Gen Zs think SEX is overrated

[00:00:00]Do you guys think sex is overrated?

[00:00:03]Nobody will say it's overrated now.

[00:00:05]Would you say it is overrated?

[00:00:07]Do >> you know the orgasm gaps between men and women know that women enjoy sex more?

[00:00:12]>> You want to travel to this place with your girls and you think that you might [ __ ] a [ __ ] >> I don't feel like there are some people that want to kiss a matter you like somebody sex is not going.

[00:00:25]There's nothing.

[00:00:26]>> You get you get you even if you love that person. Come on.

[00:00:30]If you cheat on your partner, will you tell your partner? Why am I cheating?

[00:00:33]Will >> you tell your partner?

[00:00:35]>> Some of the people I've had situationships meet, you know that in some moments where you guys had, you were free even though you guys were not dating.

[00:00:42]>> There's more to the person than just >> so if your partner cheats on you, you forgive your partner.

[00:00:49]>> I'm not saying I forgive the partner now. I'm just saying that it's possible.

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[00:02:07]>> Do you guys think sex is overrated?

[00:02:10]>> Do you guys think sex is overated?

[00:02:12]They're asking over >> just like that.

[00:02:15]>> Just like that. That is where we're going.

[00:02:18]>> I don't I don't think anybody >> like this this escalated so quickly like overrated.

[00:02:24]>> Why? Somebody will say it is overrated now. Would you say it is overrated?

[00:02:30]>> No, youated.

[00:02:32]>> Why? Why?

[00:02:32]>> Why you [ __ ] like what's going on?

[00:02:34]>> Why? Why don't you [ __ ] why you doing something else? Read a book or something.

[00:02:43]>> Come on.

[00:02:45]>> No. No. That's that's I don't think nobody that >> I agree. I feel like it's overrated.

[00:02:52]>> Why? Why? So, so no, not devil's advocate. I'm trying to say something, right? So, when you when you do a lot of it, right, you tend to see that there's really nothing there and it's one-sided cuz like I feel like the females have all the fun and the men have to do all the work.

[00:03:10]You don't see the light be [laughter] you don't see the light.

[00:03:19]>> You don't see the >> Do you know the orgasm gap between men and women but you know that women enjoy sex more?

[00:03:24]>> You have five orgasms in like 2 minutes and men have what?

[00:03:29]>> That's not true.

[00:03:30]>> That's not even true. Like >> coming from somebody that said >> from my studies from what experiences other people have told me from my studies what your personal experiences >> I don't hello [laughter] but that's not true though coming from this I'm coming from right >> the whole the whole sex thing Like in all honesty, I feel like it's overrated because of the fact that people just jump straight into it and straight out of it. Like there's more to being with a person than just >> Wow. Tell us more, >> bro. Then they stop laughing. Honestly speaking, there's more >> there's more.

[00:04:24]But let's let's be honest.

[00:04:26]>> Let's be honest, right? Okay. So regardless of what we we do or might have done, right? I feel like there's more.

[00:04:35]>> Yeah. But there's there's more.

[00:04:37][laughter] >> Stop making me laugh that [laughter] this point.

[00:04:49]>> Wait. at this point. So, what I'm trying to say is that sex right now is becoming like the the poster um what you call I I want to say poster child for relationships, but like you need to do more with your partner. Like there's a lot more that you can do. There's there's there's a whole another world of bonding that can go on outside of sexual intimacy. You feel me?

[00:05:10]>> Yeah. Follow my question.

[00:05:11]>> You get me? Because like people just if I ask you a question now and say, "Okay, when you're with your partner, what do you do?" Like how many people can say okay they actually communicate to their partner when they're alone they talk but many most people once you can also talk now bro many people see their partner to talk now bro you can talk while having sex >> many people the first thing they do is to pop red wine and climb their partner like that's that's it there's a lot more that can happen you like give us examples >> an example like for instance you guys can have like real conversations. You guys can, >> you know. Do you know? Wait, wait.

[00:05:51]Sorry, sorry, sorry.

