The Friends We Make In Adulthood | Your Friend From Sacramento

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[00:00:48][music] >> Hello everybody. Thank you so much for joining us today. Uh I am Meline. You're listening or watching your friend from INC uh from Sacramento. We are INC radio Sacramento. Uh we are the podcast. We're here every week to share stories, um, insights, and fun conversations about building healthy friendships. So, go ahead and like and share this episode, okay? Share it so that more positivity can reach more people. Let's do it. Um, also, if you like to join in our live conversation and chat with us in the YouTube box, you [clears throat] are welcome to do so. You can sign in, subscribe, and message us, and we can read your comments live. Um, all righty.

[00:01:36]So, I'm really excited because today we have a really amazing topic. Um, it's it's going to hit home for a lot of us, I think, uh, across all ages and all over the world, especially now because with years of the pandemic and social distancing, remote work even and being far away from loved ones a lot of times, um, sometimes we get lonely and it gets really difficult. Um, there are lots of ways for the youth to get back out there and be social a little more now that school has come back and now it's summer break and everyone's together. Um, and and and they're gaining they're out there gaining work experiences. Um, and even sometimes social media can bring friends together. Um, but what about us adults? As adults, we make friends.

[00:02:22]Okay. and the way we make friends and the dedication for friendships changes drastically uh from when we were youngsters. Um it is still a challenge.

[00:02:33]Yes. Is it a challenge for you? Have you figured out a way to make friends as an adult? Uh and how are the friendships you made as adults going? So, we're going to talk about all these things.

[00:02:45]Okay. Um in the YouTube chat, you're welcome to um um be chatting away. I'm going to actually introduce the um people who are with me today. They're very familiar faces and they're very familiar to INC Radio Sacramento. Uh we have Ria and JJ. Hi.

[00:03:02]>> Hi. [laughter] >> So, we're gonna go into um Qutech if we can get into our grid view, please. Um we're going to um talk a little bit about these things with Ria and JJ. Um everyone say hi to Ria. Hi, Ria. Ria, go ahead and introduce yourself and something about you.

[00:03:23]>> Hi, my name is Ria. I'm usually behind the scenes, so this is my first time actually in front of the camera, so yay that. Um, I'm also Sacramento, but I grew up in the Bay Area, so I'm a transplant from the Bay.

[00:03:34]>> Shout out Bay Area. And hi.

[00:03:38]All right. Thank you, Ria. Thank you for joining us and coming out from behind the camera and speaking with us today.

[00:03:42]It's so nice to have to be able to chat with you. Um, we also have JJ, another very familiar face. JJ, do you you can say hi. Maybe we got some new listeners and and um watchers today.

[00:03:54]>> Yeah, I'd love to. Hi everyone. It's me JJ. You know me hopefully by now. Uh something about myself. Well, I'm from Fairfield. I grew up there. But here's a fun fact.

[00:04:07]>> I was in the congregation of Lancaster in SoCal.

[00:04:13]>> I think they're they're LAC, right? LAC Los Angeles County for like two years.

[00:04:19]>> Nice.

[00:04:20]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:04:21]>> So, shout out to SoCal and like >> LA. [laughter] >> Shout out to LAC.

[00:04:29]>> All righty. So, I want to jump in and ask because this is a really really fun topic. Um because I think well all of us are adults. So, I am in the and I'm happy to you know comfortable sharing.

[00:04:42]I'm in the 35 to 40 age range. That's my age range. Are you both comfortable sharing your fiveyear age ranges with our audience?

[00:04:51]>> Yeah.

[00:04:52]>> Yeah. [laughter] >> You don't have to.

[00:04:56]>> Go ahead, you guys. Yeah.

[00:05:00]>> I'm the same age range as uh Maline.

[00:05:02]>> Okay. So, 35 to 40.

[00:05:04]>> Yeah, >> I am a little outside of that, but not by much. So, um I guess 35 to 45 I think.

[00:05:16]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:05:18]>> And so all of us Why'd you say wow, JJ?

[00:05:21]>> I would have never guessed. I like known R for so long, but I'm just like what?

[00:05:26]Really? [laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:05:29]>> Um yeah, >> you just blew my mind.

[00:05:32]>> Okay.

[00:05:33]>> Yeah. Yeah. That's supposed to be a compliment, by the way.

[00:05:36]>> It's a compliment. [laughter] Yeah.

[00:05:40]Okay. Um, I want to say a joke, but I don't know if I'm allowed to say it.

