You cannot make this [ __ ] up. But like I said, my brothers and sisters, you guys need to return to Nigeria.

[00:14:42]And obviously, you know, you you need to understand what's happening in Nigeria.

[00:14:47]You know, you want to fight me cuz I'm trying I am trying so hard to be positive with the fact that Nigerians are fighting for their country. You know, right now there's a strike. You guys are watching the video.

[00:15:05]You're seeing you guys are in support.

[00:15:06]You guys are supporting Nigerians right now. And I am very very very proud you know so I'm trying to be positive so that our sisters they understand that you know what hey to go back to Nigeria it's not that bad you know so there's a sister that went back to Nigeria and let's hope that her experience there and the differences in culture will convince you that you will be fine.

[00:15:36]Part three of cultural shocks that I have experienced as a South African living in Nigeria. The greeting guys, you must greet and greet and greet and greet and greet some more. And you cannot just say, "Hey, hi, how you doing? What's up, good morning s, good morning, good afternoon, good night." Literally, I wear my hair. I have my my watch. Oh.

[00:16:06]>> Okay. So basically Nigeria respect is a big thing. That's weird because these people are menless here. So for people who like greeting these people are very menless here in South Africa. Very very menless. So that that's a bit weird. So what's the anyways? Okay. So they love greeting. That's not a big thing.

[00:16:24]Greeting. I'm sure you can do it. I mean good morning sir. Good morning ma'am.

[00:16:29]Good morning guard. I don't know. Okay.

[00:16:33]just listen >> because people in the morning I'll be like good morning good afternoon good morning it's a lot for me I'm used to a simple hey how are you how you doing hey long time no see you know easy simple stuff you can greet and ask how you doing in one line yo what's up how you been no good morning >> now for those of you are confused is why that is not a norm in Nigeria. It's also kind of not really a norm in our countries if but we were colonized by the Portuguese so it's slightly different. So but this is mostly in West African countries. This is because of dominance. They like status. Okay. So this thing of friendship you see the way how South Africans uh parents are like friends with their keys. They communicate you know like South Africa is very very westernized you know very modern. That's not the reality of the western world. The western world is very strict. A woman is a woman. A woman cleans. A daughter is treated a certain way. A son is treated a certain way. A god is treated a certain way. A maid is treated a certain way. You know, a dog is treated a certain way. You know, a chicken, everything is treated a certain way. I think you guys are getting where I'm going with this. So, this greeting you might think is a sign of respect.

[00:17:53]It's more of a sign of dominance. You want to show that I'm your superior. So you need to greet me accordingly. That's why you see they always have titles.

[00:18:03]>> And it's not good morning, it's good morning. It's not good afternoon, it's good afternoon. It's not good day, it's good day. Like it's it's it's it's different the way that you have to say it. Good morning. Uh good evening, good afternoon.

[00:18:22]For me, I find it so >> basically they're saying it's not necessarily is different how you say it.

[00:18:27]It's like you have to intentionally mean it when you are greeting. You almost like like you need to have partial fear when you're greeting, you know.

[00:18:40]It's a thing. It's a thing.

[00:18:42]>> So hard because as soon as we came here, my husband expected us to do that to him. Like if we wake up in the morning, I'd always say, "Good morning, babe.

[00:18:51]Good morning. But now if I see him in the afternoon, he expect Good afternoon, bro. We've been we've been sitting here together, me and you.

[00:19:05]No, for me that was a culture shock, I guess. Bible. So it gets that deep to the extent where even when you are together in the house the whole day when the shift shifts you must you no but guys it's just greeting it's just greeting. It's not deep. Come on calm down. That's not a reason to to not go. It's just greeting. You can greet. Just wear a watch. Smart watch.

[00:19:32]Ask him to buy your Apple watch. You know >> also I feel like it's too much. Good morning. Good morning.

[00:19:40]Good afternoon. Good. Hi. You can't say hi. This other day we went to pick up my son from school and I don't know why but his dad could not see him. So he went past him to speak to the sisters as like where's my son?

[00:19:56]Uh my son says he said hi daddy. He says he did not hear that. cry, which I could say nothing. But then he says, "If you see me, you're supposed to say good afternoon." We're not used to this.

[00:20:14]Hi, daddy. That's what we normally do.

[00:20:17]>> Okay. So, that is actually deeper than you think. You see, you need to understand West Africa is not used to the type of love that South Africa is used to. You know, this fatherly, motherly love. I love you, my son. Oh, baby, I'm sorry. Are you okay?

[00:20:35]It's it's not a norm to us. By the time a a a a 12y old girl child is 12, that girl literally knows how to run a household, cook, clean, you name it, take care of the children, everything.