[00:05:53]We don't stay together. We obviously talk all the time. So, what do you still want to talk about?

[00:05:58]>> I want to talk to you. I want to talk to my partner today.

[00:06:02]>> Okay.

[00:06:04]>> So, the question is if sex is overrated, right?

[00:06:08]>> The physical activity of sex, I don't think it's overrated. Like, it's a peak human feeling. You know what I'm saying?

[00:06:15]But then you're not talking about everything that like leads up to sex and all of that. And like it's possible for us to separate these two conversations and >> in my opinion the >> physical action >> the peak physical action itself everything that leads up to it in one go is overrated because think about it this way. You do like what some people do 45 minutes some people do one hour. You know, you know, some people, some people, some people keep going, right?

[00:06:43]Some people keep going. But >> yes, I have to sit up for this one so that we can be honest and talk well, right?

[00:06:52]>> What do we What do we pull out of the peak?

[00:06:58]Relax. Relax. I'm just trying to What do we pull out of the peak physical, you know, because think about it, the sex itself, it happens. And when it's done, it's done. you get tired, you know, your rinse and repeat. So, if I'm doing the same thing over and over and over again, >> if I'm doing the same thing over and over and over again, does it >> is it is it can always try something else now >> like some point it's over.

[00:07:28]>> You can also try three song now. You can try something else. You can thank [laughter] your questions.

[00:07:39]You guys, situationships now are better than dating proper. Right.

[00:07:50][laughter] [laughter] >> You want me to begin camera [laughter] from your from your experiences?

[00:08:16]What would you say is better?

[00:08:23]Give that boy back [laughter] >> from your experiences. Be honest. Come on.

[00:08:32]>> Speak of your truth. [laughter] Your voice is your power.

[00:08:37]>> Don't kill me.

[00:08:39]>> I won't lie. As of right now, your question, situationships are better than dating.

[00:08:44]>> Kick him out. As of right now your question situationships are better than dating. I'm speaking from my own personal experience. I'm speaking from my own personal experience. So I don't know like dating right now it comes with too many expectations >> and I know that situationships might not be defined >> but like >> yeah I know that situationships might not be defined but you guys I know that some people that watching this some of the people you have had situationships with you know that in some moments what you guys had it was real even though you guys were not dating >> and we just want to put a label on things cuz I don't know it's a social construct for us to label everything.

[00:09:24]>> But human human like human I feel like human connections are more complicated than that and we can have moments that we actually connect even though he's in a situation.

[00:09:35]>> So So I feel like I understand what he's saying cuz like there's a girl that we were in a situationship with. I was I was in relationship with like a couple of months ago. Genuinely speaking that was one of the best things ever. But the moment we try to now we haven't even defined it. We just try to want to define the thing everything starts going south. You know >> you yourself being in an open relationship.

[00:10:05]>> What are open relationship?

[00:10:09]>> Yes I do.

[00:10:11]>> I do see myself being an open relationship.

[00:10:13]>> Why? cuz >> I don't like I would not like to be stepping out on my partner and they wouldn't know about it. So if two of us can agree that we want to step out and not talk about it, I'll be fine with that.

[00:10:28]The relationship as let's say we have done some years and maybe you are looking for something more exciting but it depends on who brings it up. But if like we have done some years and like oh you want to travel to this place with your girls and you think that you might [ __ ] a [ __ ] I just feel like once you step out once it will be a concern.

[00:10:44]>> No, but like the same way we have been having this conversation that we can say we can separate sex the physical activity from the emotions. So sometimes somebody might just want to have good but yeah it might get complicated at some point but that's why it's a open relationship and between you and your partner you guys will have your rules and how you operate. I feel like the way things work here, like I have a mind.

[00:11:08]>> I feel like the way things work here, like as human beings, yeah, we're going to get to a point where we're going to always desire more.

[00:11:14]>> That's what I feel.

[00:11:15]>> But like where the real test of self comes from is actually from the discipline.

