A Secret I Must Take to My Grave or Risk Destroying My Family

Added: 2026-06-10

[00:00:00]First of all, we will not be doing a live this morning, okay? We will be doing this video right here, which we will release to the channel as a premiere. As a youth growing up in Jamaica, there was the Gleer, there was Star. Remember the man them used to walk around and say Star and them used to sell newspaper and them something there.

[00:00:24]I got a hold of a star one day and it changed my mind set. I wanted to read Star cuz Star always did have something interesting. It was like our entertainment piece of paper, right?

[00:00:40]Like how the US used to have Inquirer.

[00:00:44]Now my mother and father they left Jamaica and they had left us to be raised by our grandparents. Barl Pikney.

[00:00:53]I was a barrel child like millions of others who came up that route. Country boy barl pikney left with my grandparents who were uber super strict Christian people. So in our house radio was the only thing that play and my grandfather only played the radio long enough to hear cricket report and hear the news and turn off the radio. On Sundays, he might put the radio on long enough to hear a couple gospel songs and that is it. Or would they a church? Me used to live across the street from the church. I can literally to this day in Jamaica, the church is still there.

[00:01:34]Fling a rock stone from my front yard and lick that church. We can see from the veranda right into the church. They were uber Christians. So star was something I was not allowed to read.

[00:01:47]All right. No secular music was played in our house. With that said, now as me get big me I said to myself say you know said doing this so TV stuff I am going to incorporate something that is called dear soflow and I got the inspiration from the Jamaica star afraid to give credit. I don't teach people things. I act like it's me invent it. So it is from there that this was born. Now may I say this before we start with this story. I hope that your life never becomes as complicated as a story like this. Also whenever we get these stories like the dear dear soflow letter them please understand that these are real people and we need to treat the info sensitively like in the comment section when we are going to give advice. I would like for you to give advice like you give advice to your fellow friend or family member you care about or or your child or something like that your adult child or something like that. I don't want people to start hating sending in a sofa everybody bash them right you know on social media everybody is high and mighty and always right and always knows the right thing to do both in your life and theirs. I don't want that kind of attitude towards it. If you feel like say some serious things to them now where you feel would have jerk them up and put them in them place then go ahead and do so also but keep it in a way that it still seem like there is some level of love and respect to it. All right.

[00:03:26]This story was sent to me from November 17th of 2025 and I saved it and I have a quite a few other stories. The people who have sent me their dear soflow letters, I still have them. The ones I haven't read on the channel yet, me still have them. In case you're wondering why I might sound like I'm whispering, me telling already said, everybody is in the house. And right now that I'm doing this recording, it's 5:20 a.m. in the morning. And today is the day that wifey goes to campus for her nursing program. She already do our all the other components to her nursing program. As you know, she's close to finishing up her nursing stuff and she has to go into campus on Tuesdays. So with she go do that today I will have to have the baby which is five months old and all the other children will be around. So I don't want to be doing a live with a house full of children and a 5-month old baby. So we are going to do this this morning and this will be our source of entertainment on the channel for the morning until tomorrow morning when she doesn't have to do these things then I will be back live again. Understood? Understood. All right, we get into the story. We get into the story. That story here, like some others that I have saved for you at this channel, the story them serious not lie. So, the person who sent me this on November 17th of 2025, I know it's been a while because we are now in June of 2026.

[00:05:11]Okay.

[00:05:19]Uh, dear Soflo, it said, "My secret I must take to my grave." H, I'm reading.

[00:05:30]I need you to pay attention.

[00:05:33]Sorry for me be all up in on the camera, all up in all up in the face like this this morning. It's all right. I try to stay close to the microphone so sound loud and wake up everybody in at the house. Even though I'm in a separate area, but still. All right. Now, it says, "Dear Soflow, first let me say that I will be very vague in this letter because I cannot afford for anyone to know that this is me.

[00:06:03]I have a secret that I will have to take to my grave.

[00:06:09]If I reveal this secret, I will ruin many lives, including my own.

[00:06:16]I did something I should not have done years ago, and now I am stuck with this destructive secret.

[00:06:28]Well, on I will not say how many children I have or anything like that and please work with me because I am trying to tell my story but still be as vague as I possibly can. Okay, let me just say it.

[00:06:48]My mother's husband is the father of my child.

[00:06:54]I was not forced I was not coerced or taken advantage of like some might think. I was not a child. I was a grown woman when myself and he started.

