BLACK MEN AREN'T CHECKING FOR ME OVERSEAS!

Added: 2026-05-16

[00:00:00]Hey, what's going on? Welcome or welcome back to the Gen X Army Vet YouTube channel. I am the Gen X Army vet back with another video, >> another one.

[00:00:09]>> As you title, you can see in the thumbnail, we have this black female here who goes by the name of Mariah Shelar.

[00:00:17]Um, she recently went to Bali. She's traveling and apparently, you know, she saw a black man or she seen a black man and he didn't wave. He didn't smile. He didn't come up or say hi. He noticed her, looked a different direction, went on his merry way. And she's upset with that.

[00:00:37]I'm like, that man doesn't owe you any types of salutations. He doesn't Yeah.

[00:00:42]You don't even know if he speaks English. He could be an African dude. He could be from, you know, a Muslim country. He speaks only Arabic or whatever, you know. So, you don't know what the deal is. But yet, she's upset because, oh, we're the two only black [ __ ] here. So why didn't he say something to me? See, and that's exactly why a lot of black men go overseas to begin with, you know, to find somebody to talk to, to find a wife. Because that's the type of attitude and entitlement that we have to deal with here in the States. When these same women say, "Don't approach us. Don't talk to us. I don't have to smile if I don't want to. Oh, you want to talk to me? Buy me something." So men start seeking, you know, you know, companionship with other women, whe you know, whether it's white, Asian, or other here in the States. we go overseas and find it and they have an issue with that as well. But let's get into the video.

[00:01:32]>> I have to make this video and say something because this is a real problem that I keep experiencing abroad. I was just walking into my co-l livingiving space, right? I'm in Bali, mind you. My co-l livingiving space, I am the only black person, okay? The only black [ __ ] in here, right? So, I'm walking in and I see we clearly have a new arrival and it's a black man. And I'm getting out of my car or the car thinking like, "Oh, okay, cool." Like, there's a black person. Like, I was about to smile and say hi and just be like, "What's up? Just be friendly because we're the only two black [ __ ] in here." I get out of the car, smile. He looks at me and then looks away and keeps walking. And this is an issue that I have been experiencing abroad. No matter where I go, the black men look at you like, "Why the [ __ ] are you here, [ __ ] The fuck?"

[00:02:21]>> Again, we deal with that here in the States. I don't want to go to Bali just to meet someone from the US. Like, I don't have to say nothing to you. I don't say hi. I don't owe you that. You don't owe me that either. You know, the thing is a lot of black women are having um bad experiences overseas because not even foreigners want to talk to them like that or in that capacity because of the negative comments, the the the the stereotypes they hear or see or watch the videos on TikTok and other places.

[00:02:55]They see how these black women treat black men and other, you know, cultures.

[00:02:59]I'm like, "Yeah, I ain't dealing with that either." But a black man can go overseas, have no issues. You know, no matter what country he goes to, he can pull a woman. Black women can't say that. American black women specifically can't say that. Okay? I know there are some cases where they can, but not all of them because they posted videos on TikTok and and other social media all the time saying that, you know, they overseas and why don't nobody want to talk to them. Men don't have that experience. Like you say, any country around the world, it doesn't matter.

[00:03:31]They have, you know, they're having better times overseas. That's why they have the passport bros. If there was a thing at one point they talking about the passport sisters, ain't nobody hooking up with them like that. Or if they do, just for sex and that's it.

[00:03:44]Send them on the M way cuz nobody trying to, you know, wife none of these American chicks up >> and will not talk to you. They won't say hi. They won't crack a smile. None of that. And it's the weirdest thing to me.

[00:03:56]I understand a lot of you black men, especially from America in the UK, are traveling looking for white girls, Indonesian girls, Thai girls, any other ethnicity of woman who is not black >> because we're tired of y'all [ __ ] You know, if y'all treated us better here in the States, that wouldn't be a thing. I know there are some black men here in the States that treat, you know, black women nice. And I'm not saying that they all do or they all don't. But at the same time too, we hear about it all the time. We see it. We have family members. We've gone through it ourselves. We're like, "Fuck that. I'm not dating a black woman ever again."

[00:04:34]There are some of us that are like that.

[00:04:36]And it's okay. It's called a preference.

[00:04:40]But when we don't say nothing about them, when they decide to go pick, you know, the Hispanic man or the white man or the Asian man or an Indian man, cool.

[00:04:49]You know, then all the women in the comments, "Oh, girl, go ahead. Get the bag, sis. That's what I'm talking about.

[00:04:54]Let a black man say something about, you know, you see him with a white woman.

[00:04:57]Oh, he would got him a snow bunny. Oh, he must hate his mama cuz she black. You know, we know what they say. We see it and hear about it all the time. Oh, I wonder what Dr. Umar Johnson going to say.

[00:05:10]>> I understand that. But that doesn't mean that you have to completely ostracize your community. I'm not checking for you like that. But at the very least, we can say hi.

