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What did they give you during the procedure? Cuz you said you could feel everything, right?
>> And they gave me >> I've been doing this for 20 years, right? And like you're the first person that it's ever happened to in my whole career.
>> So much pain.
>> What's up you guys and welcome back to the channel. Um, first off, before we get into the video, I want to say um, thank you to everybody who supports us.
You know, we love and appreciate every single one of you guys. And, um, we haven't posted in a little bit on this channel, like gave you guys long form because, um, as you guys know, whoever does know and who doesn't know, we recently had baby girl Kila, little cutie pie right here. And, um, babe went through some traumatic experiences, you know. U, we went through it together obviously because, you know, we do everything together. And um we didn't know if we were going to come out about it and like kind of break our silence because we didn't know if it was going to turn into a legal thing or you know really kind of fully how to go about it because like what happened was like very traumatic and um I documented the whole thing and we're going to go over all that today with you guys and let you guys see everything that happened and then you guys can comment down below and say how you feel about it because it's it's really deep. Yeah, I had put a little snippet of a little bit what we went through on Instagram and it got a lot of feedback like a lot of women were commenting and saying like how does this even happen? So, we decided we're going to give a story time cuz it's I mean a lot of people don't know what my family and friends know what happened exactly, but a lot of you know our supporters and people who watch us don't know.
>> If you guys want to see the delivery video, the birth video is on our also family channel. as I'm contracting and all these things are going on. Um, labor is going very fast this time. Um, like when I got to the hospital, I was already six centimeters. So, when I got to the room, got my epidural in, it was time to push. Maybe an hour or two after I got my um, epidural. My water broke before I got into the bed. Right in when I got into the delivery room, my water broke. So, the baby's heart rate was going completely like flatline. And they're like moving me back and forth trying to get the heart rate back and all this stuff. And it would come for a second and then stay gone for a while.
So, they have me move back and forth.
It's not working. Doctor comes in. She's talking with the nurse. The nurse is saying like updating her on what's going on cuz the doctor is not in the room the whole time. They come up with a plan and the plan is to use a catheter. It's called like an intrauterine catheter to put water back into my uterus that I lost when my water broke.
This is supposed to give the baby some more space because they're guessing that the heart rate is doing that because the contractions are really tight that it's squeezing her like too tight. And um my contractions were on top of each other like there was no breaks in between. So it was just a lot of stress on the baby and my body. So, and basically to do that you have to slide a catheter up into my uterus right next to the baby's head and they add the water along somewhere along that process which we find out almost a what a week later >> that the doctor had poked a hole in my uterus doing that procedure. I didn't know the complications of this procedure. I didn't even know what this procedure was and the nurse is the one who told me what was even happening.
Like I didn't talk to the doctor about this. um she kind of did it and then left and then I said, "What's going on now?" And the nurse updated me on what's going on. So I said, "Okay, well it sounds like it seems like it's helping.
So okay, like let's move on." And shortly after that is when it was time to start pushing. And I am pushing while the catheter is still in. Like all this happened before I started pushing. Okay, so now we're going to get into the video of me pushing. And this kind of is the beginning of everything.
>> Do you have to push even harder? The top right here is like it hurts.
>> It hurts.
>> And just watching the video back, I can see myself thinking like, is this normal? Is this right? Like, should I say something right now or do I need to wait? Is it okay? After I push, it'll change.
>> Like my lungs feel like I'm not filling them up.
>> Take the deep air through your nose, too.
>> Same way. Grab your legs.
>> Push down in your bum like you're trying to >> Good job, baby.
>> You got this.
>> Yeah. Right here. I just felt like I was going to just pass out. Like I'm like I That was like what? Two little pushes, fake pushes in.
>> And then you see you tapping here. Like something's wrong cuz it's like it's just your body is just reacting to that hole. And you got to think fluids and all that pregnancy, all that different stuff.
>> I mean, imagine like you're pushing as a hole. So you're pushing pressure here, but fluids going this way. Like >> take a deep breath through your nose, too.
>> And push. One, two, three, four, 10.
>> Good job. Good job. Take a deep breath in. Here one more time. Okay, you can do it.
>> Yeah. Catch your breath first. Be careful.
>> One. That's it.
>> Nine. 10. Good job. One second.
>> Good job, babe.
>> Good job.
>> Taking some deep breaths through your nose, too. Don't forget.
>> You ready?
>> Is she your second?
>> It's our third.
>> Anything up here? watching some.
>> Take nice deep breaths. Okay.
You want like an ice pack or something on your chest?
>> No, it just hurts. Like >> what does it feel like?
>> You had like a shortness of breath feelings.
>> Yeah.
>> Is there like any chest pain associated with it?
>> She was trying to explain to him like I'm having pains and something feels off which I can feel and see like you know something's not right. So that alone just had me triggered to an extent. But you definitely push the baby up fast.
still kind of feel like, oh, okay, maybe I don't know.
>> Yeah, I was just trying to to decipher if I should be like telling them and I have to stop and we need to be focused on whatever's going on up here or like is the baby about to come out and then all the pain will go away. I didn't know anything at that point. I'm just like, this doesn't feel like my normal labors with my two other kids.
>> Yeah. So, right now, a hole has been poked in her uterus, which the doctor is going to tell us that. Obviously, a few of them are going to start explaining what's going on, but right now the pain that she's going through and why it's off is because they poked a hole in her uterus, which she explained earlier, but now that you guys see, we don't know yet, though. We just know she's pushing the baby. So, >> and that was just like the tip of the iceberg. Like that pain, that was rough.
That was hard.
>> But it only got worse. Like, >> just you'll see it. I mean, I didn't get this part, but it got to the point where I was at home and I couldn't walk. I couldn't walk to go to the bathroom. I couldn't use the bathroom. I couldn't like do anything. It's like we have to go right now.
>> We basically after we had the baby, we went home. So, we stayed overnight. Then we left the next day.
>> But the next day, >> before we left, um, you know, they come in and check on you all the time, but before we left, >> like maybe 30 minutes before, I'm like getting up. I'm walking around packing our stuff for all these things. And I'm like, I feel very bad. Like, I feel dizzy. I feel like I couldn't really communicate, hold a conversation. Like, I just wanted to pass out. Yeah. My side. It was from my side. Yeah. My side was hurting really bad over here and it caused me to feel dizzy and all these things. And again, it wasn't as bad as it got, but I said something to the nurse and I just feel like she could have maybe just taken me more serious. I guess I think a lot of the time they just think like you're postpartum, you just had a baby yesterday. Like there is a lot of pain that comes with that. But also when somebody's like repeatedly saying something, I feel like they need to take it more serious. And I don't know if there's tests that could be ran, but maybe I should have stayed. They could have advised me to stay. I don't know if they needed the beds or the space in the hospital, but I just think it should be taken more seriously when a mother is postpartum and complaining about pain and especially dizziness.
>> Definitely. And then I think the thing with us trying to accept that part so much, which is understandable. We just had a baby. You didn't even realize how much pain you actually were in even more probably cuz you're like, "Well, I just had a baby, so that kind of makes sense." But it's like >> it was still medicine. So maybe that's why like I wasn't like 100% feeling it.
>> Um, but I'm sure at that point the absis was brand new. It was a day old. It wasn't as large as it had gotten. So I was taking medicine and it wasn't as large. So I think that's why it was just like not as intense as it became to be.
>> From the time we left, the pain never stopped. Like so once we got home, >> I just I even remember the car ride. Do you remember that? I'm in the back seat.
I'm like, every little turn, every little bump, I'm like, I just want to get home. I'm like, I just I need to be out of the car. The hospital's 45 minutes from us. Like, it was a lot going on. The pain just never ever went away. And I'm waiting for it to go away.
The whole time I'm like, "Okay, maybe it's my uterus shrinking as it does after birth. It's going to go away."
Never went away.
>> Even when we got home walks, like I have some videos and clips I'm going to insert. You can just see the pain. Like when she's walking, she's like like you could just tell it's pain. And we just like, man, it might not be, you know, like that. I don't think this is right.
Like something is wrong. And I think you called, did you call your nurse?
>> Yeah, I called them um my OB's office and I told them everything that was going on. Uh they had to call me back and stuff. So, I waited a little while for them to call back. When they did call back, she was like, um, come into the office. But I'm like, I don't think I can I think that's going to be a waste of time. Like you guys, it's just a doctor's office. It's not a hospital or anything like that. I'm like, I feel like it's something more serious going on. and if I go there and waste my time, which that's an hour from us, so that would be driving almost two, three hours to get help. So, I'm like, "Yeah, I I said, I honestly think I need to go inside." And she's like, "Well, if you feel like you need to go in, like, you can go in." So, I just that's when we finally decided to go in. But that was like how many days after?