[00:07:13]Let me go back over this again. Pay attention. You know, pay attention.

[00:07:18]Don't make me start over all the way from the beginning. It says, okay, let me just say it. Remember say a secret this what she said she will have to take to her grave and she said this secret right here sir is a secret that will is a very destructive secret.

[00:07:36]Yes sir. Okay let me just say it. My mother's husband is the father of my child. I was not forced. I was not coerced or taken advantage of like some might think.

[00:07:52]I was not a child. I was a grown woman when myself and he started having relations.

[00:08:03]My mother used to get mad and throw him out a lot back then and he would always contact me after she threw him out to see if he can stay at my apartment.

[00:08:17]I said yes many times, but of course I was asked not to tell my mother that he was staying there because she would come there making noise.

[00:08:30]They always broke up and got back together. Broke up and got back together over and over and over. This one time they broke up and they remained apart for way longer than all their other breakups.

[00:08:48]They were done with each other. Or so I thought. And so he thought too.

[00:08:56]Ah, where this is going. H I normally have a drink or two when I get home from work. And one of these evenings I came home from, are we going to blame it on the drink now? One of these evenings when I came home from work really tired after doing a double and he poured my drinks for me, cooked dinner, cleaned up the house, and was giving me a foot rub my bomb.

[00:09:24]One thing led to another and me and him ended up having s e xx.

[00:09:36]That was not the only time though. It happened about three or four more times after that only to find out that he was still talking to my mother and had decided to move back into the house to work things out with her.

[00:09:59]Want to see me look?

[00:10:04]No man, I have so much to say. I have to go dissect this letter. But make read on first. Gather the info first.

[00:10:16]Some people can make them life complicated. Eman said that was not the only time though. It happened about three or four more times after that only to find out find out that he was still talking to my mother and had decided to move back into the house to work things out with her. I of course felt guilty and used because I knew that we could never go public with our relationship if he decided to stay with me.

[00:10:53]I did not want to be known as the girl who took her mother's man. I should mention that he was not my mother's husband yet either. He was only her boyfriend then.

[00:11:08]And I thought they had broken up. The sad part for me came when he and my mother decided to not only get back together, but to get married.

[00:11:21]and I found out I was pregnant.

[00:11:25]I was not having sex with anybody else.

[00:11:28]So, I was sure that that baby was his and I thought about having an abortion, but I just could not do it.

[00:11:38]I made up a story for my family to believe about my child's father. A story I will not say here because that might reveal who I am if they ever see this.

[00:11:53]No one in my family knows this secret.

[00:11:56]This is a secret I have kept to myself and myself only.

[00:12:03]Every time I look at my son, I am burdened with so much guilt. I feel like he deserves to know the truth about who his father is. But I know the drama it will bring. I am sure my mother's husband never told her that me and him hooked up and I won't either.

[00:12:27]I am writing this to unbburden myself, but I feel more guilty now.

[00:12:33]I know you read these on your you read these on your program and I honestly want to hear what your audience has to say about what they would do in this situation especially the women. I have so much more information to give for what people would call juicy details but I cannot because it will expose who I am or that is what I think. So Flo, please read my letter to your audience and notify me that you put it on your channel so that I can go and see the comments. Thanks for doing this for me.

[00:13:13]I appreciate it very much. Please do not share my email or my name with anyone and thanks again.

[00:13:25]All right, this is a lot to unpack. We go unload.

[00:13:30]We unpack this letter. Let me go back up at the top. Let me go back up at the top. Which part did come in a car? This is not one of those clutch my pearls. Oh my gosh. This is how the blood cl is the kind of story this is. When I started the story, when this was sent to me, I read it back then once and I saved it. I hadn't read it again. So, I had to go through it to and the details are fresh now to me like it is to you. All right. So, pardon my exclamations.

[00:14:07]Um, and like I said at the beginning of this, I pray that your life never becomes this complicated. For the people who don't know, you can write to Soulflow TV, dear Soflow. If it's just like how me tell the promo people them to put in promo at the top of the letters so I know what it's about and I put their info right into my promo book for when we're ready to do the promos.

[00:14:31]Put dear soflow once I see the big dear soflow in all caps. I know is one of these letters and I'll save it as one.

[00:14:39]This is from our dear soflow pile.

[00:14:42]All right. Now, we go back over this now or let's go over this from the beginning.

[00:14:47]From what I've gathered from this so far, without getting into all the details, you slept with your mother's man.