[00:05:19]>> You hear it? I'm not checking for you like that. So why are you worried about it then? What is it? But what does it matter to you if you just said, "Okay, I'm all go about your merry way." There no need no need for a video. But she's all obviously feeling butt hurt about it. She's in her, you know, in her feelings. She feeling type of way. So here is the video cuz she's upset.

[00:05:40]>> We could give each other a head nod. We could be friendly cuz guess what? We have a lot in common. We come from the same community. We >> They come from No, you don't. He could be a He could be a foreigner himself.

[00:05:53]Again, he doesn't know. He don't even know if he even speaks English. What gave him appearance? Oh, that's a black man. That's a man from America. That he needs to He owes me a what's up. He owes me a dab. Again, they create these stories in their head. I see women here in the States do it too. Some, not all.

[00:06:12]I hate to have that I keep saying that, but it's true. Because if you say just generally speaking, oh, I don't do that.

[00:06:19]Oh, well, you know, there's always some woman in the comments.

[00:06:22]We >> come from the same background. We come from the same struggles. We we come from the same life experience. And it just it kills me because every time 99% of the time when I see a black man abroad, he looks at me like, "Bitch, why the [ __ ] are you here?" and immediately looks to the side and keeps it pushing. And I just don't get it. When I meet black women, when I come across black women, it's always like, "Hi." Oh my gosh. Hey, you look beautiful. Hi, nice to meet you. Even if we don't stop and have a full conversation, we're going to smile and wave at each other and compliment each other or something.

[00:06:59]>> Again, that's how women men don't think the same way women do. So, just because you do it with another black woman, so we have to do it too because we're black. No, we don't. Again, women always think men have to feel or think or act the same way that they do.

[00:07:17]And if they do that, oh you sassy, oh you gay. When they don't do it, oh you sassy. Oh, you gay. So we rather just take the, "Oh, you sassy. Oh, you gay."

[00:07:25]And not even talk to you. Fine. That's I don't care. Move on by my way. You see me with this chick over here though, don't you?

[00:07:32]They're the ones who always butt hurt about this type of [ __ ] >> We're going to say hi. And I don't know when us as a community lost that or the black men lost that because the black women, we we get it.

[00:07:43]>> They don't know when they lost it. How about the years going back where don't talk to us. I'm a strong independent woman. I don't need no man. This that and the other.

[00:07:54]Don't get the you know y'all want equality.

[00:07:57]Enjoy it.

[00:08:00]You got it. So do your thing. Don't bother us.

[00:08:03]>> And this is not just my experience. I was with a group of black people earlier this week and this topic conversation came up and it's the same thing. They've experienced the same thing. Black men will look at us like, "Why the [ __ ] are you here?" and completely ignore us. And I don't know what's gonna fix it, but black men, we are the only woman who have been here for y'all no matter what.

[00:08:31]Protect y'all, listen to y'all, care about y'all, love y'all. And for us to be treated like secondass citizens within our own community is [ __ ] insane. Welcome to how we feel about how you treat us here in America.

[00:08:49]>> Like I said, I get it. You're not trying to [ __ ] a black woman or have a relationship with a black woman or have a family with a That's okay. I'm not checking for y'all either.

[00:09:00]>> That's okay. I'm not checking for y'all either. Why make the video?

[00:09:06]Why make the video?

[00:09:10]But at least we can be friendly. If somebody else has experienced this or knows why this is, I mean, I know why it is, but really wants to delve deep down into the reason why this is, please comment below and let me know because this [ __ ] it really, really irks my [ __ ] nerves. It takes absolutely nothing for a smile and a high for those of your same [ __ ] community.

[00:09:38]again. T probably don't even speak English.

[00:09:42]Anyway, getting these comments.

[00:09:47]I've experienced that with black men, too. They don't want to be associated with black women socially if other races are the majority there. You know, it happens in corporate friend groups, events, too. I learned to keep my distance with them socially, too, because I usually move in intercultural environments. They don't want to leave them alone. Stop using our men. They will embarrass you. Yeah. I've been prioritizing social relationships with other black women and people who are happy to associate with black women.

[00:10:18]Okay, cool. Do you, boo boo.

[00:10:24]Okay. Your comment, I'm not checking for you does not align with your overall reaction to this interaction you're describing here. Pick one sentiment or the other to be taken seriously. That's what I was saying. If you're not checking for what does it matter? Why make the video?

[00:10:40]I'm not talking about anything to do with attraction, sex, dating, or relationships. My overall reaction is due to some black men treating black women like we're secondass citizens when we are the same people. Again, she doesn't know if this is American, even speak English.

[00:10:57]What's the problem with people not wanting to talk to you? How does that make you a second class?

[00:11:03]Now, when you say black man, you could be talking about any man from literally dozens of countries and hundreds of tribes. Yet, this will largely be interpreted as a black. That's all I was saying. So, you automatically interpret it, oh, he's a black American just because he's got a skin tone similar to mine. Again, if you really didn't care why I make the video >> this video and say something because this is a real problem that I keep experiencing abroad.

