🔥 Single Woman Wants Answers: Where Are The Men? Why Are Men Skipping Singles Events?

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]Why don't men go to curated dating events? Huh?

[00:00:11]>> [sighs] >> Black men especially, please answer me this.

[00:00:15]Why is it that many of y'all refuse to go to curated dating events? I'm talking about events where the vibes are already set, the ambiance is right, the music is good, the drinks are flowing. You're basically guaranteed to meet somebody who's actually interested in you and is serious about dating. You're pretty much set up to win. Conversation starters and prompts so there's no awkward silence, a bit of a structured experience and maybe a little turn up afterward. So my question is is it that dating events like this require a certain type of intention and vulnerability and the patriarchy taught you that pursuing connection with effort somehow makes you less masculine or something? Because the patriarchy told y'all that you're supposed to just stumble into love and not actually prepare for it? Because we see how that's turning out. The women are doing the work. They're showing up, they're investing, they're trying something different, stepping out of their comfort zone, taking risks.

[00:01:05]Isn't risk taking a part OF MASCULINITY, TOO?

[00:01:08]HUH? [screaming] SO WHAT IS IT REALLY? Is it the event itself or the unlearning THE PATRIARCHY PART? HUH?

[00:01:20]>> [laughter] >> Oh [screaming] [ __ ] y'all.

[00:01:24]>> [gasps] >> I don't get it, yo. How is it that you can want something from someone, then turn around and insult them in the same [ __ ] segment in less than a damn minute?

[00:01:39]HOW?

[00:01:41]THESE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE THE SMART PEOPLE. I'M SORRY, most educated.

[00:01:46]>> [laughter] >> These are the most educated, dumb as a box of rocks. Gentlemen, oh my god, where are you? You're guaranteed to turn up and you don't come. IS IT THE PATRIARCHY? OH MY GOD, Y'ALL. I don't get it. I don't get it. I don't get it.

[00:02:03]Do they not hear the words that are coming out of their mouth? What am I missing? Did she ask y'all to She asked y'all to tell her, all right? So, y'all tell her. Shout out to Corner Clubhouse.

[00:02:13]Thank you for the jewels. Appreciate you. She asked y'all to tell her. I mean, me personally, I'm just like you're insulting the same people that you're looking for. So, what the [ __ ] It's the patriarchy. It's the patriarchy. Maybe you're just a [ __ ] >> [cheering and screaming] >> An insulting [ __ ] at that. MAYBE YOU DON'T know how to treat people. Maybe you're not portraying something that someone would be interested in. Maybe you should look up what words mean, but I know you know everything, right?

[00:02:41]Let me go ahead and play it again and then we'll filter through I think they're going to answer it. Some people are going to answer her.

[00:02:49]Actually, one of these comments to do say why does everything come down to a knock on our masculinity? The concept doesn't appeal to me, period. The end.

[00:02:58]This one says the patriarchy tells men not to go to curated dating events. She answers, yes. Men don't need dating events to get women. Dating events are for are for men who can't get women.

[00:03:10]Men shouldn't have to go to dating events. Men have been conditioned to not put the same type of effort into dating and relationships as women. That's where the patriarchy comes into it. This is her answering that damn question. Maybe you're not listening. It's her her answers that she has gotten are men don't need dating events to get women.

[00:03:30]What does that have to do with the patriarchy? There's an answer right there. Next one says dating events are for men who can't get women, which I've heard before. How come she's not heard it? How come she's not heard it? Like seriously, like does Kofa need to go to a dating event, y'all? For example, does does Kofa need to go to a dating a dating event? I'm pretty sure he doesn't. This dating events are for men who can't get women.

[00:03:53]That's probably true. Men shouldn't have to go to dating events. They don't have to, just like the rest of us colors don't have to vote for who Cam Cam or whoever the [ __ ] y'all think we need to vote for.

[00:04:04]But remember, every time something goes wrong, you [ __ ] blame the same men that you're now saying are the problem for your dating experience. Your dating experience is your dating experience.