[00:14:55]Now, the first thing here that you went super wrong with is there's there are questions that I have like what was the relationship with your mom before you did this? Cuz you never explained that to me. And I understand you don't want to get into too much details cuz rightfully so. Too much details would give away could give away who you are, right? Like if you started talking about where you were raised or these kind of intimate details that would draw somebody closer to zero in on you. I get that. I get that. But were you and your mother ever friendly?

[00:15:33]Like you know some daughters as they grow older them and their moms get really close. You know, you will hear some said, "Mother, no. I'm a best friend." That I don't know if you and your mom had that relationship. Were you raised in her house?

[00:15:50]What age did you leave her house?

[00:15:53]Did this man help to raise you? Was he a stepfather that was with your mom or playing stepfather? Because you know in the Caribbean we have uh well should you never say for Jamaica or up here or in foreign or Canada or England or wherever but in Caribbean culture we believe in common law. So your mother husband will raise you or your stepfather you never you you don't call him your mother's boyfriend after he's been there since you were a child and you are now an adult. You not even care. You just assume say you're married and the law in the Caribbean know I can speak for Jamaica after a couple of years you are considered a spouse whether there is a nuptual or not. Yes I do walk down the aisle you know the whole throw flowers and sprinkle rice grain or something and drive off in a limo and you know them kind of sitting there. If you if you don't have that you're still considered to be married. As a matter of fact, under common law, there are laws that protects each partner to where you can't just say a man has assets and he has a common law wife of 10 years and then things fall apart. He can't just throw out her out in the streets, you know. He can't just throw out in the streets. She actually reserves the right. She's backed up by the system. She can take him to court.

[00:17:22]She can fight over assets, things that were accumulated during her time in that relationship. When she meet him, him never have nothing. She held the household down while he built an empire.

[00:17:35]These kind of things him have something now want to fling her out. It not going to go up. They're going to split the assets. She's leaving with something.

[00:17:42]You if y'all don't know that, I'm just telling you that. That's a bit longwinded and a bit off topic, but it kind of in line with the story. So, let's get to the story cuz I have questions.

[00:17:55]The first thing I think you did wrong is you went with a person who was already involved extensively with your mom cuz you said it here that it's her man. It's been her man for years and they always do the same routine. Obviously somewhat of a toxic relationship, right? They always do the same routine. Them fight, then make up, them fight, him left, him come back, them make up. It's nothing new.

[00:18:28]They're making up, they're breaking up, they're leaving, they're getting back together. That's their pattern. You should have already assumed that that is their pattern. And why would you have feelings for your mother's man?

[00:18:40]That's kind of disgusting, right?

[00:18:44]Certain things are off limits. We asked a question the other day during the live where I said, "Can you control who you like?"

[00:18:54]And a lot of people said, "You absolutely can." The truth of the matter is, you can't. You can't. You walk in the grocery store and you see somebody you've never seen before and you're like damn, fine as hell, beautiful. This that and the the person checks all the blocks.

[00:19:15]If you go have a conversation with that person now and end up really liking that person now, there's nothing you can do to stop yourself from like the person.

[00:19:27]That's the early stage of infatuation kind of thing. Now, who you choose to get involved with and where you choose to take those feelings is another story.

[00:19:39]Cuz if you did like your mother man, which you claim was her ex cuz they had broken up for way longer than they ever did. That mean y'all watch them relationship to from a long time and you've been timing. Okay. They Mommy and John John break up for two months. Him normally gone for two months. Then he comes back. This time he's gone for nine months. You've been paying attention. I wonder if you actually liked him the whole time. And then you were doing something that's very troubling.

[00:20:13]Every time they break up, he would come to your apartment. You said go back in.

[00:20:18]So, let's take this back from the top cuz why would you take him in when your mother or him leave your mom?

[00:20:26]Can't you see that you were probably being played? Cuz the man probably sense that you want game some along the way as well. So, you know what? Your mother give me a headache. I left you some pretend say we broke up. I come over your house cuz she look like she want to give me some front chill over there for a while. What did you do? hide them in the house while you go to work.

[00:20:51]Dear Soflo, first let me say that I will be very vague in the letter because I cannot afford for anyone to know that this is me. I I I respect that. I have a secret that I will have to take to my grave. If I reveal this secret, I will ruin many lives, including my own.

[00:21:14]We not start talk about your son yet or your daughter yet or your child.

[00:21:21]We haven't started talking about your child yet.

[00:21:24]You will ruin many lives.