[00:11:20]>> So the thing about like open relationships like even all of that is just that like once you start doing something, it will get to the point where it just be messy. Like you can even be married and you don't even know when you start preing the side chick to your actual wife. Like all those kind of situations like things are really not black and white at all. So it's like I mean I don't advise people to do open relationships. I don't I just feel like if you're actually locking in with somebody like try and discipline yourself because like in discipline why you die now and your three other wives are coming to come and meet your >> exactly relationship get really messy.

[00:11:56]It's good. It's just good to have discipline.

[00:11:58]>> The same way that she said everything is not everything is not black and white.

[00:12:02]It means that in an open relationship to everything is not black and white. So, it's possible for it to work.

[00:12:09]>> Yeah. As far as there's if there's nuance on the positive side, there's definitely nuance in the negative.

[00:12:15]>> So, that's messed up. That's that's it. That's it. No, some people can genuinely actually do open relationships. open relationship.

[00:12:25]I mean, >> yeah, there are some people that if they even love you, they will not have sex with you the way they normally would have sex with a normal person.

[00:12:33]>> Yeah. Love >> like their sex not disrespect.

[00:12:38]>> Well, >> it's just like there are some people that madame that's their wife at home.

[00:12:44]Nobody can disrespect their wife. They don't they don't to disrespect their wife. But you see when they want to go to the club, when they want to go to some kind locations, it's not madam they carry now.

[00:12:54]>> Do you get they will carry the one that they know that they will carry their their baby their baby girl because like when they carry their baby girl to that location, what if they want to add plus one or plus two to their after party activity? Do you get like actually some people like that that like they have sexual fantasies that they cannot just do with the person that they actually genuinely like you know there are some people that want to piss in people's mouth about to piss in their wife's mouth like let's let's be real nothing is ever black and white if there's one thing I've learned nothing is ever black and white like you want to piss in someone's mouth >> no I do not >> no I do not I do not piss into anybody's mouth thank you >> you want to piss into someone's mouth No, we're not. We're not We're not We're not doing that.

[00:13:41]>> We're not We're not doing that. Yeah, we're not doing that.

[00:13:49]>> Piss in some mouth.

[00:13:51][laughter] >> Why do people draw the line when it comes to all these sexual fantasies?

[00:13:59]>> Because this doesn't have to make the cut. Okay, let's just talk. [laughter] Let's just talk.

[00:14:06]No, but but but let's be let's be honest.

[00:14:11]>> So I'll ask my question again.

[00:14:16]>> Ask a question.

[00:14:17]>> Where do people draw the line when it comes to this sexual fantasy stuff? Now I'm telling you this thing, right?

[00:14:22]Because I used to talk to a girl. I met her on Bumble, right? So we started talking and just you know talking and talking and somehow somehow it got to the conversation of sexual preferences and kinks and all of those things right >> the kind of things that this girl was telling me to do like you know if you want to please me you have to do this you have to do this and I'm like bro this one say you know so so I'm asking like where where do people [laughter] Thank you very much. Who is Mia? I don't know. Who is Mia? [laughter] >> I put it to you that you know me.

[00:15:06]>> You know me.

[00:15:08]>> You know me. [laughter] >> You know me. You know Miss Mini.

[00:15:14]>> Okay.

[00:15:14]>> Okay. I don't know who is Mini.

[00:15:19]>> What are you talking about?

[00:15:24]If there was a if there was like an objective line for this sex thing, everybody will be compatible with each other sexually. You understand? So it's subjective. You understand? So your own line, you know, peaceful person.

[00:15:42]>> Yeah. I feel like [laughter] >> I feel like when he stops, >> it's BDSM. That's when like object objectively and even in that even in that even in that BDSM like it could still be vanilla >> want to use BDSM now you can use toy and vanilla but talking based off of like what we heard and you know so I just saying like >> BDSM is not just when you step out of vanilla like BDSM is a whole sex sexual genre on its own.

[00:16:17]>> Yeah.

[00:16:20]You can literally brother, daddy, sister, mother pet. Petf, people people have some serious pet pig.

[00:16:35]>> They want to do something with you now.

[00:16:37]>> Yeah, you're going to be a dog for the day.