>> Within a week, we like I said, she tried to tough it out. So, when I think back on it, sometimes I get frustrated cuz like I wish you would have went in sooner. But it's hard when you're trying to be tough in a situation where it's like, "Okay, you know, I just had a baby and we we went through this." But she usually recovers quick. So with her trying to be so tough, it's like I should have forced her to go to the hospital. You know what I mean? And I don't want to blame myself because one thing about me, I take my family 110% every day, all day, at every second. So when it came to that, you know, I'm right there every second watching and she like, "You know what? I think I'm going to be fine. I think I just need a rest." So sometime you take a nap or you might pass gas and think you fine. But I'm telling you guys, go to the hospital. Do not hold back because you don't know. If we would have waited a few more days, you could have probably man it was going to keep growing.
>> By the time I went to the hospital, they were crawling sepsis on me. So it's like that was pretty much now or never. And like he said, I was waiting. I'm like I the baby's at home. I'm not taking her in and out of the hospital. I'm not taking her in and out of the car. Like it's like we just want to be at home resting and recovering. And postpartum is already a lot. So, it's like I just want to be here and maybe I'm hoping everything will be all right. But there was a lot of times where we were like, "Okay, this is intense. This is really intense. I'm going to go to sleep. I'm going to take some medicine. We'll figure it out as we go." And that's why it got to the point about 6 days later.
I think in this next clip, we'll be able to see the date. It just it was at that point it was there was like no other option. Like we could have really called an ambulance if we wanted to, but we just got to the hospital fast and started getting it figured out. Also, it's so much I just want to try to help you guys see where we're at. It's so much going on. We have the baby. We don't have nobody here to help us. Like, you don't have any family?
>> Yes, it's just us. We have all of our kids and luckily other kids are old enough for little Rob to watch them for a couple hours while we figure things out. So, we rush to the hospital and we have the baby with us and >> it's like he had to go to the car with the baby and then like I got called back. Usually you wait a minute in the ER, but they call me back fast.
>> And Abby breastfeed. So while all this is happening, while we're out of the hospital, she's trying to breastfeed at home. She's trying to, you know, regulate herself. So she'll breastfeed.
I'll take the baby. Get some rest.
She'll breastfeed. I'll take the baby.
Get some rest. Which we still do now.
But I feel like it happened so fast.
>> So fast. Immediately. There was people rushing in there. They were hooking me up to heart machines and putting IVs in me, telling me they were getting me the orders for the medicine. I had to like every single person I had to tell them, "I'm breastfeeding. make sure the medicine you give me is okay for my baby. Like that's all I care about. Like yes, I'm in pain, but my baby has to eat. And we didn't even have milk with us. We didn't even know what was going to happen. So >> this right here just shows you how the best day of your life could turn into the like the best thing that happened to you could turn to the worst thing. So you can never really just like think everything's perfect because anything can happen. Because when we went in there and they did all of that stuff, it was like like oh my god like what's going on? Like our whole life shifted because nothing else mattered besides Al's health at this point. Then we had a newborn.
>> This was like this was very intense.
>> Yeah. And then I I brought my breast pumps cuz I brought them every with me.
Thank god I had a stash at home too. But we were not at home. Now we're near home. They're telling me the medicine that we need to give you for you to get out of this pain because we see it so bad. You can't breastfeed on it. So they tell me that and then I immediately start pumping. So I got enough milk out to like hold her over for those couple of hours. And thank I just thank my body so much for that. My body was put through so much and I was still able to have a supply for my daughter. And Rob would he was doing everything he could.
He's asking all the nurses and stuff, I need ice. I need a bucket. I need to put this milk in here. I need it to be stored. I need like he was very like I couldn't have a voice because when I'm in pain, I shut down. And you guys will see that a lot in the clips where I'm just like not responding and stuff. It's just like it's so much on me and my body, my mental that I sometimes won't respond. Rob was such a huge voice like advocating for me and the baby and just making sure every tea was crossed and every eye was dotted like he was on it and >> I don't play about you.
>> Yeah. So now this is all that's all up to this clip that's coming up where we're in the hospital and we show you a little bit what what's going on.
>> All right you guys. So we currently at the hospital. Um I got baby right here. So Abby had was having some pain. Um, and now we trying to see what's going on. We trying to make sure it's not like life-threatening, but we don't know. The way they acted, it was just like they made us like it was going to be something really bad. So, we came in. Um, >> I have a high heart rate, fever, like my pain is really bad.
>> Yeah, she had a migraine, too. So we um we came in check baby over here trying to wake up cuz I started the camera.
It's pretty much been like this for a couple days. Like her um lower left side hurt. So we don't know if it's infection or what's going on but just hoping that everything is all right with you.
This night just got crazier.
So, we came in thinking basically I was having pain, but we found out that when she was giving um birth to the baby. I don't know what the catheter is, but I guess when they were putting um the catheter in to when they were putting the catheter in for the baby or whatever, I don't know, but they just said they actually poked a hole in her uterus. So, it formed a cyst absess. So, now she has like a nice size cyst. They said has came turned to an infection.
So, that's where the pain was coming from. and the absence is like terrible.
So that's where that sharp pain was coming from. But I guess she's going to possibly have surgery. So they said she might have a C-section scar or a straight up and down scar. I'm not sure yet. But we get more faces as well. But this is crazy cuz you just never know what can happen. Man, these bring life to this world. But this could be life changer. So we got to figure out what's going on and see what's the next steps. We we got to stay overnight and she has to possibly get surgery. Well, she has to get surgery, but they figuring out which one of the three. So, >> so as you guys see, we just found out they had informed us like, "Okay, this is what's going on." You know, sepsis, she has an infection cuz she wanted a CT scan, right?
>> Yep. I had a CT. They also had an X-ray lady come to me. I didn't have to leave for that one. I stayed in the ER bed.
Um, she came. It was like this giant machine they put on me and they did an X-ray right there. And I think they got the results for the X-ray really fast, which is what made them go, "We need to get a CT. We need to see more in depth what's going on." Like muscle, skeletal probably was looking fine. But then they like, "We need to do CT." Cuz you I don't know if you guys know or not, but CT checks everything like every everything. It just does everything. So, um, they're like, "We need to do CT."
So, that's when is that when we found out?
>> That's when they told us. They said an abscess has formed. They didn't know what had caused it yet. They said they're going to have to do either do a vertical scar or a um C-section scar, but Ally had a natural birth. So, the doctor who did it hadn't came in yet.
She's going to come in and inform us like, "Hey, you know, the size of the hole in your uterus." I think what happened is, you know, when I put the catheter in, I accidentally, you know, poked the hole in there. You know, they're kind of apologized and just like, "Man, this is the one in a million chance of this happening. You know, we're sorry that you had to be the one in a million."
>> And before she came in, so she's not just in the ER, she's the OB, so she's up in the other part of the hospital.
Uh, we were with the ER doctors. after maybe 45 minutes or something, they checked the CT and they said like they didn't even want to speak on what's going on. They're like, "We don't really even know how this is possible." And >> they were scaring us. They were coming in like and we like, "Hey, so um what's going to ask questions? We let the um the OB let the OB talk to you or the doctor's going to come down.
>> I can't say anything." And I I don't know what we're going to do moving forward, but she's going to have to talk to you.
>> We knew at that point like Yeah. Some something is bad. We knew it was bad at that point.
>> Yeah. because it's like why can't the ER doctor say anything? So, I just knew, yeah, it was over with and she came in not long after that. Um >> yeah, once they told she had that um abscess and had to be removed, we were just like, "Okay, so how are we going to go about this?" But we knew that we weren't leaving the hospital. So, you know, we started trying to arrange what we could little Rob, you know, if you can watch the kids for tomorrow, trying to figure out how to get her family here. And we just start trying to work everything around cuz we knew we were going to be staying in the hospital. So, um, >> yeah, with the scar. It was very scary her saying that because I was actually very nervous of getting a scar like either the one up and like down my stomach, uh, across my belly button pretty much or near it or the C-section scar because I just know that like there's so much recovery that I already have to do that's kind of setting me back and it's a whole new recovery route. Like it's just a lot going on that I was not prepared for at all. And then of course having the newborn, thankfully I did have Rob. So, like even if whatever was going to happen, I know that I was going to have help with him.
But like he was saying, we were trying to get arrangements for family to come.
We don't have nobody here. Like there's like nobody that we could really ask to do such a huge favor. You know what I mean? So, it was a lot of stress on us immediately. Like he said, in the blink of an eye, it all changed and it was just a bunch of stress that we had to figure out.
>> So, just got back from the bathroom. She was in extreme pain. We thought we just coming in for a checkup. find out she had an abscess because I guess some type of catheter poked her uterus. So now she has a abscess and they had to take it out. So I don't know. We going to just keep track.