[00:04:14]That's a you problem. Y'all don't accept accountability for anything. You'll find a way to blame the same people that you claim that you want. You insult them at the same damn time, then turn around and say, "What happened? What happened?" You happened. It's you.

[00:04:29]Is this thing on?

[00:04:31]It's you. You are the problem. YOU'RE THE ONE COMPLAINING. YOU'RE THE ONE WORRIED ABOUT TRYING TO GET THESE PEOPLE TO THE EVENT. You know you could just be normal and be, you know, just going to Best Buy. Guess what? There's men all over the place. I see them. Titties and booties every day. Okay? You You could go to work. They're They're at work.

[00:04:53]Unless you're working in a all woman's place, you know they're at work. Maybe you're the problem. You the gym. If you don't go to a all female gym, plenty of men there. I'm just saying. ACTUALLY, THAT'S USUALLY WHERE THEY ARE.

[00:05:06]I'm just saying.

[00:05:08]I'm just saying. There's more men in the gym There's a lot of women in my gym, of course. I I belong to two gyms, but there's a lot of women in the gym. But there's A LOT OF MEN in the gym all the time. All the time. I don't know nothing. Don't ask me. It's not my issue, not my problem. Big boy, appreciate you saying so. Showing up is doing the work.

[00:05:31]The work is doing what they want y'all to do, cuz they said to do it. That's the work. As long as you do what they say, the work is getting done.

[00:05:39]If you don't do what they say, then you're not doing the work, and then it's the patriarchy.

[00:05:44]An insult always gets someone to do something, hence the reason why these jackasses, not them, but like the Democrats are having problems losing people because they think they can command and demand and tell people what to do, and people are like, "Fuck y'all. We don't need [singing] to listen to y'all. We got our own brains."

[00:06:02]This is the same thing, [ __ ] You can't tell people what to do. Everybody is an adult, just like no one can tell you not to be a single mom, and nobody can tell you not to have more children, and nobody can tell you DON'T HAVE ANOTHER CHILD CUZ IT'S GOING TO BE HARD.

[00:06:15]WE CAN LAY ALL OF IT OUT. Y'all still continue to do it. Just like with the [ __ ] schooling. Joe Biden came through and you got lucky if he paid your [ __ ] off. You say the debt is crippling you crippling you. There's a lot of student loan debt. WHAT ARE Y'ALL STILL DOING? TAKING OUT STUDENT LOANS.

[00:06:29]CHILD, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. SOUND PRETTY DUMB TO ME, but let me let her play again and I'll filter through. Okay, men.

[00:06:36]Black men especially, please answer me this.

[00:06:39]Why is it that many of y'all refuse to go to curated dating events? I'm talking about events where the vibes are already set, the ambiance is right, the music is good, the drinks are flowing. You're basically guaranteed to meet somebody who's actually interested in you and is serious about dating. You're pretty much >> You're guaranteed, y'all, and the people there are serious about dating, y'all.

[00:07:02]Are Wait, are y'all interested in dating?

[00:07:05]Gentlemen, are y'all interested in dating? Are you interested in going here and picking some what that someone up that you didn't got to take out and take out and take out? And you know, Kofi said his deadline is 1 week. You better give him some ass. What if you go in here and be like, "What's your time FRAME ON ASS?"

[00:07:20]>> [laughter] >> THEY'LL BE LIKE, "YOU'RE SUCH A UH UH UH MISOGYNIST. YOU'RE SO MISOGYNIST." I'M SURPRISED she ain't say that, but basically patriarchy means the same thing. Set up to win. Conversation >> You are being set up to win.

[00:07:37]Sid, you are being set up to win.

[00:07:40]Conversation and prompts so there's no awkward silence. No awkward silence. Do y'all worry about awkward silence silence, fella? Gentlemen, do y'all worry about awkward silence? A bit of a structured experience and maybe a little turn up afterward. So, my You could get a turn up afterwards, y'all. Y'all want to turn up afterwards?