[00:16:39]>> Kitten ears >> or you're going to have a pig um snout.

[00:16:44]>> Oh, okay.

[00:16:44]>> You guys want to explain yourself?

[00:16:46][laughter] that we've heard now.

[00:16:49]>> Exactly. Like we know these things information. [laughter] Yeah. It's not like we we're aware that people have pet kids like you want you to be a pig for the night or a dog for the night which is which is >> it's not cosplay like you're going to proper be a [ __ ] dog.

[00:17:07][laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:17:12]>> Yeah. No, people have people have >> people like bro information [laughter] this kind [laughter] of this kind of information that if you have this kind of information that you have I'm convinced that you have access to dark web [laughter] you you they go dark web because what how you said that that's the humanized People have people have >> cakes like that. They want to be dehumanized and objectified like properly.

[00:17:50]>> My own [laughter] objectification see objectification objectification can that there's some way that you can still play safe like >> Yeah.

[00:18:07]There's some some some part of it that that that can that can sound but like when when you are trying to when you're trying to see see so sex as sex as an act itself people people like you use dildos people use >> okay it wasn't direct it wasn't directed it was but people people use People use though people use pockets, you know. So [laughter] that's so like but like when when you start to take form of other animals, you start to question like do you are you actually attracted to other animals like pigs, dogs?

[00:19:02]>> Mhm.

[00:19:03]>> Yeah. Are you trying to [ __ ] a pig? You have to question yourself.

[00:19:06]>> It's like Yeah. It's like like because it's like because you can't get a pig to sleep with. You're you're you're trying to >> and Okay. So, yeah. There's one thing [laughter] about there's one thing about fantasies like that. Yeah. There there's usually like a a a point where it gets to that it stops being as interesting as it used to be when you started it. So tell me now that if you start [ __ ] somebody somebody that that's dressing like a pig when it gets to the point that you stop enjoying it like maybe I need to [ __ ] a real pig now cuz somebody dressing like a pig is not doing it for me anymore. You're not oinking well enough. Like I I might as well get [laughter] the >> get the rupees.

[00:19:50]>> Get for us, >> bro.

[00:19:54][laughter] How do you know? How do you know that?

[00:19:59]>> How do I know this?

[00:20:00]>> There's there's this everywhere now.

[00:20:04]>> There's information everywhere now.

[00:20:06]>> You can't see it online. Where do you see >> even digging deep [laughter] like something [ __ ] like this? Why?

[00:20:20][laughter] How do you know?

[00:20:25]>> Let's not talk about kids and all this.

[00:20:29][laughter] >> It's not I want you guys to know that.

[00:20:33]>> I want you guys to know that it's not of of God. Like it's We're all virgins.

[00:20:40]We all >> Yeah, exactly. We are very [laughter] >> Should you date multiple people at once?

[00:21:00]>> That's that's that's personal preference.

[00:21:03]>> Totally. They're not lying to anybody.

[00:21:07]dating.

[00:21:08]>> I think you guys are like not thinking about what she's saying. It's not like dating as per oh both of like I'm in a relationship with this person. It's like I'm going on dates with other people to find out who is the better option. Do you guys like >> Yeah. So you guys are >> I'm getting to know people. Yeah.

[00:21:24]>> You can because you're trying you're trying you're weighing your options.

[00:21:27]>> Yeah. I'm trying to spend my life with somebody. I'm not going to mad >> if we are together.

[00:21:36]>> Uhhuh.

[00:21:37]>> We are doing >> we are doing we are doing talking stage right now. We doing talking stage now.

[00:21:43]You know we are doing talking stage and I tell you you I have a date Friday night 900 p.m. with so and so and so girl.

[00:21:53]>> Go for that.

[00:21:54]>> I can't go. They go B me where to go that date.

[00:21:56]>> Okay. Okay. Maybe I I need to I need to rephrase. Yeah, I think you should cut multiple people at once.

[00:22:03]>> Yeah, cutting is different from dating >> like I mean cutting, right? You guys are going out on multiple dates. For example, you're aware. Okay, you're on.