>> I already can't walk. So they had the wheelchair which is fine. But like going to the bathroom like bending over the toilet and like hovering and all that stuff was horrible. Wiping was hard.
Like it just everything hurt my side so bad. And even just sitting in those wheelchairs hurt. Laying in the CT bed was the worst thing I ever did. Like they had to put a bunch of pillows under my legs to help so I didn't have to be so flat because I couldn't even lay flat. Could lay on my side. It was everything was uncomfortable. There was no comfortable position or anything for me.
We made it to our room, y'all.
I guess we can record and see what they say. But I'm not going to lie.
Let me see.
Y but do you see their reaction when we telling them like asking different people about this? This is crazy.
>> I've been doing this for 20 years, right? And like you're the first person that it's ever happened to in my whole career, right?
>> My luck.
>> I know. I know. So >> the OB end up coming in telling us what happened which we said a little bit earlier but she came in and said hey the size of the hole the catheter it's the same and you know it was an accident you know I'm sorry this happened then the nurse that took us up they're like what happened like oh my god they all just look in shock like that's never happened. They just like everyone's looking like some >> remember the story the nurse told us on the way up >> in the wheelchair and stuff like everything's just crazy and they're just like this is insane. And um in the next clip that we're going to show, it's a really quick little clip. Um we went into that first room and the the what was it? The sink was leaking leaking all over the floor.
>> Yeah. The bathroom or something.
>> It was just so much. Like I know I'm sure you guys can kind of start getting the gist of like how much we were going through and you know when there's a bunch of bad things happening and then little things start adding up like it just like >> it frustrates you more >> when you think it can get worse and like then it start raining >> or more annoying. Yeah. Like >> so I turned the sink on, the floor is soaked. All the water leaking out the bottom of the pipe.
>> I tried to go in there and wash my hands and the water was pouring on the floor.
So we had to get switch rooms. And then when we went to the room, the nurse came in. So we had a discussion with her.
>> That was a nurse that I had a couple times cuz I was there for so long. She was just very like, "Oh my god, like I can't believe this. That's insane. I'm so sorry. Like it sucks that you're here." And all these things. Um, but yeah, she's starting to inform me saying that there was an order that I can't eat for the whole rest of the night up until the morning or whenever they call to schedule the procedure. So, at that point, I had already not eaten all day.
Like maybe I ate at 12:00 and this is going on 12 a.m. So, it was a long time that I hadn't ate and I was hungry and in pain. Plus, breastfeeding burns a lot of calories. It makes you hungry. So, she's telling me that. And then in the next clip, you're going to see when we got to a new room. Um, and I am just actually I look crazy because I just felt horrible. I couldn't eat. I'm in pain. It was just a lot going on. They were giving me medicine. So, my stomach was already hurting because it's medicine and no food. And we learned that it was all for nothing. I could have ate that day.
>> Yeah, it was crazy.
>> It was horrible.
>> All right, you guys. at 8. It was 8:30.
Waiting up early doctor to come in.
She ain't been to eat since yesterday since we got here cuz she got to have the surgery. She took a few pieces of ice, but I I just think she going to need something on her stomach. This is crazy. I mean, I understand procedure and safety precautions, but she already in pain. Then you can't eat. It just make it even worse. So, I >> mean, the baby camped out all night here. Definitely couldn't leave her here by herself.
>> Breastfeeding. It's like how?
>> And then you breastfeeding. That's making you even hungry and more pain.
It's just draining you more and more.
You should have some type of energy.
>> Exactly. I'm not even going to be able to >> Right. How you going to have energy inside you? Exactly.
You going to be all right.
We just waiting on the doctor to come in. So once they come in, everybody discuss what they going to start with, what they going to do. They said something about anesthesia and everything, but like I said before, we discussed with the doctor. I wish I would have had that on camera.
But yeah, um hopefully everything goes smooth with the surgeries or whatever.
for all they got to do. That's the main issue and getting Ally healthy. And hopefully she don't have like no type of permanent scars cuz that's just going to be like that's going to be crazy that they have to do like a C-section surgery like a real surgery cuz now you got to go through pain and suffering and all that just and now you stuck with a C-section scar. It's like all of it is just like it's like a it's just a crazy situation. I'm trying to see that like long as you alive and healthy after that then that's the win.
But them permanently scarring you is like imagine if the roles reversed like how would they feel? Like what would they be thinking right now? Well, you're going to like you know what I mean? Like that's the that's the hard part about life in general. Like a lot of people just do stuff like not saying intentionally did anything but it's just the measures they go when it's the table is turned. Like we always get in situations I feel like and then we just let it go. But this is like >> if she can't have kids anymore or if it like messes up her fertility, it's just going to be crazy because like dang, somebody just ruined it for us and we plan on having a big family.
>> You got to find me something. I need a chip or something.
Oh my god.
And I'm not going to lie, the biggest part about having somebody with you is it helps kind of clarify and gives you a better visual what's going on because you was giving birth to a baby and you was in pain. So you wouldn't even know like you can't remember everything that happened.
>> And then they always say, "Oh, that's normal. That's smarter without just checking."
>> And that's why I was just saying to you just now I'm saying even after you had the baby, you say, "I'm having pain."
Oh, that's normal after having the baby.
Where's the pain at? And you told them.
Even when you first when you first told the nurse who put the catheter back in, right? They put another c sometime a different catheter the same. I mean, they going to have it on record when we get the records, all the procedures and everything. They put a catheter in to drain your pee. Correct.
>> Yeah.
>> Yeah. But even after it was time to get discharged, they said, "Oh, you're good.
We're going to just let you leave." And you was asking, "I'm having pain." You told them that.
>> Yeah. It's like I'm dizzy and stuff.
>> Yes. So, it could have already been happening. They should have took a look like, "Okay, let me double check and make sure because you've been in pain since we left, but it just escalated and got worse because nothing it was nothing. I mean, we didn't know it was getting worse. They didn't even check.
They should have checked and made sure you was good after you had the baby when you told me it was happening.
I just don't want you to have kids cuz I'm like that's just that's just life changing. That's we have a big family. I just can't believe this. This is just I guess God don't make mistakes, but that's >> it about to be terrible. And then you got to think we got a lot of work to do.
We got the newborn. I don't want you in the best speed. It's just it's crazy because everything be going smooth and then you get put in a situation that wasn't caused because of you. That just makes it even worse. It kind of just kind of like hurts your feelings like dang >> I'm in a situation because somebody cuz you don't know if somebody had a bad day, somebody had attitude or they were just rushing like anything. happened and it's like now we whatever happened we basically got to deal with the consequences.
>> Yeah.
>> Pretty much to kind of sum up a lot of what just happened um we figuring out we pretty much we pretty much just recapping everything and trying to make sure we're on the right path and knowing what's going on, what's happening because um a uterus is a big part of having children and um with them damaging her uterus um we could possibly not be able to have children. you know, a hospital is not going to tell you, "Yeah, we did this and that and you can't have kids anymore." So, that's one one of the main main things that made this part so hard is like not knowing.
And it's like when you're dealing with big companies, hospitals or whatever, they're only going to say what they can to best interest themselves. You know what I mean? It's just like when you go in and you're hurting, they're like, "Do you have medical insurance?" They're not thinking about, you know, helping you first. They're thinking about, "Do you have insurance and stuff?" So, I feel like that's a big a big like problem that's in this world. You know, a lot of stuff is just like it's just not right anymore. I mean, I don't know if it ever was right, but it's just like a lot.
>> Yeah. I definitely think like doctors um don't care as much. Like, I feel like they I don't know. It it is different nowadays. Um also, at this point, yeah, I was just out of it. I was hungry.
We're still waiting to hear from the doctor. Um, and Rob is talking to me and we're, you know, we're talking a lot and stuff, but I seem like I'm not like into what he's saying, but I'm just in so much pain and I need like you guys to understand that. Like sometimes when he's talking to me, it's like I just I have no energy to even reply. I know what I want to say, but it's like I literally cannot talk. I don't want to move. I just want to like fall asleep or just just feel better, honestly. And nurses are coming in and out a lot. I feel like I we had a lot of nurses coming in. like they had to check me so much to make sure like even with the sepsis and like just having an abscess is a very big factor for like a health issue. So >> I can't even lie y'all. The more I keep thinking about this is making me upset because just for this to happen is just insane to me, man. It's insane. and we're still wrapping our head around is this really like could this really possibly happen and what are the complications that are yet to come even if they say they cleared me and all this stuff like what's going to happen after this?
>> Mhm. And on top of all that as you guys can see the little bed on the side me and the baby that's where we're going to be camping out and sleeping the entire time of this process >> and the kids.