[00:05:45]>> Raisins.

[00:05:47][laughter] >> We're gonna move on. We're gonna move on. Let's before we get our first question, let's go to the chats. Maybe someone got my raisin remark. Who knows?

[00:05:57]Um, because I like I like snacks. That's why. Um, snacks for another topic. Um JJ, are there anyone uh who is greeting us, greeting each other, wishing us warm greetings, anything?

[00:06:10]>> Yeah. So, uh we got our top top one too.

[00:06:14]It's from Elanita Konowski. Hashtag NCall Sacramento. Uh happy Saturday viewing from Sacramento. Happy 112th church anniversary.

[00:06:24]>> Yay.

[00:06:25]>> Yay. Thank you. And then uh Kabali Santos, hello everyone all over the world. Welcome once again to Sacramento INC radio and a happy 112. We are one.

[00:06:37]And then oh Ria uh chimed in too. Good morning everyone. Can't wait. You should be reading this because you actually said it but I'll read it for you [laughter] >> to see it.

[00:06:46]>> Can't wait to see you in a little bit.

[00:06:48]We have a great topic today and excited for your comments.

[00:06:51]>> A >> yeah. And then she's also saying hi to Ka Allen. Thank you for always tuning in.

[00:06:57]>> Hi po Allen. Hi poi.

[00:06:59]>> Yeah. Hi.

[00:07:01]>> Hi Elanita. [laughter] >> Pa's here too. Hashnclairfield. Happy weekend everyone.

[00:07:09]>> Hello.

[00:07:11]>> Uh and um we got someone from NCL Elgrove from SFMJB 2728. Good morning.

[00:07:22]>> Hello. Good morning. Thank you for joining us.

[00:07:25]>> Yeah. Good morning. And then NCL District 6900.

[00:07:30]Good morning to all. Capit.

[00:07:34]>> Yep. And then Kala is also greeting happy advanced 19th birthday to our youngest daughter Belle and Wow birthday. Happy birthday Belle.

[00:07:45]>> That's Fairfield.

[00:07:46]>> Yay.

[00:07:48]>> That's lovely. JJ, I know that some of us may be listening on radio, but some of us who are watching live, um, I know that JJ, you your earpiece keeps falling out. If we're good, I don't know if you need to listen anymore. [laughter] >> No, we're good. We're good.

[00:08:03]>> Thank you, JJ. JJ is um working front camera and back camera today. So, [laughter] >> all righty. So, I want to ask everybody this question, but of course, we're gonna jump to Ria and then JJ about this question. Um, talking about making friendships as adults, okay? And we're in this, I guess we're in the 35 to 45 range, all of us. Um, that hits a lot of our viewers. Um, and then even if you're not within that range, everyone listening, watching, um, this might, you know, you might even feel the same thing. So, I hope that this is a helpful conversation. The first question, what are the challenges you personally have felt making friends as an adult?

[00:08:44]I think for me the biggest challenge with making friends as an adult is making friends outside of my current routine, which is work, church, and then going home to rest because I'm tired.

[00:08:54]Um, it's really that because where else do you really see people when as you're growing up? You have, you know, your neighbors, different classmates. So, I think that would be my biggest challenge so far.

[00:09:06]>> Yeah. Where Okay. Right. Anyone else, you know, have that? Feel free to chime in. JJ, um, what was your what are your challenges that you personally, you know, have felt making friends as an adult, >> man? So, it really depends on your environment. I got to say, cuz like when I was in college, it was like this and then when you're at work, it's like this.

[00:09:29]>> You have to go with whatever standard um, your environment encompasses, I guess you could say.

[00:09:40]So, we're all there, you know, for a different reason.

[00:09:43]>> In college is like, "Hey, we're studying. Let's help each other out with this class project."

[00:09:49]>> Um, professionalism, >> not so much because you're a student.

[00:09:53]>> I mean, you try to be respectful, >> right?

[00:09:56]>> And not, you know, step on anyone's toes.

[00:09:59]>> But, yeah, that's that. And then in the workplace, it's like, >> wow, you know what?

[00:10:07]And and I'm weird because I I try to get along with everyone. It doesn't matter like what age, >> how old they are. I work with kids right now >> currently. And then >> yeah, I just try to be professional.

[00:10:20]Hey, we're all here to work.

[00:10:22]>> Try not to fool around too much. I mean, f kids, but >> yeah. Uh the biggest challenge would probably just be like knowing where everyone where everyone's threshold is when it comes to >> threshold >> closeness.

