most child abusers are not strangers. society protects predators more than children.

Added: 2026-05-24

[00:00:00]So, hi guys. Welcome back to the channel. You might see I'm sweating because I have already shot something before this. And yeah, you may hate me for stating this, but the video is going to be sensitive. It may trigger someone who like who has dealt with traumas and like all in their lives or maybe sometimes triggering for my another audience.

[00:00:19]So, yeah. Most of the time I do speak about things which are not right, but let me clear you one thing. First thing before making this video, I really wanted to like have a conversation with someone who has survived [music] this.

[00:00:33]And trust me, most of the answers of that survey was that yes, it [music] actually happened with them by their cousins, sometimes [music] their father's friends, sometimes even in their family.

[00:00:49]>> [music] >> And trust me, most of them were with girls, but I really want to address boys also. Just because this world [music] is a little bit harsh towards the ideologies of supporting a boy getting raped by someone. I truly believe that rape doesn't seek for gender.

[00:01:09]The only difference between the ratio of the sexual assaults happening in specially India is just that it is more in the ratio in the favor of women rather than men.

[00:01:23]Trust me, when a child is just a little bit child, who gives values to the child? Who provide nutrition to the child?

[00:01:30]Specially the child's mother.

[00:01:32]I posted something and one person literally told me that uh the love and affection we are teaching our child is necessary to keep in the limitations also because if we are providing the details, what is good, what is bad, since the childhood, the child might not be repeating the mistakes. You know why people don't open up about their traumas and complexities, specially assaults and rape and sexual acts at first when they are just a child.

[00:02:02]Just a child. 4 5 6 7 8 9 10. I barely can say that like a 12-year a 13-year.

[00:02:09]It can happen with anyone at any stage of life.

[00:02:13]Sometimes our brains try to protect us.

[00:02:17]And it's not something I'm just saying on the basis of the video seeking or like just it perhaps those with whom I had conversations and they told me that at first they didn't even recognize what was right and what was wrong with that that thing maybe assault or not. But one day randomly when they were sitting or when they were sleeping when they were just going outside they just recognized something that this thing has happened with me.

[00:02:40]That was assault.

[00:02:41]That was a rape. That was something crime. Just because the penetration didn't occur the court said it's not rape.

[00:02:50]Yes, just because the penetration and just because the hymen is not broken.

[00:02:57]Trust me.

[00:03:00]People don't speak about it because we have created such kind of environment. People don't want to talk about it because people have this constant fear of getting judged. At first they don't know what [music] actually is rape what actually is like a sexual assault. They are having no knowledge about that and when they recognize it that this thing happened with me something related to assault something related to rape >> [music] >> they are not even able to communicate it properly.

[00:03:29]When I'm sitting in front of the class and I know that I am having an anxiety I know that I am having an anxiety because there are [music] symptoms of that anxiety.

[00:03:39]How would you like to call out a person for not speaking?

[00:03:43]>> [music] >> That whatever happened with you we all say that it's not your fault. Of course, this is the most neutral reaction to someone who has survived I just don't know what what should be the proper vocab.

[00:03:57]We don't speak about [music] it enough.

[00:03:59]We don't give education to our children, to our siblings, to our friends, to our circles, to the community of people, to the kids enough to let them speak on this. You know, whenever I like I choose to speak some topics in the classroom, it is never related to sex education, it is never related to sexual act it is never related to crime. It is never related to a child survivor of rape or sexual act.

[00:04:23]Why? People have so much narrow-minded.

[00:04:26]Again, I'm not generalizing anything.

[00:04:29]People have made this concept so they can talk about any you know caste, they can be racist at any point, okay? They can engage in conversation with someone who can speak bad about [music] things at all, especially in this college. I'm telling you, I have done this. But they they don't want to speak about something which has happened happened with them.

[00:04:50]You know, it I I I truly feel the anger when someone literally said that men's mental health doesn't matter, when someone literally speaks about so evil of women, when someone really speak about someone's skin color, his identity, gender at all. But you know why I am speaking so much factors rather than you know diving deep into the ideologies, the criticism of not speaking it up.

[00:05:15]It's just us. It is just the society. It is us the people, we the people.

[00:05:21]So, just for a once think about put yourself in the situation of that person. What would you do if you I'm sorry, literally sorry, but I really want you to take a pause if you are watching this video until like 6 minutes. I really want you to share something happened with you and you just recall it. Would you still share that same feeling?

[00:05:38]I don't think so. It will take immense immense courage to let someone know because the first thing which is in the mind of the survivor that it was my fault. Second thing, they don't care about Do you really think they don't care about the someone who has done that thing with them? [music] Do you know how suffocating it is to watch the person who did that thing and that person doesn't even recognize the patterns anymore?

[00:06:03]Do you really feel it is easier for the survivor to watch the person roaming freely? Especially that person can be [music] your uncle, that can be your aunt, your cousin sister, your cousin brother.

[00:06:13]Why people don't Why people don't choose to speak out?

[00:06:18]Why people don't want to tell it [music] very clearly? Why people just feel guilty for something which is not [music] something to feel guilty about.

[00:06:29]Feel It is just us. We made them feel this way. Nobody wants to open up. Nobody You know, people hate being in vulnerable position. They don't want to be in the situation which drains them emotionally.

[00:06:44]I truly feel that no one will get this video unless they have experienced it.

[00:06:49]And what do you think that that the world will literally like accept them after sharing it or after letting it out?

[00:07:00]Do you know how it feels when something is deep inside your heart and you really want to let it out? How frustrating it is for a person to survive trauma for years and years, to go to therapy. Some I really I really don't understand the concept of therapies. So, I don't want to exaggerate this matter anymore. I really want you to understand that it is not easy for anyone to speak about their traumas and complexities.

[00:07:26]Even if you try, I just don't know how my audience will react because I've never like I never like speak up about anything like this.

[00:07:35]And Am I [music] Am I like the one to give solutions to the people who have experienced it. Can I say that that it's not your fault and you are actually right to not to speak it out unless you are comfortable.

[00:07:52]Trust me.

[00:07:55]Somehow we failed. We are failed as a human. Somehow I'm not like pointing out mistake of any mother or or like any father.

[00:08:05]Anyone actually it's not even their fault if their child is hiding something from them. It is just a failure as a society.

[00:08:14]It is just the people we trust the most.

[00:08:20]Hope you are getting the point of this video. [music] Hyped you can like hyped or you can you know I'm ready to face the criticism but something this is something I've been planning to let it out despite of the outcomes and like consequences.

[00:08:34]If like sexual assault >> [music] >> matters for a girl it can happen with a boy too. That's why I'm not saying that like it can be just for women only. It can be for a boy only. Most of the people from the teenage years belong to trauma in their mind and then getting it out of that zone [music] and speaking it out and Yeah.

[00:08:59]Okay, just [music] relax. Maybe I need some time.

[00:09:03]I need some time to just Thanks for watching.

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