Remember—These Men Are Violent Before and After the World Cup Too!

[00:00:00]The domestic violence rates go up during the World Cup, but those dudes are abusers before and after the World Cup.

[00:00:06]Let's not forget that football isn't the problem. It's men's relationship to football that's the problem. Alcohol isn't the problem. It's men's relationship to alcohol that's the problem. But even those aren't the problem. The real problem are the male entitlement, men's socialization under patriarchy to literally feel a part of themselves that deals with their emotions. So that the only way they're allowed to show affection for each other or anything other than anger is at these dumb sporting events. I actually appreciate sporting events, but I hate the men at the sporting event. I love going to a game, but I hate the men around me that are like I love uh sports in general. I really love women sports cuz you don't tend to find fans like this there. But what I hate is the fact that men neglect their families because of sport. So many women have dads that uh literally spent more time with football and their television than they ever spent with their own children. Now I say women because a lot of the boys will get hooked into just watching it with dad and a lot of girls will too too. I watched hundreds of hours of football growing up and I American football and I refuse to watch that sport ever again because I hate the sport. I don't care about the sport. I literally just wanted to be next to my dad. And realizing that your dad loves these men that he doesn't know more than you is really disturbing. Let's get back to the domestic violence part of it.

[00:01:24]These men are using the game as an excuse to do what they want to do or are already doing or were going to do because there's plenty of men who get drunk and they don't beat their wives or their children. There's plenty of men who go to matches and they may get frustrated. They may have uh intense feelings, but they are not verbally, physically, or or sexually taking that out on their partners or their children.

[00:01:47]They're watching the game. They're having their emotional reaction. Hell, I was very upset when France lost a few days ago. Never in my heart of hearts was I thought, well, I'm going to go beat someone's ass. No, never occurred to me. Never occurred to me to take that out on anybody. There are there's study after study of how much a sporting event particularly World Cup and in the US it's you the American football these rates go out the roof and if it's not directed at at at women and children anyone that these men have power over then it's on other men or just like I don't know public property or personal private property but do not think for one second that it has anything to do with this sport. Now as much as I'm not a fan of this author this is this dude wrote a whole book called Why Does He Do That? This is a little recap right here.

[00:02:32]Here's some reasons why he might be doing that. And remember, and this was a study done by Harvard, that the rates go up 33.9% if they lose, but they go up almost 28% if they win. So, it's almost like you're screwed either way because it's not actually about the outcome. It's about the men. As he said in his study, this violence is very functional and that is why they used it. One of the reasons they have someone to unload, they have someone to [ __ ] at, they get to be the king of their castle. Maybe she won't ask you to help or do anything that night. Probably don't do anything anyway. If you're already an entitled violent prick, you can dump on. You can convince her she's the problem, not your favorite footballer who didn't show up or not FIFA's referee or Argentina's ridiculous fouls they got away with.

[00:03:15]Maybe you don't have to answer to anybody. Maybe you get to do what you want when you want to. Maybe if you use violence, you don't get get bitched at for drinking too much, coming home too late. Maybe you uh you can prove your superiority cuz you're feeling inferior to Spain now or whatever country. Cuz don't don't get me wrong, the the reason why we're talking so much about the UK because they've actually done studies in the UK. It's well documented. Don't think that in Argentina that women weren't getting beaten because they won.

[00:03:43]I'm sure there's plenty of women in Argentina who are terrified of that man in their home or the one coming home despite the fact their team because now he's all riled up. Either way, maybe you get to know everything. Maybe uh you get to take time for yourself. You don't have to talk to this [ __ ] woman.

[00:03:58]Maybe tomorrow you go buy the toys that you want like a new truck or something to console youring baby needs. You need you need something.

[00:04:06]Maybe so she'll comfort you or she'll be a nurse mate or she'll fork you now cuz you're angry and you can coersse her better. Maybe after this win because you beat her, you can um compromise less. You have more freedom.

[00:04:20]You don't have to listen to her complaint. can have a tempered tamper and and pout and be in a bad mood for the rest of the week because England lost. You see, this football game gives these men like a blank check to be a dick for the next week or two weeks or however long. And that's whether they invoke violence or not. They get power.

[00:04:39]They just they get to do everything.

[00:04:42]Read this whole list yourself. I'm just thinking of possibilities for this one scenario. Now, this is just from the the the semi-final, which was a big game.

[00:04:51]And it's also been said that the higher that the match is in stake, the worse these numbers get. And that last match was a big deal and a huge loss. And I would argue the first half was an unfair match. Anyway, whatever. on Wednesday dur during the the this match we received 1,8 this was just in one area over 1,000 calls between the end of the match or towards the end of the match and 3:00 in the morning and they normally would only see 500 so double amount of calls but do you honestly think that those men are only beating her on that day and maybe that's the day they lay hands on her but that doesn't mean there wasn't a buildup to that this is never just going to happen once if this man does this on this day he is absolely absolutely threatening it with maybe not outright by slamming cabinet by refusing to regulate his emotions by using all of these things for all the things I just the reasons I just listed is to keep her in her place have her walking on eggshells not just her but the whole family to have the upper hand men love to have the upper hand with women and their children in the home first of all they already assume that they should have it because they're little king babies and the entitlement and the selfishness and the violence that they've been taught because of patriarchy which It's not their fault they were taught it. It's their responsibility to unlearn it and deal with it because of that socialization.