[00:10:39]Okay, >> that's true. Yeah.

[00:10:41]>> Yeah.

[00:10:42]>> Because I cannot joke with you if I don't know you very well.

[00:10:45]>> That's true. That's true. And it sounds like it sounds like for you JJ, joking around is like your way to like be close to someone.

[00:10:51]>> Yeah.

[00:10:52]>> And I know that I think I know that about you too personally. Okay. I mean Yeah. I mean if anyone honestly you know is is you know um feeling the same thoughts you know or thinking the same thoughts feeling the same feelings um yeah please chime in um we want this you know this is an open space for everybody um yeah I think you know because as an adult like you know when we were read in in the introduction portion you know like the the time we even give to dedicate you know to our friendships changes because we have so much more responsibilities as adults than when we were younger doesn't mean that younger kids don't have responsibilities. It just means, you know, we don't we're kind of, you know, like we have less, right? So, like then we can then we, you know, we can go out and be more social.

[00:11:37]We're actually encouraged to be social as adults. Do you think as as adults, are we encouraged to be social, >> okay, >> for the most part, I think. Yeah, for sure.

[00:11:50]>> Yeah.

[00:11:50]>> Especially at work, you're encouraged to be social. I mean, for me, I had to go back in the office to collaborate more.

[00:11:57]Um, but in turn, that is making stronger friendships because I get to see everyone actually in person and get to talk to them and it's easier to kind of read read a person's um body language and their also language in person because you see it more >> clearly, I guess you would say.

[00:12:14]>> Yeah. Okay. Because So, so now you're going from remote work to back, right?

[00:12:18]And there's a big push for that going on, at least where we are from. Um this remote work is is changing. Okay. What about you JJ?

[00:12:26]>> Yeah. Okay. So there's a c caveat to that.

[00:12:29]>> Okay.

[00:12:29]>> We are expected to be social, >> but we shouldn't be talking up the storm. I guess it depends on where you work. Right.

[00:12:37]>> Right.

[00:12:37]>> Uh cuz >> Oh, that was me.

[00:12:39]>> Done.

[00:12:40]>> Right. But you know what? I I'm so social. Like I'm I'm a huge extrovert >> and I love to talk and I like to get to know other people. That's probably why I'm here on honesty radio because I get to talk to so many people. But uh yeah, you know, within the the boundaries of your job, you know, you're not going to >> try to turn it into some sort of what, like a session for >> just chatting.

[00:13:09]>> Yeah, chatting. You know, there's so many examples I want to make, but >> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:13:14]>> Okay. And I think that there's a difference. I mean, you made a good point like both of you Yeah. like we we're asked to come together because I think work spaces are are valuing collaboration and sometimes it happens you know in person and a lot of times it happens in person um versus when you're a kid and you have recess and you have like recess how many times a day and then and then it's like go run off your energy you know like sometimes people forget that adults have energy too that we need to like you know like you know where do we put this this social energy when you know for me um I'm remote but I you know I'm a care provider So, I see my clients, my patients one-on-one. Um, but that's like it doesn't feel the same, you know? We're not like peers talking, you know, so it just kind of feels I don't know. For me, it's a little bit different. I don't know. I mean, is anyone >> expected for you because it's one-on-one, right? You have to be social.

[00:14:05]>> Yeah. But I mean, that's not like that.

[00:14:06]But that's a professional level social.

[00:14:08]I'm not making friends.

[00:14:10]>> Yeah.

[00:14:10]>> I'm very much not making friends. This is like this is the line, you know. I don't make friends at my that that job, you know, at with my patients.

[00:14:18]>> We get along. I hope they trust me, you know.

[00:14:21]>> Yeah.

[00:14:22]>> You know, so but it's it's it's different. I don't know. Um, so I mean, is anyone like commenting JJ about specifically our question?

[00:14:32]>> Yeah, like are okay. I know we [clears throat] on the chat. Um, go ahead JJ. Well, I just wanted to FYI, the NCL District 6900, that was Papit [laughter] out there.

[00:14:47]>> Thank you so much for commenting.

[00:14:49]>> And he said, "Happy general cleaning to all local congregations, right today."

[00:14:54]>> Yes. Thank you everyone who's doing that.

[00:14:56]>> Yeah.

[00:14:58]>> And then um what we Okay, there was an answer here answering your question.

[00:15:04]>> I have to get to that.

