Burnout—Jobs Never Appreciate Your Hard Work They Always Want More

Added: 2026-05-30

[00:00:00]The employers, the management, they always seem to cater to the people who did the least, the people who showed up late, barely put any effort in, no customer service skills whatsoever, could care less about damn near anything on the job. They I mean, they just show what's going on. Welcome back to my channel. My name is Jasmine if you are new here. If you're not new to my channel, you know that I have been at my relatives house petitting and housesitting for them for a couple days now. So, just ignore the background. I'm still here. I'm in the garage right now cuz I figured this would be the easiest place for me to record at this moment.

[00:00:47]I'm going home soon, so I probably won't be posting any content tomorrow. But I did want to come on here today to talk to y'all about these jobs. I don't know if y'all are seeing it as well, but I'm seeing a lot of people complain about their jobs. A lot of people are unhappy right now because of the economy and people are unhappy with their wages.

[00:01:17]It's just not enough nowadays for people to be able to live the life that they want to live. I'm going to speak on how I see things because I have been on both sides of it. So, I've been, you know, a stay-at-home mom, which I currently still am since 2021.

[00:01:37]And then prior to that, I worked in the optical field. So, I was the person who would fill your prescription if you wore glasses and or and or contacts. So, that was the field that I was in and I actually enjoyed it. Lately, I have been thinking about since I'm going through the divorce about going back to work, maybe at least part-time, going back to a traditional type of job. And so maybe that's why I'm seeing it more people, you know, just fed up with their jobs and fed up with their employers. There was one video I saw where a girl was saying that she applied to a job and she's just so tired of them doing these 45 minute hourong assessments and, you know, three, four, five round interviews. It's like insane the job market right now. There was a person in the comment section of that video who said that Amazon has like a 2hour assessment. It was it was something that was really really crazy. But I agree. I think that a lot of these jobs are just they're they're crazy and they're asking for way too much. They want you to do way too much for very little pay. The pay is not enough for what they're asking for. I was just thinking to myself that my relationship, my marriage and the relationship that I had with my employers mirrored each other. Because the thing is, I'm in this season where I'm reflecting on a lot of the things that I did in the past and mistakes that I made, how I'm trying to grow and develop as a person and just do things better. I was saying to myself, I would never ever give myself in that way to a job the way that I used to.

[00:03:52]When I was younger, I was like, you know, a gogetter. I'm like, I'm going to be the best that I can be at X, Y, and Z. I was giving all of myself to these jobs and employers with very little in return. And that's why I say that it mirrors my marriage. It mirrors the relationship that I have with other people. If you're not new to my channel, you know that I have a lot of people pleasing tendencies and habits that I'm trying to break. Somebody said in my last video that I um I overexlain too much and that's something that I should work on because it makes me vulnerable when I do that. And I can see that. I honestly can. I'm not even going to sit up here and try to deny it. I can see that in myself. And it's something that I want to change. I'm working on all of these things daily. I'm trying to, you know, address these issues little by little, bit by bit, piece by piece, because I've dedicated so much of my life to other people that now that the focus has shifted and it's more on me.

[00:05:10]Sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed and I kind of beat myself up a little bit about it because I'm like, "Wow, I really am a freaking pushover." And I cannot believe that so many people don't operate this way. I never knew how many people actually put themselves first and how many people don't even think twice about doing it. I thought for some reason all these years that as long as you're a good person, as long as you show up, you're there for other people, you are supportive, you put your best foot forward, you are a high achiever, you do X, Y, and Z. I always thought that it would add up to that being given to you as well and it being reciprocated, but I'm learning that it's not the case.

[00:06:13]Most of the time, it's not the case. Not even some of the time, I'm talking most of the time, people are going to do what is best for them and they won't even consider you at all. That is like the norm. Actually, I'm just like I'm still trying to wrap my mind around that and to accept it. It's just hard for me because I've never believed that in my life. And I I don't want to believe it. I still don't want to believe it. But I have to go with the reality of things. I cannot continue to just be delusional and have my head in the clouds thinking that this is not how life is. So, I'm now, you know, accepting that if I want better for myself, I have to look out for me and I have to put myself first. But with that, all of that being said, the point that I wanted to make is that when I go back into the workforce and I get a a regular 9-to-five job, I will not be going above and beyond on any job. I will not I will be doing the um the basic because what I have noticed is that now prior to when when I was working I noticed and I could never understand is that the employers the management they always seemed to cater to the people who did the least the people who showed up late barely put any effort in. no customer service skills whatsoever, could care less about damn near anything on the job. They I mean, they just showed up.

[00:08:10]That's all they did. They showed up. I'm here. I'm gracing you with my presence and you should be happy about it. They are the people who seem to get treated with the most respect. And I I just I don't understand it. I still cannot understand it to this day. So here I am.

[00:08:30]I show up on time. I make sure that I put my best foot forward. I'm doing everything that is required of me and I'm going above and beyond. I mean things that aren't even in my job description. I'm doing it. And you know what am I what what is my reward?

[00:08:52]Nothing. Disrespect. you're being treat you're being that the only thing that they do is they want to work you more.

[00:08:59]If they see that you're a good employee instead of appreciating you like you would think they want to continue to work you more and they will allow you to work yourself to the bones.

