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Donut Mom - TikTok's Most Neglectful MotherAdded:
So, this is my 9-year-old's plate.
Doughnut Mom came to prominence a couple years ago for her series of videos showcasing her inability to adequately feed her kids a healthy meal. Alexander Soil is a single stay-at-home mother who follows the usual tropes of virtue signaling online by proving how good of a mother that they can be. The unfortunate truth is that these women knowingly use the outrage of the internet to build an online audience even with their own shortcomings. If the controversy was just feeding her kids slop and living a largely lazy lifestyle, then we wouldn't have much to discuss and I could just direct you to someone like Pizza Mom that we covered a couple months back. Because after all, it's unfortunate to know that there are thousands of kids to live through this lifestyle every single day in America.
Their lives just aren't broadcasted to strangers. However, Donut Mom has been accused of deliberate negligence and abuse towards her three children. This includes allegedly slapping her daughter in the face multiple times, forcing her kids to sleep in hot rooms with broken windows and refusing to let them sleep with her, and even essay allegations against her kids that were later redacted by the accuser. Today, we going to dive into the dirty bath water that is Alexandra Soil's life.
>> We got McDonald's. My girls got Happy Meals. Do you guys want it in your box or a plate? Box, >> mommy.
>> Okay, >> mommy, too. My three-year-old gut nugget fries, but they're in the box. Apples, and a toy.
>> Here you go, baby.
>> My six-year-old got a burger, nuggets, fries, and a toy. They both got chocolate milk.
Chocolate milk.
>> Chocolate milk. My son got fries and a 20 piece. And I already know y'all are going to complain, so go ahead. Yes, he got a 20 piece. That is what he asked for. If he does not eat it all, he can always reheat it later or tomorrow.
>> You going to add, >> please. Good job.
>> Nine-year-old's plate. He doesn't want a burger or hot dog, so he's getting stew.
>> Three-year-old's plate, six-year-old's plate.
>> There are litany of these types of meal reviews that Alexandra has showcased.
Notable traits include strictly fast food, a lack or absence of fruits and vegetables, and a propensity to plate everything on paper plates. You'll notice that the background is full of clutter, and her counters and stove tops are usually caked in crumbs and grease.
It's honestly impressive how dirty her home gets with how little she ends up cooking. Mind you, Donut Mom doesn't even have a job outside of posting online. A lot of the imitators have actual ball crushing facility jobs, so there's at least some tangible, although flimsy excuse for them being in their dwellings and it being gross. Every meal has to be deep fried, covered in sugar, and severely lacking basic nutrients in order to be served to Alexandra's kids.
>> It's been a while since we had donuts, so let's have some donuts.
>> I love donuts.
>> I love donuts.
>> I want vanilla donut with sprinkles.
>> I got these donuts from Walmart.
We got Mexican. I think this is the rice and beans that goes with my daughter's meal. And then I got rice and beans.
Also got a burrito. I get it every single time. It's my favorite. My son got two tacos. Got chips. My daughter got a taco. My son wanted a side of beans. We got more chips. Got cheese dip because I was really in the mood for chips and dip.
>> And then we all got a slush for our drink. So, you might think the remedy is to make nice, delicious, home-cooked meals, and Doughnut Mom has even tried that tactic. There are genuine attempts to cook with vegetables and not buy a large pizza to devour.
Unfortunately for everyone involved, she can't cook, has tried to cook frozen ground beef without dethawing, and burns eggs every time that she tries to cook them. She doesn't even really understand the basics of cooking, whether it be methods, techniques, or even how hot to cook items in a pan. So, she resorts to making some more simple things for her kids when she can, like a sandwich or packing a lunchable. As a kid, I'm sure we were all jealous of the other kids in school that got those prepackaged treats for their lunches. But looking back in retrospect, I never really realized how lucky I was to have a freshlymade lunch and dinner every day. Also, it's kind of sad that her kids will remember her by the processed slop, like a happy meal that they've been served instead of a signature dish that will last in your memory long past that they are gone.
See, and this is a me problem.
>> I'm cooking.
>> I'm cooking. Yes.
You can have candy >> after your eggs. You can have your candy. Okay.
>> I want >> Did she say carbon monoxide or carbon dioxide?
I need a bigger bowl. One isn't even that much bigger. What a freaking waste, dude. Raise your hand if you hate dishes.
>> And we're going to pack my baby's lunches with me. So, he's getting a Lunchable.
And that's it for my 8-year-old's lunch.
Done.