[00:15:05]Nemo. And I think um Dag Dag also said something.

[00:15:10]>> Oh, you got it.

[00:15:12]>> Do you want you want to do that one, Ria?

[00:15:15]>> Yeah, cool. Go for it.

[00:15:18]>> Um, so we have brother Nemo Pantoon. He says, "Making friends as an adult can be challenging since everyone has different schedules and priorities. Thankfully, most of my friendships have came through um church activities, which I think is pretty true for all of us here. And then we also have Um I with u my my routine feels so set and busy if we don't cross paths during my routine it's hard to make connections sometimes. Yes.

[00:15:44]>> Yeah.

[00:15:45]>> Yes.

[00:15:46]>> Yeah. I agree >> and that that kind of brings us to the next question of you know how have you made the majority of your friendships in adulthood? Right. And I think a lot of us are hearing kind of like in your in your path throughout your day.

[00:16:01]>> Yeah. I know you were kind of mentioning something about that earlier, >> right?

[00:16:06]>> Yeah. No. Um, for me, most of the people that I'm close to right now that I really have great friendships with, I'm either it's because of I knew know them from church. But from there, we also have shared interests outside of church, too. So, that's easy to bounce off from that. And I think that's another thing that I think we knock mentioned that is how you kind of create adult friendships is having those same interests. And it's hard to find that as you're growing up because like you said recess like oh I want to play on the swing swing with you so okay we're gonna do it you do as you're growing up like you don't always are playing on swings or at the playground so >> right I mean some of us I don't [laughter] >> go ahead JJ it sounds like did you find something to read or have a comment >> yeah another one from Kat Talons >> okay >> who says he agrees with me wow it's an obstacle trying to Meet the varying standards knowingly or unknowingly set for each setting where people you want to befriend are. But just be friends. I mean just be yourself. Hash Vo and Benicia.

[00:17:13]>> Valo and Benanisha. Hello. Thank you.

[00:17:16]Yes. Just be yourself.

[00:17:18]>> I think that is that is a really good reminder. Um, I mean, sometimes as adults, we're not susceptible to or we're still susceptible to feeling a little self-conscious about making friends, you know. Um, it's very common for maybe kids to feel that way and to be shy or maybe unsure. Um, but adults feel that too. Um, and I think, yeah, I think just being yourself will kind of bring will kind of um, kind of like attract the similar people, you know, if they have like if if they like your their humor, if they get your humor, right? Because I don't get everyone's humor, right? Or not everyone gets my humor. Um, same thing with, you know, hobbies and the rel the the interests, you know, you'll kind of when you're when you're kind of doing your thing, you kind of find, you know, your circles. So, I like that. Thank you. That was Matt from Vallejo Benicia.

[00:18:08]Thank you.

[00:18:09]>> Thank you.

[00:18:10]>> Thank you. Anybody anything else to comment to include or share before we move on?

[00:18:17]>> Oh, Jeffrey Dison.

[00:18:19]>> Okay. Hi, Quage 4550 age bracket here.

[00:18:24]>> Challenges in making friends are one, social battery is not as it used to be.

[00:18:29]Oh yeah, I agree. two tend to be very picky like making sure the other person has the same brain waves as you.

[00:18:37]>> Oh, okay. I Yeah, >> I have become more picky.

[00:18:43]>> Okay, tell us more. Mhm. Okay.

[00:18:45]>> Um, it's just that sometimes when you have going back to one your social battery, it's >> you have like some >> It was a topic in the past by the way.

[00:18:55]So, thank you for bringing that up. It's like that to define that. That means um like your capacity for energy, your social energy. That's that's like you know like your like a low battery versus a high battery, >> right?

[00:19:09]>> Yeah.

[00:19:10]>> Yes. So that's what that means. Go ahead JJ. Sorry.

[00:19:14]>> No, you're good. But yeah, uh I have less time so I have to use it wisely. I have to use my resources sparingly sometimes. So energy level >> sure you know otherwise if it's like a huge difference it's like >> but we're not on the same page and to get on the same page requires more work and more effort and more time and >> and more of that social battery.

[00:19:36]>> Yeah. More social battery.

[00:19:38]>> I have to agree with JJ about that's true. It's your social battery that also adds to it. Sometimes when I'm talking to someone who might be a little bit younger than me and their energy is just so high up there [laughter] like go into my little shell and just like recharge and then and then I come back out later.

[00:20:00]>> I very much feel that in my 35 to 40 range. I feel that so much. [laughter] Um so JJ, so I used to work with kids as well. Um, same with our producer Hazel.

