This White Man Said Black Men Used Reproductive Coercion To Control Black Women 😱 #viralvideo

Added: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]There's peer-reviewed research about something that nobody in the black community wants you to talk about and really nobody in any community just wants to hear. Period. I've been a native cop for the past eight years in one of the biggest cities in the United States and I guess I'm speaking about this difficult topic because somebody has to do it. If you don't create a framework around certain social issues, then it's just really hard to identify them as a problem that needs solutions. Black men of a certain socioeconomic status are deliberately sabotaging contraception, refusing condoms, or intentionally impregnating black women to keep them from leaving. And data documents that this happens at more than double the rate reported in white relationships.

[00:00:50]60% of black women reported their partners doing this. Only 24% of white women reported the same. It's the same study under the same conditions. The racial gap is not subtle and just should not be ignored. One woman in the study described her partner calling her from jail and telling her, "I tried to get you pregnant so you wouldn't leave me."

[00:01:13]This isn't speculation. These are documented experiences from real women.

[00:01:18]They also did a men's study where the researchers went and interviewed men directly. Young black men in Baltimore.

[00:01:25]26% admitted that they've done this to a female partner. Some described it openly as dominance. One man told his He did this specifically to make clear he controlled whether or not she got pregnant. This is all called reproductive coercion and it's a form of intimate partner violence and it actually works. It's not just a behavior, it's a strategy. A longitudinal study followed black women ages 18 to 24 over 12 months and found that women experiencing reproductive coercion had measurably higher pregnancy rates within just three months. The coercion was producing the intended result. And unfortunately from my perspective as a cop, here's where it gets worse because the law doesn't really help women in these situations.

[00:02:19]You know, there's much I can do about other forms of intimate partner violence. Almost everywhere in the United States, there's mandatory arrest policies, protection orders, all sorts of stuff. But coercing or tricking a woman into a pregnancy most of the time, it's just very difficult to legally defend women against this. The biggest problem here is that most women don't recognize this as a form of abuse, which is exactly why it just keeps happening over and over. And now these men who are forcing you to carry a baby use that pregnancy and the child as an excuse to have access to your body, to your housing, to your resources. But rarely do they ever provide anything in return.

[00:03:07]I can't really think of a solution, but at least if more young black girls become aware of this issue and can kind of point the finger at it, then maybe it becomes a pattern that they can avoid.

[00:03:20]Hate on me if you must, but this all had to be said. So, I posted a video where I spoke about how black males practice reproductive coercion on black females by in one way or another forcibly impregnating them as a method of control. And I received this comment where someone is saying that it's basically not my place to speak on this issue. I think it's a fair point that warrants a response. If not me, then who? My credibility is not cultural or based on the color of my skin. As a police officer, it's occupational and evidentiary. I'm not speaking as someone who belongs to that community. I'm speaking as someone who enters it multiple times every shift, every night, over and over again, dealing with the consequences of this behavior professionally, repeatedly, and in real time. If not me, then who? Think of me as a witness. Witnesses don't need to belong to a community to testify about what they've seen. I am the one who gets called into these homes. And I am the firsthand witness to the downstream consequences of this every single night.

[00:04:39]If not me, then who? I didn't even just come with my own experiences. I came with studies that were conducted by researchers published in peer-reviewed journals and the findings belong to anybody who is willing to look them up and read them. I did not generate the events and I did not generate the data either. If not me then who? Sometimes the message is a lot more important than the messenger. I think black women are supposed to be the carriers of culture, not the carriers of children that have been forced upon them. So yes, I think at great personal risk, I will continue to speak rather than be a silent devil.

[00:05:21]Be safe.

[00:05:22]>> There's peerre >> It's the caption for me and you, the police, they don't trust you either.

[00:05:35]Hello.

[00:05:37]>> I really need women to understand that these men do not have children with you because they want a family and because they want to be a father and they want the responsibilities of being a father.

[00:05:45]Sometimes men have whoopsies, right?

[00:05:47]It's a whoopsies. They, "Oh, dang. I thought I pulled out or I thought I was careful and I wasn't." These men get you pregnant to have proximity to you. They use pregnancy as a form of control. It's not a, "Oh, I always wanted a family with her. I just wanted all these kids."

[00:06:00]They did not want that. They use it as a weapon. They get you pregnant to sit you down. They get you pregnant to have proximity to you forever. The gang just came out with this interview and said this thing when I was online last year years ago telling people this. They're like, "Oh, no, that's not true. Uh people have babies and they're blessings and all this other stuff. Somebody put a ball and a chain on your ankle. You going to call that a blessing?" Children are innocent. Children are the closest thing to godliness. A lot of men give these women children they do not want to humble them and sit them down and have proximity to them for the rest of their lives to control the outcome of your life and they have absolutely no intention of being 100% present. Father, they may be there, they may be around, but they not going to pull their weight like they supposed to. Now they over here saying that Lotto is pregnant. Oh, you mean big mama no kids? Right in word, right time. That Lotto, the one over here who was talking about abortion clinics.

[00:06:57]This man ain't going to trap me. I'm not having no man baby. They trying to get me pregnant. They trying to woop whoop whoop.