[00:22:11]You're coming to me today. We have a date. We're trying to get to know each other. We're talking here there, blah, blah, blah. The next day I go another date to another person. That's none of your business. I'm going to another person. You can also cut another person if you want. But like that's that that was how that was how they did it before.

[00:22:29]Like for example, the question is like on a regular day there's no how you're going to land a relationship or you're going to land a marriage without actually weighing your options. The question is flawed. Like yeah, you're allowed to go on date with multiple people. But I feel like if you're going to lock in with one person, you're locking in one person.

[00:22:46]>> Good. But like talking about the pre-locking >> I feel like I feel like when when you're locking in with one person after you've gone on those multiple dates.

[00:22:54]>> That's what I'm saying. The question is a normal thing. It's a normal thing to like your options cut multiple people.

[00:23:00]It's a normal thing before you but if you're locking in if your question is like >> you're dating multip like no. See that's bad.

[00:23:09]>> Wisdom is profitable to direct.

[00:23:16]In the real sense of things, if we're talking about the whole the way marriage is the way it's seen now, the moral standard of marriage is one man, one wife, right? So, if we're doing that, practice it in your dating. Be exclusive to your partner and not do sometimes happen but not do.

[00:23:41]Let me [laughter] >> what I'm trying to say.

[00:23:48]>> No, [laughter] but but what I'm trying to say is that we're all human, right?

[00:23:51]There are times when things things happen that we're not we don't plan for.

[00:23:56]>> But you know cheating >> if you cheat on your partner will you tell your partner yourself?

[00:24:01]>> How like >> if you cheat >> why please like >> if you cheat now >> why am I cheating?

[00:24:07]>> Will you tell your partner? Why am I cheating?

[00:24:10]>> It's not a why. It's not a why. It's not a why matter. It's It's like It's like if you do it.

[00:24:16]>> Do you think it can?

[00:24:19]>> I mean, if I cheat on my partner, >> think it cannot happen.

[00:24:23]>> I can't cheat on my partner. I mean, if I say I don't want to cheat on this person, I'm not going to cheat on this person.

[00:24:27]>> What do you define as cheating?

[00:24:29]>> Wait, wait, wait. Let's get about to get serious. Go down. What do you define as cheating?

[00:24:38]>> What do I as cheating? I mean cheating is very subjective, right? You you guys are going there there's objective there's objective cheating and there's subjective cheating. Yes. Now when you sleep with another person it's like oh everybody knows that yeah there's cheating. I mean you could be talking to another girl like me and you already know that. Yeah. You can't be talking to other people >> like you can't be too overly friendly with other people. your partner might die as cheating or other people might die as cheating. You're not allowed to have like um other other friends like opposite gender friends when you're in a relationship. So your partner your partner your partner might consider that.

[00:25:18]>> Am I correct if I say that >> less than 6 minutes ago you said categorically that we should go on multiple dates.

[00:25:27]>> Oh my god. Do not do that.

[00:25:30]No, are you guys correct?

[00:25:33]>> Yeah, you are. You are correct. So, which mean >> you're going over my point. I was I was explain I was explaining cheating in different terms.

[00:25:39]>> This is if you cheat if you cheat, you tell your partner. You say you know you say why you cheat.

[00:25:47]>> No, you see if I cheat, I'll tell my partner. [laughter] I'll tell my partner. Go.

[00:25:52]Because see, I I'll tell my partner >> and [laughter] very if I cheat I don't see myself cheating but if I do cheat on you I don't give a [ __ ] about you like I I might as well tell you and you decide to forgive me then we move on and we keep going SO IT'S A LIE NO WAIT SIT down sit down sit down >> let me explain where it's coming Sorry.

[00:26:26]Give my Let me explain where it's coming from.

[00:26:29]>> Say something right [laughter] and give a [ __ ] about real quick. Real quick, let me tell you.

[00:26:40]Let me tell you something. Right. So, from let's start from let's start from gender first.

[00:26:53]Generally, so I want to break something down, right?

[00:26:57]>> I've heard that women feel the emotions.

