The Gen Z Dating Experience Is GENUINELY Cooked

Added: 2026-05-19

[00:00:00]Gen Z is living in the worst dating market of all time, and let me tell you why. It's because we have lost the ability to communicate with each other, all right? Um so, this is going to be a quick video cuz I got to go, but I went out the other day um to a little to a little bar, right? And, you know, it was a dance floor in the bar and everything, and I like to just kind of sit back and observe, and, you know, just kind of see what what what's going on, like how are people moving, you know what I'm saying? So, as I sat back and I started to observe, I saw one thing that really really stood out to me, and what that thing was was there was a bunch of guys there, you know what I mean? Just kind of standing around and [snorts] not really enjoying not really having fun.

[00:00:41]Anytime they were dancing, they kind of just like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah."

[00:00:44]But, then all they're doing is just standing there, looking around on their phones, pretending like somebody's texting them, looking at their emails, looking at the weather, you know what I'm saying? And anytime a girl that looked good walks by, they look at her, but they never they never shoot their shot, right? And, you know, the thing about it is there's a lot more dudes in there was girls in there, right? But, the girls were kind of doing something similar to where they were a little more in the moment, but they weren't, you know, they were just kind of to themselves, you know what I'm saying? They were just amongst their own friends, just in their own group. And in my head, I'm thinking, you know, what's the point of going out, you know, if you're going to be super, you know, just silent, closed off, on your phone the whole time. You're not going to enjoy the music, you're not going to dance. And the thing is, even if you're not, you know, looking for something, even if you're not going there because you're trying to attract somebody, which you don't have to, you know what I'm saying? You can go there, but it's like if you're not going there to shark, you know what I'm saying? Then go there to enjoy the music, enjoy the time, you know what I'm saying? Enjoy the drinks, but people are not doing that. And it made me really realize that dating is so cooked because we are afraid to communicate with each other. And the reason that we're afraid to communicate with each other is that if we had to actually talk to each other, if Gen Z had to put the phones [ __ ] down, and we had to talk face-to-face, we would have to reveal our true and real personalities. See, here's the thing.

[00:02:12]This is why the whole the whole narrative of being mysterious and nonchalant and being more introverted and not really talking started to rise.

[00:02:22]Not necessarily because oh yeah, that's what gets the most girls. It was because it was in line with the fact that Gen Z has stunted social growth. We do not know how to communicate. Therefore, we're introverts not by choice, but more so because we lack the ability to connect with other people. And we know that this is true because we hide ourselves in our phones. Your personality is more in your phone than it is in real life, bro. Your phone, your algorithm knows you better than your best friend.

[00:02:51]Think about that. Ain't that sad? So, how could you ever hope to get a girlfriend? How could you ever hope to get a boyfriend when you fail to even open up to people that you're close with? You fail to even, you know, go somewhere and have fun. You know what I mean? It's like, dude, if you're a guy, right? How you expect to get a girl when all you do in the club is you're standing around and you just look at >> [clears throat] >> Let me tell you something right now, bro. The easiest way to attract somebody if you're out in a party or a bar setting or whatever the case may be, is to go there and to be in the moment, bro. Dance. Have fun, bro. You know what I'm saying? Especially these days.

[00:03:26]That's why like it it we're in a cooked dating market, but it's weird cuz it's actually so easy. Because all you got to do if you go somewhere and you stand out by like really being in the moment, people are going to naturally [ __ ] gravitate to you. That's like why that's why like if I go out, right? Cuz I like to I like to go out and listen to the music. I'll be dancing. I'll be cutting up, bro. You know what I'm saying? So, if I go out, I'mma cut up. I'm doing my thing, right?

[00:03:49][ __ ] naturally gravitate to me.

[00:03:50]They'll be circling up around me while I'm hitting my dance, hitting my [ __ ] whatever. Whatever it is, you know what I'm saying? And it's not because I'm looking for that attention, it's because I'm the only [ __ ] on the floor dancing.

[00:04:00]And it's like, god damn, bro. No one has the confidence or the swag to go out and be them. And that's partially why dating is so [ __ ] cooked for young men, for Gen Z men. How could you ever expect to attract a woman when you don't even have the confidence to go dance?

[00:04:13]You don't have the confidence to do And And this is not just about being in the club. This is not just about being in a bar. This is just uh This is just an example of what people are like in regular in regular day-to-day life. You not have any confidence. You lack social skills. And we have to We got to start building that back up. And then on the women's side, too, right? For women, they also lack the social skills. Right now, it's a bit different for them because, you know, usually women are the ones getting approached. They're not the ones doing the approaching, right? But even then, you know what I'm saying?

