your body wasn't meant to be this thin I analysing toxic beauty standards

Added: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]Hi divas, and welcome or welcome back.

[00:00:05]Today's video is going to be about toxic [music] skinniness and the beauty standard of being excessively thin. I was talking to my friend today in college about something that I honestly ponder about a lot. I think it's so interesting [music] how beauty standards go evolving throughout the years and how some celebrities can have access to so much wealth and money and still submit themselves to under eating and basically starving their body [music] when there's so many people that are starving and hungry and are not able to eat and to give themselves the right nutrients because of difficulties, money difficulties, [music] location difficulties, and all of the dimensions that compose that person's existence, making it hard for them to live a life that they would desire to, a healthy life where they had [music] access to all the things that would nurture them.

[00:00:58]Do you get what I'm saying?

[00:00:59]But, it's crazy to see how people that have everything, that could go out to the most [music] expensive restaurants, not that that is like the point of intention, but that could have access to every single one of those healthy meals and all the nutrients and all the supplements [music] and everything that a body could need and still choose to not [music] eat, to starve themselves for the sake of beauty standard, a very toxic beauty standard. I just [music] think that it's so crazy. It's crazy how things go evolving. I remember when I was a teenager, the beauty standard became [music] kind of like the Brazilian butt lift and everybody wanted to have a curvy figure. [music] So, everybody was honestly working out, going to the gym, bulking, and whatever. It's just crazy to me to see how fast things change. The beauty standard of being curvy and like having like luscious hips and a luscious figure, I think maybe it was like 10 years ago.

[00:01:58]If not [music] like 15, but I think not even 15.

[00:02:03]And then skinny somehow started making a comeback. I can't say that I'm not someone that's kind of strict about my eating habits.

[00:02:12]I'm a vegetarian and I'm lactose intolerant, so I'm very precise with the things that I allow myself to eat. This coming from me is honestly very interesting because although I'm a very big person when it comes to feeling [music] my best, I feel like the healthier that you eat, when you step out of that routine of eating very healthy, your body feels the impact. So, [music] I've gotten into a routine of really being healthy. I try to eat every single like nutrient and thing that I need throughout the day. I'm very worried with like the amount of nutrients I'm eating, if I'm eating the right amount of things to nurture my body, if I'm getting the right amount of protein, carbs, healthy fats, minerals, if I'm eating as many fruits as I need to. So, this is coming from someone that is very health focused, >> [music] >> but I think the emphasis is on the health. I'm studying nutrition a little bit at college and I honestly just had a test [music] that had like a table of how many fruits, veggies, how many portions of each [music] thing we need throughout our day. I'll put it here for you guys to see. It's very interesting. The amount of fruits and veggies and like cereals and like rice and like [music] all those things that we need in a day is very extensive. So, I try to really focus on hitting all of those food groups and eating the right amounts of everything. Giving myself the right nutritional support. I'm also studying Chinese medicine in my college and we study [music] like the food groups and the food sources that give energy to each organ and that help [music] nurture and heal our organs, giving them like the right energy, the right vitamins, the right minerals. So, the way that we eat is honestly a love letter to ourselves and to the like almost Taozi of our body, like the equilibrium, because we need all of those things [music] to maintain a healthy, flourishing body. We need all of those food groups [music] so our organs have the right energy to keep us alive.

[00:04:19]That's my biggest emphasis on eating [music] things that truly nurture your soul. Considering my specific diet, I honestly feel horrible when I eat [music] animals in any sense, so it's not nurturing for my soul, even though it might be for my body, and it causes me more sadness than I think it does any [music] benefit. So, that I can't do.

[00:04:41]Milk I also can't do because if you're lactose intolerant, you understand.

[00:04:45][music] And high processed things, once you remove them from your diet and you re-insert them sometimes, [music] you really feel it. So, honestly, I'm all for doing what feels the best for you. [music] I also studied, in college briefly, like the food groups that are good for each blood type. So, everything is just [music] so specific and catered to us. But what I think is not catered for anybody is under eating and not giving yourself the right [music] nutrients to sustain a healthy state of mind. Your body is literally entering survival [music] mode. And when you're in survival mode, I can say this from someone that was severely underweight.

[00:05:27]My height [music] is 170 cm, and I got to the point of weighing 47 kilos, [music] which was, I think, 7 kg underweight for what I should have been weighing. I [music] had no energy. I didn't do this intentionally to get skinny. [music] I did an exchange program to Australia, and I gained a lot of weight and when I got back to Brazil I started naturally losing that weight but I was studying for like SATs in Brazil and I have ADHD or whatever. I don't really give that too much emphasis nowadays cuz I think everybody kind of has it but I don't take meds for it. [music] I'm a very sustainable easy going person but at that point in my life I thought I needed it so I tried [music] every single medication and it did something to my the walls of my stomach that they became very sensitive. Kind of like when I eat the food kind of went into the barrier of my stomach [music] and caused inflammation. So when I started like eating a meal >> [music] >> I got really bloated and I just felt really uneasy and really bad and I went changing the medications but it [music] still kept just progressing to the point where my stomach became so irritable [music] that I honestly felt bad eating anything. So as you can imagine the natural process was [music] that my stomach started like getting smaller and I was able to eat less and then I also started living by myself in that period of time living just with my sister and [music] I was 17 so I also didn't know how to cook. A lot of factors countered into the fact that that happened but I could honestly say it was like the worst moment of my life. I had no energy to do anything. It was honestly terrifying.