[00:21:29]I did something I should not have done years ago. And now I'm stuck with this destructive secret.

[00:21:37]I will not say how many children I have or how many or or anything like that.

[00:21:43]and please work with me because I am trying to tell my story but still be as vague as possibly as I possibly can. May I read it back over we have to go dissect this. So we we get that she doesn't want to be known in any kind of way. She's very guarded of this secret but she have to let it out. This must be a secret that is strangling you, friend, to walk around knowing that you mothering or carried the child of your mother's husband.

[00:22:20]And you can't tell that child who his father is cuz it would have mash up your life.

[00:22:31]Does that child not deserve to know who his father is? You know, it's funny cuz we just did this yesterday where the brother called in and this is not the first time he called in where you know him did tell him head mash up and you know his head mash up cuz of the situation with him finding out that his firstborn child, his proud firstborn, a boy 10 years going on 11 years now, a child that he has devoted his life to taking care of, raising, sending to private school, working extra hard to make sure he has everything found out this child is not his. Mash up him head.

[00:23:12]And I said yesterday when we were having that discussion that regardless of what the backstory is, every child deserves to know who their father is. I don't care if it is a bum that's sleeping on the side of the road somewhere. I don't care about how nonbitious he is. I don't care about how ugly you think he is cuz you you slept with him. I don't care or I don't Well, wasn't sleeping obviously.

[00:23:39]I don't care what the story may be. Let the child decide for themsel or not. But at least let them know that's your daddy right there. Every every human being deserves that, right?

[00:23:53]Okay.

[00:23:55]Okay. Let me just say my mother's husband is the father of my child. start out like that.

[00:24:03]I was not forced.

[00:24:05]I was not coerced or taken advantage of like some might think. I was not a child. I was a grown woman when myself and he started having relations. So, you're admitting this wasn't a case of manipulation. This wasn't a case of forced upon. This wasn't a case of coercion. This is a case of you as a grown woman in a grown woman mindset making up your mind to have sexual relations with your mother's on again offagain man.

[00:24:43]Messy mess. Very messy. Too messy. You should have known then. You know the part that gets me though?

[00:24:53]She goes right here, right? Where she said, "My mother used to get mad and throw him out a lot back then." And he would always contact me. He would always contact me after she threw him out to see if he can stay at my apartment.

[00:25:13]I said yes many times.

[00:25:16]Why were you saying yes?

[00:25:20]Why were you harboring a man that your mother threw out? Was there a stepfather relationship there and you like I mean not understand why you as a female now would have harbor a man that your mama threw out. She throws him out the house and he leaves and you've seen them repeat this many times.

[00:25:43]But you take him in. Not only did you take him in, you hide him. You don't tell your mom that, you know, mom John's staying over at my house cuz when we're going through your thing again and you threw him out and I don't want him out on the street cuz he's been a good stepdad to me or whatever the case may be. I can't say no. So, he's at the house. Hurry up and take him back, please. You You literally hid that you were doing that, which tells me you might have had plans from the very beginning. I want you to think about that. You know, sometimes when we're forced to hold a mirror up to ourself, then we actually can see that we are the culprit. A lot of people like to play victim, right? And a lot of people like to do things that are unsavory, but and they want a excuse as to why they did it.

[00:26:39]They want somebody or something to blame.

[00:26:43]But the truth of the matter is you made a decision as a grown person and you have nobody to blame but yourself because you willingly did it.

[00:26:54]It's not something that looks pretty on your resume but you did it. And some things can't rub out and this is one of them. This can't rub out now. So there you are, the mother of a child that you cannot tell who the child father is to the child because the man is your mother husband.

[00:27:20]My god, you know, she said she throw him out a lot back in back then and he would always contact me after she threw him out to see if he can stay at my apartment. I said yes many times. But of course, I was asked not to tell my mother that he was staying there because she would come there making noise. So used to tell her said, "Don't tell your mother send me over here. Don't tell your mother I'm over here cuz she would come over here and make whole heap of noise."

[00:27:55]And you obliged.

[00:27:59]They always broke up and got back together over and over and over. This one time they broke up and they remained apart for way longer than all their other breakups. They were done with each other. Or so I thought. And so he thought too. So did I talk about it? So cuz how would you know that? So he thought too.