My six-year-old's lunch box is a little smaller, but we're going to do her probably through an avenue of child support, Tik Tok payouts, and government stipens, Donut Mom is able to purchase Walmart food halls that would put anyone to shame. I'm going to speed this video up 50%, but notice the sheer amount of corn and lack of anything outside of sugar and carbs. To anecdotally put it, I had three older neighbors who were all on the high school offensive line on the football team, and I swear I never saw this amount of bags and groceries entering their house whenever they came back from the store. It's also alarming by how many meals are just fast food ccentric inside their house. And we've got a $500 grocery haul that are probably just decaying in the fridge right in front of us.
>> Walmart's like, 50 minutes away and I kept good. But I got my first grocery delivery and I'm so excited. So, let me show you what I got. I first got two bags of these veggie chips. I got two loaves of bread. I got three jars of spaghetti sauce. I got these Brio hamburger buns and these Hawaiian sweet rolls. I got this big bag of marshmallow fruity pebbles. I got this box of special K. I got this box of tricks. And I got this box of fruit spins. I got these mini cheese balls. I got two boxes of Reese's Puffs. I got a pack of green beans. I got a bag of red potatoes. I got a box of Rice Krispie treats. Got each of my kids one of these snack packs. I got this box of cookie crisp. I got two bags of these Halloween Reese's.
I don't care. They just taste better. I got these Halloween Oreos. I got these Halloween Go squeezes. I got these pumpkin sugar cookies. I got three bell peppers. I got ketchup. I got a big pack of cheese sticks. I got two things of zebra cakes. I got four things of regular Reese's and two things of the new Oreo Reese's because my baby daddy told me to try it. Three of my true fries. I'm so excited. This is my favorite thing ever. I haven't had it in a while. So, I got my chocolate covered strawberry. I got bagel bites, mozzarella sticks, fries, Go-Gurt. I got two bags of frozen corn. A bag of air fried red potatoes. Two bags of roasted bread potatoes and green beans. More yogurts. Fruit snacks. I got these Halloween veggie chips. More fries.
These spooky cookies. Two cheese trays.
A veggie tray. I got two boxes of these cheese filled bread sticks. I got a taco kit. Chocolate sprinkles. Two boxes of spaghetti noodles. Banana split ice cream that was specifically requested by my three-year-old. I got my coffee. I drank it every morning. I needed it.
Three jars of Alfredo sauce. My coffee creamer. Three bags of spooky nuggets.
Whipped cream for my coffee. These fall party cakes. I got these protein packs.
A bag of onion. My three-year-old requested marshmallows for her ice cream. Two bags of pizza rolls. Six of these 50 cent bowls. These are my favorite. S'mores ice cream and vanilla ice cream. Strawberries. Bananas.
Blueberries. More yogurt. Name wafers.
Chips. Ahoyo. Viety cookies. Mini donuts. Stranger Things cookies. They look pretty good. Peanut butter cookies.
Cookie butter cookies. Sour cream.
Cottage cheese. Two bags of baby red potatoes. Two things of chicken breast.
Two pork loins. I don't even know how many brownies, but this is all brownies.
Two bags of pork chops. Coffee ice cream. Two things of Propel. And two things of apple juice. And sure enough, that turns out to be true. Donut Mom, much like Nova Online, has tried to use their crippling crutch of being lazy as a way to get viewership. They make their homes gross and disgusting, and then film their journey to clean it up. This includes a dirty fridge, mostly full of rotting fruits and vegetables that have to be thrown out. It's never the slice of pizza that goes bad. It's always the healthiest of foods. Really makes you think.
This will be good.
>> The deplorable nature of her home has been thoroughly documented. Dirty toilets, diapers on the floor, unclean food scraps surrounding furniture are just a few of the disgusting features that she blatantly ignores on a daily basis. It's one thing to be a gross Reddit mod who lives by themselves, but when it comes with a normal kid living inside the house, just having them have to live with filth, all of the aspects of their life will ultimately become filth because after all, why would they even bother trying?
>> Y'all are so funny in my comments section and messages.
>> You really think you can hurt my feelings?
>> I've been bullied since I was literally like 4 years old, and I've been called so many names on here, but some of them are really flattering. One of my personal favorites is the rage bait. To whoever started that one, thank you so much. That gave me a good chance.
>> I got called the maggot queen today.
That one was >> But I don't have maggots, so I don't know where that even came. And if I ever have, I never saw them. I would think I would see them in my own house, right?
Maybe not. I laugh when you guys say I'm not a good. The only opinions that matter on if I'm a good mom or not are not mine and definitely not yours, but the opinions of my babies. And they tell me I'm an amazing adult business. Don't bring them into anything, period.
