“What I Look Like” TikTok Trend Is Something Young Men Need To Be Aware Of

[00:00:05]She's swinging on him. I can't show it.

[00:00:10]>> Just stop and let me talk. Don't say nothing.

[00:00:30]One of the business uh discussions that we need to have is a community post that I put out for the younger men. And I'm pretty sure older guys, we should already know this because we've seen so many examples of black men um going to jail for getting involved with a with an abusive woman. Let's just say that much.

[00:00:52]And what I saw on TikTok was very troubling to me. And I want young men to see this prior to us getting into the dating show. So this is what I posted on community post if you guys missed it. So I said, "Young black men, go to Tik Tok and type in what I look like asking him about another." And I said, "I pray that you all properly vet these women prior to getting involved with them." The reason why I put that out there specifically for the young men because back in our day, I think we did a piss poor a piss poor job of sending these women to jail. And I like where the conversation is going. When a man uh when his property gets damaged or when he gets abused, I'm starting to see more black men sending these women to jail.

[00:01:36]And that's what you you young men need to get in the habit of doing. I'm getting tired of seeing this foolery because if you don't, what's going to happen is they're going to continue this narrative that black men are abusive without highlighting the intimate partner violence statistics that we just reviewed. And I'm going to share them once again. So, the more men that are sending these women to jail for breaking up their things and also hitting them, they'll start to stop this foolery.

[00:02:04]Because in the black community, they like to paint it as black men are just running around swinging on black women for no reason. When we know, according to the statistics, that black women are engaging in intimate partner violence in almost the same rate as black men. And it's going to start with you guys. And I don't care how this sounds. I'm not, you know, going by some street code or some foolery like that. I'm in the business of protecting black men and specifically young black men because I'm an old guy.

[00:02:33]I know better, right? But you guys, you know, you you probably don't because of what you see on social media. And this is a prime example.

[00:02:53]I look like another [ __ ] >> So, young men, I pray that you are listening to me because I do not want this to happen to you. One of the young men in that video was actually sent to sent to the hospital and he was uh walking around with a walker. This last young woman, they're both in the back of a police car and somehow she was able to keep her phone as she's recording it laughing. And what I saw in the comments was absolutely horrible. Horrible. And I grabbed a couple of screenshots just to show you guys what the conversation is in the black community about our young black women doing this to black men.

[00:03:49]This this black woman, she says, "Why am I proud of you?"

[00:03:54]Bobby and Whitney, I'mma get my get back even if I get life. Trust me. And they laugh about it.

[00:04:02]Sweet mother of pearl. You gave me the look of did not tell you not to play with me. Now look at us.

[00:04:10]I can't stop laughing. The way she is smiling and he is beyond livid. from the look on his face and the smile on yours.

[00:04:18]He learned that today. And that's from the back of the uh the cop car video.

[00:04:24]She looking at him like, "Now what did we learn?" I'm screaming. You look content with the decision, too.

[00:04:33]Look at it. The smile, the stare, the silence, the hair. Okay, trend over, boo. You won. And like I said, this is all black women sharing these types of videos of them crashing out over a dude for checking his phone or catching him cheating. I don't care what he did. That is no reason for you to be swinging on some grown ass man. And getting him in trouble with the law.

[00:04:57]Not not they took both of y'all and I'm still asking in the police car, too.

[00:05:02]Like I said, they think it's funny.

[00:05:05]The peace that comes over me, happy side, they like seeing this in phase two of making this happen. She's planning on doing it. Bring so much peace. Teach me your ways. The funniest is ever be feeling so at peace after I intentionally unintentionally do this.

[00:05:27]It's like they're trying to get black men to react in such a manner because if a man is, you know, kind of laidback and he doesn't react, that's not a good sign for them. So when she's saying Mr. Nonchalant ain't so nonchalant anymore after she done swung on him and now swung on him and they going to jail, now she feels like she did something.

[00:05:56]That's embarrassing, man. Especially when he posed to be so nonchalant, you know. So, see, and this is what I'm TALKING ABOUT. IT'S LIKE THEY'RE TRYING TO get the men to react.

[00:06:08]Jesus Christ. I don't give a damn if the man was caught texting another woman or he got caught cheating. That don't give you no right to break up his personal belongings. Break, you know, smash the the windshield of his car, put your hands on a grown ass man. And that's why I'm speaking directly to the young men.

[00:06:28]I can't influence what these young women are doing. That's for the women to decide. But from the looks of it, they are encouraging these young women to do this and older women. So, I'm speaking to the young men. You guys, please, for the sake of your own livelihood, you need to vet these women properly. And dare I say it, if you're dating a black woman, just make sure you do your proper vetting because from the looks of it, this trend is nothing but black women and it's nothing but black women in the comments cheering them on. But I'm speaking directly about black women. You guys should be embarrassed.

[00:07:05]This is crazy. And y'all acting like it's a joke on TikTok, a public platform. You guys are sharing videos of you terrorizing these men.

[00:07:16]I don't know where y'all thought that this was funny and you gonna share it on TikTok so these men can see and now I get a hold of it and I'm ashamed because everybody is watching it. It's white people in there commenting like, "Wow, this is crazy." Hispanics, Asians, I don't know where y'all get off.

[00:07:36]Is that funny? You dumb [ __ ] Yeah, I'm talking to y'all.

[00:07:41][ __ ] is stupid, man. And then you go and then black women gonna have the nerve to run their asses on social media and try and talk about intimate partner violence and how black men are violent. Let me remind y'all of where the statistics stand.

[00:07:57]And this is from National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Very reputable source. Domestic violence in in the black community.

[00:08:07]Black women and black men experience domestic violence at higher rates than other black comm than other communities.

[00:08:14]In fact, 45.1% of black women experience physical violence uh SV or stalking from their intimate partner while 40% 40.1% of black men experience those abuses on average. So, before y'all run your asses out there talking about how violent black men are, I want you to go back to this post because I'm going to clip this video up and I want you to look at these statistics.

[00:08:41]Don't ever fix your mouth and sit there and say that black men are violent when you guys are engaging in the same type of foolery at almost the same rate. Are y'all stupid?

[00:08:54]And and where are the older black women that are checking this type of behavior?

[00:08:59]Seems like y'all are with it. We are not on some type of street code. We are professional, successful black men over here. If a woman ever puts her hands on you, you make sure you call the cops and you put her ass in jail. If she ever breaks up your stuff, call the cops, put her ass in jail, and she going to have to pay your ass for everything that she broke up. And after you do that, leave her ass. If she living with living with you, throw her [ __ ] out and she can find somewhere else to stay. That is unacceptable behavior. I don't want y'all young men to get into the habit of thinking that this is normal. It's not.

[00:09:36]Okay?

[00:09:38]So, I'm telling y'all, take aunt's advice, man. This is not cool. I don't care if she trying to act like she playing. Babe, I was just playing. I know how these conversations go. Don't be stupid. Don't throw your life away from getting with some raggedy ass woman that's going to get you in trouble. Cuz this is crazy.

[00:09:58]And y'all need to hear this. The black community needs to see [ __ ] like this.