>> Um and the kids, you know, so it's like it's just a lot of wear and tear and mental abuse. It's like a lot of stuff we went through. It's just like this was a lot. Like I said, we didn't even know if we were going to come out about it or break our silence, but we just felt like it need to be said because I feel like sometime when the right person speaks up, more people can speak out and then other people come out and they're like, "Well, why didn't you say something?"
It's like sometimes you just like >> sometimes people just want peace. They don't want to just sit here and stir up things over something, but it happened to you and it's like it's hard because this was very painful and we haven't even got it's much more pain coming.
It's like >> it's just a lot. Like I said, me and me and baby were sleeping on that little cot. It's hard and she's just over there uncomfortable. You know, newborn, I'm uncomfortable, but we're just going to make sure C gets healthy because, you know, we can get past this as long as we healthy. You know, that's the main thing.
>> Yes. And just postpartum like complications that lead to the worst possible factor. I just feel like being a voice to advocate for people to go in no matter what. Like go in and get checked if you have a migraine that won't go away. Go and get checked if your blood pressure is high. Like all of the things need to be checked because you you're really the only person who's going to have a voice for yourself and nobody's going to care about you the way that you care about you or know what's going on in your body. Like don't listen to people say, "Oh, it's just um complications cuz you're, you know, your uterus is shrinking and this is what happens like you had a C-section." Like all these things like it could, you know, when it's really something. So just go in and be an advocate for yourself.
>> Yep.
>> All right. So the doctor's that was her assistant. She was a doctor or an assistant. What is she?
>> She's a doctor. She works in the same >> She's a doctor and they work in the same department. She just came and broke down everything once again. Even though, like I said, the doctor broke it down to us yesterday, but she just came and went down into more depth now that they have all the scans and what needs to be done.
So, we're going to be getting transferred from here to a partner hospital because they don't have the equipment here to do what they need to do for Alli to repair what happened because they said when she um basically I said this before, when she went in to put the catheter in or whatever it's called, cuz I'm not a doctor, I don't really know, but I'm going off what they said. I have the audio, so I'm going probably play it for you guys so you can kind of hear some of it and get an explanation of what happened. But when the catheter was put in, she accidentally poked a hole in her uterus wall and that created the hole cuz they found a hole and it created an infection and it turned to, you know, absess plus or whatever. So that's where all the pain is coming from. And they said it's pretty they said it's what she said it was like 15 by like 4 cm or something.
>> Yeah. She said it's long.
>> She said it's long. So it's the stretch like the fluids are probably just stressing and causing infection. But you got to be careful with that cuz that can stretch up. That's going up her left side. You know what I'm saying? You don't want that to hit like just no wrong bloodstream or organs or anything.
You don't want that infection to get on the wrong step because it it could just really get worse. But this is what's going on with us right now, you guys. But Alli did a great job giving birth to our baby girl. But they said they're sorry we had to be the one in a million. This feels unreal, you guys. And then we got to stay here for more days. So this is like I don't even know what we going to do, man. We went from having the best day of our life to the worst day. That's why no matter what you guys do, just always know at any moment your life can [ __ ] cuz now all we can worry about now is Alli's health and getting better >> because of a mistake someone else made.
That's what makes it so hard. If it was something we did, it wouldn't be as bad.
What you say, >> babe? Like if I feel like 100 times better and I'm able to move on and do stuff again after this, >> I'm going to be like, "Okay."
>> Yeah. You >> I'm happy I did it. But >> yeah, you definitely going when they drain that out regardless of how it work. If you have a scar, two scars, whatever, you going to feel better regardless because of infection.
>> The way I've been fighting to just like do stuff, having a newborn, you have to like, you know, breastfeed, you have to move around, you have to like, >> and I just been like fighting through it.
>> So, not my doctor and not the doctor that delivered me. It was another doctor who came in to talk and she was doing rounds on the postpartum floor and with the babies and all that stuff. So, she came in to talk and throughout this whole process, so many doctors came. I think I've seen all of the OBS. They all came to talk because of just like seriously like what happened? Like they couldn't believe it. And like Rob said in that video, they told us it was one in a million chance of something like this happening.
>> I And I I hate to cut you off, babe, but also guys, we have recordings of multiple um of the conversations being had between us and the doctors. You know, I'm not going to release that right now because I don't know how far this situation is going to go, but as of now, you know, we're going to keep that stuff confidential. But we definitely have audios and you know other stuff that we're not going to release right now.
>> Yeah. But again, it was just very it became started becoming more intense because of all the doctors coming in.
And if a doctor's coming to you and telling you like I can't believe this happened like this is what happened.
Like it makes you a little bit more nervous and just questionable on like how the healing is about to go. And that's all that we really truly cared about. But also, we forgot to mention, we said it a little bit in the video before, there was a problem with the catheter when I came from giving birth from the birth labor and delivery floor to the recovery floor.
>> Um, the nurse is supposed to drain my catheter of it was full of urine. So, my catheter was full urine and I still had urine. It wasn't able to drain because it was full. So, when I get into the recovery bed, um the new nurse, the night nurse that's going to be there with me, was asked like doing her check on my uterus and my stomach. You ladies know how that is. And I was in so much pain. I'm like, "Oh, no. Like, you cannot touch right there. Like, it just hurts so bad." Coincidentally, it was on kind of the same side that everything else is going on. So, she's pushing and I'm like, "No, it hurts way too bad."
So, she kind of seemed like a seasoned nurse. She kind of knew exactly what was going on. She's like, "Have you drained her catheter?" And she's like, "No."
She's like, "I drained a little while ago." She said that she didn't have the urge to pee or anything, so like we didn't go and make her pee. Before you come to recovery, they take the catheter out and they make you urinate so that they know everything's good. That did not happen with me. I did not go to the bathroom before I went to recovery. So, she's like, "Get up, walk to the bathroom, try to go to pee." And of course, I mean, this is how many maybe five hours after giving birth and I go and I'm trying to pee. I'm like, I can't pee. I said, I don't even have the urge to pee. I'm just in pain. So, she's like, you know, I'm really concerned.
The new nurse, she's like, I'm concerned. We're going to put another catheter in, like a urine catheter in.
So, they do that. They put it in and they drain so much. Like the catheter bag or whatever was full. I think it was like I I'm not gonna say the number because I don't want to be wrong, but it was full. Extremely full. So, she was even frustrated with the other nurse >> and she was apologizing when she was doing that.
>> Yeah. She's like, "I'm sorry." Like, um I had to lay on the bed while the girl went to go get all the catheter stuff cuz they weren't ready to do that. Like, they weren't thinking that's usually not something you have to do. Again, it's not a chance that it would happen. So, I'm laying in the bed and the old nurse is like holding my hand. She's rubbing me. She's like, "I'm so sorry that you're in this pain. I could just see how much pain you're in. I'm so sorry."
She just kept saying that and I'm just looking up at the ceiling, laying in the bed flat, just crying, tears just rolling down, rolling down. I'm like, "This is so much pain." And that was just from the urine catheter. So, after she came and drained it, it it started getting better slowly and slowly. It was a long process cuz I was so sore from my uh bladder being so engorged and swollen. Um there was actually a term for that. I forgot what it was, but it's it's you can really get messed up from having your bladder stretched and like so swollen. So I was in a lot of pain for that. The pain was coming down slowly like ours it was coming down. But that's what we were talking about in that problem when we said another catheter. So now we're fast forwarding to a new clip after we talked to the nurse. These are all clips like and the waiting time understanding what's going on. That first like day or the day after was really long cuz then we found out I wasn't having surgery that day. So it was another day of waiting.
>> Yeah.
Oh. Um, >> wait.
Something is plugged in still.
>> Take this off.
This is crazy.
Oh, how no Oh, >> okay. So, that clip was me and how I basically had to use the bathroom. As you can see, it hurts to walk. So, I'm like, "Ow." I'm like in pain walking and then I sit down. It hurts to sit down.
>> Trying to get you up also was like that was a hard task. Like every time >> like cuz cuz you got I think you're laying up and you trying to move like you you flexing your muscles. So that you >> this whole side of my body I couldn't like my leg if I lift my leg up it was so much pain. So, even when the nurses came and stuff and I had to go to for test and scan and stuff, they had to lift my leg and like move it over with me. So, yes, using the bathroom, as it showed in that clip, was very, very hard. Um, sitting down to use the bathroom was hard. And I'm just like, I I'm just not about to use the bathroom anymore. On top of all this, it was hard for me to know from them messing up with the urine catheter before. It was hard for my body to tell me if I had to pee.
So, like, I wouldn't even have the urge.
You remember that? I'm like, I don't know if I have to pee. So, we had to start like, he would remind me like, just get up and go to the bathroom. Make sure you empty your bladder.
>> Yeah. Just to be safe.
