Why He's Actually Lonely: Misogyny, Incompetence, & Unpaid Labor

追加: 2026-06-04

[00:00:00]I was tagged in this post in the blatant misogyny subreddit. She titled it consequences of your own behavior epidemi epidemic and she shares a video from content creator Monty Mater. Monty Mater put together this video. This is a great video compilation that speaks to why many of these men are alone. This first clip, this man, he says nothing's more worse, nothing's more worse than some ugly girls shooting their shot. He out here looking like he looked it. His face is not something that you want to wake up to when you have clarity of mind. You simply do not. But he's sitting up here talking about ugly girls. Now, if you want to see, if you're over here on Tik Tok, I suggest you go over to Monty Mater's post. I'm not going to share her post here on Tik Tok. For the YouTube people, I will share her post. This is like the fourth clip that she shared. This man right here, Clavicular, this is that streamer that's all about looks maxing. He's all about getting his body together, his face together, blah blah blah. But this is a dude that is absolutely not worried about a woman getting an orgasm. He said he ain't worried about all that because it has no return on investment. Just hearing this person say this, it really speaks to how a woman is a man's just happiness device. She has no humanity when it comes to people like this. If you actually listen to her clip and all of these men talking, women are supposed to be available sexually. Women are not supposed to talk back. If a woman does get abused by her husband, she's not supposed to go to the authorities. It's like there these dudes talking in social med media spaces and women having access to all of this. It speaks to why so many women are pulling away and leaving these dudes alone.

[00:02:00]>> Nothing is more worse than an ugly chick shooting her shot at you. And I know all my guys could definitely relate to that.

[00:02:08]Yes. I can't think of anything more worse.

[00:02:10]>> The ideal situation is that you're in your 30s and then you marry a 16-year-old virgin, which is what I'm going to do. I've talked about this before, but I'm talking to a 15year-old right now, and when she turns 16, we're going to get married.

[00:02:25]>> Yeah, that's a crime.

[00:02:27]>> I'm not saying that your husband should slap you down, but if your husband slaps you down and you call the cops, you're evil.

[00:02:32]>> You'll never guess what that pastor did to his wife. Can I ask you how important is it to you to also make the girl have an orgasm?

[00:02:41]Not important.

[00:02:45]How come? Well, because you know the amount of extra effort that's required to do that is just not going to really have much ROI.

[00:02:56]>> Because the the more you didn't like it, the more I enjoyed it. I loved how much you hated it.

[00:03:02]>> Turn me on.

[00:03:04]Why am I like that?

[00:03:06]>> Why? I am one of the most dangerous men on this planet. Sometimes you forget exactly how lucky you were to get by me.

[00:03:14]Would you rather me pin you down and make you do things you didn't like? Or would you rather demand, belittle, insult women, pray on children because they are malleable and easy to control. Marry them off young so that you have control for longer.

[00:03:28]Justify your abuse no matter what it is.

[00:03:30]In fact, she's evil if she calls the police. If you assault her, use God to sanctify that language. Demand purity culture. Women can't be touching anybody, but men are supposed to be touching everyone. So, who the [ __ ] are they sleeping with? And then give platforms and access to men who openly advocate for abuse at worst and at best don't care about women's pleasure at all. You call women slots and horrors, but they still won't sleep with you. You project your fear of loneliness onto everyone else because you are terrified of at the end of the day you won't be likable enough to be chosen. man that women just closed their legs and when they did you claimed a male loneliness epidemic. No, it's not. It's a consequences of your own behavior epidemic. And many of the men that work in this category are finding out just how lonely that section can be because good men are not having a [ __ ] problem. This idea that women's sexuality doesn't exist or it's evil or just unimportant really bothers me. It's [ __ ] Which is why I team up with Blesa on these and we're doing it again because it makes the wrong kind of person very very mad and the right kind of people either at least a little bit of joy or it gives them ideas. So, we're partnering with Blessa. If you sign up through the link in my bio, you get a free toy or a free gift card because why as a woman would you want to even deal with whatever the hell all of that was?

[00:04:40]>> Dex to the max posted this. Why won't God blow up the sun? Do my prayers mean nothing to him.

[00:04:48]I was like, "This is a great picture.

[00:04:50]Thank you." Cater Gator tagged me in.

[00:04:54]I'm like, "Thanks, hun." I said, "Thanks, hun." That was pretty much it.