[00:20:48]The mother basically does nothing. By the time that boy is 10, I think they take it more lightly on boys. Um the girls are the ones that suffer more. Uh but the boys just don't experience love. They they experience that toughness, you know, that you need to be tough. The world is tough, you know. You got to you got to be wild, you know. There's no nobody cuddling you, kissing you, letting asking you what's wrong with your boob boo kind of nonsense. So this is actually quite deep. It's it's it's it's it's quite sad to be honest. Um this is not going as planned. Um I was supposed to be giving you guys good information. Okay, let's do this. Let's find a Nigerian who woman or man who has lived in South Africa and went back to Nigeria.

[00:21:37]Maybe they have a different culture shock.

[00:21:40]After so many years in South Africa and coming back to Nigeria for my mom's burial, I begin to realize that there are certain things that have changed and it's very difficult for me to adapt. One of the thing is pronouncing plastic. No.

[00:21:56]Okay. Nigeria call it nylon, right? But often times I say plastic but sometimes I just try to correct myself immediately then but the other one that shock me is the the students because back in South Africa my second home you will see when once you are wearing uniform they give you that chance to say okay you can cross or you can enter the public transport but here it's not like that everybody you on your own. Yes you on your own. What?

[00:22:30]>> Okay, wait. First of all, we don't have any students. We sending we sending their children.

[00:22:36]Guys, I'm trying to find the right videos to motivate our jolafas to go with their husbands, but I'm finding it very difficult. This is a Nigerian that Okay, so in Nigeria, they don't care whether you're a student or not. They don't let you cross the street. They don't have zebra pawns. And there was a a lady running her own live stream disrespecting South Africans on how to pronounce robot. It's not robot. It's traffic light. It's not robot. How are you telling people how to pronounce something that you guys don't have in your country? Make it make sense. How?

[00:23:06]Like why are you making unnecessary noise? You know, sometimes some people you see and she was making that noise because she lives in Europe.

[00:23:14]These people they argue outside their country because they're not experiencing the reality of their own country. But let's let's let's not digress. We need to find positivity to convince our sisters to go back. Let's continue to listen. Maybe something positive is coming. As you see public transport, you go rush. Everything here is just rush rush. Too hard, too fast. Everything is just force force force force. Everybody wants to Oh, I'm trying to adapt to it, but everything is boo.

[00:23:45]Like, >> she's trying to adapt to her own country. Guys, she came to South Africa, stayed here so long, she got culturally contaminated into being a civilized human, but they told you guys that the ones were civilizing it. Now, she went back to an univilized nation and she can no longer adapt. She is trying because everything is just rough. Everybody's just rushing. Nobody cares for nobody is mano or immano. Everyone for themselves everything God nothing like soft calm. You see a student and you will see someone that is going for like 8:00 work or so. You see them rushing pushing the children to go out and let them enter. Ah or you are crossing the road. You will see student you will not even wait. You will just be oh goodness me they that is something I'm trying to adopt. I say girl you Nigerian this is how it's been done here. I'm trying my best. Yes I'm trying my best to adapt to it. But on the sec on the other hand it has not been easy with me like or there was one I saw kids crying like student crying to go to school. You see student they will say go school go school. You will see the kids crying crying on the road. Sometimes I would tell my siblings like what are they doing? They are torturing these kids. You like hey come cal come down calm down calm down. Which one is torturing? Said they are torturing these kids. How would they be how will kids be crying to go to school? you know, you're like, "No, this is how it's been done."

[00:25:29]Or they'll be shouting or beating those things. I I know it's normal, but >> she didn't want to finish a statement.

[00:25:37]They'll be shouting and beating the children to go to school because they are not accustomed to be spoken to. They're not accustomed to be loved. They're not accustomed to be kissed, hugged, nurtured. They're not accustomed to be checked on. So when they come to a country where they see even men, that's why they say South African men are weak.

[00:25:59]That's why they bully when South African women show them love, they don't understand it. So they take advantage of it. By the time you realize that, hey man, I'm trying to love somebody who doesn't understand the concept of love.

[00:26:10]Too late. You've got a big-headed baby that now won't be able to cross the street. Yeah.

[00:26:26]Yeah, Niga. Niger.

[00:26:33]But like I say, they striking. So, but after so many years, I begin to see that it's abnormal. You can't be kids cannot be crying to go to school or you see kids with uniform. You can't wait for them to cross or you can't wait for them to enter into the public transport.

[00:26:55]You are rushing. Those things are just so how like I feel it's abnormal. I feel like it's abnormal. This is one of the things I'm trying to adapt. But God help me.