>> And it took like a couple weeks for that feeling to come back after all that. So, we're going to move on to the next clip.
This is like the next morning.
>> Yeah.
>> Okay, you guys. So, it's just me here in the room with Oh, that looks bad.
Um Rob and the baby left to go get King and Ka and make sure that little Rob is all set up for school tomorrow morning.
And yeah, so it's just me right now. And I can't help but think about how the surgery is going to go tomorrow.
It's just so much like going on and so much for me to think about.
I um I only have one earring in.
The other one fell out. But yeah, I am in a lot of pain right now. But they gave me some pretty strong pain medicine.
But I'm just thinking about a lot of stuff like being put under anesthesia.
And if I'm able to breastfeed after that is like my main concern cuz the doctor had mentioned something like 24 hours, don't feed her. And I'm like, I do not want my supply to go away. And also, I just started building up a supply at home, but I don't know if that'll be enough for 24 hours. So, it's just a lot going on. And I'm talking kind of slow because I don't want to cry. Like, I've been crying a lot. Yeah. I'm just like scared and I don't even want to I don't even want to say that out loud, but like I'm scared of just like being put under and this surgery because they're going to go through my stomach like through the skin. So, and it's just like I'm very unsure. Like I don't know what exactly is going on with the surgery or anything inside. I just know I'm in a lot of pain and I'm ready to be better.
I'm scared for like what I'm going to wake up to, like how rough the recovery is going to be and have a newborn and a three-year-old and a 2-year-old. Like, it's a lot.
I just wish this would have never happened.
But I'm praying that I just feel better after this.
I feel like like I'm not in pain anymore and I can like do this postpartum journey with my daughter, my newborn, more peacefully because it's been very rough and I've just been pushing myself a lot.
That's why it's just been hard to even get here to the hospital because it's like I'm just focused on my kids and I kind of put the pain to the side until it got too bad.
But yeah, I'm going to do a lot of praying that everything goes all right and yeah, I guess we'll just keep you guys updated. I hate being alone in a room without Rob. He's really my rock. Like I can't even explain how perfect and helpful and amazing that this man has been, which I never expected anything less from him because he's always above and beyond. But just to see him doing all this stuff for me, caring about me and like being attentive to me, but also doing it to our newborn. Now the kids are about to come up here. It's going to be the same thing. He's he's just he's able to do it all and I'm so thankful for him. Like I don't know what I would do without him. Like genuinely, this has been the roughest thing I ever went through in my life. And he has made it just bearable. Like if I didn't have him, I literally don't know what I would do.
But yeah, you guys, that's it.
Keep you guys updated. Surgery is in like 12 hours.
>> I can tell I'm using the bathroom. It's 6:25.
She about to get ready to go get her surgery done. As y'all can see, yesterday I went home last night, got the kids, me and the baby had to drive hour and 20 home. You know, me super dead. got fed her changed her fed her burped her and changed her and then left to go drive hour and 20. She stayed the whole time. So you know me super dad but I went and got co and king washed him up. Bring them up here because um little Rob already missed a day at school. We didn't want him to keep missing school. So we br up here with us and yeah we going to try to you know thug it out in here together. got some snacks, candy, toys, and food. And we're going just hopefully hopefully make going Alli go and make it back in one piece. Hopefully she have a good recovery. So, I'm going keep y'all updated. All right. So, in that clip, as y'all can see, I had just went and got the kids. Um me and the baby had to do a lot of traveling back and forth together, which the commute time was over an hour. Women's hospital is where all this occurred. Um like I said, we had to commute back and forth to the house over an hour. And you got I think this is a newborn who's bottle who's breastfed. So, um I had to plan ahead like I warm up a bottle, have it ready, and I know if I feed her good and burp and let her poop before I um leave, she was good. So, we had game plans. But, um Lor had missed the day of school already, we didn't want him to keep missing school. So, I went and got the kids to bring her back and we slept at the um hospital again. So, >> the couch got even smaller. Like, now it's four of us on this little couch and I'm like, you know, trying to make sure the baby hair is comfortable. And I mean, you can just imagine, you know, anybody would know like >> Yeah. And I'm trying to figure out like can one of them sleep in my bed, but I couldn't risk them like in like like kneing me in the side or something.
>> Oh, yeah.
>> It was a lot going on. And as you guys know, newborns eat probably like every 2 hours. So, him driving, he literally was on a time crunch. Like, if I feed her this, I have exactly the time to drive home, do what I got to do, and get back.
You know, he had bottles with him, too, but also just making sure she was eating >> Yeah.
>> while he's driving is difficult. So, like it's just it was so much going on.
>> It was a lot. It's been like 2 months.
So, you know, just thinking back on all of it, it's like that's those feelings and emotions never go away. Like you can still feel like, dang, I can't believe this happened.
>> Yeah. And the complications, like I still We'll talk about that at the end, but there's still things that I go through. So, >> still complications. And the hard part is like we said earlier in the video.
It's like you don't know what somebody's going through. It's like you you could be a victim of ser of a series of unfortunate events or you could be just in the wrong place at the wrong time with people who have attitudes and stuff going on or it could just be you know like it just could be a lot of things and that's what's so hard about it. But you know at the end of the day it's you get inconvenience you know and um with us not even be able to post to you guys you know we it kind of hurt our channel because it was like we were in a momentum and you know we got the newborn we wanted to share this with you guys and we couldn't even fully share with you because you know it was just so much going on. We're going to get into the um into the next clips and then >> and this is pretty much me waiting to be taken for the surgery of of the drain.
>> So, she's still in loads of pain, too.
And having to pump and dump milk um because of the pain, man.
It's kind of like it's like very disappointing, honestly.
I wonder like they take this pain away, but it's going to be like a different pain.
>> It's going to be a pain because they got to put a tube in period. So, you going to have a scar because they got to go through your stomach.
Just hopefully they do that this everything correct without, you know, nothing bad.
We already in a crazy situation. So, The main thing is getting you healthy though.
So >> yes, everything hurts at this point.
It's okay, babe. It's going to get better soon.
>> It hurts.
>> It's the same side.
>> Yeah.
>> Oh.
Okay, so all of that was me waiting for them to come and get me.
Um, like we said before, I had to go to another facility to have the procedure done because they didn't have the machine where where I was at.
>> But we'll have it as of Monday. So now they're like incorporating that service >> with that.
>> Yeah. So, like that's crummy timing, I suppose.
>> It's my luck.
>> I had to come, they had to come through an ambulance. So, we're waiting for the ambulance to come and then the other facility to say that they're ready. So, uh it just was taking a long time. At this point, something happened. I believe it was they were telling me that they were giving morphine and the baby was like sleeping a lot. So, we started questioning like is is she getting the medicine? like I started getting very concerned. We Googled it and it said like um some mixed messages. So, we obviously went with the safer option which was to me not take the medicine they were giving us giving me um that wasn't safe for babies which was morphine. So, you guys can see me crying in that clip and I'm like it it just progressively got worse um cuz I was still waiting for them and I told them I don't I'm going to take a break on the morphine. Mhm. So, >> and also previous videos I didn't get of her crying like that, but this this was happening all the time. I was trying to comfort her, but I started thinking, let me get some of these clips in case, you know, something happens because it's it's just a lot going on.
>> Yeah.
>> Oh my god. What [ __ ] want to call the nurse in here and see what they say.
I'm just going to I'm going to try to give you morphine.
>> And it's just it's like hard to watch, too. Like it makes me want to cry so bad right now cuz I just couldn't remember the exact pain. Like I'm just very traumatized by this whole situation. And yes, so they were trying to give me more. I told him I want to take a break on the morphing because I'm so scared for my daughter's safety. So um when he was like, "Do you want me to call the nurse in here?" And I was like, "No, cuz they're just going to try to give me more." I said just forget it. Um, and then on top of that, I knew I was going to have the procedure more. So, I just was like, I'm going to wait once I get to that other hospital. Whatever they give me there for the procedure, I'm just going to do that. I don't want to be over with drugs. Like, it just I know they won't overdose me, but I just didn't want to be too much going on.
>> Just too drugged up.
>> Yeah. And I was already pumping and dumping. It was very stressful for me. I don't like to have to pump and dump.
Like, nobody no mother wants to waste smoke like that.
>> It's okay, man.
You're supposed to go to surgery at 7 7:30.
>> Oh my god.
It's been like this for days.
Um then we also showed how swollen my side was.
>> Um we didn't even really noticed >> that it had gotten that bad.
>> Um cuz we could finally see like one side was like you know curved and slimmed back to what it was before and this side was like poked out hanging over like just something different from what my body is.