[00:04:58]And here's one of the mods. She says, "Some jerk reported this comment." This comment. Thanks, hun. Some jerk reported this comment, laughing my butt off. It did get me to look at your profile, though, and now I'm following you and I've subscribed to your YouTube channel, lol. I was like, it's cuz I cause a ruckus, homie. Thanks for the sub. I do cause a ruckus. And even over there on um Reddit, I'm That's nothing. This is absolutely nothing. And people are sitting up here flagging me. Jaws to the Flaw says, "It's always the most average, borderline unattractive guys who complain about ugly girls. He's not exactly Michael B. Jordan, but he probably thinks he deserves a Halib Berry." Spicy Change says, "This lineup is taking me out. I'm bald and I wouldn't want it." Molly Viper says, "Nothing is more worse than a man with zero intellect claiming a woman took a shot at him. No woman, no woman is trying to talk to this man. Lonely men never forget you're lonely for a reason.

[00:06:06]Change or die lonely."

[00:06:08]Queen Rod says, "The first guy, sweetie, have you looked in a mirror recently?"

[00:06:14]Aziz Blade says, "I love Monty. She's the best at what she does." own category says, "Does he own a mirror?" Shark at Hotep says, "I love Monty Mater and I hope that people spouting hateful, repulsive BS like that will be shamed by society again soon." Edit. Scratch that.

[00:06:35]These males need to lose their platforms and the money they steal from gullible people. Spicy chain says more worse.

[00:06:42]Throw these dudes away. That's all you need to know about that and those idiots. My nephew wife's side is moving away to his mom because he's unmanageable. According to his dad, his dad is a former drill sergeant. He has seen boys he's had to mold into men due to bad parenting. And somehow he was unable to do this with his own effing son from the ground up. When you see a man this dumb, women run. Wolf Gang says, "Talking about ROI in the context of sex is effing hilarious. But seriously, at this stage, you should have to pass a mental health evaluation and undergo extensive hard drive checks before you are permitted to buy podcast equipment. I'm all for that. BSA says, "Tate claiming he's the most dangerous man on the planet is hilarious, dude.

[00:07:32]We've seen you box.

[00:07:35]You got clowned by the second worser boxer I have ever seen." The OP that posted the video says true, but I think he meant he's the most dangerous man on the planet towards women. I mean, he's literally a convicted rapist and ex trafficker. All right, I will leave that there. Y'all, if you're on TikTok, go find that Monty Mater video. It is illuminating. And for my YouTube people, yeah, let me know what you think about all of this. overcoming being the underperformer of the relationship. This man posted this in the dad subreddit.

[00:08:11]The post has been pulled, but it has been reposted on Reddit on Wiki, and y'all need to see this. This dude is he's kind of irritated. All right, here we go. He says, "Hello, fellow dads and husbands. My wife and I have struggled since our daughter, who's two, was born with division of labor, invisible labor, mental load, and an increasing sentiment from her that I don't contribute or care about our family. My wife is a planner, very detail oriented, and mind never stops. And I'm a bit more uh wing it, reactionary, and admittedly that doesn't work for every scenario with the family.

[00:08:50]I listened to a podcast today that was all about getting away from the 50/50 marriage and tit fortat scoring it inevitably encourages and instead recommending both partners strive to be 80%. But something stood out to me in the discussion regarding overperformers and underperformers and that in relationships with this imbalance typically the woman is the overperformer and the man is the underperformer. I see a lot of content out there these days about husbands as manchildren and whatnot which I never which I never considered myself. Of course, he wouldn't consider himself a manchild. I see myself as the bread winner, the doer to my wife's planner. And when I'm home, I'm never taking time for myself. I'm always taking care of something around the house. But from my wife's perspective, I'm too reactionary. don't notice everything she notices around the house that needs tending to. I don't think ahead about meal planning enough, go through our daughter's clothes enough, or think about birthdays or holidays far enough in advance, etc. From my perspective, it feels like my wife fills up the calendar before I have a chance to even think that far ahead.

[00:10:04]For context, I get 12 days off per month. 12 days off. Okay, there's a 12 days off. There's about four weeks in a month. So that's three days a week.