[00:11:26]>> So, basically, brothers are not talking to y'all. Well, talking to you as what black women have been telling black men.

[00:11:35]>> Ma'am, how about you actually hold the women who look like you accountable >> that too >> for being the cause of this? I I I have seen be I've seen v women make videos like this, right? You're [snorts] not the first one.

[00:11:49]>> How about y'all actually hold the women who are tearing these black men down accountable? BLK women every day tell black men not to speak to them, not to smile at them, not to say anything to them on they they they they say this 24/7 on social media and in real life, but when the effects take place, y'all make videos like this and then y'all turn around and try blaming self-hatred or he has mommy issues or he has or he got rejected in high school. No, y'all know for a foreign fact it's because what BLK women are telling him.

[00:12:22]>> You can't make this [ __ ] up. Like I said, we hear about it all the time on social media in person through other stories.

[00:12:31]And when you get that same treatment, now you're upset.

[00:12:36]But y'all know if y'all hold women accountable, they will attack you in the comment section and come for you. Y'all literally be dogging the hell out of BK men. And then when these brothers get do exactly what y'all say, they don't say nothing to you. They don't acknowledge you. They act like, "Oh, who the f are you?" They give y'all looks, then y'all get mad >> because they have that sense of entitlement. They want to be, you know, that princess treatment. Even man doesn't even owe him anything. Oh, you got to acknowledge me. Why?

[00:13:09]Well, men could do the same exact, you know, opposite thing. They don't ever want to acknowledge a man unless he's willing to buy them something. Oh, what you going to But pay my rent, go buy me a bag, you going to take me out to eat for what? I just wanted to say hi. Well, talking to me is going to cost money.

[00:13:25]They make videos like that, but they're doing exactly what y'all are telling them to do.

[00:13:32]I don't understand it. Let's put like this. You don't y'all don't own black men because the way y'all act is basically, oh, we can say what we want about these [ __ ] and they just have to get over it.

[00:13:47]You don't own black men.

[00:13:48]>> Yep. Guys, this [ __ ] it really, really irks my nerves. It takes absolutely nothing for a smile and a high.

[00:13:55]>> There you have it. Let me know what you guys think about this. I think the key takeaway of this video is to keep that same energy. Keep that same energy, right? If you're going to have a certain energy when you're home, you should have that same energy when you're overseas.

[00:14:06]I'm just saying, right? You should not try to transform into a different person just because you're overseas, right? We got to stop the rhetoric of saying that you're strong and independent. You don't need a man, right? black men are gay and sassy and mama black and all this other crap, right? We have to stop that rhetoric.

[00:14:23]>> Literally same exact [ __ ] I said two video, well in the first video, you know, they said keep that same energy, you know, go overseas, be the same ass that you were when you with us or you around us over in the States, don't talk to us there. Why why are you so worried about us talking to you now? you know, cuz your sisters ain't around to, you know, egg you on. Oh, girl, you got to diss him, do that, do this. So, just because you're away from them now, now you can talk to us, you won't be seeing as, oh, you know, why you talking to that brokie?

[00:14:59]>> Once that rhetoric stops and you have other women holding other women accountable, maybe, just maybe, things might change. I'm just saying. Now, I do want to take a look at the comment section here. Let's take a look. That is what happens when you bash and generalize an entire group of men. You just said that you aren't checking for black men in your video, so leave black men alone in totality. Next comment says, "The same thing black women do to black men here in America." Next comment says, "I've experienced rejection before. It's okay." All right. So, next comment says, "Both sides can't keep engaging in these gender wars and then on the other hand, expect love and understanding. It's not going to work that way." Yeah. So, I would agree generally speaking, I mean, we're definitely better united [music] versus divided. Um, but when you're looking at the landscape of the single data market, the rhetoric of I don't need you, you're gay, you're sassy, is coming from one side, right? The shame, insult, guilt, need to be right is coming from one side. You have more and more men today standing on business and protecting their peace.

[00:15:55]>> Going where they are appreciated, not >> and I don't know what's gonna >> Bam pretty much hit the nail on the head. The dude she wanted to approach didn't approach her. Y'all don't listen to us.

[00:16:09]Kevin Savage right there.

[00:16:12]Sounds like you're speaking for yourself then after you woke up in this video.

[00:16:17]Friendly and please tell us why.

[00:16:20]Braha.

[00:16:22]Sorry. Never experienced it. The fatigue cap. Okay, I'm confused. I think I just experienced the flip.

[00:16:30]So yeah, she's upset. She's getting the same treatment that she's most likely be giving other black men here in the US.

[00:16:40]Welcome to our reality, chick. But anyway, that's all I have to say about this video. Um, like, share, subscribe, notification bell. I catch you next one.

[00:16:49]Peace.