[00:06:12]It's been happening since they were born more or less. Now they think that they're the king of a castle. And even though they may get [ __ ] on at work and maybe they're bullied by other men and me me or maybe not at all, they still want to be the king of one cast and that's at home. So you're not their equal. And so that upper hand is what they're constant. That's why when I make these videos about men pretending to want a relationship in order to get you in bed, that's the same thing. They want the upper hand. They want control. They want they call us control freak. Not that we don't have our own issues with control. It just looks way different and doesn't have the systemic power and the violence behind it. They always want the the upper hand. And if you are in a home where you're walking on eggshells around a man, you are in an abusive relationship.

[00:06:56]I don't care if he's never laid hands on you. Actually, it's worse on some level that he hasn't because you will never have maybe not worse. Sorry, I'm a DV survivor, by the way, but your your nervous system um you're going to get sick. You cannot handle that level of stress and you will never have any actual bruises to prove or for other people to see. If you are in a in a violent relationship, violence is not always physical. And if you're being coerced, if you're sleeping with him regularly when you don't want to, if literally you're regulating this man's moods, you're pacifying the king. Baby, you're in an abusive relationship. So, yes, maybe the violence might start during the World Cup, but it is not going to end after the World Cup, and it definitely didn't begin because of the World Cup. So, let's just be clear about this. I love that we're talking about this, but do not think that the World Cup or even alcohol are the problem.

[00:07:46]Although, the culture around both I hate. Also, look, there's a 65-year-old woman who got assaulted. Some random woman that that's not in the house. Does alcohol make it better? Some say it make it worse. Some say it does. This study says it made it worse. But the Harvard study said that it's perhaps the emotive connection to the sport rather than excessive alcohol consumption that most closely connects major sporting events with aggress aggressive and/or criminal behavior. I would argue that a lot of this has to do with their daddy issues.

[00:08:15]How many men have serious daddy issues?

[00:08:18]Either they were abandoned by their their dad or their dads were in the home but might as well not have been or they were beaten by their dad. And a lot of their connection to other men, especially their dad, is through sports.

[00:08:28]So they care so much about this team because dad cared so much about this team. But why? Why? I love I love the I love rooting for a team, but what I hate is the unhinged like, wo, y'all care a little too much. Cuz that to me is just men in a nutshell.

[00:08:47]You don't care enough about so much stuff like your own children, your partner, your health, whether you die early because if you refuse to take care of your health, you don't care about, I don't know, patriarchal conditioning, how that affects everyone, including you. You don't care about all these things. You just, you know, play games, blah blah blah blah. A lot of men have literally, they just are time wasters.

[00:09:08]Then they care so much about this game.

[00:09:10]So much so that they actually know all the statistics of these athletes, but they don't know their own children's birthdays. Do you think that you should be ashamed of that? Maybe my dad misspelled my name on my birth certificate from day one. He did not know me. Way he connected with me was for me to watch him watch football. How close do you think we really were? Y'all are robbing yourselves of relationships with your family who actually loves the crap out of you. I loved my dad so much.

[00:09:39]I don't know why. The guy was caused nothing but trauma. But I wanted so bad to connect with this person because he couldn't connect cuz he was obsessed with football and his little hobbies. He robbed himself of love and he traumatized his family. I don't even think he bonded with his dad through sports. This came on his own. They're intensely emotional attachment. They're blind optimist. Intensely emotional attachments to teams. They're so ridiculous. It's so ridiculous what these men will do for these teams. And also, as somebody who always talks about men's hobbies and how they financially abuse women with their hobbies, I want you I would if you have a very sports crazed partner, I want you to do the math. I want you to think I want you to keep track of for your own understanding of how the the in inequity in your relationship, how much money he spends on tickets and money uh tailgating at the game and how much time he spends watching football. Start keeping track of that. And that is all money for the family and spare time that he could be used doing something for the family like take parenting his own children or you know taking care of the house and stuff and then compare just that once more that one hobby to how much spare time you have and how much money you have for your hobby and hobbies does not include makeup and stuff all right because we know that that is more than a hobby that is part of surviving patriarchy for a lot of women. Their blind optimism persists and memories are highly charged. Some with some fans being passionate to the point of addiction.

[00:11:04]Mhm. I tell you all the time that men's there are so many men with addiction.

[00:11:07]Even if they're not addictions, it's their escapism is is so high under patriarchy and white supremacy culture and capitalism. But patriarchy means that they have all this extra time more so than than the more privilege they have the more way more time than women way more money than women and also uh don't have the emotional intelligence the responsibilities the community involvement they fill in the blank whatever. So they just are so bored and also like afraid of themselves and afraid of their emotions and will not deal with their past or anything. And so what do they do? gamble, watch porn, drink, become uh, you know, mountain climbers that they can't just do like a normal person, but become addicted to it. Marathons, you know how much I hate the marathon, man. All of this, again, the way I talk about how, you know, the adrenaline, all these men who are into these like sports that are like, you know, adrenaline junky kind of sport, uh, these men are addicted to watching sports.