[00:28:23]Y'all over there talking about it. Y'all over there getting closer. you were over there fostering a relationship with your mother's man, ex-man, whatever he was at the time. That's how you know that cuz he said it to you and say, you know, usually go back to Cherel, but usually last like two months, 1 month, this time 9 months now. I'm sure we're done. I'm sure we're done. That's what y'all were over there talking about. And you then saw your opportunity to put yourself where you wanted to be all along. Yes, that's what you did.

[00:29:05]I hate to be straightforward, but I don't know any other way to say it to you except for like this. Audience, tell me if I'm wrong. I need y'all who are listening this to put it in the comment section if I am being wrong or misleading or misunderstanding. Fill me in. Why should I fill me in then? Tell me if I'm Tell me if I'm wrong.

[00:29:32]They were done with each other. So I thought and so he thought too. I normally have a drink or two when I get home from work. And on one of these evenings, I came home from work really tired after doing a double and he poured my drinks for me, cooked dinner, cleaned up the house, and was giving me a foot rub.

[00:30:02]Mm- You didn't know something did wrong already. Cuz if somebody has stay at my house and me come home tired and my routine is to have a couple of glasses of wine before dinner and go into my bed, mean put my foot upon them to get a foot rub. That's quite intimate.

[00:30:24]Putting your foot on the lap of your mother's man so he can rub your feet while you are slightly intoxicated.

[00:30:36]That's you looking for an excuse to do exactly what you wanted to do. You know, one thing I've learned as a man over the years is that women in particular, they want to do things. They just want to have something to blame it on so that they don't seem like a [ __ ] or they don't seem unholy or they don't seem like a bad person. I was drunk.

[00:31:03]I had so much to drink. I just I can't even remember.

[00:31:08]But then you know it happened a couple of more times after that. I wasn't in the right frame of mind and he knew it and him take advantage of me. You see the wine get blamed, the man get blamed, the the mother get blamed cuz she keep on flinging him out and take him back and fling him out and take him back and if she didn't do that that wouldn't happen. Blame everybody except for yourself.

[00:31:33]This is looking like one of those cases where you will have to accept that you knew what you were doing all along and you look like you had this planned all along. Either that or at some point you started planning to do this. Yeah.

[00:31:50]No gone to dinner cooked while one goes out to work. So he's he is now a stay-at-home wife husband.

[00:31:58]You turn your mother man stay at home wife husband. He's cooking dinner and fixing the cleaning up the house and giving foot rubs while you go work to pay the bills. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh man.

[00:32:14]Uh one thing led to another and me and him ended up having s e x.

[00:32:23]So the foot rub the house clean. You don't have to do nothing when you come home. You know that all I had you feeling like in a certain ambiance. You wanted to thank him. Huh.

[00:32:36]That was not the only time though. It happened about three or four more times after that only to find out that he was still talking to my mother and had decided to move back into the house to work things out with her.

[00:32:52]I of course felt guilty and I felt used because I knew that we would never go we could never go public with our relationship if he decided to stay with me. Well, obviously he didn't decide to stay with you cuz he was intercoring you while he was sweetening up your mom to get back into that house with your mom.

[00:33:17]This is where that's a nasty man.

[00:33:21]That's a nasty man. Bad to bad. And as bad as things be, at some point, even if he said, "You know what? I'm going to be with you."

[00:33:33]Yes, the story would have ended with, "You take your mother, man, cuz your mother used to be with a man there. Date him before, but you know, time has a way of ironing out things." And although that can't iron out cuz it would have still wrinkle up a little bit in due time it would look different cuz who didn't know that that used to be her man just wouldn't know and they would only know him as your man and your husband.

[00:34:03]But he had other plans too. You see when you are make plan somebody else making plans too and it's not your plans. He had other plans too. He didn't have any plans to stay with you.

[00:34:19]Even after you give him pom pom couple of times or sex or whatever you want to call it. Even after you gave him that couple of times, he still was behind your back talking to your mom.

[00:34:33]Joeline come no man and stop playing man let me back into the house man stop fight and make up no bab knowing that him just done wow she said that was not the only time though it happened about three or four more times after that only to find out that he was still talking to my mother and had decided to move back into the house to work things out with her I of course felt guilty and used because I knew that we could never go public with our relationship. If he decided to stay with me, I did not want to be known as the girl who took her mother's man. Then you shouldn't attack him.

[00:35:19]You shouldn't have let him in. You shouldn't have him there pouring wine and cooking dinner and rubbing feet.

[00:35:27]Everything has a progression.