[00:27:01]The mic is on, right?

[00:27:04]>> Okay. So, I've heard that I've heard that women women are, you know, all emotional. They feel things generation.

[00:27:12]If a woman cheats on you that means she don't tigers men can do it you know just for the moment and then >> women are also like that let me tell you let me tell you something let me let me tell you something the reason why the whole gender constructs came into play in the first place is cuz like normally men were allowed to express their sexual desires like openly and women were normally used to hiding it. So women actually do tend to get away with cheating way more than men do. Which is the reason why it's only like it's only when it is like an emotional thing that they usually end up getting caught because the emotional one ends up getting messy. The physical ones you might never even find out like one night stands and stuff like that. So like I just feel like when it comes to cheating like it's not be it's not a gender thing like generally you can cheat and still give a [ __ ] about somebody like >> yeah you might give a [ __ ] >> So like you can't like that's what I'm saying. I can't say like oh if you cheat on somebody then it means you don't care about them like different things can cause cheating like it could be distance like like distance in the relationship can cause cheating like there tiny things that just actually lead to cheating but it does not mean disrespect is is a whole another conversation on its own.

[00:28:26]Yeah, I do feel like it's possible for you to cheat and still give a [ __ ] about somebody. You see it happen multiple times. There's a reason why people forgive each other like when they cheat.

[00:28:36]I'm not even talking about just sexual sexual cheating. Like even if they're talking to somebody else and all of that like I don't know emotions are not black and white. There's no rule book.

[00:28:45]>> So if your partner cheats on you, you forgive your partner.

[00:28:47]>> I'm not saying I forgive the partner.

[00:28:49]I'm just saying that it's possible.

[00:28:51]>> You don't you don't have to direct it back to me. I will not forgive.

[00:28:55]But [laughter] >> I'm just saying like like that's just my like I was just trying to like talk about what you said.

[00:29:04]Yeah. [snorts] But me I not forgive cuz I feel like it's hard to it's hard to move on from. Do you get? But there are people who have reached the stage where they can actually move on from it. And I feel like most people who can even move on from cheating are probably cheated before. So they already understand the whole dynamics and how it works and everything. Do you get Yeah.

[00:29:29]Yeah.

[00:29:31]>> I'll cheat on somebody and give a [ __ ] about >> it happens to the best of us.

[00:29:36]>> Please, please. Why are men Okay. No, it's not a gender thing. But I wanted to ask why are men philanderers?

[00:29:46]>> Why are men philanderers?

[00:29:48]>> Why are men >> like why do you like to move up and down every time? Like you can >> who says who says we move up and down every time >> we have to walk now [laughter] is that women too fine >> that's why you that's why >> that's why me I'm a philander not I'm not I can't speak for that's why me I'm a phil say I move around that I don't move around that much but then like I'll say My reason is that women are just damn too fine. I don't want one. I don't want to. I've ced it at four.

[00:30:29]>> Four.

[00:30:29]>> Yeah. Probably. [laughter] >> So like probably your mark.

[00:30:32]>> So you can't do five.

[00:30:33]>> No, I don't want to do five. Four. After any other by the side.

[00:30:39]>> So the four is the main and then have multiple sides.

[00:30:42]>> Yes. Yes. Yes. In different regions.

[00:30:45][snorts] >> In different regions.

[00:30:47]>> It's crazy.

[00:30:49]different all those islands. I'm looking for all those all those Cuban kind of life >> you guys. Hot take hot take. Love is not enough.

[00:31:13]>> Yes, of course. Yes.

[00:31:21]Love is not enough. It's not possible to love someone for 10 years straight. It's not >> Okay. Wait now. Okay. No. Wait. Wait.

[00:31:27]Wait. No.

[00:31:28]>> It's not possible. No. No. It's not possible.

[00:31:29]>> No. When you say love is not enough.

[00:31:31]>> No. That's that's what that's what it means. It's not possible to love someone for 10 years straight. There are obvious There are some days that you you just the person will just be pissing you off.

[00:31:40]>> NO.