[00:04:42]Girls are now staying in their own friend groups, and they're not talking to other dudes. They're throwing it back, but they're throwing it back on their own homegirls, which is fine, but it's like, bro, you know what I'm saying? What happened to the days Like, if you go look at, you know, old music videos from like the early 2000s and [ __ ] everybody, you know what I'm saying? Everybody linking up with somebody, you know what I'm saying? Oh, you know, my friend's going to get with your friends, and blah blah blah and blah blah blah. I think I told the story a little while ago about when I was in college, and me and my homies was the only ones dancing with girls.

[00:05:10]And it's like, are y'all [ __ ] really that square? Are y'all really that square? Y'all wallflowers like that, for real? It's like, no wonder you struggle with dating because you're so into yourself. And what it really stems from is a ego. When you have a ego, you're scared of rejection. You're scared to put yourself out there. And because you're scared to put yourself out there, you will never get anywhere in life. You have to let go of that ego. You got to let go of that, "Oh my gosh, what if I get rejected?" My guy, who genuinely cares? People are not paying as much attention to you as you really think so.

[00:05:43]This is And And this is what you got to realize, bro. People are genuinely in their own world, bro. That embarrassing thing that you did 2 3 4 5 10 years ago, stop overthinking about it because no one is thinking about it besides you. We are the ones getting in our own way and we are the reason why dating is so cooked. Now, there are obviously some other external reasons, right? There's some other external factors cuz the truth of the matter is that when it comes to relationships, there's obviously the haves and the have nots, right?

[00:06:10]And you got like people kind of in the middle, right? But even with that, you know what I'm saying? The best chance that you could get yourself, no matter what level you're at, is to go out and to be in the moment. Stop thinking so hard. Stop trying to be like this mysterious nonchalant dude, when in reality, you're just a guy who's nervous to make a move. You're nervous to bust a move. You're nervous to be yourself. So, every time you go out, you don't do nothing. You don't make no move. You don't talk to nobody. And the reason why is because you are scared. You are nervous. And listen, I get it. It's okay. We We don't have to be extroverts or nothing like that. I understand. Some of us are truly introverts, but that does not mean that you should not be enjoying life. That does not mean that you should be buried in your phone. Uh this is what I want you to do. I want to challenge you to do something right now.

[00:06:52]Delete Tik Tok. Stop watching reels. And I want you to only consume If you're going to consume content, only consume long-form content or content that's going to be somewhat educational to you.

[00:07:01]I guarantee you can't do it. How about this? Another challenge. I want you to actually I want you to actually anytime you're outside with friends, family, whoever, somebody besides yourself, other than yourself, I challenge you to put the phone down and talk to them. No phone. Don't show them no memes. Don't pull up no reels, [ __ ] Talk to them IRL.

[00:07:22]You know what I'm saying? Oh my gosh, no. Dating is cooked. I can't get a girlfriend. You can't even maintain a conversation. Let's start with step one, my guy. You feel me? You feel me? If you're by yourself, let's say you go to If you go to the grocery store, if you go to the gym, I want you to do this, my [ __ ] Challenge yourself. Talk to the people at the front desk at the gym.

[00:07:41]Talk to the to the clerk at the end of the at the checking out the the stuff at the grocery store, whatever they're called, the cashier, whatever. You know what I'm saying? Talk to somebody. You know what I'm saying? It ain't got to be a long conversation. Just hello, you know, how your day going? Just a simple conversation. Too many of us are avoiding these social skills and we expect people to just come into our lives and like us just because, oh, like this is me. You know what I'm saying?

[00:08:05]And it's like no wonder people can't maintain relationships. People lack communication skills and because you lack communication skills, bro, [ __ ] is going to be very, very difficult for you. I'm going to be very honest. You know what I'm saying? Especially if you're average or below average looking guy, bro. I'mma be honest with you. The world is already going to treat you worse just because of your looks. That's just That's just the god honest brutal, brutal truth, bro. If you're average or below average looking. So, therefore, if you also lack communication skills, holy, holy, wallah he, bro.

[00:08:36]It's over for you. Go ahead and develop those communication skills, man, and put yourself out there because you really genuinely have nothing to [ __ ] lose, bro. Too many people are holding on to this idea of, oh my gosh. Bro, the [ __ ] don't matter. At the end of the day, nothing truly matters. Go out and have fun with life. You know what I'm saying?