[00:35:30]You know how we talk to people and we say the first time you see the man raise him hand like hey girl pack up your things and matter of fact left the things and go on because it starts with hey girl you want hey you want me you start with that and the next thing you know poof you get your first lick then you get poof poof you get more lick and the abuse starts on a different level now. Now, y'all get beaten, but it starts with verbal abuse first. It starts with somebody looking like they're going to and possibly could. And from you see that the red flag there, you should have left. Same thing for this right here with her.

[00:36:19]Everything was there to say this is wrong. Everything was there to say don't do it. This can't have a good outcome.

[00:36:25]You already know that even if he decides to stay with you, y'all could never go public because you don't want to be labeled as the woman who took her mother's man. So why did you even entertain that in the first place? And then and then I find out that he was still talking to my mother and he had decided to move into the house, back into the house to work things out with her. I of course felt guilty and used because I knew that we would never go public with our relationship. Could never go public with our relationship if he decided to stay with me. I did not want to be known as the girl who took her mother's man. I should mention that he was not my mother's husband yet either. It don't matter.

[00:37:15]I did your mother man.

[00:37:19]It should have been off limits.

[00:37:23]should mention he was only her boyfriend and I thought that they had broken up. You see that's not an excuse, friend. I'm sorry to tell you. She said the sad part for me came when he and my mother decided to get married. So they had this relationship where they would break up and they would get back together and break up and get back together and then finally them break up him end up at your house and get some pom pom couple of times then decide him want go back go marry your mother.

[00:37:57]You know what an honorable man would have done?

[00:38:00]A honorable man wouldn't even have went to your house to stay and as soon as he felt any kind of sexual energy he would have go find somewhere else to stay.

[00:38:10]drowning people grab at straws and leaves knowing the straw and the leaf cannot save them but them desperate. So he might have been desperate right if when your mother throw him out nowhere to go all these things the only person know is you him can can I come stay there for a few till your mother cool down you said yes don't tell her over here you know cuz she we come around come make up noise you said okay this looks like he was leading you too but you liked being led like that you knew where it was going sending you there you were going there and y'all had a nice ugly thing going on that you made look pretty.

[00:38:52]Mhm.

[00:38:54]And then eventually the man decides says not only is he going to go back and make up with your mom married and married they did right.

[00:39:04]They decided to get married and then I found out I was pregnant and I was not having sex with anyone else. So, I was sure that that baby was his and I thought about having an abortion, but I just could not do it. My girl, I don't believe in abortion either, but I do believe in a woman's right to choose. So, I'm not one of those men who say, "Wicked girl, you should not do it.

[00:39:32]Lock all access off. Make sure none's available to her." No, I'll turn my head the next way. That's between you and God, not me. However, in a situation like that, that was the perfect time to have an abortion. That was, and women do this all the time. I I hate to say this, but I've even seen situations where women get got uh ra by their father or their older brother and then decide at this moment, God must have wanted this to happen cuz things don't happen without God.

[00:40:10]And this baby is still a blessing from God because all babies are blessings.

[00:40:16]Now, why the [ __ ] Why the hell would God choose your father to force himself on you and give you a baby and then tell you say a blessing that?

[00:40:34]Come on, man. We have to have sense, right?

[00:40:38]you should have got rid of this child.

[00:40:40]You would not have this problem now. You and this man would be the only two who knew cuz it seemed like y'all are the only two who know that what y'all did that would have been done and you could separate yourself from that through distance over time, right? But now you're connected to your mom's married partner for life. How are you going to tell your mom that her husband is also the father of her grandchild?

[00:41:09]Oh my god. You created a scenario now that that you're going to have to deal with.

[00:41:17]You have to go deal with this. I don't even know what to tell you cuz your your thing is should you tell but you feel like you have to take this to your grave cuz it's a destructive secret that can mash up quite a few lives.

[00:41:36]I made up a story for my family to believe about my child's father. A story that you would not say here because that might reveal who I am. I understand that too cuz I know if you say you tell them say is a guy who traveled overseas and he left with the US military and went off to war and he died in combat or something like that. The child the father of your child is dead. So you're a single mom. You don't know why you tell them. But if my sister ever told me anything like that about my niece or nephew, I would believe I would not only believe it. I would remember it for life. Anytime somebody asks me so where's his dad or where's her dad I would say boy my sister was unfortunate you know she was with a guy that she loved apparently she tell me say he was also a traveler and he was in the military and he went off to one of them war there and he died and she basically has to raise him on her own so I don't know what story you tell them but keep it to yourself I made up a story for my family to believe about my child's father. A story that I will not say here because they that might reveal who I am if they ever see this. No one in my family knows this secret. This is a secret that I have kept to myself and myself only. Well, it's not yourself only. Is you and the man. You and your mother husband have a secret.

