Patriarchy's Greatest Fear? Women Who Speak

Ajouté : 2026-05-13

[00:00:00]Patriarchy was never natural. It was Bill and anything Bill can be undone.

[00:00:15]Patriarchy is unnatural. We know this now. As humans, we are relational beings. And patriarchy depends for its continuation on male violence or the threat of male violence to hold its hierarchy of male privilege and power in place and on female silence to keep its secrets. So when Terry talks about relational aspects, it's not just that relational capacities, emotion, relationships are held in contempt. It's that they threaten the hierarchy. The minute you say some human beings, whether it's on the basis of race or gender or whatever, are superior and others are inferior, you cannot have the superior people have empathy for the inferior people or they won't be able to maintain their superiority. And the so-called inferior people cannot have a voice that people listen to and taken seriously or they will constantly talk about what it's like to be inferior. So that these human capacities which are basic to who we are as human >> are in fundamental tension with this social structure of patriarchy that's relational life therapy is to release human beings from those structures.

[00:01:28]>> Yes it is. There was a beautiful moment we were having coffee and I said to Carol you've spoken about how girls lose their voice and stop telling the truth.

[00:01:36]Well said I we can be more specific. The truth they stop telling is what they see about men.

[00:01:45]I like the fact that al not just women, men also they start questioning certain things and that questioning certain things it leads to go inward and there something very beautiful about that about when you start going in there is a lot of realization And not just about yourself but also about how certain things work, how the system work, why certain things are there. I also like the fact that us females we are not how to say this. It's like that sense when enough is enough. When you just cannot take no more. This system, this patriarchal system, it can only go for so long and to collapse. And let me tell you something, it is collapsing.

[00:02:58]>> What if I told you patriarchy is not natural? What if I told you that nature itself runs on feminine leadership and always has before governments, four religions, mother earth already chose for leads and the evidence is everywhere. We've been conditioned to believe that dominance, aggression, and control are signs of strength. But nature doesn't operate on ego. Nature operates on survival, memory, and wisdom. And when survival matters the most, the feminine leads. Let's start with one of the most intelligent beings on the planet, elephants. See, elephant herds are led by matriarchs, the oldest females. She doesn't lead with force.

[00:03:30]She leads with memory. She remembers where water is during droughts, which paths are safe, which humans are dangerous. If the matriarch dies too early, the entire horror suffers, not because she was the strongest, but because she knew the most. That's divine feminine power. Now look at orcas, the apex predators of the ocean. Orca pods are led by grandmothers. The males stay with the mothers for life. The older females guide hunting, migration, and survival. When the matriarch is alive, the entire pod lives longer. It's not domination. It's not violence. It's wisdom. Now let's talk about the lion.

[00:03:59]See lions are called king of the jungle.

[00:04:02]The truth is the lion is do the hunting.

[00:04:04]They feed the pride. They raise the cubs together. The males come and go. The females maintain the lineage. See power isn't allowed. Power is consistent.

[00:04:11]Let's go smaller. The black widow spider. The female was stronger, larger, and central to reproduction. The male is optional. Same with the praying mantis.

[00:04:19]See, when survival and creation are at stake, nature does not prioritize the male ego. It prioritizes life. So what does this tell us? that matriarchal systems aren't rare. They're ancient and they appear everywhere. That's why memory matters and survival outweighs dominance. The divine feminine was never weak. She was suppressed and now she's remembering. The great awaken is here.

[00:04:39]Time to remember is now.

[00:04:41]>> While the lion is commonly called the king of the jungle. Studies show that lion price are actually matrinal femaleled society.

[00:04:53]In reality through riop patriarchy is relatively rare in the animal kingdom.

[00:05:02]But several species exceeding male dominant hierarchies often driven by brute force, sexual competition and territorial defense. So I guess we can say that the queen of the jungle is the lioness. The world was shaped into a masculine project very consciously. Knowledge was redefined as masculine. Economy was redefined in terms of that which can be traded and commercially profited from is economy.