[00:20:14]She works with kids and my I don't know if it's energy level. I don't know if it's social battery. I don't know if it's just tolerance for noise.

[00:20:22][laughter] Just things have changed over the past few years. Um, and you know what? I don't apologize for that.

[00:20:30]It is what I need to stay mentally, you know, adept for the things I got to do. And it's just it gets hard. However, you know, with with kindness and tolerance and patience and love, you know, we we find that that energy and space to, you know, deal with the to to be in the situation. Um, but for the most part, overall, yes, I very much feel what Clea Jeff is saying. Um, yes, for sure.

[00:21:01]>> Yeah. [laughter] Um so um yeah, majority of our friendships, the social circles that we kind of when we do our thing, it sounds like it sounds like um advice and tips are kind of coming out naturally in this conversation. Um our our our regular routine like what um um Eileen mentioned and Ria, you mentioned that as well.

[00:21:21]Your your regular routine um our regular routine including church. Um church is a community. You know JJ mentioned environment. A church is a community and an environment where we do have that shared, you know, we do have some shared interests in a way where we we approach and see, you know, life and things like that. So, um, >> yeah. So, so we make a lot of friends there. I make a lot of friends at church. I make a lot of friends in my other social circles, too, just because of what I do for work or what I like to do as my hobbies. Um, very much. Um, we're going to take a quick little break here. We're going to um talk about um the upcoming activities that's coming up in the district. So, just a little bit of a news news break for us. Um what's new friends?

[00:22:12]All right. Um we have our Christian family organization meetup coming up um this Monday. Um this coming Monday. So, there's two times for our uh districts.

[00:22:24]Uh so, this is a local time for us. it is. There's two times uh so please make whatever one makes sense for you.

[00:22:31]There's 5:30 a.m. in the morning followed by the rest of the activities in that morning and then it's the 8:00 pm um in the evening. So whichever one works for you, please don't miss it. Um we all get to join. It is a Christian family organization. So it's all of us, all ages get to uh join the uh be a part of this. So we'll see you there either Monday very early in the morning or Monday in the evening. All right.

[00:22:57]Okay, moving on. [laughter] Um, do we have any, um, we have the last two questions. We'll jump to the YouTube chat towards the end. Um, what are some ways that you keep your friendships going? Right. As adults, you know, our time changes, our the ability to dedicate energy and time changes. Maybe we have children. Maybe we're we have our spouses. maybe our work, you know, is is is a little bit more um filling up our times. Um how do you guys do that?

[00:23:29]>> You want to take it, JJ?

[00:23:30]>> Yeah, go ahead.

[00:23:32]>> Oh, okay. I'll take it. Um, actually it's funny because I had someone ask me this re not recently but a few months ago because they know I have a few different friends from pretty much all over the Northern California and she was wondering how I keep in touch with them and I said honestly >> just send them a text because there are people there's a lot of my friends that live about an hour away so I don't see them as regularly as I want to. if at any time it's pretty good if I see them at least like once a year.

[00:24:04]>> Yeah. But >> I know that if they send me a message or they try to call or they send me an invitation for one of their kids' birthdays, I do make that effort to try to show up for them. And I think that shows that that friendship still means a lot to me >> even though I may have a busier schedule than I used to have.

[00:24:22]>> Yeah. Right.

[00:24:24]>> All right.

[00:24:25]>> Makes sense. PJ, did you want to >> Oh, goodness. I couldn't agree more.

[00:24:29]Okay. If >> uh I I think the best way would be to just make time for them sometimes.

[00:24:39]>> Send a text, >> send a funny real video on one of those social media plat platforms.

[00:24:45]>> Make them laugh >> because sharing is caring.

[00:24:49]>> And if you can, you know, see how they're doing. Show them that you care.

[00:24:54]>> Uh get to their love language because uh if we are not in contact with our friends, you know, communication wise through any medium.

[00:25:05]>> Yeah.

[00:25:05]>> Then it's hard to well it's hard to stay in touch and then it only decays after that.

[00:25:15]>> Some people are like, "Are you really my friend? Dude, you haven't talked to me in like two years." [laughter] >> I would say at that point, >> yeah, >> I'll be like, "No, I'm still your friend. Don't worry."

[00:25:26]>> Yeah. learning a lot of hearts there for that comment.