[00:12:04]How [ __ ] up is that? How passive and lazy do you have to be? Like if I had to choose one, I don't know which is worse because one man is passive and lazy and probably in bad health and it won't do anything. And the other man is equally as sick but is out there doing crazy stuff that could get him disabled. He's spending a whole lot of money maybe. But then again, the other guy is probably betting. Um and it might die.

[00:12:30]But I don't know. Every time I talk about these adrenaline junkies, women will be like, "Well, I'm not sure because, you know, at least they're out of the house. This guy won't ever leave." And I hear that. Then you have the opposite problem of women who are like, "He's never here. He's always gone. He's obsessed with these stupid sports. He'll do anything to also, just so we're clear, it's not just men who do this stuff. Women, we tend to run into relationships to avoid ourselves because of our patriarchal conditioning and our not a and inability deal with some of our stuff. So, we fall into the worst possible things, which is terrible relationships with men to avoid ourselves sometime, but this is a video about men more than anything. Talk about women plenty. So, make no mistake, football is not the problem. I think it's a beautiful sport. And I'm talking about soccer. Uh, I hate the other football, but I probably wouldn't hate it so much if I hadn't been forced to watch like probably thousands of hours if I think about it. Especially watching Team France. It's like my favorite team to watch. I love hearing about the stories. I love hearing like I love there's so much about it that I actually appreciate. But the thing that turns me off to it is watching it with men and seeing what men do. And if you made it this far, I got a little treat for you because I came all the way back from Germany cuz I was in Germany escaping the Kenny [ __ ] here in France, the third heatwave that is making us realize we're [laughter] going to die. Um, and I came back a couple days early so I could see France in the semi-finals. I really wanted to be here for that. I watched it by myself in Germany uh by a campfire when I was sleeping in that like garden.

[00:14:02]I also more importantly came back to watch some firemen strip and when I got back at like at at the halftime and Anthony was here alone watching the game cuz he had to work early the next morning and it was you know he was so stressed out and he knows that I have no tolerance for any emotions he has around football. Like I not try to change him cuz I you know he's been playing and watching since he was small. I'm not saying that men can't care about it, but if they don't realize their impact on women, then they shouldn't care about it as much. And it's their responsibility to make sure that their relationship to football is not impacting their family so much. So, he is very well aware of this. And I came home and I was like, "Oh, they're losing. Bye." Uh, and he was like, "Yeah, it's not going well."

[00:14:44]And I was like, "Well, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but you know, I don't want to be around if they lose because I'm in a good mood right now and I don't really care as much as you." And he's like, "Yeah, yeah, go do your thing." So, um, just be careful cuz he was worried about me being out when they lost because we didn't know people were going to burn cars because again, here in France, they burn cars if they win, they burn cars if they lose. It's not about the actual match and the outcome.

[00:15:07]It's about men's one chance to just be completely unhinged in public because they do they do this in private with us all the time, but they can finally be completely unhinged in public. And so, uh, I rode my bike up to Quirus to see the the stripper show cuz it happens on the 4th 14th of July every year. And, uh, 13th and 14th. On my way there, I I pulled over and I was like, "Oh." I looked at checked on Google. I was like, "Yep, they lost." All right. Well, I'm definitely taking the back way. I don't want to be around any men right now. I'm going to go to the fire station where those men have a job to do, which is to strip. Now, I don't care about firemen stripping. I just think it's hilarious, but that's how they celebrate Independence Day. So, my comment song today, if you're new here, I always do a comment song at the end of my videos.

[00:15:50]Comment song today about what I did to avoid any of the men or people cuz a lot of women I was disappointed. I was really disappointed. I'm still upset.

[00:15:58]But what I don't get is unhinged in my emotions or angry. And so, I did what I love to do. I met my girlfriend and we went and watched this. This is my comment song. Anyway, I'm back uh for a couple days. We're going on vacation again and I'm going to give you content from there. Thank you Patreon people uh for getting me through the the last few weeks has been very difficult uh the county cool and just a bunch of stuff.

[00:16:22]My mental health has not been well. Um so thanks for hang you know financially supporting me so I can take breaks when I need to. I'm feeling good today so I'm back. Um and I'm going to bring y'all some content from other places soon. But here is a preview of a video I'm going to post on Patreon of the strip show and voila. Make sure you're subbed. Uh comment like share all that stuff. And thank you all for your watch hours and your time and following me. And you like this video, make sure you, you know, say hi. [music] Every year he plays.

[00:16:55]I can't play the sound here. It's um Eminem's 8 Mile. So they did a little fire show. They caught the ladder on fire. They all uh went down the fire.

[00:17:05]They put their ho they hose and they go I can't play the music here either because uh copyright but this is over on Patreon. I'll do a whole thing. Um they actually strip down to pretty much their underwear. Here's a little peek.

[00:17:22]And this was not even a big show. I've seen there's other there's another Patreon video of Look at them. They're wearing the little masks. [laughter]