[00:31:45]>> [laughter] >> But like pissing me off, it doesn't mean I don't love the person.

[00:31:50]>> Like even though the person is pissing me off, it doesn't mean I don't love you. Like they told me to >> like I'm serious. So like there there are some things that just keeps the relationship going. There are some days that you you see a lot you see a lot of you fall in love with other people to outside now.

[00:32:13]Yes. Now >> to keep someone like to keep being with someone has to do with a lot. There are a lot of things around it than just love. Love sex too. You can't keep you can't keep a relationship with love for 10 years. It's not possible.

[00:32:31]>> Matter you like somebody the sex is not going. There's nothing.

[00:32:33]>> You get you get you even if you love that person. Come on. You have to be honest like if you love someone and relationship forget it the relationship is not going anywhere that's what I'm saying love can't keep it yes love love cannot be >> when you say love is enough love is not is love enough me I'm thinking about like effort though like the effort that you have to put into the relationship like communication and all the other things not like love itself but they say if you love somebody you can make it work >> you can make it work >> I don't think I don't think love is love.

[00:33:07]>> Why don't you think love? Because I mean, yes, you have feelings for this person, but there are some things life is going to attack you with that your love cannot solve whatever is going on.

[00:33:17]So, love is not enough.

[00:33:20]>> In that in that case, >> this was directed to the women. Why is it that you guys always want to like gauge how freaky a [ __ ] is with what you do to his ass?

[00:33:36]That's what your G-spot is. I'm so sorry if you don't want to >> explo [laughter] the moment that talk about freaky guys like >> the moment that we want to talk about freaky guys like would you let me ped you or would you let me eat your ass like what's the why is that the only way that you want us to be freaky like throw our b [laughter] >> I feel like come from a place of course [laughter] >> I just want to know straight up straight up >> [laughter] >> Can I say something? I mean, you're scared of something you've never tried though. Wait, >> that wait that might be your gear awakening. You don't know. Like >> that's your that's your freaking G-spot.

[00:34:23]Imagine having >> No, actually that's not for anybody.

[00:34:26]>> It's for everybody.

[00:34:27]>> Not for everybody. [clears throat] >> What is touch?

[00:34:33]>> You can look it up. Like look [laughter] it up. That's where your GP is in their G-spot is in your ass.

[00:34:42]>> No, like you find it irritating. But you've not tried it though.

[00:34:45]>> Why do I need a G-spot when I can just come anytime? [laughter] >> That's not I'm not trying it. I'm not trying.

[00:34:54]>> You're not experiencing pleasure.

[00:34:56][laughter] >> Yeah. Like you don't know. See, you think you're you think you're experiencing pleasure now, but imagine how much more pleasure you could experience when >> Imagine [laughter] exit only. Exit only nothing come [laughter] nothing touch the surface.

[00:35:27]Should you tell your partner everything about your sexual past?

[00:35:41]>> Yeah.

[00:35:41]>> Depend on your partner.

[00:35:44]Depend on your partner is your partner is judgmental and you've done some crazy [ __ ] Don't do it.

[00:35:49]>> Yeah. You should tell.

[00:35:50]>> Don't do it.

[00:35:51]>> Don't do what? Don't tell them. If your partner is judgmental and you've done some crazy [ __ ] >> but if you know you're not going to want to try it out in the relationship, then you should. But I feel like it's very the reason why I feel like people should always move with honesty so that like allow the person make an informed decision about you.

[00:36:05]>> Let me tell you something about honest.

[00:36:07]Honesty is good, integrity is good, but wisdom is better >> because trust is like glass.

[00:36:16]>> If you break it, then there's no fixing it. Right? God >> if I tell you something about my past >> for instance now maybe you see those girls that I've done um you know the hooks before now and you see a very decent responsible man who necessarily is not interested in this kind of things who doesn't like it who doesn't want to hear it take for instance you marry pastor now and you do that kind of thing before now you don't change or genuinely you have changed but you did it in the past >> the information that you are giving that man does nothing but harm Mhm.

