"Black Culture Thinks I'm Whitewashed," Woman Says Most of Her Friends Are White, Not Invited To BBQ

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[00:00:00]I'm whitewashed and I'm happy.

[00:00:04]I've talked about like being black a couple of times on my account, but I don't really talk about it much for a few reasons. Number one, whenever people start to follow me because of those videos, I don't want them to assume that's like my only personality trait because it's not. I saw this on Tik Tok where she was hanging out cuz I guess like fight people and then people were like, "Oh, like free her." Like she's so like d like she looked fine, she looked good. She looked healthy, happy, living your life. And I was like people just clearly don't understand. Like I guess it's not like my problem to fight. when I act like the tricks have called me.

[00:00:29]Like I feel like you understand what it's like to be like a black servant girl. I kind of just want to talk about it. So whatever you're going to listen to me or not, I don't know. Something I got really often in high school was that I was whitewashed. I used to get told I was whitewashed literally every single day. Every single day. And when I got to college, I didn't really get told it as much. But a lot of times people would like make digs at me. some things that people would say certain parties that were like black parties and I just like never really went to them. I'm sorry.

[00:00:58]Sue me. Let me explain why. Okay. I went to a few. You had to either pay money and buy a ticket, guys. I was a little broky. Like I got money from my parents and that was it. And I like already went out enough as it is. I didn't have money to be spending on tickets every single time I wanted to go out. They were also far. I would like a lot of times people saw me, they'd be like, "Oh, certain name of the party." And then someone would be like, "Oh, like we know she's not going. Like she never goes or like something else I would get, especially with dealing with guys. I hate talking about guys on my page." Black guys typically just were not attracted to me.

[00:01:30]I don't know. Maybe I'm just chopped.

[00:01:32]Maybe I'm ugly. I'm not either. But I don't know. Something about it just never worked out in that way in my favor. Like at places that were going out places, they never came up to me.

[00:01:42]Something that was common is white guys would approach me. And so when I would talk about my like guy situation, a lot of times people would be like, "Well, it's cuz you only like white guys." Or, "Oh, it's cuz you only talk to white guys." D like this is your fault. Oh, like this is cuz you don't go where you want or like find who wants you go to who >> I think that the the whitewashed narrative is is kind of corny. You know what I'm saying? because they try to associate it with white culture, but really what they're saying is that you're not black enough. And what I'm hearing her say is basically that black women are not a monolith and black people are not a monolith and you go where you appreciate it and celebrate it instead of where you tolerate it. And so you don't have to ingratiate yourself over to any particular culture. The only requirement that you have in this freedomfilled land where we can do what we want to do where as long as you're not hurting anybody, as long as you're not breaking any laws, and as long as you're not trying to intentionally inflict harm or pain on anybody, is the freedom to do what you want to do when you want to do it. And so if her experience is she has a preference, then why is that anybody else's problem? And I think that the problem in black culture, and it happens in white culture also, in that, you know, white people get upset when they see white women in particular trying to or entertaining black culture or or ingratiating themselves or integrating themselves into black culture or talking to black men. White men a lot of times get bothered by that and they speak to that specifically even if it's not anything that's stereotypical, right? meaning that of course we know all of the jokes with the baby daddy culture and all of that stuff, but the fact of the matter is is that nobody is a monolith. And so the thing about black people that I think is interesting, not even black people, black culture. The thing about black culture that I find is interesting is they want diversity, equity, and inclusion as long as it looks like them.

[00:03:49]They don't want to to to adjust to the environment or they don't want to accept anybody that talks differently than them, that looks differently than them, that believes differently than them, or even have a different political view than them. They want you to look like this and then they just want to infiltrate into other aspects of things that they're not used to and then make it whatever it is that they want it to be. Right? And I don't understand that.

[00:04:16]I don't understand how you can say that you're for differences or you want people that look like you in other spaces, trying to project that you are not racist or really trying to push on other people that they may be racist when in reality you just want it all to be a certain type of way and you want people to fit into your narrative and into this little box that you have. So her saying, "Yo, I'm whitewashed." is really I'm I'm trying to take it figuratively, but in my opinion, it's kind of sad because it shows you how many more barriers that need to be broken down from people that are still upholding and perpetuating this whole racebased conversation. Like speaking properly and and speaking proper English should not be white. That should be you being able to communicate effectively.