[00:07:03]And I made a video, I think it was like last year or the year before where I was telling women in the industry to be careful. There are men out here who are literally on assignment to get you pregnant early on in your career, to have access to you forever, and to humble you, and they have no intentions to marry you whatsoever. When you realize and you accept the truth that these men are out here weaponizing children, you're not going to out here just being willy-nilly pregnant. And if you so happen to find yourself in a situation where you are pregnant, think about it very differently. Don't be like, "Oh, this is going to be so great." You need like, "Okay, let me analyze the situation. This person may not be active forever." Like, "This is who he is right now. Would he still be like this if we're not together? Does he have the characteristics of somebody who would make a great father? And we're not talking about just wishful thinking.

[00:07:46]We're talking pencil only for those children, but also for you in your postpartum. How is this going to impact your life? What can you do to brace yourself for this? What steps do you need to take to protect yourself in the event that this does not work out? When people start looking at pregnancy the way they need to look at it, a lot of things will get better. And I've been knew men were the ones trapping women with babies. That's why I always tell women, don't have any children or if you just absolutely desire to be a mother, have one. These men do not actually want to be fathers.

[00:08:19]They don't actually want to be involved.

[00:08:21]There's a very small percentage of them that actually do, but most of that labor is going to fall on you as the mom. And one will still give you enough freedom, still give you enough opportunity to pour into you and pour into your child.

[00:08:37]When you start having three and four and five, it gets a lot harder for you as a mother, especially if you're doing it by yourself. So there is no use to even listening to these men when they say they want you to have a baby and all this. They're just lying. They just want to slow you down and leave you holding the bag. When women say it, we tripping, we bugging, we lying. But when a man says it, what you got to say now? Deonte Kyle said that y'all uh men's is out here trapping us with babies. And let me say it is true. It is true. So, do you know how many men I have had tell me, "I'm going to impregnate you." And that was their last time seeing me. Okay? Do you know I had a guy tell me, "I purposely impregnated you so that I can have my polygamous situation."

[00:09:33]And do you know I purposely got rid of that baby? I did. I did. Thank God for New Jersey. Um, so this is really happening to the point where I now just refuse to have intercourse because the way I feel like there is a spirit on me and men just want to impregnate me. I'm walking around big and pregnant and they're like, "Do you want another one?

[00:09:55]Whoa, what is happening? My baby is only a little pew pew and you see this and you're asking if I want more children."

[00:10:03]No, I refuse to lay down with the male species because I am too afraid of them trying to impregnate me. I make beautiful children. Beautiful children.

[00:10:12]I'm an amazing mother. Beautiful mother.

[00:10:16]No, the men are out here trapping women.

[00:10:19]And um then on top of trapping them with the babies, they're not helping them with the babies so that the women have no life and have no outlet and have no way and where to go and won't help them so that they stay their asses in the house and so that nobody else can have that woman. And then they feel like once a woman has multiple children, they are no longer desirable. So even though I don't want you, I don't want him to want you, too. And here is a baby. Ladies, ladies, ladies, be safe out there. Mhm.

[00:10:49]Don't tell that man you on birth control. Go get that birth control if that's what you into. Okay? Like, supply your own condoms and watch him put it on, okay? Don't No, don't don't go put that on in the bathroom. I supplied this and you put that on, okay? Because it's scary out there. Guys, let me know what you think in the comment section. I saw this video and I feel like it's a very interesting video to bring to you guys because um a lot of people are not talking about this. This topic has not been discussed so much by a lot of people and I feel like everything said in this video is true. Then there are a lot of people who are think that this man is not at the right place to speak on this because he's white. But he said that he's a police officer and he know what he's saying. I honestly understand what he's saying. And if you are a black woman and you talk to yourself like for real, you understand what this man is saying because immediately you are cage and or immediately you become someone's baby mama. It is so very hard to have your life together. It is so very hard to have the opportunity to do a lot of other things that you want to do in life. It is extremely very hard to even date anyone else. And also it is very hard for you to move from that to like achieving a lot of things you want to achieve in life.

[00:12:14]It is one thing to have a baby or have a child with a man who is your husband and that man married you when you are young.

[00:12:24]It is very very different thing because at the end of the day if you're married at young age there's still possibility for you to grow. there's still possibility for you to like start doing other things other than that marriage.

[00:12:37]But if you made a baby mama, sometimes this is so very hard for you to write.

[00:12:42]Sometimes it's so very hard for you to achieve your goal. Sometimes it's even so very hard to see another man who will accept you without your your baby. And if you know what is trending right now, a lot of black men are going on social media talking about how they do not want to date a woman who is a baby mama. A woman who have had child before for someone else that they do not want to bear that burden. So if you're making yourself a baby mama, there's possibility that that will affect you personally. So I honestly want black women to start thinking for themsel.

[00:13:13]Like in everything you're doing, put yourself first. In every relationship you are in, put yourself first because that is so very important. At the end of the day, you do not need to satis sacrifice yourself for a man because honestly, I genuinely feel like babies or children come with responsibility and that responsibility there need to be a man in the house for both of you to carry that responsibility correctly. But guys, I want to know what you think in the comment section.