[00:10:15]Okay, that sounds reasonable. All right, commuting airline pilot. So my time home is precious. And like I said, I take basically none of it just for me. I want to be better at this to be a true partner and have her feel like she can rely on me. I want our daughters, one on the way, to see their father as a leader and someone they and their mother respect. I want you to take this part. I want to be better at this to be a true partner. I want you to take that, put that in your back pocket for later. Hold on. But let's finish this up. He says, "So, to my question, for those of you who were either the manchild or underperformer in this regard or are a recovering one, how did you overcome this? What made you finally realize you were not doing enough or were spinning your wheels in the wrong direction?" All right, let's look at some of the men because obviously this is a dad or a man's forum. So, let's see how the dads respond to him. Separate attempt says, "The fact that you're recognizing this pattern and actively trying to change it puts you way ahead of most dudes who just stay oblivious. I'd suggest having a sit down with your wife to literally map out who owns what task. Not just the doing, but the planning and remembering part two. take on some of those mental load items completely so she doesn't have to think about them at all. Like maybe you become the guy who handles all the birthday planning or meal prep for the week. Okay, that's reasonable. The meal prep, that would really help. All right, let's see what um what else people are saying. He says, "Yeah, around a year ago, I listened to Fair Play and some other audio books covering the subject and tried to pitch it, but she completely wrote it off as childish to need what she sees as basically a kids chore chart, but for adults.

[00:12:06]Personally, I feel that both of us being in charge of everything is just the perfect gateway for her to feel like she's in charge of it all because I'm not home as much to see and address all of it. There's an object permanence component of that where I'm gone. So, I can't physically see that there's an old bill sitting on the counter that I haven't thrown away yet. He continues with, "My wife is also very particular in the way things are done. If it's not done her way, then it isn't done in her eyes." And then to that, Maru says, "The thing is, this is where you have to have boundaries about this. If she only wants it done her way, she can own that task.

[00:12:48]If she is prepared to accept you doing it, assuming you're doing a good job of it, then it's possible to share it. Many women fall into this situation where they like to delegate a task, but also micromanage exactly how it's done to the point where their anxiety drives them to literally redo it because it's not good enough. Then the weaponized incompetence mantra gets trotted out to justify keeping the hierarchical structure where the man is expected to do 50% or whatever but is a directed subordinate not afforded respect or autonomy for their contribution. For me I have no time for this attitude. If someone wants to rule over and have final say on something to that extent they need to own it. a necessary condition of someone else taking more on is the other needs to let go enough for that to be meaningful. And that does go to is the task being done well or are they halfassing it so that the woman can just step in and say never mind. Let's not act like many of these dudes don't talk to each other about doing something so poorly so that the woman gives up asking for um asking for the man to do anything. Knock Ry says, "Being more vocal about the everyday things that I don't think about has helped a lot. Even if it's just acknowledging your wife's work and plans, it's a surefire way to improve her mood. Like, yes, wow, you got dinner for us today. Good job, wife.

[00:14:25]That's what first came to mind reading that. Communicating about my plans for the day on my days off, understanding her plans as well, and coming to a compromise if there's a conflict.

[00:14:35]Helping meal prep on my days off has helped tremendously as well, making sure I'm spending time in the kitchen with her. Just things that I've noticed that have helped me and her both feel like I am contributing more because it's not just about contribution, it's also about connection. at least in my experience.

[00:14:54]Here's the OP. I think the feelings are truly starting to come out now. He says, "Yeah, your last point um is probably a force at play here. I'm sure she feels disconnected by feeling like my manager." So, they are disconnected.

[00:15:08]They are struggling right now. She feels like she has to tell him something to do and maybe he'll do it, but he's not wanting to own it. So, yes, there is a disconnection. Let's continue. Tricea says, "I read every comment in this thread, and I can't believe not a single person asked whether or not your wife works. You say that you see yourself as the bread winner, not but don't mention whether your wife is a full-time stay-at-home mom or not." In my opinion, this distinction is of critical importance. But books like Fear Play and certain corners of the internet have made the conversation extraordinarily one-sided. They have established a cannon that men are incompetent and lazy and incapable of seeing that domestic labor is real labor, which of course it is. Could that be the case here? Sure.

[00:15:57]But it makes a huge difference if the wife works or not. And and in this entire thread, not one person bothered to ask. That tells me the conversation has gotten really twisted. Here's the OP. She works part-time at the local hospital and is starting school again.

[00:16:14]So, on top of being the mom and running the household, yes, she does work some outside of the home. Here's the OP. He said, "Praise would go a long ways. If we get into a debate or an argument over this stuff, and I try to defend myself with examples of everything I've done, she acts like I'm looking for a gold star. I'm not looking for a goddamn gold star, but some acknowledgement that I didn't sit on my butt all afternoon would be great. the old saying that you catch more flies with honey rather than vinegar. So, what does that mean? Does that mean that he needs a head pack when he does something good? I don't know what that mean. Um, yes, you don't get a gold star for doing things that you're supposed to do as an adult in the home.