[00:09:15]They don't care. They do not care. And I um just the older that I get, I like I said, I have not been in a traditional job for years. But I that's the one thing that I remember and that is the one mistake that I will never make again. If I'm going to go hard and I'm going to work my fingers to the bone and I'm going to put 110 150% in, it's going to be something that is for me. is going to be something that is exclusive to me and it's not going to be for one of these corporations. It's just not. I want to do this because I want to have something for myself and y'all know that I'm with my children most of the time, you know, so I just want to get back out there and kind of um get my feet wet. I remember a job that I had where I worked for an optometrist. Okay. And I worked with this doctor for about 7 years now. In between that time, I left for maybe about 6 months or so. And I ended up going back because she asked me to come back and I was I was comfortable there.

[00:10:32]I'm not even going to lie. Like I we had a good relationship. I don't even remember why I left the first time. I really don't. I think it was something.

[00:10:43]It was something to do with um I don't know but I left and I ended up coming back going back because she asked me to and I wanted to go back honestly because we had a good relationship. It was an easy job. I knew it very well. I knew it like the back of my hand and I was just comfortable there. I had left and went somewhere else. And you know, once you've been on a job for so long and you're working very closely with the doctor and y'all build a relationship, I just I felt like it was a mistake for me to leave. So, I went back. So, anyways, I worked for this doctor for about 7 years. And I remember I would show up early. I was there a lot of times before she was to open the office. Hold on y'all for one second y'all. I was working for this doctor and like I said, I was doing everything.

[00:11:46]Like I mean literally everything. It was just her, I one other person. So she would have herself, me as the full-timer, and then there was always a part-timer. But it got to a point where, and this was around like um 2020, early 2021, where people just did not want to work. And they were lying. They would say that they had these skills that they didn't have. They would lie on their resume, get into the office, and they could not do anything that they said that they could during the interview or on their resume. So, we were going through so many people and um she could not keep the part-timer for anything. I think it's already hard enough to keep a part-timer, but around that time it got a lot worse. Like people were just off the chain with what they were doing and their um work ethic was just way off.

[00:12:47]So, anyways, I got tired of training people because all of the training was on me. every time it seems like I would get somebody fully trained, they would quit. And that happened at least about three, four times, and I'm not getting any additional pay for this, y'all. So, I was doing a lot. I was going above and beyond. And it was many, many, many years of me going above and beyond, but then it just got a lot worse around that time. So, I was kind of getting burnt out on this job and I was actually tired of being feeling like I was being taken advantage of. The pay was not increasing enough. Um, the job was I think it was like an hour commute for me and the traffic in that area was very very bad.

[00:13:36]So, I was just tired. I remember I asked her, I went to her and I asked her, you know, all this work, all these years I put in, everything that I gave to her, I asked her, I'm like, you know, can I have one Saturday off a month? Can we just close down? Because it's a private practice, so she had the ability to do it if she wanted to. You know what this doctor told me? No, it wasn't even up for debate. It was no question. There was no consideration. It was no right off the bat. And I'm like, really?

[00:14:18]Wow. So, you know, it all of my work and everything that I put in, it it didn't matter. It did not matter. I thought that what I was asking for was reasonable one Saturday out of the month, but obviously it wasn't reasonable to her. I mean, and that is her decision. I wasn't really mad. I was just kind of shocked that there was no consideration for me. And you know, she just it was just a no. She didn't even really think about it. I don't think she thought about it because the no was just too quick. But I thought that she would at least consider it. And you know, she had to do what she had to do. It's her business and she did what she felt was best for her business. But I know what was best for me. And I left. I left after that because I'm like, I'm not going to do all of all the things that I'm doing and you're not even going to consider that I am doing all of these things and how outstanding of an employee I am, how much I have done to help you with your business. when everybody continuously leaves, I'm still here and you don't appreciate it. And that is one of the things that helped me to realize that these jobs and these employers, they just don't care. You put in all of this effort and you get very little to nothing out of it. And I'm noticing, like I said in the beginning, that that is just the way that a lot of people operate these days. They only care about themselves or they're always going to put themselves first and do what is beneficial to them. They will not sacrifice anything for you. At least they don't do for me. I don't know.

[00:16:04]Maybe it's me. I've I've met very few people outside of my family, my immediate family, who are willing to sacrifice anything for the next person.

[00:16:16]And it's sad, but I mean, I'm learning to accept it. Maybe it isn't a sad thing. Maybe that's just how things are supposed to be. And I've had it wrong all this time because it's so many people who do it. And it's like instinctive to them. It's not even a question. You know, I'm trying to get out of my people pleasing ways. I will never do anything like that for another job. And I just gave y'all the short version of it. But I've had a couple of different jobs where I noticed that like the people who don't really go above and beyond, they're always treated well. The red carpet is rolled out for them. And then the people who excel, they go above and beyond. They get treated less than.

[00:17:02]And they're expected to continuously do more until they are burnt out. So, no, I will never ever ever do anything like that again for a job. If I'm going to get burnt out, it's going to be for something that is for me and something that I feel like I want to get burnt out for. But these days, I don't want to get burnt out for anything. You know, my peace is where it's at and what I am trying to achieve. Let me know how y'all feel about the job market right now. And then, have you ever worked for a job that was similar to that? I'm sure y'all have. I know I cannot be the only person that has gone through this. And like I said, I'm seeing so many people say that they are tired. They're tired from the I mean, just starting from the interview process is just too much. These employers are asking for a whole lot with very little in return. Let me know in the comments and I will see y'all in my next