[00:43:02]Every time I look at my son, I am burdened with so much guilt.

[00:43:08]I feel like he deserves to know the truth about who his father is. Who is should she say who his father is or should be who his father is? I get it though. But I know that the drama I know the drama it will bring.

[00:43:27]You really didn't think this through?

[00:43:30]You really didn't think this through?

[00:43:34]I'm sure my mother's husband never told her that me and him hooked up and I won't either.

[00:43:43]She said, "I'm writing this to unbburden myself, but I feel more guilty now and I know you read these on your program and I honestly want to hear what your audience has to say about what they what they would do in this situation." So my audience, what I want you to do in this situation is explain in the comment section what you would do. Now I think I've used enough time to say what she should not have done to lead her here.

[00:44:15]And I think she now knows that too. What she should not have done. You know in life when we young and dumb and we do stuff we think we have clairvoyancy and we see everything and we know what to do and then in hindsight you look back and it's like what the hell were you thinking when you did that? But this is one of those big boo boos.

[00:44:39]You know now what you did wrong but how do you clean that up here moving forward? That's where we need the audience at. How does she clean this up movie for? Should she tell?

[00:44:56]Should she tell? Should she have a conversation with her mother's man, husband now with her mother's husband, her stepdad? Should she have a conversation with her stepdad and say, "Listen, that thing that we did, does he know that that is his son?" That's another question. Does he know that that is his son?

[00:45:16]Does he look at that child and said why him look like me blows on a skirt and if I calculate his age is around the time when I was me and she did do I wonder if he has done that or did he just move on with his life too back to your mom married or like nothing happened with you and him I see something asks does he know that that's his child cuz If he knows that that's his child, then that's a whole different ball game.

[00:45:49]If he doesn't know that that's his child, that's also a whole different ball game cuz that might have changed the dynamics of things.

[00:45:58]Say, "Yeah, me and your mother go get married." You know what we did? We have to keep it a secret. You cool with that? And you say, "Yeah."

[00:46:10]I think right then you could have said, "No, I'm not cool with that cause me pregnant.

[00:46:14]He probably would have said, "Have an abortion."

[00:46:18]Or he probably would have said, "I'm staying with you no matter what. I guess I'm just going to have to let go of your mom." Tell her the truth. Something other than where you're at now. Cuz now you're trying to figure out what to do with this mess. It's a mess. This is a mess.

[00:46:38]What says you audience? What should she do in this situation? Is this a secret that she needs to take to her grave?

[00:46:49]What about the boy or the girl, the child that came out of this?

[00:46:54]How do we justify now having a child live a life never knowing who their father is and you know who the father is and the father is around. Could you imagine when she goes over to her mom's house? Hi mommy. What you cook today? It smell good in here, man. Want some? Hungry?

[00:47:17]And your mother said, "No, just some oxtail just stew around there." So, you know, some oxtail stew. We have some rice and peas to go with it and stuff.

[00:47:25]Go in my kitchen. Go help yourself. Hi, grandbaby. Come here. You know how parents are, grandparents are, right?

[00:47:32]Come here. hugging up on, you know, and imagine that child always saying hi to his father, not knowing that that's his father.

[00:47:48]Father been around you all along and you never know. Say your daddy that. Father been around you all along and you never know is your daddy that. Ooh, your child's going to have some resentment.

[00:48:02]Cuz one thing we know for sure, you know, is whatever is done in the dark usually comes to light. My friend may fold me hand them cuz I can't wait to see the comment section under this video. I wish I could have went live this morning so we could hash this one out live. And I know it would have takes some time and I'm thinking tomorrow when we do go live, this will be where we start off. Come have exercise that one year live. I want all the callins. I want all of that. I I I I need to hear from people cuz it's not everybody going to write a comment.

[00:48:42]So what I did this morning was I did a reverse email. You know when somebody send you an email and then at the bottom of the email it says reply and forward right here. Like I said, this was sent to me from let me see November 17th of 2025. So it's been sitting in my email with the rest of the Dear Soflows that I had stopped doing for a while here.