[00:16:59]Primary excuse says, "Yeah, that's usually a personality trait, though. If she's been that way as long as you've known her, then she's likely to continue to be. Couples counseling might help since that seems to be a love language of sorts. I think all men are that way though. Praise over being bered any day.

[00:17:19]If she's pregnant and obviously over stimulated, it might take some time.

[00:17:23]Counseling could be a good step though, proactive just to help us adapt to this new phase of our lives. Not necessarily that anything is wrong. Abolish karma says bad breakup and 60/40 custody split. great solution for lots of reasons. And to that, the OP says, "I don't want this to be the outcome." But some days, man, some days. So, he's getting to the point where it's just getting exhausting to have to even think about doing this housework so much that he is going to take on his own household and then he'll see what it's like to really run the dayto-day. So, this person's name gets cut off when it's posted on Reddit on Wiki, but it says, "I also think that the mental load is a lot of BS. Yes, your wife, like mine, seems preoccupied with a lot of planning. That is her choice. And if she feels overwhelmed by it, you can help, but she also needs to help herself by undergoing some counseling, likely both on her own and with you as a couple. I also think that one of the more instructive steps is to take to take is for her to take some time off and go on her own trip or something where you are given the opportunity to fully single parent. My wife went abroad for 2 and 1/2 weeks and our f family not only survived but the dynamic with me and my daughter was actually easier. There was no load sharing. I made all the decisions and she was fully able to disconnect and recharge. I also think it made me more confident as a dad because it made me realize that even in the mo our most heated arguments. I could do this on my own. Not that I would want to. My two cents, but no, there are resources out there to help you and you're not alone. Remember when I said to put it in your back pocket that he wants to be better down here with this comment? I do not believe he really wants to be better. He says, "I'm with you that some of the mental load stuff seems like a croc of designed to make men and dads look like fools. In July, we're visiting my parents across the country, and I'll get the opportunity to have our daughter myself as my wife can't stay for the whole trip, and I'm honestly really looking forward to it.

[00:19:40]Depending on how my vacation days land, it could it can result in extra time off by dropping scheduled trips that the vacation touches. I may stay longer than planned just to give her some space and for me to not have her over my shoulder.

[00:19:55]The thing is planning a trip across the country requires planning. It requires a mental load if she is involved in that at all. And you just have to watch your child. You have to babysit your child.

[00:20:09]You didn't have to do all of the things like make sure there's enough diapers, making sure there's enough food, making sure that she has all of the things like her bedtime stuff, her blankie, and all of that. That does that does require a level of planning. It's not reactionary.

[00:20:25]This is not a winging it type of thing.

[00:20:28]He doesn't say that he's going to do that. He's just going to have an opportunity to stay with his daughter alone. Not necessarily say he's going to take on the task of planning the across the country trip. This part right here talking about I don't want this to be the outcome, but some days man some days. He is feeling sorry for himself.

[00:20:50]He's feeling sorry that his wife is wanting him to do more and he's just like I don't know. I've read the books.

[00:20:57]I've listened to the audio books. I don't know what else to do. I don't know if he wants to be better or if he simply needs to vent and get validation that at least listening to the books was enough.

[00:21:11]These are some of the comments on Reddit on Wiki. So, it's going to be a different tenor than the dad group. Mean Leg says, "I love how men are always far behind their wives regarding planning, paying attention, staying on top of task, remembering everything, planning for everything, literally everything."

[00:21:29]Yet, we are told men are the natural leaders of the world and should always be the leaders, the head of the family and all that garbage when we're really just dealing with men who can't even meal prep. We got Liza Lo saying, "I can't stop laughing at the fact that he wants his daughters to see him as a leader, but every suggestion to step up is shot down."

[00:21:53]Qtor Storm says, "Yep, I noticed that, too. Like when somebody suggested that he take over planning and executing birthday parties, he immediately started making excuses again on how much he's not home. But honestly, planning birthday parties doesn't require you to be home. And if you refuse to take the lead on something that is just planning and once in a once a year occurrence, it's very easy to see that you just don't want to do anything and feel like anything she asked is unreasonable. The only time he really came alive in the comments, this part um was when the other men were agreeing with him, praising him for working to support his family, and saying that the mental load was garbage in a bunch of feminist conspiracy.

[00:22:40]mental load is just a crackers.

[00:22:43]Sensitive home says, "So many people post on Reddit for advice or judgment when all they really want is validation." And I agree with that. A lot of people simply want validation.