>> That is where I will catch a charge real. then y'all will have something to talk about. Cuz I'll smile in my mug shot when it comes to my babies. I really don't care.
>> Contrary to popular belief, I love my kids more than I have ever loved anything. And they know it and that's all that matters. Just because you scream record a lie or some look you think I gave or a question I didn't answer in the video because I already answered it 100 times before I started recording. Does not mean I don't love my love them all equally because I have seen people say that I have favor. I absolutely don't. Half of y'all think I favor myself. Half of y'all think I favor my three-year-old. Most of y'all think I don't even like my sister, but I love her unconditionally, just like my other kids. But I was in a much better headsp space today, so I thought I'd do part two of my declutter series. Now, this is the famous counter that's always behind me in all of my videos. This is the counter that everyone zooms into to see all the clutter. I know everyone thinks it's trash, but it's truly just clutter. It's food. It's stuff. It's cleaning products, appliances, whatever you can think of was on in a small space. I haven't seen this counter in months because it just everything gets piled on here. Projects and things they make me, food, appliances we don't use all the time, just random stuff gets piled on here. So, it has really become unmanageable, but I knew I needed to get it done for my declutter series if I was actually going to dig my heels in and get some stuff decluttered.
>> More alarmingly, albeit not surprising, Alexandra's health seems to be in poor state. The heavy breathing in nearly every video is quite concerning, especially considering all she's doing is opening a pizza box or moving plates around. It's no secret that she's morbidly obese and lazy, which equals to mounting health complications.
>> My 8-year-old got a tea, my 3-year-old got a juice, and my six-year-old got a lemonade. I just got me and the kids a pizza to share.
million.
But don't worry, she's got a remedy. And I [ __ ] you not, she does something called hooping. Not hula hooping. I guess hooping is where you tie an elastic band around your waist and spin a ball around on a rope. This is millennial regarded workout methods at their finest. She quite literally looks like she has a skip it laced all around her. She's another victim of the lose weight quick scheme. These types of people don't want to work hard or be uncomfortable, so they get fooled by some targeted ad that promises fast results, but they actually do nothing.
And now you got commentators like me online saying that you look like an idiot.
>> I cannot believe y'all have me out here on a random Thursday having to defend myself. But here we are hooping again and defending myself. So, first of all, yes, I do still hoop. I get comments all the time asking if I still hoop, and I absolutely do. Y'all also keep saying I'm hooping wrong, but I'm literally doing the best I can. If you've never hooped before, you have no idea how hard it is to keep it spinning. It's no surprise that being this gullible has made Donut Mom the ultimate consumer.
She's constantly shopping and picking up useless mass-roduced garbage. In particular, she really loves Hello Kitty. And anytime there's some collab in some store that she's at, she has the impulse of needing to purchase it. In order to fund this lifestyle, she's resorted to asking for money from her viewers, even though she had over 800,000 followers on her account and was probably making north of five figures a month.
>> Come spend my boyfriend's money with me as a lazy mom of three.
>> You guys, I so need this one. It has a coffee and a donut. How freaking cute this makeup bag is. And this one is so cute, too. How cute. that shows when it's clean or dirty. How cute is that?
So, it is magnetic and you just slide it over when it's clean. Love that. This is so sweet. I very much appreciate that. I do have a list put together of things I plan to get as I can because with my TikTok being banned, like money's going to be tight for a while.
>> This has made her extremely entitled with how she expects the world to revolve around her. Take for example the time that FedEx delivered a package damaged and completely reimbursed her for the issue. She proceeds to go online and complain that the Christmas gifts were damaged and she can't go and get the mass-produced slop in time. Remind her that she doesn't have a job and that 30 minutes of commuting to Walmart is too much struggle to get Christmas together. Modern technology is really turning everyone into the humans from Wall-E. I posted thank you to FedEx because they damaged two big boxes of gifts for my kids for Christmas. And yes, I got a refund, but that wasn't the point. And now I have to scramble with less than two weeks to Christmas to finish their Christmas. And this girl just goes to show you that some people are so entitled that they don't understand that life happens and not everyone is in the same situation. So, I just feel like this close to Christmas, I have a right to be upset. I don't know. But I just wanted to let Ashley know if she watches that um people live in small towns. It's very possible to not be able to get to a store. Like I said, I have to travel 30 minutes to get to a grocery store. I have to travel 50 minutes to get to a Walmart. And I have to travel an hour and a half to 2 hours to my closest Target where I ordered this stuff from.
>> In turn, Donut Mom tends to skew her content in this I don't need no man. I can do everything myself sort of attitude. She doesn't like when people call her out for her poor habits and tendencies. So, she ends up seeing this video, she probably won't be a huge fan.