[00:07:58]Y'all want to turn up? Y'all want to turn up? Let's turn up. We going to turn up.

[00:08:04]Y'all want to turn up afterwards?

[00:08:06]No.

[00:08:06]>> [laughter] >> My question is, is it that dating events like this require a certain type of intention and vulnerability? And the Oh, are y'all not intentional and vulnerable? And then of course, here we come with the patriarchy. Patriarchy taught you that pursuing connection with effort somehow makes you less masculine or something?

[00:08:27]Oh, now y'all are less masculine.

[00:08:30]You That's why you sassy straight. Shout out to the sassy straights in the building.

[00:08:35]SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE SASSY STRAIGHTS UP in this [ __ ] tonight, okay?

[00:08:39]It's the patriarchy.

[00:08:41]Because the patriarchy told y'all that you're supposed to just stumble into love and not actually prepare for it.

[00:08:45]Because Uh, stumble into love? I think it's y'all that be stumbling into love, honestly.

[00:08:51]I think it's you hating hoes that be stumbling into love. That's why y'all get it all [ __ ] up and you end up as baby moms on the internet crying and whining about something THAT YOU DID TO YOURSELF. YOU DID IT. IF IT AIN'T GRAPE AND IT AIN'T ESSAY, you said, "I'm going to fuck."

[00:09:08]And then you had that baby, okay? Cuz you knew you was [ __ ] a ain't [ __ ] [ __ ] okay? YOU KNEW IT.

[00:09:15]WE KNOW.

[00:09:16]LET ME LET THE CAT OUT OF the bag, y'all.

[00:09:21]>> [singing] >> We know.

[00:09:23]>> [gasps] >> We know when we [ __ ] an ain't [ __ ] [ __ ] Okay? Cat's out of the bag. UNLESS YOU STRAIGHT HOOD GHETTO, Y'ALL. WE AIN'T TALKING ABOUT hood hood hood ghetto. We not talking about that okay?

[00:09:38]This This is the poorest. We talking fake poorest and up, okay? Fake poorest and up.

[00:09:44]At least the poorest stay at their level for the most part, right? Fake poorest and up, we know when we [ __ ] a bum, okay?

[00:09:53]I don't care what they say.

[00:09:55]They be lying, allegedly, but they do.

[00:09:59]You see how that's turning out. The women are doing the work. They're The women are doing the work. Y'all ain't doing the work. Why ain't y'all doing the work, Shan? Get the work done.

[00:10:08]They're showing up, they're investing, they're trying something different.

[00:10:10]>> They're investing, THEY'RE TRYING SOMETHING DIFFERENT. HOW IS A DATING event different? I've been hearing about dating events since I got up on this damn internet. I didn't even know it was a thing until I got on this damn internet. Yo, if y'all see a dating event in in Philly, Southern Jersey, maybe mid-Jersey, Delaware, Maryland, maybe DC, make sure you send it to me. I'm going and I'mma live stream, okay? Cuz what I want to do is to show these women, and then you will be able to see what it is that you're missing, okay? I'll be willing to pay for that. So, if y'all see it, send it to me. Instagram or send me an email, all right? I'm just saying. I'll go.

[00:10:57]I take one for the team, okay?

[00:11:00]Stepping out of their comfort zone, taking Y'all don't want to step out of your comfort zone and take some risk?

[00:11:06]Y'all don't want TO TAKE NO RISK? What the risk?

[00:11:11]Isn't risk taking a part of masculinity, too? Isn't risk taking a part of masculinity? That's That's cool, girl.

[00:11:17]That's smooth. That's a smooth insult, but I hear it.

[00:11:21]So, what is it really? Is it the event itself or the unlearning the patriarchy part? Ah, another smooth insult. Good job, girl. Good job. Ah, the lie detector says you are the problem.

[00:11:34]>> [cheering] [screaming] >> Shut up.

[00:11:40]GOD [laughter] DAMN IT.

[00:11:42]YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS [ __ ] UP.

[00:11:50]>> [gasps]