Are you signaling low status?

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[00:00:00]I'm sorry to tell you this, but you're probably signaling low status to other people. I'll tell you the psychology behind it and what you can do. Most people immediately think of money or looks or cars or where you live, but they're not it. Science tells us that status are signals that your body broadcast every second. People's brains make an assessment of you and neither of you can stop it. The first is reactivity. In every social hierarchy, human or animal, the highest ranking individual reacts the least to the behaviors of others. The psychology behind it is called differential reinforcement of status. Their emotional state doesn't depend on what others do.

[00:00:34]This is called low affiliative need and it's been studied consistently across primate studies and human social psychology. Being unbothered is something that you practice until it becomes who you are. The success lies in the gap between the trigger and the reaction. Pause and think in your head how it made you feel instead of saying it out loud. Think of it like every time you choose not to react or defend, you're making a deposit into your composure bank account. The second thing is your speed of your speech and response. The moment that you want someone to like what you're saying, your brain speeds up. It's an anxiety reflex.

[00:01:06]Deliver faster and reduce the window for rejection. But research shows that people who speak slowly are rated as more intelligent and more authoritative regardless of what they say. Pausing before you respond and slowing down by about 30%, that's the trick. What feels awkwardly slow to you is reading as composed and confident to everyone else.