[00:05:08]You know what I'm saying? like to be ghetto should be ghetto regardless of whether you white or you black. There's more white people and it's partly because they are the majority of the population. But there's more white people on government assistance and food stamps. I just did a review video just a little while ago. There's more white people on government assistance and food stamps than any other anybody else inside the United States of America. And we hold them accountable also. So I don't understand why people are still still trying to prop up. And really the whole race conversation in America is because people won't let it go. They won't let it go. They won't accept the fact that different people with different hues have different preferences were raised in different environments. And they may be different from you. And that don't mean that they're better or they're worse or their races are not, but you automatically say that they are because they are not like you and what you think make the most sense in the culture. And it's sad because she'll have to suffer from this.

[00:06:06]Um, she'll be fine. I mean, she seems to be fine. She'll have to suffer from, you know, all of these stereotypes and having to overcome the barriers and the boundaries of existing in a society that's all race based. It's silly.

[00:06:20]>> Once you like guys, like I think people are assuming that I'm sitting here begging for white guys. Like, I'm not begging for any guy. I also get talked to a lot about my friend situation. I choose friends based on character. And so it just happens to be the fact that like I do have a good bit of white friends. My closest friends are m like I have a mixed set of close friends. There was a time where I only had white friends because I went to a school where I was the only black girl. The only black girl. It was a private school. I mean I didn't really love the education there so I transferred out of it. But got a lot of good experiences. I learned a lot from it. I became a better speaker because of it. Like I was better at speaking up for myself. I just became more aware of so many different things and I learned so much um that I personally take that exp I personally excuse me take that experience as like a good one. People are so quick to judge people for being in a situation or for why they want to be in a certain situation. I have to go to work soon so let me hurry. someone is in an environment, are they supposed to like limit themselves and not have fun and not be young, be free, whatever, just because they can't do it with their own race? Like, yes, I have had some negative experiences dealing with racism in the South. That doesn't mean that I should like stop living. And to have to worry about whether or not you're being whitewashed is definitely like the least of my worries. It should be the least of everyone else's. And so for people to sit here and try and tell me that I'm not wrong, like that I don't like being black because my hair is straight and because how I dress, like someone literally had the nerve to tell me, "Oh, you're going to love yourself some at some point." To conclude my point, there really is no way for someone to act black because I don't think black people act in one way particularly. I want to stress the point that I don't believe I'm whitewashed. When I said I'm like proud to be that, I was making the point. I am proud of who I am. I am proud of who I've become.

[00:08:13]>> I figured that. That's why I said that >> by trying to put black girls into a box, it can lead to them not loving every piece of themselves. My main point is, you know, it's already hard enough to exist as a girl in this world and then on top of that exist as a black girl has to be worried about whether or not people think she's whitewashed or ghetto. Like there's no real like there's a very small like period where you have the opportunity to like win with that. And I've just never won with that. Like I don't think I'm ever going to win with that. And so I don't try to.

[00:08:47]And so I guess my biggest thing to any black girl watching this is just like my goodness, what am I becoming? E I feel cringe. Just be yourself. And whether that means you're like quirky and weird. Quirky, weird, you know, like whatever else. I don't know. Bye.

[00:09:07]>> I think that she's cool. I think that she actually has a pretty interesting personality.

[00:09:12]um I don't see any problem with her at all. And if she decides that or the people that you know pour the most into her and she pours the most into and her environment has created a space that doesn't require for her to have to fit into the culture or go to the barbecue and all of this other stuff, then that's cool. I don't see no problem with it. It doesn't hurt you. It doesn't hurt me. I don't know why people push their insecurities on other people because they aren't like you or they're not a prototype or NPC character of what you think that they are supposed to be or what you think they're supposed to look like. I don't see it. It doesn't make any sense to me. But that's just me. I think that she's cool. Um, and if you probably got to know her, you might even think that she's cool to hang out with, but very few people are willing to do that. Let me know what y'all think inside of the comments. Make sure y'all tap into the Patreon link is in the description. T Henley 40% off your first order, 20% off a life. I love you. I appreciate you. I'm going holl at you guys later. Peace.