[00:07:11][music] The impact that our like body functioning in the right way what that does to like our mental health is incredible. [music] You have like will to live, you're prosperous, you have energy, [music] you're action oriented. When you don't have those minerals [music] flowing everything in harmony you feel lethargic, you feel depressed, you feel malnourished. To me it's crazy to think that [music] people are doing this to themselves on purpose when there's people out in the world not to be doing this comparison, but doing this comparison when I lived in South Africa as a child, I got aware to the fact that there's so much poverty and so much famine [music] going on. And I'm Brazilian also, there's a lot of poor conditions that people [music] are living in here. That honestly breaks my heart. It's so sad to think about the children that are malnourished and don't have the conditions to sometimes survive [music] or thrive.

[00:08:12]And how many parents would give everything to be able to offer that to their kids and to [music] put food on the table. It just honestly breaks my heart to think that someone that has the conditions, like famous actors and singers and people that are examples in a way, that are in the public space, [music] that can serve as an example to someone else, that are choosing to malnourish themselves in order to to fit a beauty standard, but honestly is not even beautiful. It's scary and it's dangerous [music] to our mental health, to the younger generation of kids that are going to grow up and see this and [music] think that what is considered beautiful is for you to not give yourself the right nutrients enough [music] to survive.

[00:09:00]I don't know. Honestly, it's just [music] scary. In a society that thinks so much about appearance, that people [music] are taking it to the point of being that skinny in order to feel accepted, [music] to feel beautiful, to feel good enough. I'm honestly not blaming anybody [music] that is struggling with this currently, even the public figures, because [music] I know that it's a bigger monster than we can imagine. Something [music] honestly so complex and difficult and person [music] I know that I have a really like strong opinion about this topic, but I don't want it to come across like I'm criticizing anybody because I've seen eating disorders personally closely [music] to me, and I know that it's a bigger monster than we can imagine. It's something that completely takes a hold of a person, and I'm not [music] blaming the people that have fallen in a way victim to this belief and to this cycle that keeps perpetuating [music] itself and is very detrimental to the mental to the person that is sadly [music] going through it. So, I'm not here to point fingers or to ridiculize anybody. I really hope it didn't come across as that. I just think it's so scary that society [music] would create this kind of pattern and that people involuntarily have fallen [music] a victim of this situation and how detrimental it is to people [music] that are living it and to the people that are seeing that as the normal. It's crazy that in society that we hear so much about looks that looking healthy and being healthy hasn't become the normal and the standard. And people that if you think about it, Hollywood, I think [music] is like a machine of its own. I don't know, I kind of feel like it's like a big tornado, and everybody that just is in it is just in the tornado and the [music] tornado comes and like keeps you up, and you have a little bit control over what's going on, but not too much. I don't know if that's how you guys see it. I I think sometimes Hollywood [music] itself, like if it was a human being, like an entity, has more control over [music] celebrities that we can imagine and that we would like to believe. So, I don't want to be out here criticizing anybody. I just think that it's so crazy to me that this is how the beauty standard has developed. If you think about it, like in Marilyn Monroe's day and age, it was beautiful [music] for you to look like you were nourished.

[00:11:30]Then, when I was a teenager, like 10 years ago, the beauty standard was for you to basically have a BBL. And being Brazilian, it's not that natural. Like, it's natural for some people, but most people have to achieve [music] that through like extensive working out or plastic surgery. I have a video where I slowly [music] praise on that topic, but I think that's a whole beast within itself. But, it's crazy how things change so fast. [music] When is like the beauty standard just going to be every person is beautiful in their own way. If you look at the old movies, everybody [music] had such a unique face. And everybody was so beautiful in their own unique way. So, why did the beauty standard become everybody looking the same and looking so skinny? I'm curious to see what it's going to be like in the next 10 years and [music] 20 years. I just pray for everybody that has fallen victim of this sick cycle to [music] find inner peace, to find healing, to know that their self-worth is so much [music] more related to who they are as a soul, and the impact they have in other people's lives than their physical appearance could ever be, and that they are worthy of love. That you don't need to fix anything to be worthy of love or to be lovable.

[00:12:42]And that taking care of yourself and your physical health as a whole is the biggest love letter that you can write to [music] yourself. I can understand that cuz for a while I struggled with my own appearance, and I think we all go through this. But, as someone that has slowly loved self-love and truly choosing to love myself, [music] and it has been the most magical journey that I could have ever imagined. And I [music] just wish that for everybody. I wish that we can all just find that inner peace where we wake up [music] and our daily routine and our life is just a love letter to ourselves. And where our biggest focus at the end of the day and every day is in how we can make the world a better place and how we can make the lives of the people around us better.

[00:13:33]And how we can take care of ourselves in a more abundant way, making sure that we are nourished and loved and that we have daily practices of self-love [music] that include taking care of ourselves in every facet of our existence, whether that be physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and [music] so on. If you're struggling with this, know that you are not alone, that you will get through this. I know that it seems when we're going through these things [music] that we're like in the eye of the storm and we truly are, but the storm will come to pass and you have always been good enough. Nothing had to change for you to be worthy of love. You are more than worthy of love exactly as you are.

[00:14:19]It's time to make your life a walking love letter to yourself. I love you. I hope you're staying safe always and I'll see you very soon.

[00:14:31]Bye.