[00:49:08]And all I did was I reversed email it and replied. I hit reply and I told her this morning, look out for your story. I know it's been a while, but look out for your story that you sent me because I'm posting it to the channel this morning and it's the only piece of content. So, you won't get confused. You will find it. Watch the comment section. Hear what people have to say. I also told her that tomorrow when I go live, I might bring this up and discuss it. So, she should tune in then as well.

[00:49:44]Want to give her some good advice for me. Please treat this like it's your own life and you made this mistake. What would you do? I want to what would Jesus do this? You know, what would you do?

[00:49:56]How you would have handled this? You have to go handle your bangle now. But how would you handle this? Cuz if you tell your mother, she probably will never speak to you again in life. Cuz first you're going to find out say you were sleeping with her man. You know say she love the man.

[00:50:13]Well, you breed around the time them decide to get married. You still never say nothing. You could have dash where you never dash it where you keep it. Even though they were committed to getting married, all these years you're raising this child, tell them a story. It's This is going to be messy.

[00:50:34]This is going to be messy.

[00:50:37]I don't know what else to say. I've talked about all the shoulda, would I, could have, but didn't.

[00:50:46]I want to hear where we go from here.

[00:50:48]Now, I'mma leave this one right here.

[00:50:55]Listener, like I said earlier in the video, today is the day that wifey goes into campus, right? She going to our school today.

[00:51:08]She has to be on campus on site today.

[00:51:13]So, I have a lot going on today with a house full of people. All the children are here plus guests. So, somebody have to go govern the house plus the baby while she goes to do her thing. So, we're not doing the live today, but tomorrow morning bright and early we will be doing a live. All right. So, I'll see you then. Leave your comments in the comment section below. Please fill up the comment section. make no one makes sense to me or at least let me hear what you would do even if it wouldn't make sense to me. Now, if you're going to ask me what I would do, how do I put myself in her seat or in her chair or in her shoes?

[00:52:04]I can't say I wouldn't because this is a scenario of you did it already. Now, what would you do?

[00:52:12]Made dumb decisions all along the way.

[00:52:14]Now, what would you do? You know, they have a saying that say you play stupid games, you win stupid prices, right?

[00:52:21]They have another saying that says what's done in the dark shall surely come to light, right? And they also have another saying that whatever you do has consequences, and someday at some point, you're going to have to face the consequences.

[00:52:37]I guess in a scenario like this, I would never be ready to face the consequences.

[00:52:42]But there is something that's called fling it out there and let the chips fall where they may. If my mom never forgives me, never speaks to me again.

[00:52:51]It mash up our marriage.

[00:52:57]your mom is going to divorce her dad or or her not your dad cuz of your stepdad but your mom's going to divorce him cuz she's going to be like he knew also that's why I wanted to know does he know and why didn't you tell me that you sleep with my daughter already would have never married you all that you're going to have to deal with your son's going to have to deal with or daughter is going to have to deal with the that's my daddy I thought that was my granddaddy or my stepgranddaddy.

[00:53:31]That's grandma husband.

[00:53:34]That that that's a whole another level of shock.

[00:53:40]So would I just throw it out there and let the chips fall where they may?

[00:53:48]Yeah. If you truly want to unbburden yourself, if I truly wanted to unburden myself, that's what I would do. I would just throw it out there. Let the chips fall where they may. Who stop talk to who? Stop talk to who? Just so I'll have to accept the consequences. My child will know who his father is or her father is though. Right? That's if I was in her shoes. That means I me have to go think like me. I want woman now who did careless and make some careless decision and now I have to face the consequences.

[00:54:14]I'm flinging it out there. Mash up my mother marriage.

[00:54:18]My child know who he his or her father is.

[00:54:24]It's settled. It's settled and we'll deal with it from there.

[00:54:29]That's my advice.

[00:54:32]I wait to see what advice y'all leave in the comment sections. Big up on yourself. I appreciate you greatly. You already know. You know, my granny and Miss Ruby say be good. If you can't be good, be careful.

[00:54:44]H but it's best to be good.

[00:54:50]My grandfather M. Cleave say I will see you tomorrow if God spare life. We are not in control of things. The Almighty is. So if God spare life, we will see you tomorrow. All right. One love walk good. I can't wait to bump me toe and trip and get up and roll and get up and run to these comment sections cuz I want to hear and see what everybody has to say. I'm going to be premiering this video. So, I will be watching this video with you while this video is being played lively at the comments. I'll be right there trying to engage as many as possible.

[00:55:31]I'm out.

[00:55:33]See you in the morning for morning thoughts live.

[00:55:37]Peace.

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