Nobody Talks About Mothers Who Treat Sons Like Partners

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[00:00:00]If you haven't seen this clip with Ace Hood and his mom, I encourage you to go to the Love and Hip Hop channel and watch it. As a therapist, this is something that I see a lot when I do couples counseling between a man and a woman. Um, it's very alarming because I'm seeing it more and more. The dynamics are not husband and wife or girlfriend and boyfriend. The dynamics are now mother and son. And so when I do couples counseling, what I'm having to do now is I have to get the uh male partner to break up with his mother subconsciously. And it even affects the sexuality and the sexual activity within the relationship. What do I mean by that? the sexual uh relations are affected because he's not attracted to his partner when it's time for her to just want to be a woman and for her to be fragile. He doesn't know how to do that. However, um he is sexually aroused and attracted when she takes on the role of a mother in the house. Um, and I do understand men want a a woman that can take care of their children and, you know, that can keep the house together and things like that. I'm getting all of that. There is a healthy balance to that. However, subconsciously, um, what I do have to do in the sessions is I have to get him to break uh sexually, subconsciously from his mother. But I am starting to see um an an alarming amount of the couples nowadays. It's not husband and wife and girlfriend and boyfriend.

[00:01:38]It is actually uh mother son.

[00:01:42]>> To be offensive here, but why are so many like single mom like sons like if you like start talking to a a dude and he has a single mom, why are they in like some sort of like pseudo relationship? like 90% of the time. Like it genuinely feels like the son is dating their mom. Why is this a thing?

[00:02:03]Obviously, I don't want to get in between somebody's relationship or judge someone's relationship, but this just has been a pattern constantly in my life. Like, if I ever talk to a dude that doesn't have his daddy in his life, he's like in a weird relationship with his mom. Can someone please explain it to me? I know it could be like some Sigman Freud but this is like getting out of hand. Like people are not independent anymore at all. Like men are not independent. They're always like always uh like depending on someone else and it's usually n out of 10 times their mom. And it's in a weird way.

[00:02:39]>> I want to Some moms just want to be in a relationship with their son. You're not the problem, sis. You never were. The problem already existed before you even arrived.

[00:02:49]>> I know, girl. It sounds sick because it is sick, but emotional incest is real.

[00:02:53]I've seen this in like many situations and I've even experienced it myself where it's like it's like do you want your side? You know what I mean? Like it's just like you're weird. And I have like one instance where like I peeped like oh this person would go out their way to like ruin their son's relationship. And it was after I gave birth to my daughter. her father was on on the phone with his mom and his mom took it upon herself after I was in for 50 hours 50 hours of labor, right? And then gave birth.

[00:03:29]She thought it was really okay to bring up one of his past relationships with his past partners.

[00:03:37]in that moment. In that moment and that's when I was like, "Oh, like do you one of those like you you will go measures to try to ruin your son's relationship.

[00:03:47]It's not going to work. You have your own issues that you just haven't dealt with." Made a video once talking about emotional incest between moms and their sons. One thing I found interesting was a lot of men were saying, "Oh, who do you think you are?" And I was like, "Cool, no problem." Even though I know exactly who I'm talking about. It's actually a proven term, but okay. But it was so interesting. Blueface posted the other day something about how his mom's basically starting his business and he basically wrote in the tweet, "You'll never be able to sleep with me." He used other words, but what I found interesting was that a lot of men that are in this type of relationship with their mom, no, they know. They know this is an uncomfortable thing. I think that's also why I was attacked so much in my last post because I didn't understand all the the venomous messages I was getting. People were telling me to kill myself in the DMs. It wasn't that deep, right? But it's because a part of them know that they're in that relationship with them. They know it's wrong. They know it feels wrong. But at the end of the day, it is a form of abuse and trauma. So, I understand. But it's like you need to recognize that early if you're going to be dating a man that needs to be if you clock that because your life is going to be made hell. Dating a man whose mom's in love with him is going to ruin your life, your relationship, your marriage. Like, especially if the guy is like, "No, it's just my mom. It's just like how light she is." Cuz like she's my number one woman.

[00:05:02]>> Hello. Hello. Hi everyone. So, thanks for joining me for another video. If you're new here, welcome. Uh my name is IP GGG. So, here on this channel, we talk about several different interesting topics. A lot of them are or can be seen to be controversial, but we tackle them anyway. mothers that wish they could date their sons and or behave as though they are dating their sons.

[00:05:33]And I felt like this was a good topic for us to tackle because I've seen a few content on this, but not too many. And also, I've experienced this myself.

[00:05:46]Like, I've seen it myself. And it is very interesting when uh mothers don't seem to go through the um growing up process in a healthy way and they end up emotionally attaching to the child to their sons. This is in particular with sons. You see this in over 95% of cases it's going to be with the sons. So, it's an incestuous emotional attachment that the mother, typically a single mother, will develop with the son. So, as the son grows, when they turn 18, they are an adult. Sorry, I'm like in the parking lot, y'all, trying to like get this recording done so I can go back inside.

[00:06:42]It's so hot in the car, too. Hello. So when the son grows up, they are an adult officially. They've turned 18. They're on their way to 19. You see a lot of these mothers really really struggle with this transition period. There was he was 18 about to soon to be 19. Um, but this particular mother like it was just interesting because he didn't have his own phone, he didn't have his own vehicle, nothing was in his name. And she was retaining control of everything.

[00:07:24]So, he didn't have anything in his name.