[00:25:30]>> I mean, there are some friendships that, you know, everyone is just so busy that you can just pick up where you leave off, no matter how long of of the distance, right? Or how long of the time? And that makes sense. Um, but keeping up with your friendships. Yeah.

[00:25:41]I think a little bit of effort, >> you know, like have we ever like do we have that do we all kind of have that friend that like is really bad at texting? like we'll text them but they won't respond and it's like they'll never respond you know like you know you know with understanding that that person may not be good with texting that's fine um but it you know like some of us it might affect how we feel >> so you know be aware maybe we should be aware of that [laughter] >> okay um yeah keeping in touch giving that time even if it's small little gestures >> I like that um and then do you have any tips anything else um for other adults in and maintaining good and healthy friendships.

[00:26:22]>> We kind of we kind of said some, but we can kind of like tie it all together as we end here.

[00:26:32]>> Just know that I think as you get older, >> man, if I if I am your friend at this age and we're still friends >> and I decide to make you my friend and we're still Wow. Okay. that is worth so much more than when we were friends when we were kids. Cuz I think friendship is so loose when you're a child compared to when you are as an adult.

[00:26:55]>> It's so much more precious.

[00:26:57]>> I think it's also because you have to work harder at it >> because of maintaining those, >> right? Yeah.

[00:27:03]>> Yeah.

[00:27:05]>> Yeah. I see that. I like that note, Ria.

[00:27:08]Yeah. See, few words, but so wise [laughter] >> because because you do have to work harder at it, you know, when you're kids, it's like it's your neighbor. It's just the kid right there or like the the kid that you see at church on Sundays, you know, like hi, you know, >> your car crayons with.

[00:27:23]>> Yeah. Yeah. The person you saw on the bus, you know what [laughter] I mean?

[00:27:27]True. Um um but yeah, like you know, as adults, we've we've lived life, you know, things get more complex. our um our preferences start to shape, you know, our personalities develop. Um and and you know, some kids can clash, but some kids can kind of you've kind of seen like >> you've seen JJ, you've probably seen this, JJ, like kids that you >> kids that might have like hurt each other's feelings, but they just don't know how to deal with that. So, they're kind of >> they're kind of like they get upset, but they're kind of tolerant. Then they kind of like they're still playing with that person. But if that ever happened as an adult, >> you know, they wouldn't be um maybe there would be an opportunity to discuss, maybe not. Maybe just leave it alone. Um but it wouldn't be like they wouldn't be like friends.

[00:28:15]>> Yeah.

[00:28:16]>> Like come over and let's watch the game friends, right? So, and I think it also goes back to the social battery as well, like because if you're not getting along, that's energy that you're using kind of want to reserve for yourself.

[00:28:31]But maybe later on when you're like more recharged like okay maybe we can work it out, >> right? We all have that. We all have that. Um JJ, we just have just a minute left. So maybe just a couple comments in the chat before we end.

[00:28:45]>> Sure. Went by so fast.

[00:28:47]>> Look at this. Oh Eileen Dougdog. I work in education. They do a lot of ice breakers to get us social, but us introverts just love to sit down and listen. Ah yeah. [laughter] >> Yes. And then um let's see, we got another one. Oh, you know what? Kaneo says, "I agree with Sister Meline. As kids, friendship friendship happened naturally in school. As adults, you almost need to schedule it."

[00:29:14]>> Yeah, >> schedule. That's that's a key word right there as an adult. And then uh Arlene Delmundo, as we grow older, we come to realize that genuine friends will stay until the end.

[00:29:28]>> That's another great point. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:29:32]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:29:33]>> So, thank you everyone. We have one more >> uh from Laura Sedco. You know who that is.

[00:29:40]>> I'm more than 45 years old where I am.

[00:29:44]Friendship is something that is taken more carefully. To call someone a friend, trust, care, patience, understanding, respect our underlying foundation.

[00:29:52]>> Wow.

[00:29:53]>> Thank you, Mom.

[00:29:55]>> Yeah. You're you're barely over 45, Mom.

[00:29:57]Yeah. Okay.

[00:29:58]>> [laughter] >> Love you, Mom. All right, everyone.

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[00:30:22]Manalo, our deputy executive minister, brother Angelo Arano Manalo, our district minister, brother Pete Dea Cruz Jr., and our INC radio station manager, Brother Wally Tai. Thank you so much even to our all of our um our group here at INC Radio Sacramento and everyone watching and listening. Um thanks for being here with us and we'll see you next week again because you can always count on your friend from Sacramento.

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