When You're Not Invited...

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[00:00:00]What are you gonna get other than a loose booty and trauma?

[00:00:04]You know, a sore a sore dick and trauma.

[00:00:08]So, I'm a little divided about how I feel about this particular topic. In this particular video, we're going to talk about a certain type of party where people have, as Nico Aesthetics likes to say, super happy adult fun time. But there's one catch. Apparently, this was an allwhite affair. But before we get into this video, I wanted to let you guys know about my website, blackinthecity.com. A lot of you guys may not understand this, but I have always been more of a writer and I do a lot of writing on my blog, blackinthecity.com. That's actually something I've been trying to do way more of as I've been expanding and as I've been retreating into my creativity.

[00:00:48]So, if you're interested in that or any of the other things I have to say, check out blackinthecity.com. I will put a link in the description box below. Okay, so I had a little bit of downtime to be messy and do some gay investigative journalism today. I wanted to talk specifically about the week-long gay Atlantis cruise that just disembarked last week. I was told by a very reliable source that there were a group of white gays going around the boat and trying to recruit folks to participate in an orgy.

[00:01:21]But check this out. Apparently, the guys that were walking around during the recruitment were only looking for guys that were white and muscular. And if they were to encounter a PO, they would completely ignore them. Or if a PC was to approach one of the recruiters and ask about when this party was happening, they were told that it was just a hoax and that it actually wasn't happening.

[00:01:45]So, I would love to hear if you went on the cruise, like, drop me a comment. I would love to know more.

[00:01:49]>> Now, okay. When I saw this video, I had a couple of different reactions to it.

[00:01:54]My first one being that I definitely understand what it feels like to be in a somewhat similar situation. There are a couple of different little events that happen in Los Angeles that are, we'll just say, sex positive in nature. And one of the things that will often happen is sometimes these parties will require that you send in head shot of yourself.

[00:02:20]They'll sometimes require that you um you know show a bunch of pictures of what you look like. And at some of the events it's pretty clear that there's like a sort of size fat phobic kind of situation going on. And it becomes pretty clear at a certain point, especially if you do get into these parties, that sometimes they are definitely um selecting certain people out. And I'll just say that as a black woman, one of the things I've definitely noticed is that there are some parties in Los Angeles that definitely do not want me there. My first gut reaction to stuff like this is obviously that we should stand up and defend ourselves against discrimination. I think that when you take it laying down and you just kind of, you know, accept that people are going to treat you this way, you make a lot of space for disrespect to continue. And I don't want to be part of, you know, allowing that to keep going. But that being said, I've definitely kind of learned over the years that sometimes it's really not worth trying to fight to get into events that you are not invited to. You know, there were some events that I used to go to where this would be a thing where I would I would go and I would go with the thought of like, hey, I'm going to go and I'm going to meet people and I'm going to socialize or whatever. But I knew that maybe the event wasn't too welcoming to black folks. I knew that the event maybe wasn't too welcoming to trans people. And so I forged ahead because I don't want to be, you know, I don't want to ever feel like I can't go somewhere, right? Like I'm real stubborn when it comes to that. Like I really hate when people try to make me feel like I can't do something because of who I am. It is probably one of my biggest sticking points. Um I hate being made to feel like I don't belong and that I can't be somewhere because of who I am.

[00:04:20]And so I'll go and I'll fight for my my my right to be there. I'll fight for my ability to be there. But then what do you get? You have just now become the dramatic person in the room and it shouldn't matter. But that's what happened. Like I had a situation where the last like big event I went to someone was transphobic towards me and I made a stink about it. And in retrospect, I kind of wish I didn't because ultimately, well, you know, in a way, I was kind of happy that I did, but ultimately what happened is I got kicked out. The person who did the [ __ ] [ __ ] did not get kicked out. And I was just kind of left there feeling stupid because I stood up for myself. And I think that when it's at the point where people are organizing these entire like white people only events, like that's a message that you should heed and move on. And so again, like I'm divided because I get I get emotionally I get this attitude of like I I don't want to be told I can't come, but I also don't get trying to fight to be somewhere where you're not belonging. And the most that you're going to get as a black man in a room full of white gays who don't really want you there is fetishized. And is that really worth it? Is I don't think so. I I really don't think so. Now again, I'm not a gay man. I may be wrong about this. I feel I I've only been to like one I mean I know these are not the same thing, but I've been to one circuit party and I live not too far away from a leather bar.

[00:05:57]I was just at Powerhouse in um San Francisco where I appar I've heard that apparently things go down in Powerhouse.

[00:06:07]That's what I heard, but I just went to like a normal like drag show there. So, I don't know. I don't know what they be doing down there. Anyway, um I just I just don't think it's smart to try to to get your way into a party where you're not welcome. And I do think to some degree, black folks, we need to stop trying to fight to belong in places where we're not welcome. As time goes on, as this [ __ ] with Donald Trump gets louder and louder and dumber and dumber, I really do see white supremacy as like I don't want to say mental illness cuz I've always found that that's kind of like a really intense way to say that. I feel like whenever I've met a white person who's very steeped in white supremacy, they always come off as and I it's going to sound shitty to me um like developmentally behind a little bit. Like you have truly never outgrown some childhood something where someone told you that you were great and interesting and unique because you're white and you've been holding on to that for your entire [ __ ] life and that's all you got. That's truly all you got, you know, like that's that's what it all seems like to me. And so for that reason, it's like it's not very very intriguing or interesting or even threatening to me. It just is like an inferiority complex highkey in this culture that we live in now, especially with the Trump [ __ ] Like these [ __ ] are so empowered right now. So of course they're going to be on a gay cruise, you know, being white supremacists. I've kind of thought about going on a cruise. I would hate to go on a swinger cruise and then find out that everyone on the cruise is racist, you know, especially when they're trying to [ __ ] It's like like why do you want to be in the racist orgy so badly, you know? And I'm not trying to attack this creator. They seem like a total sweetheart, but I'm just, you know what I mean? Like what's the point? What are you going to get other than a loose booty and trauma?

[00:08:10]You know, a sore a sore dick and trauma.

[00:08:14]Maybe a couple of fun stories, but like a sore dick and drama. Like, what's the purpose of that, fam?

[00:08:22]Anyway, I want to know how my gay audience feels about this. Maybe I'm really missing it. And feel free to, you know, come and tell me that I'm wrong and that, you know, like I need to get out of gay business. Feel free to tell me that it's possible for me to be wrong. It's not common.

[00:08:44]Just kidding. It is, but it does happen.

[00:08:47]I'm always down to being corrected. I just when I saw this, it was kind of baffling to me because I don't want to, you know, I used to get really wrapped in my my ass about this particular group that didn't want me in their group. Um, like I used to think like, oh, am I just too fat? Like, am I too ugly? You know, like what is it about me that makes me so unappealing to this particular club that like I can't get in? But but then it's like, look, I don't want to be at a club like that. I don't want to be at a shallow, close-minded, um, everyone's up their own ass about everyone's appearance kind of space, you know?

[00:09:21]Like, that's just not my idea of a good time, you know? It really isn't. And so, I'm curious how y'all feel about that and if you would be trying to fight to get into the racist orgy cuz as far as I'm concerned, you just saved me a lot of time and energy. You know, I think people have to start being a little bit more careful with their sexual energy, too.

[00:09:43]Like, you can't just give it away like that, you know? And if you do, you better charge, baby. You better charge.

[00:09:49]Anyway, on that note, I want you guys to stay hot and introspective. And as per usual, I want you to remember and never forget that you are beautiful and you are loved, baby. Bye.