[00:22:54]Internal Prine says, "I'd love to see what happens if the wife just stops. I certainly know women who make things more difficult than they need to be, but it seems more often than not that planning comes in handy. He needs to go across the country with his daughter who's two. I wonder if if she were to stop, if she just did not plan this, what would happen? Just call me MVA says, "I come across men like that at work. Their idea of not planning is to completely forget about the deadline and then make it everyone's problem. But when I politely suggest the time plan, I am micromanaging." Buddy, if you can't plan ahead, it's your incompetence, not my insecurity. The OP who posted this says right. And they also complain about women wanting things done a certain way.

[00:23:42]When women literally just want things done correctly, right? Like just do it.

[00:23:47]Stop just making messes and leaving it there. Yeah, you might cook, but if you leave a mess or it it's just always something basically. I'll end it here.

[00:23:58]Lemon con says, "Yeah, and for anyone being obtuse about this, here's an example. My mother my mother-in-law asked father-in-law to clean the shower.

[00:24:07]She asked him constantly for like two weeks. Eventually, he was like, "I did clean it. I clean it every day." Turns out he was using the shower head to spray the walls of the shower down while showered counted as cleaning. People like to interpret women want to do it the right way as some sort of cliche fixated on minor breaches of etiquette causing a nothing burger conflict. But often it's just men halfassing or tanking basic adulthood task to a level that's pretty unacceptable.

[00:24:40]All right, this is I I absolutely love that Reddit on Wiki posted this and posted the comments from the men who are obviously going to be more coddling or more understanding of the dad who is agrieved. And then for the other people to come in and say, "Yeah, that's not what it looks like in real life." I do want to know what you think about all of this. So, chime in and let me know what you think. Don't forget to like, comment, and share. I followed this content creator named Aman So. She asked the question, she's a Muslim woman. She asked the question to her crowd. I asked women what Eid is like for them versus for their husbands, fathers, brothers, sons. And their answers, we have all heard these answers. No matter the religion, no matter the tradition, women are simply the ones that make the holiday spirit. Women are simply the ones that make everything run. So, let's look at some of the answers.

[00:25:37]All right. So, this woman says, "Quite nice, actually. He gets to lay on the bed while me and my sisters and mother do all of the housework, cook, and didn't even put the mahindi yet." Oh, and he still has the audacity to complain after all this.

[00:25:53]This one says, "For us, intense cleaning and cooking and dressing up and serving guests. For them, getting ready and eating." This woman says, "We cook and clean. They eat and eat.

[00:26:07]This woman says, "Cleaning the house before and after, plus the horror movie called Cleaning the Kitchen." This woman says, "Exhausting labor like work as a daughter with my two sisters and mother while my father does nothing. Ever since they got married, he has never brought any groceries home. Never bought us ecloths. My my mother has been doing all of the groceries, clothing us as kids, feeding my father and us." This woman says, "Night before, dad's asleep. Bros out with friends are asleep, and we're cleaning, cooking, and making gifts past 12:00."

[00:26:43]This woman says, "Me guilt trip into cooking food to take to my mom's on Eid.

[00:26:48]She's old and my brother just waling in." This woman says, "Men celebrating while women end up doing double the labor without break." This woman says, "I think we all know that answer. for women is a full-fledged day in the kitchen involving making different kinds of foods, serving all day, cleaning dishes and whatnot. This is how um Iman ends it. She says, "Eid, Ramadan, all celebrations for men and men alone.

[00:27:17]Holidays are for men. For women is another extra gruesome shift. Women are the bearers of tradition, the keepers of kin, the makers of joy. But none of it is for us. We're always behind the scenes, never at the table. So, what is it going to take for women to be able to take a step back to say, "No, I'm not doing this." Or, "No, I'm not doing this unless you are going to participate in some of this labor." Let's look at some of these comments. Um, Lakshmi says, "All cultures and religions have the same traditions. Women cook and feed everyone. They convince themselves that it is a joy to see everyone together.

[00:27:59]And this is absolutely true. We see this. This is the reason why after each major holiday, I have a really busy day because so many women are tired because they are unappreciated and overworked and they don't even get anything. They barely get to eat the food. They get they don't get to put their feet up and relax. It's never a true holiday. Leah says, "I agree with you, but it's not like that in every family.

[00:28:25]Alhamdulillah.

[00:28:27]In mine, usually the men are cooking the Eid feast and dealing with all the meat and stuff, and the women do clean for sure, but they do get time off. They get time off.