>> It was inflamed. Yeah. You could just see the inflammation just like a sack of just >> abscess and pus like cuz the abscess is really that's what it's like puss. It's an abscess. So >> it was so big on that side. So we showed that and then now I took a couple clips when we got separated. So Rob stayed at the room while they took me to the other facility. He was with the kids. Um also I was trying to be quiet that whole time in there with the kids. I wanted to say that they're sleeping and I'm in pain.
Like it's this little tiny room. It was so crazy you guys. And now I'm going to show the little bit of clips that I got me leaving the hospital on the uh stretcher getting in the ambulance >> and then um you can go can go to the back side or can I don't know where you park in the ER.
>> The ER. Okay. So when you walk down just go get the back hallway.
>> Okay. So what happened was when I got there um things were moving pretty slow I think and uh I was just extremely nervous you guys. The anxiety I had of getting a drain put in, like just me thinking of them cutting through layers like a hole through the top of my stomach into my internals. It was just like it was giving me so much anxiety and I was already worked up. So, I'm trying to calm myself. Um, the nurses there were really nice and they were calming me. So, I was relaxed. The doctor came in and told me exactly what was going to happen. At this point, Rob's telling me like, "You need to make sure you get a record of everything they're saying to you." Because he couldn't be there. Um, he wanted them to print off everything that they had told me. So, they did that. I signed it and everything. So, >> I asked for all the medical records from the time we came in to the ER.
>> He talked to the doctor, even the nurse's notes when we delivered the baby. I asked for all those notes. So, >> and he talked to the doctor that was going to put the drain in on FaceTime to clear up any questions.
>> Then we got they took me back to get the drain for him. They're like, "We're going to do a local anesthesia or whatever it's called." basically like numbing basically. They were going to do that and I wouldn't feel anything. On top of that, they were going to give me um two different kinds of medications.
One of them was fentanyl and another medication that started with a V. I don't remember. But mixing the two is supposed to be like she even told me that she usually people forget like they might go out of it and then like not remember the procedure and then wake back up and everything. So I'm like okay cool I won't feel anything that's fine.
It's also done inside of like a CT machine. So, it's very weird, but it it gives them a precise angle of where the absis is. So, I'm inside the CT machine.
They're working on this half of my body.
I'm up here with the nurses. They're talking to me, calming me. Um, as soon as she cut into me to put the drain in, I felt everything.
>> So much pain.
>> There was I don't think I even had numbing. I felt everything. the drug, the medication they gave me, it wasn't working. I'm like, I'm still here. I'm still talking to you guys. Clearly, I'm telling you I'm in pain. So, like they're like kind of surprised that like I'm in pain. I'm like, yeah, like I feel everything. And I'm like trying not to move because they're putting an incision inside my body. Like I can't be moving around. So, I'm moving a little bit. So, the doctor's trying to like she's like, "Okay, I'm just going to get this done fast and get you out of here. Like, you shouldn't be feeling this, but we have to get this done." So, I'm like, "Okay."
Um, they're telling me we're going to give you we're going to push some more.
we're going to give you another dose of what we gave you because you shouldn't be feeling as much as you're feeling.
So, it still didn't work. So, they gave me all that medicine. Didn't work.
Procedure finished. They slide me over to the next bed, push me in the room to recover. By the time I get in the room recover, I am in excruciating pain, like crying. I might have been screaming in there. I try to keep my composure at all times, but I think I was like screaming in there. They kept coming in like, "Are you okay? Are you okay?" like they weren't expecting me to have this much pain and all this stuff. So, I'm just like, "No, like I'm not okay." Like, and they couldn't let me leave and get on the um the ambulance back to the room until I was calmed down because I needed oxygen at at this point because it was just I don't know what the oxygen does, but they hook me up to oxygen and I had to stay on it. I couldn't get on the ambulance with the oxygen. So, I had to stay there in that recovery for a little while until I could calm down.
So once I finally calmed down um I was able to leave and get on the ambulance.
But this calm down was um they had given me a different medication. They said the the medicine, the fentanyl and the stuff that they gave me should have worked. It didn't. They said we have another option for you. They had to call like um my doctor and like some other doctors and a pharmacist to see if it was okay. They gave it to me. That medicine actually calmed me down a lot more. I still felt the pain and everything, but it was a lot more manageable for me to get back to the room. Once I got in the ambulance though, it was so much like the pain came right back because we got on the e-way and it was so many bumps. Like it was the worst road I've ever been on here. And he's I'm like, I don't understand. And I don't know if it's cuz the ambulances are like shaky or something, but it was so bad that the guy who was in the ambulance with me, cuz they have to monitor you while you're in there, he's asking me like, are you sure you don't want me to give you fentanyl? And I'm like, "No, because they just gave that to me there and it didn't work. I'm not going to keep just forcing it." So, I said, "No, I don't want it. Whenever I get to the room, I'm going to figure out a new uh pain medicine management plan with the nurses." But I was just crying so bad in the ambulance again. It was so much tears. So, we get back and also before I had the procedure, the IV they put in at the hospital I was at that I'm staying at wasn't right. So, they had to take that IV out. The procedure people had to put in a new IV, and I was just so marked up. Later on in the video, you'll see just how many like incisions I had on my arms. We We recorded a video of it.
>> That was crazy.
>> Yes, it was so much. So, we get back to the room.
>> The whole goal was to put the drain in to let the abscess drain so they didn't have to cut a horizontal or a C-section scar or anything. And it was still a possibility if that drain didn't work that they would have to go back and cut another scar.
>> But now we're going to go into the next couple of clips.
>> Okay. So she just got back from surgery.
Your eyes. So that's probably from crying. But >> she is in excruciating pain.
I >> guess Cole call for her.
But yeah, they got to have to get the nurse in here and get you some type of pain as the assistant. But I know this is just I want to see where the tube is at.
See?
Okay. So, the tube is >> I'm not touching it.
I think the tube is on your waistline right here >> and it's draining it into Let me see >> onto this squeeze pouch right here.
Is >> it attached to something?
>> Yeah, it's attached. Well, this is just sitting. The tube is connected. So, if you get up, you got to make sure you grab that or it's going to be Yeah, it's going to be hanging. Yeah. So, you going to have to >> Yeah, that's what it is.
Just >> lay on the bed so it's not just hanging.
>> You're doing good though, baby. Stay real strong. And this is bad.
>> On top of just having a baby. This is just extreme.
>> Made out safe though. That's the main thing.
>> Well, this just the start. They still got to test that. So, we got to see if make sure you don't have to cut and open up the whole not. But this might this should be this should be good though. Hopefully, you know what I'm saying? God's plan.
>> You want me to do it for you?
>> Pumps on there. You got pump and dump, right?
>> So, wait, what what did they give you during the procedure? Cuz you said you could feel everything, right?
>> And they gave me um like fentanyl and something else. And we like wasn't working. I didn't feel any like numbing or nothing.
>> So you felt show that tubing and everything. You felt that hole.
>> She numbed it with the needle, but I felt >> But once it got Yeah, cuz the absess once you punch the absess, it's still going to be pain. So, and that's going to make it more pain cuz you're not even supposed to >> and they were trying to give me more of it.
>> They were trying to give me more of it, but it didn't matter.
It didn't matter because it wasn't working.
But then she finally she called the doctor and they said I got narco. That basically made me tired >> so I could calm down. Every time I wake up I could feel it.
>> All the pain go.
>> But then on the ambulance there was so many bones.
>> So I just shot just sharp pain >> and he was going to give me fenol again and I said it doesn't work. I don't want to take it.
>> Yeah. You don't want to have much of feno out in your system anyway. Feno is bad.
>> Yeah, you s do it.
>> Well, because how much pain I was in?
>> But they don't even realize you going through this much pain for days.
Today is the 11th. You had a baby on the 4th. You going through this gradually getting worse and worse day by day.
I'm just telling you.
>> Sorry, baby. get through this everything else.
>> Like, how much milk do we have?
>> We got a lot of milk. Stop worrying about the baby. Don't worry about the baby or the kids. You worry about your health and getting right cuz you adding more stress. Pick something to stress about your health. That's it. Don't pick the baby. They've been perfectly fine.
They ain't crying, nothing. Y'all walk down with one of them.
>> It hurts so bad.
>> All right. I want you to worry about one thing, though. Just worry about your health. I say, okay, like seriously, don't even think nothing about nothing or nobody else but yourself right now, okay?
>> Okay.
>> You ain't never seen no need for nothing. If something happened, you know, I got nothing regardless. They've been perfectly fine. The kids been chilling. She sleep right now. I just fed her. When y'all came in, I was making a B. I burped it real quick.