[00:05:36]And women who are the biggest workforce on the planet, the biggest productive force on the planet, the biggest contributors to care on the planet, their work was suddenly not work. Women don't work. Man himself has become the biggest force on the planet. But under this capitalist patriarchal mode, he's become a destructive force. Women want to be a force, but a creative force, a peaceful force, a nonviolent force. And what they bring is other ways of knowing that we're subjugated, ecological, holistic, relational, and their kind of knowledge is now being totally validated by the best of science. The economy is maintaining life on Earth.

[00:06:14]>> Time is time is time. Is time. So, the patriarchy is like a man having his boot on a woman's neck. Feminism is women asking that the boot be removed. Men's rights activists think that having to take their boot off a woman's neck is some sort of reverse oppression.

[00:06:33]Conservatives figure that there was never a problem with the boot being on the neck until the woman started complaining about it and if everybody would just shut the [ __ ] up, things would be fine.

[00:06:43]Good guys take any complaint about the boot as a personal attack because not all men wear boots. Male allies try to discuss the issue in a way without alienating the boot. Women with internalized misogyny don't know why these other women are complaining about the boot on their neck. They love having the boot on their neck and there's something wrong with the women who complain. Meanwhile, the boot stays on the [ __ ] neck.

[00:07:11]There's a word for Caroline Levven and Erica Kirk's grift and it's called patriarchal bargaining. And it refers to the strategic choices women make to gain individual power and patriarchal systems even when those choices ultimately undermine women as a whole. And as we descend further into this hierarchal authoritarian patriarchal culture in America, of course, we're going to see a rise in patriarchal bargaining on the political stage. We see it in people like Caroline Levit or Erica Kirk. women who align themselves with power by becoming the mouthpieces who validate the patriarchal ideology of their male counterparts. They reinforce these patriarchal structures even though not necessarily participating in them themselves, but they reinforce male authority and attack feminist frameworks because doing so gains them individual access to power. And then we see kind of like trickle down patriarchal bargaining. You start seeing it in the trends and aesthetics dominating culture. the tradife aesthetic, divine femininity coaching, stepping into your feminine energy, this renewed obsession with traditional gender roles. Most recently, it's the flood of videos on our feeds about marrying a provider, or he might not know what's under the Christmas tree, but he paid for it all, or something to that effect. Then, of course, it's the women observing who then subscribed to this ideology.

[00:08:17]Something you might hear this called more often is choice feminism, which is basically just a reframing of patriarchal bargaining or even maybe an excuse for patriarchal bargaining. Voice feminism says if a woman chooses it, it's feminist. We should just support whatever it is a woman chooses to do.

[00:08:31]But patriarchal bargaining reminds us these choices are being made within a patriarchal structure where women often gain individual advantages by reinforcing a system that harms women collectively. And look, most of us do this to some degree. We live in a patriarchal system. We all make choices inside of it. But we just have to be clear about what it is we're actually bargaining with. Patriarchy is the system that makes men think that they should have power and be in control over women. But capitalism is the system that makes men degrade and hate women.

[00:08:58]Patriarchy and capitalism create a conditional contract for women's value, beauty, chastity, domestic utility, right? And a conditional contract for men's power, wealth, provision, control.

[00:09:10]And men are born outside of the system of full privilege to class, race, or otherness. I.e. anyone who's not the top 10% who wasn't born into wealth. It will cause resentment. For one, because they are denied the full benefits of patriarchy and capitalism. For two, they are forced to operate by its rules to access even scraps of status, including women who are designated as status objects within the pact. Instead of hating the system, they hate that the systems promised rewards are withheld from them while its burdens remain.

[00:09:47]Instead of directing their fury at the architectures of the design, it's directed at the most visible prize within it. Women. This is the mind of the incel, the high value male grifter, the abusive partner. Despise women for being shallow or for wanting the provider script, being gatekeepers of sex and relationship while feverishly upholding the very systems that create those dynamics. They resent that the primary tokens, i.e. Women are not inherent objects, but semiautonomous beings who can sometimes opt out or negotiate or exploit the very rules men made. They feel like this is cheating.