[00:07:27]Didn't know how to do anything. Didn't know how to manage finances. Didn't even have a clue as to where to start with managing finances. And so what ends up happening when it comes to these cases is the sons end up growing up not really able to function as adults because during the time when they were supposed to be learning to be adults and actually doing these things themselves. The mothers were doing everything for them.

[00:08:00]And that can carry on to the 20s, 30s.

[00:08:05]So now today, in today's day and age, everyone keeps yelling about a male loneliness epidemic crisis or whatever. I don't even think that's a real thing. I think that this is just nature at work, right? Because if you don't have males that have the required or necessary skill set in order to procreate, then you will have a lot of women that are not wanting to procreate with said males. So this is just nature at work.

[00:08:38]You end up with males like where we are today, right? With a lot of males, especially young males that have porn addictions, they don't know the first thing about managing their own finances.

[00:08:55]And the mother is literally sucking the energy out of these males because they are so desperate. And it's usually single mothers, right? They don't have someone anyone else there. They don't have like a male there or anyone else.

[00:09:12]So they are codependent on that child which then restricts that child from being able to grow up in a responsible way in the way that they're actually supposed to grow up. So although I understand like like in my case for example the concern is there's an age gap or whatever the case may be still at the end of the day there is a very very stern boundary that's bridged like that these mothers don't seem to want to accept is there once the child is an adult and is kind of like becoming older and older right? Where you cannot control who your son decides to date and you shouldn't be getting involved in your son's dating life. It's just weird.

[00:10:07]It's inappropriate. There's a lack of healthy boundaries there. It's one thing to have an opinion and share that with your son or not really approve um because of your opinions and share that not not really be 100% on board.

[00:10:23]But that's really the limitation because at the end of the day, you can't control who he chooses to be with. So, you'll find that a lot of these males ends up single or by themselves in their 20s, 30s, 40s. Um, or they end up in very weird situations or divorced because any woman that comes into play is there's going to be an issue when the mother is so emotionally infused with the son.

[00:11:01]Okay. So I think it's a topic that's not talked about enough, but I think it's something that has ruined a large percent of percentage of males. So it translates and it keeps going. The side effects keep going, right? So, you hear a lot of women complain about males that don't help with the cleaning, males that that can't help with the cooking, that just it's not that they're necessarily trying to be bad people, but they just don't even think to help. They It's not even like a thought in their mind. So you end up with a lot of like males that are out here looking for mothers because they have a traumatic bond with their own mother. Okay. So I just thought this is an interesting topic. Maybe the next video I'll do I I wouldn't even say it.

[00:11:58]I just thought about that topic as I was talking about this. It's another controversial topic y'all. And y'all will probably be you might be surprised.

[00:12:07]You might not be surprised as to my viewpoint on this next video because I tend to have a viewpoint that a lot of times is the complete opposite from the mass majority of people. So, I think some pretty differently from most people. I don't know why. This is just how I am. So, we'll see. But I'm excited. I'm going to have to write down that idea cuz I just it just came to my mind. But anyway, so you end up with a lot of males that are not able to assimilate into society, you know, because they have helicopter moms, they have emotionally incestuous moms. So it's it's a form of emotional incest, okay? So you know, when the child turns 18, they still don't have a bank account, their own bank account. Okay? or their bank account in the case that I experienced is still attached to that of the mothers. Okay. Um they don't even have their own phone. They don't have, you know, none of these things. Well on their way to 19, like of just 2 3 months away from 19 and still they don't have anything any of these things. No experience with how to manage money. So it just really really ends up being very very detrimental to the male. And so I thought it was really interesting because it's the women that are doing this especially the single women especially if they have failed relationships like failed marriage um or any type of failed past romantic relationship. It's almost like they expect the sun to be a substitute for that and anything they weren't able to get from the romantic the failed romantic relationships that they had they now look to the sun to give them that. So it's a weird kind of like incestuous emotionally incestuous dynamic. Okay.

[00:14:15]And the mothers a lot of times will justify this and try to hide this by saying, "Well, I'm a mother. I'm a mother. That's my son." But you know, your son has to live amongst society.

[00:14:29]And if you're sitting here having emotionally incestrous relationships with your son, so he's not able to develop appropriately, you know, and then trying to justify that, it doesn't make any sense. So the mothers don't understand that as they grow and when they become adults, there is a boundary. Okay, there's a boundary.

[00:14:55]Do they want to walk around that there's ne like there's never going to be a boundary? There is a boundary. Okay. And that boundary, there's a harsh boundary there between a mother and son relationship and a romantic relationship. And the mothers often try to fit into that romantic relationship. They try to have more or any say so in the romantic relationship, which they they shouldn't have any say so in. And um so it just kind of ends up developing not in a not in a good way at all for the male. They end up the male eventually ends up depressed. Eventually they have a higher likelihood of being into porn like all of these negative things and not able to really live their lives and it does end up being a product of the mother's dysfunction. Right?

[00:15:49]Also, these same mothers tend to be the ones that can never get along with the woman that the son has chosen. So you'll find that these are the mothers that tend to be um very very difficult and they tend to expect that the woman that the son has chosen should worship her as well and should basically do what she wants her to do. and there's no respect there again due to the lack of boundaries, right? So you'll find a lot of families that are a lot more dysfunctional because the mother keeps trying to cross over into the son's romantic life and romantic relationship and making that emotional incestuous situation even worse. Leave it in the comments below. Let me know what your thoughts are. Have you experienced this?

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