[00:27:07]I tell you that your humanity, your civilization, your shocks people. People can't understand how you are living with white people.

[00:27:16]That's why they constantly have to bring up Orania. They don't understand how you are living with Indians, Somalians, Pakistanis, Tanzanian. That's why they call you useless because when they come to your country, they have to do what they were doing in their countries because that's what they used to when they realize that wait is not necessary to do this in South Africa. It is already too late. Their nature takes over now because your nature is soft, gentle like she has said.

[00:27:46]It gets overcrowded by this noise.

[00:27:51]And these people are vicious in their culture contamination.

[00:27:57]Vicious.

[00:28:00]Guys, I tried I tried to find some positive stuff to put here in order to convince our brothers and sisters to go to Nigeria. But I do but uh I'm going to try one more time.

[00:28:13]There's a video here of that sister um that Jolof that went to Nigeria with her husband. So maybe she can let's give it one more try. Otherwise, I'm just going to end the video cuz I'm trying.

[00:28:26]Hey guys, this is part two of culture shocks that I have experienced as a South African.

[00:28:34]>> Let's just give it to a South African sister. Girl, clock at you looking fine.

[00:28:38]Girl looking fine. See Nigerian Nigerian man tell us we are eating.

[00:28:46]It's all good girl. It's all good. So good. We see you. I hope you live in Nigeria. Yo, me and South Africa.

[00:28:53]Single. Single. Nobody wants me. Am I that picky? I'm not that picky.

[00:29:00]Not that picky. I mean, just love Jim.

[00:29:04]Love to be fed. If you get all wobbly and jiggly, you know there some meat on your like a freaking Anyways, sorry.

[00:29:16]>> Living in Nigeria. So, um, Papa is a palan.

[00:29:22]So every time he goes to salad pine that will be on every mark of the day, he'd buy something nuts, um it could be biscuits, it could be um I don't know, fish, it could be anything.

[00:29:38]>> Hold on. She says papa whatever the boyfriend husband's name sells palm wine. So he goes to the market. So guys, you on this video you people were laughing when I was telling you that was a shopping center and you guys are like no yes we call it market those are our malls we don't have malls like is gate I'm a mall of Africa guys which part of you want to understand third world countries third world countries guys third world countries like yo yo yo yo so he sells palm wine can Can you imagine a South African man that sells wine?

[00:30:20]You know, like perfume for example, that's equivalent.

[00:30:25]Would you be able to date a girl like her in South Africa to sell? The guy is bringing her what?

[00:30:34]Flowers, chocolate. But here you bring your hand McDonald's, they are judging you. But they are settling for less in Nigeria. in for a Nigerian man for a why are you making us suffer? Why are you me I can afford street wise? True. True.

[00:30:58]cuz one day he comes home and he gives me looks like and that's another thing to talk about the situation he comes home >> you know while she's talking I was so distracted by her beauty and the story even I couldn't even hear the generic crowd I don't know okay usually When I edit the videos, I edit any background noise so that it's much clearer for you guys to hear what the person is saying.

[00:31:35]I'm going to try to leave the generator noise, but um if I remove it, there's a generator noise.

[00:31:42]I think a generator might run out of petrol and the power generator republic.

[00:31:55]I'm so happy. I'm like, babe, bought meat.

[00:31:59]I've been wanting, you know, like he looks at the meat and then he says, you don't tell me that you eat dog.

[00:32:12]I don't eat dog. I do not eat dog. What are you talking about? I don't tell you that I eat dog. What that dog is, >> guys? Just when I'm trying to find something good to put. Now you're talking about dog meat. Now they eat dog.

[00:32:29]You know what? Now you know what once they start eating sporty. Once they start eating sporty, we are done. We are no longer talking.

[00:32:38]So guys, it's going to be tough to let them go. So that's why it's very important for this strike to succeed. Please, I am begging you. It's going to be very very very hard to let them go. This strike needs to succeed. Okay. So guys, please show Nigeria some love for the strike and just keep rooting for them. You know, >> my name is Joseph.

[00:33:04]>> I'm an investigative journalist and a human right activist.

[00:33:09]>> An investigating journalist and human rights activist. Oh boy. What is happening?

[00:33:17]What is going on here?

[00:33:28]When this in this incident happened, I TRAVELED DOWN ON DAY LAST WEEK WEDNESDAY.

[00:33:34]>> OKAY, GUYS. UM, I'm not going to play that video any further. I'm not going to see a man in pampers. Is that you? All right.

[00:33:42]Go support Nigerian strike. Show them some love on any type of social media if you like it.

[00:33:52]Did this go? This this this whole episode didn't go as planned.

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