[00:10:30]So they see women as a privileged class who can profit from their beauty, desiraability without the same brutal labor that they have to put in day in and day out. So they wish for women to be subordinate creatures that must submit, nurture, and obey. But the actual reality is is that women are participating in a rigged game where we are the prize, the competitor with tied hands and the scapegoat for everything that's wrong with the system. We have to work the labor market and perform gendered submission and be the symbolic trophy all while being blamed for the privilege of being the trophy. Men desire the hierarchy of pay patriarchy but they resent the terms. This has catastrophic effects on the male psyche and their ability to create healthy relationships with women. Telling men that their value is conditioned on their ability to provide capitalistic labor, that the objects of their desire, women have inherent value, creates a pathology in men that makes men hate and want to harm women, especially within a system where capitalism is failing and it's harder to obtain status and wealth. And we are seeing the effects of a failing economy and what that is doing to men.

[00:11:46]Now >> you guys know what is happening.

[00:11:50]We are meant to work together as a team but it's like the whole game was rigged to be upside down to pick each other to fight each other women's and men's.

[00:12:10]while few are pulling the strings to their convenient.

[00:12:17]>> We grow men inside of our bodies. We create them. We birth them. We risk our lives doing so. We nurture the men. We support the men. We raise the men. All for us to submit to the men. All for them to uphold the patriarchy. All for them to say stuff like this.

[00:12:36]And I seen something that said, "If women birth men, why do why do they have to turn around and submit to them?" And I can't and I'm not going to let it go.

[00:12:46]That rings that rings a serious bell for me. I feel like everything is backwards.

[00:12:50]It has to be. Patriarchy is very good at one thing, creating problems and then convincing everyone it's the only system that can solve them. Let me show you what I mean. Have you guys heard of Bacha Bazi? In parts of Afghanistan, they dress young boys in women's clothes and have them dance for adult men because women aren't allowed to dance.

[00:13:08]So instead of letting women exist freely, they create a whole system where boys have to replace them. That's what repression does. It twists society into something twisted. And the wild part is they still say it's about morality when in reality it's about control.

[00:13:24]Patriarchy does this a lot. It creates problems and then claims authority by solving them. Another example, declare women's bodies as dangerous temptations and suddenly men don't have to learn self-control. Women just have to disappear. And this isn't just happening in Afghanistan. It's the same logic you see everywhere. Afghanistan just shows what it looks like when that logic goes all the way. Don't go out at night.

[00:13:47]Don't dress like that. Don't walk alone.

[00:13:49]Notice who never has to change their behavior. It's easier to control half the population than ask the other half to grow up. Another example, tell boys emotions are weakness, that vulnerability is unmanly, and then act shocked when there's a male loneliness epidemic. So instead of helping men develop emotional intelligence, red pill influencers convince them to blame women for ways a patriarchal culture failed them. Another example, treat birth like a medical emergency, and institutions take control of women's bodies during labor. And millions of women talk about this after giving birth. inductions they didn't want, procedures they didn't agree to, being ignored when they said something was wrong. So, the person who's actually giving birth often has the least power in the room. Some researchers even call it obstetric violence. Another example, deny women education and leadership for centuries and then claim women aren't suited for power. A problem created by the system used as proof the system should continue. So, the same structure keeps repeating. Create the fear, create the problem, then claim authority by solving it and call the whole thing morality.

[00:14:56]But underneath all of this is the very old idea that power means domination.

[00:15:02]Domination over women, over nature, over land, over animals. But humans didn't evolve dominating nature. We evolved inside it. And when a culture stops seeing itself as part of life, it starts trying to control it instead. and that includes women. So maybe the real solution isn't more control. Maybe it's remembering we were never supposed to be rulers of life in the first place. We were supposed to belong to it.

[00:15:29]>> The system only works if you stay silent.

[00:15:33]So the moment you speak, it starts to break.