It's also abundantly obvious that whenever someone like her says she's unbothered and is happy and is moisturized and is in her lane, she's actually uh in a less than ideal situation. And we all understand that she's actually lying about how she feels. It's Valentine's Day 2026 and I took myself out to dinner.
If you're single, you don't need a man.
You don't need a man.
Buy yourself flowers.
>> Buy yourself chocolates. Take yourself out to dinner.
Treat yourself. When she's not eating or making videos about preparing food to eat, you'll probably find her on Tik Tok live complaining about her totally difficult life. In particular, she hates when her kids annoy her, especially when they interrupt her stream. In this stream, she had just picked up her kids from school and put them in timeout because they were too rowdy. God forbid a child want to release all their pent up energy after sitting in a classroom for 8 hours. Don't they understand that their mom is trying to get internet brownie points? I get being annoyed by your kids from time to time, but to outwardly say that your day was better when they were gone is just deplorable.
>> I am mentally exhausted, which sucks because I slept like a baby last night.
However, my kids have not listened worth anything all day.
All day since I got them from school. I had an amazing day before I went and got them from school. I got so much done.
So much done. And I was feeling good.
And I was not in pain for once since my surgery. I was not in pain. And then I picked them up from school. They Are you not in your room? Why are you not in your room?
>> I'm just being quiet.
>> No, it doesn't matter. You're in trouble. You're still on restriction.
Please go back to your room. Busy place.
We live in a quiet rural neighbor.
>> Let me grab the vacuum. So I can vacuum off my bed.
>> Thank you. You're a saint.
>> Am I angry because my kid spoke to me?
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
>> A career named Mama Drama was able to do an interview with Donut Mom that exposed the gross state of the home and the accusations that have come out against her. Dona mom is so lazy that her whole home is in complete disarray. But her bathroom might be the worst part of all.
It appears that her kids all share the same bath water and might even reuse the same water for multiple days.
Alexander's excuse is that it takes too long to drain the water. But why would that prevent you from draining it?
Wouldn't you want to drain it immediately so it's empty and ready for the next night? We move on to the toilet that is literally caked and brown and very obviously has never been cleaned, especially the top part of the bowl. It is just absolutely revolting to look at.
She's so lazy that she won't bend over to clean around the base and only appears to clean the public facing sides.
>> Oh wow. So, uh, okay. It's looking kind of swampy, girl. Not going to lie.
When's the last time the water was taken out of there? Uh, this was actually just last night. Um, I just didn't dump it.
>> Okay. Can I ask why you didn't dump it or did it just stressed you out to like dump it?
>> It It drains really slow.
>> Okay.
>> So, I I just uh sometimes don't.
>> Okay.
All right.
>> I clean the toilet pretty frequently.
So, >> do you do you ever clean the side like right there where all that >> This side's harder to get to because it's like very uh narrow.
>> So, I clean that one about once a month, but I clean this side every time I clean the toilet.
>> So, you clean the sides of the toilet once a month? No, >> just this side.
>> Just that one side. Yeah, I can I definitely can tell it's once a month.
Okay. How do you man like how do you deal with all does the rabbit poop smell? Like how do you deal with that while you're sleeping?
>> No. So the um the rabbit poop is just like regurgitated hay. So it's not like regular animal poop. You can look it up.
It's just like dried hay.
>> While getting ready to show off her gross kitchen, Donut Mom's daughter comes in and says that her mom slaps her in the face from time to time.
Pandemonium breaks out as accusations are flying back and forth. Her daughter then retracts what she said and claims it was all just a joke. In my experience dealing with younger relatives is that they typically won't make something up that they either haven't experienced or witnessed in the past. They'll probably lie, but her daughter probably saw either her mom or a friend's mom or a teacher or somebody of the sort do that to some other kid and now she regurgitates it. She even said that she told her teachers that her mom hits her at home. Dona mom is furious that onlookers would believe her daughter's words over her own.
Smack me in my face.
>> Don't even do not come up here and lie about that.
>> That's not even funny.
>> That's a joke.
>> It's not a funny joke.
>> You don't lie about stuff like that.
>> Nah, he he said that as soon as the camera started rolling, man. Kids say the darnest thing. Are you really going to say you slapped him in his face?
>> Yeah, that's my six-year-old. She has a lying thing she's done been doing recently.
>> I mean, what made her say that cuz what she kind of said like like what are you going to do? Smack me in the face like you always do. Is that what she said?
>> I know you lied.
Don't tell people I smack you in the face. That's not even funny.
>> What?