>> Okay, so we showed pretty much everything, the procedure, and then when I got back, um, when I got back, as you guys can see, I was in a lot of pain. I was crying. Rob was kind of like on guard because he didn't know what I had just went through. So I had to kind of give him an update of everything. Um, so I'm trying to tell him everything that's going on, but I'm in pain and I had to wait for the nurse to come so we could figure out what medicine I'm going to get to help with the pain. Um, also, as you can see, my eyes were swollen, very swollen. Um, at first I was telling Rob like, I think it's from crying so much, but then we figured out it's cuz I'm allergic to the medicine that they gave me. So, it just pretty much did not get better after I got the drain put in. It got It was pretty much the same. Like, I just felt like if I wasn't on medication that I was in pain. Like, it was nothing. The drain was not like an instant like, oh, the drain's in there.
The pain's gone. That's not how it happened at all. It was almost like I could feel the whatever the fluid in is that the infection that was in there, I could feel it getting out of my body. And it wasn't a good feeling. It felt like a tugging, like a pulling, a tugging of my inside.
>> The catheter that was placed on her to drain the abscess, it was made like an um it was made like a suction, >> such like a bulb. They had to drain it a certain way for it to they had to squeeze it a certain way. When they drained it, like left it tight and then all this stuff um a certain way so that it would suction out, right? But another thing had arose. Another problem. It was getting clogged because the infection had chunk chunky pieces I guess or something and it was getting clogged and I'm telling them like it I think that's why the pain was so severe because it wasn't able to drain it. Like it was getting stuck at a certain point inside my body. So I was feeling all of that and they had to have somebody from the ICU like a different unit of the hospital come in that could deal with those type of wounds like wound care.
And she had to come in and she had to like she was doing a lot. She was like sticking something in there. She was like draining it. She was going back and forth. And then finally she got it unclogged >> and kind of taught me how to like move the >> fluid through the tube because yeah, I couldn't just keep waiting for like nurses and stuff like that. If it was a emergency, I wanted to know what to do.
So that happened. Then it just Yeah, it wasn't getting better. Um the fluid a lot was there was a lot of drain output.
So they had to keep keeping us.
>> All right, you guys. February 13th, we still in the hospital. All the it's like information all on that side. So hopefully they come in today and finish telling us what we need to tell us because yeah, this is >> okay. I look crazy right now, but I'm just showing a little bit of what I what me and Bob have been having to do while in the hospital. Um, I'm still breastfeeding, still pumping. So, I'm using my mom cozy I'm using my mom cozy breast pumps and mom cozy storage bags. But, um yeah, we've been here. This is going on day three. I think this is going on day four. Oh my god, I feel like I'm going crazy here. I can't wait to be out, but I mostly can't wait to be out of pain.
But yeah, I'm um bagging milk right now because I'm on so much medication sometimes and then if I have to go for a procedure, I have to have milk here for Kyla, our baby, to be able to still drink and stuff. Um and to just kind of keep my milk supply going cuz I really don't want this to be the reason that I lose my milk supply. So yeah, I'm just documenting a little bit of what's going on in here, trying to make the best of a horrible situation. Oh yeah, and tomorrow is Valentine's Day, which was when our baby was supposed to be here originally. And I'm able to talk and smile and do all these things right now because I'm on some pretty good medication.
And I'm not moving. I'm in a steady position. So, but let me try to move or the medicine were off over with. And Rob usually does this for me thankfully. He is he is literally the best. But he is running home cuz my mom just came. He's going to get them set up. Um my mom and the kids and he has the baby cuz I can't keep her here by myself.
After this, I'm going to take a nap.
Very tired. My body is exhausted. It's been going through it. But that's why it took so many days. And then I mean once it started the output was low under a certain amount, they said that we could take it out. They were also discussing having home aid come to my house and do the drain that way. If it was taking too long, like I I didn't we they knew we didn't want to be in that hospital forever. We have kids. It was a lot going on. They they saw it through their own eyes >> and they're like if it's an option we can have a home health aid come there but we didn't want to leave the hospital and something crazy happened.
>> I said that we're not leaving under those circumstances. So um >> so we just stayed there. They checked the drain with another CT and that's another um stressor because CT scans are very >> they can be dangerous. Like you're not supposed to get so many. Like I had to wait like 48 hours between CT scans cuz it's like a danger. It's a risk.
>> And when she was about to take it they gave her a fluid. And then her original doctor came and was like, "Wait, why do you need that?" And it was like, "She doesn't have to drink that. She has started drinking."
>> Yeah. They gave me a fluid that basically they said would help show up something on the CT or something like that. Uh the these like drink all of this. It was like a big thing of fluid and they drink all of it. So I took like a sip and then my doctor came in. She's like, "No, no, wait. You don't have to drink all that.
Don't drink that." And I'm like, "Okay."
So >> yeah, >> mom brown hair and she was telling me, "Hey, I wanted to get a CT scan for your patient, but then the radiology tech was saying like she would need PO contrast."
And I was like, I don't know that that's actually necessary, friend. So you can stop that. So I was like, let me go talk to the radiologist. So I just went down to the radiologist and I was like, my patient, Miss May Sawyer, is being told that she would need to take PO contrast and we would need to wait 2 hours after that to do this study. I was like, we're not necessarily looking at the GI, we just need to know, is the pelvic absess getting smaller? And he was like, "Oh, yeah. I did her CT scan when she first came in." He was like, "I agree. She just needs something in her belly." So he was like, "Even water could be okay."
But he didn't necessarily think. So don't think that you have to go through that. So I'm glad I caught you before it was all down. But >> I was about to say that. I was about to say, should she drink the whole thing?
Well, I did say that to you.
>> Yeah. So I apologize for like the mixed signal. Sometimes I think they don't know what you're looking for. So I think I just need to like go to somebody and be like, "This is what I'm looking for.
>> Do I actually need that?" And he was like, "Actually, not so much." She wanted to get a second opinion on you know >> Yeah. Like I mean you hate to have to do that but I was like let me go advocate for my patient before she just like randomly >> that happened. And then just of course as you guys see in the video other little things like my legs were swollen.
We finally got socks. The pain wasn't it was not changing so they gave me like a lidocaine patch. Um there was just a lot of intervention going on a lot of pain management.
>> Um >> it was just an ongoing thing for so long. Also, like >> we went through a whole Valentine's Day and we tried to, you know, we tried to make Ally feel better, you know. So, we went down decorate the room up nice and everything.
>> So, um it's Valentine's Day. We was having a discussion about the catheter situation. We was trying to think because the catheter stays in there while they're pushing fluid into the baby. So, did the catheter scrape the wall and le and then create the infection or was the catheter poked in there and it was pushing the fluid in there and it was sitting in there while she was delivering in the wrong position because we were informed that the size of the puncture was around the size of the catheter. So, that's how they figured out what happened. So, it's just note to myself um to remember that sign that we still here probably going to be more days still in flame stuff still going on.
But hopefully everything get better.
>> They said the medicines don't affect the baby. So, she's been breastfeeding sometime. Unless they say wait a few hours. We'll wait a few hours. We'll wait over the time limit, but we just want to be sure.
The baby has been very, very sleepy.
While Allie's on the med, the baby been extremely sleepy. So >> it says narco should be used with caution while breastfeeding because it can transfer to the breast milk and cause infant breathing issues or rarely severe central nervous system depression.
Short-term use two to three days at low doses is generally acceptable. A close monitoring of infant for sedation or feeding difficulties is crucial.
>> Right. And they just came in here yesterday. What was that they tried to give you? I took a picture of it. You was about to drink the whole thing and the dog said, "Oh, no. You don't need to drink that. I don't know why they said."
So, we need to be keeping an eye on everything that's going on cuz there's a lot going on. We keep getting in more and more put in situations. Now, when we ask her later, we going to see what she say. And then we going to go from there because she been super she haven't even been just sitting up that much. She just she'll get up for a split second and go back. See like she he say she just drowsy. So, you got to quit breastfeeding her while you narco. You going have to get off the narco.
>> Yeah.
This is crazy, bro. So, we got you some premium super soft cover so you can feel good in the bed.
>> Got you a teddy >> and it has roses on it. This is really cute.
>> Yeah, we got you some roses over here to M. So, come over here. As you can see, we got you the gigantic love you. So, you can know you get the biggest love.
>> So cute. How did you even get that through the door?
>> Hey, I got the helium. I had to drag all these balloons in here, but I got it done, didn't I?
>> Okay, hold on. It's going to take me a second to get over there.
>> Yeah, just be careful. Don't get hurt.
So over here, this the party station.
This is where me and you going to have dinner. And I'm going to Door Dash. I'm going to order some food from my premium um food delivery manufacturing service called Dior Deet.
>> Don't dash. Come. Watch out. Don't do that.
>> This says, "Love you, husband."
>> Yes. From you.
>> Oh, from husband. Okay.
>> Hey, don't be trying to die down on my stuff.
