positive masc

[00:00:00]Are you practically hamstrung because you cannot you don't have constructions of masculinity you can just like point to and if you're working with girls and women what would you point to on the other side? What's positive femininity?

[00:00:12]>> I can talk about with clients and with other providers like the dangers of gender roles and how those are dangerous for men and it does come up right?

[00:00:21]Um a lot of times the if the experiences of oppression that men have particularly men I work with are functions of not women oppressing them but them being oppressed by gender roles which they in part inflict upon themselves and in part systems inflict upon them and expect them to to uh obey these gender roles.

[00:00:41]>> Mhm.

[00:00:41]>> Um and they experience that as preferential treatment for women in certain arenas because the constructions are women should be have preferential treatment in this particular arena but I've never needed to like whip out a like here's how we should act instead.

[00:00:56]>> Right. Just you know not to emasculate you here's a set of like here's a here's the archetype of like great Jake. Great Jake is like you know like you don't need that.

[00:01:06]>> No I've never used that.

[00:01:07]>> anyone been like well I'm really I just don't know what to do?

[00:01:10]>> Yeah. I want to stop being this way but I I still want to feel like a man. Can you give me some ways to be so I can feel like a man?

[00:01:17]>> Well I mean I do think when you put it that way I do think people are thinking that.

[00:01:21]>> They are thinking that.

[00:01:22]>> a complex conversation with someone about it does it not come up? Yeah like how how dumb would it be for you to be like yeah.

[00:01:29]>> you feel why don't you instead of trying to feel like a man why don't you feel like yourself?