You tell people that at school, too.
>> Now, I'm not experienced with child therapy and would even question why a six-year-old needs therapy, but I'm perplexed by this whole situation. The audience has called CPS on her in the past, and Donut Mom claims her daughter's therapist comes to their house to perform what she calls play therapy, where even Donut Mom is allowed to be present. Maybe I'm ignorant about the entire situation, but doesn't it sound like a caseworker making sure the child is being cared for and is in a safe space? Regardless, the aloof and despondent behavior of doughnut mom is in full effect here.
>> And now literally everybody is probably like has that screen recorded because they didn't see that with my six-year-old.
>> They see that my six-year-old has said multiple lies while I'm on TikTok Live that people screen record. So, someone's going to post that tonight.
>> You You feel like um she just like to put on the show once the camera started rolling. She like, "Oh, let me just put on a show." or she just like to do that.
>> No, she always lies. She She's um one strike away from in school suspension in school for lying to her teachers. I think it's for attention.
She does a lot of stuff for attention.
Like she'll hit her sister just so I I'll get mad at her. Like if I'm busy doing something, like if I'm I'm editing or something like that, she'll hit her sister or push her over just so I get mad because to her any attention is better than no attention. No. No. Um her her therapist uh does play therapy, so it's always like we're always in the same room, but she like has told me that she knows I've told her the stuff about TikTok that goes around like people think I'm abusive. People think that I'm this horrible mom and they've said multiple times that they would have been able to tell if I was abusive by now.
>> Do you understand the repercussions that has on me?
>> No.
>> That is not something to joke about.
I'm not joking this time.
>> You're not joking this time.
>> I hit you.
>> She's not joking.
>> I hit you, right?
>> Right. Cuz you're lying again.
>> The other accusation was that her daughter was forced to sleep in the room with a broken AC and window. Donut mom makes her recant her statement even though the actual live stream is pretty obvious.
>> Um that she didn't have AC.
>> That she didn't have an air condition.
>> Yeah.
Oh, that's for the interview tomorrow.
Actually, people told me about that and she said it on TikTok because that is a very Yeah, that's a big topic.
>> Yeah, she uh I was on live going through products and she came out and she said she wanted to sleep in the living room because her room was too hot and she could sleep in her room, but we have central air conditioning.
>> Okay.
>> WINDOW.
>> YEAH, YOU BROKE YOUR WINDOW.
>> I didn't mean to. sleeping in your living room tonight and you won't let me.
>> When did I say you could sleep in the living room?
>> It's hot in my room.
>> I I'm always hot in my room when I sleep in it.
>> I didn't say you could sleep in the living room.
>> I don't sleep in the living room, but it's not my room.
I'm going to be all night.
I'm on my night in my room.
>> In your room?
>> No, you're not sleeping in my room.
>> I know. You never let me. No, I don't.
>> So, now all these accusations are flowing, including a dispute with her boyfriend who accused her of doing inappropriate things to her kids and then retracted this to the police. All of this is just sort of messy and hard to verify, so I'm not going to delve into it too much. But Dunam is sick of all the claims and says that since she gave birth to her children, then she must love them and therefore could not treat them poorly, which ultimately is just a brain deadad take.
>> That has just really stuck out is the fact that she stated that this man, her boyfriend, accused her of essaying her daughter, took it to authorities, like was like serious, okay, serious allegations.
And later on she says in the interview that you know why would he go this far?
Why would he lie about it? And then it made me believe that he was actually the one doing it. But our daughter, which I believe it's their daughter. If anybody knows if the boyfriend is the father of all these kids, please let me know. But she says, but then they took the daughter to have a kit done basically like to be looked at. and she's like, "So, I guess it wasn't happening on both ends, huh?"
>> Since I initially started to accumulate clips for this video, Donut Mom has gotten banned from her giant Tik Tok account. She's gotten into a bit of a spiral because she just moved into a new apartment and has to beg for some donations since the loss of income. The new landlord is in for a rude awakening when they get to witness the disaster that this apartment will become.
>> I got banned. Let's do a house tour.
This is what you see when you come into my apartment. It is so nice. And this is my washer and dryer. I love the black appliances, dishwasher, cabinet, stove, microwave, fridge, freezer, and then a bathroom.
>> Donut Mom is a tale of what the lowest effort can get you. Never doubt that you couldn't make your life better after seeing how these losers are able to achieve so much with such little enthusiasm. I'm sure she'll keep digging her own grave and the inevitable falloff into obscurity will be catastrophic to witness. Either way, hope you guys enjoyed and until next time, I'll talk to you guys later. Peace.
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