>> What we have together is a little piece of paradise. How lucky we are. Happy Valentine's Day.
>> That is so cute.
>> Hey, don't be down on my cars and I mean literally in the hospital with you trying to work my hand. This all I had to make this work in the hospital.
>> And you did. This is amazing.
>> Yeah. Snipers. I can't really get to >> them rom outside. I haven't been outside in so long.
>> All right. Watch out. I got another card over there, but I don't think you can reach it. Let me go over here and get this for you.
>> Until there was you.
>> This the second card.
I never knew I could be this happy. I never imagined two hearts could share such a deep and beautiful connection. I never believed one person could change my world in so many amazing ways until I fell in love with you.
>> You my baby.
>> That was cute. You about to make me cry.
>> My baby.
>> This is so cute. This is going to change the vibe of the room. I'm going to be a little bit more >> Yeah. You want Yeah. You was just sitting you on sorrow. Which you not sitting on sorrow cuz we been here with you every second. But you know this is a very very >> Oh yeah shade to the party tonight. Big party tonight.
>> If you wearing that means you got to give a hugger a kiss. Which one you want?
>> I'm wearing all night.
>> And I love this robe you got me.
>> Yes.
>> These socks just pull up a little too high but >> Yes. Got her dressed up. Happy Valentine's Day. Babe, no matter where we at, you know, we always make it happen. All right. Thank you so much. I love you.
>> And thank you again for this beautiful little baby who hat is hanging off her head.
>> We were trying everything to make her feel better and kind of take her mind off it because waking up every day all day in pain is a lot.
This [ __ ] is just like torture every day. Wake up in pain just hurting her and crying.
This ain't fair.
So you guys aren't watching us when we're watching the clips back, but like even now like I'm getting so teeyed.
Like I can feel the pain. I could just I can see the stress like the worry in my baby. Like the one clip I'm researching on the medicine they're giving me and can't you don't know if you could trust the doctor or not. Like it's I can't even describe how much >> but the main thing is you know um Alli made it out you know even with you know any unforeseeable um complications or things that can happen. It's just we just happy that she's back and that she stayed you know healthy enough to be able to still be alive for our child. That's the main thing that she was able to still be able to go forward with her life. You know, cuz some stuff can always be worse. You know, some people overly indulge in something that happened to them and let it consume them. And one thing about us is we we take anything God puts us through and look at the lesson and grow through it. You know what I mean? So, all right. So, it's 9:35 February 16.
>> Come on. Hanging out. But, um, now you still like hide your pain. You still having pain sometime or what?
>> Yeah, I pretty much feel like it's the same unless I'm on the medication is in me like >> Yeah, the pain is still extreme unless you got the medication.
>> Yeah, >> my side is tender to touch.
>> Got a light patch on that you had on.
They just switched it out.
>> But that's helping with the pain for sure. But the thing is >> and now everything >> the problem stomach, my leg, >> everything is swollen. Her legs, ankles is huge.
>> I got really not busy.
>> Yeah.
>> Yeah. So, >> yeah, I've been and I've been getting up and washing as much as I can.
>> Yeah, they drained some of the um I guess uh abscessor plus, but have they emptied it again or anything or what?
>> Yeah, >> it had got clogged at one point and it was slowed down, but they cleaned it out and it started back draining. So, which >> I don't think this suction.
>> Yeah, that was just their most least invasive, >> I guess, process.
>> They saying possibly we can go home and have a nurse come help. But the thing is, we live an hour away. We don't want to go an hour away and then you back in extreme pain. Do we have to drive here in an hour again?
>> We just wanted to um, you know, touch base with you guys, man, and let you guys see that because it was a lot to go to. We wanted to really make sure that you guys knew what happened.
>> So like lucky.
so lucky that I have Rob to help me out because >> literally all we have is each other and it's really sad like when you go through things like this and you don't have like family, you don't have like people around like it's a lot but I know that we have each other and we can get through anything after the stuff that we've been through.
>> Mhm. We don't have big family from Texas.
>> Yeah. Even after this um we I had to go back to the hospital because I'm still having like pain in my side and stuff like that. It's just very it's a lot of things going on. And on top of that, like I got sick with pneumonia. Like this has been the roughest >> because of that. I feel like it's been just the roughest postpartum journey, the roughest beginning of the year. Like >> it was just something that I don't wish on anybody.
>> But all in all, you guys, everyone's healthy. Everyone's back, you know, to um regular health. You know, that was traumatizing. And you know, we do talk about it still sometime because it was a very serious situation. And even when we were in there, they tried to give us like the CEO's information, the head of the hospital. They're like, "Hey, you should reach out, see if they can do it for you, XYZ." Like I said, a lot of stuff we probably won't release in this video, but if it comes down to it, you know, we we'll share what we can with you guys. But, um, I do want to say I'm I'm proud of Ally for making it through that, you know what I mean? I did my part as a man, you know, as her husband, and you know, we we all stayed together, but that made us just closer as a family, you know, just to see like, hey, anything can happen at any moment to any of us. So, don't take it for granted, you guys. you know, love and appreciate your people while they're here and just, you know, take it serious.
>> I want to say like women, mothers, any of you who have any questions and maybe you're going through something you're not sure, >> I want to help in any way that I can.
So, if you have any comments, you can comment down below. I'm going to check them out and try to reply. And like I'm not a doctor or anything, but just to help you feel.
>> I know how crazy it can feel when you are saying that there's something wrong and nobody understands.
>> It's like no support.
>> Yeah. So just to be that support for you guys and you know tell you like go in and get checked like one of my friends I just had to to remind them you know I'm advocating for going in and getting checked and they caught something really serious. So thank you guys for being here along the journey and listening to everything that we have had to say and supporting us cuz I know you guys have sent the people who know and maybe have seen on Instagram and little clips I put they sent a lot of well wishes and I appreciate those so much. You know what, babe? I'm not going to lie, N. Like, you really my inspiration.
>> Like, you really strong, though. Like, you make me have to be stronger because like >> you got like some of the craziest luck.
Like, when it comes to certain stuff, like I feel like you get put in situations that just be like insane.
>> Aside of this, like, >> just thinking back on that though, but at the end of the day, >> you know, we made it through and we do have a beautiful baby. You guys, you guys haven't seen the baby that much.
So, let show them let them see the baby.
So, since you guys watched this long in the video, we're going to let you guys see little chunky cheeky baby.
>> Co keeps saying she's so pretty.
>> Co, this is Coa's favorite person. Cora, you play with the baby all day.
>> I do.
>> You love your baby sister?
>> Yeah, I want not boys. Only want girls.
>> What the? You don't want no boys, only girls.
>> Yeah, >> she's What about your brother?
>> Best sister.
>> You think she's the best sister? What do you say, Co?
>> She's the best sister.
>> Who the best brother then? I don't I I don't like boys.
>> I don't like boy. What about your brothers?
>> Yes. You like >> I'm cool with you not liking boys. Cool.
That's cool with me. But >> yeah, I don't like the other boys.
>> All right. Yep. This video over.
>> Oh, yes. Thank you so much for saying that, Rob. That I'm strong. I'm happy that like you're able to see everything I go through and appreciate the >> the strength, but also being different.
>> I seen you grow from the day we met. You always been like that since we met. You always been strong, trying to be independent. But sometimes, you know, just like this situation, you got to be careful. Like no matter what it is, we got to just be careful because imagine that. That could have messed our lives up. And I'm not saying you would have messed up, but that could have, you know what I mean? Led to something.
>> But thankfully, she's okay.
>> Thankfully, chunky baby. Laya bear. Say hi. Say hi, you guys. A He's so cute.
Little chunky butt.
>> He is so cute.
She >> see I'm a little baby with little baby clothes.
>> She watches her sister and brothers all day play. She wants to play with them all the time.
>> She cannot wait to run around with them.
She's watches them all.
>> Look.
>> And then she'll get the screaming. Look.
Look. She about to bite co.
>> They kiss her all the time. Like they they just love her so much. I'm just so happy that they're so close.
>> It's a beautiful thing, you guys. Yeah, >> she tried to eat me 100 >> cuz I look >> tried to do it. She tried to do it.
>> She's such a happy baby, you guys.
>> She's such a good baby. Like, we were able to get through a lot of stuff with what we went through because she's so good.
>> Exactly.
all the car rides I took home. Out of all those rides, it probably like I probably only had one time where she was kind of like crying. I had to stop, you know, regulate, get her together, and then put her back and then get back to the house. But it was a beautiful thing, you guys, man. But we really love and appreciate all you guys, you know, >> and we're going to definitely um do our best to keep inspiring other than you guys. You guys just >> like your fat man.
>> Okay, you guys just stay tuned. Cole is crazy. Lie over here. Say bye. See you later.
>> Yeah, see you later.
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