[00:36:50]>> Right. Let him see you for who you are now as a person and keep moving. Just keep your life there. If anything happens leaks and the information comes out, it should not be a question of who you are versus who you were. And if if he's believ if if you have given enough proof that you are not going back there, you know, it has it now has to weigh the present and before and see which one is going to pass, right? So your past then let it be the past. It's a past for a reason. Hide it. Who you dated, who how many people you slept with, the kind of things that you used to do. Take it that if you're going into a new relationship, you're going into a blank canvas. Start something fresh. You have a chance to make a difference.

[00:37:34]>> You understand for life?

[00:37:38]Round of applause. Round of applause.

[00:37:47]Last question.

[00:37:49]Would you how long Sorry. What do you think about celibacy? How long are you willing to be celibate if your partner wants to be [laughter] >> sorry? What do you think about celibacy?

[00:38:04]How long are you willing to be celibate for your [snorts] sorry celebrate with your partner? like, oh, she doesn't want to have sex for >> why won't she want?

[00:38:15]>> So, I feel like is fine.

[00:38:19]>> Fine.

[00:38:19]>> It's fine.

[00:38:20]>> How long are you willing to >> I've done it before, >> right?

[00:38:24]>> No. No. You know, you know, I told I've told you I've told you a story before.

[00:38:29]Like >> in 2017, >> I decided to do a an entire year >> and just celebrate, right?

[00:38:38]>> Yeah. So, I tried it and mind you, I wasn't good with anyone at the time. So, like it was that was like a cheat code.

[00:38:44]I tried it and it was pretty good, right? I did the entire year. Now, fast forward to 2021. I was in a relationship, but the girl at the time was a virgin, right? And in my in my opinion, I didn't want to see blood. I didn't want to see the, you know, we heard stories like, yo, it's going to be painful. She's going to cry. You going to bleed everywhere like that. I'm not trying to do all that, right? So in my mind I like okay let me keep her the way she is let's maintain it status cool right not touching anybody we did that for almost a year >> right so if you actually have the mental power and the mental capacity to keep yourself sane by all means be celibate you know do what you can >> so if you don't [laughter] >> no need say >> it's just it's just willpower it's kind of like saying that oh they fast, you know, you know, we cook food for maybe morning till evening or for like 3 days.

[00:39:42]See, it's just your is a is a function of your willpower. If you can say something, guys, like >> I don't like that every time we having this conversation, the way it drives is like when it comes to sex, it's only women that have autonomy. Like it's she that decide like she wants to be celibate and you guys are not going to [ __ ] for a while and everything. But like let's think of it. What if a man too decides that he doesn't want to [ __ ] for a while? Like compared to you when a woman decides that like he's more acceptable. But the moment that you even if he's a week, bro, the baby will start thinking like something is wrong with this guy. He sees somebody outside of this relationship or something. But when they want to make those kind of decisions like oh maybe he just wants to [ __ ] like is everything sex. Do you understand? That's the way they start to project it.

[00:40:40]>> It's not it's not just that, right? It's that it happens in a whole lot of cases.

[00:40:44]For instance, like when a woman um I heard someone talking today when we were at our shoot saying that um if she asks any boy for his number, he has to give it up. He he drop the number. Like bro, why can't women understand that they they can be rejected too? Like women don't want to accept the fact that they can be rejected. They feel like they feel like if as long as you're a woman, if you say it's going to happen, like a woman walk up to you and toast you and you just magically say yes >> and walk up to you and tell you, oh, let's go and do in the corner and your run after her like this. But reverse the case is something else. You know that kind of thing. Women can't take the rejection that they dish out. That's what that's got to like take control of your autonomy, man.

[00:41:28]>> Yeah. You got you got to you got to you have to own yourself like take control of your autonomy, you know.

[00:41:35]>> No, let's everybody's the prize.

[00:41:38]>> Mhm.

[00:41:38]>> Yeah. Right.

[00:41:40]>> Are we done now?

[00:41:41]>> Yeah, we're done. Thank you guys so much. Thank you all so much. Thank you all so much for being in my video.

[00:41:48]I mean,