[00:28:39]They get to take a break." And then we have this comment at the bottom saying, "Mistakes fall on who?" the mother of that son who left the house to be a husband of someone without teaching the basic logic of help. So we're blaming the women that these men never get taught how to participate in the household. It's never the father's fault. It's never the men of these cultures ever, ever, ever. It's always the women who are to blame. Ringa says, "I'm just wondering when that becomes the normal for women. If a man did that, everyone will be shocked and asking why are the women why are the women and then Iman says every someone was telling me how she feels bad for her brother on Eid ala because he can't sleep and instead has to visit relatives and give them packets of meat. Of course, no such sympathy for any women folk who can rarely even entertain the idea of a nap.

[00:29:38]Rea says, "Ooh, what a tragedy. I can't even remember when the last time I slept well. I have one kid and I am pregnant.

[00:29:46]Sophia says, "Same story all over the world. With Christian holidays, the women do all the cooking for days, all the cleaning before and after the holidays, buy and wrap up all the presents for everyone. And most of the times they set up the house decorations and take them down when the holiday is over. The men just enjoy the banquet and chat with guests. But thank goodness things are starting to change with new generations. They absolutely are. I'm seeing women saying, "F it. I am not doing this." And I agree. I I've already said this before after these major holidays. I do not cook big holiday meals. I simply do not. I will go out and buy some food if necessary, but I'm not buying a bunch of food. I'm not hosting people over to my house. I'm just simply not doing it. And if you have more families, more women that are saying, "I am not doing this. Yes, we have a tree, we have presents, but I'm not doing all of the extra." If you get to that point, then more and more traditions are going to start falling by the wayside. And some of them absolutely should fall by the wayside because traditions a lot of times are supported on the backs of and energy and all of that of women. Iman says, "Holiday magic exists only because of women." But yes, we need to start seeing it for what it is, exploiting women's free labor.

[00:31:09]Qualam says, I want to end this cycle and hence I take care of myself first. I don't take the responsibility of managing everything on occasions. I became a baby if I need to. But yeah, I hear the criticisms. But with time, they get used to me not overburdening myself and managing everything when it is the responsibility of both, not only me. And to that, Aman says, I love this and you're right. Making ourselves available for task gives people the opportunity to exploit our labor and take it for granted. Ana says, "This makes me sad, but I think times are slowly changing.

[00:31:48]My husband is right beside me doing different tasks, but still contributing.

[00:31:53]My dad cooks. My brothers help clean." I do agree though, the bulk of the cooking and organizing does still fall on the women. Things need to change dramatically. It It's happening. It might be happening slowly, but we see too many of these situations where it generally is falling on women and what are we doing to change that? With that, I will end that there. Go ahead and chime in.

[00:32:20]>> Ellen in Little Rock, Arkansas is demanding answers today. And frankly, I don't blame her. Ellen is on Next Door today on the Next Door website or app.

[00:32:30]And Ellen says the following. She says, "Hi neighbors. I wanted to call everyone's attention to this. Uh I Ellen just was shopping at the in the grocery store and I was at the deli and Ellen noticed she go she goes on to recount that she noticed a teenager at the deli buying black forest ham. A p one pound of black forest ham at the deli in the grocery store. And uh according to Ellen, what kind of a teenager needs that much ham? And she's right. Uh, something doesn't add up, Ellen. And thank you very much for bringing this to our attention. I wish I could reassure you, Ellen, and say this is probably nothing. It's just, you know, it's probably nothing. But no, there's no way that that we're just going to brush it off like that, Ellen.

[00:33:18]This kid, this teenager, this guy's probably up to some kind of sinister activities buying ham like that. First, it's ham, then who knows what. I have a confession to make, Ellen. I was also in the store and I may have seen the same teenager you saw. He I if it's the same person, if it's the same kid, I think he walked to the mustard section after buying the ham. Make that of what you will. My wife says it's probably just for sandwiches, but uh that's exactly what this teenager wants us to believe.

[00:33:49]We're going to continue the investigation. I have kids. I have grown children. I don't want them exposed to ham and mustard like this. Ellen, do you recall whether he paid with cash or a card, a credit card? The details matter.

[00:34:01]I don't want to jump to conclusions, Ellen, but why wasn't Turkey good enough? Thank you, Ellen. Well, well, everyone else is out here living their lives like nothing happened. You're out here asking the hard questions, bringing this to our attention and all that. And this is why you will probably win a Nobel Pri peace prize or something. And uh I'm just glad there's people like you out in the world, Ellen.