Filipinas Have Spare Boyfriends?!

[00:00:03]Hi everyone. My name is Laurie and welcome back to 8 minutes with Fuentes.

[00:00:09]Today we are talking with a new Filipina and get her honest reaction to one of our videos from Fuentes Family Interviews channel. But first, please tell us your name, age and where you're from.

[00:00:24]>> Um, I'm Way. I'm 21 years old from Bacolod.

[00:00:30]>> Bacolod Naga?

[00:00:31]>> Yes.

[00:00:31]>> So she's from Naga.

[00:00:33]Okay.

[00:00:34]In our previous interviews, a Filipina made a surprising claim. She said it's quite common for some women to have a spare boyfriend or backup boyfriend waiting in the wings. Now, I'm going to show you that clip. Actually, we're going to watch that clip and get your honest reaction.

[00:00:58]>> Okay.

[00:00:58]>> Do you agree with her or do you think she's completely wrong? Okay? I want you to be very honest, babe.

[00:01:05]>> Yes.

[00:01:05]>> Here's the video. How common is it for Filipinas to have a spare boyfriend? Is it likely or not?

[00:01:15]>> Um, I think it's very common here in Philippines since most of the girls are normalizing it.

[00:01:22]>> They're normalizing it. Okay. How can you tell that if, you know, women here are normalizing this now here in the Philippines?

[00:01:30]>> Well, I've met so many girls and I experienced it also. I have so many friends that have spare boyfriends. How common is it for >> Okay.

[00:01:44]What's your immediate reaction to what she just said?

[00:01:49]>> Um Confused po.

[00:01:52]>> Mhm.

[00:01:54]>> Since um I mean, a lot of people are normalizing I know.

[00:02:02]But for me Yeah, it's confusing since >> Do you agree with her or she's completely wrong?

[00:02:11]>> Um 50/50 50/50.

[00:02:14]>> Have you personally known women who kept a backup boyfriend just in case their main relationship didn't work out?

[00:02:23]>> Yes, ma'am. I know a lot of women, ma'am. That I know.

[00:02:28]>> A lot of women?

[00:02:29]>> Yeah.

[00:02:30]>> Are you talking with your friends or family?

[00:02:33]>> Um friends, ma'am, and >> Like classmates?

[00:02:44]>> Yeah.

[00:02:45]>> Or some club or bar.

[00:02:47]Oh, so you're someone who likes to go clubbing like that?

[00:02:50]>> No.

[00:02:52]>> But >> But sometimes when I I know I experience I know.

[00:02:58]>> What do you mean by you experience it?

[00:03:00]>> Um >> You've seen it?

[00:03:06]>> Yeah.

[00:03:06]>> Like women with spare boyfriends?

[00:03:08]>> Yes.

[00:03:09]>> How can you tell that that's her spare boyfriend?

[00:03:17]Do you know the the person?

[00:03:19]>> Yeah. I know the person.

[00:03:22]>> Okay. Why do you think some women do that? Is it for security, money, attention, or something else?

[00:03:32]>> I think for fun. They do it for fun.

[00:03:37]Since yeah.

[00:03:39]And some for money.

[00:03:43]>> Money and fun?

[00:03:45]>> Yeah.

[00:03:46]>> Okay. So a lot of women wants fun.

[00:03:49]>> Yes.

[00:03:51]>> Okay. Do you think this is more common among younger women or older women?

[00:03:57]>> I think both.

[00:03:59]Oh.

[00:04:00]Since I encountered a lot of people that are doing it talaga.

[00:04:09]So, yeah.

[00:04:10]I think both.

[00:04:12]>> Both.

[00:04:13]What is the oldest age of a woman that you've seen that she has a spare boyfriend?

[00:04:18]>> Um 40.

[00:04:20]>> 40.

[00:04:21]>> 40. 40 years old, yeah.

[00:04:22]>> Who is this? Your neighbor?

[00:04:24]>> Yeah.

[00:04:25]>> [laughter] >> Guess is correct. Okay, your neighbor.

[00:04:29]And then the youngest?

[00:04:31]>> Um 17, 16.

[00:04:34]>> Very young.

[00:04:34]>> Yeah.

[00:04:35]>> Okay, very young to have a spare boyfriend. If a foreign man comes to the Philippines looking for love, should he be worried about becoming the backup option?

[00:04:46]>> I think yes.

[00:04:47]>> Mhm.

[00:04:47]>> Since here in the Philippines, um a lot of people are using foreigner for, you know, >> To have a better life.

[00:04:59]>> Yeah.

[00:05:01]I think that's the ano parang reason para ma-worry sila sa mga ganong ano.

[00:05:09]>> So, that's the reason that he should be worried of. Okay. So, definitely like out of 10, like 10 out of 10, they should be worried. Yeah.

[00:05:19]Okay.

[00:05:20]Do you think men do the same thing or is this more common among women?

[00:05:26]>> I think they do the ano same ano thing.

[00:05:30]Men and women.

[00:05:33]Yes, I think they ano both women and men.

[00:05:39]>> Both out of 10. Let's say from men, out of 10, how many men do you think would do it?

[00:05:46]>> I think nine. How about the women?

[00:05:49]Same, nine.

[00:05:50]>> Okay. Final question. What advice would you give a man to make sure he is the first choice and not the spare boyfriend?

[00:06:04]What advice would you give to that man to make sure he is the first choice and not the spare boyfriend?

[00:06:14]>> Um I think the best advice that I can give is um I don't know.

[00:06:21]>> Okay. How about like someone that you know that is close to you? Do you know? Yeah, okay. How about that guy? Okay, what advice would you like to give him since you're close to him, right? To make sure that he is the first choice, not the spare boyfriend.

[00:06:37]What advice would you give him?

[00:06:40]>> Um ask the girl directly about I don't know. About his about her intention to him since you know a lot of people are I don't know.

[00:06:53]Using >> Using someone?

[00:06:56]>> Uh-huh.

[00:06:57]>> Okay.

[00:06:58]Do you think she will be honest if he will ask her? Like do you have a spare boyfriend? Do you have a someone like a backup? Do you think she will be honest to him?

[00:07:07]>> It depends.

[00:07:09]It depends on her since but then you didn't say to him.

[00:07:14]>> It's possible that she's not going to say it. But at least But you said earlier that you have friends that does it. How about you? Do you see yourself having a spare boyfriend?

[00:07:23]>> No.

[00:07:23]>> No?

[00:07:24]>> No.

[00:07:24]>> Okay. Okay. How about a boyfriend of yours or ex-boyfriends, let's say, if you have?

[00:07:30]Does someone did it to you like, you know, like having a Oh.

[00:07:33]Really?

[00:07:34]>> Yeah.

[00:07:34]>> Okay.

[00:07:35]>> Been there.

[00:07:36]>> Been there. Okay. And how do you feel about that?

[00:07:39]>> I'm hurt.

[00:07:40]>> You're hurt. Okay, so you are 20?

[00:07:43]>> 21. 21 still in college what are you studying Beth?

[00:07:46]>> Um I took major in science.

[00:07:48]>> Okay, single or do you have a boyfriend?

[00:07:51]>> Um single.

[00:07:52]>> How long have you been single?

[00:07:54]>> 1 year.

[00:07:55]>> A year. Okay, well anyway thank you so much Beth we really appreciate your honesty and your time. Thank you. Thank you so much guys and see you on the next video. Bye-bye.

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